Join me, Jess VanderWier, a registered psychotherapist, mom of three, and founder of Nurtured First, along with my husband Scott, as we dive deep into the stories of our friends, favourite celebrities, and influential figures. In each episode, we skip the small talk and dive into vulnerable and honest conversations about topics like cycle breaking, trauma, race, mental health, parenting, sex, religion, postpartum, healing, and loss. We are glad you are here. PS: The name Robot Unicorn comes from our daughter. When we asked her what we should name the podcast, she confidently came up with this name because she loves robots, and she loves unicorns, so why not? There was something about the playfulness of the name, the confidence in her voice, and the fact that it represents that you can love two things at once that just felt right.
Episodes
The Truth About Shy KidsJun 8, 20261588In this episode of Robot Unicorn, Jess dives deep into the often misunderstood topic of supporting shy children. Listeners will learn the three main reasons children exhibit shyness and walk away with practical, compassionate strategies, such as the "step-back" method and role-playing, to help their slow-to-warm child navigate social situations. Whether you are raising a sensitive child o
3 Reasons Your Child Misbehaves At SchoolJun 1, 20261976In this episode, Jess explains the three most common reasons why kids struggle with behaviour at school. She shares common reasons kids act out at school, even when things are going well at home, and gives practical solutions to help parents and educators support children! Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love
6 Things About ADHD Parents Need To KnowMay 25, 20262261Today, Jess dives deep into a highly requested topic: Understanding and supporting the ADHD brain. Drawing from her clinical experience with neurodivergent children, she breaks down six crucial insights. If you want to understand the 'why' behind your child's behaviour and learn how to foster an environment where they can truly thrive, you won't want to miss this solo episode!Check out th
Why Kids Struggle to Sleep (And How To Help Them)May 18, 20262007In this episode, we break down the most common reasons children struggle with sleep and share gentle, effective ways to help them rest better. You’ll learn what’s normal, what may be disrupting your child’s sleep, and how to create healthier sleep habits without harsh sleep-training methods or leaving your child to cry alone.If you’re tired, overwhelmed, and searching for realistic sleep
How To Be Firm Without YellingMay 11, 20261908In this solo episode of Robot Unicorn, Jess tackles a common parenting struggle: How to find a middle ground between being passive and resorting to yelling. Tune in to gain practical insights that will empower you to break negative cycles and lead your children with respect and calm authority.Learn more about our Parenting Little Kids course here.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' pr
Getting Honest About New Motherhood With Libby WardMay 4, 20264069Jess sits down with guest Libby Ward to discuss her highly anticipated new book, Honest Motherhood. Themes covered include: Raising a sensitive baby, learning how to be a parent after a traumatic childhood, postpartum anxiety, and more. Tune in for an incredibly raw, validating conversation that will help you drop the heavy facade of the 'perfect mom' and learn how to find yourself.Want t
Why “Stranger Danger” Doesn’t Protect Kids (Part 3)Apr 27, 20261407CW: Abuse, child sexual abuse, groomingIn this final episode of our 3-part series on child sexual abuse, Jess and Scott dive into practical steps parents can take to protect their kids. Listeners will walk away with valuable tools, including easy conversational games to play with children and tips for recognizing behavioural red flags.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable acti
The Truth About How Child Abuse Stays Hidden (Part 2)Apr 20, 20262334CW: Abuse, child sexual abuse, groomingIn Part 2 of this critical series on child sexual abuse, hosts Jess and Scott delve into the dark realities of child abuse and the manipulative process of grooming. Jess and Scott debunk dangerous myths while providing parents with practical red flags to look out for. Tune in to empower yourself with the vital knowledge needed to protect your childre
What Parents Need To Know About Grooming: Protecting Kids (Part 1)Apr 13, 20261546CW: Abuse, child sexual abuse, groomingIn this heavy but crucial episode of Robot Unicorn, hosts Jess and Scott tackle the difficult reality of childhood sexual abuse and the grooming process. We break down why abusers are overwhelmingly people the child already knows and trusts, completely dismantling the outdated 'stranger danger' myth. Listeners will gain vital insights into how abuser
