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142: Beyond the Target: What Is Your Nervous System Organized Around? [Beneath the Protocol Series] Sep 16, 2026 1125 In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans explores what happens when we look beyond the traditional EMDR target and begin thinking about nervous system reorganization. In brain-based therapy, we often focus on identifying the negative cognition, processing the traumatic memory, and installing an adaptive positive cognition. But what happens after restoration? What hap

141: Did I choose the wrong EMDR target? [Beneath the Protocol Series] Sep 9, 2026 696 One of the biggest questions therapists ask after EMDR basic training is: "Did I choose the wrong target?" In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans challenges one of the most deeply held assumptions in EMDR—that successful processing depends on finding the "correct" memory. Instead, she introduces a systems-based framework that shifts the focus from correctness to ac

140: Can You Do EMDR on Yourself? [Beneath the Protocol Series] Sep 2, 2026 868 Can you do EMDR on yourself? It's one of the most common questions therapists and clients ask—but the answer isn't simply yes or no. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans explores a deeper question: What kind of healing actually requires another person? Instead of focusing only on EMDR techniques, this conversation explores the role of access, protective systems,

139: The EMDR Processing Myth [Beneath The Protocol] Aug 26, 2026 807 Processing Doesn't Only Happen in Phase 4 Many EMDR therapists were taught that processing begins in Phase 4. But what if that assumption is limiting your clinical effectiveness? In this episode of Beneath the Protocol, Kambria Evans challenges one of the most common misunderstandings in EMDR and brain-based therapy: processing is much bigger than Phase 4. Whether you're an EMDR therapist

138: Trauma Isn't a Box [Beneath the Protocol Series] Aug 19, 2026 827 For decades, trauma therapy has centered around one core assumption: find the trauma, process the trauma, and healing follows. But what if that's only part of the story? In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans challenges one of the biggest assumptions in modern trauma treatment and explores how brain-based therapy is evolving beyond trauma-focused interventions. Dra

137: The Content Trap [Beneath The Protocol Series] Aug 12, 2026 904 Does healing happen because clients understand their story… Or because their nervous system reorganizes? In this episode of the Beneath the Protocol series, Kambria Evans explores one of the most common blind spots in brain-based therapy—what she calls The Content Trap. Many therapists are trained to organize treatment around narrative: the trauma history, the timeline, the explanation, a

136: EMDR and Positive Processing [Beneath The Protocol Series] Aug 5, 2026 703 Why does therapy always have to feel painful for healing to happen? Many clinicians have been trained to associate therapeutic progress with distress, emotional intensity, and difficult memories. But what if some of the most important nervous system reorganization happens during moments of safety, connection, curiosity, and relief? In this episode of the Beneath the Protocol series, Kambr

135: Brain-Based Therapy: Stop Saying This, Start Saying This [Beneath the Protocol Series] Jul 29, 2026 1083 Many therapy models helped us understand that symptoms make sense, pain deserves attention, and trauma matters. But what happens when therapy becomes organized only around disturbance? In this episode of the Zero Disturbance podcast and the Beneath The Protocol series, Kambria Evans explores one of the most overlooked aspects of trauma treatment: language. The words therapists use—and the

134: Beyond EMDR Targets: The Portal Shift in Trauma Therapy [Beneath The Protocol Series] Jul 22, 2026 788 Most trauma therapies teach clinicians to start with a target. A memory.A scene.A belief.A moment that can be identified and processed. But what happens when the nervous system doesn't present distress that way? In this episode of Beneath the Protocol series on the Zero Disturbance podcast, Kambria Evans explores one of the most overlooked questions in trauma therapy: What if the system d

133: EMDR Targeting Explained: Memory vs. Systems Approach [Beneath the Protocol Series] Jul 15, 2026 1050 In this episode of the Beneath the Protocol series, Kambria Evans explores one of the most common points of confusion for EMDR therapists: target selection. While EMDR training teaches clinicians to identify target memories across the past, present, and future, real clinical work often looks very different. Clients don't always present with clear memories. Sometimes they bring body sensat

