Inner Revolution: Overcoming Pornography
My name is Enoch. I'm currently getting my Master's Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy with a specialization in addiction. I'm also a Mindfulness Life Coach. Pornography is one of the hardest things to overcome. But, good news for you, it's possible! You aren't able to passively overcome this addiction. It's going to take an inner revolution! This podcast will provide you with all the resources you need to fight and win. Let's get started!
Episodes
79. The Secret: The One Ingredient You Are Probably Missing in Your Recovery Journey
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78. The Science of Why You Can't Stop
Schedule a FREE consultation HEREIn this episode of Inner Revolution, we’re skipping the moral lectures and looking straight at the hardware inside your skull. If you’ve been stuck in a compulsive loop with porn, it’s not a defect in your character, it’s just a highly adaptive piece of machinery responding predictably to an extreme environment.Inside the episode:The Biological Shield: Why massive
77. How to Get Ahead of 99% of Others in Porn Addiction
Schedule a FREE consultation HERE: In this episode of Inner Revolution, we break down a radical, counterintuitive strategy inspired by philosopher Alan Watts to help you get ahead of 99% of people struggling to quit. You will discover why the "cult of seriousness" and the obsession with counting clean days are actually keeping your brain trapped in a relapse loop. If you are tired of the
76. The AI Girlfriend Trap: Engineering the Perfect Delusion
Schedule a FREE consultation HEREWe live in the most hyper-connected era in human history, yet we are drowning in an epidemic of loneliness. But what happens when the tech industry realizes it can monetize that isolation?In this episode of Inner Revolution, we peel back the layers on the surging rise of AI companions. An AI girlfriend is engineered to be a perfect, tailored mirror for the ego—alwa
75. They Profit Off Your Loneliness. Fight Back.
Schedule a FREE consultation HEREThink your struggle with pornography is just a personal failure of willpower? Think again. In this episode of Inner Revolution, we pull back the curtain on the multi-billion-dollar adult industry to expose the raw truth: you aren't just fighting a habit, you are fighting an army of data scientists and supercomputers designed to keep you hooked, isolated, and es
74. Moral Incongruence: The Reason You Feel "Split" in Two
Schedule a FREE consultation HEREHave you ever felt like you’re living two lives? On the outside, you are a person of integrity, faith, and ambition, but in private, you’re trapped in a cycle that feels impossible to break.In this episode of Inner Revolution, we dive into the powerful psychological concept of Moral Incongruence (PPMI). We explore why the "addiction" isn't always abou
73. Intimacy Without Risk: The Lie That Keeps You Addicted
Most people think pornography addiction is just about dopamine, but there’s a deeper "glitch" at play: The Loneliness Paradox. In today’s episode, we break down how the screen hijacks your survival instincts, tricks your brain into thinking it’s "socially successful," and actually atrophies your ability to connect with real people. If you’re tired of feeling hollow, it’s time t
72. Pain is Inevitable...Suffering is Optional
Pain in recovery in unavoidable, but the suffering that destroys recovery is usually comes from how we react to pain, not the pain itself. In this episode, we talk about the buddhist analogy of the second arrow. Schedule a FREE consultation HERE
71. This Could Be Stopping Your Recovery
Most people wait an excessive amount of time before they start recovery. Your recovery standards could be getting in the way. Schedule a FREE consultation HERE
70. Cut the Ties or Keep the Cravings: What it takes to quit an addiction
Most men try to quit porn without changing the life that feeds it.Late nights. Endless scrolling. Isolation. Cheap dopamine.If you want the cravings to stop, you can’t just fight harder—you have to cut the ties that keep pulling you back.In this episode, we talk about the hard truth most people avoid: freedom requires sacrifice.Schedule a FREE consultation HERE
69. What's Keeping You Stuck in Porn?
You’ve tried.You’ve promised yourself you’d stop.So why are you still stuck?In this episode, we uncover the real reasons many men struggle for years, and the systems that finally help break the cycle.Schedule a FREE consultation HERE
68. Am I broken because of porn?
In this episode, we are going to talk about the fact that you are NOT broken. Your brain has simply adapted. Schedule a FREE consultation HERE
67. Deepfake Porn is Here...What Now?
In this episode, we talk about a news article published in USA Today about Deepfake porn and some of the realities it can bring. Schedule a FREE consultation HEREHere is the article we talked about
66. Married But Alone: The Hidden Link to Porn
In this episode, we talk about why you may still struggle with porn even after marriage! Schedule a FREE consultation HERE:
65. Lock In: How to Put Porn Behind You
In this episode, we talk about Bryan Johnson's video on the eight steps to reclaiming your life. A lot of the principles he talks about are core ideas in the world of pornography addiction. So let's dive in! Schedule a FREE consultation HERELink to Bryan Johnson's video, we talk about HERE
64. You Have Discipline But Still Struggle with Porn: What Now?
Are you disciplined and high achieving, but for whatever reason, can't seem to put porn behind you? This episode is for you! Schedule a FREE consultation HERE
63. Why You Are Addicted to Recovery
Schedule a FREE 15 minute consultation HEREWhere focus goes, energy flows. At times, we may tend to focus on the wrong things even when we mean well during recovery. In this episode, we talk about the potential issue with recovery and how to fix that!
