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Finding Love After 30

Shonda Howard 42 Episodes Apr 7, 2026

Finding Love After 30 is a podcast for women ready to find their big, amazing love story. Dating Coach and Hypnotherapist Shonda Howard teaches how to find a too-good-to-be-true man. Each week offers simple how-to's and heart-to-heart conversations to navigate dating and find a soul-mate relationship. Follow Shonda on Instagram for more inspiration.

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Ep 42: If dating apps "suck" you're missing the actual problem.mp3 Apr 7, 2026 00:16:02 In today's episode, I'm getting real about why dating apps aren't actually the problem, and how the strategy you've been using is.In this episode you'll learn:Why treating dating like a numbers game is keeping you stuckThe difference between collecting matches and actually filtering for the right personHow to use your past dating experiences to identify your core valuesHow to weave those values in

Ep 41: You're not bad at manifesting love - you're in the belief gap Dec 26, 2025 00:24:30 If you’ve tried visualizing, journaling, affirmations, or “manifesting” your dream relationship, and you’re still attracting the same type of men or relationship pattern, this episode is for you.In this episode, Shonda introduces a concept she calls The Belief Gap:the space between what you want in love and what your nervous system and subconscious actually believe is safe and possible.You’ll lear

Ep 40: Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain: Why Being Single Feels So Triggering (And How to Stop Spiraling) Dec 19, 2025 00:18:35 If being single feels especially triggering for you (engagement announcements, weddings, breakups, or the pressure of feeling “behind,”) this episode is for you.Today I'm breaking down a concept I teach all of my coaching clients: clean pain vs. dirty pain, and how confusing the two is what keeps so many women stuck in anxiety, shame, and dating spirals.In this episode, we cover:The difference bet

Ep 39: Meet Men IRL, Protect Your Energy & Stay in the Game with Lindsay May Dec 2, 2025 00:45:18 In this episode, I’m joined by marketing expert and single gal in Denver, Lindsay May, for a super honest convo about what it actually looks like to keep dating when you’re tired, triggered, or over the apps.In this episode, we cover:How Lindsay healed from a toxic relationship and eased back into datingWhy dating apps can feel so draining—and how to treat them as a neutral toolMeeting men in real

Ep 38: A Thanksgiving Message for the Woman Who Feels Left Behind Nov 21, 2025 00:17:09 In this Thanksgiving episode of Finding Love After 30, Shonda gets real about how hard the holidays can feel when you’re single, surrounded by couples, and dodging questions like “So…are you seeing anyone?” She walks you through why gratitude is not pretending everything is fine, but a grounding practice that helps regulate your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and actually make you more avail

EP 37: How to Confidently Navigate the Holidays as a Single Woman w/ Elyse Conroy Nov 14, 2025 00:44:25 If you're heading into the holidays single and already dreading the “So… are you seeing anyone?” questions, this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale. I sat down with my friend, confidence coach Elyse Conroy, for a raw, hilarious, and honest conversation about navigating the holidays when you’re the only single one in the room.We talk about:Why those invasive questions from Aunt Mildred fee

Ep 36: How to Attract love Instead of Chasing it Oct 29, 2025 00:18:21 If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything to find love — dating apps, social events, staying “open”— yet it still feels like nothing’s working, this episode is for you.In today’s episode of Finding Love After 30, Shonda shares how to shift from chasing love to attracting it by becoming the woman who’s already a match for the kind of relationship she wants. In this episode, you’ll learn

Ep 35: Flow Over Force — Dating from a Regulated Nervous System May 8, 2025 00:20:28 You can’t swipe your way into secure love if your nervous system is stuck in survival mode.This week, I’m getting real about what happened when I was forced to slow down — and what it revealed about my own patterns around productivity, self-worth, and why "resting" in life or taking a break from dating can feel so damn triggering… especially if you’re someone who’s always doing the most.We’re talk

