Decoding Narcissism, Manipulation And Toxic Ideas, with Frederik Ribersson
Narcissists manipulate others using toxic ideas. In this podcast, we decode narcissists and how they operate, we expose and deconstruct toxic ideas, and we learn how to negotiate effectively with narcissists. And, last but not least, we learn to break the toxic patterns during and after relationships, disinfect mental wounds and heal, so we can have a happy life afterwards and limit the damage narcissists inflict upon us.
Episodes
134. Decoding HOAXES And How Narcissists Use Them
Smear campaigns are hoaxes. Hoax specialist Mark joins us to explain hoaxes, how they work - and how to recognise them. We discuss the psychology, the levers, how they hack our minds, and how they are used. Use these tools to recognise them, as well as how to react when you are the target of a hoax.Mark runs the insightful website https://americandebunk.com/ when he debunks political hoaxes. In th
133. Sitting With Discomfort Is A Challenge
After a breakup, it is normal to feel some discomfort, and it can be challenging to sit with it. Instead, we might be tempted to numb ourselves, find coping mechanisms. But maybe sitting through it enough - and not too much - is a key to working out deeper themes that need addressing. And sometimes old thoughts surface, memories, that can help us better understanding what happened, and why, and ma
132. Is It Me? When A Group Goes Weird
From one day to the next, a whole group of people goes weird. But no one says anything. Are we just imagining things? Maybe we did something wrong? So how can we decode this? In this case, a listener is experiencing this in a work environment.A few things stand out: how can we tell if we're the problem? Usually, being worried we might be is a rather safe indication we are not.Then, if we can&#
131. Using Emotions To Navigate (Toxic) Relationships
Learn how to use emotions to detect toxic signals in a relationship, symptoms of unhealthy relationships, and noticing when something is off. As well as reducing the risk a relationship becomes toxic. Dr Paul Ekman recently passed away and his work on emotions was ground breaking. We can use emotions to decode things happening around us that our rational brains don't see. But with emotions, we
130. Getting Our Energy (And Lives) Back
Toxic relationships are draining. And managing our energy is crucial in order to get our lives back. I share some thoughts and tips around this, while taking you for a walk - and hoping the noise is not detracting from the content. (If it is, please let me know and I won't record outside again).In short: get out and move! The body needs movement and toxic people feel like they're pulling o
129. How To Trust Again After A Narcissist?
After we trusted too easily, too much the wrong person, what do we do? Shutting down and no longer trusting anyone is safe. But... It leads to a very lonely life, and might be a bit of an overreaction, at least in the long term. So what can we do? And how to do it?A client asked me this question, I gave her a long answer, and thought it might be helpful for some listeners.
128. Picking Up On Toxic Signals In Real Time - Real Story
I noticed a series of strange signals before things get really weird - but I reacted calmly: I was prepared, this time. I'd started speaking with a woman at the hotel gym. I noticed some weird comments. Each, taken individually, didn't mean much, but together should have alerted me.I was going to have dinner and she tagged along. During the dinner, she attempted to switch on Drama Mode and
127. Reputation Destruction (Smear Campaign): Decoding, Debunking and Managing A Toxic Ex Colleague
A friend was upset: he's fallen out with an ex colleague, whom I happen to know. He was worried because of a former "colleague" who was smearing him. I happen to know the guy, and found him weird.In this episode I share part of our conversation. This is relevant for anyone having to deal with a smear campaign.
126. Why Narcissists HATE When People Talk To Each Other Unsupervised
Narcissists HATE people talking. Why? Because they can't control what is said. They don't know what is said. That creates uncertainty and reduces their power.And yes, they will happily talk behind others' backs. Create falsehoods, narratives. But when people speak, they will realise conflicting narratives and might get suspicious.Look for a few things:1. who wants to be the central nod
125. How To Identify Conflicting Goals, or Why Relationships with Narcissists Cannot Work
One of the most helpful tools in systemic therapy is identifying primary and secondary goals. Otherwise we get hypnotised by words.I say I want to run a marathon but I smoke, eat pizza and don't even wear running shoes? Maybe I'm not a hypocrite, but maybe my primary goal is to do nothing whilst claiming I want to do sport, so I can feel better about myself.That's with an individual.Bu
124. Reputation Destruction & Narcissists: How To Debunk & Charlie Kirk's Assassination
One of the first things narcissists do to make people take sides, such as after a break up, is Reputation Destruction. They will not only gossip, but also lie. Fabricate events. Mix truths and lies. And remove context. They play the "first mover advantage". Provided they can place an idea in someone's head, even with flimsy proof, the person becomes hypnotised.And we are ALL vulnerab
123. Legitimate Criticism? How To Find Out (With A Real World Example)
How can we tell if criticism is legitimate? Let's take a comment left on this podcast to see how we can test criticism to take onboard anything worthwhile, and avoid low level thinking / toxicity masquerading as legitimate criticism.In short:- consider "if this is true, what else would have to be true"- are those things true, or not?- what is the person actually saying?- are they att
122. Grieving a "Narcissist" The Right Way
Grief helps us move on. But grieving a "narcissist" presents specific challenges. Get it wrong, and we're stuck for too long. But get it right, and we can recover faster.Elisabeth Kubler-Ross identified 5 stages of grief:DenialAngerBargainingDepressionAcceptanceDavid Kessler suggests a 6th: Meaning.In this episode, I share some thoughts you may find helpful.
