In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex
The no-bullshit sex and relationship podcast where sexologist Alexa Andre says everything you're too afraid to. Stop having mediocre sex and level up your game. New episodes every week.
Episodes
Your Dating Standards Are Keeping You Single (ft. Todd Baratz, LMHC)
Are our dating standards keeping us single? Are we too quick to label people toxic, narcissistic, or full of red flags? Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex therapist and author Todd Baratz for a conversation about modern dating, sex, intimacy, relationship anxiety, and why finding a healthy relationship might require us to rethink everything we’ve been taught about love.Doe
Are Affairs Actually Hot? Cheating, Kinks & Relationship Rules (ft. Carly Pifer)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Carly from Read Aurore to talk about why affairs, cheating, secrecy, and other taboo desires can be so damn hot.What makes an affair feel so passionate? Why does forbidden sex create such intense desire? And can cheating ever be understandable—or even acceptable—depending on the circumstances? Alexa and Carly get into the complicated psy
Can Pleasure Heal Trauma? Sex, Intimacy & Reclaiming Your Power (ft. Lauren Elise Rogers)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified holistic sexuality educator and embodied intimacy & relationship coach Lauren Elise Rogers for a deeply honest conversation about sexual trauma, healing, pleasure, intimacy, consent, and reclaiming your relationship with your body.In this episode:Sexual trauma and sexual assaultConsent and coercionWhy sexual trauma can be underr
You’re Not as “Freaky” as You Think: Kinks, Fetishes & Fantasies (ft. Niki Davis)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex educator, event planner and author Niki Davis for a conversation about sexual shame, uncommon desires, kinks, fetishes, fantasies, self-pleasure, relationships and the psychology of arousal.Why do so many people feel ashamed of what turns them on? Niki Davis shares what she has learned from working with people with uncommon desires and ex
The Bedroom Gap: Painful Sex, Low Desire & Vaginal Health (ft. Dr. Sophocles)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with gynecologist, sexual medicine expert, and author Dr. Maria Sophocles to talk openly about painful sex, vaginal health, sexual pleasure, menopause, low desire, and everything in between.Topics discussed:Why does sex hurt? How common is painful sex, and when should you see a doctor? Dr. Maria Sophocles breaks down the most common causes of sexu
Having Sex or Performing It: Pleasure, Body Image & Sex Trends (ft. Jill Lissner)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex educator Jill Lissner, aka @sexedprincesss, forconversation about performative sex, pleasure, body image, consent, communication, and the weird sex trends taking over the internet.Topics covered:Performative sex and what it meansPleasure vs. performanceAuthentic/non-performative sexGendered expectations around appearancePenis size, erecti
Rough Sex, Kink, Fantasies & What Women Really Want (ft. Small Hands)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Small Hands (Aaron Thompson) to talk about what really creates sexual attraction, the difference between confidence and competence, rough sex, kink, consent, boundaries, and the fantasies people don't always know how to talk about.In this episode:Non-sexual turn-ons and how they become sexual turn-onsHands, feet, scent and other physical
Pt. 2 - I Asked a Butt Surgeon Every Question You're Too Embarrassed to Ask (ft. Dr. Evan Goldstein)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in back bed with Dr. Evan Goldstein, founder of Bespoke Surgical, creator of Future Method, and author of Butt Seriously. They discuss anal health, pleasure, preparation, and all the questions people are often too embarrassed to ask.Topics discussed in this episode:Anal pleasure and breaking down taboos and mythsExploring anal stimulation for the first t
Pt. 1 - I Asked a Butt Surgeon Every Question You're Too Embarrassed to Ask (ft. Dr. Evan Goldstein)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Dr. Evan Goldstein, founder of Bespoke Surgical, creator of Future Method, and author of Butt Seriously. They do a deep dive into anal sex, butt health, and everything you've always wanted to ask about your asshole.Topics DiscussedDr. Evan Goldstein's journey from heart surgery to anal surgeryComing out and discovering anal health as a medica
How Written Erotica Can Completely Change Your Sex Life (ft. Carly Pifer)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Carly, founder of Read Aurore, to talk about why written erotica is becoming one of the most powerful tools for pleasure, communication and self-discovery. Together they explore how true erotic stories differ from fantasy, why women are increasingly choosing erotica over visual porn, the psychology behind imagination and desire, how writing a
How to Know When It's Time to Leave a Relationship (or Fight for It) (ft. Gaby Balsells)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with clinical psychologist and relationship coach Gaby Balsells to unpack one of the hardest questions in love: how do you know whether to stay in a relationship or walk away?Together they explore: how to tell the difference between a temporary rough patch and true incompatibilitythe danger of ignoring red flags during the honeymoon phaseemot
