Overcome Pornography for Good
This podcast is for anyone who wants to overcome pornography for good. It teaches about the brain and how to completely quit a pornography habit, 100% shame-free. If your ideal life doesn't include a porn habit, then this is the show for you.
Episodes
299. Becoming a New Person (Pillar Four of Quitting Porn)
Quitting porn is about more than stopping a behavior. It’s about becoming the person you want to be. In this fourth and final episode of the series on the pillars needed to overcome pornography, I talk about why changing your identity is such an important part of quitting for good.I explain why many people focus only on removing porn from their lives and miss the deeper transformation that comes w
298. Emotional Regulation (Pillar Three of Quitting Porn)
Unwanted porn use is often connected to the emotions you’re trying to escape. In this third episode of a four-part series on the pillars needed to overcome pornography, I talk about emotional regulation and why learning to feel your feelings is such an important part of quitting porn. I explain how pornography can become a way to escape emotions like loneliness, stress, shame, boredom, or an
297. Mindful Urge Management (Pillar Two of Quitting Porn)
Urges are not something you have to fear or fight against. In this second episode of a four-part series on the pillars needed to overcome pornography, I talk about mindful urge management and how learning to work with your urges can help you stop feeling controlled by them. I explain why resisting urges or reacting to them often keeps you stuck, and why learning to allow them without pushing
296. Shame-Free Commitment (Pillar One of Quitting Porn)
Commitment is required to quit pornography, but the kind of commitment you create matters. In this first episode of a four-part series on the pillars needed to overcome pornography, I talk about why shame-free commitment is the foundation for lasting change. I explain why commitment does not mean being perfect, never struggling, or quitting immediately. Instead, true commitment means being wi
295. Choosing Your Future Self Over Your Present Desire
Your present desire and your future desire can feel like they’re competing with each other. In this episode, I talk about the difference between these two desires and why understanding them can help you create a more compelling reason to quit pornography. I explain why your present desire often focuses on immediate pleasure, escape, or relief, while your future desire is connected to the li
294. What’s Possible with Jeff: Quitting Porn at Age 75
It’s never too late to change your life. In this episode, I’m sharing Jeff’s story of quitting pornography at age 75 after struggling with porn for more than 60 years. His journey is a powerful reminder that no matter how long you’ve been stuck, change is still possible. Jeff shares how shame, secrecy, and using pornography as a way to escape difficult emotions kept him stuck for decades. You’
293. Why Accepting Yourself Makes Change Easier
What if accepting yourself can actually be the thing that helps you change? In this episode, I talk about why self-acceptance can feel confusing when you’re trying to quit pornography or become a better version of yourself. It can seem like accepting where you are means giving up, but the opposite is often true.I explain why the more you accept yourself, the easier it becomes to change, and why sh
292. You’re Worthy Right Now
What if you didn’t have to change anything about yourself to be worthy? In this episode, I talk about why so many of us believe we have to earn worthiness through our actions, accomplishments, or the changes we make. But worthiness doesn’t come from your circumstances, your past, or what you do. It comes from the way you think about yourself.I share why feeling worthy isn’t something you achieve a
291. Using Your Sexuality for Good with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Could your sexuality be something you learn to embrace instead of something you need to fear or control? In this episode, I talk with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a psychologist and teacher who helps people work through sexuality and develop healthier, more intimate relationships. We discuss moving beyond the idea that sexuality is simply something to manage or suppress and exploring how it can cr
290. What to Do With Urges: Resist, React, or Allow
What if the way you respond to your urges is the thing keeping you stuck? In this episode, I break down the three ways you can respond when an urge to view pornography comes up: resisting it, reacting to it, or allowing it. Understanding the difference between these approaches can completely change the way you handle urges. I explain why using willpower and trying to push urges away doesn’t wor
289. The 7 Steps to Stop Fearing Your Feelings
