Heal Your Heartbreak
Heal Your Heartbreak with your Break Up Bestie is a weekly podcast that guides listeners through the process of healing from heartbreak and moving on after a breakup. Each episode covers topics such as breaking up, healing, dating, and building healthier relationships. The show aims to provide hope, support, and practical tips, reminding listeners that they are not alone in their journey.
Episodes
#339 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Self-Esteem with Dr. Marisa G Franco
In today’s expert episode I’m joined by Dr. Marisa G. Franco, psychologist, researcher, and bestselling author, to discuss her brand new book "Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment." We dive deep into the real foundations of self-worth and self-esteem—why so much of the traditional advice around affirmations, "fake it till you make it," and positive thinking doesn't
#338 How to Master Confidence in Dating with Serena Kerrigan
In today’s expert episode I’m chatting with Serena Kerrigan, confidence coach, creator, and author of the upcoming book Let’s Fucking Date. We dive into Serena’s journey of building self-confidence after years of insecurity, why mirror talk is a game-changer for self-love, and the true power of practicing vulnerability in dating. Serena shares her unique 3P theory—Potential, Plot, and Pra
#337 What Really Breaks No Contact?
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into the no contact rule- what it really means, why it’s so vital for healing from heartbreak, and all the gray areas that pop up in our super-connected digital world. I break down what actually constitutes breaking no contact, how to set your own boundaries if you share kids or work together, and address common questions like whether watching your
#336 Why the One Who Hurt You Can't Heal You with Najwa Zebian
In today’s expert episode, I’m sitting down with the incredible Najwa Zabian, Lebanese-Canadian author, speaker, and educator, to talk about her powerful new book, The One Who Broke You Can’t Heal You. We dive into why so many of us seek closure, validation, and even healing from the person who hurt us—and why it never truly works. Najwa breaks down the struggles we face when trying to le
#335 Healing Heartbreak Through Somatic Tools with Beth Schild
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined again by somatic coach and breathwork facilitator Beth Schild, whose last appearance was our most-listened-to episode of the year. We dive deep into the world of somatic healing and trauma recovery after heartbreak—Beth shares incredibly practical tools you can use immediately to bridge the gap between your mind, heart, and body. We discuss why positi
#334 Should You Give Your Ex a Second Chance? With Dr. Joy Berkheimer
In today’s expert episode I’m interviewing Dr. Joy Berkheimer, a licensed marriage and family therapist, sexologist, dating coach, and author of Why Won’t He Call. We dive deep into the topic of second chances in relationships—from giving your ex a second chance, to understanding when it might not be the best idea. We discuss how honesty, communication, and attachment styles influence our
#333 How to Break Free From Toxic Patterns with Dr. Adi Jaffe
In today’s expert episode, I’m talking with Dr. Adi Jaffe, a nationally recognized expert on transformation and author of the book Unhooked. We dive deep into the connection between addiction and heartbreak, and how compulsive behaviors, whether they involve substances or patterns in love, keep us stuck after a breakup. Dr. Jaffe shares his personal story of overcoming addiction, explains
#332 Why Your Ex Appears Happy and How to Handle It
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into one of the most common and painful post-breakup struggles: what to do when it seems like your ex is totally fine while you’re still hurting. I break down why seeing your ex “move on” can hit so hard, the spiral of self-doubt it can trigger, and why it’s so important to set boundaries with your friends and social media to protect your healing. I als
#331 Lessons Learned From Repeated Breakups: Listener Episode
In today's listener episode, I'm interviewing a man in his late 30s who recently went through the end of a 3.5 year relationship that he moved cities for. We talk about the unique challenges of relocating for love, trying to build a new life while balancing time between a partner and family, and the cycle of arguments that made it hard to move forward. We also dive into how he navigated s
#330 Why Grief Has No Timeline with Toni Filipone
In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Toni Filipone, founder of Master Grief and an expert in navigating grief and loss. We discuss her personal story of losing her partner to suicide after going through a brutal divorce, and how even with 30 years of personal development coaching experience, grief left her at a complete loss. We dive deep into why grief doesn’t follow predictable p
#329 How to Heal After Infidelity with Lauren LaRusso
In today’s expert episode, I’m sitting down with Lauren LaRusso, a psychotherapist specializing in extramarital affairs and author of "Beyond Infidelity." We go deep into the complex world of infidelity—why it happens, how it affects everyone involved (the betrayed partner, the unfaithful partner, and the affair partner), and the unique challenges of healing from relationship betrayal. La
#328 Are You Missing Your Ex or Being in a Relationship?
