Play Therapy Parenting: Real Parenting Questions Answered by a Child Therapist
The Play Therapy Parenting Podcast helps parents understand the meaning behind children's challenging behavior. Child therapist Dr. Brenna Hicks answers real parenting questions about tantrums, anxiety, aggression, sibling conflict, ADHD concerns, school struggles, and emotional outbursts. Each episode offers practical insight into child development, emotions, and the parent-child relationship. Rather than quick hacks, it provides straightforward guidance drawn from over two decades of clinical experience. The goal is to help parents respond with greater confidence and connection.
Episodes
S4E17 - How Do I Stop My Kids From Tattling on Each Other?
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom whose 3- and 5-year-old children are constantly tattling on each other over every little thing. I explain why telling young children to "work it out" usually doesn't work—they simply don't have the developmental capacity yet to reason through sibling conflict on their own. Instead, I share how parents can use clear, consistent choices to help childre
S4E16 - Is My Child's School Anxiety a Sign We Should Homeschool?
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom whose 7- and 9-year-old daughters are experiencing significant anxiety around going to school. We talk about the difference between choosing homeschooling because it genuinely fits a child better versus using homeschooling to avoid an anxiety-producing situation, and why that distinction matters. I also explain how anxiety can show up physically thro
S4E15 - How Much Freedom Should I Give My 10-Year-Old (Without Sacrificing Safety)?
In this episode, I answer a follow-up question from a mom who recently reduced screen time for her 8- and 10-year-old children and is now seeing an unexpected result: her son wants to spend much more time outside with friends. That is a huge win, but it has created a new parenting challenge—how much freedom and independence should a 10-year-old actually have? I talk through ways to gradually incre
S4E14 - Why Is My Child Resisting Play Therapy?
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom whose seven-year-old has become frustrated with her play therapist and says the therapist treats her "like a baby." I explain why seven is still right in the sweet spot for child-centered play therapy, and why complaints about therapy are often less about the therapist or the approach and more about the child's resistance to doing difficult emotional
S4E13 - How Do My Words Shape My Child's Self-Esteem?
In this episode, I answer a collection of parent questions around one central concern: what do we do when a child seems to be struggling with who they are? I talk about signs that can point to a shaky sense of identity, including anxiety, negative self-talk, constantly changing how they present socially, and difficulty believing in their own competence. I introduce the concept of the "looking glas
S4E12 - How Do I Reduce My Child's Screen Time Without Constant Battles?
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom who realizes that screens have gradually become a major part of her children's daily lives and now wants to make a change. I talk about what to expect when you begin reducing screen time, why children may push back so strongly, and how to use child-centered parenting skills like reflecting feelings, setting limits, giving choices, and encouragement t
S4E11 - How Do I Help My Child With School Anxiety?
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom whose 9-year-old daughter experiences intense anxiety every morning before school—even though she does well once she gets there and usually comes home saying she had a good day. I explain why this pattern often points to anticipatory anxiety: the fear of what might happen becomes far more overwhelming than what actually happens. Over time, children c
S4E10 - Why Is My Youngest Child Always Acting Out? - When a Child Uses Bad Behavior and Negative Attention to Find Their Place
In this episode, I answer a question from a homeschooling mom whose six-year-old becomes angry, disruptive, and resistant whenever it's time to do schoolwork. I explain why his behavior may be less about academics and more about vulnerability, power and control, and figuring out where he fits within the family. We also talk about how sibling roles, birth order, and the comparison that naturally ha
S4E9 - How Do I Make Custody Exchanges Easier for My Toddler?
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom whose toddler struggles every time it's time to transition to the other parent's home for a custody exchange. We talk about why these transitions are so difficult for young children, how toddlers experience time differently than adults, and why resisting the handoff doesn't necessarily mean they don't love or enjoy being with the other parent. I expl
S4E8 - Why Is My Child Aggressive and Sad?
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom whose son has struggled with aggression, sadness, and emotional regulation for years. She wonders why he's so different from his peers and why therapy hasn't uncovered the "reason" behind his behavior. I explain why behavior is always communication, how aggression and withdrawal are often signs of emotional pain rather than defiance, and why our goal
S4E7 - How Do I Handle Aggressive Behavior Without Punishment?