Vasectomies, ED, Fertility & Post-Nut Clarity (ft. Dr. Jed Kaminetsky)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with urologist Dr. Jed Kaminetsky to unpack everything you need to know about men's sexual health: from vasectomies, erectile dysfunction, testosterone, fertility, sperm count, pornography, performance anxiety, lifestyle habits, microplastics, prostate health, post-nut clarity, and why great sex is about so much more than penetration.In this
Former Sex Worker on Hiring a Male Escort, OnlyFans & the Loneliness Epidemic (ft. Coral Osborne)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Coral Osborne (@theunrealcoralosborne), sexologist, intimacy coach for men, former sex worker, and writer. Coral shares how sex work has changed over the last decade, why the industry has become increasingly polarized, and why she believes decriminalization matters for safety and autonomy. She opens up about the realities behind influenc
Pussy Worship 101: How to Give (and Receive) Pleasure Like a Pro (ft. Ashley Manta)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with sex educator, relationship coach, and OnlyFans creator Ashley Manta for a deep dive into pussy worship, oral sex, receiving pleasure, and what truly creates incredible sex. They discuss what pussy worship actually means, why enthusiasm and verbal reassurance matter and creating safety for the receiver.Topics covered:What pussy worship re
Pt.2 - 3 Sluts, 3 Moods: Cream Pies, Pussy Health, & Feeling Chosen (Vee & Elle - Girls Gone Deep)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Vee and Elle from the Girls Gone Deep podcast for Part 2/2. Together they explore whether non-monogamy is really about unmet needs, what happens when a partner satisfies nearly everything you're looking for, the role of new relationship energy in long-term relationships, primary partnerships versus non-hierarchical polyamory, freedom and
Pt. 1 - 3 Sluts, 3 Moods: Postpartum Sex, Polyamory & Childfree Dating (Vee & Elle - Girls Gone Deep)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Vee and Elle from the Girls Gone Deep podcast for an honest conversation about sexuality, identity, motherhood, non-monogamy, desire, dating, pleasure, and why "sluthood" has nothing to do with how much sex you're having.Together they explore whether you can still be a slut while celibate, the difference between sex positivity and sluthood, a
The Conversation About Porn We're Too Afraid to Have (ft. Noelle Perdue)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with porn historian, writer, and adult industry expert Noelle Perdue for a fascinating conversation about pornography, fantasy, sexuality, kink, technology, trauma, aging, relationships, and the hidden ways porn shapes our world.Noelle shares her unlikely journey from software developer to porn scriptwriter, her work with Pornhub and the adult ind
The Ethics of Public Sex: Consent, Kink & Social Norms (ft. Tara Michaela)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex educator Tara Michaela for a nuanced conversation about the ethics of public sex, public play, PDA, kink visibility, consent, social norms, and why society struggles to define where the line actually is.Together they unpack whether public sexuality is inherently unethical, why people are drawn to public play and exhibitionism, the role of
Her Nudes Were Leaked. Now She Helps Victims Get Justice (ft. Norma Buster)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Norma Buster, sex positive victims rights advocate, Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg Law, survivor of image-based abuse, and online sex worker, for a raw and nuanced conversation about stalking, leaked intimate images, deepfake abuse, consent, shame, sexuality, healing, OnlyFans, bisexuality, and reclaiming agency after trauma.Topics Covered:Nor
Inside a Real Open Marriage: Hiring Sex Workers, Outsourcing Anal & Adding Novelty (ft. Kate Shelor)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with hypnotherapist, content creator, and non-monogamy advocate Kate Shelor for an unfiltered conversation about open relationships, outsourcing fantasies, emotional labor in swinging, and the surprising ways long-term couples keep intimacy exciting.Kate opens up about why she rarely dates outside her marriage despite being ethically non-monogamou
Catch-Up Episode: From Sex Cruises to Serious Dating (solo ep.)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with… herself for a raw, unfiltered solo episode catching you up on everything from life on a Temptation Cruise to her evolving dating standards, sexual boundaries, and relationship mindset.Alexa shares what it’s like attending a Temptation/Desire-style cruise solo for the first time (people-watching couples, navigating swinger culture, and breaki
Energetic Sex, Tantra, and No-Touch Pleasure (ft. Ashley Manta)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Ashley Manta to explore the world of energetic sex: what it is, how it works, and whether you can actually feel pleasure, connection, or even orgasm without physical touch.They break down the concept of the energetic body vs the physical body, how breath, presence, and visualization play a role in directing energy, and how practices rooted in
