Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast is hosted by dating and relationship coach Ali Jackson, who shares her positive and practical approach to dating based on personal experience. Listeners learn how to identify their needs, embrace their feelings, and communicate directly. The podcast features relatable conversations with expert guests and listeners, along with Ali's personal insights.
Episodes
295. The Farewell One ft. Roark and Erica
After six years and nearly 300 episodes, this is the final episode of Finding Mr. Height on the public feed, and Ali didn’t want to do it alone. Her first co-host, Roark, and her second, Erica, come back to catch up on where they are now, then go all the way back to when the show started, their favorite moments & catchphrases, the episodes they’d put in a time capsule, and they’ve each viewed
294. The Nickname, The Private Stuff, and The Ending ft. Skyline
Skyline is back, this time for his send-off from the public pod. He talks about finding out what FMH actually was, going back to listen after their first few dates to scope out the competition, and why hearing your own date recapped on air feels like eavesdropping on a job interview. Ali tells him how close he came to being called Ink Master, he explains the very adult reason the pseudonym stays,
293. The Friends I Made Along the Way ft. Ilana Dunn & Talia Koren
For one of the last episodes of Finding Mr. Height, Ali sits down with the two friends she made in a podcasting world she assumed would be cutthroat: Ilana Dunn of Seeing Other People and Talia Koren of Dating Intentionally, recorded separately, back to back.Ilana was the first podcasting friend Ali ever made, five and a half years ago, and she came prepared with a list of every episode they have
292. If She's Not Too Much, Why Am I? ft. Serena Kerrigan
Serena Kerrigan went on 50 blind first dates on Instagram Live, and she is still making the same argument she made then: most of us decide who a person is before we have met them. She and Ali get into the mirror work behind her new book, out this week, why “being chill” is not an attachment problem but a sign you are with the wrong person, and what they each used to reject people over. Serena woul
291. Six Years of the Pod, Reread by a Psychologist (Pt 1) ft. Dr. Katie Rickel
Dr. Katie Rickel is a clinical psychologist and a longtime FMH listener, and over six years of listening she kept collecting moments. Not clinical notes, just things Ali had said on the pod that a psychologist recognized. Eventually she brought Ali the list, and this episode is that list!It is not a diagnosis nor a therapy session, just a psychologist taking real examples from years of Ali talking
290. The Announcement
After more than five years and almost 300 episodes, Ali is ending the public podcast. In this solo episode she says it out loud for the first time, and then sits with the harder part: why now, and why she still is not sure it is the right call.The show will end sometime this fall. Ali does not have an exact date, and she will not say whether this is a true ending or a long pause. She talks about t
289. What I Only Say on Patreon
Ali is away this week, so this episode goes behind the Patreon paywall. It pulls together four of her favorite Updates segments from the last few months: designing an engagement ring and then getting immediately steamrolled by the wedding algorithm, admitting how much she hates being seen trying hard at something, a heavy week of grief that turned into a lesson about trusting her own resilience, a
288. Hot Topics #24: The Half Full Glass on the Counter
Ali is back with another Hot Topics episode answering listener questions. She opens with a question about her own path toward getting evaluated for ADHD: what finally pushed her to pursue a neuropsych evaluation after years of circling the idea, what the five hour eval was actually like, and why she is at peace with the possibility that no diagnosis comes out of it. Her feedback session is still t
287. What Everyone Can Learn From Kink ft. Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant
Ali sits down with Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant, a sex and relationship coach and former NYC dominatrix, for a conversation that might surprise you in its relevancy - even if you don’t consider yourself kinky. Amanda reframes kink as something far broader than it sounds, as the two get into naming what you actually want, how to communicate that desire, and the aftercare that keeps both pe
286. What Your Jealousy Is Trying to Tell You ft. Ally Iseman