121. How Narcissists Use TONE To Control Use
Ever notice how narcissists (and others) use tone to mock someone they want us to disagree with? Sometimes it's baby voice: "And they said "You're unweasonable." Hahaha!".Why? It subtly signals to us that we shouldn't pay attention to what they are about to say. We can safely dismiss whatever the words are, because the person is being unreasonable, AS DEMONSTRATED b
120. Clear Thinking Beats Narcissists: Happy Birthday To A Major Inspiration of This Podcast And What You Can Do
Life during and after toxic relationships can feel like hell. And sometimes we find helpful ideas that help us get our life back together. I try to share those, and a major source of those ideas has been Scott Adams, the Dilbert creator, who also wrote some exceptional books to help people avoid bad ideas and have (as a consequence) better and happier lives. His birthday is June 8 (today) and he i
119. Is Shame How Narcissists Hijack Us? Some Thoughts
Shame makes us look away, and that makes us MUCH more vulnerable to narcissists. But it's possible to recognise when we're feeling shame and STOP our coping mechanisms to REDUCE our vulnerability.I recently looked into shame and recognised some patterns I was not aware of, as well as coping mechanisms, and even dissociation. This explained some things I had experienced over the years. As t
118. Bad Advice on Dealing With Toxic People? 8 Mistakes To Avoid
I saw a post on social media about 8 mistakes to avoid when dealing with toxic people and... I disagree with nearly all of it. In this episode, I run you through the "advice", explain what I disagree with, and why - and provide my alternative suggestions.I hope you find this helpful and it helps you figure out what to do and, more important, what NOT to do.
117. Disarm A Narcissist: "Oh, you're being dogmatic?"
Dogmatic people refuse to change their minds about topics. However, until we realise this, we can assume people are open to new facts or blind spots. But it's exhausting and dishonest. After all, if people are certain they are 100% right about everything all of the time (1 chance in a million), the probability we can change their mind is... 0%.So just say "I'm sorry, I didn't real
116. How A Narcissist Hijacked A Group - And Lessons Learned
I went to an event and it was weird. One person was being hyper negative, hijacked the event, made people uncomfortable - and some "flying monkeys" encouraged it.Regardless of the details, we can learn from dynamics and hopefully help you avoid the same type of uncomfortable situation in the future by helping you be prepared.
115. Narcissists See You As FUNGIBLE
Fungibility is a term used in economics to describe "items that can be mixed without differentiating the source". For example, if you and I pour a bottle of water into a pan, the water is mixed. We can't separate your water from mine.Most of us view attention differently. A partner's attention is worth MORE than a random strangers. But narcissists see things differently. They don
114. Offense In Absentia? Narcissists Pretend To Be Offended On Behalf Of Others
Narcissists love pretending to be offended. It puts them at the centre of attention, they can pretend cry, get sympathy, bully others. But this is not enough for them. This is why they get offended "in absentia", they pretend to be offended "on behalf of people who are not present" - and who often do not actually exist. This is an effective strategy to bully others, but there is one key tell that
113. Complain or Describe? How Narcissists Project And Accuse You of Complaining When You Want to Problem Solve
Narcissists will accuse people of doing EXACTLY what they are doing. If you see a problem and want to make an accurate diagnostic, they will accuse you of complaining. This happened to me, recently.
In this episode, I share how I handled the situation, the logic and techniques I used, so you might be able to use them too, if it is safe for you to use them. And, in all cases, this will make it har
112. Why Do We Obsess Over (and Repeat Date) Narcissists?
After a toxic relationship, it can be common to obsess over what happened - and even date more people who present the same symptoms of personality disorder. Why?
