The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast
The Dom Sub Living Podcast is a BDSM and kink-focused show hosted by Alesandra Madison, a BDSM educator. It explores topics like power exchange, DDlg, D/s relationships, bondage, and sexual wellness. The podcast features expert interviews, personal stories, and practical advice for individuals and couples interested in the Dom/sub lifestyle. It aims to help listeners enhance their intimate experiences and embrace their sensual selves.
Episodes
Expires Oct. 21: 3 Keys to a Killer D/s Dynamic
Missed the free training? You can still watch the replay—but only for a limited time!🔥 Head to https://domsubliving.com/masterclass now to watch the full video training, complete with step-by-step visuals and graphics.In this episode, we're sharing the audio from 3 Keys to Creating a Killer D/s Dynamic. You’ll learn how to build confidence, create deeper connections, and add structure to your
Consensual Non-Consent (CNC): BDSM's Darkest Kink?
#159 How can “no” still be consensual? Consensual non-consent (CNC) is one of BDSM’s most misunderstood practices. We’re breaking down what CNC really means, why people want it, how consent and safewords work, and what can happen after a scene. Is CNC really BDSM’s darkest kink? Listen now and decide for yourself.➡️ Download the FREE BDSM Contract:: https://domsubliving.com/cnc➡️ Show notes and mo
4 Kinky Challenges for Doms and Subs
#158 Has your D/s dynamic started feeling a little too vanilla? These 4 kinky challenges for Doms and subs can help you shake up your routine, build anticipation, deepen your power exchange, and bring fresh energy back into your BDSM dynamic. And yes, we’ve personally tried every one! Listen now, then share which challenge you’re taking!➡️ Free list of 20+ protocols: https://domsubliving.com/proto
Expectations of a Submissive: What You Need to Know (and What You Don’t)
#157 What should a Dom expect from their sub, and what should a sub expect from their Dom? In this guest episode, Luna from Submissive Guide breaks down healthy D/s expectations, BDSM rules and protocols, communication, and red flags to avoid. Whether you're a Dom or sub, learn how to build a stronger D/s dynamic without unrealistic expectations. Listen now!➡️ Check out Luna's site: http
Weird Things I Do as a 24/7 Submissive for My Dom
#156 What “weird” things does a 24/7 submissive actually do for their Dom? I’m sharing 5 things from my real-life D/s dynamic that even other people in the BDSM lifestyle think go too far. We’ll explore submission, power exchange, and what 24/7 Dom/sub really looks like beyond a scene. Listen now and ask yourself: Would I do any of these?➡️ Free 'How to Be a Good Sub' Cheat Sheet: https:
How We Handle Jealousy in Our D/s Relationship
#155 Can jealousy actually damage your D/s dynamic? Learn how we handle jealousy without letting it wreck trust, roles, or connection. We cover communication, boundaries, insecurity, compersion, and jealousy in polyamory, non-monogamy, and monogamous dynamics. Listen now to build a stronger, more secure Dom/sub relationship.➡️ All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess➡️ Join our free com
8 Ways to Make Your Sub Feel More Submissive Every Day
#154 What if making a sub feel more submissive only took 10 seconds? In this episode, discover 8 surprisingly simple ways to deepen submission, strengthen your D/s dynamic, and bring more kinky power exchange into everyday life – without needing elaborate BDSM scenes or more intensity. Listen now and choose one to try today.➡️ Free list of 20 D/s protocols: https://domsubliving.com/protocols➡️ Joi
10 Things Every Good Dom Does Differently
#153 Think being a good Dom means being stricter or more in control? Think again. Discover 10 things great Doms do differently – from how they handle rules and punishment to the surprising way they build trust, obedience, and confidence in their sub. Steal these habits for your own D/s dynamic and listen now.➡️ FREE quick start guide to become a better Dom: https://domsubliving.com/dom➡️ Show note
How Far Is Too Far? Exploring BDSM Humiliation Play
#152 How far is too far with BDSM humiliation play? Explore degradation and humiliation kink, from setting boundaries and using safewords to aftercare, communication, and ideas for beginners and advanced players. Learn how to push limits while protecting trust in your Dom/sub dynamic. Listen now to discover how far you can safely take humiliation play.➡️ List of 50 degradation & humiliation id
How to Get Your Partner Interested in BDSM (Without Nagging)