This week Ali sits down with relationship coach Ally Iseman, founder of Passport 2 Pleasure, for a full reframe of the emotion we love to hate. Ally's case: jealousy is not a character flaw or proof of love, it's information, and there's no such thing as a jealous person. She gets into why it hits so physically (her own first real wave of it in her 30s came with literal tunnel vision),
285. Moving In Together, Part 3 ft. Skyline
Ali is joined by Skyline for part three of the moving-in-together series, and this time he is in the chair to answer for the version Ali told solo in parts one and two. They get into whether a 50/50 split actually feels fair, the CFO and CTO roles they have each fallen into, how they divide the chores nobody wants (yes, the litter trade), what it has really been like merging two independent lives
284. Decentering Men When You're Already Partnered ft. Sam Showalter
Ali is joined by creator Sam Showalter, who went viral for a series about decentering her own husband. Eleven years into a relationship with her now-husband, she realized how much invisible mental load she was carrying that had nothing to do with him, from tracking whether he'd eaten lunch to rushing home from the gym by 6pm so she'd be available when he logged off… In January, she decided
283. Moving In Together, Part 2: The Emotional Side of Sharing a Home
We're continuing the multi-part moving-in series inspired by listener questions. In part two, Ali gets into the stuff you can't put in a spreadsheet: sharing a space with another person, protecting alone time when you live together, merging two homes' worth of stuff, and picking your battles (except of course when it comes to toilet paper direction). She reflects on what nine months of
282. Moving In Together, Part 1: Money, Chores, and the Mental Load
We’re talking all about moving in with a partner in this multi-part series I inspired by listener questions. In part one, Ali breaks down the practical side of moving in with a partner: splitting expenses, navigating one partner moving into the other’s home, divvying up housework, and more. She reflects back on the episode recorded with Skyline before he moved in, and what’s changed (or hasn’t) si
281. Why Self-Sufficient Women Are Still Codependent ft. Esin Pinarli
Esin Pinarli, a psychotherapist with 18 years of experience, joins Ali to talk about people-pleasing, attachment, and what she calls modern codependency. Esin breaks down the unspoken childhood contracts we sign without realizing it, and how codependency shows up today in high-achieving, self-sufficient women who would never picture themselves as the "lost yourself in a relationship" type.
280. Live a Longer Lonely Life: What Tech Is Actually Doing to Connection ft. Alex Wolf
Alex Wolf, the founder behind the original Boss Babe movement turned tech philosopher, joins Ali to explore what the attention economy is quietly doing to our ability to connect with each other, including romantically. The conversation covers why "just delete the app" misses the point entirely, why the speed of technology adoption is the real problem, and how dating apps have the same desi
279. Hot Topics #23: First-Time Manager Nerves, Single Mom Dating Apps, Timeline Anxiety, Dating Burnout, and the Talking Stage
Ali answers five listener questions that all share a common thread: the gap between wanting something and being able to follow through. A first-time manager grappling with imposter syndrome, a single mom navigating kid disclosure on the apps, someone processing timeline anxiety after leaving a relationship, a dater hitting a wall with the performance exhaustion of first dates, and someone three we
278. Listener Storytime: Rebuilding Intimacy After Desire Faded
This week, Ali is joined by Sarah, a listener who reached out to share her journey with desire and intimacy. Sarah opens up about how her health anxiety quietly muted her desire for sex until she sought out a specialized sex therapist, and how that work helped her reframe arousal, communicate with her husband, and rebuild a sex life that works for both of them. They also touch on practical tools t
277. What If the Best Dating Profile Was Written by Your Best Friend? ft. Brooke Janousek
TW: This episode contains a brief discussion of cancer and loss. If you want to skip it, the guest segment begins at approximately minute 13.Brooke Janousek, founder of Someone You Should Meet, joins Ali to make the case for letting the people who know you best do the talking. Brooke and Ali dig into why apps fail to capture who people actually are, the courage gap between professional and persona
