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13 Super Specific Signs That Your Childhood Was Extremely Damaging Nov 1, 2024 00:11:46 Join my free training ‘Build the real self you were never allowed to have’- https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=B161 In this video, I share 13 super-specific signs that reveal how damaging your childhood may have been. Recognizing these signs will help you uncover the lasting effects of y

Narcissistic Parents: Adaptive Behaviors You Used as a Child to Survive Them Oct 31, 2024 00:13:14 Join my free training ‘Build the real self you were never allowed to have’- https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=B160 In this video, I explore the adaptive behaviors you developed as a child to survive narcissistic parents and a difficult childhood. Understanding these behaviors will help

Narcissistic Parents: Unacceptable Abuse They Trained You to Tolerate Oct 30, 2024 00:08:35 Join my free training ‘Build the real self you were never allowed to have’- https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=B27 In this video, I discuss the unacceptable abuse narcissistic parents trained you to tolerate. Understanding this will help you recognize the damaging behaviors you've been c

Narcissistic Parents: Unacceptable Abuse They Trained You to Tolerate Oct 26, 2024 00:14:13 Join my free training ‘Build the real self you were never allowed to have’- https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=B27 In this video, I discuss the unacceptable abuse narcissistic parents trained you to tolerate. Understanding this will help you recognize the damaging behaviors you've been c

Narcissistic Parents Behaviors that Cause Deep-Rooted LONELINESS Oct 9, 2023 00:15:24 Discover how narcissistic parents' behaviors lead to deep and lasting loneliness in you. This video breaks down key traits and their impact. 👇🏼Join 'The Scapegoat Recovery Workshop' on December 2nd👇🏼https://join.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/scapegoat-recovery-workshop/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=scapegoat+workshop&utm_content=a62 Other ways I ca

Narcissistic Parent Tactics That Cause Childhood Trauma and CPTSD Oct 5, 2023 00:25:31 Narcissistic parents often use tactics that lead to CPTSD, childhood trauma and can have long-lasting effects on you as an adult. This is how I can help you 👇🏼 🔥Access my FREE Training - "Build The REAL SELF You Were Never Allowed To Have!" https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=

5 Keys for Getting the Narcissist Out of You Jul 25, 2022 00:24:40 Are you having trouble getting the narcissist out of you?   Jerry Wise is a life and relationship coach and been helping people for over 40 years using a family systems approach to recovery and healing.    In this video he shares 5 keys for helping you get the narcissist out of you.  He talks about using a paradoxical acceptance tool, unlocking the interlocking relationshi

"Resists the Forces to Fit in with the Group" 6 of 7 Dec 8, 2020 00:12:50 -What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy mature inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.     KEY POINT: "Resists the forces to fit in with the group ethos when it contradicts their values"  Number 6 of the 7 part series  Our aim is to resist group think, group feel, the fa

"Doesn't Expect to be Rescued by Others and Refrains from Taking Over for Others." 5/7 and 7/7 Dec 8, 2020 00:10:36 -What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?    Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.    KEY POINT: "Doesn't Expect to be Rescued by Others and Refrains from Taking Over for Others."  Number 5 of 7 part series  Jerry Wise Life and Relationship Coach explains what it means to

"Stays in Contact with Those Who are Upset" 4 of 7 Jun 4, 2020 00:12:01 -What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.     KEY POINT: "Stays in Contact with Those Who are Upset"  Number 4 of the 7 Part Series  Staying in contact means we do not retreat nor do we attack or become reactive in relationships i

"Improves themselves without blaming others" - No. 3 / 7 Jun 4, 2020 00:12:38 -What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: "Improves themselves without blaming others". This is Number 3 in the Seven Part Series Focusing on ourselves and how we function in the troubled relationships.  Blaming keeps the focus

Staying on Task Even When Experiencing Discomfort No. 2/7 Jun 1, 2020 00:18:28 -What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: "Staying on Task Even When Experiencing Discomfort" Number 2 of the Seven Part Series Identifying and resolving systems feelings can get our true feelings in line with our values.  &nbsp

Getting Feelings in Line with Our Values No. 1 of 7 Jun 1, 2020 00:15:45 -What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: Identifying and resolving systems feelings can get our true feelings in line with our values.   Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a

Over-seriousness Kills Self Differentiation May 25, 2020 00:26:56 Self differentiation expert Jerry Wise explains how over-seriousness is a way to maintain enmeshment and emotional fusion.  To break free we need more playfulness, more flexibility in our emotional responses, and less over-seriousness.   When others make things heavier, we must make things lighter.  The world will thank us for this.  (The exception when there is a grief or

The Problem is Not the Problem May 25, 2020 00:14:25 Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC is an international relationship coach and self-differentiation specialist and teaches family systems approach to healing and recovery.  In this video Jerry presents a family systems perspective of relationship problems.  Problems are symptoms of deeper problems.  Often we use the same thinking that got us into the problem.  Jerry Wise offers the viewer

The Power of Intentional Disappointment and Staying-Self Differentiated May 21, 2020 00:18:46 Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 37 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral  counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer. Contact Jerry Wise at 317-919-6264 | jerrywise5@gmail.com | jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders, therapists.