I Wanted to Be Multi-Orgasmic and Ended Up in a Sex Cult (ft. Star Stone)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Star Stone to unpack her real-life experience inside OneTaste, the controversial “orgasmic meditation” (OM) community often described as a sex cult.Star shares how she was drawn in while searching for better sex and multiple orgasms, what “OMing” actually is, and how quickly curiosity turned into something much more complex. From communal liv
So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex (ft. Ian Kerner)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with sex therapist and author Ian Kerner to break down what’s really going on in your sex life, starting with one simple question: “So tell me about the last time you had sex.”From there, they unpack the patterns most couples fall into and why sex often becomes routine, disconnected, or unsatisfying over time. This episode dives into the hidden dyna
Disabled, Kinky & Hilarious (ft. Tina Friml)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with comedian Tina Friml to talk about:Growing up with cerebral palsy and dating insecuritiesBecoming a successful comedian even without a drivers license Bullying around desirability and sexHaving sex for the first time at 26Slow burn vs instant chemistry in datingNavigating ambiguity and attractionMaking dates go to her comedy showsUsing comedy
The Future of Sex, Post-Nut Clarity & Kink Curiosity (ft. Hawthorne)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with kink performer, educator, and co-founder of Hit Me Up, Hawthorne, to talk about the future of sex, switches, kink exploration, nipple clamps, and the very real phenomenon of post-nut clarity.We get into how sex parties are evolving beyond just hooking up, and why community might be the most important part of modern sexuality. From mixers and
Why You Feel Disconnected From Your Partner (ft. Gaby Balsells)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex therapist and relationship coach Gaby Balsells to talk about emotional connection: what it actually means, why it matters, and how it directly impacts your sex life.From feeling “seen, heard, and safe” to understanding why some people need emotional connection before sex (and others after), this episode breaks down the real dynamics behin
How Important Is It to Be Funny in a Relationship? (ft. Billy Procida)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with comedian, podcaster, and host of The Manwhore Podcast, Billy Procida, to talk about humor in dating and relationships and why so many men feel the need to be the funniest person you’ve ever met.From prank culture to competitive humor between partners, Billy and Alexa unpack the difference between being funny, being fun, and trying way too har
So You Wanna Have a Threesome? (ft. Gabrielle Alexa Noel)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with writer, sex educator, and polyamorous creator Gabrielle Alexa Noel to talk about the fantasy everyone has — and the one that goes wrong the most: threesomes.From “unicorn hunting” to couple privilege, from jealousy to communication, this episode breaks down what actually makes a threesome hot and what makes it awkward, performative, or emotio
The Alternative to Abortion Is Forced Pregnancy (ft. Sophie Nir)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with abortion activist and founder of the Abortion Positivity Project, Sophie Nir, for a fact-based conversation about abortion positivity, stigma, bodily autonomy, forced pregnancy, abortion bans, medication abortion, procedural abortion, and more.This episode breaks down what abortion positivity actually means: removing stigma and shame from the
Hot or Red Flag: The Truth About Modern Dating (ft. Sex Coach Aimee)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Aimee, sex coach, host of Come Talk With Aimee, to unpack red flags in hookup culture, casual sex boundaries, love bombing, ghosting, emotional unavailability, situationships, sexual compatibility, and how to protect your peace while still having fun.This episode dives into the blurred lines between “hot” and “toxic,” how to define red flags
How to Fight So Your Relationship Gets Stronger (ft. Coral Osborne)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sexologist, intimacy coach for men, and former sex worker Coral Osborne for a conversation about conflict, repair, emotional safety, and how to fight in ways that actually strengthen relationships instead of destroying them.This episode breaks down why conflict is inevitable, why resolution is not the same as repair, and how most people unint
From Short King to Sex Legend: The Truth About Attraction (ft. Small Hands)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Aaron Thompson (aka Small Hands) to unpack how an awkward, short kid with a conservative upbringing became one of the most desired men in adult entertainment, and why confidence has far more to do with self-awareness, humility, and emotional intelligence than looks, height, or stats on a dating app.They go deep on real intimacy versus pe