Stop Letting the Scale Dictate Your Worth With Dr. Rachel GoldmanApr 6, 20262802In this insightful episode of Robot Unicorn, Jess sits down with clinical psychologist Dr. Rachel Goldman, author of 'When Life Happens.' They explore the empowering concept of body neutrality and discuss why the cultural pressure of toxic body positivity might actually be holding us back. Dr. Rachel unpacks the complexities surrounding GLP-1 medications, the rising impact of social media
Brain Stuckness: Reducing Power Struggles & Building Flexibility (Part 2)Mar 30, 20262203This week, Jess and Scott talk about how to reduce power struggles and brain stuckness. You'll gain crucial insights into why toddlers can't self-regulate, how 'radical honesty' diffuses tension, and why over-explaining rules can actually invite more defiance. Tune in to learn how to speak your child's language through play and become a more confident, trusted leader in your home.Check ou
Brain Stuckness: Why Kids Struggle With Flexibility (Part 1)Mar 23, 20262428In this episode of Robot Unicorn, Jess and Scott are joined by a very special guest—their 5-year-old daughter—who shares a story about her brain getting stuck on making a paper kite. The hosts dive into the fascinating concept of "brain stuckness," explaining why young children often fixate on a single idea and struggle with flexible thinking. Listeners will gain crucial insights into the
Why Allowance Is About More Than Money (Part 2)Mar 16, 20261499In Part 2 of our deep dive into allowances, Jess and Scott move from theory to practice, debating whether kids should receive an allowance at all. They explore the 'Spend, Save, Give' jar system and share personal strategies for teaching delayed gratification, including the controversial '24-hour rule' for impulse buys. They also discuss the importance of letting children make low-stakes
Does Giving Kids An Allowance Make Them Entitled? (Part 1)Mar 9, 20261473Is giving your kids an allowance a 'ridiculous idea' or a powerful teaching tool? In this episode, Jess and Scott dive into the heated debate on allowances. Scott reveals a major 180-degree shift in his thinking, moving from a firm 'no' to seeing allowance as a crucial way to teach financial literacy. They discuss how to give kids money without raising them to be entitled, the complicated
Why Boredom Matters For Kids (Revisit)Mar 2, 20263236This week, we are revisiting a previously aired episode.In this episode, we dive into one of the most vital, yet often overlooked, aspects of development and well-being: creativity. We explore the 'Creativity Crisis'—a documented decline in creative thinking since the 1990s—and discuss how parents can protect their children's innate imagination. We unpack the profound importance of unstru
Will Daycare Ruin My Child’s Attachment? (Revisit)Feb 23, 20262474This week, we are revisiting a previously aired episode.Is sending your child to daycare wrong? Will it ruin your attachment? In this episode, Jess and Scott tackle the highly controversial 'Daycare Wars,' sharing a personal story of being shamed for their choices. They dive into the intense guilt and judgment surrounding the stay-at-home versus working parent debate. Listen for a nuanced
When Is It Okay To Punish Kids? (Revisit)Feb 16, 20262819This week, we are revisiting a previously aired episode.When is it okay to punish your kids? This loaded question kicks off a deep dive into the difference between punishment and effective, long-term discipline. Jess and Scott challenge common parenting tactics like spanking, timeouts, and taking things away, explaining why these methods often fail and can even damage the parent-child rel
Have Parents Become Too Permissive?Feb 9, 20262039In this episode, Jess and Scott tackle this delicate balance, exploring why so many parents fear their children's tears and avoid setting boundaries. They move beyond unhelpful labels to discuss the core of effective parenting: becoming the strong, confident leader your child needs. Listen to find the confidence to hold firm, embrace nuance, and learn why letting your child experience dis
Should You Force Your Kids To Do Chores?Feb 2, 20262247In this episode, Jess and Scott dive deep into one of parenting's most common dilemmas. They explore how household tasks are crucial for building responsibility, essential life skills, and a sense of family teamwork. The conversation tackles the controversial topic of allowances, revealing why research suggests you should not pay your kids for daily chores. Tune in to learn how to foster
