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Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity
Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity
This podcast is dedicated to empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) to embrace their sensitivity. Host Alissa Boyer, an HSP mentor, addresses common challenges like feeling drained by others or being told they are 'too sensitive.' She offers guidance on viewing sensitivity as a gift rather than a flaw. Each episode aims to break the stigma around sensitivity and provide a welcoming space. New episodes are released every Tuesday.
Episodes
266. You Are A Match for Your Mountain: Finding the divine lessons in life's greatest challenges w/ Jeminee Ternus, Author
In this episode, Alissa sits down with Jeminee Ternus, author of You Are a Match for Your Mountain and fellow mom to a daughter with type 1 diabetes, to talk about what it means to meet a hard diagnosis with acceptance instead of a fight.When life hands you a mountain you never asked for, it can feel like betrayal. This conversation offers a gentler way through, one where grief and gratitude get t
264. Big Feelings, Big Joy: Why Your Capacity for Pain Is Also Your Capacity for Joy w/ April Snow, HSP Author & Therapist
In this episode, Alissa welcomes April Snow back to the podcast to celebrate her new book, Big Feelings, Big Joy, and to talk about why having everyday language for being highly sensitive makes it something you can own instead of explain away.Sensitive people are often told they're fragile. April and Alissa share the research and the lived experience that say otherwise.Alissa and April trade perso
263. Carrying Yourself Like An Equal Even When You're Around Intimidating Or Successful People
In this episode, Alissa gets into what happens when a rejection lands from someone you admire and why choosing to see yourself as an equal, instead of putting them on a pedestal, is the first step toward becoming a match for what you desire.She shares what she's been noticing in her own season of rejection while her publisher sends her book out for endorsements, plus a look back at her early corpo
262. How my client found a deeper connection with her husband (by making it less about her)
In this episode, Alissa gets into what it really means to get out of your own way. She talks about a habit so many highly sensitive people fall into without realizing it, which is scanning everyone else's moods to feel okay. So much of the checking and managing is really an attempt to get someone else to respond in a way that settles your own nerves. Alissa names where that pattern comes from and
261. "I Can Survive Being Disliked" (And So Can You): The Good Girl Conditioning Episode
In this episode, Alissa revists the topic of good girl conditioning and why so many highly sensitive women build an entire identity around being the responsible one, the kind one, the person who never rocks the boat. She looks at what happens when agreeableness stops being a natural expression of your sensitivity and starts becoming a way of abandoning yourself to keep everyone else comfortable.Th
260. Am I Overreacting, or Do I Actually Need a Boundary? An HSP Guide to Trusting Your Own Reaction
In this episode, Alissa tackles a question she hears constantly. "How do you know if you're actually allowed to be upset, or if you're just being too sensitive?" If you've ever replayed a conversation for days, questioned your own reaction, or wondered if you made something out of nothing, this one's for you. Alissa traces that self-doubt back to where it actually started, and what it takes to ful
259. How to Stop Feeling Like a Pushover in Conflict and Stand Firm When You Feel Wronged
In this episode, Alissa gets into why the instinct to smooth things over the second someone reacts to your boundary is actually a form of people pleasing, and why building your tolerance for that discomfort is the first step toward feeling unbotherable.Alissa traces this back to the fear of abandonment underneath it, whether that shows up as a partner flipping the story back on you or a family mem
258. Why Am I So Triggered? How to Get to the Root and Feel Unbotherable
In this episode, Alissa gets into why triggers land the way they do and why finding the root cause is the first step toward feeling steady, unshakable, and less at the mercy of what everyone around you is doing.Most triggers trace back to one of two places, an old wound from the past or an unmet need in the present. Alissa shows how naming that root pulls the charge out of it, so emotional memory
257. "I'm the type of person who..." Shifting Your Self-Concept By Changing the Way You Talk to Yourself