What if the emotions you’re trying to avoid are actually the key to creating the life you want? In this episode, I talk about why so many of us fear our feelings and how avoiding emotions can keep us stuck. Whether it’s loneliness, stress, shame, or the desire to view pornography, learning to feel your emotions is a skill that can change everything. I explain why emotions are not dangerous or
288. Sexual Shame: We Are Sexual Beings
What if the sexual feelings you’ve been taught to fear are actually a normal part of being human? In this episode, I talk about sexual shame and why so many people, especially those raised in religious or conservative communities, learn to see normal sexual feelings as something wrong or bad. Sexuality is a part of being human, and shame around it creates unnecessary suffering.I share why shame ar
287. What’s Possible with Thomas
What’s possible when you see that change is within reach? In this episode, Thomas shares his story of struggling with pornography on and off for 40 years and what finally helped him break free. Hearing someone who has navigated the same challenges helps build belief that it is possible to make lasting change.He explains how committing fully to the process, being intentional with his choices, and a
286. How to Guarantee Success (Part 5)
Is it possible to guarantee success in overcoming pornography? In this episode, I explain the difference between goals that are impossible to execute and goals that a living person can realistically pursue. Many people struggle because they focus on outcomes that are abstract or unattainable, which makes progress feel impossible. I share why noticing the patterns in your responses and focusin
285. The Cost of Inaction
What’s the real cost of not taking action on the things that matter most to you? In this episode, I explore how putting off change, whether with pornography, health, or personal goals, creates compounding effects over time. Inaction doesn’t just keep you where you are. It often makes challenges worse and limits the life you could be living. I explain why waiting for the “right time” or relyin
284. What if I’m Single, Divorced, or in a Sexless Marriage? Can I Still Befriend My Sexuality? (Part 4)
What’s possible when your sexuality belongs to you first? In this episode, I address a common question for those who are single, divorced, or in a sexless marriage: can you still befriend your sexuality? Many people are taught that sexual energy only belongs in a relationship, which creates confusion, shame, and reliance on others for regulation.I explain why outsourcing your sexual relationship t
283. What's Possible When You Befriend Your Sexuality (Part 3 of 3)
What’s possible when you stop running from your sexual urges? In the third episode of this series on befriending your sexuality, I explore how shame and avoidance create conflict around sexual energy and why learning to work with your sexuality instead of against it is key. When we honor our natural impulses and separate physiology from morality, we open the door to experiencing ourselves more ful
282. The Number One Thing Required to Befriend Your Sexuality (Part 2 of 3)
What if the way you’ve been approaching your sexuality has been keeping you stuck? In this second episode of a three-part series on befriending your sexuality, I explain why most strategies fail and how a shame-based internal operating system filters your experiences, preventing meaningful change. I share why treating sexual urges like something to eliminate or control keeps you trapped, and ho
281. What I Got Wrong About Quitting Porn (Part 1 of 3)
What if the way you thought about quitting porn was holding you back? In this first episode of a three-part series, I explore common misconceptions about quitting pornography and why the strategies most people rely on often create more struggle than progress.I share why trying to push urges away, relying on willpower, or treating pornography like a smoking habit or addiction keeps you stuck. When
280. What’s Possible with Sam
Do you feel like lasting change is impossible after years of struggle with pornography? In this episode, Sam shares his story of decades of challenges, including trying a 12-step program and thinking marriage would fix the problem. He explains how shifting to a new approach helped him regain control and experience a level of freedom he hadn’t thought was possible.Sam walks through the turning poin
279. Overcoming Sexual Shame While Quitting Porn
Do you feel shame about your sexual thoughts or desires while trying to quit pornography? In this episode, I explore why sexual shame often causes more harm than pornography itself and how you can move past it to quit porn in a sex-positive, shame-free way. You’ll learn how to separate natural sexual feelings from moral judgment, recognize that your thoughts do not define your worth, and app
278. Using the Rules of Improv in Quitting Porn with Kat