Sex, Identity & Starting Over at Any Age (ft. Lucy Hart)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with writer, performer, director, and sex worker Lucy Hart for an honest conversation about reinvention, desire, identity, and learning how to start over without losing yourself. Lucy shares what it has been like to transition later in life, rebuild after financial loss, find community through kink and creativity, and forgive herself through every
Sex Communication: If You’re Not Talking, You’re Guessing (ft. Elizabeth Ashford)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified holistic sex educator and Beyond the Beez founder Elizabeth Ashford for a deeply practical, funny, and no-BS conversation about talking during sex—and why silence, shame, and faking orgasms are some of the biggest barriers to good sex. From dirty talk and giving direction to toys, lube, boundaries, aftercare, and post-sex debriefs,
Real vs Fake Doms: How to Tell Them Apart (ft. Sir Marvelous)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with pleasure coach, intimacy educator, and professional Dom Sir Marvelous for a conversation about real dominance, fake Doms, pleasure-centered sex, and why communication and patience are the foundation of good BDSM—and good sex in general. This episode breaks down what dominance actually looks like beyond performance, how to spot manipulative dy
Vulnerability Is Hot: Sex, Masculinity, & Oversharing (ft. Emi Larraud)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with musician and content creator Emi Larraud for a raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation about vulnerability, masculinity, oversharing on the internet, and why emotional availability makes men more desirable and better lovers. From shitting yourself on the subway to tips on how to be more vulnerable, this episode explores how being human, co
How Erotic Hypnosis Can Transform Your Sex Life (ft. Kate Shelor)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with hypnotherapist and intimacy coach Kate Shelor for an in-depth conversation about erotic hypnosis, the subconscious mind, and how our thoughts, beliefs, and emotional conditioning shape pleasure, desire, and orgasm. Recorded on the Temptation Cruise, this episode breaks down what hypnosis really is, how it differs from pop-culture myths, and h
Decentering Penetration: Tantra, Orgasms & Expansive Sex (ft. Davia Frost)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with tantric practitioner, pleasure educator, and soon-to-be author Davia Frost for a deep conversation about decentering penetration and expanding what sex can be. Recorded on the Temptation Cruise, this episode explores how slowing down, breathing, presence, and creativity can lead to more satisfying, intimate, and embodied pleasure without sex
Why Taking a Break From Sex Might Be the Secret to Better Sex (ft. Catherine Drysdale)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with sex & relationship coach Catherine Drysdale for the most honest, nuanced conversation about voluntary celibacy you’ve ever heard. Together they break down how intentionally stepping away from partnered sex can reset your dating patterns, raise your standards, calm your nervous system, help you stop centering dating/sex, reconnect you
How to Give the Best Handjob of His Life (ft. Ashley Manta)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex educator, pleasure expert, and the Handjob Queen herself, Ashley Manta (@cannasexual), for the most comprehensive handjob episode ever recorded, all from the middle of the Ionian Sea aboard a Desire Cruise.Together, they dive into Ashley’s entire sexual evolution, her journey into sex education, her non-monogamous love story, and her insa
The Man Who Taught the World That She Comes First (ft. Ian Kerner)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Ian Kerner, sex therapist and author of the groundbreaking bestseller She Comes First, He Comes Next, and So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. They talk about why his 2004 classic is still changing bedrooms two decades later, how the clitoris remains misunderstood, and what makes sex truly great.We discuss:- Why She Comes First is still
BDSM, Choking & Aftercare: A Kink Masterclass (ft. Amanda Dames)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Amanda Dames, the kink consultant and sex & relationship coach, for a deep dive into the world of kink — from power dynamics and negotiation to choking, bondage, chastity, and aftercare. Amanda, a former dominatrix and current coach for couples and individuals, breaks down how to safely explore desire, communicate boundaries, and find confi
I Slept with 70 Men in 10 Months and It Made Me Realize I’m Asexual (ft. Robyn Silber)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits on the couch with Robyn Silber — a former Google software engineer who slept with 70 men in 10 months and then realized she’s asexual. Robyn opens up about her “slut era,” sexual health, discovering demisexuality, navigating autism and dating, and why she’s now working to help lonely men build real connection.We talk about:Dating younger men and havi