276. Ali’s Guide To Getting The *Right* Job Offer (Parts 1 & 2 of 3)
You're being interviewed, but you're also doing the interviewing. Most people forget the second part. Ali shares two episodes from the Finding Mr. Height Patreon in this special re-air, covering the interview process from both sides of the table. Part one is a practical guide to vetting a company before you accept an offer: how to use Glassdoor beyond the surface level, what LinkedIn can t
275. When You Outgrow the Life You Built ft. Sarah Vacchiano
This week, Ali sits down with Sarah Vacchiano, author of Soft Launch, who got married at 21, divorced at 27, and moved to New York City to start over from scratch. Sarah shares what it felt like to leave a marriage that looked fine on the outside, how she navigated a world she’d skipped the entry points to, and what it took to finally build an identity that was genuinely hers. She remarried at 37,
274. Listener Storytime: When Staying Felt Safer Than Leaving
TW: This episode includes discussion of grief, miscarriage and emotional abuse.This week, Ali is joined by a listener who shares her story of leaving a marriage rooted in cultural pressure, low self-worth, and years of emotional abuse. The conversation covers the internal voice she ignored while engaged, the compounding grief that finally pushed her out the door, and what it's looked like to r
273. Two Years In: The Anniversary Episode ft. Skyline
Ali and Skyline are celebrating two years together! Together from Italy, they go deep on what two years actually looks like, covering how they handle disagreements, how intentional they've been about the relationship and whether that was by design or just who they are, what they've each learned about themselves through the relationship, and what surprised them most about each other along t
272. Designing a Life That Fits ft. Danielle McGeough
Danielle McGeough joins Ali to talk about what happens after you hit the goal you've been chasing your whole career and realize it doesn't feel the way you thought it would (and how this relates to dating!). Danielle, a professor and creator of the RISE Ritual Method, unpacks the difference between burnout and demoralization, why habits alone won't get you out of a hollow season, and h
271. Dating Burnout and the Patterns Behind It ft. Jordanne Sculler
Jordanne Sculler, licensed therapist, joins Ali to talk about dating burnout from the inside out. Rather than pointing to apps or circumstances as the culprit, Jordanne breaks down the internal patterns that are really driving exhaustion in dating, including the productivity trap of treating dating like a to-do list, people-pleasing and self-abandonment, and what it actually looks like to break a
270. The Relationship Advice You Inherited Might Be Wrong ft. Monica Tanner
Marriage coach Monica Tanner joins Ali to challenge the unwritten rulebook most of us absorbed about relationships without ever questioning it. Monica, the author of Bad Marriage Advice, breaks down why a lot of the advice well-meaning people pass down is not just unhelpful but actively working against us. The conversation covers why "never go to bed angry" is a recipe for sleep deprivatio
269. Interdependence, Earned Security, and the Art of Being Unsingle ft. Amy Chan
Amy Chan returns to the pod for an in-person recording with Ali, a conversation spurned from her own deep attachment work. The two chat about Amy’s new book Unsingle, where she leverages her personal experiences to help you identify your recurring patterns in relationships. The two get into why you keep choosing the same person in a different body (and how to actually change that), the mechanics o
268. Listener Storytime: Building a Full Sex Life on Your Own Terms
This week, Ali sits down with Julia, a listener who shares her experience discovering that vaginal sex just doesn't work for her body. She walks through how that shaped her early dating experiences, including a two-and-a-half year situationship, and what it was like to tell her current partner. They get into why penetration isn't the gold standard of sex, how societal expectations create f
267. The Deeper Pattern Beneath Your Dating Life ft. Meg Tuohey
Relationship coach and author Meg Tuohey joins Ali to introduce her concept of the HeartPrint, the idea that each of us is as unique as our fingerprints in how we move through the world and relate to others. Meg breaks down why frameworks like attachment styles and love languages, while helpful, can only take us so far, and how real self-knowledge requires a deeper, more individualized kind of att