Ep 34: Meagan Norris on Turning Divorce Pain into Power in Dating and Life May 1, 2025 00:48:51 What if your greatest heartbreak could become your most powerful transformation?In this raw conversation, I sit down with my dear friend Meagan Norris – former lawyer turned life and divorce coach who revolutionized her entire life after her divorce. She shares how she left a marriage that looked perfect on paper but felt deeply wrong in her body, and transformed that pain into purpose.But this is

Ep 33: The dating challenge that changed everything for me Apr 17, 2025 00:12:39 In today’s episode, I’m sharing a juicy story from my single days—when I unintentionally created a dating challenge that completely changed how I showed up in love. Spoiler: I didn’t meet my husband during the challenge, but it was one of the biggest shifts that helped me become magnetic and emotionally grounded in dating.You'll learn:Why anxious energy is repelling the exact type of man you wantT

Ep 32: How to Meet Men in Real Life Without Dating Apps Apr 2, 2025 00:17:24 In this episode of the Finding Love After 30 podcast, we dive deep into a topic that so many of you have been asking about: how to meet high-quality men in real life, without relying on dating apps. If you're tired of swiping and feeling frustrated with online dating, this episode is for you! I’ll be sharing my top strategies for meeting men offline, but before we dive into the “how,” we’ll focus

Ep. 31: Attracting Love & Clients Through Embodiment with Guest Lauren Ciesco Feb 19, 2025 00:55:47 Episode Summary:In this episode Shonda welcomes special guest and business coach, Lauren Ciesco. Together, they explore how the principles of embodiment, emotional healing, and inner guidance apply to attracting your soulmate (and soulmate clients if you’re a business owner). Lauren shares her personal journey of going from emotionally unavailable to open-hearted in dating, and how that parallels

Ep 30: How to have a Non-Sucky Valentine's Day Feb 12, 2025 00:45:51 If you're single and Dreading Valentine's day then this is for YOU! I'm sharing my recent masterclass: Non-Sucky Valentine's day.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

Ep 29: The Key to Meeting an Amazing Man (Lessons from My NYC Trip) Feb 4, 2025 00:26:31 Download the Worksheet for this episode HEREAfter a weekend in NYC (where I may have cried every ten blocks), I had a massive realization about what actually matters when it comes to meeting an amazing man. In this episode, I’m sharing:✨ The surprising truth about the year before I met my husband (and why it was just as amazing as the year I met him)✨ The biggest mindset shift you need to ma

Ep 28: Building Inner Safety for Healthy, Drama Free Love Nov 8, 2024 00:19:48 In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most overlooked yet powerful aspects of dating: inner safety. If you’re tired of dating feeling like a high-stakes game where you’re always waiting for validation or reassurance, this episode is for you.Inner safety is the sense of calm, security, and self-trust that comes from within. It’s what keeps you grounded, confident, and able to navigate datin

Ep 27: How to create your dream relationship with Lindsey Mango Sep 9, 2024 00:50:08 This week I’m interviewing life and business coach Lindsey Mango about how she created her DREAM relationship! In this episode Lindsey breaks down:The biggest mistake she made in dating when she was single How life coaching helped her realize that her boyfriend at the time wasn’t “the one” How she intentionally created the life of her dreams BEFORE her husband showed upWhat her biggest b

Ep 26: How to be more confident on dates Sep 4, 2024 00:14:27 In this week's episode I'm breaking down the importance of self-confidence when you're dating over 30 AND I'm giving you my hack for showing up securely as your most confident self to your next date! No more second guessing yourself, waiting around for him to ask you out again, and no more settling.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follo

Ep 25: Why you should take a dating break and what to do instead Jul 24, 2024 00:15:20 In this week's episode I'm giving you a peak into my personal life and breaking down why you need to take a break from dating, and what you need to do instead if you want to find love this year!Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