What can improv teach you about overcoming pornography? In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins shares how the principles of improv can be applied to quitting porn and navigating the challenges that come with it. Using rules from improv, she shows how you can change your responses, build trust with yourself, and create better outcomes in your journey.Kat walks through nine core improv rules and explain
277. How to Handle Slip-Ups Without Shame
What happens after a slip-up can determine whether you stay stuck or finally make real progress. In this episode, I break down why slip-ups do not mean failure and how your response afterward can either keep you trapped in shame or become one of the most powerful tools for lasting change.I walk you through the four essential steps to handling slip-ups differently. You’ll learn how to stop repeatin
276. When It’s Really Difficult: Learning to Handle Discomfort
What do you do when quitting pornography feels really difficult? In this episode, I offer a powerful mindset shift that can completely change how you approach the hardest parts of this process. Instead of seeing discomfort as a sign that something has gone wrong, I invite you to see it as one of the most valuable skills you can develop.You’ll learn how building your ability to handle discomfort ca
275. What’s Possible with Logan
What if the thing you’ve struggled with for years didn’t have to be part of your future? In this episode, I share a powerful conversation with Logan, whose story will challenge what you believe is possible when it comes to quitting pornography. Logan opens up about struggling with pornography for over 20 years, trying everything he could to quit, and feeling stuck in the same cycle over and over
274. Physiology vs Morality: Reframing Your Urges and Shame
Do you feel guilty just for having sexual urges? In this episode, I dive into the important distinction between physiology and morality and how understanding this difference can help you overcome the shame surrounding your urges to view pornography.I explain that your sexual urges are completely natural and a normal part of being human. The problem arises when we label these physiological response
273. Building Self-Trust Even Through Slip-Ups with Hunter
Do you struggle to trust yourself, especially after a slip-up? In this episode, Coach Hunter shares valuable insights on how to build self-trust, even during the moments when things don’t go as planned. Learn how to shift from a perfection-based mindset to one that builds trust through consistency and resilience. Hunter explains that true self-trust isn’t about avoiding mistakes or achieving p
272. The Difference Between Sin and Weakness
Are you thinking about your porn habit in a way that’s actually keeping you stuck? If you’ve been viewing it as something that makes you unworthy or separates you from your faith, this episode offers a perspective that could change everything. In this episode, I revisit a powerful concept that comes up often, especially for those with a religious background. I walk through the difference betwe
271. What’s Possible with Quinn
What’s possible when you change your approach to quitting pornography? Quinn’s story shows that no matter how long you’ve struggled, you can break free. After 50 years of battling his habit, Quinn found a way to completely quit, and it wasn’t through willpower alone.Learn how Quinn turned his life around by understanding the brain’s role in his habit, shedding shame, and embracing new skills. His
270. The Impact of Fact vs. Story in Quitting Porn
What story are you telling yourself about your porn habit? In this episode, I dive into the crucial difference between facts and the stories we tell ourselves and how your story can either keep you stuck or help you move forward. While facts are objective, the stories we create around them are often based on assumptions, fears, and beliefs that may not be true.Understanding the power of your stori
269. The Power of Surrendering to Urges
Have you been trying to quit pornography by fighting it? Many people approach this process like a battle, trying to resist urges, push them away, or overpower them with discipline and willpower. But when you treat urges like an enemy you need to defeat, it actually makes the process harder.Join me this week as I show you how surrendering to urges and the emotions beneath them can completely change
268. 4 Questions to Get Unstuck with Kat
What do you do when you feel completely stuck and don’t know how to move forward? In this episode, Coach Kat Jenkins shares a simple framework to help you break out of that feeling, get unstuck, and start creating movement again, especially when you’re working on overcoming pornography.Kat introduces four powerful questions designed to help you shift out of stuckness and take your next step. Each