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into one of the most common breakup questions I get: are you actually missing your ex, or are you missing being in a relationship? I walk you through how to recognize the difference between missing specific things about your former partner versus the general comfort of companionship. We talk about how feelings of loneliness can show up even long after y
#327 Perfectly Hidden Depression: Why High Achievers Struggle in Silence with Dr. Margaret Rutherford
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Margaret Rutherford, clinical psychologist, author, and host of The SelfWork Podcast, to dive deep into the topic of “perfectly hidden depression”—a term she coined and explores in her bestselling book and TEDx talk. We discuss how those who seem “put together” on the outside can silently struggle beneath the surface, why high-achievers and car
#326 How People Pleasing Makes Breakups Harder with Dr. Paula Freedman Diamond
In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Dr. Paula Freedman Diamond, a licensed clinical psychologist, speaker, and author of the new book “Toxic Striving: Escaping the Stress and Burnout of Hustle and Diet Culture.” We talk about the many faces of people pleasing and perfectionism, how these patterns show up in dating and relationships, and how suppressing your own needs can eventuall
#325 How to Create a New Blueprint for Love with John Kim
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by John Kim, a licensed therapist, speaker, and author you might know as The Angry Therapist on Instagram. We dive deep into his brand new book "Love Hard on Purpose" and break down the idea of “love blueprints”—the subconscious definitions of love we’re operating from, often shaped by our upbringing, movies, and social media. We discuss how these def
#324 How to Handle Seeing Your Ex for the First Time
In today's solo episode, I'm diving into one of the most nerve-wracking parts of post-breakup life: seeing your ex for the first time. Whether you're anxious about a possible accidental run-in, panicking over a mutual friend's wedding where you know you’ll cross paths, or just stuck in a cycle of "what if I see them?", this episode is for you. I break down the three scenarios—imagined enc
#323 How to Heal Your Self-Worth After Heartbreak with Brooke Taylor
In today’s episode I’m joined by Brooke Taylor, transformational career coach and author of the new book Healing the Success Wound. We dive deep into the concept of the “success wound”—the hidden pain that comes from tying your self-worth to achievement, productivity, and external validation. Brooke shares her personal story of hitting rock bottom while working at Google, dealing with bur
#322 Five Phases of Divorce Grief: Expert Healing Advice from Therapist Oona Metz
In today’s expert episode I’m interviewing Oona Metz, a therapist and author who has spent 17 years specializing in divorce support. We dive into why women initiate nearly 70% of divorces, the persistent shame and stigma around divorce, and the five phases of divorce grief that Oona Metz developed for her book, Unhitched. We also discuss why letting go and mending are essential steps to h
#321 Should You Text Your Ex? Five Questions to Ask Before Reaching Out
In today's solo episode, I'm walking you through a workshop-style reflection meant to help you pause before texting your ex. I share five key questions to ask yourself any time you feel that urge to reach out, whether it's wanting to send an innocent meme or a long, heartfelt message. We explore the deeper motives behind wanting to contact your ex, the likelihood of getting the response y
#320 Navigating Early Divorce and Rediscovering Yourself with Sarah Vacchiano
In today’s episode, I’m sitting down with Sarah Vacchiano, author of Soft Launch, who shares her story of getting married young, going through an early divorce, and the journey of starting over in her late 20s. We chat about the shame and guilt that come with leaving a relationship that looks “good on paper,” and how healing isn’t always immediate or linear—sometimes you just need to focu
#319 How Oversharing Can Deepen Relationships with Leslie John
In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Leslie John, Harvard Business School professor and author of the new book "Revealing: The Underrated Power of Oversharing." We dive into why sharing—especially the messy, vulnerable stuff—is so crucial to building trust and intimacy in relationships. Leslie shares fascinating research about why people tend to choose honesty over secrecy (even wh
#318 Deepening Adult Friendships with Barnet Bain
In today's expert episode, I'm joined by Barnet Bain—award-winning filmmaker, author, and teacher—who just released his new book, "How to Be a Friend in an Unfriendly World." We dive deep into the art of adult friendship, why so many of us struggle to build fulfilling connections, and the common self-awareness gaps that hold us back. Barnet shares compelling personal stories, including a