#151 What if your partner isn’t rejecting BDSM, they’re rejecting the pressure? Learn why nagging and hinting backfire, how to talk about kink without topping from the bottom, and how to get your partner more engaged in your D/s dynamic. Listen now to learn what actually works.➡️ Grab The Partner Transformation Toolkit™: https://domsubliving.com/toolkit➡️ Get our weekly newsletter: https://domsubl
How (not) to Train Your Sub
#150 What if the reason your sub seems "bratty" has nothing to do with them? Learn five common training mistakes that can create resistance instead of trust. Discover how better communication, consistency, and leadership can build a more obedient, devoted submissive and a stronger D/s relationship. Watch now and tell us which mistake surprised you most.➡️ Free list of 50 D/s protocols: h
The Hard Truth About Inconsistent Doms
#149 How many times should you believe, 'I'll do better'? Whether you're the Dom struggling to stay consistent or the submissive wondering how much longer to wait, this episode is for you. Learn how to identify the real problem, improve communication, and decide whether your D/s dynamic is worth fighting for. Listen now before making a decision you'll regret.➡️ Grab our FR
10 BDSM Rules You Should Probably Break
#148 You've been told these BDSM rules are non-negotiable. But are they? We're challenging 10 of the most common BDSM "rules", revealing which protect you, which are outdated, and which may be holding you back. Press play and challenge everything you thought you knew.➡️ Free list of 50 kinks: https://domsubliving.com/checklist➡️ Sign up for our FREE newsletter: https://domsubli
Free Use & Blanket Consent (Is Your Relationship Ready?)
#147 Free use sounds simple... until you actually try to build it. In this episode, We explain what free use and blanket consent really mean, how they work together, and the signs your relationship is ready for this level of trust. Listen now to find out if your relationship is truly ready for free use.➡️ Download your free BDSM contract: https://domsubliving.com/contract➡️ Show notes and more: ht
How to Avoid the Vanilla Rut in Your D/s Relationship
#146 Has your D/s dynamic started feeling a little... vanilla? In this episode, we sharing simple BDSM habits that help you stay consistent, build trust, strengthen your Dom/sub relationship, and avoid the vanilla rut – even when life gets busy. Listen now and discover the small daily changes that can make a big difference.➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free➡️ Show n
5 BDSM Experts Share What Everyone Gets Wrong (But No One Says)
#145 What if the biggest mistake in BDSM isn't what you think? Five top BDSM educators reveal the most common mistakes in Dominance, submission, consent, communication, trust, and personal growth. Their answers all point to one surprising truth. If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and subscribe for more.– Justine Cross: https://www.thejustinecross.com– Luna from Submissive Guid
How to Keep Your D/s Dynamic Alive When Life Gets Busy
#144 If your D/s dynamic only exists when life is easy, that might be why it keeps falling apart.What do you do when stress, illness, family obligations, or major life changes push your Dom/sub role to the back burner? In this episode, I share the mindset shift that changed everything for me and how to identify the non-negotiables that keep a BDSM relationship strong during life's busiest sea
How to Be More Dominant Without Being a Jerk
#143 Most new Dominants make the same mistake: they water themselves down because they're afraid of becoming the stereotypical Dom everyone rolls their eyes at. In this episode, we're sharing how to step into authority without becoming controlling, arrogant, or mean – and why that fear may be holding your dynamic back. Listen now and discover what real dominance looks like.➡️ Free '
The Secret Queer History of Kink Nobody Talks About
#142 Did you know modern kink culture has roots most people never learn about? In this episode, we're exploring the hidden connection between kink, queer history, leather culture, Pride, consent, and radical self-ownership. Discover how BDSM helped build community, challenge shame, and create space for authentic self-expression. Listen now and see kink history in a whole new way.➡️ Free kink
5 Easy Dom/sub Protocols You Can Start Using Today
#141 Want a stronger D/s dynamic without adding complicated rules? Start here. I'm walking you through 5 beginner-friendly protocols straight from my own relationship — what worked, what flopped, and one protocol that sparked a wave of online controversy. Listen now and pick one idea to try this week.➡️ Join the conversation: https://domsubliving.com/community➡️ Free list of 20+ protocols: ht
What Should a Submissive Actually Be Doing in 24/7 D/s?
