Class with Kate
Class with Kate is a podcast hosted by Codependency Kate, who shares insights and advice on codependency and personal growth. The show features discussions on relationships, self-care, and breaking unhealthy patterns. Listeners can find more from Kate on social media @CodependencyKate.
Episodes
Ep. 82 | Can An Incel Husband REALLY Change? - Office Hours with Allison
Trigger warning: sexual abuse, religious trauma, coercion, emotional abuse.
Allison married young inside a high-control religious culture and spent years believing her husband’s behavior was normal. But after realizing her wedding night was assault and uncovering the deep misogyny driving their marriage, she asks the question so many women are terrified to face: can a toxic incel husband actually
Ep. 81 | When Your Marriage Feels Lonely: Grief, In-Laws & Not Knowing Your Place - Office Hours with Iris and Taylor
Taylor and Iris come into Office Hours with two different marriage struggles that uncover the same deeper pain: feeling unseen.
Iris is navigating difficult in-law dynamics, unwanted gifts from grandparents, and uncertainty about her place in the family. Taylor opens up about grief and the loneliness of feeling misunderstood by her husband.
Together, they explore boundaries, emotional disconnectio
Ep. 80 | Why You “Check Out” (And Don’t Even Realize It)
Ever gone numb during conflict? Forgotten entire conversations? Felt disconnected from yourself, your partner, or your life? You may be dissociating — and most people don’t even realize they’re doing it.
In this episode, Kate breaks down what dissociation actually is, why the nervous system uses it for protection, and how it quietly impacts relationships, communication, intimacy, parenting, and co
Ep. 79 | Your Family Won’t Change… Now What? | Office Hours with Chuck
Chuck is estranged from his mom and brother and keeps asking the same painful question: How do I have a relationship with people who won’t change?
But Kate challenges something deeper underneath it all: what if his constant need to help, rescue, explain, and fix them is actually protecting him from grief?
This episode unpacks the exhausting cycle of trying to manage emotionally unavailable family
Ep. 78 | When Your Parents Won’t Heal: Breaking Generational Trauma While Raising Kids | Office Hours with Fay & Amelia
Fay and Amelia are two mothers facing the same devastating realization: the pain their parents caused didn’t end in childhood. It followed them into marriage, parenting, and the way they see themselves.
In this Office Hours episode, they unpack what happens when your parents can’t take accountability, can’t emotionally repair, and may never become the people you needed. But the harder question is
Ep. 77 | You Recreated Your Childhood in Marriage (Now What?)
What happens when you finally realize the emotional neglect and abuse you survived as a child didn’t end… it just became your marriage dynamic?
In this episode, Kate breaks down why emotionally neglected children often unconsciously recreate familiar relationships in adulthood and the first steps to stopping abandoning yourself inside your marriage.
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Ep. 76 | I Made a “Hate List”... and It Changed Everything - Office Hours with Laura
What happens when you stop avoiding your feelings and actually process them in real time?
In this episode, Kate gets vulnerable in real time by making a “hate list” — uncovering annoyance, fear, and emotions that are usually buried beneath unwanted behaviors.
Then in Office Hours, Laura shares her fears about parenting her daughter while navigating difficult family dynamics and trying not to repe
Ep. 75 | Marriage, Identity & Decentering Men - Office Hours with Linda & Emily
Linda and Emily are in different stages of marriage, but they’re asking the same question: how do you stop losing yourself while trying to make a relationship work?
This episode explores emotional labor, overfunctioning, resentment, and the pressure women feel to organize their entire lives around men. Kate breaks down what it actually means to “decenter men” without becoming cold, detached, or an
Ep. 74 | How to Deal With a Dismissive Avoidant Without Losing Yourself
In this episode Kate talks about what a dismissive avoidant is, why it’s a problem for you, and how to deal with it once and for all.
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Ep. 73 | She Exposed Her Dad’s Affair… and Lost Her Entire Family | Office Hours with Mia
Mia never expected one confrontation to cost her everything. After forcing her father to come clean about an affair with her sister-in-law’s mother, her entire family turned on her — including her sister.
In this Office Hours episode, Kate breaks down what happens when families protect secrets over accountability, why truth-tellers often become the scapegoat, and how estrangement can become the pr
Ep. 72 | He’s Finally Trying. Why Do I Still Feel Stuck?
Two women. Two marriages. One frustrating question:
What do you do when he’s trying… but it’s still not enough?
In this Office Hours episode with Diana and Mary, Kate breaks down the gray area—where there’s effort, but no real repair.