267. What’s Possible with Cannon
What happens when you stop trying to hate yourself into change and learn how to work with your mind instead? In this episode, I revisit a conversation with Cannon to talk about his journey from years of struggle with pornography and self-loathing to building a completely different relationship with himself. Cannon shares how the real breakthrough wasn’t just quitting porn, but learning that it was
266. A New Way to Control Your Sexual Urges
Are you constantly trying to control your sexual urges by building stronger fences, adding more rules, or relying on willpower? If so, you might be stuck in the exhausting cycle of resisting, giving in, and starting over. In this episode, I’m revisiting a powerful metaphor that will completely change how you think about your sexuality and what it actually means to be in control of it. Instead
265. How to Handle Urges That Keep Coming Back
Why do urges seem to disappear, only to come right back? If you’ve ever processed an urge and then felt discouraged when it returned, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening. I’m talking about urge flow, the natural pattern of urges coming and going, and why this is not a sign that you’re doing it wrong. It is part of learning how to handle them in a new way. When you sto
264. Breaking the Cycle of Repetitive Thoughts
Are you tired of feeling stuck in the same thought loops that seem to run on repeat, no matter what you do? Many of the thoughts that cause distress or lead you back to old habits aren’t actually problems that need solving. In this episode, I revisit a powerful concept that can completely change how you relate to your mind and help you stop letting repetitive thoughts dictate your behavior.I expla
263. The Beliefs That Keep You Stuck and How to Unlearn Them with Hunter
Are you doing all the right things but still feel stuck in the same patterns? When change doesn’t last, the issue usually isn’t discipline, motivation, or willpower. It’s the beliefs running quietly underneath everything else.In this episode, Coach Hunter Garrett breaks down how deeply held beliefs shape emotions, choices, and habits, often without you realizing it. He walks through five practical
262. The 50-50 Principle and Quitting Porn
Are you frustrated by the idea that life should feel better once you finally quit porn? In this episode, I introduce the 50-50 principle and explain why understanding it can completely change how you approach quitting pornography. If you’ve ever thought something has gone wrong because you’re still struggling, still uncomfortable, or still dealing with hard emotions, this conversation will help yo
261. Understanding Urges and Why They're Not Dangerous
Are you afraid of your urges? Many people struggle with the fear and discomfort they feel when urges to view pornography arise. But what if you could completely change how you relate to these urges? In this episode, I’m revisiting one of the most important topics for anyone looking to overcome pornography: understanding that urges are not a problem. You’ll learn how to separate urges from the
260. What Progress Really Looks Like When Quitting Porn
Are you measuring your progress by counting days without pornography? If so, you may be setting yourself up for frustration and unnecessary shame. In this episode, I take a closer look at the all or nothing mindset that so many people are taught when trying to quit porn, and why starting over every time you slip up works against how real change actually happens. I walk through what learning tr
259. How to Finally Be Free from Porn
What does true freedom from porn look like? In this episode, I’m diving into the core principles shared in a recent live class. We went beyond quick fixes like willpower or filters, which often lead to shame and repression, and explored what really leads to lasting freedom.These insights have helped clients from all different backgrounds create lasting change. By shifting your mindset and approach
258. Following Through with Your New Year's Goals
Are you struggling to stay committed to your New Year's goals? The excitement of a new year can be motivating, but it often fades quickly, leaving us wondering how to keep going. In this episode, I revisit one of my most popular topics: how to follow through with your goals, especially if quitting pornography is on your list for the new year.I address why so many people give up on their resolution
257. One Indicator of Success with Kat
Are you struggling to recognize your progress in overcoming pornography? In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins shares a powerful indicator of success that can transform your journey: celebrating your wins. After nearly four years of coaching clients in the Overcome Pornography for Good program, Kat has identified a pattern that separates those who make lasting progress from those who feel stuck.