62. If you have asked, "How did I end up here?" This episode is for you
Schedule a FREE consultation HEREHave you ever found yourself watching something you never thought you would — not because you truly wanted to, but because the old stuff just didn’t hit anymore?In this episode, we dive into the Escalation Effect, why “normal” porn can stop working over time, and how tolerance, dopamine downregulation, and novelty-seeking reshape arousal patterns.
61. If You Feel Lost in Recovery, Start Here
Looking for a Therapist of Coach to help with Pornography addiction? Schedule a FREE consultation HEREQuitting porn isn’t just about willpower — it’s about direction.In this episode, we talk about why a lack of purpose keeps you stuck in addiction. When you don’t know what you’re building, who you’re becoming, or what you actually value, comfort becomes your default. Porn becomes easy relief in a
60. Relapse After 30, 60, 90 Days: Why it Happens.
You made it 30… 60… maybe even 90 days, and then you relapsed.In this episode of Inner Revolution, we break down why relapse often happens after a strong start in recovery from porn. It’s not about weakness. It’s about overconfidence, emotional flooding, identity shifts that haven’t fully formed, and the quiet drift that happens when structure fades.If you’ve ever felt like you “ruined everything”
59. Porn and Attachment: What Are You Really Looking For?
In this episode, we explore how your attachment style — avoidant or anxious — may be shaping your relationship with pornography. Is porn helping you avoid vulnerability? Or is it soothing fears of rejection and abandonment?We’ll break down how attachment patterns are formed in childhood, how they show up in adulthood, and why porn can become a strategy for emotional regulation rather than just sex
58. P*RN is the BEST
Porn is the best at what it does. It delivers instant pleasure, powerful dopamine, and total secrecy, no effort required. So why do so many people turn to it… and why does it so often leave them stuck?In this episode, we take an honest, non-shaming look at why people watch porn and why those same reasons can quietly work against us over time. From brain chemistry to emotional regulation and intima
57. Why You Don't Achieve Your Goals HINT: They Weren't Yours to Begin With
Have you ever chased a goal that looked right on paper—but somehow never lasted or left you feeling empty when you achieved it? In this episode, we explore why so many goals fail through the lens of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). We break down socially compliant goals, experiential avoidance, and the difference between the pain of presence and the pain of absence. Most importantly, we un
56. Two Things Can Be True: Pornography, Shame, and Self-Worth
If you’ve ever believed that struggling with pornography means you’re broken, this episode is for you.We explore how shame affects the brain, why addiction is an adaptation—not a defect—and how understanding your worth as unchanging can finally open the door to freedom and lasting change.Schedule a FREE consultation HERE
55. The Root Cause Won't Fix You: What Does it Take to Overcome Pornography?
ou’ve probably heard that if you can just identify the root cause of pornography use, trauma, loneliness, attachment wounds, anxiety, then the problem will go away. And while understanding the root is important, it’s rarely enough to create lasting change. In this episode of the Inner Revolution, we talk about why insight alone doesn’t heal compulsive pornography habits—and what actually does. Whe
54. Rebuilding Trust After a Betrayal
Trust is built over years of being consistent, but it can be shattered in an instant. Once trust is broken, can you rebuild it? In this episode, we talk about what it takes to bring back trust in a relationship after a spouse discovers there has been lying and deceit around pornography addiction. Looking for a Therapist or Coach? Use the link here to schedule a FREE consultation to see if we will
53. How to Get Real Results for Change
Have you even tried thinking your way out of an urge or tough thought? How did that go? Some people can think their way out of things. However, most people can't. When you have an urge that won't go away, what then? In this episode, we talk about what will need to happen in order for you to see results.