In this episode, I answer a question from an adoptive mom who is learning how to use child-centered parenting techniques with her daughter, who struggles with aggression, big emotions, and sensory challenges. We talk about why children often can't think clearly when they're emotionally overwhelmed, how to use empowerment choices before conflict begins, and how to create meaningful enforcement choi
S4E6 - How Do I Stop Power Struggles With My Preteen?
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom who feels like she's constantly butting heads with her ten-year-old daughter. We talk about why the preteen years often bring a strong desire for independence, how to balance growing autonomy with healthy boundaries, and why behaviors like arguing, disrespect, and constantly saying, "You're not the boss of me," are often signs of a child trying to fi
S4E5 - Why Is My Child Always Fighting for Control?
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom whose five-year-old daughter seems to be caught in constant power struggles despite receiving choices throughout the day. We explore why some children continue to demand control even when parents are using child-centered strategies, and I explain the important difference between simply giving children choices and giving them meaningful choices that m
S4E4 - Why Does My Child Hold Their Pee?
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom whose seven-year-old daughter has struggled with pee withholding since potty training. We explore why toileting challenges are often about much more than the bathroom, including how control, anxiety, and emotional patterns can become deeply ingrained over time. I explain why children sometimes hold onto control in unexpected ways and how understandin
S4E3 - How Do I Stop Sibling Fighting and Rough Play?
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom who is worried about the relationship between her four-year-old son and his younger brother. If you've ever wondered whether sibling rivalry, rough play, jealousy, or competition between siblings is normal, you're not alone. I explain some of the common dynamics that naturally emerge between siblings who are close in age, including power struggles, b
S4E2 - How Does Trauma Affect a Child Years Later?
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom whose daughter witnessed the death of her father at a very young age. Now that her daughter is older, she's wondering how that experience may still be affecting her development, emotions, and behavior. I explain how children remember traumatic events differently than adults do, why early experiences can continue to influence a child years later, and
S4E1 - Can Children Develop Internal Motivation Without Rewards?
In the first Q&A episode of Season 4, I answer a thoughtful question from a mom who is trying to help her eight-year-old daughter develop internal motivation for everyday responsibilities. We explore the difference between external rewards and the child-centered concept of choice giving, and why many parents misunderstand what choices are actually designed to accomplish. I explain how choices retu
S3E46 - Wrapping Up the Parent Companion Series + What's In Store for Season 4!
In this final episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I reflect on why this season has mattered so much to me and to the field of child-centered play therapy. Parents are a crucial part of a child's healing journey, and one of our greatest goals is helping parents feel equipped to understand what their children need, how to communicate with them effectively, and how to support the
S3E45 - The Emotional Crash After Fun Activities: What Parents Need to Know
In this episode, I answer a question from an adoptive mom whose three-year-old becomes extremely dysregulated before and after exciting events like family camp, theme parks, or outings. I explain why children who crave stability and predictability can become emotionally overwhelmed when routines, environments, and expectations suddenly change—even when the experience itself is positive and enjoyab
S3E44 - How Play Therapy Helps Even When Nothing in Their Environment Changes
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I answer a common question parents ask: "How can play therapy help if nothing in my child's environment is changing?" I explain why child-centered play therapy is effective even when difficult circumstances remain the same. The goal of CCPT is not to control the environment or force other people to change—it's to help the child devel
S3E43 - Reverse Pandora's Box: Can My Child Lose the Progress They've Made in Therapy?
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about one of the biggest fears parents have after things begin improving: "What if we go backwards?" When life becomes calmer and more regulated, many parents worry that their child could suddenly return to the same level of anxiety, aggression, or emotional chaos they experienced before therapy. I explain why that fear is und
S3E42 - Can My Child Do Play Therapy and Occupational Therapy at the Same Time?