132: When EMDR Targets Stop Making Sense [Beneath The Protocol Series] Jul 8, 2026 1181 One of the biggest frustrations EMDR clinicians face is the feeling that sessions aren't unfolding the way they were taught in basic training. You identify a target. You start processing. And then everything shows up at once. A memory from childhood.An emotion in the present.A fear about next week.A moment of relief. So what do you do? In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kamb

131: Beyond EMDR: The System Beneath It [Beneath The Protocol Series] Jul 1, 2026 1221 Are therapy protocols actually neutral? In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans explores the hidden value systems behind EMDR, Brainspotting, ART, and other trauma modalities—and why understanding those values is essential for effective, brain-based therapy. While EMDR revolutionized trauma treatment, it was developed in a different scientific era—before modern neur

130: EMDR Feels Harder Than It Should—Here’s Why [Beneath The Protocol Series] Jun 24, 2026 933 If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly adjusting, rescuing, or managing your EMDR sessions… this episode will change how you see everything. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we break down why EMDR gets “stuck”—and why the modifications you’re using might actually be signals from the system, not problems to fix. This is a must-listen for clinicians working with: Comple

129: What EMDR Training Didn’t Teach You [Beneath the Protocol Series] Jun 17, 2026 1271 Why does EMDR feel so confusing after basic training—even when you’re “doing it right”? In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans breaks down the 10 most common frustrations EMDR clinicians experience and the missing piece that changes everything: understanding the system, not just the protocol. This is a must-listen for clinicians working in brain-based therapy, trau

128: The Truth About Dissociation in EMDR [Beneath the Protocol Series] Jun 10, 2026 1408 Why does EMDR sometimes feel like it stops working? In this episode of the Zero Disturbance podcast, Kambria Evans breaks down one of the most misunderstood concepts in EMDR and trauma therapy: dissociation. If you’ve ever experienced: Clients shutting down mid-session Flat affect or “nothing’s coming up” Looping without resolution EMDR suddenly “not working” This episode will help you

127: The EMDR Protocols You Actually Need [Beneath The Protocol Series] Jun 3, 2026 1172 What happens when standard EMDR protocol isn’t enough? In this episode, Kambria Evans breaks down the Zero Disturbance Protocol Map for EMDR and explains why basic EMDR training often falls short when working with: Complex trauma Dissociation Addiction Chronic pain Nervous system dysregulation If you’ve ever felt frustrated as a clinician—or overwhelmed as a client during EMDR—this conv

126: When EMDR Doesn’t Work (And What Clinicians Are Missing) [Beneath The Protocol Series] May 26, 2026 1453 Why does EMDR therapy sometimes feel overwhelming—or just not work? If you’re a clinician or client who’s asked, “Why didn’t this work for me?”—Kambria Evans breaks this down in this episode of the Zero Disturbance podcast.  Here’s the truth: 👉 EMDR works for trauma 👉 But not all trauma is the same When it comes to developmental trauma, dissociation, and complex nervous systems, the

125: EMDR Therapy: Why Confusion Is a Sign You’re Healing (Not Failing) [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Apr 28, 2026 1104 In this episode of Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans explores a powerful reframe: confusion is not a flaw—it’s a nervous system signal. Through a brain-based therapy lens, she explains how confusion often arises when your internal knowing conflicts with external input—and how this moment is actually an opportunity for deep healing and clarity. Drawing from EMDR therapy, attachment t

124: 5 Signs Therapy Isn’t Working (And What Actually Rewires Your Brain) [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Apr 20, 2026 1084 If you’ve ever left therapy thinking, “Why am I still stuck?”—this episode is for you. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans breaks down one of the most important truths in modern mental health: insight alone does not create change. Many therapy approaches focus on talking, analyzing, and understanding patterns—but real transformation requires brain-based therapy

123: Is Your Therapy Actually Working? (The Missing Phase of Trauma Recovery After EMDR) [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Apr 15, 2026 1315 How do you actually know when therapy is done? In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans breaks down the missing phase of trauma recovery that most therapists—and clients—never talk about. While modalities like EMDR and other brain-based therapies are powerful for processing trauma, true healing doesn’t stop there. This episode explores the critical next step: Self-le