Sex, OCD & Friendship Breakups (ft. Haley Jakobson)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Haley Jakobson, author of Old Enough, bisexual Dream Girl, and OCD Princess, to talk about friendship, therapy, OCD, and sex. Haley opens up about how her OCD has shaped her relationships, sexuality, creative life and how vulnerability and repair have transformed her friendships and intimacy.We discuss:The importance of friendship and why it
How to Tease, Flirt & Feel Sexy Again (ft. Nina Divina)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Nina Divina, Mama Muse and founder of Haus of Muse, for a powerful and playful conversation about confidence, burlesque, sensuality, and how to be the main character in your sex life.We talk about:What “cunt is an energy” really means and how to embody itOvercoming body image struggles and learning to love your reflectionHow to be the main ch
Gay Hookup Culture, Pretty Dicks & Settling Down (ft. Jeff Perla)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Jeff Perla, host of Oh Dear I’m Queer, for a candid, funny, and unfiltered conversation about queer sex, dating, and intimacy. We discuss:Morning hookups, blowjob confessions, and the idea of “nut clarity”Seeing Jeff's nudes & live reactionsSnapchat vs. Instagram, hookup apps, and why Jeff made hoe cards while Alexa makes hoe friendsh
How to Handle Rejection and Love the Messy Side of Yourself (ft. Ali Weiss)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Ali Weiss, New York native, host of Tales of Taboo and unapologetic oversharer, for a raw conversation about rejection, vulnerability, and why we’re all obsessed with the forbidden.A funny, honest, and deeply relatable episode on being human, craving connection, and owning your messy truth, why rejection stings less when you know yourself, and ho
Sexual Fantasies 101: Which to Keep, Which to Live Out (ft. Vee from Girls Gone Deep)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back in bed with Vee, co-host of Girls Gone Deep and almost-certified somatic sex and relationship coach, for a juicy conversation all about sexual fantasies.We cover:Why fantasies are so important for a fulfilling sex lifeThe difference between fantasies you should keep in your head vs. the ones you might want to bring to lifeVee’s wildest fulfilled fanta
The Truth About Mismatched Sex Drives and How to Fix It (ft. Natassia Miller)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified sexologist and Wonderlust founder Natassia Miller for a deep dive into one of the most common struggles in relationships: mismatched desire.We break down why sex can get boring in long-term relationships, why the honeymoon phase always fades, and how to actually reignite passion with your partner. From exploring fantasies to reducin
How to Have Better Sex in a Body You Don’t Like (ft. Elle Chase)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Elle Chase (@theellechase), certified life coach, sexologist, sexuality educator, author, and one of the most respected voices in the body acceptance and body neutrality movement. Together, they unpack how body image affects intimacy, relationships, and the ability to feel sexy in your own skin.In this episode, we dive into:The difference between
Sex, Grief & Pleasure (ft. Laura Desirée)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Laura Desirée — absolute stranger, intimacy coordinator and pleasure educator — for an unforgettable conversation about how sex, grief, and shame shape our identities.In this episode, we dive into:What intimacy coordinators actually do on film sets and why they make sex scenes better, not worseWhy Hollywood has failed at portraying female pleas
Does Your Vulva Make You Self-Conscious During Sex? Let’s Fix That (ft. Gabriella Scaringe)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Gabriella Scaringe, founder of Cherri, to explore sexuality and vulvas in the real world — pubic hair trends, labia diversity, harmful language we’ve internalized, and how better design (hello, wide-gusset underwear and swim) can change how we feel in our bodies. We get specific about what actually shows up in everyday life (the “bulge,” the “l
Mindful Dating: Avoiding Situationships & Building Strong Relationships (ft. Connie Collins)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back with another deep dive into the world of dating, this time with award-winning sex educator and ghostwriter Connie Collins (@thefirstdatediaries). We explore the state of relationships today and reveal what keeps people stuck in situationships and unhappy. It’s often not about your dating profile or messaging speed, but deeper issues like fear of vulne
What Porn Stars Want You to Know About Pleasure (ft. Small Hands)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back in bed for another season and she’s kicking things off with adult film icon Small Hands (Aaron Thompson). From monogamy and marriage to aftercare and emotional intimacy on set, Aaron shares what it's really like to live a life of performance — and what happens when the cameras stop rolling. We get deep on female pleasure, working with Owen Gray, p
How to Be a Pro at Sex Parties: Etiquette, Consent & Confidence (ft. Beth Sparksfire)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Beth Sparksfire — the Queen of Hacienda, New York’s legendary sex-positive community and party scene.Together, we dive deep into how to be a thoughtful, respectful, and unforgettable sex party guest. Whether you’re a first-timer or looking to level up, Beth shares the real dos and don'ts from her years curating erotic experiences.We cover:Wha