Ep 24: Overcoming self-sabotage + becoming magnetic to love Jun 27, 2024 00:20:27 This week I’m giving you a peak into a client’s journey to find love, how she became magnetic and started attracting better quality men (and more opportunities in her career and life!) and the sneaky way she started self-sabotaging.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

Ep 23: Why you should stop chasing the "spark" in dating Jun 20, 2024 00:17:03 In this week's episode I'm breaking down exactly why you need to stop chasing a "spark" in dating if you want to find a healthy, committed relationship - and what to look for instead!Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

Ep 22: Change your "league" and attract better men Jun 11, 2024 00:16:03 This week we’re talking about the popular dating advice to “date in your league”. If you’re frustrated with the types of men you seem to date (ghosters, bread-crumbers, chads, d-bags) then the best strategy might be to change your league! Listen to find out how!Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for m

Ep 21: How to Deal with Mixed Signals May 30, 2024 00:19:44 In this episode I’m unpacking the frustrating world of mixed signals in dating. Inspired by a thought-provoking quote I saw on Instagram, I’m sharing my insights to help you interpret those mixed signals and I’m giving you a fool proof texting strategy for when this happens to you. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on

Ep 20: How to not feel like you've wasted time on the "wrong man" May 24, 2024 00:16:19 In this episode I'm breaking down a unique theory about dating that will help you stop feeling like you’ve wasted time on the wrong man. Whether you've faced heartbreak, ghosting, or situationships, this perspective will offer you comfort and motivation to keep moving forward and stay in the dating game with an open heart so can find your person. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a

Ep 19: Finding Empowerment in dating with Ashleigh Renard May 16, 2024 00:56:52 Ashleigh Renard is the best selling author of the book "Swing" - a new genre of HOT SELF HELP! We're talking all things finding empowerment in relationships, dating and the bedroom. You can find Ashleigh on Instagram hereWant expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

Ep 18: How to stay sane while dating (unattachment + intuition) May 8, 2024 00:26:39 In this episode I'm giving you some life updates and breaking down why you need to stay unattached + cultivate your intuition in dating if you want to stay sane and find your person.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

Ep 17: Lessons from Abraham Hicks (Part 1) Jun 23, 2023 00:40:21 Today you're getting my post Abraham-Hicks workshop download (Part 1!) I share my personal journey with Abraham-Hicks, and the lessons I learned from attending the workshop. Conversation Highlights: {10:20} Abraham {15:30} My journey with Abraham’s teaching {26:35} Have a soft desire with no resistance. {36:00} Release yourself from needing to defend yourself. A couple of my fav Abraham videos to

Ep 16: Tools to change your reality May 11, 2023 00:18:40 In this episode I'll be breaking down two tools that you can implement immediately to help you shift your thinking and make peace with your current circumstances so you can begin to change them. Conversation Highlights: {04:40} When your thoughts are negative. {08:05} Recognize the difference between thoughts and truths. {09:00} Define your negative thoughts that keep surfacing and separate th

Ep 15: What I'd do differently if I was single again in my late 30's May 4, 2023 00:15:10 Today I'm sharing the four things that I'd do differently if  I was single in my late 30s or 40s again.  These four things will totally change the way you approach dating and finding love! Conversation Highlights: {04:23} Your thoughts are not the truth {06:52} Circular dating {08:10} Have more fun {10:30} Trust your intuition Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to

Ep 14: Transforming Your Marriage with Kendra Williams Dec 1, 2022 00:37:52 In today’s episode I’m interviewing motherhood coach, Kendra Williams all about how her self-healing journey blew up and ultimately transformed her marriage. Kendra’s story might surprise you and she is super candid about her marriage, what wasn’t working and how she and her husband ultimately came back from a separation that was headed for divorce.You can check out Kendra on IG at: https://www.in

Ep 13: Amplifying Abundance in Love and Money Nov 24, 2022 00:12:58 In today's episode I'm sharing a clip from a talk I gave on the topic of abundance. I"m breaking down exactly what abundance is and how living with feelings of lack may be working against you. This applies to your bank account and your search for love.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more i