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom whose child is currently in play therapy and making great progress, but who is also considering adding occupational therapy. I explain why we have to be thoughtful anytime we add multiple therapies into a child's schedule. Therapy of any kind is hard work for kids—emotionally, mentally, and sometimes physically—and it's easy for children to become ov
S3E41 - How Kids Learn to Trust Themselves
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain one of the most important shifts that happens for children in the play therapy process—the change in their internal dialogue. Many children start with a fear-based mindset that sounds like "oh no, what if," where they feel powerless, overwhelmed, and unsure they can handle what might happen. This often shows up as anxiety,
S3E40 - The Roller Coaster of Child Counseling Progress
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain why a child's growth and healing process is not linear, even though we often expect it to be. As adults, we tend to think in straight lines—progress should move steadily forward. But children don't think or process that way. As they work through emotions and experiences, their path looks much more like a roller coaster, wit
S3E39 - Child "Stealing": Why It Happens and How to Handle It
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom about her child taking things that don't belong to her. I explain that while this behavior can feel alarming, it is actually very common in childhood and is usually tied to development, impulse, and a child's desire to meet a need in the moment. Children often understand that taking things is wrong, but they don't yet have the ability to reason throu
S3E38 - The Wave Model: From Tsunami to Tide
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I introduce a visual way to understand your child's behavior before and after child-centered play therapy — what I call The Wave Model: From Tsunami to Tide. Before children develop the skills to regulate, communicate, and make sense of their emotions, their behavior often shows up in extremes. The highs are very high, the lows are v
S3E37 - The Pendulum Swing: Why Kids Go to Extremes Before They Find Balance
In this episode, I explain the concept of the pendulum swing and why it is such an important picture for understanding what happens in child-centered play therapy. When children have felt powerless in everyday life, the permissive playroom gives them a chance to experience the opposite. They are allowed to take charge, make decisions, and even swing all the way into dictatorial power. That can loo
S3E36 - The Anger Iceberg: What Your Child Is Really Feeling
In this episode, I explain the concept of the anger iceberg and how it completely changes the way we understand our children's behavior. What we see on the surface—yelling, hitting, defiance, aggression—is often just a small piece of what's actually going on. Underneath that anger is something much bigger: hurt, disappointment, fear, frustration, or overwhelm. Kids don't choose anger because it's
S3E35 - How Birth Order Shapes Your Child's Personality
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I walk you through how birth order shapes your child's personality—and why that matters more than most parents realize. I explain the common tendencies of oldest, middle, and youngest children, and how the dynamics between siblings influence behavior, motivation, and relationships. When you understand birth order, so many things star
S3E34 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Why Kids Melt Down (And What It Actually Means)
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain one of the most important mindset shifts we can make as parents: behavior is communication. When children don't yet have an emotional vocabulary, they can't tell us what they're feeling—they have to show us. That's why big emotions often come out as tantrums, aggression, or seemingly irrational behavior. What looks like "mi
S3E33 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Helping Children Build Healthy Self-Esteem
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about self-esteem, the seventh and final common issue that often brings children into child-centered play therapy. Self-esteem isn't something children are born with—it develops over time as they begin to understand who they are and what they are capable of. When a child struggles with self-esteem, you often see hesitation, se
S3E32 - ADHD Diagnosis: What Parents Need to Think Through
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom who is trying to decide whether to pursue an ADHD evaluation for her six-year-old while he is already in play therapy. I walk through the larger issue many parents face — the pressure to evaluate, diagnose, and medicate quickly — and how that differs from a child-centered approach that looks at the whole child first. I explain why behavior should nev
S3E31 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Relational Struggles (When Kids Have Trouble Connecting)
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about relational issues — when children struggle socially, don't seem to connect with peers, or have difficulty maintaining friendships. I explain that these struggles are often rooted in a lack of identity or self-concept. When a child doesn't know who they are, they try on different roles from day to day, which makes it hard
S3E30 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Understanding Aggression in Kids (What's Really Behind It)
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about aggression — one of the most common concerns that brings children into child-centered play therapy. I explain that aggression is usually rooted in one of two things: dysregulation combined with a lack of emotional vocabulary, or a mask for vulnerability. When children don't have the words for what they're feeling and don
S3E29 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Internalizing Behaviors (When Kids Keep It All Inside)