266. The NYT Tried to Give Us Dating Rules and We Have Notes ft. Darcy
Returning guest and Ali’s good friend Darcy is back on the pod, and they’re diving straight into the New York Times' crowdsourced list of 35 dating rules. Some of them? Genuinely solid. Some of them? Completely unhinged. And several of them directly contradict each other, which is so indicative of modern dating. Topics include how people treat servers, outsourcing your nervous system to a part
265. Dating Advice We Wish We'd Taken Sooner ft. Ilana Dunn
Ali sits down with Ilana Dunn, host of Seeing Other People, for a conversation about the dating advice they both either ignored in the past or wish they’d taken sooner. They dig into the patterns that kept them stuck longer than necessary: from ignoring gut feelings and making excuses for bad behavior, to chasing potential over reality and performing chill they never actually felt. Listener submis
264. Hot Topics #22: First Messages, Being Someone's "Type," and People-Pleasing in Progress
We’ve got some amazing listener questions this week, and the thread running through all of them is a concept introduced in this week's Media Mention: high involvement, low attachment, inspired by a TikTok from @mother.of.a.dilemma. From there, she answers three listener questions: one from a man who freezes before sending a first message, one from a woman who only swipes right when she already
263. Listener Storytime: Holding Grief While Choosing What’s Next
TW: This episode includes discussion of grief, loss, and suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out. You can call or text 988 to connect with the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline — they're available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and it's free and confidential.This week, Ali is joined by a listener who opens up about grieving the loss of a partner and navigating life (a
262. Are We Watching Love (Is Blind) Stories or Unresolved Patterns? ft. Jackie Dorman
Matchmaker Jackie Dorman joins Ali to break down the latest season of Love Is Blind through the lens of someone who has helped over 1,600 people get engaged or married. They dig into why the pod format rewards anxious attachment, what emotional over-functioning really looks like on screen, and how to tell the difference between genuine chemistry and chaos. Plus, couple-by-couple predictions on who
261. How to Stop People-Pleasing Without Becoming Rigid ft. Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond
Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond joins Ali to discuss people-pleasing and how it relates to control in dating and relationships. Paula, a therapist and author of Toxic Striving, breaks down how people-pleasing and rigid boundary-setting are two sides of the same coin: both are attempts to control outcomes and avoid uncomfortable feelings. The conversation explores how to identify when you're priorit
260. Hot Topics #21: Attachment Patterns, Workplace Feedback, and Dating Dynamics
Ali is back with another Hot Topics episode, starting with listener updates and reflections sparked by a recent listener storytime and a past Hot Topics question. She then dives into your submitted questions, covering losing interest once the chase ends, making sense of mixed signals when someone’s words and actions don’t align, receiving vague “executive presence” feedback at work, and navigating
259. Using Conflict to Build Trust ft. Anna Lecat
This week, Ali hosts Anna Lecat for a conversation that reframes conflict as a powerful tool for connection rather than something to avoid. Together, the two unpack why so many of us fear uncomfortable conversations (especially in dating) and how that fear can quietly sabotage intimacy.Throughout the episode, they’re exploring how to recognize meaningful early dating conflicts, communicate needs w
258. Relatability Creates Chemistry: Feel a Real Connection on Dates ft. April Beyer
This week, Ali sits down with veteran matchmaker April Beyer (who has 25+ years in the industry!) to unpack why dating feels harder than ever and how to make it more human again. They talk about letting go of attachment to outcomes, loosening rigid “criteria,” and why going on more dates can actually lead to love faster than waiting for the perfect match.April breaks down her idea of “relatability
257. Listener Storytime: Designing a Relationship That Breaks All the Rules
Ali sits down with FMH listener Allison for a storytime episode all about building a relationship that works for you, even if it breaks societal norms. Allison shares what it was like feeling like a late bloomer as she navigated finding her now-partner in her late 30’s. From dating a divorced dad with two kids to navigating mismatched timelines around moving in, engagement, and merging lives, Alli