#317 Stop Waiting for Someone to Change Their Mind About Commitment
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into the all-too-common “trap” so many of us fall into: not believing someone the first time they tell us they aren’t ready for a relationship or don’t see themselves wanting the same future as us. I share my own experiences of ignoring red flags, holding on to hope that someone might change, and how that leads us to lose parts of ourselves over time. W
#316 From Fight or Flight to Healing with Liz Tenuto
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Liz Tenuto, also known as the Workout Witch, a leading expert in somatic exercises with over 230,000 students and millions of followers and out with a new book When The Body Speaks. We dive deep into what actually happens in our bodies during periods of long-term stress, trauma, and heartbreak—including the science behind fight, flight, and freeze
#315 How to Truly Support Someone Through Grief with Shelby Forsythia
In today’s expert episode I’m joined by grief coach, author, and podcaster Shelby Forsythia, who is returning to talk about her new book, Of Course I’m Here Right Now. Shelby breaks down her powerful framework for how to truly support someone who is grieving—not just what NOT to say, but exactly what you can say and do, whether their grief comes from a breakup, divorce, job loss, or the d
#314 Building Your Emotional Toolkit with Mal Glowenke
In today's episode, I'm interviewing Mal Glowenke, host of the Made It Out podcast, who's been a pioneer in the lesbian podcast scene. We dive into her recent breakup—not only with her romantic partner but also her podcast co-host—and how that experience has shaped her healing journey. We talk about the unique challenges of navigating a breakup while untangling both a business and a mutua
#313 Infinite Paths to Healing: Japanese Spirituality and Heartbreak with Hiroko Yoda
In today's expert episode, I'm interviewing Hiroko Yoda, a Japanese cultural historian, journalist, and author of the new book "8 Million Ways to Happiness: Wisdom for Inspiration and Healing from the Heart of Japan." We dive into how anyone can use the principles of Japanese spirituality to help heal from grief and heartbreak, regardless of their background. Hiroko shares her own journey
#312 Breaking Free From Narcissism with Dr. Alina Kastner
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Alina Kastner, a Vienna-based psychotherapist and author of Break Up with Narcissism: How to Break Free and Stay Free. We dive into what really happens after a breakup with a narcissist—beyond just identifying the red flags. Dr. Alina shares her perspective on the often-missing conversation about the true healing journey: rebuilding self-esteem
#311 Discovering DIY Spirituality with Faith Freed
In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Faith Freed, a licensed psychotherapist, spiritual guide, and author of the new book DIY Spirituality: Chart Your Own Sacred Path. We dive into the intersection of spirituality and relationships—especially after heartbreak—and discuss how connecting with your own sense of spirituality can be a key part of healing. We get into what spirituality r
#310 The Secrets to Cultivating a Village That Shows Up When Life Gets Tough
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#309 When Stress at Work Impacts Love at Home with Guy Winch
In today's expert episode, I'm joined by one of my all-time favorite guests (and yours!), Guy Winch, psychologist, TED speaker, and author of the brand new book Mind Over Grind. We dive deep into the topic of how workplace stress and burnout can erode our relationships, sometimes leading to breakups and heartache. We talk about the unconscious ways that work stress spills over into our ho
#308 Understanding Limerence and Longing with Amanda McCracken
In today's expert episode, I'm joined by journalist and author Amanda McCracken to dive deep into the topics of longing and limerence—those intense, ruminating crushes or obsessions that can stick with us for years, even decades. Amanda shares her very personal journey with limerence, what it was like to struggle with it long before the term became widely known, and how it intersected wit
#307 Healing Is Not Linear: When Old Relationship Trauma Resurfaces Years Later
In today's solo episode, I'm sitting down and sharing off the cuff about something unexpected that came up for me in therapy this week—old pain from a toxic relationship I was in over a decade ago. Even though I haven't gone through a breakup in years, this experience reminded me how healing from heartbreak, especially from trauma and narcissistic abuse, happens in layers and isn't always
#306: Navigating the Six Stages of Relationships with Thais Gibson