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about internalizing behaviors and how they often go unnoticed because these kids keep everything inside. Internalizing children feel just as deeply as externalizing children, but instead of showing their distress outwardly, they stuff it. Over time, that stored-up emotion builds tension until it finally breaks through in a flo
S3E28 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Externalizing Behaviors (When Big Feelings Come Out as Big Behavior)
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain externalizing behaviors — what they are, why they happen, and how child-centered play therapy helps. Externalizing kids show their distress outwardly through behaviors like yelling, hitting, throwing, running, or melting down. These children are big feelers with intense internal experiences, and their behavior is their way
S3E27 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Understanding Power Struggles in Child-Centered Play Therapy
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I focus on power and control — one of the most common reasons children enter child-centered play therapy. I explain why kids who constantly push, demand, and fight for control are not being manipulative or defiant, but are responding to a deep sense of powerlessness in their lives. Children have very little control over their daily w
S3E26 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Understanding Anxiety in Child-Centered Play Therapy
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I focus on anxiety — one of the most common reasons parents seek child-centered play therapy for their children. I explain how anxiety usually isn't something that suddenly appears, but instead reflects an underlying predisposition that has been present for a long time. Often, a single event brings that anxiety to the surface, and fr
S3E25 - "That's Mine!" Understanding Possessive Behavior in Kids
In this episode, I answer a question from Melissa about children who are possessive of their things and struggle with sharing. I explain why phrases like "that's mine" are often tied to power and control, and why this behavior is also developmentally appropriate, especially for younger children. Kids only have control over a few areas of their lives, so when they feel powerless, they grab control
S3E24 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Layers of an Onion-How Children Work Through Issues in Play Therapy
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain the idea of layers of an onion and how it helps parents understand what's really happening as children work through challenges in child-centered play therapy. Each issue a child brings — anxiety, control, regulation, self-esteem, fear — is its own layer, but none of them exist in isolation. They are all connected and influe
S3E23 - How to Respond When Children Are Put in the Middle of a Divorce and Conflicting Messages
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom navigating a difficult co-parenting situation during divorce. Her young children are repeating things they've been told at the other parent's house — including statements that aren't true and comments that put them in the middle of adult conflict. I explain why shielding children from divorce details is not only appropriate, but essential for their e
S3E22 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Why Kids' Brains Work Differently in Therapy
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain how a child's brain works differently from an adult's brain in therapy — and why that difference matters so much. Many parents assume therapy is therapy, but children don't process experiences through logic, language, or abstract thinking the way adults do. I compare adult brains to waffles and children's brains to cooked s
S3E21 - Helping Kids Speak Up in Co-Parenting Situations
In this episode, I answer a question from Deborah about co-parenting, shared custody, and how to support a 12-year-old who doesn't want to go back and forth between homes. I explain why, even at this age, kids are still not comfortable using words to handle emotionally charged situations, especially when feelings are involved. Expecting a child to clearly and calmly advocate for themselves in a te
S3E20 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Self-Fulfilling Prophecy (How Child-Centered Play Therapy Changes the Story)
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain the concept of self-fulfilling prophecy and how it shapes a child's behavior, identity, and sense of self. Children often become what the people in their lives expect them to be — not because those expectations are spoken directly, but because they're communicated through tone, reactions, labels, and assumptions. I talk abo
S3E19 - Sibling Jealousy: A Middle-Child Perspective
In this episode, I answer a question from Kylee about sibling jealousy — specifically how her seven-year-old daughter reacts during her siblings' birthdays. I explain how birth order plays a significant role in this dynamic and why middle children often struggle with attention and identity. I walk through how jealousy fits into the bigger picture of being "the forgotten child" in a family of five,
S3E18 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: The Nature/Nurture Balance Behind Kids' Behavior
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about nature versus nurture and how both play a meaningful role in the behaviors parents often seek therapy for. I explain the difference between a child's inborn personality traits (nature) and the experiences that shape them over time (nurture), and why many struggles — anxiety, control, sensory sensitivities, aggression, ti
S3E17 - Why Your Child Fights for Control — and How to Respond
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about how many challenging behaviors in young children can be traced back to one core issue: power and control. Melanie wrote in with concerns about her two-and-a-half-year-old nephew — picky eating, tantrums, saying "no" to everything, refusing to follow directions, and melting down when overwhelmed. I walk through how each o