You’ll learn:
Why change ≠ trust
How to set boundaries without over-accommodating
What to do when you feel stuck between hope and reality
Because “better” doesn’t
Ep. 71 | Can You Come Back From Estrangement? Healing Without Your Parents (And Whether Reconnection Is Even Possible)
Estrangement is painful—and for many adult children, it feels completely unfair. Because it is. In fact, IT’S BULLSHIT.
In this episode, we talk about whether reconciliation is actually possible, what real change would require, and that you don’t NEED your parents to heal.
You’ll learn how to process what happened, regulate your emotions, and move forward on your own terms—whether that inclu
Ep. 70 | When Trauma Work Feels Like Too Much (What to Do Instead)
Amelia is overwhelmed. The trauma work, the awareness, the emotions—it’s all too much, and it’s starting to impact her ability to function.
So what do you do when healing itself becomes the problem?
Kate helps her sort through what’s actually happening—and offers a next step most people don’t expect.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re “doing the work” but getting worse, this episode will challenge wh
Ep. 69 | Two Marriages, Two Stages: Why Your Next Step Depends Where You Are
Two women. Two marriages. Different stages—and completely different next steps.
In week two of the group format, Kate listens to both Jackie and Tina’s stories and compares what’s actually happening in each relationship—showing why the same advice doesn’t work for everyone.
She helps each woman get clear on what to do next based on where they are, not where they wish they were.
Then she breaks dow
Ep. 68 | Why You Can’t Stop Crying (or Laughing) And What You Actually Need
Ever found yourself crying and laughing at the same time—and then feeling confused or even ashamed?
In this episode, we walk through a real-life example of what looks like “losing control” emotionally… and break down what’s actually happening underneath.
Using my BEND method, you’ll learn how to:
Identify what you’re actually feeling beneath the reaction
Understand the unmet need driving those em
Ep. 67 | If Your Daughter Is Leaving an Abuser — Don’t Make This Mistake
Chris’s daughter is finally leaving an abusive relationship—but Chris is terrified of saying the wrong thing.
When your child is hurting and vulnerable, your response can either build safety… or push them back.
We break down the common mistakes parents make—and how to actually show up in a way that helps.
In the second half, you’ll see what real support looks like in practice—what to say, how to s
Ep. 66 | I Can’t Leave. How Do I Protect My Kids Anyway?
Sarah and Tiah are living in different parts of the world—but asking the same question:
How do you protect your kids when you can’t leave an abusive relationship?
In this first Office Hours episode, we get honest about what survival actually looks like when escape isn’t an option. This isn’t about perfect parenting—it’s about doing what’s possible inside impossible circumstances.
You’ll learn:
W
Ep. 65 | When Parents Cut Off Their Kids: Is it “Nuanced?”
There’s a growing trend of parents “cutting off” their kids in the name of boundaries.
But when a parent fully walks away—it’s abandonment.
This episode breaks down the difference between distance and disappearance, and why parental responsibility doesn’t just expire.
In Office Hours, Leandro shares his struggle to figure out how to engage with his parents after their abuse—what it means to want
Ep. 64 | Will My Kids Feel Responsible For Me?
You don’t need to hide your emotions—but your kids shouldn’t have to carry them either.
In this episode, I show you how to actually feel your feelings without making your child responsible for them.
Learn how to stay honest, regulated, and grounded in real time using the BEND tool—so your emotions don’t turn into pressure, guilt, or fear for your kids.
This is the difference between modeling e
Ep. 63 | Pseudomutuality: Why Hiding Your Feelings Inhibits Your Relationship
If your house feels calm… but no one’s really honest, that’s not connection—that’s pseudomutuality.
In this episode, I break down how “keeping the peace” actually shuts kids down—and what to do instead.
Learn the BEND tool so you can regulate yourself in the moment instead of avoiding, snapping, or faking calm.
Real connection requires real emotion. This is how you handle it without losing control
Ep. 62 | Riley’s Story: Stuck, Overwhelmed, and Ready for Change
Riley is doing everything “right”—marriage, motherhood, showing up. So why does she feel so stuck?
In this episode, we unpack:
-The signs of needing change: irritation and snappiness
-The quiet resentment and disconnection many women don’t say out loud
-What it means to feel trapped without wanting to leave
-Why talk therapy isn’t always enough—and how somatic work can help
-Where to start wh
Ep. 61 | How Can Saying Thank You Possibly Be Bad??