In today's expert episode, I'm interviewing returning guest Thais Gibson—best-selling author, researcher, and founder of the Personal Development School—about her powerful new concept: the six stages of every relationship. We unpack each stage, from dating and the honeymoon phase, through the power struggle, all the way to commitment and the everlasting stage. We talk through the specific
#305: Why Self-Awareness Isn’t Enough with Kati Morton
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Kati Morton—licensed marriage and family therapist, bestselling author, and one of the most trusted mental health voices online. We dive into her newest book, "Why Do I Keep Doing This?" and explore how our desire for control impacts everything from relationships to mental health. In our conversation, we talk about the many ways control can show up
#304 Early Divorce Isn’t Failure: Finding Hope After Unexpected Turns with Eve Simmons
In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Eve Simmons, an award-winning health journalist who is back on the podcast after going through a life-changing divorce just six months into her marriage. We dive into her personal story, what led her to investigate the trend of early divorces among millennial women, and why there’s so little guidance for young couples splitting up before kids ar
#303 How a Daily Gratitude Practice Changed My Life and Friendships
In today's solo episode, I'm reflecting on a practice that's been a huge part of my own healing journey—gratitude texting. As we kick off 2026, I share the five biggest lessons I've learned after nearly six years of sending daily gratitude texts with a small group of friends. I dive into how this habit started during my own heartbreak, why it works even when the group isn't made up of lif
#302 Redefining Divorce with Sarah Armstrong
In today's expert episode, I'm talking with Sarah Armstrong, author of The Mom's Guide to a Good Divorce and Vice President of Global Marketing Operations at Google. Sarah is sharing her personal experience navigating her divorce 15 years ago while prioritizing her daughter Grace. We discuss the concept of a "good divorce" and how Grace herself coined the term, the practical ways Sarah ke
#301 Transforming Grief and Breakups Through Daily Affirmations with Michelle Maros
In today's expert episode, I'm joined by Michelle Maros, founder of Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life, who just released her new book, Dear Friend: Daily Notes for Contemplation, Connection and Clarity. We dive into the misconceptions and real challenges around affirmations, why hearing supportive words from a friend lands so differently, and how self-compassion and self-trust don't just arrive
#300 Managing Anxiety and Breakup Burnout with Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein
In today’s expert episode I’m joined by Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein, a licensed psychologist and wellness consultant who specializes in anxiety and burnout. I was drawn to her unique perspective on anxiety—not as something to “fix,” but as a deeper internal experience that we can learn to navigate with curiosity and compassion. We dive into how anxiety and burnout show up during breakups, why
#299 How Keeping Secrets Sabotages Your Breakup Recovery
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into the topic of secrets and their role in breakups. I explore why we tend to keep certain things hidden after a breakup—whether it's to save face, avoid embarrassment, or keep the door open for a possible reconciliation—and why this is ultimately harmful to our healing. I share some personal experiences from my recovery journey, talk about how secrecy
#298 The Five Habits of Hope with Dr. Julia Garcia
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Julia Garcia, psychologist and author of the new book The Five Habits of Hope. We talk about how hope can be a real tool for growth and healing, rather than just a personality trait or toxic positivity. Dr. Julia shares her own personal struggles—from early heartbreak to grappling with addiction and self-worth—and how she discovered resilience
#297 How Romcoms Gave Us Unrealistic Breakup Expectations
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into a topic that’s come up a lot in the background of other episodes, but today I’m bringing it all together—what romcoms got wrong about breakups and relationships. I talk through five major themes that 90s and early 2000s romantic comedies sold us—like the myth of the “one that got away,” why fighting isn’t proof of love, the trope of getting ba
#296 Navigating In-Law Dynamics and Boundaries with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish
In today’s episode, I’m interviewing Dr. Tracy Dalgleish about her brand new book You, Your Husband, and His Mother. We dive into the impact of outside influences—especially in-laws—on relationships, and why these dynamics can so often lead to breakdowns. Dr. Tracy shares insights from her work as a couples therapist, including her five-step Vault Method for protecting your partnership an