52. The REAL Problem Behind Porn Addiction
Most people who struggle with addiction, let alone pornography feel like they are broken. That's not the case. You're body is working the way is should. You have just trained it to ask a certain way. The good thing about the brain and body is that it can change; YOU can change! This episode will give you some insight on how you can start. To schedule a FREE consultation, you can do that he
51. The ED Crisis: Take the Magical Blue Pill and All Your Worries Will Go Away
Most people want the easy way out. It makes total sense. Who actually enjoys working through hard thoughts, feelings, and emotions? Pills for ED are becoming more common than ibuprofen (not a fact, don't quote me on that...or do...). Why is that? Today we explore different reasons the ED crisis is becoming more and more prominent in the younger generations than ever before. It's not just a
50. Don't Believe Everything You Feel (It's not that deep)
We tend to put too much weight on everything we think or feel. Generally this is going to be causing more harm than good! So now what? In this episode, we talk about different ways your brain is lying to you and what to do about it. Link to schedule a session at Innovo Counseling and Wellness: https://innovo.clientsecure.me/Or text: (385) 451-0100
49. What it Takes to Overcome Porn
In this episode, Enoch talks about multiple aspects of life that can impact recovery and what it actually takes to overcome pornography. If you are struggling with pornography addiction, betrayal trauma, depression, and anxiety, schedule a session below: https://innovo.clientsecure.meOr text this number to get scheduled: (385) 451-0100
48. For the Betrayed and Addicted: The Reality of Pornography Addiction
In this episode of The Inner Revolution Podcast, we dive into the hidden ways pornography impacts relationships long before anyone discovers the behavior. Even when kept secret, porn reshapes emotional connection, intimacy, and the unspoken dynamics between partners. With a mix of clinical insight and honest, straight talk, we break down how secrecy erodes trust, why partners sense disconnection e
47. Why You Can't Quit Porn
An addiction to pornography starts before the screen turns on. It begins in your thoughts. What can you do about that? Can't we control all of our thoughts? In this episode, we will talk about a concept known as Managing and how it can play a key role in your recovery.
46. How to create the life you want through committed action
In this episode of The Inner Revolution Podcast, we dive into the sixth pivot of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) — Committed Action — and explore how all six pivots work together to create a life of meaning, purpose, and psychological flexibility.You’ll learn why real transformation happens when we start FEELING good instead of chasing feeling GOOD, and how the six pivots; Acceptance, Defu
45. Porn and Values: Do Values Actually Matter?
In this episode, we dive into the reasons behind values. What is their purpose? How can they benefit you when it comes to overcoming pornography addiction? Can they guide you to making better choices, rather than turning to porn to cope with uncomfortable feelings? If so, how? All that and more in this episode!
44. Pivot 4: Why is mindfulness important?
When it comes to pornography addiction, mindfulness is key. It's hard to make decisions in your life when it doesn't even feel like you are in this reality. This is why pivot #4 is here!
43. Pivot 3: Your Observing Self
Have you ever been really anxious or upset, and you think to yourself, "Why am I so angry right now? This is strange." That is your observing self. Is this something you can always access, this part of you that is not affected by the overwhelming thoughts, emotions, and feelings? When it comes to things like pornography addiction, this is a key pivot. This allows you to take a step back
42. Pivot 2: Acceptance leads to freedom
This is the second episode in a six-part series where we talk about the six pivots to achieve psychological flexibility. Pivot 2 is a powerful step towards becoming the person you want. It doesn't start by challenging your thoughts or emotions; it starts by accepting them. Psychological flexibility will allow you to live the kind of life you have always wanted. When you are fighting porn addic
41. Pivot 1: Learning to Un-Hook From Sticky Thoughts Through Defusion
In this episode of The Inner Revolution Podcast, we dive into the first step of psychological flexibility in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): Defusion. Learn how to unhook from sticky thoughts, quiet the “dictator within,” and create space to choose actions that align with your values. Perfect for anyone navigating anxiety, depression, or addiction.Defusion Handout: Click Here for the Defu
40. Is Porn Art?
Let's take a look at this argument around pornography being classified as art. What do you think? Is porn art?
39. "I don't love myself": Why does that matter?
In the days of constantly comparing ourselves to others through an online presence, it can be hard to not love yourself for who you are. Even when you are doing your best to live a value-driven life, self-love can be lackluster. Hopefully, in this episode, you can have a better sense of how to love yourself, even when it feels like you can't.
38. Addicted to porn? Start here.
We tend to overcomplicate addiction recovery. Addiction is not complicated; it requires consistency. Consistency in doing the small things day in and day out. Most people don't want to hear that, but it's the truth, and it's what works. In this episode, I talk about one place you can start:)
37. "I am worthless" Is that true?
Can your self-worth change? Is it based on what you do? In this episode, I talk about the importance of self-worth in recovery. Buckle up!