256. How To Make First Dates More Fun ft. Miriam Katz
Did you ever think that improv could apply to dating? Repeat guest Miriam Katz is back this week, a fun, hands-on conversation about how to feel lighter, more confident, and more authentic on dates…using improv! They talk about tone and enthusiasm, how to practice presence in low-pressure everyday moments, and why “being good” is not the goal if you’re trying to connect like a real human. Ali flip
255. New Year Reset: Foundation, Routines, and Intentional Living
In this New Year episode, Ali shares her word for the year, foundation, and the theme guiding how she’s setting up the year ahead: less chaos, more intention.She explains her process for reflecting on the past year and talks through the unglamorous but powerful changes she’s focusing on in her daily life, including routines, work structure, habits, and health.Ali also answers listener questions ab
254. The 2025 Relationship Year In Review One ft. Skyline
In this episode, Ali is joined by Skyline for a continuation of last week’s year in review episode, this time focused on their relationship. Using a framework from her friend Talia, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, they reflect on the past year as a couple. It’s an honest, conversational look at what stood out, what worked, what surprised them, and what the year actually felt like when yo
253. The 2025 Year In Review One
In this solo Year in Review episode, Ali shares an honest recap of 2025, including the wins, the messy parts, and why this year felt more like a quiet level-setting season than a highlight reel. She reflects on how Finding Mr. Height has evolved, what surprised her about self-employment, and what it looked like to grow “offline” while seeing online growth around her.Ali also gets real about the ha
252. The Family Holidays One ft. Mama J
Ali is joined by her mom (aka Mama J) from their girls trip to Costa Rica for a real, funny, and super practical convo about holiday logistics when you’re dating someone. They start with trip updates (a crab in the hallway, a fully gluten-free resort, and the upcoming “48-hour travel day + cats” marathon), then dive into what listeners said in IG polls about where they’re spending the holidays, wh
251. Listener Storytime: Entering Menopause at 36
Content note for this episode: we talk in detail about menopause, infertility and IVF, chronic pain, medical dismissal, and depression.This week, Ali is joined by longtime listener Sara, who shares a powerful Storytime about discovering she was essentially in menopause at 36. After years of symptoms like debilitating periods, anxiety, depression, fatigue, Sara finally got answers when fertility te
250. The Seventh Dating Diaries One ft. Katy & Tony
Katy & Tony are back this week to share their updates from the dating trenches. First, Tony tells us about the guy he’s surprisingly started dating long distance - we unpack mixed signals, hookup-to-date pivots, and how long distance might work better for him.Then we chat with Katy, whose dating life is serving a completely different flavor of excitement. Think: texting energy, red flags, self
249. The Unspoken Etiquette One ft. Miriam Tinberg
This week, Ali welcomes the brilliant and endlessly curious Miriam Tinberg, a content creator who describes herself (rightly so!) as a conversation starter. If you like discussions that make you say, “wait, I’ve never thought about it like that,” you’re in the right place. We dive into unspoken rules, etiquette, communication patterns, and the gray space we all actually live in - not just in datin
248. The Somatic Sex Coach One ft. Rachel Overvoll
In this episode, Ali sits down with somatic sex coach and author Rachel Overvoll for an honest, expansive conversation about divorce, desire, and learning to feel safe in your own body. The two talk about the shifting stigma around divorce, why “it might end” is not a reason to avoid marriage, and how women are often conditioned to over-function in relationships until they burn out.Rachel also bre
247. The Twentieth Hot Topics One
Ali is solo this week answering questions submitted by you, the listeners! Our question round up includes: navigating comfort vs spark chasing in a new relationship, starting to date when you’re still getting over your ex, how Skyline and I establish de-escalating tactics in every day life, finding a partner who appreciates your independence, and more.In Updates, Ali had a wonderful time at the Re