122: EMDR Explained: The Familiarity Lie Behind Repeating Trauma Patterns [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Apr 8, 2026 1292 In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans breaks down one of the most commonly misunderstood ideas in brain-based therapy: “what fires together, wires together.” While this concept explains how patterns form, it leaves out a critical truth—your brain is not fixed. Through the lens of neuroplasticity, EMDR therapy, and trauma-informed care, Kambria explains why repeati

121: The Two Types of Trauma Triggers Every Adult Must Know: EMDR Insights [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Apr 1, 2026 1198 In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans breaks down one of the most misunderstood concepts in mental health: triggers. Using a brain-based therapy and EMDR framework, she explains that not all triggers are the same—and confusing them can disconnect you from your self-trust. You’ll learn how to distinguish between: Trauma replays from the past Healthy, protective ne

120: EMDR & Brain-Based Acceptance vs. Mel Robbins’ “Let Them Theory” [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Mar 23, 2026 1002 In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans breaks down the viral “Let Them Theory” popularized by Mel Robbins—and explains why it often leaves therapy clients feeling stuck, dysregulated, and confused. If you’ve ever been told to “just let them” and found yourself still triggered, ruminating, or emotionally overwhelmed, this episode will give you the clarity you’ve bee

119: It Doesn’t Matter Why: Reclaim Your Brain with EMDR and Positive Cognitions [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Mar 17, 2026 1135 Many people enter therapy believing that healing requires understanding why someone hurt them. Why did they act that way?Why did they treat me like that? But what if the search for “why” is actually keeping your brain stuck in trauma? In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, EMDR clinician Kambria Evans explores a powerful shift in brain-based therapy: moving away from analyzing o

118: EMDR Explained: What’s Really Happening During Trauma Processing [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Mar 10, 2026 1264 What is actually happening in your brain during EMDR therapy? In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans breaks down one of the most misunderstood aspects of EMDR therapy: trauma processing. Using a powerful courtroom analogy, Kambria explains how the brain weighs both negative trauma memories and positive adaptive beliefs during EMDR sessions. Many people believe EMDR

117: From Trauma to Self-Trust: How EMDR Builds Power in Women [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Feb 24, 2026 1027 EMDR is often branded as a trauma therapy — but what people don’t talk about enough is this: Brain-based therapy doesn’t just calm your nervous system. It helps you reclaim your power. In this episode of The Zero Disturbance Podcast, EMDR therapist Kambria Evans breaks down the six biggest power moves that happen after EMDR therapy. From self-trust and nervous system regulation to dismant

116: Stop Wasting Time: EMDR vs Talk Therapy [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Feb 16, 2026 1339 In this powerful and direct episode of Zero Disturbance, Kambria Evans challenges two outdated therapy habits that are keeping women stuck: Obsessively trying to understand why someone hurt you Believing therapy is about “managing triggers” If you’ve spent years analyzing a parent, partner, ex, or boss — this episode will feel like permission to redirect your energy. She breaks down why

115: EMDR Isn’t Just for Trauma: 7 Brain-Based Therapy Outcomes Women Need [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Feb 11, 2026 1457 In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans breaks down why EMDR is not just a trauma therapy—and why so many women experience profound clarity, embodiment, and self-trust through this brain-based modality. Drawing from over a decade of clinical practice, Kambria shares the seven most powerful outcomes she sees when clients complete EMDR, especially for women navigating

114: EMDR Isn’t What You’ve Been Told: 7 Reasons to Be Hopeful [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Feb 4, 2026 1490 In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans explores seven powerful reasons EMDR therapy offers hope—especially for women—during times of collective trauma, oppression, and nervous system overwhelm. Drawing from neuroscience, the Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) model, and years of clinical experience, Kambria dismantles outdated myths about EMDR being intense, ret

113: 10 Truths about Divorce from an EMDR Therapist [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Jan 28, 2026 1005 As we enter the start of a new year—and what many attorneys recognize as divorce consultation season—this episode speaks directly to women who are questioning whether their marriage still fits who they’ve become. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, EMDR therapist Kambria Evans shares 10 core truths she has observed over more than a decade of supporting women through separatio