Saying please and thank you in a relationship SOUNDS good right… but sometimes it can indicate something else: pseudomutuality. This is “fake closeness,” and over time, can erode real intimacy that is only achieved through conflict. Let’s talk about it!
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Ep. 60 | Why is a Focus On Being “Nice” Actually Abusive?
If you’ve ever said “I’m sorry” but nothing really changed… this episode is for you. We’re breaking down the patterns that keep people stuck in harmful relationship cycles—fake niceness, performative apologies, and control disguised as care. These behaviors don’t repair trust—they quietly destroy it.
In the second half of the class, “Office Hours,” we have a call with Judy, a therapist who is st
Ep. 59 | How Mocking and “Jokes” Keep Unhealthy Marriage Roles Alive
Why do some marriages normalize sarcasm, teasing, and subtle disrespect? In this episode, Kate explains how “joking” can become a way unhealthy marriage patterns survive for years without being confronted.
Office hours features Ray, who is struggling with distance from his teenage daughter after behavior that caused harm—and the hard truth about rebuilding trust when a child pulls away. Ray has
Ep. 58 | I Cut Off My Parents. But My Son Wants Grandparents.
What happens when your child wants a relationship with the people who hurt you?
This episode answers key questions about pseudohostility, then Pearl shares the painful reality of cutting off her parents while trying to decide whether her son should have access to them. How do you protect without overcontrolling—and when do you let a child learn for themselves?
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Ep. 57 | Pseudohostility, Fake Harmony, and the Cost of Speaking Up in Family Systems
Is your marriage peaceful—or just emotionally shut down? In this episode, we break down how pseudohostility and pseudomutuality create fake connection while real issues stay buried.
Then Justine shares what happened after standing up to her father and becoming the family scapegoat. Why does speaking the truth create so much self-doubt—and how do you trust yourself when your family treats you lik
Ep. 56 | When Love is Present but Safety is Missing
Trauma is often created in ordinary family moments—through fear, silence, emotional inconsistency, and lack of repair.
The first half of this episode explores the family habits that protect children, reduce harm, and break generational cycles before they repeat. The second half involves a caller, Sam, who needs help doing this with her kids. And Kate’s advice might surprise you.
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Ep. 55 | When Betrayal Ends a Long Marriage: Mary’s Story
In this episode, Mary shares her experience of divorce after 38 years of marriage following betrayal, secrecy, and blackmail involving her husband’s hidden life.
She also talks about the painful distance that developed with her adult children after the divorce, and the grief of feeling caught between her own healing and their loyalty to their father.
We explore long-term betrayal, family fracture,
Ep. 54 | Is She Really Mad at Her DIL, Or is It Something Else?
Suppressed anger rarely stays hidden—it often comes out as judgment, criticism, and control. In this episode, we explore why this dynamic shows up so often in family systems, especially between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law.
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Ep. 53 | Does Authoritarian Parenting of Boys Create Abusive Men?
This episode was inspired by recent TikTok videos showing harsh, highly controlling parenting with boys—and it raises a serious question: Does authoritarian parenting create emotionally unsafe men?
We explore how fear-based control, emotional suppression, and rigid power structures in childhood can shape adult anger, attachment, and abuse.
When boys are taught obedience over emotional developm
Ep. 52 | Why Healing Can Feel Worse Before It Feels Better
Jessica shares what it feels like to begin healing while experiencing painful flashbacks, intense body symptoms, and emotional overwhelm.
We discuss why early healing can activate buried pain, how somatic symptoms often emerge during deeper emotional work, and what it means to stay grounded while the nervous system begins responding differently.
Topics include healing, trauma, flashbacks, somatic
Ep. 51 | What Happens When Sibling Abuse Is Ignored by Parents
Robin shares her story of sibling abuse and the long-term impact of growing up in a family where harm was minimized and protection was missing.
We discuss how sibling abuse is often overlooked, how parental neglect shapes emotional development, and why unaddressed family trauma continues affecting adult relationships.
Topics include sibling abuse, childhood trauma, family systems, neglect, and
Ep. 50 | Is Nervous System Work Helping Women – Or Controlling Them?
There is growing conversation around nervous system regulation, but not all uses of that language lead to deeper freedom. In this video, I discuss how regulation can sometimes be confused with emotional compliance, especially for women who have learned to override what they feel in order to maintain peace.
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Ep. 49 | Why Doesn’t She Feel Anger?
Yesterday we had caller Beth who is really stuck in her situation. As a reminder, she is newly postpartum and her husband doesn't have a job. Where did her anger go? Why doesn't she feel it? And what can we learn from her situation?