246. The Self-Trust One ft. Stacey Sherrell of Detangling Divorce
Therapist and creator of Detangling Divorce, Stacey Sherrell, joins Ali to talk about the role of self-trust in finding a strong partnership, her own path to divorce, and how couples can set themselves up for success long before a crisis. Topics also include: respect as a non-negotiable and how to spot corrosive conflict, the invisible mental load, when to start couples therapy, the questions to a
245. The Third Profile Review One ft. Katy & Tony
Katy & Tony are back on the pod for a deep dive into their dating app profiles (plus a sneak peek at some upcoming updates). In this Dating Diaries episode, Ali reviews each of their profiles - Hinge for Katy, Tinder & Grindr for Tony - and the three come away with some great updates to make. From dimly lit photos to making bios sound like your unique voice…there’s a lot to cover! And the
244. The Hot Chef One ft. Katherine Wela Bogen
If you haven’t come across the Hot Chef saga on Threads…first of all, how?! Second of all, you’re truly missing out. But not to worry - this week, Ali sits down with the woman at the center of it all, Katherine Wela Bogen. We dive into this joy-filled, captivating, and refreshingly real modern-day romance from start to finish. After a string of disappointing dating experiences, Katherine shares ho
243. The Crimes of the Heart One ft. Rory Uphold
Ali is collaborating in the studio with Rory Uphold, host of the Crimes of the Heart podcast! The two set out to chat about their most and least favorite pieces of dating advice, but quickly realize that this conversation is the start of a new friendship. Topics range from who should pay on a first date to why dating is so hard right now to the specific difficulties women face in navigating today’
242.5 Comparing Notes Pt 3: The Truth About Relationships at 1 Year w/ Talia Koren
It’s the final part of our three-part series on new relationships! Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of your budding partnership with confidence. Check out part one (ep # 234.5) and part two (ep # 238.5) for tips on navigating the first three months and first six months.In part three, Ali and Talia explore what reaching the o
242. The Sixth Dating Diaries One: Introducing Katy & Tony
We’re meeting two new Dating Diaries participants this week…and they’re recording together! Real-life friends Katy & Tony introduce themselves to the pod and give us all some background as we look forward to following their dating journeys. From divorces to scarcity mindsets to pattern breaking…we hear it all (and they chime in on each other too).But first, Ali is preparing to leave for Japan
241. The Perimenopause & ADHD One ft. Mandi Dixon, LPC
Did you know that perimenopause can start in your 30s and last up to 10 years?? Many people (your host included, until recently) do not and Mandi Dixon, LPC is here this week to talk about it. In her work as a therapist, she also focuses on navigating ADHD during this time of life and how those hormone swings can hit especially hard. Without us even realizing it! She sits down with Ali to break do
240. The Nineteenth Hot Topics One
It’s a Hot Topics episode answering listener questions!! Ali is diving into three listener topics: navigating dating in small cities when friends match with the same people, reassessing long-term friendships as values and priorities evolve, and combatting feeling shallow on dating apps with a “no photos” experiment that prioritizes prompts and compatibility.In Updates, we’re catching up on a week
239. The Ex Appeal One ft. Miriam Katz
What happens when you interview every single person you’ve ever dated (or even kissed?!)? Miriam Katz joins Ali to talk about her bold new podcast The Ex Appeal, where she sits down with everyone from her fifth-grade crush to a rabbi, a stripper, and even a semi-famous ex. We get into the nerves, surprises, and emotional moments along the way while exploring the entire concept of closure. What is
238.5 Comparing Notes Pt 2: Milestones at 6 Months in a New Relationship w/ Talia Koren
It’s part two of our three-part series on new relationships! Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of your budding partnership with confidence. Check out part one (ep # 234.5) for tips on navigating the first three months.In part two, Ali and Talia discuss the significant milestones and experiences that occur around the six-month
238. Listener Storytime: When Parenthood Isn’t What You Expected