36. Cognitive Fusion: Just like eating a Reese's
When you think of eating a reeses, what happens? You jump on the train of thought and experience what it would be like to eat it. This all happens in a matter of milliseconds. This is why you start to salivate when thinking about eating your favorite foods. We are constantly jumping from train to train in our sea of thoughts. In context of addiction, this means that we can always get off the train
35. Can you cure pxrn addiction?
There is a misconception in the mental health world surrounding addiction. We tend to think that a specific amount of time without relapse is the end-all be-all with the addiction. However, recovery is a lifelong process. The brain and body will never forget what it was like to view pxrn when you were feeling stressed, sad, mad, etc. We need to treat recovery like our values. It is not a destinati
34. "How many days can I stay sober" is a waste of time.
Focusing on time is a waste of time. When it comes to addiction, we tend to focus solely on how many days we have been sober rather than focusing on the things that bring change.
33. Is it your fault you're addicted?
If you create a porn dependency from a young age, is it your fault? Let me know your thoughts!
32. A tragic story that is our reality.
I want to reiterate that I do not personally know this family or this young man. My intentions are not to shine a bad light on the family. What happened here is tragic, and we need to keep them in our prayers. I want to use this as a catalyst in starting a conversation about normalizing talk around pxrn, sxx, and sexuality in general. We talk about the bad without any of the good. That has to stop
31. Porn rules the world. Don't let it rule your life.
Enough said.
30. Wired and Tired: How Screens Affect Your Porn Habits
In this episode, I talk about the negative affects that screen time can have on your porn habits. Screens are not going away...neither is porn. We need to learn to how to live in a world that runs rampant with both. This episode marks the beginning of your journey toward changing your habits around your phone. Hoorah!
29. The Process of Change: Why You Are Stuck
You know what you need to do when it comes to change. In this episode, I talk about some guidlines you can use when working on changing yourself through this process of recovery.
28. The First Steps to Overcome Porn: You need to ACT
In this episode, I will review some key principles within Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). If you practice and use these tools daily, they will give you a strong foundation for recovery!
27. Recovery Capital: The Key to a Strong Recovery
When it comes to recovery, most people don't have a solid base from which to build. A lot of people have a filter on their phones, and that's it. However, when it comes to pornography addiction, the filter alone will not cut it. In this episode, Enoch discusses four key areas in recovery capital that can be strengthened to increase one's chances of recovery. Take the Recovery Capital t
26. The Second Arrow: Shame and Guilt in Addiction
When you PMO, you may struggle with feelings of shame, guilt, and negative self-talk. The Buddhist monks refer to this as the second arrow. These negative experiences are self-inflicted and can become a habit that will drive you deeper into the addiction itself. Becoming aware of this second arrow is one of the first steps that need to take place in the recovery process.
25. It's Not Your Fault You're Addicted
This episode goes out to all those who think they are broken, not enough, or feel shame because of where they are at this point in their lives.Most likely, your addiction started when you were fairly young. When you realized this was a problem, it was too late; you were hooked. In this episode, I aim to help you have more empathy and patience with yourself on this road of recovery.
24. Are You Willing to Quit?
Before starting the road of recovery, you need to ask yourself, are you willing to quit? In this episode, I talk about three key questions that can help catalyze your recovery process!
23. Porn Addiction: Why Not You?
If you are struggling with addiction, odds are you don't think you can overcome it. Why not? Why not you? In this episode, I talk about ways to make that become your reality:)
22. When You Have an Urge: Drop Anchor!
When you have an urge to watch pornography, it can feel like you are thrown into the middle of a big storm with no way out. Luckily, there is a way to observe these thoughts and emotions without being controlled by them; this is done by dropping anchor with the ACE formula:)
21. Pornography Can Cause Pain!
In this episode, I talk about two different kinds of pain; the pain of presence and the pain of absence. Pornography addiction can cause both of these at various times or you may experience both at once! I also go into Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and how it can help you understand what to do when you feel this pain.
20. Pornography: The Greatest Hoax of Our Time
You are getting duped by pornography! In this episode, I talk about the Gypsy Moth and what that has to do with pornography addiction.
References:
Anna Salleh, “Sex Pheromones Cut Pesticide Use,” ABC Science Online, October 16, 2000.
Jason S. Carroll, Laura M. Padilla-Walker, Larry J. Nelson, Chad D. Olson, Carolyn McNamara Barry, Stephanie D. Madsen, “Generation XXX: Pornography Acceptance and
19. Porn: Is It Possible to Quit?
Some days it can feel like the addiction will never end. Is it even possible? In this episode, I will cover the six stages of recovery and what you can realistically expect regarding how long you need to prepare for.