In this week's episode, Alissa shares a quick hack that quietly rewrites how you see yourself: "I'm the type of person who..." So often you pin your happiness on the outcome, the finished book, the dream partner, the number of followers. Alissa offers an alternative, letting the process itself become the proof and validation of who you're becoming. Every time you act like the person you want to be
256. You're Not a Burden: Advocating for Yourself with Chronic Illness or High Sensitivity w/ Celiac Coach, Jen Fitzpatrick
For most highly sensitive people, advocating for a physical need feels like being a burden. Jen Fitzpatrick, a celiac advocate and founder of the Confident Celiac Community, joins Alissa to talk about the years she spent staying quiet about her own needs and the shift that finally changed it.The tension is one a lot of HSPs with a chronic condition know well. Speaking up is what keeps you safe, bu
255. Character Development and What Your North Node Reveals About the Person You're Becoming
In this episode, Alissa breaks down why every hard season is building something in you that easy seasons never could, tracing the idea back to astrology, her own birth chart, and a realization that caught her off guard through her daughter Blaine's health diagnoses. She walks you through how to see every uncomfortable, triggering situation as character development and opportunities for growth.In t
254. Stop Reading Silence as Rejection: The HSP Fawn Response Explained
When someone's energy feels a little different than usual, quieter, colder, more reserved, your mind starts filling in the silence with a story about what you did wrong.This week Alissa breaks down where that hypervigilance actually comes from and why your mind rushing to assume the worst rarely has anything to do with what's actually happening.Pulling from her own patterns and stories from women
253. How To Energetically Protect Yourself + Not Take It Personally When Others Project Onto You
This week's episode comes from a riff request in the Not Too Sensitive Club group chat, a question about how to stop taking it personally when someone seems committed to disliking you, especially when you're wired to feel that discomfort in your body.It's uncomfortable to sense someone judging you, and every instinct says to win them over. Alissa offers a different move: recognizing whose story th
252. No One Else Gets to Decide That You're "Too Much" or "Not Enough"
In this solo episode, Alissa names the exhaustion of shape shifting to fit an imagined mold of what's acceptable, and offers the alternative: deciding, every day, who you are and how you want to show up.Sparked by comments on a viral Instagram post about owning being "too much," Alissa calls out the excuse that other's won't let you be your true self. She's not buying the narrative that other peop
251. So What if People Judge You? How to Embrace Being "Cringe" and Build Sky High Self-Trust
Alissa recently shared a post that said "please be too much," and it went viral, reaching over 2 million people after nearly two years of feeling like her work wasn't getting seen. But this episode isn't really about going viral. It's about what happened in those two quiet years before it, and why the willingness to show up anyway, even when you feel embarrassed, judged, or invisible, is what actu
250. The Art of Feeling Everything Without Falling Apart
In this solo episode, Alissa shares the duality she's been living inside, where heartbreak over a forever diagnosis sits right next to genuine blessing, and offers a way to honor every feeling without letting those feelings run the show.Through real moments from her own week, the 7am overwhelm she interrupted with gratitude, the choked up drive home from the doctor, the surprise of a new car the s
249. Being Seen: How to Put Yourself Out There Even When You're Afraid of Being Misperceived
Being seen means being judged. In this episode, Alissa lays out why that's not a reason to stay small, and what it actually takes to let other people have an opinion of you without losing yourself in it.For HSPs, this isn't just a confidence issue. It's energetic. You feel it when someone misreads you, when a comment lands sideways, when the room shifts after you share something you're proud of. T
248. Wanna Become Unbotherable? Start By Building Resilience
For HSPs navigating a world that wasn't built for them, the default can become: everything is hard, no one understands, and discomfort is a signal to retreat.In this solo episode, Alissa challenges that frame directly. She shares how her life experience has shaped her view of challenges.So even with the newest challenge life is giving her, to raise her daughter Blaine through a Type 1 diabetes and
247. Allow Others the Dignity of Their Own Experience