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Ep. 48 | Why Don’t I Feel Angry About It?
Beth calls in with a wild scenario. She is newly postpartum, and her husband has been out of work for 2 years. Now she's given him an ultimatum. But where has her anger been the whole time, and what does Kate tell her to do next?? Find out here....
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Ep. 47 | How to Heal From Being Scapegoated
Yesterday Belle called in to discuss her rocky marriage- more specifically her husband using her weight as a way to avoid her issues. The result? Her being scapegoated as the marital issue. Let's talk about how to handle that and what we can learn from Belle...
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Ep. 46 | How Do I Heal in Verbal Abuse?
Belle calls in and asks how to manage her situation. Her husband calls her fat and focuses on her weight as a way to avoid discussing the real issues. And the worst part, he won't go to therapy. Tune in to see what Kate has to say about this!
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Ep. 45 | What to Understand About Trauma
What is trauma? How do we understand trauma? And most importantly, how do we heal from it and prevent it from continuing to happen. Kate covers the basics of trauma, how it applies to your relationships, and the next steps of healing.
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Ep. 44 | My Husband’s Ex-Girlfriends are in His Search History
In the first half of this episode we continue to discuss parental abandonment, and what that can look like day to day. The second half of this episode "office hours" we meet with Vanessa, who is really struggling in her marriage. She is particularly having a hard time with the self-doubt when it comes to boundaries. Watch Kate explore that and see what she has to say!
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Ep. 43 | Did My Parents Abandon Me As An Adult?
In this episode we briefly cover the situation from yesterday's caller, Sarah. Then we get into why walking on eggshells as a parent is really emotionally abandoning your child.
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Ep. 42 | Authoritarian Parenting | My Husband Believes in a Different Parenting Style Than I Do
What happens when one parent leads with control and the other leads with gentleness?
In this episode, we break down the tension between an authoritarian husband and a wife who wants a more calm, connected approach—and why this clash creates confusion and instability for kids.
We talk about what each style gets right (and wrong), and how to move toward a united, steady way of parenting that isn’t d
Ep. 41 | Why Do Emotions Matter??
Emotions aren’t the problem—they’re information.
In this episode, we cover Emotions 101: what emotions are, why they matter, and how most people misuse or ignore them in relationships. You’ll learn how to stop reacting impulsively or shutting down, and instead use your emotions as signals to communicate clearly and build stronger connections.
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Ep. 40 | Will Being Authoritarian With My Husband Get Him to Change?
Megan calls in asking if being more authoritarian with her husband will finally make him change—but there’s a bigger problem unfolding.
Her son is watching it all… and now he’s starting to use it against her.
In this episode, we break down why trying to dominate or control your partner backfires, how kids mirror power dynamics in the home, and what it actually looks like to lead without becoming a
Ep. 39 | When Walking On Eggshells Hurts Your Kids | Ep. 39
If you feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells around your kids to avoid meltdowns or conflict, this episode breaks down why that’s actually making things worse—not better.
We talk about the difference between being emotionally attuned vs. avoiding your child’s reactions, and how fear-based parenting quietly puts kids in charge of the relationship.
You’ll learn how to stop tiptoeing, hold
Ep. 38 | Let's Talk About Marie
Marie has been in six relationships that she's identified as being toxic. Is it her fault? Let's talk about it.
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Ep. 37 | This is My Sixth Abusive Relationship. At What Point Is It My Fault?
Kate talks with Marie about a string of abusive relationships.
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Ep. 36 | Let's Talk About Kay
Kate gives you options when Emotionally Focused Therapy isn't working.
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Ep. 35 | EFT Therapy Isn’t Working, What Now? Kay's story
Emotionally Focused Therapy isn't working for Kay.
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Ep. 34 | Siblings 101: It's a Parent Problem
Diagnosing your sibling might say more about you than it does about them. Someone commented "I think my sister has borderline personality disorder" and Kate took the whole class to school on it. She breaks down why sibling issues are always a parent problem and what scapegoating actually looks like.
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Ep. 33 | None Of Us Have Been Taught How To Feel
Facts over feelings is sh*t. We need to pay attention to our emotions. So many of us are emotionally neglected, by others and by ourselves. Kate explores how to get in touch with yourself, contact real feelings, learn from them, and walk away like an actual human being.