When Is It OK To Give In to Tantrums?Jan 26, 20262397In this vulnerable episode, hosts Jess and Scott tackle this tough parenting question head-on, revealing their own disagreements and struggles. They explore the fine line between holding firm boundaries and becoming a 'martyr parent,' discussing the heavy weight of guilt, the risk of burnout, and how to set realistic expectations for your kids (and yourself). Listen for candid insights on
Why Won’t My Child Stop Clinging and Whining?!Jan 19, 20262070Do you ever have moments where you just want to scream, "Get off me!" at your clingy child? You're not alone. This episode dives deep into the visceral frustration parents feel when a child is constantly attached, and reframes this challenging behaviour not as a problem to be fixed, but as a crucial signal. Jess and Scott explore the real reasons kids get clingy, from hunger and sickness
How To Pass Down Family ValuesJan 12, 20262879In this episode, Jess and Scott talk about how family values aren’t created by rules on the wall, but by what’s lived out every day. They explore how to start with parent-only conversations to clarify your true non-negotiables, then invite kids into the process in meaningful, age-appropriate ways.They also dive into a powerful conversation about why kids lie (hint: it’s not about “bad beh
What Kids Need Most When Parents DivorceJan 5, 20262797In this episode, Jess and Scott confront the tough topics of divorce, single parenting, and high-conflict family dynamics. They debunk the pervasive myth of 'staying together for the kids,' explaining how research overwhelmingly shows that ongoing parental conflict, not separation itself, is the true source of harm. Learn about the vital practice of 'conflict shielding' and discover how p
How Can I Reduce My Anger and Annoyance As A Highly Sensitive Parent? (Revisit)Dec 29, 20253345This week, we are revisiting a previously aired episode. Scott recently had a situation where he lost his cool with his toddler. In this episode, Jess and Scott unpack what happened and how he could do things differently next time by setting himself up for success as a highly sensitive person. They discuss what it means to be highly sensitive, from noticing subtle textures and needing thi
Forcing Kids To Do Hard Things: Raising Resilient Kids Who Can Tolerate Frustration (Revisit)Dec 22, 20252059This week, we are revisiting one of our first episodes. Jess and Scott dive into the complex topic of pushing kids to do hard things. They explore the fine line between encouraging children to reach their potential vs. pushing them past their limits. Jess vulnerably shares how her own painful childhood experiences make it challenging for her to watch her daughter being pushed. Together, t
How To Create Healthy Screentime Habits with Dr. Michael RobbDec 15, 20253469Are you tired of the constant panic and guilt surrounding your kids' screen time? In this episode, Jess sits down with Dr. Michael Robb, Head of Research at Common Sense Media, to cut through the noise and offer a reassuring, nuanced perspective on technology in the family. Dr. Robb explains why we should stop counting minutes and instead focus on what screen time displaces, like play and
How To Raise Kind Kids Who Aren’t People PleasersDec 8, 20252723How do we teach our children to be kind without letting them get walked over? This episode dives into the difference between genuine kindness and people-pleasing, and how to raise children who can stand up for themselves and set firm boundaries while still treating others with respect and compassion. Jess and Scott provide practical strategies, including role-playing and clear scripts, to
Raising Sensitive Kids To Be Resilient And Confident (Part 3)Dec 1, 20251978Raising a sensitive child comes with unique challenges and profound beauty. In the final episode of our 3-part sensitive kids series, Jess and Scott explore practical ways to nurture your child's sensitivity, build their confidence and recognize their strengths. Discover the powerful parenting technique of 'scaffolding' to build your child's confidence without taking over. They also tackl
Rejection Sensitivity And Discipline For Sensitive Kids (Part 2)Nov 24, 20252117Is your child an 'orchid' who thrives in the right environment but wilts under pressure? In part 2 of our sensitive kids series, Jess and Scott unpack the powerful 'orchid vs. dandelion' child metaphor, explaining the science behind why your parenting has a profound impact on a sensitive child. They discuss rejection sensitivity, revealing why your child might hide under a table after a s