In this episode, Alissa revisits one of the most important distinctions for highly sensitive people: the difference between caring about someone and carrying their experience as your own. Using real examples from clients and her own life, she unpacks why the impulse to manage other people's emotions is actually anxiety disguised as empathy.For HSPs who grew up as the peacekeeper, the fixer, or the
246. How to Stop Feeling Like a Burden and Allow Yourself to "Inconvenience" Others
In this solo episode, Alissa explores one of the most deeply ingrained patterns she sees in highly sensitive people: the belief that having needs makes you a burden.For HSPs, this is a story that gets built early, when your emotional reactions were “too big”, when your needs felt different from everyone else's, and when the people around you responded with frustration instead of understanding. Tha
245. Why Everything You've Been Through Was Preparing You for This
In this solo episode, Alissa shares a deeply personal update about her daughter's new celiac disease diagnosis and what it revealed about the way life equips you long before you understand why.Years of navigating her own severe digestive issues, strict diets, and the emotional weight of feeling different gave Alissa a toolkit she never expected to need for her child. She connects that thread to th
244. My Daughter's Diagnosis + The Spiritual Reframe That Will Change How You See Hardship
Alissa opens up about the very challenging season of life her and her family have recently been thrust into. Her three year old daughter Blaine was suddenly diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes, and navigating it has revealed so much about the power of sensitivity, the discipline of steadiness, and the choice to see growth inside the pain.In this episode:How Alissa's sensitivity helped her catch her dau
243. Throwback: The Overfunctioning Empath (How To Stop Feeling Overly Responsible for Everyone Else) w/ Matt Landsiedel
This episode is one of the most downloaded episodes of the podcast, and for good reason!Alissa chats with Matt Landsiedel about the pattern so many empaths know but rarely name: feeling overly responsible for everyone else's energy, emotions, and well-being.Together they unpack the deeper reasons HSPs fall into overfunctioning, where empathy ends and codependency begins, and what it looks like to
242. Social Anxiety, Self-Worth, and the Real Reason You Overthink Every Conversation w/ Claire Eastham
This week, Alissa sits down with social anxiety coach and author Claire Eastham to unpack where that fear really comes from and what it takes to stop performing your way through every interaction.Claire shares how years of masking and people-pleasing led to a nervous breakdown, and how embracing the very traits she'd been told were "too much" became the turning point. Together they explore why sen
241. Was I Enough? How To Stop Ruminating After Social Situations
In this epsidoe, Alissa explores the post-social spiral that so many highly sensitive people get trapped in, and the surprisingly simple tool she uses to stop it in its tracks.Alissa shares two recent experiences of her own, one at a casual social gathering where she felt quieter than usual, and one at a networking event that pushed her way outside her comfort zone. She also pulls from a live coac
240. You Might Be in an Identity Crisis and Not Even Know It
Drawing from a recent coaching conversation inside the Not Too Sensitive Club, Alissa walks through the pattern so many highly sensitive women fall into: outsourcing their sense of self to how others respond to them. When that source gets disrupted (e.g., a boundary gets pushback, a workplace stops reflecting your value) it can feel like an identity crisis.Alissa explores what happens when the ext
239. Coddling Keeps You Comfortable. A Higher Standard Sets You Free
In this solo episode, Alissa explores the difference between people who tell you what you want to hear and the ones who love you enough to tell you the truth. Because validation feels good, but it can also keep you stuck.Alissa makes the case for honest, loving challenge as one of the most underrated forms of care, and reflects on what changes when you finally have people in your corner who won't
238. The Unexpected Gift in Comparing Yourself to Others
In this solo episode, Alissa unpacks what's actually happening when you measure yourself against someone else, and how to use those moments as information rather than evidence of your own inadequacy.The reflex most of us have when comparison hits is either self-diminishment or quiet resentment. What Alissa offers instead is a way to get curious.Alissa shares personal examples and client stories to
