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Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn

Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn

Cate Osborn, Understood.org 53 episodes Nov 4, 2026

Host Cate Osborn, who has ADHD and a background in sex education, explores the challenges of navigating relationships with ADHD. The podcast covers topics like social skills, boundaries, communication, intimacy, and sex, aiming to unpack the taboo, painful, and often hilarious aspects of being in a relationship when you have ADHD.

Episodes

Why the manosphere pulls in neurodivergent men (and how to help)
Why the manosphere pulls in neurodivergent men (and how to help) Nov 4, 2026 26:11 Why would a community that says you’ll never be loved feel like a safe place? Tim Squirrell holds a doctorate in online communities and has worked in counterterrorism, focused on online extremism. He joins host Cate Osborn to talk about the manosphere and why teens and young men with ADHD or autism may be more likely to get pulled in.They discuss how these creators teach young men unhealthy ideas
He has ADHD. She doesn’t. What actually helps this real couple communicate
He has ADHD. She doesn’t. What actually helps this real couple communicate Oct 21, 2026 25:42 Your partner has rehearsed this conversation 10 times. You’re walking in at one. No wonder it goes sideways.Dani Burford doesn’t have ADHD, but her husband, Sean, does, along with OCD tendencies. Dani, who works in marketing at Understood.org, joins Cate for a casual, practical conversation about the systems that help them stay on the same team.She explains how they use things like the “care meter
When intense feels normal: ADHD and abusive relationships
When intense feels normal: ADHD and abusive relationships Oct 7, 2026 28:45 Research shows that girls with ADHD are significantly more likely to experience intimate partner violence.Dr. Emily Rothman, who recently published a study on dating violence in neurodivergent youth, joins Cate to talk about what the research actually shows.They discuss why ADHD symptoms might make it harder to recognize abuse. They also cover how to tell ordinary relationship conflict from patter
The ADHD safety net hiding inside a kink power dynamic
The ADHD safety net hiding inside a kink power dynamic Sep 23, 2026 31:26 Kink isn’t required to get something real out of a power dynamic. And for ADHD brains, it might be more than you’d expectSex and relationship coach Amanda Dames — The Kink Consultant — joins the show to talk about power dynamics and what dominance and submission can actually offer neurodivergent relationships once the stigma gets stripped away. Amanda and Cate start with the basics: what a power d
I’ve never felt like a good woman: ADHD and femininity
I’ve never felt like a good woman: ADHD and femininity Sep 9, 2026 30:04 In this episode, a complex conversation about ADHD, femininity, gender, and why talking about the hard stuff is important.Cate sits down with Rae Jacobson, host of Understood.org’s Hyperfocus podcast, journalist, and a producer on this show. They talk about something they’ve both struggled to name: the collision between ADHD, femininity, and gender expression. They dig into what it felt like to wa
An Emmy winner’s trick for ADHD idea overload (Live show!)
An Emmy winner’s trick for ADHD idea overload (Live show!) Aug 26, 2026 27:12 We recorded our first-ever live show in front of a studio audience! Emmy Award–winning writer, director, and producer Adam Reid, co-creator of “Tiny Chef,” joined Cate to talk about ADHD creativity: what works, what doesn’t, when to dig in, when to let things go, and why finishing things isn't always the point. Adam talked candidly about being diagnosed with ADHD at 45, after years of building an
Your ADHD brain loves a good argument. Here’s why that’s a problem.
Your ADHD brain loves a good argument. Here’s why that’s a problem. Aug 12, 2026 20:25 Ever notice your ADHD brain gets a little too excited during an argument? Like you’re not even mad anymore, you’re just... having a really good time being right? Yeah. There’s a reason for that, and it’s not a great one. In this mailbag episode of Sorry, I Missed This, host Cate Osborn is digging into questions from our Understood Facebook group Our amazing listeners wrote in (and had the chance t
Why money fights are never really about money
Why money fights are never really about money Jul 28, 2026 33:58 Money is one of the biggest sources of conflict in relationships — and for people with ADHD, it comes with an extra layer of shame most people don’t talk about. Cate sits down with Dr. Christine Hargrove, a financial therapist who specializes in ADHD, to unpack why money fights escalate so fast, why who’s the “mental load carrier” matters more than who earns more, and why people with ADHD often gi
Parentification: The hidden pattern in ADHD relationships
Parentification: The hidden pattern in ADHD relationships Jul 14, 2026 30:09 Ever feel like you’re the “parent” in your relationship — managing everything while your partner just... coasts? You’re not alone. And it’s not just you being controlling.  Host Cate Osborn talks with ADHD coach Kristen Carder (host of I Have ADHD, author of the upcoming You’re Not in Trouble) about why ADHD relationships so easily slide into parent-child dynamics, and how to climb back out. They
ADHD and impulse control: The science behind why willpower fails
ADHD and impulse control: The science behind why willpower fails Jun 30, 2026 24:45 Does ADHD really mean poor self-control? Or is that the myth that’s been making everything harder?  Dr. Polaris Koi is a philosopher who studies ADHD and self-regulation (and is an ADHDer themselves). In this episode, Cate and Polaris get into why “just try harder” is not only unhelpful advice — it’s based on science that most researchers don’t even believe anymore.  They talk about why impulsivit
Why good sex can make your ADHD brain spiral
Why good sex can make your ADHD brain spiral Jun 16, 2026 25:09 Do you feel almost manic after really good sex — craving more, making impulsive decisions, fixating on the next time? In this episode of Reddit reactions, Cate and Jessamine tackle five real Reddit posts from ADHD women.  Digging into some seriously NSFW posts, they look at why some people with ADHD never feel spontaneous sexual attraction — and why that might be about “out of sight, out of mind.”
Why neurodivergent women can’t stop reading smut and romantasy
Why neurodivergent women can’t stop reading smut and romantasy Jun 2, 2026 18:54 Did you know that women with ADHD consume explicit fiction at dramatically higher rates than neurotypical women — and there’s a neurological reason? Dr. Erika Miley is a licensed mental health counselor, certified sex therapist, and author of the only dissertation published on ADHD and women’s sexuality. After surveying over 2,000 participants, one thing kept surfacing: smut. Romantasy, explicit r

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