112: Rethinking EMDR Readiness: Beyond First and Worst [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Jan 20, 2026 1198 In this episode of The Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans continues the Why Women Go to Therapy series with a passionate, clinically grounded conversation about EMDR, readiness, and why so many people—especially women—are being incorrectly told they’re “not ready” for trauma processing. Kambria breaks down what EMDR is, how the Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) model works, and w

111: Stuck in Time vs. Moving Forward: What EMDR Teaches Us [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Jan 13, 2026 1485 In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we explore the relationship between time, learning, and healing — and why simply waiting for time to pass doesn’t resolve trauma. Through a fictional clinical story of a woman navigating post-separation co-parenting, we unpack how people can become “stuck in time,” how EMDR helps clarify the difference between then and now, and why healing

110: EMDR Doesn’t Have to Be Intense: Why We’re Getting It Wrong [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Jan 8, 2026 1282 Many people believe EMDR has to be intense, overwhelming, or focused on reliving trauma — but that belief is limiting access to one of the most powerful therapeutic tools we have. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we unpack why EMDR doesn’t have to start with the “worst memory,” how beginning with lower-intensity targets in phase 4 or even positive targets (also called reso

109: Let Him Figure It Out: The Revolutionary Relationship Shift That Makes His Choices Clear [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Dec 10, 2025 1527 In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we continue the series Why Women Go to Therapy by exploring a counterintuitive and often uncomfortable truth: women can be disrespectful to men by not allowing them to figure things out for themselves. We highlight how women, who statistically attend therapy at much higher rates and have been socially conditioned to be nurturers, often

108: The Tantrum Era: What the Male Loneliness Epidemic Reveals [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Dec 6, 2025 1275 In this episode, we reframe the viral conversation about “the male loneliness epidemic,” arguing that the issue isn’t loneliness — it’s a lack of curiosity. Men are naming their feelings more openly (which is great), but many are stopping there. Instead of asking why women are distancing themselves or leaving relationships, many men blame women, double down on old power structures, or ret

107: If Boyfriends Are Embarrassing, Divorce Is Self-Respect [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Nov 7, 2025 1486 In this game-changing episode of The Zero Disturbance Podcast, Kambria Evans continues the "Why Women Go to Therapy" series with a profound conversation on marriage, identity, and the transformative power of EMDR therapy. Drawing from over a decade of clinical experience, she explores how so many women enter marriage carrying generational programming, internalized shame, and false beliefs

106: Therapy Isn’t Complete Until You Build This for Lasting Change [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Oct 25, 2025 1694 In this powerful episode, we explore the four distinct phases of therapy—with a spotlight on the often-overlooked 4th phase that can transform your healing journey. Drawing from EMDR, Brainspotting, and somatic therapy, this conversation breaks down what most therapeutic models miss and offers a path forward for deeper healing, integration, and self-leadership. 🧠 Four Phases of Therapy:

105: Is It Dopamine or Just Unmet Needs? Let’s Redefine 'Addiction' [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Oct 20, 2025 1381 In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast and our Why Women Go to Therapy series, we bust the myth of "dopamine addiction" and dive deep into the truth about what your nervous system is really trying to do. Through powerful storytelling, neuroscience-backed insight, and trauma-informed wisdom, we reframe the language around dopamine, addiction, trauma bonding, and self-soothing. If

104: How EMDR and Brainspotting Dismantle the Internalized Shame System [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Oct 15, 2025 1338 In this transformative episode, we dive into one of the core reasons many women seek therapy: shame. But shame isn’t just about feeling bad — it’s a manipulative system that’s often internalized from childhood, society, media, and relationships. Through personal insight and fictional client stories, Kambria walks listeners through how to identify, dismantle, and reclaim power from the sha

103: How EMDR Recalibrates Your Alarm System [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Oct 6, 2025 1185 In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we share a powerful story from a beachside restaurant in Portugal — where a loud fire alarm went off, but no one responded. This moment becomes a striking metaphor for how women often experience internal and external “alarms” from trauma, anxiety, or smear campaigns — even when they’re no longer in danger. We explore how outdated nervous sy