#295 How Detachment Can Transform Your Breakup Recovery with Sabrina Bendory
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by relationship and confidence coach Sabrina Bendory, host of the "You Will Be Okay" podcast and author of the new book Detached. We dive deep into the meaning of detachment—what it actually is, common misconceptions about it (hint: it’s not emotional shutdown!), and why learning to detach from outcomes is a crucial life skill, especially after heartb
#294 Navigating Anxious and Avoidant Attachments with Julie Mennano
In today's expert episode, I'm interviewing Julie Mennano, who you might know from her Secure Love podcast or her super insightful Instagram account @thesecurerelationship. Julie is an attachment expert and the author of Secure Love, and in this episode we tackle all things attachment theory—especially how it relates to breakups and healing. We dive deep into the anxious-avoidant dynamic,
#293 How to Feel Safe in Relationships with Jessica Baum
In today’s episode, I’m welcoming back Jessica Baum, licensed mental health counselor, relationship expert, and author of the new book Safe (out today!). We dive into what it truly means to feel safe in relationships, why so many of us struggle with this, and how our attachment styles play a huge role—whether we lean anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between. Jessica breaks down the orig
#292 Exploring Sexual Confidence and Healing After Heartbreak with Dr. Tara
In today’s expert episode, I’m so excited to welcome back Dr. Tara, a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, TV sexpert, and now author of the brand new book “How Do You Like It?” We dive deep into the shifting narratives around sex and relationships, especially for Gen Z, and talk about how younger generations are redefining what it means to be sexually empowered and c
#291 Is Your Breakup Story Helping or Hurting Your Recovery?
In today's solo episode I’m diving into the topic of your breakup story—what it means, why it matters, and how the way you tell it can shape your healing. I explore how sharing your breakup experience is an important part of processing, but also how we can unintentionally make our stories more painful by filling in the gaps with negative self-talk or assumptions. Whether you were cheated
#290 From Self-Sabotage to Self-Regulation: Anna Runkle’s Guide to Relationship Healing
In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Anna Runkle, better known as the “Crappy Childhood Fairy” on YouTube, whose new book, Connectability, just launched. We talk all about what it really means to be dysregulated, how childhood trauma—not just the “big T” trauma—can play out in our adult relationships, and why so many of us find ourselves self-sabotaging or struggling to connect. An
#289 Surviving the Horrors of Dating with Rory Uphold: Mindset, Shame, and Self-Love
In today’s episode, I’m welcoming back one of my favorite guests, Rory Uphold, to talk all about her brand new book The Final Girl’s Guide to the Horrors of Dating, out tomorrow (October 1st)! Rory and I dive into what inspired her to write the book—combining her own wild relationship stories with her love for horror movies. We break down what it really means to be a “final girl” in both
#288 Healing Through Letters: A Breakup Recovery Tool
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into one of my all-time favorite tools for breakup healing—letter writing. I share why this practice has been so powerful for me, how I integrate it into my coaching sessions, and exactly why it helps with those obsessive post-breakup thoughts and the void left by no contact. I go over different types of letters you can write—to your ex, to yourself (in
#287 When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned with Laura Behnke
In today’s episode, I’m talking to Laura Behnke, whose story is such a powerful example of resilience, hope, and what it means to build a meaningful life regardless of the “rules” we think we need to follow. Laura shares openly about not having her first real relationship until age 35, what it felt like to reach milestones later than she expected, and how she learned to imagine a future t
#286 Navigating the Final Stretch of Breakup Recovery
In today's solo episode, I'm diving into what I call the final 10% of breakup recovery—that last stretch where you feel mostly healed, but still find yourself thinking about your ex, feeling frustrated, or just not quite “over it” yet. I talk through why this stage can feel so uncomfortable, how it's completely normal to still have lingering curiosity or sadness, and why rushing through i
#285 Out of the Ashes: Courtney Peppernell’s Journey Through Heartbreak and Emotional Abuse