Ep 12: The Power of belief when you want to find love Nov 17, 2022 00:17:05 If you'e struggling to find love then you might be missing the important piece of belief. Today I'm sharing a quick personal story to illustrate why belief is so important in your search for love.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

Ep 11: How to feel better when you're frustrated with being single Nov 10, 2022 00:15:54 Navigating single life when you want to find love can be tricky. Yes, your job is to feel happy and fulfilled but you’ll inevitably hit some low points in your journey. Today I’m sharing a simple process you can use to feel better when you’re frustrated, fed up, and just plain sick of being single!Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow

Ep 10: Your 'Hope' is Sabotaging You Nov 4, 2022 00:16:35 If you're single and "hoping" that things work out for you, or "hoping" that you don't end up alone then you could be sabotaging all of your efforts to attract the right person. Inspired by a client call this week, we'll be diving into this sneaky "I hope" statement and exactly how it could be working against you.Conversation Highlights:{05:33} What happens when you are in the energy of “hope “{06

Ep. 9: How Drinking Might Be Keeping You From the Relationship You Want with Jennie Juechter Oct 20, 2022 00:37:12 Did you know that your relationship with alcohol might actually be holding you back from your dream relationship? This week Sober Curious Coach, Jennie Juechter joins us to talk about alcohol and how it might be messing with your efforts to improve your relationship and/or attract a high quality man.Conversation Highlights:{02:48} Jennie’s journey with Alcohol{13:30} Estrogen and alcohol{19:15} Se

Ep 8: How to Take Care of Yourself When Things Feel Really Hard Oct 13, 2022 00:16:39 Learning to take care of yourself when things get tough is the work of prioritizing yourself. This is essential in life AND attracting a partner. Today I'm giving you my four steps to taking excellent care of yourself!Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

Ep 7: Get Exactly What You Want in Love with The List (part 3) Oct 6, 2022 00:15:13 Today we're finishing a 3-part series on how to get EXACTLY what you want in love using "The List". This episode dives into what to do after you've created the list so it gets into your subconscious mind. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

Ep 6: Get Exactly What You Want in Love with 'The List' (Part 2) Sep 29, 2022 00:20:30 If you want to get everything you want in love then you need to be clear and specific, and you have to access the feeling state of it being "done". In today's episode you'll learn what to do with your list to make sure you get everything you want in love.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more ins

Ep: 5 How to write "The List" so it actually works (Part 1) Sep 22, 2022 00:15:36 I'm sure you've heard that you have to write a list to attract your dream relationship. But if you want it to actually work instead of being a waste of time then you need to do a couple of key things. Today I'm diving into step one of how to create a list that will actually work to attract your dream person into your life! Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working

Ep. 4: The 3 Big Mistakes You're Making That Prevent You From Attracting a High Quality Man Sep 15, 2022 00:17:48 If you want to attract a higher quality man into your life then you need to stop making these 3 big mistakes in your dating life. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

Ep 3: Becoming a Match for Mr. Right Sep 8, 2022 00:21:06 If you want to attract your dream relationship you have to first create a life you love. Today we are diving into step 2 of my process to find love which will give every area of your life an upgrade. By doing this you will become an irresistible magnet to the person of your dreams!Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instag

Ep 2: Why You Aren't Meeting the Right Person Sep 1, 2022 00:19:02 Ever wonder why you can’t meet the right guy even though you feel like you’re doing all of the right things?In today’s episode I’m diving into exactly why that is and breaking down the first step in my process to find love: Releasing Your Past. If you want to attract a healthy, loving relationship then you absolutely must do the work to understand what your past patterns are and release them.Want

Ep 1: How to Find Love - My Story Aug 22, 2022 00:17:14 In this episode I'm walking you through my journey to finding love as a woman over 30 and giving you the 3 crucial steps that you need to take in order to meet your soul mate and have an amazing relationship. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

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