256. Tools to Stay Committed During the Holiday Season with Hunter
Are you worried about staying committed during the busy holiday season? The holidays bring travel, family dynamics, stress, and disrupted routines that can trigger emotional discomfort. In this episode, Hunter addresses a concern many have when working to overcome pornography: how to keep making progress when your normal systems and routines are disrupted. Hunter reframes the holidays not a
255. Neutralize Your Porn Habit and the Emotions Around Quitting
Do you believe you need to feel terrible about your porn use in order to change it? In this episode, I revisit why those emotional highs of celebrating a long streak and the lows of feeling devastated after a slip-up make quitting harder. When your experience swings between extremes, it becomes difficult to stay consistent, and the process starts to feel discouraging. I explain how neutral
254. Learning to Trust Your Own Spiritual Authority
When sexuality and religion overlap, it is easy to get stuck looking for the “right” answer from your church or leaders. If you have ever found yourself searching for approval about masturbation, sexual decisions in your relationship, or whether quitting porn fits your faith tradition, this episode will help you understand why that search feels so confusing. The real question is not what your chur
253. Playing a New “What If” Game with Kat
Do you get stuck in the cycle of negative “what-ifs” that hold you back from taking action? Many of us play the “what if” game, imagining worst-case scenarios that paralyze us from moving forward. Whether it’s fear of failure, shame, or anxiety, these negative thoughts can keep us from trying new things, especially when it comes to challenging old habits like pornography use. In this episode, Co
252. How to Stop Tying Your Worthiness to Productivity
So many of us grow up believing our worth is measured by how much we get done, and those messages follow us into adulthood. When you live in a culture that praises achievement, it becomes almost automatic to link productivity to being a good person. The moment you slow down or rest, your brain floods you with thoughts about what you should be doing, which creates anxiousness that often leads to bu
251. Talking About Sex with Your Partner with Jessica
Talking about sex in a relationship can feel intimidating, especially when pornography use adds another layer of complexity. The vulnerability required to share desires, boundaries, and preferences often triggers fear of rejection and judgment. In this episode, coach Jessica explores the challenges many couples face when discussing sex, offering practical strategies to navigate these conversa
250. The Compound Effect: Small Steps That Create Lasting Change
Have you ever felt like you have to quit pornography perfectly or not at all? Many people fall into the trap of believing it’s all or nothing—total success or complete failure. This mindset creates pressure, shame, and burnout, making it even harder to follow through. Real change doesn’t come from perfection; it comes from persistence. The compound effect teaches that meaningful results come
249. Understanding and Healing the Two Sides of Shame with Kat
Shame is one of the biggest barriers to change, but what if understanding where it comes from could help you finally release it? We often see shame as something that lives only inside of us, but it actually has two sides: the external messages we’ve absorbed from the world around us, and the internalized beliefs that shape how we see ourselves. In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins explores how these
248. 4 Practical Steps to Develop Emotional Agility with Hunter
Have you ever felt overwhelmed by your emotions, like anger, anxiety, or sadness? We all experience powerful emotions, but the difference between getting stuck and moving forward often comes down to one skill: emotional agility. In this episode, coach Hunter dives into the concept of emotional agility and why it’s such a crucial tool for overcoming pornography. You’ll discover a simple, four-
247. Changing Your Beliefs and Identity
Have you ever wondered why your thoughts about yourself or pornography feel so automatic and unchangeable? So often we treat beliefs like facts, but many of the things we tell ourselves repeatedly are just thoughts we’ve rehearsed until they feel true. Learning to separate facts from beliefs is the first step in taking control of your mind and your habits.In this episode, I’m revisiting the belief
246. How Being “Mr. Nice Guy” Is Keeping You Stuck with Jessica
Have you noticed that trying to be “Mr. Nice Guy” or constantly people-pleasing can actually keep you stuck? On the surface, it may look like kindness or keeping the peace, but prioritizing others’ approval over your own needs often leads to resentment, disconnection, and the very behaviors you’re trying to overcome.In this episode, Coach Jessica explores how people-pleasing creates a cycle of sel
245. Be the Observer: You Are Not Your Thoughts
Do you find yourself believing every thought your brain throws at you? Our brains are wired to keep us safe, which often means defaulting to negativity and imagining worst-case scenarios. These patterns can create shame, frustration, and old habits that keep us stuck, including patterns around pornography use.In this episode, I explore how you can step back and observe your thoughts instead of aut
244. Healing the Self-Judgmental Voice with Kat
Do you find yourself stuck in a cycle of self-judgment, especially when dealing with pornography struggles? That critical voice in your head can feel like an unrelenting force, weakening you both mentally and physically. The longer this judgment lingers, the more it blocks your energy and affects everything from your stress response to your ability to sleep.In this episode, Coach Kat dives into ho
243. Rebuilding Your Mindset and Confidence with Hunter
Have you ever wondered why all your hard work to overcome pornography still leaves you stuck in the same patterns? Many people are primarily focusing on filters, routines, or counting days. They work hard, follow all the steps, and still find themselves stuck in the same patterns, wondering why their efforts aren’t paying off.In this episode, Coach Hunter explains why all of that misses the point.
