Healing Anxious Attachment
This podcast explores the real experience of a woman craving a book-worthy loving relationship but struggling with old patterns. It focuses on inner work beyond talk therapy, delving into subconscious programming and somatic healing to create a securely attached nervous system. Listeners learn tools to become confident in love and life, feeling supported and resourced. The host also offers a program called Becoming Secure for deeper transformation.
Episodes
How to Receive as a Strong and Capable Woman
You know you over-give. You know you find it hard to receive. You've probably known for a while.So why hasn't anything changed?In part 2, we get into what's actually keeping you stuck - and what it looks like to start softening without losing yourself.Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds
Why Strong Independent Women Feel So Alone in Relationships
You handle everything. You've built a life that proves you don't need anyone.So why does it still feel like nobody really sees you?In this episode, we get into why the very thing that makes you so capable is the same thing keeping real intimacy out - and where it all started.Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate them
Anxious attachment is actually your body protecting you (and how to get it to stop)
An episode about Internal Family Systems. The psychology framework to identify the different parts of ourselves and how they interplay (or sabotage) us.Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love.Live workshop June 7thLive Q&A July 14thAccess
Can You Actually Heal Anxious Attachment?
No one is born with anxious attachment style. So the short answer is yes, you can change your attachment to secure!In this epsiode you'll learn:• Why no one is born with anxious attachment, and what actually created yours• How your mother's nervous system shaped yours before you even had words for it• Why books, therapy, and podcasts haven't been enough, and what's missing from most healing
How to Calm Relationship Anxiety Right Now
An episode to listen to when you're feeling anxious right now. Or, listen now and save the teaching for later 🫶🏼.We also touch on how to regulate your emotions, come back to your own sense of safety, and create a more grounded, secure way of relating.See in you in there!GO DEEPER WITH JOHANNA 🦢 Join me inside Becoming HER - the place you come when therapy and books haven't been enough. For the wom
Why Men Don't Commit to Anxious Women
We're diving into the dynamic between anxious women and non-committal men, and how over-availability and trying to hold everything together can unintentionally create the very outcome you don’t want.We also touch on why anxious tendencies attract avoidant partners, and what truly creates the space for a man to step forward, invest, and choose you.See in you in there!GO DEEPER Join me inside Becomi
Why You Should Spend Time Away From Your Partner
In a world that often glorifies constant closeness, this episode explores the power of space within relationships.We dive into the concept of polarity - how attraction thrives when there’s a sense of individuality and magnetism between two people. Because when you’re always merged, something can start to fade.We also touch on why space can feel especially important for avoidant partners and why ma
Cycle Syncing for the Anxious Nervous System
One week you feel empowered, hot, regulated, grounded, making progress. The next you're spiralling, your inner critic is screaming, and you're convinced you've undone everything you've worked for. It's not a a setback - it's your internal winter. In this episode, we cover the four seasons of your cycle and how to eat, move, and schedule your life accordingly. Plus the specific codes that helped me
What Disordered Eating & Anxious Attachment Have In Common
What if your relationship with food isn’t just about food?In this episode, I share my own struggles with disordered eating and anxious attachment, and the surprising parallels I’ve noticed between the two. From craving reassurance in relationships to seeking comfort or control through food, these patterns often stem from the same place - fear of abandonment, lack of safety, and a deep need for con
ChatGPT Interviews Me! (and didn't hold back)
I asked chatgpt to play interviewer and focus on what would bring you the most value. Some of the questions we covered are:"What's one moment in your healing anxious attachment journey that really changed the game for you?""When we hear that the other person isn't ready to deepen a relationship what's one practice we can do to deepen our self trust in those moments?""What's one daily ritual or min
Why Effort, Patience, and People Pleasing Stops Working
In this episode, we explore what it means to move from forced to self-sourced. When external crutches like validation, and good-girl syndrome aren't enough and you’re called to become your own anchor.This conversation unpacks the emotional shifts, inner resilience, and self-trust that are built when you stop outsourcing safety, validation, and direction.If you’ve found yourself gripping and forcin