Letting Everybody Around You Grow Up May 19, 2020 00:24:18 Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a self expert for 40 years. He offers 12 steps to allowing other people to grow up. Over-functioning is a serious problem along with Codependency resulting in supporting the immaturity of others. Jerry Wise stresses the importance of allowing others to grow up we have to get out of their way. This builds self-differentiation as well as maturely placing the resp

Surviving Your Family's Emotional Cancer--Enmeshment May 14, 2020 00:23:24 Jerry Wise, Relationship Expert, Life Coach - In dysfunctional families ENMESHMENT or over-closeness is a overabundance of a good thing. Just like cancer it is an overgrowth of togetherness and closeness. This enmeshment process is very damaging, emotionally disabling, painful, and pervasive in the lives of those who suffer in enmeshed families. Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC explains the problems fac

True Feelings vs Systems Feelings May 13, 2020 00:31:30 Watch this video and you will understand the emotional system and it works in a much better way!  Systems feelings control so many people's lives.  These are not the true us or the true state of our feelings.  True feelings are pushed out or overwhelmed by these "systems feelings" which arise from our past and our current functioning in relationships.  Jerry Wise is a 40 year v

Declaring Self: A Key to Self Differentiation May 11, 2020 00:25:00 So you think you are ready to stand up for yourself. This video helps you prepare for those self defining events with your family of origin, spouses and friends by Jerry Wise, Relationship Expert, Life Coach. Being assertive and standing up for yourself is a science. Jerry Wise explains the dynamics of the family systems concept of "declaring self" which is self assertiveness from a systems perspe

The Basics of Self-Differentiation May 11, 2020 00:13:36 Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life and relationship coach. He as been helping people for 40+ years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral  counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer.  Contact him at jerrywise5@gmail.com | 317-919-6264 | www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com   Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, busin

5 Stages of ACOA Recovery From Acceptance to Self Differentiation May 4, 2020 00:27:06 Jerry Wise has been an expert in helping ACOA/ACA's for 40 years.  Learn the 5 stages of recovery for ACOA's in this video.  For more personal help contact Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC at  jerrywise5@gmail.com / 317-919-6264 / jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com Jerry Wise works with clients all over the world.

Secrets to Loving and ACOA May 4, 2020 00:10:34 Loving an ACoA can be a challenge.  Relationships can be a real adventure.  This videos offers help, support and insight to those who are in a relationship with an ACA.    Self Differentiation Expert Jerry Wise uses his 40+ years of experience working with ACOA's to help couples and families achieve a greater sense of happiness and health in their lives.  Contact me a

ACOA's Struggle for Intimacy May 4, 2020 00:10:35 Self Differentiation Expert Jerry Wise helps ACA's deal with the struggle for intimacy.  Jerry has been helping people for 40 years with ACOA, Codependency, and adult children of narcissists issues.  ACOA's ask many questions about achieving intimacy and healthy relationships.  This videos will help ACOA's and spouses of those who love them.   Contact Jerry Wise, MA, MS, C

ACOA's and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder May 4, 2020 00:21:41 Growing up in an alcoholic (or narcissistic) home or drug addicted home created traumas for the child growing up in this addicted home resulting in post traumatic disorder symptoms. This chronic recurring trauma experienced as a child is carried into adulthood and into our relationships. Healing and recovery is essential for the ACOA. Jerry Wise, MA, MS has been working with ACOA's for 37 years. O

5 Secrets to a Great ACOA Recovery May 4, 2020 00:19:23 What does ACOA/ACA recovery entail?   Self Differentiation Expert Jerry Wise shares his 39+ years of experience working with ACOA individuals and couples.  His 5th key is often the most overlooked and the one least engaged in.  You can set up an appointment with Jerry Wise at  jerrywise5@gmail.com / 317-919-6264 /  www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com    He

ACOA Self Care-Slowing Down the Process May 4, 2020 00:19:59 Jerry Wise has been a relationship expert for 40 years.  He is an expert in his work with Adult Children of Alcoholics.  He defines health for ACOA's as working and achieving self differentiation.  To work with Jerry contact him at  jerrywise5@gmail.com / 317-919-6264 (USA) /  www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com  If your life doesn't work and you are an adult child o

Adult Children of Alcoholics Get Ahead of Themselves May 4, 2020 00:12:15 Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 37 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral  counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer.  Contact him at  jerrywise5@gmail.com / 317-919-6264 / www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com   Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders, therapists.