242. Setting Boundaries with Loved Ones and Religious Leaders While Overcoming Porn
Setting boundaries can feel challenging, especially when it involves people you care about—whether it’s a spouse, family, friends, or religious leaders. In this episode, we revisit an important discussion about setting healthy boundaries while overcoming pornography.Transparency is crucial in building trust, especially with your spouse, but it’s equally important to protect your emotional and spir
241. Lessons in Life and Porn with Jess, Kat and Mimi
Have you ever wanted to get to know the coaches behind the Overcome Pornography for Good program? In this special Meet the Coaches episode, Jessica Farmer, Kat Jenkins, and Mimi Porter share how their unique journeys shaped the ways they guide clients toward real, lasting change.Listen as the three coaches share insights from their personal experiences and show why different coaching styles matter
240. Climbing Out of the Hole of Porn and Choosing a New Path with Kat
Do you feel like you're stuck in a cycle? The journey of overcoming pornography is often marked by repeating patterns that feel impossible to break. It can feel like falling into the same hole over and over again—lost, helpless, and unsure how to get out.In this episode, Coach Kat shares a powerful metaphor about breaking free from unwanted habits. It illustrates how we move through stages of awar
239. Dating while Overcoming Pornography with Jessica
Dating while working through pornography struggles can feel heavy and complicated. From fear of judgment to uncertainty about disclosure, it’s easy to get stuck wondering if you should even be dating at all. In this episode, Coach Jessica Farmer talks about navigating dating while overcoming pornography use. She shares guidance on managing vulnerability, handling intense emotions, assessing y
238. Living with Duality: Embracing the Good and Bad
Do you ever feel like you're caught between believing you're either a good person or a bad person? This kind of black-and-white thinking can lead to frustration, especially when trying to change unwanted behaviors. The truth is, we all embody both positive and negative qualities—this duality is a part of being human. In this episode, I explore how embracing this dual nature is key to creating
237. The Choose Again Method for Shifting Negative Thoughts
Do you ever find yourself stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts that feel impossible to break? It’s easy to get caught up in self-doubt, frustration, or fear, believing those thoughts as truths. But what if, in that moment, you could choose a different path? In today’s episode, I’m revisiting the Choose Again Method, a simple and powerful technique to help you shift negative thinking and build a m
236. Processing Big Emotions Using Jin Shin Jyutsu with Kat
When your emotions feel like they're spiraling out of control, your body already knows what to do. In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins introduces a powerful hands-on technique called Jin Shin Jyutsu finger holds. This grounding practice assigns each finger to a specific emotion. Through this guided practice, you'll discover how to use your own hands as tools for emotional regulation. Kat walk
235. Recognizing Progress When You Feel Stuck with Hunter
Do you ever feel like you should be further along in overcoming pornography? Despite knowing the tools, listening to the podcasts, and doing the work, something still feels off. It’s a common frustration that often leads to the belief that either you’re not trying hard enough or the tools aren’t working for you. In this episode, Coach Hunter addresses this struggle by revealing a crucial shif