102: Why EMDR Is “Dangerous” — and Why That’s a Good Thing [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Sep 30, 2025 1510 On the Zero Disturbance Podcast, in this episode of our Why Women Go to Therapy series, we’re diving into a topic that’s close to my heart — and one that might ruffle a few feathers: Why EMDR is dangerous. Now before you panic, we’re not saying EMDR is harmful — quite the opposite. EMDR is dangerous because it works. It’s powerful. It has the ability to align you with your positive belief

101: The Trap of Narcissist Analysis: What You Really Need Instead [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Sep 24, 2025 1576 In this powerful episode of Zero Disturbance, we challenge the obsession with analyzing narcissists—especially in the wake of narcissism going viral on social media. Drawing from extensive work with female clients recovering from narcissistic abuse, Kambria Evans offers a liberating message: stop trying to understand the narcissist and start reclaiming your own life. We explore how women

100: The We Do Not Care Club: An EMDR Path to Empowered Neutrality [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Jul 11, 2025 1934 In the 100th episode of The Zero Disturbance Podcast, we explore the viral “We Do Not Care Club” created by Melani Sanders — a humorous and healing movement that’s resonating deeply with women everywhere. Through an EMDR lens, we break down why this message feels so good in the body, especially for women navigating burnout, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and midlife transitions like peri

99: Midlife Awakening: Embracing Urges with EMDR for Authentic Living [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Jul 11, 2025 1391 In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we dive into a transformational topic: women and urges—and how honoring our body's messages can radically shift how we live, love, and lead. We explore why so many women are disconnected from their intuition, bodies, and desires, often due to lifelong social conditioning, trauma, and internalized shame. Through the lens of EMDR the

98: How Anger & Disgust Are Actually Good for You [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Jul 10, 2025 1645 In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we explore why so many women come to therapy feeling confused, responsible for others, and disconnected from their inner guidance system. The focus? Two of the most misunderstood emotions in healing work: anger and disgust. Drawing from experience in EMDR and Brainspotting, we discuss how women are socialized to suppress anger and

97: Be the CEO of Your Nervous System: EMDR and Parts Work [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Jun 19, 2025 1696 In this thought-provoking episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we continue on our empowering series, Why Women Go to Therapy, by diving deep into the transformative concept of parts work. Listen as we unpack how women develop internal “parts” throughout their lives—often in response to external pressures, trauma, or survival needs—and how these parts, though created with good intentio

96: EMDR vs. Brainspotting: What You Need to Know [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Jun 13, 2025 1530 In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we dive deep into the transformative world of Brainspotting—a brain-based, somatic therapy that helps access and heal trauma, especially the kind stored before we even had language. Kambria shares her surprising journey from EMDR skeptic to Brainspotting advocate, explaining how this technique—developed by Dr. David Grand—uses eye

95: Why EMDR is a Game-Changer for Women [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] May 31, 2025 1515 In this episode, we explore why EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is particularly powerful for women and how it serves not just as a healing tool, but as a form of personal and social revolution. Discussion on how EMDR helps clients target not only trauma and disturbing memories but also deeply embedded societal programming around safety, power, control, and worth. For

94: Am I Good Enough? [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Apr 14, 2025 1376 Have you ever asked yourself, “Am I good enough?” If so, you’re not alone. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we deep dive into this question, exploring how so many women struggle with self-doubt and the journey to reclaim their inherent worth. Every woman is born with her own unique goodness, and that worth is non-negotiable. Despite the external pressures, criticisms, and

93: The Blueprint for Women in Therapy [Why Women Go To Therapy Series] Apr 14, 2025 1542 Ever felt like you’re giving so much to others that you forget to take care of you? You're not alone. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance podcast, Kambria Evans shines a light on why so many women seek therapy—and it’s not because something’s “wrong” with us. It’s because we’ve been conditioned to ignore our own internal signals for far too long. In this eye-opening conversation, co