237. Are Your Feelings Keeping You Stuck?
In this solo episode, Alissa takes an honest look at why validating your feelings too much can be a problem. Your feelings can be completely valid and still not be an excuse to stay stuck.Alissa shares examples from her own life like the overstimulation of motherhood, the chaos of a busy household, the moments where snapping feels like the only option; and gets real about what it actually looks li
236. The Creative Power of People Who Feel Everything w/ Brianna Pastor
In this episode, Alissa is joined by poet and author Bri, whose work speaks directly to the experience of being deeply sensitive in a world that often doesn’t understand it.They talk about what it actually feels like to grow up highly sensitive, and how that shapes your identity, your relationships, and your sense of belonging.Bri shares her experience navigating intense emotions from a young age,
235. 3 Tips for Clearing Your Channel and Using Your Sensitivity to Your Advantage
In this episode, Alissa explores how highly sensitive people can keep their “channel clear” so they can access their intuition, creativity, and natural gifts.While sensitivity comes with powerful strengths—like empathy, intuition, and emotional intelligence—many HSPs feel disconnected from those gifts because their inner channel is cluttered by outside noise, old conditioning, and self-doubt.Aliss
234. Emotional Trailblazers: Why The World Needs Sensitive People Right Now w/April Snow
In this episode, Alissa sits down with therapist and author April Snow to talk about writing books, being seen as a highly sensitive person, and building resilience in a world that isn’t always HSP-friendly.They share what it’s really like to write a full-length book (including the vulnerability of putting your words on a printed page), how confidence is built through discomfort, and why highly se
233. Stop Avoiding Hard Things (It’s Keeping You Stuck)
In this solo episode, Alissa dives into a core pillar of her work: expanding your tolerance for discomfort as a highly sensitive person.She shares how she is navigating an intense season of motherhood with little sleep and full emotional capacity, while also watching clients move through their own challenging chapters. She explores what it actually takes for sensitive people to build resilience an
232. Overcoming Victimhood Mindset, Creative Expression, & Finding Your Voice as a Sensitive Soul w/ Bailey Creativity
In this episode, Alissa sits down with her longtime Instagram friend Bailey for a deep and honest conversation about creativity, self-worth, friendship dynamics, and what it really means to be an empowered highly sensitive person.Bailey shares her journey of feeling like an outsider growing up, watering herself down to fit in, and eventually finding her voice through poetry.This episode is a power
231. "Own Your Weird", Become Magnetic, & Stop Settling in Your Relationships w/ Case Kenny
In this episode, Alissa sits down with writer and speaker Case Kenny for a conversation about self-expression, confidence, and what it really means to stop shrinking yourself.They explore why embracing your “cringe,” intensity, and nonconforming traits is actually magnetic, and why the fear of being judged keeps so many Highly Sensitive People playing small.The conversation expands into relationsh
230. Are you betraying yourself to keep the peace? An honest look at the relationships you're outgrowing
Season 2.0 of the Not Too Sensitive Podcast is officially here, and Alissa is back after a much-needed break with a renewed vision for the show.In this episode, Alissa shares what shifted during her time away. Then from there, the conversation turns to one of the most common (and painful) patterns Highly Sensitive People experience in relationships: betraying themselves in order to keep the peace.
229. Living in Alignment as an HSP (A Personal Reflection, Pod Updates, + What I See Coming in 2026)
As 2025 comes to a close, Alissa shares a reflective and personal episode about endings, rebirth, and learning how to live in true alignment, especially as a Highly Sensitive Person.This year held profound milestones and massive shifts: signing a book deal, welcoming a new baby after pregnancy loss, navigating postpartum life while writing a book, and feeling the internal pull to realign how she s
228. When You Can’t Stop Worrying What People Think of You
In this episode, Alissa gets real about one of the biggest struggles Highly Sensitive People face: the constant overthinking, analyzing, and self-editing that comes from worrying what others might be thinking.She breaks down how this pattern can quietly run your life—influencing your choices, your boundaries, your energy, and even your self-worth— and why learning to unhook from other people’s per
227. You’re Holding More Than You Realize: How to Be Compassionate With Yourself When Life Feels Like a Lot