#140 “Am I supposed to just wait for direction… or take initiative?" If you’re new to a 24/7 D/s dynamic, this episode is for you.We're sharing advice for submissives and Dominants on communication, structure, expectations, proactive service, and building a real-world power exchange relationship that actually works long term.Listen now and see if you’ve been making this common D/s mistak
5 Stages of Subspace (And How to Get There Faster)
#139 Most subs think they've experienced subspace. They haven't – not really.In this episode, we're breaking down all 5 stages of subspace and how to get there faster – including the one stage nobody warns you about that can quietly damage your dynamic if you're not handling it right.If you're a a Dom who wants to guide your partner there or a sub who wants to go deeper, t
How to Make Your Kink Life Kinkier
#138 When good becomes boring – that's the real threat to your kink life.Your dynamic works. Your scenes are comfortable. But comfort has a sneaky way of killing intensity. In this episode, you'll learn 7 new ways to level up what's already working, without blowing up what you've built.Listen now and pick one thing to try tonight!➡️ Free checklist of 50+ kinks: https://domsubli
5 BDSM Mistakes That Keep You Stuck as a Dom or Sub
#137 I ripped up our D/s contract… more than once.If your dynamic feels off, it might not be your partner. It’s often subtle patterns that keep you stuck. In this episode, I break down the hidden mistakes that quietly stall your growth as a Dom or sub.Ready to grow your D/s dynamic? Hit play and start leveling up now.➡️ Kink Personality Type Quiz: https://domsubliving.com/quiz➡️ Step-by-step Dom S
What Is a Pleasure Dom? (And Why Subs Crave Them)
#136 What is a Pleasure Dom – and why do subs say it ruins them for everyone else?We're covering what makes this dynamic so powerful, who it's built for, and six ways it plays out in real D/s relationships – including one most educators won't touch.➡️ Free Quick Start Dom Guide: https://domsubliving.com/dom➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/136❤️ Join the All-Access Pa
8 Ways to Get Better at BDSM
#135 Still stuck at the same level in BDSM?Getting better isn’t about more toys or tricks. It’s about mindset, consistency, and showing up with intention – whether you’re single or in a D/s dynamic. This is what actually creates growth. Ready to level up your kink? Start applying these 8 things today.➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free➡️ Check out the All-Access Pass
2 Things Every BDSM Scene Needs (Most People Miss One)
#134 Why do some BDSM scenes feel flat – even when everything looks right?Discover the 2 things that actually make or break a BDSM scene. Learn how Doms and subs can prepare, avoid common mistakes, and create deeper, more connected scenes. Share this episode with your partner and try these 2 shifts before your next scene.➡️ Download your free scene: https://domsubliving.com/scene➡️ Get our Scene C
Ask the Audience: Submissive Pet Peeves (Sorry, Doms)
#133 What do Dominants do that drives submissives crazy?Real answers from the Dom Sub Living community reveal common D/s mistakes – from lack of follow-through to inconsistency, attention, and leadership gaps. Learn what breaks submission and how to fix it.➡️ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/133
Why Stressed Doms Pull Back (and What to Do About It)
#132 The Dom is stressed – and your dynamic is paying the price. In this episode, we answer a real coaching call question about what to do when the Dom checks out under pressure. Learn how to spot red flags, how the sub can stay grounded in submission, and why stress might actually strengthen your dynamic. If this sounds familiar, you need to hear this episode.➡️ Join our Dom Sub Training course:
5 Power Exchange Mistakes That Are Killing Your D/s Dynamic
#131 Are you slowly killing your D/s dynamic without realizing it? In this episode, we break down hidden patterns that weaken connection, trust, and power exchange over time – and why they feel normal while you’re in them. Listen now and take an honest look at your BDSM dynamic today.➡️ Download your free BDSM contract: https://domsubliving.com/contract➡️ Explore our courses & trainings: https
Is It Kink or Is It Abuse? How to Know the Difference
#130 BDSM is not abuse. Consensual non-consent is not rape, and ageplay is not incest. In this powerful episode, we break down consent, red flags, and when power exchange crosses the line. Featuring RAINN. Listen now and share with someone who needs it.➡️ Get support/support RAINN: https://rainn.org➡️ Learn more about Podcasthon: https://podcasthon.org➡️ Explore our resources: https://domsubliving
How to Create D/s Protocols That Work in Real Life
#129 Too many protocols? Not enough? Here's the fix.If your D/s protocols keep failing – or you don't have any – this episode is for you. We break down 50 creative protocol ideas for every dynamic: bedroom-only, long-distance, CG/l, high protocol, disability, public, and even single kinksters.Listen now and choose one protocol to implement today.➡️ More protocol ideas: https://domsublivi