EMDR for Depression Sep 3, 2024 1648 The true definition (and outcomes) of depression goes far beyond what we typically think of: someone pulling away from loved ones, extreme sadness, maybe even feeling suicidal. But the truth is that depression is often a symptom of trauma, and can manifest in individuals in so many different ways. It may be a collapse after extreme anxiety that we may not even notice because we’ve normali

EMDR for Anxiety Aug 13, 2024 1720 Thanks to Gabor Maté, we know that trauma isn’t just something that happens; it’s something that happens inside of you. So when something happens to us (or doesn’t happen, like in an omission of care) and we feel anxiety, that anxiety is a result of trauma. Anxiety can come from so many things, like overextending ourselves and trying to do too much, divorce, job loss, and even things that

82: “Forgive & Forget” Doesn’t Work in Trauma Therapy [Dumb Things Therapists Say Series] Aug 6, 2024 1436   Forgiveness in therapy is a complex and often misunderstood concept. Many clients have been pressured to forgive their abusers or "just let it go," but this approach can be harmful and retraumatizing. True healing comes from understanding that what happened wasn't your fault, processing your emotions safely, and rebuilding trust in yourself. I've seen how EMDR can help desensitize

81: Enhancing Therapy Outcomes: Deconstructing Traditional Goal Setting [Dumb Things Therapists Say Series] Jul 30, 2024 1607 Traditional therapy often focuses on measuring changes in behaviors and emotions. While valuable, this approach may overlook some important aspects of the healing process. As an EMDR therapist, I've discovered a powerful metric that can transform how we set goals and assess progress in therapy: process outcomes. Process outcomes measure how easy, efficient, or effective it is to implement

80: EMDR and Safety with Psychedelics [Dumb Things Therapists Say Series] Jul 23, 2024 1441 Safety in therapy is a complex and evolving concept. As therapists and clients, we're constantly learning and adapting our understanding of what creates true safety in the therapeutic process. This week on the podcast, we explore the nuances of safety in EMDR, Brainspotting and beyond, challenging some common assumptions and opening up new possibilities for healing. Our perceptions of saf

79: The Misconceptions of EMDR vs. Talk Therapy [Dumb Things Therapists Say Series] Jul 16, 2024 1365 EMDR therapy is a powerful path to healing, but many misconceptions persist about it—from medical professionals, therapists, and others. As an EMDR consultant with over ten thousand hours of sessions under my belt, I've witnessed firsthand how this brain-based therapy can transform lives when applied thoughtfully. Traditional talk therapy absolutely has its place, providing a safe space f

78: EMDR for Addiction Treatment and Healthy Habit Formation [Dumb Things Therapists Say Series] Jul 9, 2024 1480 Changing behavior, especially when it comes to addictive or compulsive patterns, is often misunderstood and oversimplified. Many therapists and rehab programs focus solely on modifying beliefs and behaviors, overlooking vital elements in our neurological programming. This approach can lead to frustration, repeated relapses, and unnecessary shame for those struggling to make lasting change

77: Attachment-Based Therapy: EMDR and Attachment Styles [Dumb Things Therapists Say Series] Jul 2, 2024 2200 While many therapists identify as "trauma-informed" or "attachment-informed," these labels should be a given for any effective therapist. How so? Because any therapy work is attachment work. The reality is that we've all been shaped by our early experiences and relationships, creating programming that influences how we view ourselves and interact with others. Understanding attachment styl

76: Therapy vs. Coaching: What's "Right" at What Time? [Dumb Things Therapists Say Series] Jun 25, 2024 1674 Therapists often make an artificial distinction between addressing trauma in therapy and utilizing coaching for personal growth. Making this separation can limit the full potential of therapy and leave clients feeling prematurely "graduated" before they've had a chance to truly thrive. In reality, our brains are constantly running multiple "programs," both positive and negative, that shap

75: The 5 Most Useless Diagnoses [Dumb Things Therapists Say Series] Jun 18, 2024 2161 The world of therapy is changing, and it's time to challenge the status quo. And I’m here to share why some of the most common diagnoses in the DSM, such as anxiety, depression, addiction, body dysmorphia, and PTSD, are not only limiting but can actually cause harm to both clients and therapists. By exploring the concept of "programming" and how our early experiences shape our beliefs, be