This week’s episode is a gentle reminder for all of us: you’re doing more than you realize, and it’s okay to acknowledge it. 💛Alissa dives into a practice that she often share with her 1:1 clients and in the Not Too Sensitive Club. The practice is all about zooming out on yourself to witness all that you’re holding and doing. This is especially helpful during busy seasons (hello, holidays!) when i
226. If You’re Tired of Asking “What’s Wrong With Me?”, Listen to This
This week’s episode is a little different in the best way!Alissa is sharing a raw, unfiltered audio drop straight from Lucky Girl Radio, the private chat inside The Not Too Sensitive Club where she opens up about her personal growth, lived experiences, and the inner work she’s navigating in real time.In this behind-the-scenes glimpse, Alissa explores what it looks like to improve yourself from a p
225. Life Is Your Classroom: How to Enjoy the Holidays More as an HSP
In this episode, Alissa offers a refreshing, grounded reframe for navigating holiday gatherings, especially when you’re a highly sensitive person anticipating old triggers, complicated family dynamics, or emotionally draining interactions.Instead of bracing yourself or rehearsing every response, she invites you to see these moments as a kind of “spiritual assignment” or gentle experiment: an oppor
224. What To Do When Someone Makes You Feel Small (Stop Shrinking + Start Carrying Yourself With Confidence)
In this episode, Alissa shares a powerful behind-the-scenes moment from the very first Not Too Sensitive Club call, where the group explored how to use triggers as opportunities for healing instead of evidence that something is “wrong” with you.Through a real client example, she breaks down exactly how to move from blaming, spiraling, or shutting down to curiosity, self-validation, and empowered a
223. What I've learned about people being triggered by me (& how it helped me heal my friendship abandonment wounds)
In this episode, Alissa shares a deeply personal lesson about learning to stay grounded when others are triggered by your authenticity.From feeling like an outsider as a sensitive child to navigating judgment as an adult and business owner, she opens up about how these moments have shaped her self-trust and confidence.This is an invitation to stop watering yourself down, to let others have their r
222. Healing Abandonment Wounds & Feeling SAFE In Relationships w/LMHC, Jessica Baum
In this special guest episode, Alissa sits down with therapist and author Jessica Baum to explore how attachment styles develop, how they relate to sensitivity, and what healing secure attachment actually looks like.Jessica explains why so many highly sensitive people lean anxious in relationships, what it means to internalize safety, and how to start rewiring our attachment patterns through co-re
221. Stop Letting Other People's Perception of You Define You
Do you find yourself replaying conversations, worrying what someone thinks of you, or holding back your truth because you don’t want to be “too much”?In this episode, Alissa dives into one of the biggest traps for highly sensitive people: overreliance on other people’s approval and perception. She shares how constantly scanning for others’ validation keeps you disconnected from your own self-trust
220. The Sneaky Reason You Still Don't Feel Self-Confident (My favorite hack for building confidence!)
In this episode, Alissa gets real about one of the biggest reasons highly sensitive people stay stuck—overthinking instead of acting.She shares why consuming self-help content isn’t enough, why confidence doesn’t come from journaling or affirmations alone, and how taking small, messy action steps is what actually rewires your identity and builds self-trust.Through client stories, personal reflecti
219. Why You Feel Like You're "In Trouble" When People Get Upset With You & 3 Tips to Shift OUT of This
Today Alissa is diving into a pattern she sees often in highly sensitive women—and one she's personally navigated herself—the instant sinking feeling that you’re “in trouble” whenever someone disagrees with you, gets upset, or pushes back.This episode explores the roots of this response—often tied to the fawn response, good girl conditioning, and past experiences with unpredictability or invalidat
218. Growth Gap: The Tension Between Who You've Been & Who You're Becoming
In this episode, Alissa shares a powerful reflection on the connection between personal growth and expanding your tolerance for discomfort.She explains how the moments that stretch us, challenge us, and make us uncomfortable are actually the in-between spaces where transformation happens. Using real examples from her postpartum fitness journey and her early days coaching highly sensitive people, A
217. How to Stop Feeling Self-Conscious for Being Different Than Other People