Anxious to Secure in 1 Year
In this episode, we dive into what it truly takes to become secure within one year. This conversation breaks down the key shifts, practices, and mindset changes required to transform your inner world. If you're ready to step into a version of yourself that feels calm, confident, and worthy of love, this episode is your roadmap to getting there. 🌟Join Becoming Secure Learn more here: https://link.b
How to Survive the Holidays - Boundaried, Grounded and Restored
The holidays can be triggering, here's how to protect your peace. This episode covers:-How you can bring more depth and feeling into your traditions -5 ways to clear and protect your energy-Discerning when to have the intense conversations Go Deeper into you Inner Work Journey: Join the Becoming Secure women’s membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxio
Finally Dating a Good Guy but Feeling Anxious
In this episode, we explore what happens when you finally meet a good, emotionally available man, but your anxious attachment starts to panic.We talk about why healthy love can feel unsafe when you’re used to chaos, inconsistency, or having to prove your worth in relationships. You’ll learn how to recognize when your nervous system is reacting to safety as unfamiliar, and how to start so
Breaking the Toxic Pattern of Productivity as Self Worth
In this episode, we dive into the toxic cycle of tying our value to how much we achieve or produce and why it pushes away healthy love. We talk about what happens when our reality revolves around being busy, rather than being fulfilled. And how women suffer when pleasure, joy, and creativity fall to the bottom of the list.This conversation also explores how perfectionism and the need for control c
Having Secure Standards: The End of ‘Almost Right’ Love
If you’ve ever held out for someone’s potential because you could feel how good they are deep down… this episode is for you.We’ll talk about:Why emotionally unavailable men can still feel magneticHow to stop mistaking intensity for loveMoving from shrinking into high standards for love What it really means to feel safe being chosenJoin the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use som
Releasing Anxiety from the Body
Release anxious energy on every level, from shifting your perspective to completing the stress cycle, holding discomfort, and using somatic practices to create real relief.I explore how to release anxiety on every level: the mental layer (shifting perspectives and letting go of rigid expectations), the physical layer (rest, hormones, and completing the stress cycle), the emotional layer (building
Psychology of the Inner Critic: Releasing Negative Beliefs
The inner critic and negative self-talk often feels like our own voice, but many of its harsh words aren’t truly yours. In this episode, I unpack how limiting beliefs get handed down through parents, teachers, and society, and how even one painful comment can loop in the mind as self-criticism. You’ll also learn how projections shape the way you see yourself and others, and I’ll guide you through
Trauma Explained: How Your Mind and Body Hold (and Heal) the Past
Trauma isn’t only about life-threatening events, it’s also the smaller wounds and unmet needs that shape how we think, feel, and protect ourselves. In this episode, we explore the layers of the mind (conscious, subconscious, unconscious), the difference between Big T and Little T trauma, and the trauma response or defense systems that develop as a result. You’ll learn how the body holds these memo
Inside Your Nervous System: Survival Modes & How to Feel Less Anxious
Your body has a default survival pattern like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn which shape how you respond to stress, emotions and triggers. In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize these patterns, understand your “window of tolerance,” and work with your nervous system to feel calmer and more in control.By the end you'll Understand the four core survival responses and how they can show up in
Discovering Your Core Needs (+Somatic Practice)
One of the most powerful things you can do on your healing journey is get good at knowing and trusting what you need — not what you were told to need, not what you think you should need, but what your body and heart are truly craving. This episode answers a question from a Becoming Secure Community Member who asked: “How do I even know what my core needs are? And once I do… how can I meet them on
Why You Struggle to Receive (Even Though You Want Love)