This episode explores some potential reasons -and what to do to avoid this.
111. Narcissists Red Flags, Red Lights or... Red Herrings?
Knowing red flags is helpful in avoiding narcissists BUT if we conflate them with red lights, it can PREVENT us from actually moving forward. It is vital to know the difference between red flags we learn to recognise and actual red lights.
In the episode, we review what red flags are, why they are NOT red flights. And we look at what red herrings are, and why confused thinking makes us more vuln
110. 6 Levels of Lying & The 2 That Narcissists and Cults Use
There are 6 levels of lying, from the least bad to the absolute worst. Once we recognise them, we are less easy to manipulate and be gaslit. The levels are:
1. Being wrong (technically not lying)
2. Hyperbole
3. Spinning
4. Lying
And the two narcissist / cult levels are:
5. Brain washing (selling a world narrative that is false / unverifiable)
6. Gaslighting (telling you that "you are not see
109. Spotting A Narcissist's Lie: Story Time
Laura was a guest in a guesthouse. But she acted as though we were her guests: she bossed people around, and was obnoxious. But one lie she told uncovered the truth, and she turned on me. This is the sad story of Laura, little dog Simba, and some reflexions on how to spot and deal with toxic people and narcissists.
108. How I Deprogramed Someone After A Toxic Relationship
She had had a bad breakup after 20 years with someone, 15 of which he had been obnoxious and presented symptoms of having a personality disorder. And she could not wrap her head around this. But I figured out how to reframe the situation for her to get it. She laughed, snapped out of the hypnosis, and FINALLY turned the page. This is the story.
107. Narcissists' Mesh Network of Lies - and Narrative Collapse
Narcissists rely on lies that are propped up by other lies. Why? It makes it easier for them to manipulate us. It is hard to believe one person can lie so much. But also, by relying on a "mesh network", it means that even if one lie is exposed, the network of lies still resists. And we are more likely to just shrug off anomaly after anomaly.
Until we realise what is happening, the whole
106. 8 Signs We Have Been Brainwashed
Narcissists and cults, whether spiritual or political, brainwash people in order to control them. Fortunately, there are certain tells that we have been brainwashed. And once we are aware of these, it becomes less hard to deprogram ourselves and start to think clearly again. This applies to narcissists in romantic relationships, at work, in NGOs, political movements, and in "spiritual groups&
105. Do NOT Read Between the Lines With Narcissists - Ask This Instead?
Narcissists lie, a lot. And for the lies to work, they rely (pun?) on us "reading between the lines". While this is a good idea with healthy people, it is a terrible idea with liars. So instead, when someone says something weird, you can ask this question: what do you mean?
104. This Drives Narcissists Nuts, Shuts Them Up (And Is Satisfying)
Narcissists count on us to politely fill the blanks. And they like to be obnoxious to trigger us. But what happens when we don't do what they want, and do this instead?
103. Early Warning Signs of A Narcissist (or A Jerk)
I share two stories of meeting people and they did something that was really off, signalling with high probability they might be narcissists. Or at least jerks and really unpleasant to be around. I share both stories and observations.
101. Clumsy or Self Sabotage: Decoding Narcissist’s « I was unlucky » narrative
Everyone makes bad decisions sometimes. So it’s easy to assume that all bad decisions are « good faith bad decisions ». But narcissists game this. And we can figure out when. In this episode, I share how.
102. Why Are Narcissists Mean (and Then Nice)?
Toxic people and narcissists are often mean. And then nice. Or first nice, and then mean. And it seems to make no sense. But there is a really good reason why they act this way. And it probably explains why those relationships are doomed for failure.
100. What Does A Risk / Reward Analysis of Toxic Relationships and Narcissists Show?
Narcissists are a bad deal. So let's see if tools used to analyse deals can help us identify toxic relationships and make more sense of why they are such a... bad deal.
#npd #narcissism #narcissist #toxicrelationship
099. Recognising (And Debunking) Narc Logic
It is increasingly common for people to think like narcissists. And until we're aware of what that looks like, there is a risk we do too. We know narcissists have a simplistic view of the world. Here is how you can spot a "narclogic view", why it is nonsense, how you can debunk it (if you need to) and how you can avoid getting caught up in exhausting narcissist games.