74: EMDR for the New Year [Why EMDR Works Series] Dec 12, 2023 1956 The new year is often a time for goal-setting and resolution-making, but so many people struggle with following through over the next 12 months. That’s not true for those who are using EMDR in their treatment. Why? Because the foundation of EMDR is about desensitizing disturbance of what happened in the past, what’s happening in the present, and creating a bridge into the future to feel c

73: EMDR for Grief [Why EMDR Works Series] Dec 5, 2023 2068 When there’s a loss like the death of a loved one, there’s a cultural acknowledgement of that loss that gives us the time and space to grieve and to heal. But we experience grief in so many other situations, outside of death. Grief is something that helps us to process changes, like the death of an idea of the life we thought we’d have. We can never fully imagine how change and grief hits

72: EMDR for Anger [Why EMDR Works Series] Nov 28, 2023 1298 We all know someone who has anger “problems,” but I believe that there’s a different conversation we need to have about anger. Anger is a feeling, not a problem, and it’s not bad unless expressed in a way that’s disproportionate to what’s happening. But not expressing enough anger is an even bigger problem than too much anger. Let me convince you why. Anger is a biologically-programmed su

71: EMDR for Disordered Eating [Why EMDR Works Series] Nov 21, 2023 1967   We all have a relationship with something that’s helping us to feel a certain way, full and in control, empowered and attached. But we’ve been given so many different curricula around what we’re supposed to look and feel like, we’re using behaviors like food restriction or binging and purging in an effort to feel a certain way. Disordered eating isn’t a term I love, but it’s what’s

70: EMDR for Addiction [Why EMDR Works Series] Nov 14, 2023 2004 When someone seeks treatment for addiction, the truth is that we’re not actually treating the addiction; we’re treating the brain’s associations with the behavior that feels addictive. We’re delinking the positive feelings someone has with things like alcohol, compulsive shopping, smoking, gambling, and binge eating,, and looking for alternative ways for the person to have those same posi

69: EMDR for Winter Holidays [Why EMDR Works Series] Nov 7, 2023 1211 The holiday season can be incredibly stressful and triggering for many reasons, from trying to defy our natural inclination to hibernate in the winter, to how our brains link to challenging events from all the holidays that came before. But you don’t have to dread the holidays or family get-togethers, if you can understand where your feelings come from and how to work through them. We sto

68: EMDR for Depression [Why EMDR Works Series] Oct 31, 2023 1648 The true definition (and outcomes) of depression goes far beyond what we typically think of: someone pulling away from loved ones, extreme sadness, maybe even feeling suicidal. But the truth is that depression is often a symptom of trauma, and can manifest in individuals in so many different ways. It may be a collapse after extreme anxiety that we may not even notice because we’ve normali

67: EMDR for Anxiety [Why EMDR Works Series] Oct 24, 2023 1720 Thanks to Gabor Maté, we know that trauma isn’t just something that happens; it’s something that happens inside of you. So when something happens to us (or doesn’t happen, like in an omission of care) and we feel anxiety, that anxiety is a result of trauma. Anxiety can come from so many things, like overextending ourselves and trying to do too much, divorce, job loss, and even things that

66: Why EMDR Works for Parents [Why EMDR Works Series] Oct 20, 2023 1729 Parenting is a challenge for everyone, no matter what someone’s Instagram feed claims. And if we’re looking outside the “traditional” definition of trauma, every parent has experienced trauma at some point. So many parents want to raise their children in a different way than they themselves were raised: more extracurricular options, no spanking, being more present. And where we end up is

65: EMDR as Standard Practice [Why EMDR Works Series] Oct 10, 2023 1138 EMDR works. It’s well-known that it works for those who want to heal trauma, but you don’t have to be a trauma survivor to benefit from EMDR. In fact, I believe that it works for nearly every human on the planet. This week, I’m starting a new series that I think will convince you that EMDR is for children, athletes, executives, parents, empty nesters, those going through a divorce, and mo