In this episode, I’m talking about why receiving often feels uncomfortable — especially for women with anxious attachment — and how this survival pattern shows up in your body and your relationships.We’ll explore:Why high-functioning women resist supportThe somatic signs you’re in survival modeHow childhood patterns shaped your ability to receiveWhat it really takes to let love landAnd if you’re r
How High-Functioning Anxiety Blocks Love — and What to Do Instead
You never “need” anything. But underneath, you’re anxious, and wishing to feel more held.In this episode, we explore what happens when high-functioning anxiety plays out in relationships — from early dating to long-term partnership.And most importantly, how it impacts your ability to be met, supported, and chosen.You’ll hear:Why overfunctioning can push love away — even when your intentions are pu
She’s Calm, Collected… and Anxious AF: High-Functioning Anxiety
You look like the woman who has it all together — grounded, reliable, composed.But underneath? You’re feeling urgent, worried, and overthinking. Managing everything. And maybe quietly unraveling.This episode is for the high-achieving, high-functioning woman who knows something feels off but can't break through on it. We’re talking about the kind of anxiety that hides behind performing calm.Inside,
Anx. Attch. in Friendships: People-Pleasing, and the Fear of Being Replaced
We talk so much about how anxious attachment plays out in romance—but what about friendship?If you’ve ever felt too sensitive, too intense, or too dependent in friendships—or you’ve abandoned them for romance—this conversation is for you.In this episode, I explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways anxious attachment shows up in our platonic connections: overthinking texts, people-pleasing, jealo
Healing the Guilt That Keeps You Small
If you’ve ever felt guilty for having needs, setting boundaries, or taking up space—this episode is for you.We’re unpacking the kind of guilt that doesn’t come from doing something wrong, but from trying to stay safe.For those of us with anxious attachment, guilt can feel like a constant hum in the background—shaping our choices, silencing our truth, and keeping us small.In this episode, I’m divin
How to Find Yourself Again After a Breakup
After a breakup, it’s easy to feel lost—like you don’t even recognize yourself anymore. In this episode, we’re diving into how to reconnect with you after a relationship ends.We’ll explore what that relationship revealed about you, where you may have lost yourself, and the moments that felt out of alignment. I’ll guide you through ways to help you reclaim your identity and step back into your trut
Moving Through a Breakup - the weight of grief, the power of emotional release, and how to stay anchored.
Breakups are hard, but if you have an anxious attachment style, they can feel almost unbearable. In this episode, I’m diving into why breakups hit so hard for AA women, the weight of fresh grief, and how to move through it with clarity and self-honoring choices.We’ll talk about the power emotional release, the importance of clear boundaries (especially when no contact might be the best option), an
Releasing the Grip of Anxious Attachment
It can feel like anxious attachment runs you. Doubt, fear of relationship ending, and low confidence are symptoms of something deeper that your body wants to release and heal. _____Becoming Secure Membership 🎆Learn more here.
How to Feel Secure on Valentine’s Day (Single or in Relationship)
Valentine’s Day can bring up a lot—comparison, overthinking, and that deep desire to be chosen. In this episode, we’re unpacking why V-Day feels so triggering for anxiously attached women and how to shift from chasing love to attracting it—starting with yourself.Join the Becoming Secure membership, click for infoHere’s what we cover in this episode:💔 How anxious attachment amplifies fears of rejec
The Most Relatable Q&A - Straight from the Membership
What is a genuine need and what is me attempting to seek validation? How can I leave conversations when I don’t like where it’s going but don’t want to be rude? I feel isolated because don’t look to others for support, I feel safe when I maintain the control what do I do? During this episode I share answers to highly relatable questions from inside the Monthly Membership. Join for live c
Become Secure within 1 Year - what it takes
In this episode, we dive into what it truly takes to become secure within one year. Whether you're healing anxious attachment, building self-trust, or creating healthier relationships, this conversation breaks down the key shifts, practices, and mindset changes required to transform your inner world. If you're ready to step into a version of yourself that feels calm, confident, and worthy of love,
The Foundations of Self-Love You’ve Been Missing
If you’ve ever felt stuck on your self-love journey or wondered why it doesn’t feel as deep as you’d hoped, this episode is for you. Discover the essential practices, inner and outer work, and mindset shifts that create a true, lasting sense of self-worth.✨ Go Deeper and Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-only membership, you’ll discover how to:calm your anxietyheal from