Adult Children of Alcoholics Marriages Surviving and Thriving May 4, 2020 00:24:55 Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for over 40 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral  counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer.  Contact Jerry Wise at  jerrywise5@gmail.com / 317-919-6264 / www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com  Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders,

ACOA Family Rules: Don't Talk, Don't Think, Don't Feel May 4, 2020 00:09:36 Jerry Wise, Relationship Expert, Life Coach is an expert in addictions, codependency, pastoral counseling, and marital and family therapy he explains family life growing up in an alcoholic home and how it affects our adult life. ACOA's learn three rules growing up Don't Talk, Don't Think, Don't Feel. Jerry Wise shares how these rules cause problems for ACOA's and how they can recover from these to

The ACOA Wound--the Empty Hole May 4, 2020 00:15:46 As an ACOA have you ever felt a hole inside your stomach or inside your heart.  This hole creates emptiness and pain for those who grew up in alcoholic/addicted families.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS explains this "hole" and offers hope and recovery for those who suffer with it.  Thanks for listening.  Contact Jerry Wise for professional help at  317-919-6264 jwlearning@hotmail.com

ACOA: Why Do I Keep Living the Past Over and Over? May 4, 2020 00:17:02 Do you find yourself re-living your life problems over and over again? Self Differentiation Expert Jerry Wise has been a relationship and family expert for 40 years he works with ACOA's and adult children of dysfunctional families and Adult Children of Narcissist Parents. Jerry Wise offers the reasons why ACA's ACOA's find themselves stuck and reliving their past over and over. He also offers the

Adult Children of Alcoholics Learning to Stay With Themselves May 4, 2020 00:14:29 Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for over 40 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral  counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer.   Contact him at: jerrywise5@gmail.com 317-919-6264  https://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/ Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders,

Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents Apr 30, 2020 00:25:16 For adult children of narcissistic parents, life can present many difficulties and challenges as a result of narcissistic abuse.   Do you feel you can never measure up in your marriage, job, or other facets of your life? Do you struggle with fear, shame, guilt and other emotions that have you feeling hopelessly stuck? Jerry Wise is a relationship systems expert, and has helped people all

Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents: A Controlled Separation Apr 30, 2020 00:12:03 In this podcast, Jerry explains the benefits of a controlled separation from narcissistic parents or family members for the adult child. See how you can remain emotionally connected without having the fog of your current relationship getting in the way. And if you'd like more information or to contact Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC for an appointment, you can call him at  (317)919-6264 , or email hi

Dysfunctional Families 'Eat Their Own' Apr 30, 2020 00:15:20 Are you being cannibalized by your family of origin? If so, how can you heal and develop a more mature and healthy way of interacting with your family members? It is possible, and in this video, Jerry explains how.  If you would like more information, or to schedule an appointment with Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, you can contact him at  (317) 919-6264 JerryWise5@gmail.com jerrywiserelations

Adult Children Surviving a Toxic Family of Origin Apr 30, 2020 00:14:42 Did you come from a toxic family of origin? Was narcissism, alcoholism, physical or emotional abuse, or other forms of dysfunction ever-present in your home? You have survived that, and in this video, Jerry discusses how you can heal without becoming disconnected from loved ones.  If you'd like more information, or to schedule a session with Jerry, you can reach him at  (317) 919-6264 Je

Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents: Taking Back Your Power Apr 30, 2020 00:15:10 Adult children of narcissistic parents can be emotionally enmeshed with the narcissist in their life, to the point that they feel they have no power to break free and become self-differentiated. In this video, Jerry explains how ACON's can take back their power and achieve freedom from their narcissistic family member.  If you would like more information, or to make an appointment with Jerry,

Adult Children of Narcissists: Stop the Emotional Self-Harm Apr 30, 2020 00:15:55 Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 37 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral  counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer.  Contact him at  jerrywise5@gmail.com 317-919-6264 www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com   Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders, therapists.

Narcissism: Stop the Flying Monkeys Apr 30, 2020 00:16:42 Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 37 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral  counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer.  Contact him at  jerrywise5@gmail.com   317-919-6264  www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com    Twitter at @JerryWiseRS.    Jerry Wise works with c

Adult Children of Narcissists: The Pain of Growing Up Apr 30, 2020 00:24:23 Jerry Wise is a self-expert and marriage and family expert.  This video is a powerful experience of one of his clients growing up.  She grew up with an abusive narcissistic mother and ineffective father.  She was traumatized, dehumanized, objectified, and shamed.  This was the set up for her adulthood problems.  She is now in recovery and doing well overcoming the abuse an

How to Lose a Narcissist in 10 Days Apr 30, 2020 00:19:59 Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 37 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral  counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer.  Contact him at  jerrywise5@gmail.com  317-919-6264   or at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com   Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leade

Six Painful Core Issues for Adult Children of Narcissists Apr 30, 2020 00:20:53 Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC is a relationship expert and works with clients all over the world to find an authentic self in spite of past abuse, trauma, and dysfunctional or toxic families.  This video explains six important issues for ACON's to address, resolve and recover from.  Contact Jerry Wise for one-on-one help at  jerrywise5@gmail.com  317-919-6264 (USA) jerrywiserelations

Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents: Taking Back Your Power Apr 30, 2020 00:15:10 Adult children of narcissistic parents can be emotionally enmeshed with the narcissist in their life, to the point that they feel they have no power to break free and become self-differentiated. In this video, Jerry explains how ACON's can take back their power and achieve freedom from their narcissistic family member.  If you would like more information, or to make an appointment with Jerry,

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