In this episode, Alissa talks about why comparison and imagined judgment keep you from enjoying the things you love—and how owning your values (not everyone else’s) is the shortcut to feeling steady, confident, and truly free. Inspired by a conversation with a new 1:1 client, Alissa digs into how small decisions become litmus tests for self-worth. She shares honest, everyday examples and offers a
216. How To Believe Things Are Always Working In Your Favor (even when it feels like they're not)
In this episode, Alissa dives into one of her core beliefs: that life is always working in your favor, especially when it doesn’t feel like it.Through personal stories, spiritual wisdom, and honest reflections, she explores how setbacks, triggers, and everyday annoyances can be invitations into growth. From ancient teachings like Buddhism’s lotus flower to her own journey with chronic illness and
215. THIS Is What's Blocking You From Using Your Emotional Intelligence As A Strength
In this episode, Alissa dives into one of the biggest blocks highly sensitive people face: insecurity. She explores how self-doubt and second-guessing can cloud your emotional intelligence—turning what should be a powerful superpower into a source of hypervigilance and overthinking.Through personal stories and practical examples, Alissa explains how insecurities often cause HSPs to take things per
214. Being Highly Sensitive In A Broken World
In this bonus, un-edited episode, I explore the role I believe we're called to play in the world as highly sensitive people and how we can support ourselves through challenging times.Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our
213. How to Cultivate "Lucky Girl" Energy
In this episode, Alissa explores the concept of lucky girl energy—the magnetic way of living where things seem to effortlessly work out for you. While the term has become popular online, Alissa shares how cultivating this energy is actually the natural result of healing self-worth, neutralizing triggers, and embodying your most confident, unshakable self.Through personal stories—from meeting her h
212. Growth, Expansion, & Shifting Your Identity As An HSP
In this episode, Alissa reflects on her intense season of life—transitioning to two kids, writing a book, and navigating all the layers of motherhood, marriage, friendships, and business—and how these experiences have deepened her embodiment of the Not Too Sensitive movement.She shares how identity is constantly evolving through challenges, transitions, and defining moments, and why allowing ourse
211. Needing Nothing Attracts Everything (A concept that's changed my life)
In this episode, Alissa explores the powerful truth behind the phrase “needing nothing attracts everything.”She shares how relying on external validation keeps us stuck in low self-worth—and how building confidence within creates a magnetic energy that draws the right people and opportunities into your life.Questions answered within this episode:What does “needing nothing attracts everything” real
210. The Spiritual Awakening of Highly Sensitive People: Releasing the Need for External Validation
In this episode, Alissa opens up about her personal journey with external validation and how her identity became tethered to achievements, praise, and being the “star employee.” After experiencing burnout, illness, and a toxic work environment, she shares how it all became a spiritual wake-up call to look within.Whether you’re a high achiever, people pleaser, or someone who finds worth in how othe
209. Feeling Less Overwhelmed & More Confident in Your Home as an HSP w/Elena Willitts, Home Organizing Coach
In this episode, Alissa is joined by her client and friend, Elena Willitts, a home organizing coach who helps women, especially Type B and Type C personalities to ditch the shame, create simple systems, and feel confident in their space. They talk about why traditional organizing advice doesn’t work for everyone, how clutter impacts your mental well-being (especially for highly sensitive people),
208. How to Feel Confident Around Intimidating People (Your Voice Matters!)
Do you shrink yourself around confident or intimidating people? Do you feel the need to “chameleon” into who others want you to be...just to feel accepted or safe?In this episode, Alissa explores one of the biggest challenges for highly sensitive people (HSPs): shrinking to be liked. Inspired by a client conversation, Alissa shares why discomfort isn’t dangerous, why you don’t need to match someon
207. Collective Shifts Around Social Media, AI, And How to Navigate It As An HSP
In this episode, Alissa shares a collective energetic shift she’s been sensing...one that’s deeply impacting how many of us relate to social media, content creation, and digital connection. As a highly sensitive person (HSP) and mentor, Alissa explores the rise of AI, the changing feel of Instagram, and the growing desire for more authentic, slower-paced, and meaningful forms of communication. She