10 Dom/sub Questions to Deepen Your Dynamic Tonight
#128 Most Dom/sub dynamics don’t fail from lack of kink—they fail from lack of communication. Discover 10 powerful questions that deepen D/s, improve scenes, strengthen aftercare, and prevent dynamics from drifting. These questions build trust, devotion, and intentional power exchange. Listen now and try one question with your partner tonight!➡️ Free list of 20+ protocols: https://domsubliving.com
Why Your D/s Relationship Keeps Failing (Fix This)
#127 If your D/s keeps starting strong… and then quietly falling apart, it’s not because you’re bad at BDSM. There’s a pattern we see over and over in Dom/sub relationships. It has nothing to do with effort, toys, or trying harder. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it. Listen now and find out what’s really sabotaging your dynamic.➡️ Free list of 30+ punishment ideas: https://domsubliving.com/punish
5 Edgeplay Ideas Only Experienced Kinksters Try
#126 Some of you are going to try this anyway. Edgeplay goes beyond safe, sane, and consensual into risk-aware kink – and most kinksters aren’t ready for what that really means. We're ranking five advanced practices by danger level and breaking down the psychology, trust, and real risks behind them. Listen now to hear which one tops the list.➡️ Free checklist of 50+ kinks: https://domsublivin
6 Training Ideas to Take Your D/s Beyond the Bedroom
#125 What if your power exchange didn’t end when the scene was over? We're sharing 6 practical training methods to make your D/s dynamic real every day—beyond the bedroom. If you’re craving a consistent and kinky Dom/sub dynamic instead of a hobby, this is your roadmap.➡️ Free 'How to Be a Good Dom' Quick Start Guide: https://domsubliving.com/dom➡️ Explore our online courses: https:
4 Ways to Find a Dom/Sub Partner (That Actually Work)
#124: Struggling to find a real Dom or sub without scammers or fake dynamics? In this episode, we're breaking down the 4 proven ways kinksters are actually meeting healthy partners today – from introducing kink to a current partner to dating smarter online and in person. Listen now and start finding real connection.➡️ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community➡️ Explore our s
What Kind of Dom Are You Really? How to Find Your True Style
#123 Daddy, Master, Sadist… why does choosing a Dom style feel so hard?This episode explores how instinct, control, care, and desire shape your true Dominant identity, with a grounded take on finding alignment instead of forcing labels.Press play to hear what actually fits.➡️ Free Dominant Quick Start Guide: https://domsubliving.com/dom➡️ All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess
What Real Dom/Sub Relationships Actually Look Like
#122 “I want a Dom/sub dynamic, but how do I trust?”In this interview, real students David and Dana share how they built a healthy Dom/sub relationship. We talk trust, communication, leadership, safety, and mindset—what actually works beyond fantasy.Subscribe for more real BDSM conversations.➡️ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community➡️ Check out the All-Access Pass: https://dom
My Dungeon Night Debrief: New Year’s Eve at a BDSM Club
#121 What is it really like inside a BDSM dungeon? We're taking you behind the scenes of our New Year’s Eve night in Los Angeles, from safety rules and live, performances to playing on the St. Andrew’s Cross and ending at Denny’s. Listen now and join our online kink community.➡️ Our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community➡️ All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess
How to Get Started With BDSM in 2026
#120 Kink curious but overwhelmed?👉 Take the free kink personality type quiz: https://domsubliving.com/quizYou don’t need extreme play, expensive toys, or a dungeon to start BDSM. In this episode, we're sharing a clear, beginner-friendly path to consent, power exchange, starter kinks, first scenes, and building a real Dom/sub dynamic that actually works in real life.Follow the show and listen
From Bedroom Kink to Living 24/7 D/s
#119 24/7 D/s isn’t something you jump into overnight. We're breaking down the real phases that take couples from bedroom-only kink into a lived 24/7 power exchange—without rushing, forcing labels, or burning out. If you feel stuck in the middle, this will make the path clearer. Follow the show so you don’t miss what comes next.➡️ Free BDSM contract template: https://domsubliving.com/contract
2025 Broke Me… But It Also Built Me
#118 I almost didn’t release this episode—and that’s exactly why I had to. In this raw episode, I'm sharing the good, bad, and ugly of a tough year: surviving long-distance D/s, facing kink community drama, and the hard boundaries I drew to protect myself and my work. Listen through the end to hear what’s coming next—and why I'm not backing down.➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https
Kinky vs. Vanilla: Can Your Relationship Survive the Difference?