In this raw and deeply honest episode, Ali speaks to listener Sarah as she shares her story of loving her children while still questioning whether she would make the same choice if she could go back in time. She opens up about the invisible labor of motherhood, not feeling fulfilled by it when all her friends seem to be, and what she wishes she’d thought about it before becoming a mom (while striv
237. The Detached Dating One ft. Sabrina Bendory
In this episode, Ali is joined by Sabrina Bendory - author, creator, and voice behind some of the internet’s most-shared advice on healing, self-worth, and emotional detachment. Together, we dive deep into what it really means to reclaim your power in dating and relationships. Highlights include: the turning point in Sabrina’s own (v relatable) story, why detachment isn’t cold or avoidant, and how
236. The Gen Z Dating One ft. The Cerca Dating App Team
Are you burned out on dating apps? Or not even interested in swiping left and right on a bunch of strangers in the first place? The founders of the new Cerca dating app have been there, and this week Ali is taking you behind the scenes of building their app. Three members of the Cerca team - Myles Slayton, Carter Munk, and Campbell Arnone - sit down in Ali’s living room to talk about why Gen Z is
235. The Moving In One ft. Skyline
Ali is joined by Skyline this week on what is soon to be their shared couch! The move-in date is fast approaching, and they’ve both come with a list of things they’re thinking about as the day draws closer. From cleaning schedules to alone time to compromising on decor…they’re talking it through for you! Plus answering listener questions and sharing some of your best advice from past experiences.B
234.5 Comparing Notes Pt 1: The First 3 Months Of A New Relationship w/ Talia Koren
New relationships come with so much to navigate! In this three-part series, Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of your budding partnership with confidence.In part one, Talia and Ali discuss the complexities of the first three months of a relationship, and give advice while sharing insights from their own personal experiences.
234. The Choosing A Therapist One ft. Nancy Walters, LICSW
We hear about the benefits of therapy SO often, but how does one even go about finding a therapist? There’s no how-to guide…until now! Ali chats with Nancy Walters, LICSW all about how she, as a therapist, recommends selecting one for yourself. She lovingly refers to her approach to therapy as Hot Mess Therapy: real, raw, intuitive, and deeply human. And is encouraging our listeners to find a real
233. The Pre-Divorce One ft. Sarah Intelligator, Esq.
Sarah Intelligator runs her family law practice like she runs her yoga studio - with a holistic approach that looks to make people feel stronger leaving than they did entering. In this frank conversation, we get into what Sarah sees most in divorcing couples - and how she advises couples avoid it based on her experience. And prenups? You might be surprised by her opinion on them! But as always, it
232. The Navigating Feedback One
Last week on our Patreon live, Ali shared about navigating feedback - both constructive and otherwise - in such a public sphere. This week, she’s bringing that conversation to the main pod in the spirit of transparency, accountability, and vulnerability. She’s working on focusing on the constructive and appreciates those of you who have shared your thoughts so openly. If you’d like to contribute t
231. The Kids Or Childfree One ft. Keltie Maguire
Are you struggling with the decision to have children or not? Or worried about making that decision in the future? Clarity coach Keltie Maguire is here to help! She and Ali chat about Keltie’s personal journey with the decision that led her to her current work, how societal pressures impact the choice, and how to have more grace with ourselves during indecision. Is there data on future regret on b
230. The Fifth Dating Diaries One ft. Caeli & Elyse
Caeli & Elyse are back on the pod this week with updates for us and a whole lot of relatable discussion on dating burnout.First, we hear from Elyse about a recent first date and how a string of those has left her feeling really dejected about dating apps. IRL dating, though? That’s feeling much better and she has an update (and a goal for herself) with Coco Jones!Caeli has some huge personal n
229. The Love Isn’t Blind One ft. Alli Goldberg & Sascha Mombartz
Ali went to one of the best shows she’s seen in a LONG time - Love Isn’t Blind, a comedy dating show where the men can’t speak - and she’s on the pod with the creator and host this week! Alli Goldberg created Love Isn’t Blind as an antidote to her own cynicism in dating and it’s truly taken off. Not only do we have Alli in the house - one of the suitors from the recent NYC show, Sascha Mombartz, i