#narcissism #
098. Mistakes About Narcissism
There are some common mistakes people make around narcissism. These mistakes PREVENT people from moving on, getting their lives back on track - they therefore INCREASE the price paid even AFTER the abusive relationship has ended. Until we're aware of them, we're MORE likely to make and repeat them. Hopefully this will help you avoid them.
097. Narcissists & Groups: 6 Stages They Follow to Infiltrate, Take Over and Corrupt
Narcissists love to infiltrate and take over groups. It's less effort than creating a group. There are certain patterns they follow. I observe 6 stages of the takeover. Hopefully this will make you less vulnerable.
096. "Is It Even Knoweable?" - Debunking Narcissists Ridiculous Claims
Narcissists will claim to know a lot. They will appear certain. And yet, many of the things they claim to know are... unknowable. Or it is not possible for them to be as certain as they are. In this episode, I share some thoughts to avoid falling for the "certainty = credibility" trap.
095. Debunking Terrible Suggestions On Dealing With Narcissists
I just came across an article "what words can destroy a narcissist" on some website. I think it was generated by AI. And it was full of really toxic ideas and thought structures. I recorded my debunking of these ideas that WILL backfire on anyone who tries them.
I really dislike when people take advantage of others. And it's important to recognise bad and unhelpful ideas.
094. 6 Manipulation Tricks Cults and Narcissists Use: How To Recognise Them and Ungaslight Ourselves
Cults and Narcissists use nearly identical manipulation tricks that are very effective - until we recognise them and debunk them. In this episode I share 6 of these tricks they play and make some suggestions to make yourself less vulnerable.
093. 11 Mistakes Around Narcissism Most People Make
Here is a sneak preview of some ideas I explore in the book I am writing on narcissism. I finally found an angle I think is relevant and would love to hear what you think. I list the 11 mistakes below.
And if you'd like to accelerate your healing process, why not see if the Healing After Narcissists course might be helpful? It comes with a money back guarantee: https://healingafternarcissists.
092. 10 Signs of Narc Logic / Mindvirus - And Why They're BS
Narcissists use convoluted / stupid thinking to manipulate others and defend low quality ideas. Once we recognise HOW narcissists think, it becomes easier to avoid being manipulated and to avoid embracing low quality ideas. In this episode I share 11 of these ideas and debunk the.
091. Therapy & Narcissism: Mistakes To Avoid & My Experience
Is therapy helpful after being with a narcissist? Is all therapy equal? What are some things to look out for? What was my experience working with a therapist through a breakup WITHOUT being aware of narcissism? I share some thoughts on this topic.
In short, I recommend working with licensed therapists who have experience dealing with personality disorders, otherwise you run the risk of the "
090. "Out of Line"? Or... Healthy Boundaries?
When a friend's new partner starts employing Isolation Tactics, or Loyalty Challenge, when they are trying to create conflict between the friend and their Support Group, what is really going on? And if you put down boundaries, are you being unreasonable or… Doing the right thing? Tune in to find out!
089. How Narcissists Gaslight Us With Rupars (And What Is A Rupar?)
Narcissists use Rupars to gaslight us. The technique is obnoxious, and effective, and can make us hallucinate they are right, and we are wrong.
So what is a Rupar, how does it work, and how can we avoid getting rupared by #narcissists?
088. The 2 Reasons Why Narcissists Don't Admit They're Wrong
Why don't narcissists admit when they get something wrong? There are two reasons. Until we understand them, we are likely to try to get them to see things from our point of view. That is exhausting and frustrating.
But once we understand why we can't work through things with them, it becomes easier to stop wasting our time and energy.
087. "You Must Be Exaggerating!" When people don't believe you - and what to say
When you first realise that someone matches the profile of a narcissist, and you tell your friends, many people will not believe you. There are some common sentences they will use to express. What basically is cognitive dissonance. In this episode, I run through 10 sentences and I share some perspectives and how to approach them.
086. How Narcissists and Cults Wear People Down
Narcissists and cults use similar manipulation tactics to wear people down. In this livestream from YouTube, I share some thoughts.
085. Is This The First Symptom Of A Toxic Dynamic?
What is the first sign of a toxic dynamic? We often look for behaviours and patterns, but maybe the first sign is a feeling we have, a sinking feeling, not feeling good enough. And maybe the first symptom of that is when we stop doing things that we love and that are good for us.
The nice "focus boosting" drink called Magic Mind I mentioned, with many healthy ingredients, has a special
084. Why Narcissists Wear Us Down (And What To Do About It)
Narcissists wear us down. It's the same tactics cults use. And their programming will stay with us for years, until we undo it. So the abuse continues. Why do they do they? And what can we do?