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Ep. 32 | Let's Talk About Holly
Kate breaks down Holly's situation by walking through the difference between sexual abuse, coercion, and harassment. She also unpacks how Holly's family system is creating a second layer of harm by staying silent.
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Ep. 31 | My Sister's Husband Filmed Me In The Shower—And My Family Blamed Me
Holly's sister's husband was arrested for secretly recording women undressed—including Holly. When Holly reported it to police, her family turned on her for "causing drama." Kate gets brutally honest about what happens when a family protects a sexual predator instead of his victims.
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Ep. 30 | Let's Talk About Mona
Kate breaks down what actually happened with Mona and John—and why "emotional volatility" is the wrong way to frame it. She introduces her BEND method for understanding your own unwanted behaviors from the bottom up, then draws the line between what's yours to work on and what's his entitlement to own. If you've ever been told to "just leave," this one's for you.
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Ep. 29 | My Husband Won’t Go to Therapy, Mona's Story
Mona calls in about her husband's refusal to engage in therapy after a decade of navigating their daughter's severe medical needs. Kate gets real about tolerating behavior that makes you unsafe.
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Ep. 28 | What Happens If My Parents Die While We Are No-Contact?
In Kate's first call-in show, Kate helps Toni navigate being estranged from parents while they're still alive and wondering what happens when they die. Kate explores the weight of generational pain, the guilt of protecting yourself while everyone else stays stuck, and why the magic might already be happening in the relationships you've chosen to heal.
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Ep. 27 | How to manage sibling dynamics
The Sherrone Moore situation, how to repair with adult kids, and managing sibling dynamics- this episode is JAM PACKED with info! This is the last episode of 2025 before I jump into 2026 with streaming, a call-in show, and more class offerings. It's been an amazing year and I'm so excited to see what the new year has in store for all of us! Stay studious people...
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Ep. 26 | How to REPAIR your relationships- the basics
If you're struggling to understand repair in your relationships, this episode is for you. It contains all of the 101s of what you need to do this well. You're not alone if you haven't known how to do this before... no one taught you.
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Ep. 25 | You are allowed to not care about your parents feelings
SHOCKER... I know. But it's developmentally TRUE, and even appropriate sometimes! And sometimes you need to be told. I hope this episode, like all of my other estrangement-related content, empowers you to stand up for yourself and what you need. You might just need some specifics to get there. I'll be talking about this more and more in the coming weeks, especially leading up to my new class in Ja
Ep. 24 | How to actually recover from stress (after Thanksgiving)
If you're still super activated post Thanksgiving with the fam... I got you. Here I cover a range of topics to help you through this- attachment, 'name it to tame it,' codependency, BEND, grief.. and so much more!
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Ep. 23 | How to manage the different family dynamics at Thanksgiving
In this episode I discuss the details of self-regulating and co-regulating.. and the differences with your kids, your spouse, and yes... your parents. Let's talk about how you can heal your trauma responses (and the stuckness you feel in your childhood role!) to make this Thanksgiving one that will definitely be... a new experience :) Tell me how it goes!
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Ep. 22 | So you think your toddler is being "mean"
So a mom made a video that has since gone viral about her toddler "being mean" to her... and here's what I have to say about it.
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Ep. 21 | How to not emotionally neglect your kids
Emotional neglect is the number one FIXABLE issue affecting families, children, and marriages today. And it is also the cause of estrangement IMO. Defining the problem in this way makes the solution apparent. Listen while I discuss some examples of how NOT to do this in your family to restore your relationships from the inside out.
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Ep. 20 | "My MIL opened up a credit card in my husband's name..."
Ok ok thank you everyone for bearing with me through the evolution of my podcast and now SHOW- Class with Kate! In this first episode I talk with Mary, a married mom of one who just completed a cross-country move... back to her and her husband's hometown. And YES her in-laws live 5 minutes from her.
Here she seeks to answer the question, "ok so my MIL is very toxic.. how do I respect my husband's
Ep. 19 | STOP the "nice guy" act
We all know the "nice guy" trope is NOT GOOD. But why and how does being "nice" translate to imploding relationships? And also, how do you handle it if your partner is a "nice guy"... listen and find out.
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Ep. 18 | Check yourself before you get on social media
One thing from this week's videos stood out to me... what is your emotional state BEFORE you get on social media? Do you even know? And the biggest question.. are you aware of HOW that affects the meaning you make from what you see?
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Ep. 17 | IDK where to start with my emotions (HATE list part 1)
Sooo you know that feeling your feelings it the key to changing your behavior, but you don't know where to start. It feels like going into the abyss. I have the solution for you... A HATE LIST. Yes, I said it, a HATE list. In this episode I talk about what it is, why it works, and how you can implement it into your life.