#117 One of you is kinky, the other... not so much. Is that a deal-breaker—or just a hard conversation you’ve been avoiding? Relationship coach Amanda Dames breaks down how kinky/vanilla couples can talk about desire without shame, translate needs clearly, and decide what’s actually sustainable long-term. No pressure. No fixing. Just honesty. Listen now, then follow Amanda Dames and check out The
Dirty Talk, Punishment, Trust Issues—Let’s Talk D/s
#116 What do you do when real life and D/s collide?👉 Join the free Dom Sub Living Community: https://domsubliving.com/communityToday Jay and Alesandra answer your biggest Dom/sub questions: long-distance rules, sub drop, fear of judgment, family boundaries, punishment, switching, and even dirty talk styles. Join our Dom Sub Living Community to ask your own questions next episode!➡️ Join the free D
Slave Training 101: The One Thing Most Doms Skip
#115 Slave training doesn’t fall apart because the sub fails — it falls apart because the Dom can’t stay consistent. In this episode, Jay shares how our Master/slave training began, why most structures collapse, and the one thing Doms must master to keep their dynamic strong, sustainable, and consensual. Tap play to learn the simple shift that makes slave training actually work.➡️ Free weekly news
Can a Submissive Still Be Feminist?
#114 Can you kneel for your partner and still stand for equality?❤️ Download your free cheat sheet, 'How to Be a Good Sub': https://domsubliving.com/subIn this episode, we're exploring how feminism and submission actually complete each other. Learn why power exchange isn’t powerless, how shame transforms into choice, and what true consent means in D/s. 💬 Got thoughts? Comment or DM
Bruises, Branding, and the Big Questions Around Marks in BDSM
#113 Why do some scenes leave deep bruises and others nothing at all? In this episode we're unpacking bruises, branding, and marks in BDSM – what they mean emotionally, the science of bruising, how to explain them to vanilla people, and when branding goes too far. Listen now to feel safer and more seen.➡️ Access the free BDSM Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free➡️ Join our free com
10 Hidden Power Plays Only Experienced Doms Use
#112 Ever met a Dom who can control a room without saying a word? In this episode, we're revealing the 10 hidden power plays only experienced Dominants use – how silence, attention, and anticipation build real obedience and trust. Learn the quiet secrets that make submission magnetic. Which power play will you try first?➡️ Free Dominant Quick Start Guide: https://domsubliving.com/dominant➡️ S
The Biggest Lies You’ve Been Told About BDSM & Kink
#111 What if everything you’ve heard about BDSM and kink is wrong? In this episode, we're busting the biggest Dom/sub myths holding people back—from feeling too inexperienced to thinking BDSM is immoral. Learn the truth about who really belongs in kink. Listen now and start unlearning the lies about BDSM.➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free➡️ Show notes and more:
What No One Admits About BDSM—But We Just Did
#110 BDSM isn’t just fantasy—it’s how real people grow. Alesandra and Deborah Kat get honest about living a D/s lifestyle: consent, safewords, limits, protocols, weekly check-ins, 24/7 dynamics, parenting, money, safety, community—plus the fun, kinky parts. Loved it? Follow Deborah’s 'Better Sex Podcast' and subscribe for more real talk.➡️ Deborah Kat's 'Better Sex Podcast&apos
My 3 Must-Haves for Every BDSM Scene (True Story)
#109 What makes a BDSM scene truly work? We talk about limits all the time—but rarely about the things we actually need to feel connected, grounded, and fulfilled. In this episode, Alesandra opens up about her real must-haves for every scene and why yours matter just as much. Reflect on your own and share them with us after listening.➡️ Free Yes/No/Maybe checklist: https://domsubliving.com/checkli
Spirituality and BDSM: What No One Talks About