7 Myths About Intensives Oct 4, 2023 1909 Want to learn more about offering intensives in your practice? My Intensive Kit can help! Find out more here. I've been offering intensive therapy programs for my EMDR clients for 5 years now and I've learned a lot about about how to design successful intensive models. And I've made it my mission to share my experience so that other clinicians may benefit in their own private practices. A

64: Identifying Red & Green Flag Therapists [Rebranding Trauma Therapy Series] Sep 26, 2023 2039 Have you struggled with finding the right therapy for your needs? Maybe you’ve had a few appointments with several different therapists but never found someone you felt was on the same page as you for your treatment. The client-therapist relationship is so important and it’s not something that anyone should enter lightly. For clients, it might be one of the most important relationships th

63: Who is a Candidate for EMDR? [Rebranding Trauma Therapy Series] Sep 19, 2023 1801 EMDR is a fantastic brain-based modality for trauma therapy, but there are so many other uses that we don’t talk about enough because of the focus on trauma. What gets lost the most is that EMDR supports anyone who wants to rewrite the curriculum they learned as a result of experiences from their past. When we talk about EMDR being good for trauma victims, we essentially close the door of

62: Identifying and Installing Positive Resources [Rebranding Trauma Therapy Series] Sep 12, 2023 1671 Identifying and pulling on positive resources is essential to processing trauma, but it’s also something you can do when you want to change your mindset around specific feelings and events. Even better, it’s something you can do on your own with a little bit of work and reflection. Resourcing is a biologically natural process your body already has to create adaptive material. It’s what yo

61: What’s Wrong with Mindset Work [Rebranding Trauma Therapy Series] Sep 5, 2023 1259 Doing mindset work isn’t always the answer. We’re inundated with messages from coaches and therapists on Instagram telling us that if we just worked on our mindset, we could get past so many of our limiting beliefs and roadblocks. And while maybe mindset works for some, for many therapy clients it’s actually harmful. When therapy clients don’t yet have the ability to protect themselves fr

60: Creating Interdependence with Boundaries [Rebranding Trauma Therapy Series] Aug 29, 2023 1463 Most of us know how to behave appropriately in society, which is helpful in navigating the world. We follow the laws of our community, pay our bills, wait in the grocery lines, treat animals with kindness, etc. But sometimes, society (or our culture) teaches us a set of rules that don’t align with what is best for us. If you’re a woman, you’ve likely felt this. We’ve been given this curri

59: Expanding the Definition of “Doing the Work” [Rebranding Trauma Therapy Series] Aug 22, 2023 1414 Too often I hear therapists share that a client “isn’t doing the work.” They’re not progressing or working through their trauma because in session they talk about what’s going on in their life today, rather than talking about what happened in the past. I believe that when a client hears from their therapist that they’re not “doing the work,” it’s a red flag. Therapists need to put on thei

Ep 58: Choosing the Triggers We Use [Rebranding Trauma Therapy Series] Aug 15, 2023 1466 The way we’ve been talking about triggers is an incomplete conversation and it’s time to change that. The more information you have about what triggers you will help inside trauma therapy and help create adaptive material to help with trauma. Here’s where we need to rethink what we’ve learned about triggers: A trigger is a stimulus that elicits a reaction. Any stimulus; any reaction. But

Ep 57: A Different Perspective on Phobias [Rebranding Trauma Therapy Series] Aug 8, 2023 1541 Curiosity should always be the default for therapists working with clients, and clients should know this and look for it in session. This is especially true when we’re talking about phobias. There’s often a lot of shame around phobias because they’re characterized by a disproportionate response to a feeling or fear. At the surface level, it might not seem logical. But if a therapist respo

Ep 56: Rewriting and Replacing Adaptations [Rebranding Trauma Therapy Series] Aug 1, 2023 1632 Adaptations are all things we created in response to something we learned in life, often during a traumatic experience. Whether that experience happened in childhood or as adults, we learned how to cope and feel safe. And those adaptations perform a positive function, whether they’re healthy or not. The important thing to remember is that adaptations can and should change over time, espec

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