Is My Child Highly Sensitive? (Part 1)Nov 17, 20252600Do you have a child who has epic meltdowns over seemingly small things, such as a shirt tag or a flushing toilet? In part 1 of our 3-part sensitive kids series, Jess and Scott dive deep into the world of the sensitive child, explaining the three core temperaments that kids are born with. They discuss why sensitivity is an innate trait, not something parents cause. Tune in to learn how to
In-Laws Stressing You Out? An Expert's Guide To Setting BoundariesNov 10, 20253622In this episode, Jess is joined by well-known psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish to tackle one of the most common relationship stressors: In-laws. Dr. Tracy breaks down why this dynamic is so challenging and why it's often easier for a husband to argue with his wife than to set a boundary with his mom. Listen to learn the true definition of a boundary (it's not what yo
How Do I Stop My Child From Whining?Nov 3, 20251691In this episode, Jess and Scott dive into why whining triggers such a visceral fight-or-flight reaction in parents and how to manage your own nervous system first. Learn how to uncover the real needs behind the whining. You'll walk away with proactive strategies and a deeper understanding of your child.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using th
“I Only Want Mommy!!”: Understanding Parental PreferenceOct 27, 20251717Why do children sometimes show a clear preference for one parent over the other? In this episode, Jess and Scott explore the psychology and science of parental preference. Drawing on attachment theory, developmental research, and family dynamics studies, we break down why children choose favourites, what influences these patterns, and how parents can respond in ways that strengthen connec
Friendship For Girls: Drama, Cliques, And Learning To BelongOct 20, 20252998Why do friendship conflicts feel so catastrophic for young girls? This week, Jess and Scott dive deep into the complex world of girl friendship drama, exploring why the tween and teen years are a hotbed for relational aggression like gossip, exclusion, and social maneuvering. Learn the crucial difference between normal conflict and bullying that requires your intervention. This episode is
How To Use Playfulness As A Powerful Parenting ToolOct 13, 20253095In this episode, Jess and Scott dive into the incredible power of shifting from a serious, stern approach to a playful one. They explore the brain science behind why play is a child's natural language, making them more receptive and cooperative. Discover the crucial difference between being playful and permissive, and learn how to maintain firm boundaries while still having fun. You'll le
Q&A: ADHD, Skeptical Partners, and Staying Connected After KidsOct 6, 20252118We're opening up the floor and answering your most-asked questions in this listener Q&A episode. We get personal about our recent ADHD diagnoses and how neurodivergence shows up differently for each of us in our marriage. Join us as we explore the heart-wrenching 'birthday sadness' of watching kids grow up, share our journey of getting a skeptical partner on board with a new parenting
“I’m Being Consistent With My Discipline - Why Isn’t It Working?”Sep 29, 20252905Ever feel like the advice to 'just be consistent' isn't working for your family? In this episode, Jess and Scott dive into the power of 'flexible consistency' and why adapting to your child's needs is just as important as holding boundaries. They discuss how to shift your mindset from 'Why won't my child listen?' to 'Why can't they?', exploring concepts like temperament, skills gaps, and
How To Handle Big After-School MeltdownsSep 22, 20252394Why is your child perfect at school, only to completely fall apart the moment they get home? This episode dives deep into the common but misunderstood phenomenon of 'After-School Restraint Collapse.' Jess and Scott will help you understand that these explosions are a sign that your child feels safest with you, and give you practical strategies—from co-regulation to creating a 'soft landin
Why Are Some Kids So Strong-Willed And Stubborn!? (REVISIT)Sep 15, 20252833In this episode, Scott and Jess revisit a previous episode on strong-willed kids and add new commentary, insights, and stories to help parents understand and connect with their strong-willed kids. Jess and Scott share practical, respectful strategies to transform power struggles into moments of understanding, helping you become the confident, curious leader your child needs. Learn how to