In today’s episode, I’m joined by internationally bestselling poet and author Courtney Peppernell to talk about her deeply personal new book, Out of the Ashes. Courtney opens up about her seven-year relationship that ended in emotional abuse and infidelity, and what it was like to recognize the toxic dynamics only in hindsight. We explore how she navigated feelings of shame, guilt, and ev
#284 Let the Truth Set You Free: Amber Rae’s Story of Leaving to Love
In today's episode, I'm joined by international best-selling author Amber Rae of the book Loveable, who shares her incredible story of breaking free from a nine-year sexless marriage after realizing she was living out a "good girl" narrative that kept her needs and desires suppressed. Amber and I dive into the difficult process of coming to terms with a relationship that looks good on pap
#283 Listener Episode: Breaking Anxious-Avoidant Patterns with Chris
In today’s listener episode, I’m interviewing Chris, a man in his late 30s living in Arizona who is nearly two years out from a relationship that was marked by a classic anxious-avoidant dynamic. Chris opens up about navigating repeated breakup and reconciliation cycles with his ex, coming to terms with patterns of emotional unavailability, and the challenging process of finally walking a
#282 The Power of Doing What You Don’t Feel Like After a Breakup
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into one of my favorite—and most powerful—tools for breakup recovery: contrary action. I talk about how, in the midst of heartbreak, your thoughts and feelings can often steer you in the wrong direction, and why doing the opposite of what you feel like doing can be a true game changer. I share actionable ways to put contrary action into practice, h
#281 Loneliness and the Power of Radical Listening with Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Robert Biswas Diener, pioneer in positive psychology and co-author of the book “Radical Listening.” We dive into the power of radical listening—what it actually looks like, why it’s so hard to practice during breakups, and how improving your listening skills can radically change how you process heartbreak and receive support. Dr. Robert and I t
#280 Learning to Love Better with Yung Pueblo
In today’s episode I’m joined by none other than Diego Perez—who many of you know as Yung Pueblo. This was such a pinch-me moment for me, getting to sit down with the author behind so many of my favorite books, and especially his newest release, “How To Love Better.” Diego opens up about his relationship with his wife and how their journey became the foundation for this new book. We talk
#279 Stop Calling It a Discard, You Are Not Trash
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into a term I’ve seen popping up everywhere lately—“discard”—especially in the context of avoidant attachment styles and breakups. I share how I started noticing this lingo in my Q&As on Instagram, did some research, and why the use of “discard” really doesn’t sit right with me. I break down why I believe using this term is harmful, how it can lower
#278 The Power of Detachment with Dr. Bob Rosen
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Bob Rosen—psychologist, New York Times bestselling author, and business advisor—to dive into the concept of attachment, and specifically, how our attachments can hold us back in breakups and beyond. We explore key themes from his latest book, “Detached,” including the attachment to stability, the past, control, and even perfectionism. Dr. Rosen
#277 Why Your Brain Feels Stuck with Britt Frank
In today’s expert episode I’m joined by Britt Frank—author, speaker, and licensed neuropsychotterapist—who has been on my wish list for ages. We dive deep into the connection between breaking free from an addiction to substances and breaking free from an ex, and Britt so beautifully shares why our brains actually are on our side (even when it doesn’t feel like it!). We talk about why feel
#276 Listener Episode: Breaking the On and Off Cycle
In today’s listener episode, I’m talking with Dionne, a proud Gen Xer who shares her story of a six-and-a-half-year, very on-again, off-again relationship that was marked by several breakups—some lasting just a weekend, others stretching to six months. We discuss how easy and addictive the breakup-get-back-together cycle can be, especially for those with anxious attachment styles, and the
#275 The Power of Rock Bottom
In today's solo episode, I'm diving into the topic of hitting "rock bottom" after a breakup—what it really means, why it matters, and how it can actually be a catalyst for deep change and healing. I share personal stories and draw some powerful parallels to sobriety and recovery, discussing why so many of us avoid fully feeling the pain after a breakup and the ways we try to distract or n
#274 Healing Heartbreak with Intuition and Action with Laura Day