234. Is Watching Porn Considered Cheating?
Is watching porn considered cheating? It’s a question many people wrestle with, and the answer isn’t black and white. In this episode, I explore the emotional complexities surrounding pornography use in committed relationships and how it intersects with infidelity, betrayal, and sexual boundaries. I dive into how personal values, inherited beliefs, and unspoken agreements shape how we view fidelit
233. Grieving the Loss of Porn with Jessica
Have you ever felt sadness or confusion about letting go of something you desperately want out of your life? The grieving process often shows up in unexpected ways when you're trying to overcome pornography. It’s normal to experience complex emotions like grief, even when you know you want to quit. Understanding this emotional landscape can significantly transform your healing journey. In thi
232. A Key Piece Missing from the Self-Development World
If you’ve mastered your morning routine and crushed your gym goals, but still feel stuck when it comes to showing up in your relationships or handling hard emotions, you’re not alone. Discipline without emotional intelligence turns into control, not connection—and this is the key piece that so many self-development approaches miss. You can do everything “right” on paper and still find yourself dis
231. Understanding Your Window of Tolerance with Hunter
Do you ever feel like you're one stress away from losing control? That could mean you're outside your window of tolerance—a state where your emotional balance is compromised.In this episode, Coach Hunter explains a powerful framework for understanding emotional regulation, using the metaphor of a rubber band to illustrate how our nervous system reacts to stress and why we sometimes turn to coping
230. Censorship Isn’t Protection and the Truth About Porn Bans
Is censorship effective for pornography? While banning pornography might seem like a protective measure, it often backfires and creates more harm than good. In this episode, I explore how censorship, even with the best intentions, escalates the problems it aims to solve.Learn why censorship isn’t real protection, how it can increase division and control, and what strategies actually protect kids
229. Intrusive Thoughts
Do intrusive thoughts create distress for you, especially when they involve sexuality? Through my work helping people overcome pornography, I've noticed how these unwanted thoughts often trigger shame, anxiety, and a desperate desire to make them stop. In this episode, I share a powerful exercise about a pink elephant that perfectly illustrates why fighting against intrusive thoughts only mak
228. Perfectionism
Are you a high achiever trying to do everything right? I dive deep into perfectionism today - not as a badge of honor, but as a core fear of not being enough that often masquerades as discipline and drive. As a perfectionist myself, I understand how this mindset can both motivate and harm us in our journey toward healing and growth. This episode explores how perfectionism acts as a form of se
227. Inner Critic Plus Holding Yourself Hostage
Do you find yourself chasing a sense of worth that always feels just out of reach? Many of us hold ourselves hostage with our inner critic, especially when it comes to overcoming pornography. I see this pattern frequently in coaching sessions where clients believe they can't experience happiness or peace until they've "earned it" through extended periods without viewing porn. In this episode,
226. What's Possible with Nathan
What if breaking free from pornography doesn’t require attending every coaching call or relying on willpower alone? In this episode, Nathan shares his journey from years of struggling with pornography to reclaiming control of his life. What makes Nathan's story particularly inspiring is that he achieved this transformation without ever attending a live coaching call. Nathan explains how the key wa
225. Safety over Salary: Redefining Masculine Power
What does it truly mean to be a provider as a man? For many people, masculine worth has been tightly linked to financial provision—the bigger the salary, the more successful the man. This narrow definition has created wounds that affect relationships, communities, and sense of self-worth. It's time we expand our understanding of masculine power. The traditional model of "providing equals mone
224. Finding Daily Wins Using the CTFAR Model with Coach Hunter
What if five minutes a day could completely change your ability to process urges? In this episode, Coach Hunter Garrett shares the daily tool that helped him move from feeling afraid of urges to being able to process them with confidence and ease. This simple practice became a key part of his success in overcoming pornography and staying committed to his goals. If you’re ready to stop getting
223. How Long Do Uncomfortable Emotions Last?
Have you ever felt anxious or antsy when you view less porn? In this episode, coach Jessica addresses a common question many clients face: How long do I have to feel uncomfortable emotions, and how can I process the urges that come with this? Jessica unpacks the science behind emotions and urges. These sensations—whether they show up as fidgeting, bouncing your leg, or tightness in your chest
222. What's Possible with Tyler
Can someone truly overcome a 27-year pornography habit in just a few weeks? In this inspiring episode, I sit down with Tyler, a client who shares his remarkable journey from decades of struggle to genuine freedom. Tyler details the specific mindset shifts and practical tools that made the difference, how the program improved his marriage and parenting, and why going "all in" was the key to hi
221. When You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Shame
Ever feel trapped in a shame spiral that logic just can't break? That overwhelming feeling where no matter how many reasons you list for why you shouldn't feel ashamed, the emotion persists and paralyzes you? This is exactly what I'm addressing in today's episode.I share a training I conducted on treating shame as "offline work" and provide practical, body-based techniques to help you break free f
220. Ask a Coach: How to Process Urges Pressure-Free
Have you ever felt like you're doing all the “right” things to process urges, but it's just not working? Many of my clients express frustration that despite their best efforts to implement the tools they've learned, they still struggle with urges and don’t know why.In this episode, Coach Kat shares a powerful insight that will completely transform your approach to urge processing.Get full show not