How To Talk To Kids About Death, Suicide, And Other Difficult TopicsSep 8, 20252213CW: Death, Suicide, Tragedy, DivorceThis week, Jess and Scott tackle difficult conversations: death, suicide, divorce, loss, and tragedy in the news. Drawing from Scott's personal experience with suicide in his family and Jess's expertise as a child therapist, they offer a raw and honest guide to navigating these tricky topics. Listeners will learn the biggest mistakes well-intentioned pa
Letting Kids Use AI: Smart Move Or Serious Mistake?Sep 1, 20252923Is AI a helpful tool or a 'Terminator' situation waiting to happen? In this episode, Jess finally gets to interview Scott as they tackle the complex world of AI safety for kids. They break down the different types of AI your child interacts with daily and reveal the hidden psychological risks. This episode will help you feel more empowered and less anxious about guiding your children thro
Are You On Your Phone Too Much In Front Of Your Kids?Aug 25, 20253120Ever feel a pang of guilt when you look up from your phone to see your child has moved on? You're not alone. In this episode, Jess and Scott tackle the 'parents' paradox', how our phones are both a lifeline and a major source of distraction. They explore the 'digital still face' effect on our kids and the science behind why apps are so hard to put down. Tune in for practical, compassion-f
“But My Friend’s Parents Let Them…Why Can’t I?”Aug 18, 20253037What do you do when your child hits you with the classic line, "But my friend's parents let them!"? This episode tackles the universal parenting challenge of setting and upholding family rules. You'll walk away with practical strategies to communicate your rules effectively, offer choices within boundaries, and build a collaborative family team without giving up your leadership role.Get 1
Biblical Discipline, Deconstruction, And Belonging with Kate BowlerAug 11, 20254165Jess sits down with Kate Bowler, historian, pastor, and New York Times bestselling author, to explore parenting, faith, and religious deconstruction. They unpack the history of harsh discipline like sparing the rod, question the idea of biblical discipline, and wrestle with whether kids are inherently sinful. This compassionate conversation offers space to question long-held beliefs, unde
Should We Force Kids To Say Sorry And Forgive Each Other?Aug 4, 20252066Are you tired of forcing your kids to say 'I'm sorry,' only to see them repeat the same behaviour an hour later? In this episode, Jess and Scott dissect the common parenting trap of forced apologies and, more surprisingly, forced forgiveness. They explore why simply demanding these magic words can be meaningless and even teach children to override their own feelings. Discover practical, e
The Impact Of Birth Order: What All Parents Need To UnderstandJul 28, 20253601Are firstborns natural leaders, and the youngest the rebellious baby? Jess and Scott dismantle the popular—and surprisingly persistent—myths surrounding birth order. Scott shares fascinating research that reveals birth order's impact on personality and intelligence is almost non-existent. They explore the research on birth order and discuss the far more powerful forces that shape who our
The Tween Years: Peers, Embarrassment, And BelongingJul 21, 20252789In this episode, Jess and Scott unpack the normal but challenging issues that arise in the tween years. They explore the fascinating science of the developing adolescent brain—explaining why teens have a 'powerful accelerator but underdeveloped brakes'—and discuss the crucial quest for identity that causes them to pull away. Learn how to shift from being a 'manager' to a 'coach,' build a
Everyone Needs Me—But I'm DrowningJul 14, 20253720Inspired by a listener's email, this episode dives into the parts of parenting that often go undiscussed. Jess and Scott move beyond simplistic 'self-care' advice to explore realistic ways to nurture yourself amidst the chaos, especially when you feel burnt out and unsupported. Learn the critical difference between being tired and true burnout, discover how to effectively repair your rela
What Every Parent Needs To Know About Sibling ConflictJul 7, 20251974Tired of being the referee in constant sibling battles? This episode tackles a listener's question about managing the chaos of sibling play, especially between toddlers and preschoolers. We explore the developmental science behind why forcing a two-year-old to share is often a recipe for disaster. Discover a powerful mindset shift from being a frustrated 'referee' to an effective 'coach'