The Secret to Being Seen and Held: Love for the Strong Woman Who Feels Alone
You’ve always been the one who gets it done—the problem solver, the caretaker, or highly self-reliant. But under that strong exterior, there’s a part of you that feels anxious, unseen, or unsure in your closest relationships.In this episode, we’re diving into the paradox of being a strong, high-achieving woman with anxious attachment tendencies, and the desire to feel TRULY seen and rest into a ma
The Price You Pay for Anxious Attachment
Anxious attachment isn’t just an emotional struggle—it impacts every area of your life. From the endless overthinking to strained relationships, staying stuck in anxiety comes at a price.In this episode, we’ll explore:✔️ The emotional toll of living with anxious attachment✔️ How it damages relationships and pushes people away✔️ The financial costs of quick fixes versus real healing✔️ Why prioritiz
Redefining Boundaries: Aligning Values, Needs, and Self-Respect
Creating boundaries that feel authentic, life-giving, and empowering.In this episode, we explore how to set boundaries that reflect who you truly are. Learn how to stop over-accommodating, start respecting your own limits, and find peace in boundaries that align with your life.Also mentioned, the 5 Part, Master Your Boundaries Series, instant access within in the Becoming Secure membership. Set yo
Healing What’s Buried Deep: My Journey with a Core Wound of Wrongness
Your framework for uncovering and healing the core wounds that may be hidden deep within. I share my experience of facing a core wound of ‘wrongness’ and the steps I took to move beyond it.Learn how to identify your own buried beliefs, understand how they impact your relationships, and self worth, and start releasing the patterns that no longer serve you.This episode offers both insight and practi
Attracting Situationships versus the Love of Your Life
What's the difference between the version of you who attracts emotionally unavailable, avoidant men, and the version of you who is attracting a partner who will choose you, and gives you the deep love you crave? This episode cracks it open and breaks in down. 🧡Get the tools and practices to heal anxious attachment on the subconscious level: If you listened to this episode, message me on Instagram,
The 4 Anxious Attachment Archetypes
Learn about the 4 distinct anxious attachment archetypes that may be shaping your inner world and relationships: The Sensitive Soul, The Calm & Collected Overthinker, The Affection Enthusiast, and The Distant Dreamer.I discuss how each archetype copes with triggers, their unique challenges, and what healing looks like for each type.Take the quiz here. <<Learn more about the membership!Ep
Affirmations for Healing Anxious Attachment
Affirmations give our mind new and better ideas for empowering beliefs and new paths for our thoughts. Listen to this episode for 20 affirmations to rewire negative self beliefs and focus on healing anxious attachment tendencies. ❤️Access the full practice within the Becoming Secure membership.By joining the membership you also receive:🪷 Coaching support from me, Johanna - a somatic therapy f
How to Become Detached
Inspired by a question from a woman in the Becoming Secure membership I had to respond will a full episode because there is some major distortion around the word detached and how to be detached. In this episode I discuss:-Trauma bonds-Love versus attachment-Choosing better men...and more! Dive Deeper:Hang on Instagram. ✨ ✨Go Deeper and Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-o
Control Issues are Affecting your Mind, Body, and Relationships
Your need for control is fuelling your anxiety, pushing away love, and ironically..leaving you feeling more out of control.In this episode, we explore the complexities of control and how unconsciously trying to control everything shapes our lives, drains our energy, and causes tension in relationships. You'll learn:How grasping for control affects you emotionally and physicallyHow control in an a
The 3 Steps of Inner Child Work
Exploring the concept of Inner Child work and what it means to heal your inner child. Resources Mentioned: Guided Practice - Inner Child Healing: Instantly accessible within the Becoming Secure library. Month-to-month access, cancel anytime.Anxious Attachment Quiz: Which Anxious Attachment Archetype are You? ✨Go Deeper and Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-only membershi
Healing the Mother Wound
Exploring the 7 types of mothers and how they affect your attachment system. -Overprotective Mother -Critical Mother-Emotionally Unavailable Mother -Enmeshed 'Best Friend' Mother-Narcissistic/Addict Mother-Supportive Mother-Absent MotherAssociated Practices, Meditation and Journal Prompts can be found in Becoming Secure my community and library space to go deep on the inner work. I would love to h