#108 Can BDSM be spiritual? In this episode, we're exploring the meditative and transformative side of power exchange — from subspace and Domspace to mindful rituals, breathwork, and spiritual aftercare. Learn how intention and awareness can turn any scene into a sacred experience.➡️ Discover 20 rituals to make your dynamic sacred: https://domsubliving.com/rituals➡️ Show notes and more: https
How Doms Build Confidence Before and During a Scene
#107 Worried your sub will see right through your nerves? In this coaching call replay, Alesandra and her Dom, Jay, share real-world advice on how Dominants build confidence before and during a scene—through communication, self-awareness, and practice that makes play feel natural and fun. Listen now to learn how real Doms grow confident in every scene.➡️ Join our free community: https://domsublivi
Chastity and Locktober: Everything You Need to Know
#106 Locktober isn’t just denial—it’s connection, power, and play.🔒 Free Cheat Sheet to level up your submission: https://domsubliving.com/subLearn what Locktober is, its meme roots, how to prep and size devices, keyholder dynamics, solo play, the Chaster app, real student stories, and pitfalls to avoid. Subscribe for more kink-positive conversations.➡️ Free Submissive Cheat Sheet: https://domsubl
Why I Have a Hard Limit on Electroplay — True Story
#105 People think masochists will try anything… but I’ve got hard limits too. In this episode, I share the story of why electroplay makes me cringe, what happened when my teen mistook a new gadget for a toy, and how true trust in TPE means respecting boundaries. Tune in now and follow the show for more Dom/sub stories.➡️ Free checklist of 50 kinks: https://domsubliving.com/checklist➡️ Dom Sub Livi
Your First Dungeon Night or Munch? What to Expect
#104 What actually happens your first time at a dungeon or munch? Do people really play in front of strangers? Or do you just stand there and watch?” In this episode, we're sharing what to expect, what to wear, how to talk to people, and spot red flags so you feel confident. Don’t risk looking awkward or creepy – tune in to learn how to make your first event a success.➡️ Grab the free Resourc
The Real Cost of Waiting to Start Your BDSM Journey
#103 Why is now the best time to start living the BDSM lifestyle? Find out on this episode of Dom Sub Living! We're addressing common excuses for delaying and sharing three factors that make this the ideal moment to start. Discover the potential risks you may not have thought about that could change the future landscape. Don't wait any longer to explore BDSM. Take action now and embrace
Inside Our BDSM Contract – What We Really Agreed To
#102 If your idea of a BDSM contract comes from 50 Shades, we need to talk.👉 Grab your free template at https://domsubliving.com/contractIn this episode, I take you inside my real-life BDSM contract—what’s in it, what’s not, and the surprising clause that saved our relationship. Tune in to learn how to write a Dom/sub contract that’s safe, hot, and functional.➡️ Download your free contract PDF: ht
The Future of Dom Sub Living and What’s Next for You
#101 The podcast is changing! Does that mean less content? Nope. It means more real talk, raw stories, and deeper insights than ever. In this episode, we're sharing why the format is shifting, what’s ahead for the YouTube and audio versions, and exciting updates like the Kink Bundle and my upcoming book. Don’t miss it—subscribe and share!➡️ Sign up for our newsletter: https://domsubliving.com
100 Episodes of Kink: What I Learned the Hard Way
#100 Think kink is simple? After 100 episodes, we're revealing 10 hard-earned lessons that go beyond floggers and fantasy.✅ Subscribe and grab your free BDSM Lifestyle roadmap at https://domsubliving.com/followFrom tackling judgment to finding community, discover truths that shape real D/s dynamics and mental health. Don’t miss this milestone episode of raw stories, freebies, and celebration!