The episode is kindly sponsored by Magic Mind, a drink that blends some well recognised mental stimulants to help increase clarity and focus, without overdoing caffeine. This is relevant because the inc
083. Why Relationships With Narcissists Are Designed to Fail (and a secret tell)
Relationships with narcissists can't work out. And the reason is obvious, once we see it. A client was asking if things failed because of what she did, or didn't do, or say, or wear, or some other random detail.
No, obviously not. But she was looked at the wrong level.
In this episode, I share a simple model and question that help see the big picture and give us much needed perspective.
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082. Getting Free From Narcissists: Start Here: Tips for 2024
Though we don't control 100% of our lives, we control more than 0.0% of them. Getting away (and staying away) from narcissists is easier when we make some changes that seem small, but add up. Even in the the worst situations, there are some things we can do. In this episode I share 10 of these tips.
The episode is kindly sponsored by Magic Mind, a drink that blends some well recognised mental
081. Married To A Narcissist, With Kids: What happened When She Left? (Dr Heidi Brocke Interview)
Dr Heidi Brocke realised she was married to a narcissist. They had children. She took the incredibly difficult decision to leave, and leave her children with their father. Why? And what happened? (Spoiler: things turned out well).
Now she helps people identify and escape toxic relationships. In this conversation, we discuss our observations around dynamics, share helpful ideas, and more. I hope y
080. Manage Your Expectations Over Christmas With Narcissists
How can a simple 0 to 10 scale help us have a better Christmas, even with narcissists? How can it help us manage our expectations, get less wound up, and maybe even make things better? Tune in to find out. And a Very Merry Christmas to you!
079. Limiting A Narcissist's Damage: Christmas Tips
Christmas is supposed to be a wonderful time with our loved ones. But all it takes is one narcissist to spoil this time. Here are a few tips to remember to decrease the likelihood they wind you up and ruin your Christmas.
And Merry Christmas, and thank you for following this podcast!
078. Why Are Narcissists So Annoying?
Narcissists are really annoying. Often. But why? Some common beliefs make them hard to understand, but once we see clearly, it makes more sense. I had a few conversations recently trying to decode their logic and motivations. This episode might help you make more sense of their otherwise bizarre behaviour.
077. Getting A Narcissist to Leave You?
Breaking up with a narcissist can be a nightmare, if you decide to: emotional manipulation, guilt tripping, hoovering and more are common as means to torture you into taking them back, so they can extract more energy from you. But is there a way to get them to leave you so that they... leave you alone? Maybe. Tune in to find out.
076. The First Narcissist Red Flag Is A Test
With narcissists, there always is a first moment we sense something is wrong. A strange look. A fight coming out of nowhere. A suggestion they think we are a bad person. Them stabbing us in the back (or the face).
What can we learn from this? How can we use this to reduce the risk of being taken advantage of in the future? I share some thoughts and stories.
075. Why Don't Narcissists Change?
We often wonder why narcissists don't change. It seems illogical, yet it is what we observe. But... why would they change?
Here are some thoughts on why they don't - and why we don't want to change either.
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074. Exposing Narcissists' Games
Narcissists play toxic games. Many of these are common and can be recognised. In this episode, I share some tips to recognise games and we analyse a few of the games narcissists commonly play, as well as a few suggestions to avoid getting up in autopilot.
You can read more about these games here: https://ericberne.com/games-people-play/im-only-trying-to-help-you/
073. Recogise A Narcissist's Double Standards When Arguing
Narcissists use double standards to create conflict. How? They escalate debates using semi-bad faith methods, being a bit provocative - but when we match them, they accuse us of doing what they did. What can we do? Tune in to find out!
072. Choose Your Enemies Wisely (And Why Narcissists Don't Want You To)
Narcissists want us to turn against the people who actually have our backs. Why? It isolates us, makes us easier to manipulate - and makes it easier for THEM to do the manipulation.
071. Calling Out A Narcissist's BS
When talking with narcissists and toxic people, we can get caught in bad faith arguments. How can we recognise this and avoid getting stuck in narc logic and, instead, highlight how their logic is illogical, unhealthy and dishonest?
In this podcast exclusive episode, I share a few tips. Remember to tune in on YouTube at www.youtube.com/c/fribersson for more episodes.
070. The "Heads or Tails" Parable + Explanation
Narcissists trick us into interacting with them. How? This short parable illustrates some of their tricks - and the second part of this episode deconstructs the main ideas. So you hopefully are less likely to get scammed again in the future!