Healing the Father Wound
Analyzing 8 different father dynamics and why it's relevant to look at for our inner healing journey.Mapping the patterns that drive us to: -seek validation -fear abandonment -emotionally close -attract men who 'need fixing'-feel like we need to earn love You'll learn how to free yourself from these patterns by identifying them and healing them through the body. ✨ Join the Becoming Secure Members
Communicating Your Needs in Love - Letting Him See YOU
Holding back on your needs is not serving you in relationship. When we don't feel seen and loved we constrict and control. It is embracing authentic communication which will transforms your love dynamics, and nurture deeper connections. Let's talk about it. ✨Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-only membership, you’ll discover how to:calm your anxietyheal from the paststop
What Ayahuasca Taught me About Anxiety
My ayahuasca plant medicine ceremony shared some profound insights as to what provokes anxiety and how we can avoid being run by it. In the episode I share the model I saw for understanding and eliminating anxiety, thoughts, overthinking, and fear.Join the Becoming Secure MembershipWhen you join this women-only membership, you’ll discover how to:calm your anxietyheal from the paststop self-sabotag
All Things Somatic Work for Anxious Attachment
Why somatic work is key when it comes to making lasting change. Why body based and nervous system work is not just helpful, but a requirement to your healing journey Tracking your own subsconcious mind Where you anxious tendencies live in the nervous system Energy release to calm the system What it looks like to do somatic work Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-only memb
Are you holding anger in your body?
In this episode we explore the importance of your relationship to anger. When we don't have a healthy expression of anger it can stay suppressed in the body which usually manifests as having a short fuse, pain, or feeling like you can't connect to your anger at all. You'll learn:-How to know if your anger is suppressed and why you might feel disconnected from anger-Why we feel sensitive, easily ir
Finding closure when they won't give it to you
When a relationship ends anxious attachment personalities often feel a strong need for closure, replaying conversations in our minds and yearning for explanations. The fixation on closure stems from a primal urge to gain reassurance and understand why, but can often end up driving us into a spiral. I'll share why closure is so important to you, and why the other person may not be willing to have a
BONUS: 5 Things I Did to Become Secure
I've extracted the 5 things that made real shifts when it came to my healing. I was inspired to create this episode after watching a tiktok with a similar title but hearing THEIR list was quite different. Anxious attachment manifests differently in different people, so I'm hoping this episode gives another relatable perspective.Becoming Secure MembershipWhen you join this women-only membership, yo
Part 4: Anxious Attachment, Needs, and Manipulation...
The connection to our boundaries and needs is foundational to developing strong relationships that feel safe, nurturing, and supportive! But what if asking for your needs feel scary?What about the part of us that feels our needs are too much?This episode will help you decide what your needs really are. --Go further 🌹Find me on Tiktok or Instagram Becoming Secure Membership - Live Q&A calls, t
Part 3: The Core Strategy for Healing Anxious Attachment
This episode is thorough breakdown of what we need to understand an master of the journey to overcoming insecure attachment tendencies. Don't worry it's not complicated and you'll be able to pick it up easily. Open your mind and heart and let this episode connect you deeper to yourself. --Go further 🌹Find me on Tiktok or Instagram Join the Becoming Secure Membership - my live call community, Q&
Part 2: Mapping Your Unique Anxious Adaption
This episode has a somatic therapy based practice which is about to give you a new found awareness into your attachment tendencies. You should do this practice while sitting, eyes closed, undistracted. I know you're going to love it! --Go deeper - Join Becoming Secure; a library of practices and teachings to self heal, and live Q&A calls and somatic sessions. Get support directly from Johanna
Part 1: Anxious Attachment Style Myths and Facts
Welcome to class!We're starting by breaking down the myths around attachment style so that you can ensure that there isn't an unnecessary belief holding you back from healing.___Working together 🌹:1:1 Somatic healing - info + applicationBecoming Her - group space, live workshops and coaching callsSomatic Workshops - instant access to healing workshops 🦢
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