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Not So Chic with Elli Freeman

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Elli Freeman 5 episodes Nov 4, 2026

Hosted by Elli Freeman, Not So Chic feels like a late-night FaceTime call about the parts of life that don’t always make it onto Instagram. From heartbreak, friendships, and identity to confidence, loneliness, and growing into yourself — nothing is off limits. A podcast for the people who romanticize their lives while simultaneously spiraling. Some episodes feel chic. Some are… not. Both are allowed here.

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Currently Out of Emotional Office Hours Nov 4, 2026 01:06:36 For the girls who have somehow become the unpaid therapists, emotional support animals, and crisis management departments of everyone in their lives, this one's for you.This week, we're talking about emotional exhaustion, protecting your energy, and the very inconvenient realization that you cannot fix everyone's problems. From absorbing other people's bad moods to feeling guilty for havi

I Thought It Was Chemistry. It Was Anxiety. Oct 28, 2026 42:59 Apparently, the reason I need 47 verbal affirmations that someone still likes me isn't because I'm a hopeless romantic. It's my attachment style. How chic!This week, we're unpacking the four attachment styles, why some of us chase people who pull away, why emotional availability can feel suspiciously boring, and the deeply humbling realization that sometimes we're the ones making dating c

Trusting the Process Against My Will Oct 21, 2026 46:41 I have trust issues. With men, friendships, my own decisions, and quite frankly, the universe's ability to follow a schedule.This week on Not So Chic, we're discussing the deeply inconvenient reality that life does not come with a detailed itinerary, a return policy, or a customer service representative.From being the girl who was never quite in the group chat to convincing myself a

THE CONFIDENCE CRISIS Oct 14, 2026 46:02 I have spent an embarrassing amount of my life trying to become the kind of woman who walks into a room and commands attention. Meanwhile, I’m 23 years old, still occasionally forget how to operate my limbs in public, and somehow had more confidence at 13 with a mouth full of braces. Explain that one. This week, we're talking confidence. Not the kind that requires perfect hair, a fabulous

I Saw the Instagram Story Oct 7, 2026 40:37 Have you ever seen an Instagram Story of people hanging out without you and suddenly decided you have no friends, everyone secretly hates you, and you should probably move to a new city? Same! This week, we’re talking about being left out: the group chats you’re not in, the dinners you weren’t invited to, and the deeply humbling experience of zooming into the reflection of a martini glass

I Fear I Am My Biggest Hater Sep 30, 2026 34:50 I've spent approximately 23 years being my own biggest hater, and I fear it's time for a rebrand. This week, we're talking about self-compassion, otherwise known as treating yourself with the same kindness you extend to literally everyone else. From accidentally dropping my baby cousin at nine years old to waking up half-naked with McDonald's chicken nuggets in my cleavage, we're unpackin

I've Never Had a Boyfriend, But I Have Exes Sep 23, 2026 38:39 Apparently, you don't need a boyfriend to go through a breakup. Who knew? This week, we're discussing the seven stages of heartbreak, the particular psychological warfare of ending a situationship, and the deeply humbling experience of grieving a future that existed entirely in your head. From convincing yourself that an Instagram story view means he's coming back to drafting your sevente

I Thought Everyone Did This Sep 16, 2026 36:47 For most of my life, I thought everyone was counting their shampoo pumps, strategically positioning their bedroom door, Googling every bodily sensation and occasionally convincing themselves that if something wasn’t just right, they might die in their sleep. Apparently, we were not all doing that. This week, we’re talking about OCD: the intrusive thoughts, compulsions, reassurance seeking

He Can Join When He Gets Here Sep 9, 2026 31:30 Being single is not a problem I’m currently trying to solve. This week, we’re talking about how to actually enjoy being single without swearing off love, pretending you never get lonely, or treating every man you meet like a potential husband. From awful Hinge dates and imaginary perfect boyfriends to protecting your friendships, romanticizing your own life, and realizing that being chose

Your Inner Critic Needs to Shut Up Sep 2, 2026 38:05 Shame is the voice that turns “I embarrassed myself” into “I’m embarrassing,” “they didn’t text me back” into “I’m unlovable,” and one slightly questionable social interaction into a seven-year recurring thought before bed. This week, we’re talking about shame: where it comes from, why it thrives in secrecy, the difference between shame and guilt, perfectionism as shame management, vulner

He Was Better in My Imagination Aug 26, 2026 26:38 I’ve spent most of my life romanticizing everything—relationships, friendships, college, moving to a new city, rainy days, heartbreak… you name it. And while I don’t ever want to stop finding magic in ordinary life, I’m starting to realize there’s a difference between romanticizing your life and becoming attached to a version of it that only exists in your head. This week, we’re talking a

Why I Didn’t Go to My High School Graduation Aug 19, 2026 28:42 I’ve referenced the fact that I didn’t go to my high school graduation before, but I’ve never actually told you the full story of why. My senior year ended with an anonymous Instagram account, a “worst friend” superlative, hundreds of my classmates watching the whole thing unfold, a meeting with my principal, my parents pulling me out of school, and ultimately, me not walking at graduatio

Let’s Talk About the Inevitable Aug 12, 2026 33:22 Grief is one of those things I’ve always been scared to talk about because there’s no perfect way to put it into words. But after losing my grandfather almost two years ago, I’ve realized just how little we actually talk about what it feels like to lose someone you love. In this episode, I’m opening up about my own experiences with loss, being with my Papa during his final moments, and ev