206. You're NOT Too Sensitive (Why I Changed The Name of the Podcast!)
Welcome to the Not Too Sensitive podcast!! Alissa shares why the podcast name change, and how what began as a journal entry turned into a powerful intuitive shift, marking the next era of her work with highly sensitive people. Alissa shares the personal story behind the rebrand, the deeper meaning behind the phrase “not too sensitive,” and how this isn’t just a title change, but the start of a cu
205. Assuming You're A Burden & Feeling "Less Than" (Self-Worth & Shame Healing for HSPs)
In this episode, Alissa addresses a pattern many highly sensitive people struggle with...feeling like a burden and constantly putting others on a pedestal. She unpacks how these feelings stem from low self-worth and how they shape the way others respond to us. With compassionate but honest insight, Alissa shares how shifting your energy and healing your self-worth can radically transform your rela
204. Pressure Creates Diamonds (A Spiritual Lesson For Intense Seasons Of Life)
In this episode, Alissa shares her current life season as a mom of two, author, and business owner, and how this pressure has illuminated areas for healing and self-evolution. Through powerful reflections and raw honesty, Alissa invites highly sensitive people (HSPs) to view pressure not as punishment, but as a spiritual opportunity to become the next version of themselves.What You’ll Learn:Why se
203. A Powerful Shift To Help You STOP Relying On External Validation
In this episode, Alissa shares a personal mindset shift that can be a game-changer for highly sensitive people focusing on being proud of how you show up, rather than relying on others to validate you. Through real-life stories including awkward happy hours to Instagram posts to toddler mealtime critiques, she explores how to stop chasing external approval and instead g
202. How To Be Empathetic Without Being Taken Advantage Of (A Word On Self-Trust and Not Tolerating Poor Behavior)
In this episode, Alissa unpacks the hidden reasons why highly sensitive people (HSPs) often struggle with self-trust, and how that lack of trust leads to people-pleasing, being overly tolerant, and losing connection with their own worth. Through personal stories and client breakthroughs, she explores how being overly empathetic can actually lead to self-abandonment, why being “too understanding” h
201. The Sacred Silence: Trusting Life When You’re in the In-Between
In this episode, Alissa explores what it means to rest, surrender, and find steadiness in the silence. Whether it’s waiting on a job, a text, or clarity in a relationship, these “in-between” moments can stir up anxiety and self-doubt...most especially for highly sensitive people. Alissa opens up about hitting a wall, listening to her energy as a Manifestor, and embracing the sacred invitation of s
200. Healing Abandonment Wounds, Raising Self-Worth, & the Rebirth of Building a New Identity
In this episode, Alissa explores the raw, emotional process of moving through self-abandonment and into a fuller, more authentic sense of self-worth. Speaking candidly from her car post-Pilates (in true real-life mom mode), Alissa reflects on her personal journey and what she’s seeing come up for her clients, especially highly sensitive people (HSPs) navigating the discomfort of change. She unpack
199. Creating Your Own "Cool Table" (How I Helped My Client Heal Her Sisterhood Wounds)
In today's episode, Alissa shares the powerful story of a private client who transformed her self-worth and friendships by healing sisterhood wounds and learning to break free from overgiving tendencies. Alissa offers deeply relatable insights for HSPs who struggle to feel truly accepted in friendships—and gives you the exact mindset shift to start creating friendships that feel soul nourishing an
198. How To Stop Taking Things Personally In Your Friendships
If you’re someone who spirals when a friend doesn’t text back or seems distant, this episode is a powerful reminder: it might feel personal...but it probably isn’t. Alissa explores why highly sensitive people often take things personally in friendships and how past wounds may be showing up in the present. You’ll learn how to identify your triggers, assume the most generous, and support yourself wi
197. Overgiving In Friendships? It's Time To Heal Your "I Care More" Wound
If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I always care more?”—this episode is for you. Alissa Boyer unpacks the deep emotional pattern many highly sensitive people experience in friendships: the “I care more” wound. When you’re constantly overgiving, anticipating everyone’s needs, and doing the emotional heavy lifting, it can leave you feeling unseen and burned out. This episode helps you uncover why that
196. How To Stop Letting GUILT Get In The Way of Being Yourself, Setting Boundaries, & Speaking Up