228. The Fourth AITA One ft. Skyline
We’re bringing back Am I The Asshole discussion episodes, this time featuring Skyline going back and forth with Ali on 5 different AITA submissions! The submissions include: red flags in early dating app conversations, boundaries within a relationship, dealing with a friend’s partner whom you don’t like, losing a friend to their relationship, and navigating childcare disagreements.But first, we’re
227. The Co-Regulating One
We’re talking about co-regulating this week: where two people help each other navigate their emotions. It’s a solo episode with Ali featuring a deep dive into her week away with Skyline that ended with a cancelation of the music festival they were at and a lot of stress surrounding the logistics. She shares a few stressful situations from the weekend, strategies that work for them when navigating
226. The Swipe With Me One ft. Caeli & Elyse
Our two Diary Daters are officially meeting for the first time! In this week’s Dating Diaries episode, Ali brings Caeli & Elyse together to share updates plus swipe together on each of their dating apps. The three discuss how each dater approaches swiping and some best practices to address patterns they’re discovering. Plus, we chat dealbreakers, initial messages, first impressions, and more.
225. The Human Design One ft. Erin Claire Jones
TW: Grief/Death discussion from around minute 4 to 16.Have you heard of Human Design, a framework that can help you navigate your unique, innate way of operating in the world? After this week’s conversation with Erin Claire Jones, you’re going to want to look it up ASAP. Ali first learned about Human Design years ago, but it’s only recently that she’s been realizing how much she can apply it in he
224. The Fourth Dating Diaries One ft. Caeli
Our Diary Dater Caeli re-joins us on the pod after a whirlwind couple of weeks in her life, from a big interview to a new job. Ali & Caeli revisit a first date that never materialized into a second and debate Caeli’s potential next steps. Then, the two dive into Caeli’s Bumble and chat opening lines, messaging approach, and how to avoid getting overwhelmed by too many matches. Through it all,
223. The Third Dating Diaries One ft. Elyse
Elyse, one of our Diary Daters, is back on the pod and full of updates to share! First, she goes on a first date that hits a snag when the dude won’t stop looking at his phone. Then, we go back in time to hear some history about a guy who may be entering the picture. But she wonders: should she move forward with getting to know him given some new information she learns?On Ali’s end, she’s taking S
222. The Relationship “Rules” one ft. Skyline
Skyline joins Ali on the pod this week to chat about relationship “rules” (aka agreements) coming out of the Vacation Rules ep a few weeks ago. The two talk about rules they’ve come up with in their relationship, both communicated and otherwise - for example, Ali realizes in real time that they have a rule when they order take out. Then, it’s time to hear from the experts as three friends of the p
221. The Eighteenth Hot Topics One
Ali is answering listener questions in a dedicated Hot Topics episode this week! First, a listener receives a no ghosting script after a fourth date and wonders if she should ask for more clarity. Then, we talk about sarcastic/negative answers on dating app profiles - are they a dealbreaker? Our third listener has an old hook-up come back into the picture, and she’s struggling to see it objectivel
220. The Second Profile Review One ft. Elyse
We’re hearing from both of our Dating Diaries ladies this week!! First, Caeli joins to update Ali & the listeners on Executive Chef, plus a new (gentle)man enters the picture. Then, Elyse has been busy with two first dates in one night last week. Plus the main reason we’re here: reviewing her Hinge profile! Ali goes through her photos and prompts, providing insight along the way on brevity, ca
219. The Vacation Rules One
Ali is fresh off her one-year anniversary trip with Skyline and dishing about her favorite parts (and not so favorite parts) of the trip. She shares the “vacation rules” that she and Skyline have come up with to help them best enjoy their trips and how some of those “rules” have expanded into every day life. Plus, a stressful moment provides an opportunity to reflect on managing low-level conflict
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