069. Why Warning People About Narcissists Rarely Works
If you have ever tried to warn people that someone might be a narcissist or is toxic, you probably noticed it almost never works. Why is that? In this podcast exclusive episode, I share some hypothesis, as well as some suggestions that have worked more often.
068. Toxic People Know How to Keep Us Off Balance: Psychometrics and Narcissism (Dr Stewart Desson)
Psychometrics can be key in understanding ourselves in general. However, they become particularly illuminating when we seek to understand toxic dynamics with narcissists.
I was delighted to interview Dr Stewart Desson, CEO and Founder of Lumina Learning, the psychometrics tool I use with my clients.
A few features I particularly like with Lumina are:
- a breakdown into 8 aspects of personality
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020. Avoiding Stupid Arguments - the Picnic Metaphor
Narcissists conflate us describing things as they are, with saying how we want things to be. Using this simple picnic metaphor can help us avoid this trap.
067. A Masterclass In Abuse At A Reastaurant
Last night I witnessed a woman abusing her boyfriend over dinner. She operated in 6 stages to break him down. I share those six stages and some ways to reduce the risk of being hurt in such situations.
066. Discarded or Shrugged off? When a narcissist breaks up with us.
When a narcissist breaks up with us, that is commonly referred to as a "discard". However, today I came across a tweet from psychotherapist Jonathan Shedler that mentioned being "shrugged off". There is an emotional quality to this expression which I think is highly relevant to situations with narcissists.
065. How "Setting Boundaries" Led To Him Leaving (Kylie Borg Interview)
Kylie Borg was in a toxic relationship and, as often is the case, she did not realise it. Little by little, things got worse, until one day she set her boundaries - and stood by them. So what did her ex do?
When confronted with boundaries, toxic people usually insist, but when they can't break them down, they often end up leaving.
Kylie shares her story, how she realised something was amiss,
064. Divorce Lawyer: Don’t Make These Mistakes In Court Against A Narcissist (Henry Crisp Interview)
Why would a divorce lawyer need to learn about narcissism? Why is "trying to prove to the court that your ex is a narcissist" a losing strategy? What could you do instead? Why is "seeking justice from the court" likely to backfire?
Divorce lawyer Henry Crisp and Coach Frederik Ribersson discuss this and far more, providing tips, reframes, suggestions which will help anyone dea
063. Getting Better Outcomes By NOT Hoping To Get Justice Or Closure From Others
It's understandable to want justice or closure. And it works best when it comes from within.
016. Negotiating With A Narcissist Using FBI Hostage Negotiation Tactics
Narcissists are about as reasonable as hostage takers. Though perhaps less so. However, we can learn some techniques from FBI hostage negotiators that help us get better outcomes when dealing with narcissists.
062. The 4 Fear Narcissists Exploit In Others (DISC Model)
We all have fears, and some fear are actually quite common. Once we realise this, we see how narcissists will exploit different fears in different people. And, doing so, it is common for narcissists to be able to control people, with minimum effort.
Once we realise these fears, we can actually protect ourselves more easily for malignant manipulative "people" who want to use others for t
061. How to UNGASLIGHT Yourself After A Narcissist
Narcissists confuse us by lying to us and gaslighting us. It can be awfully hard to figure out what is true, and what is false. However, there are some simple sentences that can help us ungaslight ourselves a bit after dealing with narcissists.
In this video, I share five examples of sentences which are all true, which all raise valid questions, and which can help ungaslight ourselves.
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010. Aiming upwards in life vs narcissists
We can choose to aim upwards - narcissists will aim downwards, and try to drag everyone down with them.
060. Taking Apart A Narcissist's Mindvirus and BS
Narcissists hide their manipulation behind word salad that sounds like logic, but that does not resist the test of logic. In this episode, I give some examples of how to take apart faulty logic, and show why this logic is... illogical at best, and dishonest at worst.
To watch the full video, with sketches and all, you can tune in to YouTube here: https://youtube.com/live/fGY4iHqRmhc
059. A Narcissist on a Plane
I recently witnessed a narcissist verbally assault cabin crew on a plane. Luckily I was there to help them realise this woman was not just a bit weird, but was positively crazy and toxic!
058. Tips to get your life back on track.
Getting over narcissists and getting our life back on track can be really tough. Of course, we want to understand better what happened. AND at the same time, there are some simple (but not easy) things we can do to make things better. In this episode I share some ideas.
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