The Truth Behind Swearing And Rude Language In KidsJun 30, 20252754When your sweet child suddenly starts using shocking language, it can be deeply unsettling - but this episode explains why it's often a normal developmental phase rather than a character flaw. Jess and Scott explore how children transition from physical to verbal aggression as they grow, and why words like 'stupid,' 'I hate you,' or even cursing serve different purposes from getting atten
Are Timeouts Really Evidence-Based?Jun 23, 20251976Jess and Scott dive deep into the controversial topic of timeouts, examining whether they're truly the evidence-based discipline method many claim. They explore how typical timeout implementation can potentially harm parent-child attachment and fail to teach children the emotional regulation skills they need. Listeners will gain insights into more developmentally appropriate alternatives
The Research All Parents Need To Know About PunishmentsJun 16, 20253967Jess and Scott break down what research says about approaches like spanking, harsh verbal discipline, threats and bribes — and why authoritative parenting (balancing warmth with structure) leads to better outcomes.This episode is perfect for parents who are curious about non-punitive strategies or who want to raise cooperative kids without relying on fear or control.If you want to learn m
The Impact Of Social Media, Gaming And Smartphones On KidsJun 9, 20253775A must-listen episode for ALL parents and educators. Jess and Scott tackle the complex world of smartphones and social media use, sharing both research-backed concerns and practical guidance for parents. They explore the fine line between allowing kids to develop necessary digital skills and protecting their developing brains from content that can significantly impact their mental health
Impulse Control: What Every Parent Needs To KnowJun 2, 20253359Jess and Scott dive deep into the science of impulse control in children, explaining why little ones struggle to control their impulses and how parents can effectively support this critical developmental process. They explore brain development across different age groups—from toddlers who are "completely run by impulses" to teens experiencing a rush of emotions while their logical brain s
Why Kids Need Boredom Now More Than EverMay 26, 20253401Jess and Scott dive into the often-misunderstood topic of boredom and its crucial role in child development. They explore why parents fear their children being bored, how screens have become the default solution to downtime, and the surprising developmental benefits that emerge when children learn to navigate unstructured time. You’ll learn practical strategies for teaching children to tr
I Love My Kids, But I Resent My Partner—Now What? With Dr. Tracy DMay 19, 20252978In this insightful episode, psychologist and couples expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish joins Jess to discuss the often unspoken challenges couples face after having children. Dr. Tracy shares both professional expertise and personal vulnerability as she explains why 69% of couples experience a decline in relationship satisfaction after having children, and offers practical strategies for address
How To Reparent Yourself While Raising Your KidsMay 12, 20252169Jess and Scott dive deep into reparenting – the art of healing ourselves so that we can show up more authentically as parents. They discuss breaking negative generational patterns, managing guilt and perfectionism, and the power of repair through genuine apologies and behaviour change. You’ll learn practical tools for identifying personal triggers, embracing self-care, and building more s
Part 2: Trust, Skepticism, And Betrayal: How To Build TrustMay 5, 20252565Jess and Scott dive deep into the complexities of trust and healthy skepticism—from childhood friendships to the evolving dynamics of teen and adult relationships. They discuss how children test trust in their early years and the delicate balance between seeking belonging and remaining authentic. The episode offers practical strategies for staying connected with your teen, rebuilding trus
Part 1: Trust, Skepticism, And Betrayal: Teaching Kids To TrustApr 28, 20253157Inside this vulnerable and emotional episode, Jess and Scott talk about how painful betrayal is and how we can learn to trust others. They talk about the difference between healthy skepticism and cynicism. Whether you’re navigating your own trust issues or seeking to give your children the tools for discerning safe from unsafe, this episode offers a combination of heartfelt reflection, ev