18. P*rn: Why Men and Women Differ
Hey, all! Thanks for tuning into the show:) In this episode, I talk about some of the differences in why women may respond differently to men when it comes to consuming pornography.
Please leave a rating and review if you found this helpful! Check out all the great references below!
References:
Original study talked about last week
Bridges, A. J., & Morokoff, P. J. (2011). Sexual media use
17. Is Porn Healthy For Women?
In this episode, I go over a study published by the Cambridge University Press that looks at the differences porn can make in the lives of both men and women when it comes to specific outcomes!
Reference: The article is here
16. Feeling Suffocated: Find a Way
In this episode, we sit down and have a real talk. Come join:)
15. Are You Addicted to P*rn?
Here are five different signs you may be addicted to p*rn!
If you have enjoyed this episode, leave a rating and review:)
14. P*rn and Accountability: Six Benefits From Vulnerability
Even seeing the word accountability can cause anxiety and stress when it comes to porn addiction!
You are not alone. Being accountable to someone about an addiction puts you in a vulnerable spot, but it's worth it! In this episode, I talk about six benefits that come from accountability:)
Outro music by Cosmonkey. Check him out!
13. Struggling w/ P*rn? You Need ACT!
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy can be a game changer for you when it comes to pornography addiction. In this episode, I talk about how you can step out of this war with your urge to watch porn. Find out how in this episode!
Outro song by Cosmonkey. Go jam out:)
12. You're Not Alone...Clearly
In this episode, I talk about some wild statistics around the p*rn industry. Check out all the articles below to learn more!
References:
Fight the New Drug
10.8 Billion...
97 Billion Dollars
11. Watching P*rn? H.A.L.T.!
When you have an urge to watch p*rn and PMO, HALT is an easy way to remind yourself that you may have unmet needs that can be contributing to this urge, to begin with. I guess you'll have to listen to this episode to understand what it means;)
References:
The brain when angry
The brain when lonely
The brain when tired
Outro song Mercy by Cosmonkey. Check them out:D
10. Why Filters Aren't the Answer to Your P*rn Addiction
Have you ever thought that the filters on your phone would solve your p*rn habits? How did that turn out? Probably not that great. In this episode, I talk about why filters are not the answer; a helpful tool, sure, but not the answer.
9. When You Have the Urge to Watch P*rn, Do This!
When you have an urge to watch porn, more than likely, what you are currently doing isn't that helpful. We tend to fight those thoughts head-on and expect to win...when in reality, we lose a lot! Next time you have an urge to PMO, give this a try!
8. The Stigma is Worse Than the Addiction
Often, the stigma that surrounds pornography is WORSE than porn itself...crazy huh? But why? I guess you'll have to listen, dang it.
7. Is Pornography Really That Bad?
I'm sure you have wondered such a question...how mysterious. In this episode, I talk about one particular consequence that can come from porn consumption. If you have a hard time focusing, regulating emotions, or a difficult time saying no to porn, you may be dealing with such a consequence!
6. How To Quit Porn Through Goal Setting!
When struggling with pornography addiction, a common goal is, "I want to quit porn." Although that's a great goal and is the goal for an end result, it's not a helpful goal at the moment as you struggle with addiction. In this episode, Enoch talks about how to set more helpful goals to help you achieve sobriety!
5. Does Pornography Addiction Exist?
Believe it or not, this is a controversial topic in the mental health community. In this episode, we are going to try and figure out if porn addiction exists. What do you think?
4. The Role of Shame in Porn Addiction
There is no other addiction in the world that carries as much shame as porn addiction. If you struggle with porn addiction, this is a feeling you are more than familiar with, and it stinks!
In this episode, Enoch dissects this feeling of shame and why you may feel it when you PMO.
Reference: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6143989/#r70
3. Can My BRAIN Heal From PORNOGRAPHY Addiction?
This is a common question and the answer is...well, I guess you'll have to listen to the episode, darn it!
2. The Pornography Cycle
Why does a specific pornography video get boring after a minute or so? Why do you think other women/men are attractive even when you are married to or dating someone? All of this has to do with the Coolidge effect. In this episode, Enoch talks about several studies done on our poor rat friends and monkey brothers that help explain how the Coolidge effect works and how it will impact your life.
1. Why You Keep Going Back to Porn
Pornography addiction is a multifaceted issue which means there can be several reasons you keep going back! In this episode, Enoch talks about seven key aspects of your life that you need to look at when it comes to fighting this addiction.
Welcome to the Inner Revolution. Let's fight!
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