DDLG 101: The Truth About Being a Babygirl
#099 DDLG isn’t just cute outfits and bedtime routines—it’s a deep, powerful dynamic that blends nurture, structure, and trust.💕 Grab your free DDLG starter list at https://domsubliving.com/ddlgIn this episode, we're breaking down what being a babygirl, little, or middle really looks like, plus the differences between DDLG and DDBG. Listen now and join the conversation.➡️ Free DDLG starter li
5 Dom/sub Punishment Ideas I Love (and Hate)
#098 Spankings aren’t cutting it anymore.👉 Grab the free punishment list at https://domsubliving.com/punishIn this episode, we're sharing 5 Dom/sub punishment ideas that actually work—yes, even for masochists. From writing lines to orgasm denial, we're breaking down what to use, when to use it, and why some punishments backfire. Don’t miss #3—it changed everything.➡️ 30+ punishment ideas
Dom/Sub Secrets No One Talks About (But We Will)
#097 Is kink your secret superpower? In this fun and fearless interview, Alesandra joins actress and comedian Amy Vorpahl to talk BDSM 101, living unapologetically kinky, and what it really means to be a Dom or sub in everyday life. Listen now!➡️ Amy's website: https://www.amyvorpahl.com➡️ Join Amy's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/amyvorpahl➡️ Follow Amy on Instagram: https://www.insta
Every fake dom does this.
#096 If you're a Dom—or trying to be one—don't screw this up.🎯 Take the free quiz: https://domsubliving.com/fakedomWe're revealing the top 5 signs of fake Dominants, from skipping consent to using fear instead of leadership. You'll learn how to spot red flags and what real D/s dynamic should look like. Doms (and subs), listen up!➡️ Fake Dom quiz: https://domsubliving.com/fakedo
7 Hidden Habits That Keep D/s Relationships Strong
#095 Does your dynamic feel off? If your Dom/sub relationship feels stuck or stale, this episode breaks down the 7 hidden habits that keep real D/s dynamics strong — for years. From rituals and contracts to community and mindset, this is what no one tells you.➡️ Join the All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/095
10 Things Most BDSM Educators Get Completely Wrong
#094 Are BDSM teachers getting it wrong?✅ Join the All Access Pass at https://domsubliving.com/allaccessWe're exposing 10 harmful myths most BDSM educators still teach — from punishment-first training to ignoring a Dom's emotional needs. If you've ever felt like you're doing BDSM “wrong,” this is the truth you’ve been waiting for.➡️ Join the All-Access Pass: https://domsublivin
Not Sure You’re a “Real” Dom or Sub? Listen to This
#093 “Am I too new? Too awkward? Not ‘dominant’ enough?”If you've ever felt like a fake or imposter in BDSM, you’re not alone. We're sharing how to build confidence, stop self-doubt, and finally feel like a “real” Dom or sub — even without a partner. Tune in now to start owning your role with confidence.➡️ Join the free bootcamp: https://domsubliving.com/bootcamp➡️ Show notes and more: h
How to Explore BDSM WITHOUT a Partner
#092 Think you need a partner to explore BDSM? Think again. Learn how to build skills, rituals, and confidence as a Dom or sub—solo. Avoid beginner mistakes and prep for your ideal dynamic. Ready to start your journey? Join our free Bootcamp!➡️ Free Jumpstart Your BDSM Journey Bootcamp: https://domsubliving.com/bootcamp➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/092
Is Fifty Shades of Grey Really that Bad?