The Highlight Reel Problem Aug 5, 2026 33:18 The internet has never been more powerful—or more confusing. Every day we're bombarded with advice, opinions, AI-generated content, perfectly curated lives, and an endless stream of people telling us how to think, look, work, eat, and live. In this episode, I'm unpacking my complicated relationship with social media, why comparison has become an impossible game to win, why I believe digit

Confessions of a Late Bloomer Jul 29, 2026 32:25 I spent years thinking I was behind. Behind on dating, behind on sex, behind on experience. So I tried to become the kind of girl who could do casual hookups without catching feelings… and completely lost myself in the process. Today we're talking about hookup culture, why so many of us confuse validation with intimacy, and the biggest lesson I've learned: there is nothing chic about aban

Respectfully... I Got the Ick Jul 22, 2026 29:10 This week we're talking about one of the most unserious—and strangely revealing—parts of modern dating: the ick. From men chasing ping pong balls to wearing Band-Aids, we've all experienced those completely irrational moments where attraction disappears in an instant. But what if the ick isn't always about them? What if sometimes it's about what closeness, kindness, or emotional availabil

Comparison Is Stealing Your Joy Jul 15, 2026 28:00 Comparison has a way of making us feel like everyone else is ahead. In today's episode, we're talking about why we compare ourselves, the difference between comparison and jealousy, how to genuinely celebrate other people's success, and why your timeline was never meant to look like anyone else's. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https:/

To My Little Sister(s) Jul 8, 2026 35:00 Apparently being a big sister became my entire personality. This week we're talking about siblings, the people who become siblings, why I spent 23 years trying to save my little sister, and what happens when the caretaker finally learns to let go. Plus, Guest Therapy for anyone convinced they're behind in life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Poli

The Mindset Shift That Actually Worked Jul 1, 2026 32:49 For years I thought confidence came from fitting in. Dressing like everyone else. Dating the "right" people. Chasing validation from strangers, boys, and anyone willing to tell me I was enough. Turns out I couldn't have been more wrong. In this episode, I'm talking about the biggest shift I've made over the last few years: learning how to live a life that's actually aligned with my values

The Loneliness of Being an Old Soul Jun 24, 2026 25:06 I've been called an "old soul" for as long as I can remember, but for years it felt less like a compliment and more like a reminder that I never quite fit in. In this episode, I'm talking about what it was like growing up feeling different—being the kid who wanted tea at The Peninsula, spent recess in knitting club, obsessed over interior design before most people cared about decorating t

I Don't Hate My Body, It's Just Complicated Jun 17, 2026 35:09 Body image isn't always self-hatred. Sometimes it's just constantly being aware of your body. In this episode, I share my experience with body image from ballet classes and dieting in middle school to gaining weight in college, losing it after graduation, and learning how to stop fighting myself every day. We talk about comparison, food noise, body neutrality, and why taking care of your

My Love Life (or Lack Thereof) Jun 10, 2026 34:02 In this episode, I'm talking about dating, situationships, heartbreak, and learning how to be okay on my own. From my first kiss in Rome to college experiences that completely changed the way I viewed relationships, I share the stories that shaped my relationship with love, self-worth, and dating. We talk about rejection, healing, standards, and why being single no longer feels like somet

Friendship Breakups Are Breakups Jun 3, 2026 33:16 Friendship breakups don’t get talked about enough. In this episode, I’m unpacking the pain of outgrowing people, the heartbreak of feeling misunderstood, and why friendships can feel so complicated in your twenties. I talk about trust, people-pleasing, learning to ask for what you need, and the quiet grief of realizing some people may not be your people after all. But more than anything,

I Thought I Was Fine May 27, 2026 30:53 In this episode, I’m talking about the summer that completely changed my life. After years of struggling with my mental health, convincing myself I was fine, and learning how to cope instead of heal, I finally got a level of help I didn’t think I “deserved.” I share what led me to outpatient treatment, what it actually looked like, and how I began to understand the difference between surv

I Wasn’t Alone, But I Was Lonely May 20, 2026 35:43 In this episode, I’m talking about the kind of loneliness where you technically have friends, but never feel like you fully belong. I open up about being the “floater friend” in high school, feeling invited but not chosen, and how that quiet hurt followed me into adulthood. This one is for anyone who has ever felt outside of the group chat, the group photo, or the friend group entirely. Y

Maybe I’m Not Behind, Maybe I’m Just Doing It Differently May 15, 2026 34:28 In this episode of Not So Chic, I’m talking about the weird guilt of feeling calm in your early 20s, living at home, not going out every weekend, watching everyone else’s life look louder online, and wondering if I should be doing more. I get into the difference between peace and complacency, post-grad comparison, FOMO, trusting your gut, and why a quiet season might actually be the thing

Welcome to Not So Chic May 15, 2026 29:05 You know the chic version of me, now meet the not so chic one. In my very first episode, I’m reintroducing myself beyond the polished online version and sharing how lonely college GRWMs, viral TikToks, dating chaos, and my lifelong need to romanticize absolutely everything somehow led me here. This episode is a little intro, a little unraveling, and the official start of the Not So Chic C

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Not So Chic with Elli Freeman

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