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by New York Times bestselling author Laura Day to dive into her newest book, The Prism, through the lens of heartbreak and healing. Laura and I talk about why breakups are so uniquely painful, what happens in our brains and bodies when we lose a relationship, and how intuition and ego both play a role in how we cope. We get into the seven centers of t
#273 Using CBT to Rewire Your Thoughts with Judith Belmont
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Judith Belmont, an experienced therapist and author of multiple self-help books, including her latest, “110 CBT Tips and Tools.” We dive deep into the practical side of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and how its tools can help you through a breakup. Judith shares the most common unhelpful thought patterns people get stuck in after heartbreak, l
#272 How Overusing Therapy Terms Can Hurt Your Breakup Recovery with Dr. Isabelle Morley
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Isabelle Morley, a clinical psychologist specializing in couples therapy and author of the recently released book They’re Not Gaslighting You. We dive deep into the rise and overuse of “therapy speak”—think labels like gaslighting, narcissism, and red flags—and how these terms, while validating for many, can sometimes stall real healing after a
#271 Amicable Doesn't Mean Painless: Listener Story with Marc
In today’s listener episode, I’m interviewing Marc, a man in his early 40s from the East Coast who is sharing the story of his recent breakup after an eight year relationship. Marc opens up about navigating an incredibly rare amicable breakup and what it really looks like to end things with kindness and respect—even when it’s still deeply painful. We talk about how the loss of his mom a y
#270 Reclaiming Yourself After Heartbreak: How to Take Back What Was Lost
Today I’m taking you solo through a topic that hits close to home—reclaiming the things that feel lost after a breakup. Whether it’s a favorite song, a restaurant, a hobby, or even an entire part of town, breakups often leave us avoiding things we used to love.In this episode, I’m sharing stories from listeners and my own experience about what we feel our exes “took” from us, and how I le
#269 How to Forgive with Dara McKinley
In today’s episode, I’m chatting with forgiveness expert Dara McKinley. We’re tackling a topic that’s come up a lot in breakups but rarely gets broken down: how do you actually forgive?Dara shares her personal story about searching for step-by-step advice on forgiveness and realizing that most resources only tell us why we "should" forgive—and not how. Together, we unpack common misconcep
#268 From Shock to Sadness: How Breakup Pain Evolves Over Time
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into what it’s really like to go through the initial shock after a breakup. I’ll share what those first days can feel like—whether you’re in disbelief, feeling numb, caught up in logistical details, or hoping your ex might come back. I’ll talk about why it’s completely normal if the deepest pain doesn’t hit right away, and remind you that however y
#267 Empowering Your Fertility Journey After Breakup: Real Talk with Dr. Lucky Sekhon
In this episode I'm finally diving into one of the most-requested topics: fertility and the realities of the biological clock, especially when you're going through a breakup. I’m joined by Dr. Lucky Sekhon, an incredible double board-certified fertility expert based in NYC, who breaks down everything from egg freezing and IVF to solo parenting and common misconceptions about age and ferti
#266 Calling Off a Wedding: Trusting Yourself Through Heartbreak with Katherine Rose Woller
On today’s episode of the Heal Your Heartbreak podcast, I sit down with Katherine Rose Woller, author of "Calling It Off: Memoir of an Almost Bride." Katherine shares her deeply personal story about deciding to call off her wedding just two weeks before it was supposed to happen. Together, we talk honestly about the pressure to stay in relationships, why it’s so important to listen to you
#265 Listener Confessions: Most Shocking Breakup Challenges
In this episode I explore the raw and often hidden challenges of going through a breakup. I reached out to my Instagram followers and gathered honest, anonymous responses about what surprised them most during their breakup journey. From feeling unexpectedly blindsided and dealing with intense emotions to grappling with forgiveness and missing someone toxic, this episode sheds light on the
#264 Discovering the Power of Questions in Building Intimacy with Topaz Adizes
In today's episode, I have the pleasure of chatting with Topaz Adizes, the incredible director of "The And" and founder of The Skin Deep. Together, we dive into the fascinating world of how deep, intentional questions can significantly elevate relationship intimacy. Topaz opens up about his personal quest for real connection, sharing how the right questions can transform negative thought
#263 When Sticking to Your Guns Leads to Heartbreak
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