S3E16 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: "Snowball Effect" and the Power of Momentum in Child-Centered Play Therapy
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain the idea of snowball momentum — how one area of growth in child-centered play therapy naturally leads to progress in other areas. Children rarely work on just one issue in isolation. As they begin addressing themes like power and control, self-esteem, anxiety, or aggression, progress in one area creates movement in the othe
S3E15 - How Medical Trauma Impacts Power and Behavior in Kids
In this episode, I respond to a parent who's navigating a long list of confusing behaviors with her six-year-old — from struggles with socks and underwear to bedtime battles, toileting challenges, emotional outbursts, and power struggles throughout the day. I explain how all of these issues point back to one core theme: control. Children only have control over a few things in their world, and when
S3E14 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: How One Child in Therapy Changes the Whole Family
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about how your child becomes the "identified change agent" in the family once they begin child-centered play therapy. When a child starts growing, regulating better, and acting differently, it naturally disrupts the family's usual roles and patterns — and everyone else has to adjust. I explain why change in one person always l
S3E13 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Why Kids Fight for Control (and What to Do About It)
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about one of the biggest underlying causes of difficult behavior — a child's need for control. When kids feel like they have very little say in their world, they look for places where they can take control, and those power struggles often show up in everyday routines. I explain the five main areas where children naturally asse
S3E12 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Moving Toward the Middle-How Parent and Child Growth Connect
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about how parents and children move toward each other during the play therapy process — and why that shared movement is essential for lasting change. I explain what happens when a child begins to grow through therapy and how that growth naturally creates change for everyone in the family. I use two simple illustrations — conve
S3E11 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Seeing Behavior as Communication
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about how we interpret our children's behavior — and why it's so important to see behavior as communication. I share a simple but powerful reminder from the phrase that comes from Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (Landreth, Bratton, 2016) "focus on the doughnut, not the hole." When we fixate on what's missing or what frustrat
S3E10 - Handling Power Struggles and Big Feelings the Child-Centered Way
In this episode, I answer a listener question from Lisa about how play therapy helps when parents aren't in the room — and how to handle power struggles and aggression at home in a child-centered way. I explain why it's actually beneficial for children to be alone with the therapist, how they naturally bring their struggles into the playroom, and why parents' presence can sometimes prevent the rea
S3E9 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Four Universal Outcomes of Child-Centered Play Therapy
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain the four universal outcomes of child-centered play therapy — the lifelong benefits every child gains from the process, no matter what brought them into therapy. While each child works through their own unique challenges, all children who experience CCPT develop four essential skills: an expanded emotional vocabulary, increa
S3E8 - When Kids Won't Sleep Alone or Panic at School Drop-Off: A Parent's Guide to Separation Anxiety
In this episode, I answer a listener question from Ellie, a mom navigating separation anxiety with her 9- and 7-year-old children. We unpack the root of separation anxiety—how it's often more about a child's internal anxiety than the separation itself—and discuss the natural coping strategies kids develop in response. I also touch on the connection between anxiety and control, and how those patter
S3E7 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: How Symbolic and Thematic Play Reveal What Children Are Working Through (and Why Parents Should Understand It)
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain one of the most important parts of understanding what happens in the playroom — symbolic and thematic play. This episode helps parents make sense of how their child's play reflects their experiences, emotions, and healing process. I describe how children often "rewrite" their stories through play, working through fear, conf
S3E6 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: The Four Phases of Child-Centered Play Therapy
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I walk through the four phases of the child-centered play therapy process. Understanding these phases helps parents know what to expect as their child progresses through therapy — from the initial connection to the completion of treatment. I explain each stage — initiation, resistance, work, and termination — and describe what happen
S3E5 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: What the Therapist Does in Session
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I answer one of the most common questions parents have: What does a child-centered play therapist actually do? From the outside, it might look like kids are just playing, but in reality, everything the therapist says and does is intentional, skill-based, and grounded in the child-centered psychological theory. I explain how therapist
S3E4 - Parenting Through Co-Parenting Struggles and Sibling Fights