How To Build Resilience Without TraumaApr 21, 20253743Should you force your kids to do hard things? Does a little trauma make your kids more resilient? Is it true that whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger? In this episode, Jess and Scott tackle these questions, teaching the audience how to build resilient children without traumatizing them. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code
How To Talk To Kids About Disabled PeopleApr 14, 20254269In this episode of Robot Unicorn, Jess and Scott sit down with their close friend and colleague, Brooklyn Marx, a disabled psychotherapist, to explore how to talk about disability honestly and openly with children. Brooklyn shares her personal journey with Spinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA), the challenges of growing up with a disability, and the evolution of her personal identity.Whether you’
How To Be The Leader Your Child NeedsApr 7, 20252241Jess and Scott dive deep into what it means to be the leader your child truly needs—especially when faced with the challenge of raising kids who are often labelled as angry, defiant, or difficult. Whether you’re struggling with setting boundaries or simply seeking to understand your child’s emotional world, Jess and Scott provide a roadmap to help you lead with empathy, consistency, and a
The Current Children's Mental Health Crisis with Dr. Gordon NeufeldMar 31, 20253431In this powerful episode, Jess sits down with renowned developmental psychologist Dr. Gordon Neufeld to unpack the growing mental health crisis among children today. Dr. Neufeld shares how children are losing their ability to feel deeply, struggling to engage in true play, and searching for belonging in all the wrong places. He challenges our desire to raise independent kids, calling it “
Beyond Food: A New Way To Look At Picky Eating And Mealtimes with Dr. Deborah MacNamaraMar 24, 20253791Friends, you don’t want to miss this episode. The one and only Dr. MacNamara joins Jess and Scott to dive deep into the topic of food.Discover why nourishment is far more than just calories—it’s about love, care, and the rituals that bring families together. Dr. MacNamara shares compelling research and personal stories that reveal how non-coercive, provider-led approaches can turn picky e
School Refusal, Anxiety, And Separation StrugglesMar 17, 20252326Scott and Jess dive into the pressing issue of school refusal—a challenge affecting children of all ages. They explore the roots of this behaviour, from the natural separation anxiety seen in toddlers to the compounded social, academic, and emotional pressures faced by older children. They also discuss how parental anxiety can inadvertently reinforce a child’s reluctance to attend school.
How To Help Your Angry ChildMar 10, 20253370Scott and Jess explore anger in children (and adults), breaking down why children get angry, how anger is often masked by other emotions, and the role of genetics and environment in shaping behaviour. The episode provides hope for parents struggling with intergenerational anger and practical tools for helping kids learn to cope with overwhelming emotions. If you want to help your child le
5 Love Languages: Are They Helpful Or Harmful?Mar 3, 20253238Scott and Jess take a deep dive into the popular "Five Love Languages" concept and reveal why this relationship framework might be too simplistic for real-life emotional connection. Jess and Scott cover topics like: codependency, attachment styles, and building trust in relationships. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICOR
Why Children Lie: And What To Do About ItFeb 24, 20252883In this episode, Jess and Scott explore the reasons why children lie and how to help them stop lying. Drawing on personal anecdotes and developmental insights, they explain how different forms of lying emerge as natural parts of childhood while also sharing practical strategies to build a trusting, curiosity-driven relationship with your child. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' prin
How To Become A Playful ParentFeb 17, 20253172This episode of Robot Unicorn is packed with practical ideas that will help you become a more playful parent. On a deeper note, you’ll also learn how to reflect on your own childhood experiences, make sense of the burnout you are feeling, and learn how to bring play back into your life. This is one of Jess and Scott’s favourite episodes to date! Tune in for laughter, heartfelt stories, an
Talking To Kids About Puberty, Porn, And Social Media (Part 2)Feb 10, 20252252In part 2 of our puberty series, Jess and Scott discuss the critical intersection of social media, body image, and puberty. They explore how parents can navigate challenging conversations around online content, unrealistic body expectations, and protecting children during this vulnerable developmental stage. They provide practical strategies for parents to have ongoing dialogues about pub