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Ep. 16 | Stop telling your kids how their behavior makes you feel
So I made a video that said "stop telling your kids how their behavior makes you feel" and it got a lottttttt of pushback. Let's discuss what emotions are and how to handle them in the relationship contexts of parenting, marriage, and with your own parents/estrangement situations.
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Ep. 15 | How to understand Emotions (BEND part 2)
The MOST misunderstood topic IN THE WORLD in my opinion.... emotions. In this episode I'll tell you how to understand them and how to process them.
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Ep. 14 | How to ACTUALLY emotionally regulate (introduction to BEND)
We hear sooooo much about emotion regulation but nobody talks about how to do it in a practical and actually USEFUL way. Introducing... my BEND method. BEND is an acronym that stands for behavior, emotions, needs, and desires.
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Ep. 13 | How to respond to Chronic Defensiveness in Marriage
THE MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION... what is the gray area when your partner is exhibiting harmful behavior AND is resistant to change. Hopefully this perspective helps the journey... because it truly is one.
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Ep.12 | Does the parent-child relationship change when the kid becomes an adult?
The million dollar question... plus some BIG NEWS on a personal front. But beware... it's not all fun and games, I talk about the controversial video I posted this week regarding Israel/Palestine and its structural similarities to the parent-child dynamic.
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Ep. 11 | Kendra and her Psychiatrist, feat. Abigail Gunn, LMHC
Yeah.... we had to talk about it. Unfortunately, Abby and I have opinions that only the minority of people share regarding the whole "Kendra fell in love with her psychiatrist" fiasco playing out on TikTok. Abby is a therapist specializing in childhood trauma, specifically childhood sexual abuse, and we get into why we believe Kendra.
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Ep. 10 | How to listen (parents & married men, beware!)
Listening is the #1 skill that transforms relationships in my opinion. Here I'll elaborate on what your role is when it comes to listening (whether that's with your own parents, in your relationship, and with your kids) and more specifics on how to do it. If you're a parent or a married man, guard your ego because I'm coming for it!
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Ep. 9 | Motherhood and the invalidation that comes with it, featuring.... SHAWNA THE MOM!!!
Shawna Lander is the crazy talented actor behind her skit series on family dynamics. It features characters Shawna, her husband John, her MIL Barb, SIL Jen, and others… I was lucky enough to connect with her and talk with her about her work and mission, motherhood, and most specifically, her extremely triggering character Barb! Hope you all enjoy this as much as I did!
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Ep. 8 | Will my take on "meanness" actually help you get unstuck in your marriage?
So I may have posted a controversial take on "meanness" and how to address it in parenting... and it triggered a LOT of people. I think these same people that were triggered by it would really benefit from how my take applies to their marriage. Listen and let me know!
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Ep. 7 | If your partner is toxic to your kids, what is your role?
This episode was such a big deal for me to have out on time. I have been blocked and blocked from a creative standpoint but after using BEND and (many) hate lists I got right back on track. It's a heavy subject today.... but finally addressing physical abuse in estrangement and asking the tough questions that come from that.
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Ep. 6 | You aren't as emotionally mature as you think you are
On this episode I cover a topic I am MOST passionate about- internalizing. Don't listen to this episode unless you're ready for some hard truths.... all said with love of course. This information might be the missing link to your emotional health that you've been looking for... I hope so at least!
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Ep. 5 | How do I help my teenagers/adult children detach?
In this episode I'll answer people's submitted questions!
1. How do I help my 15/17 year olds detach and have their own boundaries?
2. How do I help my 18 year old with anxiety?
3. My adult daughter is blaming me for her relationship problems, where do I go from here?
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Ep. 4 | How to break through Enmeshment
In this episode I talk about revelations I've had this week... specifically about the role of "enmeshment" in issues of estrangement. In summary, enmeshment is the heart of EVERYTHING relationship problems and I believe MOST people are enmeshed. I explain what it is, what it looks like, how I believe it came to be, and examples of it/what to do about it. It is not the end for you!!!
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Ep. 3 | How to Stop Intellectualizing
Intellectualizing is what is holding you back in your relationships! It can show up as defensiveness or being "logical" when the situation calls for presence, attunement, compassion and curiosity. It can hold you back in your relationship with your KIDS especially! Learn everything you need to know to change this behavior so you can finally learn the felt sense of connection.
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