In this episode, I answer a question from Barry in the UK about co-parenting struggles, sibling conflict, and feeling overwhelmed when kids fight. I share encouragement from another listener's success story and then walk through Barry's challenges step by step. Together, we look at how to stay calm, use reflective responses, set clear limits, and avoid falling into power struggles. I also explain
S3E3 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: How Child-Centered Play Therapy Works
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain how child-centered play therapy (CCPT) actually works — and why it's different from directive play therapy. Parents often assume all play therapy looks the same, but there are big differences. In directive approaches, the therapist sets the agenda and teaches lessons. In CCPT, the child leads the process, and the therapist
S3E2 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Why Play Therapy Works
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about one of the biggest questions parents ask: Why does play therapy actually work? On the surface it looks like kids are just playing, but what's really happening is deep, hard emotional work. Play creates the safety and freedom children need to show their fears, frustrations, and struggles in ways they can't with words. I e
S3E1 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: New Series Intro & Adulthood Bias- Why Parents Misunderstand Their Kids
I'm excited to kick off Season 3 of the Play Therapy Parenting Podcast! This series is called Parent Companion for Play Therapy, and it's designed both for parents whose children are in play therapy and for any parent who wants to better understand their kids. Whether you're navigating the therapy process or simply looking for a new perspective at home, these episodes will give you clarity, confid
S2E52 - Effectively Handling Power Struggles with Your Strong-Willed Child
In this episode, I answer follow-up questions from a listener named Brianna about managing challenging behaviors with her 9-year-old daughter. We talk about how to handle situations where kids refuse to make choices, how to give choices effectively without creating power struggles, and how to respond when children act out as a way to regain control. I also touch on common issues like initiating fi
S2E51 - Toilet Training at 9 or 10? You're Not Alone—and There Is Hope for Older Kids
In this episode, I respond to a listener question from a mom struggling with her nearly 10-year-old son's ongoing toileting issues. If you've ever felt isolated, frustrated, or overwhelmed because your child isn't toilet trained at an age when society says they "should be," you are not alone. I walk through why toileting can be an anxiety-driven control issue, especially for children on the autism
S2E50 - Power Struggles with Kids: The Surprising Fix That Works
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom of two daughters who is struggling with sass, sibling fights, and power struggles—especially with her 9-year-old. While it may feel like a dozen separate issues, I explain how these behaviors can often be traced back to one underlying theme: a child's need for power and control. Once we see it through that lens, things become much clearer. I walk thr
S2E49 - When Siblings Clash: Rebuilding Connection Through Presence and Patience
In this episode, I respond to a question from Jenn in Connecticut, a mom navigating ongoing conflict between her two teenage sons. Despite being in individual therapy, the boys struggle to connect, and family time has become a battleground. I explore how small, seemingly insignificant moments build over time to shape strained relationships, and I offer a practical, child-centered strategy to help
S2E48 - Rethinking School for Anxious Kids: What Parents Should Know
In this episode, I respond to a question from Caitlin, a mom navigating school refusal, anxiety, and potential learning disabilities with her 9-year-old son. I share my thoughts on how to approach school struggles from both a therapeutic and practical standpoint, including the importance of evaluations for learning disorders, the pros and cons of changing school environments, and what to consider
S2E47 - Only Child, Big Questions: Navigating Screen Time, Co-Parenting, and Sleep
In this episode, I answer three questions from Jillian in Colorado, all centered around real-life parenting challenges. As a fellow mom of an only child, I share what has worked for me in finding the balance between being your child's playmate and maintaining healthy boundaries—especially when screen time starts to feel like a guilt-driven substitute. I also talk through how to handle co-parenting
S2E46 - How to Set Limits When the Behavior Comes Out of Nowhere
In this episode, I answer a question from Kendall about how to set limits when you can't predict a behavior in advance—like when a child suddenly lashes out at a sibling "for no reason." I walk through how to balance proactive expectations with in-the-moment limit setting using the ACT model (Acknowledge, Communicate the limit, Target alternatives). I also explain how to shift the language from pa
S2E45 - "Stay With Me!": Parenting Through Bedtime Battles with Confidence—Without Becoming the Crutch
In this episode, I answer a question from a mom navigating intense bedtime struggles with her highly anxious daughter. When emotions escalate and her child feels panicked or overwhelmed, she questions whether enforcing boundaries might seem insensitive. I break down what's really going on—how anxiety drives a need for control—and why bedtime often becomes the battleground. Using child-centered str
S2E44 - Toilet Training Power Struggles: What to Say (and Not Say) to Avoid a Battle
In this episode, I respond to a question from Hannah in England about her 3.5-year-old son who is regressing in his toilet training—especially around poop. I walk through how power struggles, control, and developmental readiness all play a role in potty setbacks. I explain how enforcement choices from the child-centered model can be used to return responsibility to the child, allowing them to expe
S2E43 - My Child Hits Himself and Says He's Bad—What Do I Do?