Talking To Kids About Puberty, Periods, and Sex (Part 1)Feb 3, 20252823In part 1 of our puberty series, Jess and Scott talk about how to have difficult conversations with kids about sex, puberty, periods, and changing bodies. You’ll learn how to talk to your kids about puberty without taking away their innocence or making them feel shame. Get our brand new puberty toolkit for 10% off using the code ROBOTUNICORN. We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you
Friendship StrugglesJan 27, 20252769In this episode, Jess and Scott discuss common friendship struggles, bullying, and how to help kids solve problems in their friendships. They also discuss their own experiences with friends growing up. Listeners will get practical takeaways to help them cultivate healthy friendships with their kids. Want more? Check out this episode on kids’ friendships. Or, grab the Friendship Toolkit fo
How Do You Stop Yourself From Yelling At Your Kids?Jan 20, 20252021In this episode, Jess and Scott dive deep into the complexities of parental anger and yelling sparked by a controversial social media post.They explore cycle-breaking, emotional regulation, and practical strategies for staying calm with kids. They share their personal experiences - Scott as someone who broke generational trauma patterns and Jess as a parent working through postpartum stru
How Can I Help My Worried Child?Jan 13, 20252141In this episode, Jess and Scott discuss how to support anxious or worried kids. Jess, a psychotherapist, shares the "Mind Table" concept - a powerful tool for helping children manage anxiety and difficult emotions. She shares the story of her own daughter's fears and explains how visualizing different emotions as characters sitting around a table can help kids externalize and cope with th
Is Screen Time Terrible?Jan 6, 20253325Jess and Scott break down the nuanced reality of giving your kids screen time through personal experiences and research-backed insights about gaming, social media, and device use, offering practical guidance for parents.Key takeaways include the importance of being present during screen time, understanding age-appropriate limits, and protecting children through clear boundaries rather tha
How To Set Realistic Parenting Goals For 2025Dec 30, 20242904Scott and Jess have a candid discussion about New Year's resolutions and goal-setting, particularly through the lens of parenting and personal growth.They share their plans to prioritize family dinners, create more one-on-one time with each of their three children, and discuss how to teach their kids about resilience and nuanced thinking in an increasingly polarized world.Jess opens up ab
Grieving Over The Holidays With Libby WardDec 23, 20244052CW: Death, suicide, miscarriageGrieving over the holidays can feel all-consuming and complex. Today, Jess and Scott are joined by returning guest Libby for a raw and honest conversation about navigating grief during the holiday season. They discuss various forms of grief, from the loss of loved ones to mourning relationships with living family members who are estranged or there is a compl
Are You Raising An Entitled Kid?Dec 16, 20242679In this episode, Scott and Jess discuss raising resilient children who are not entitled, a common concern they hear from people who are skeptical about the style of parenting Jess teaches.They explore how allowing children to experience natural disappointments and frustrations - while providing emotional support - actually helps develop crucial coping skills. Through practical examples li
Should We Tell Kids Santa Is Real?Dec 9, 20242361In this episode, Jess and Scott tackle the polarizing topic of Santa Claus and holiday traditions as they answer the question: "Should we tell kids Santa is real?” They explore different approaches to discussing Santa with children - from treating him as a real person to presenting him as an imaginative character - all while emphasizing the importance of maintaining trust and connection w
The Hidden Cost Of Keeping Kids BusyDec 2, 20243054In this episode, Scott and Jess explore the importance of creativity and play - both for children and adults.From strategies for protecting children’s creative spirits to understanding how play helps kids process their experiences to how they are beginning to rekindle their own sense of playfulness as busy parents, this episode is full of practical strategies and insights into the importa