You are a good person—and you’re still allowed to say no. In this soul-nourishing episode, in today's episode, Alissa dives into one of the biggest emotional blocks for highly sensitive people: guilt. Whether it's over setting a boundary, saying no to a social invite, or not stepping in to solve someone else's problem, guilt can feel like too much to bear. But what if the work isn't to avoid guilt
195. How To Regulate & Feel Safe When You're Worried About Being Judged or Misperceived By Others
This episode is your gentle but powerful reminder: people are not thinking about you as much as you think they are. And yes—that truth can set you free. Alissa invites you into a much-needed conversation about the discomfort of being misunderstood, the fear of judgment, and how to find emotional safety within yourself. If you've ever spiraled after a group text or overanalyzed a social media post,
194. Feeling Like You're "Too Much" As An Emotional, Sensitive Person
This episode is a love note to the fellow HSPs, the deep feelers, the ones who felt like you were too much! In this heartfelt episode, Alissa reminds you that feeling deeply is NOT a flaw—it’s a GIFT. Sharing her own journey of growing up feeling "too much" and now raising her spirited daughter, Alissa offers powerful reflections and lessons for you as a highly sensitive person. Through her hones
193. A Spiritual Approach To Navigating Challenges & Roadblocks As An HSP
In this episode, Alissa’s diving deep into how to move through life’s disappointments with faith, self-compassion, and a spiritual perspective. She shares powerful reflections and a moving client story that illustrates how our most painful moments can hold hidden lessons, ultimately leading us closer to who we're meant to become. This is a must-listen for any highly sensitive person navigating unc
192. How To Navigate Friendships Changing As You Heal & Growth
In this episode, I dive into the process of how personal growth and healing can change your relationships and friendships. As you evolve and step into your authentic self, your standards for the people in your life naturally rise. This can lead to some friendships evolving, some fading away, and even the need to have tough conversations about boundaries. I share how important it is to recognize yo
191. Am I Oversharing? How To Be Vulnerable Without Second-Guessing Yourself
In this episode, I explore the concept of vulnerability for highly sensitive people (HSPs) and the emotional risks we take when we share parts of ourselves. I discuss how we can approach vulnerability with courage, especially when our openness isn’t met with the response we hoped for. I also share tips on how to discern who is safe to be vulnerable with and how to be compassionate with yourself wh
190. Regulating Yourself Amidst Chaos As A Highly Sensitive Person
In this episode, I dive into how overstimulation and overwhelm impact me as a highly sensitive person (HSP) and how understanding these traits has helped me better support myself in managing them. I share personal examples of what overstimulates me, like noise and visual clutter, and the simple steps I take to reduce these stressors and maintain balance. I emphasize the importance of not judging m
189. Rebirth, Transformation, and Shifting Into A New Identity
In this episode, I dive into the process of rebirth and transformation, especially when stepping into a new identity. I share how, during times of growth, you may feel like you're caught between the person you were and the person you're becoming. You'll learn how to handle this in-between space, the importance of visualizing the person you want to become, and how to practice shifting into that new
188. You Might Be The Villain In Some People's Story and That's OKAY
In this episode, we talk about and explore the freedom that comes with being true to yourself, even if it means being disliked or misunderstood by others. I discuss how trying to please everyone can lead to self-abandonment and how embracing your authentic self, no matter who disagrees, will empower you. You'll learn how healing your self-worth can help you stand firm in your authenticity and attr
187. The Surprising Power of Triggers, Tough Love, & Looking at Your Blindspots to Uplevel + Heal
In this episode, I dive deep into the idea of taking radical responsibility for our lives and how embracing triggers can lead to personal growth. I explain how being open to uncomfortable moments and reflecting on the role we play in our own struggles can help us step into our empowered, authentic selves. I also introduce tools like the Sensitive Shadow Archetype Quiz and the Unbotherable Workshop
186. Surrendering vs. Forcing (How to Know When It’s Time to Let Go & Stop Trying So Hard)
In this episode, I discuss the importance of surrendering versus forcing, especially for highly sensitive people. I explore how embracing the natural ebbs and flows of our energy, rather than constantly pushing ourselves, is key to thriving and finding peace. I share my personal experience as a second time mom and offer practical insights on how to slow down, release control, and trust that the ri
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