In this episode, I respond to a question from Whitney about her six-year-old son's negative self-talk and self-harming behaviors—things like calling himself "stupid" or hitting himself after making a mistake. I explain why these behaviors are often rooted in low self-esteem, anxiety, and low frustration tolerance—and why it's not about attention or defiance, but maladaptive coping. I walk through
S2E42 - Trying to Reflect Feelings but Freezing in the Moment? You're Not Alone
In this episode, I answer an email from Sarah, a mom whose two boys are in school-based play therapy and who is just beginning to learn about the child-centered approach. Sarah shares her excitement, questions, and challenges as she starts to apply what she's learned—especially the difficulty of knowing what to do in the moment with strong emotions. I talk about the common struggle parents face wh
S2E41 - When Someone Dies: What to Say to Your Child and How to Say It
In this episode, I talk about how to have honest, age-appropriate conversations with your child when a death occurs—especially when it's sudden and unexpected. I walk through how to talk to children in a way that gives them truth without overwhelming them, and why sparing them from information often does more harm than good. I also explain how grief looks different in children than in adults, how
S2E40 - When Kids Won't Sleep Alone: Helping Anxious Children Reclaim Their Room
In this episode, I respond to Sunny from Australia, who shares her family's ongoing bedtime struggle with her 6.5-year-old daughter—an intelligent, big-feeling child working through anxiety and night terrors. After a year of consistency that led to sleep deprivation and exhaustion, Sunny and her partner ultimately let their daughter sleep on a separate bed in their room. Now, they're wondering how
S2E39 - Potty Training Power Struggles: What's Really Going On?
In this episode, I answer a question from Claire, a mom of 4-year-old twins, who's navigating the challenges of potty training and trying to decide if limits or consequences are appropriate when accidents happen. I talk through the developmental reality of toileting at this age, the somatic and emotional components that impact bodily regulation, and why accidents—even when a child "should know bet
S2E38 - When Parents Struggle: How to Support Your Child Through Life's Hard Seasons w/ Special Guest Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby—a psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and founder of Growing Self Counseling & Coaching—for an important conversation about how our struggles as parents affect our kids, especially during seasons of divorce, separation, or personal crisis. We explore what parents need to know when navigating big transitions, why your own emotional health
S2E37 - When Kids Want to Quit Play Therapy: What Parents Need to Know
In this episode, I answer a question from Sabrina about her 10-year-old daughter who suddenly refused to continue play therapy after just a few weeks. She now says she'd rather journal or talk with her mom instead. Sabrina wonders if play at home can bring the same results as therapy and how to navigate this resistance. I explain the four phases of play therapy, why resistance is a natural and exp
S2E36 - Power Struggles & Choice Giving: What to Do When a Child Says "Nothing"
In this episode, I answer a question from Anne in Germany about her three-year-old daughter who refuses to choose when given enforcement choices. Instead of picking an option, she repeatedly says nothing, creating a power struggle around limit-setting. I explain why choosing "nothing" is still a choice and how to handle this scenario without engaging in a battle of wills. I walk through how to cal
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