#091 “I don’t make love—I f*ck. Hard.”📝 Get your free BDSM contract at https://domsubliving.com/contractIs Fifty Shades of Grey really that bad… or are we just mad it opened the door for millions? In this deep dive, we're breaking down what it got wrong (and very wrong), what it got right, and why it still matters. Hit play and get ready to move beyond fiction.➡️ Free BDSM contract template:
How to Train Your Sub
#090 What if training your sub could feel more like bonding with a dragon than shouting commands?👉 Grab the free “How to Be a Good Dom” Quick Start guide at https://domsubliving.com/dominantWe're sharing real-world ways to build trust, create habits that stick, avoid common Dom mistakes, and adjust training styles for every type of sub. Strengthen connection, not control.➡️ Access the free Do
A Look Inside Our Total Power Exchange Relationship
#089 “I don’t play submissive—I live it. Every day.”🔥 Grab your own TPE blueprint: https://domsubliving.com/blueprintIn this behind-the-scenes episode, Alesandra from Dom Sub Living shares what a real 24/7 Total Power Exchange looks like—from morning rituals and daily protocols to mistakes, resets, and the small things that keep her dynamic thriving.➡️ Total Power Exchange Blueprint: https://domsu
What People Get Wrong About Total Power Exchange
#088 Does Total Power Exchange mean giving up everything—or just giving with intention?✨ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/communityWe're answering the top 10 questions we get asked most about TPE, from burnout and boundaries to parenting, protocol, and sex.➡️ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/088❤️ Join
10 Taboo Kinks: Which Are Normal vs. Truly Dangerous?
#087 Are your darkest desires really that dangerous?👉 Download the free checklist of 50 kinks at https://domsubliving.com/checklistWe're breaking down 10 taboo kinks—from pet play to CNC to pregnancy—and ranking them from safe to seriously risky. Find out which ones are more common than you think—and which ones even seasoned kinksters get wrong.➡️ Free checklist of 50 kinks: https://domsubliv
Raw, Real, and Kinky: Life Behind the Power Exchange
#086 “Do you really live like that every day?” In this episode, we're sharing a special interview from the Kink Your Way podcast with Leann Herron. We talk about BDSM as a lifestyle, growing a kink business, breaking shame, and what it’s really like behind the scenes.➡️ Check out 'Kink Your Way': https://kinkyourway.com➡️ Explore our online courses: https://domsubliving.com/courses/
BDSM for ADHD and Autism: Build a Dynamic That Fits
#085 Think BDSM isn’t built for ADHD or autism? Think again.🎁 Get free scripts, tools & aftercare tips at https://domsubliving.com/freeWe're sharing how neurodivergent kinksters can thrive—without masking, burning out, or giving up. Learn how to customize your dynamic, avoid ableism, and support your unique needs in kink! ➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free➡
Soft Doms Are In—What Gentle Domination Looks Like
#084 Is it still dominance if it’s gentle?🎁 Grab the free quick-start guide to become a better Dom: https://domsubliving.com/dominantTurns out, soft domination isn’t weakness—it’s an intentional, emotionally intelligent way to lead and surrender. In this episode, we're exploring what gentle domination really looks like, why it’s trending in the BDSM community, and how soft Doms are rewriting
Why BDSM Works Better Than Therapy (For Some People)
#083 What if therapy isn't the only way to heal — and sometimes, it's not even the best way?👉 Grab free resources at https://domsubliving.com/free.In this episode, we're sharing why BDSM can offer healing in ways traditional therapy sometimes can't. We cover surprising insights even therapists are exploring, the hidden harm of for-profit therapy, and a powerful scene that crack
5 BDSM Scene Ideas You’ll Want To Try Tonight
#082 Who says you need a dungeon or hours of planning for a night you’ll never forget?🎁 Want step-by-step worksheets and real scene examples to put these ideas into action? Check out our “Scene Creation Mastery” (only $9!) at https://domsubliving.com/scene-creation-mastery/In this episode we're sharing 5 simple and powerful BDSM scene ideas you can use tonight—no fancy gear or prep required.
BDSM & Polyamory: Master Multiple Power Dynamics Without Drama
#081 Poly and kinky? It’s not as easy as people think.❤️ Download the free BDSM Relationship Structure Guide at https://domsubliving.com/guideWe're sharing 5 essential rules for making BDSM and polyamory work—without the drama. Learn how to define power structures, avoid jealousy, handle communication across partners, and balance multiple D/s roles. With real stories, clear strategies, and ha
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