Douching, Pulling Out & Other Myths That Need to Go (ft. Birna Gustafsson)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Birna Gustafsson, sex educator with a master's in public health and host of Explicit Studies, to talk about the sea of sexual misinformation we’re constantly swimming in—and how to get better at spotting it.Together, they bust myths that still circulate widely online (even in sex-positive spaces) and explore how shame, purity culture, and bad
The Ultimate Guide to Fisting (ft. Jamie Joy)
In this very juicy and educational episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Jamie Joy, a queer, trans certified sex educator and full-blown fisting aficionado. We dive deep (literally and figuratively) into the world of fisting, from how to prep and practice it safely to the surprising aftercare and emotional intensity it can carry.We also discuss:How to prep for fisting (f
How to Build a Successful Sex-Positive Business (ft. Thea Rose)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Thea Rose, host of Seggs Talk Radio and founder of a new STI testing startup, to talk about what it really takes to build a sex-positive business—from scratch, with heart, and without losing your mind.Thea opens up about her messy, honest path as a multi-hyphenate creator, how she juggles podcasting, launching companies, and staying grounded thro
How to Date Better: Trusting Your Body Over Your Brain (ft. Allie Hoffman)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Allie Hoffman, founder of Catch The Feels—a viral in-person dating experience helping people ditch dating apps and reconnect with their bodies, emotions, and intuition.We dive deep into Allie’s groundbreaking “four systems of knowing” and how we can use the body, emotions, thoughts, and inner truth to date with more clarity and self-trust. Allie
Threesomes, Pegging & Getting a Vasectomy (ft. Matthew Kayman) + BONUS SCENE
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined once again by photographer, ethical slut, and emotionally available king Matthew Kayman for a raw and wildly entertaining deep dive into threesomes, pegging, vasectomies, and how men can do better in sex and relationships.We go deep about what it means to unlearn toxic masculinity and embrace a more present, consensual, and pleasure-focused approach
Problematic to Poly: Kink, Dating & Power Dynamics (ft. Matthew Kayman)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with NYC-based photographer, ethical slut, and reformed cheater Matthew Kayman for an honest, reflective, and hilarious conversation about evolving from messy dating patterns to intentional, kink-informed, and transparent relationships.We unpack his shift from monogamy to polyamory, navigating play parties, unlearning toxic masculinity, and figuring
You’re Not Broken: Sex, Shame & Self-Love (ft. Dirty Lola)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by sex educator, performer, and self-proclaimed “dildo slinger” Dirty Lola (@dirtylola) for a raw and hilarious conversation about shame, sex, and self-acceptance.From growing up in a naked household to navigating deep religious trauma, Lola shares the journey of becoming a fearless advocate for shameless pleasure and body confidence. We get into:He
Smashing Good Girl Myths & Taking Up Space (ft. Catherine Drysdale)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Catherine Drysdale—sex & relationship coach—who’s on a mission to help women and femmes unlearn the “good girl” scripts that keep them small, quiet, and out of touch with their desires.We talk about:• What “good girl conditioning” really means and how it shows up in our lives• The difference between Good Girl Conditioning and being a "go
Behind the Scenes of Temptation Cruise February 2025 (ft. Mario Cruz)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back onboard the Temptation Cruise!In this episode, Alexa reconnects with Mario Cruz, Cruise Director for Temptation Cruises, to dive even deeper into what makes a lifestyle-friendly cruise such a unique, exciting, and welcoming experience.Recorded live from the February 2025 sailing, we chat about:How Temptation Cruises create a safe, respectful, and fun
How to Make Sex Toys Work For You (ft. Alex Fine)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Alex Fine, educator, activist, parent and founder of the pleasure-forward brand Dame, to talk about how to find the sex toy that actually works for you—and how to confidently use it, whether you're flying solo or playing with a partner.Alex shares how Dame is redefining pleasure with intentional, inclusive design, and we get into how to mov
How to Suck Dick Like a Pro (ft. Zachary Zane)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with bisexual writer, sex expert, and chaos king Zachary Zane for a juicy episode all about how to suck dick like a pro. Whether you’re a total beginner, looking to level up your skills, or just love talking about pleasure—we’ve got you covered.Zach shares his most helpful tips, wildest stories, and hard-earned wisdom from both personal and professi
How to Eat Pussy Like a Pro (ft. Kenneth Play)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with world-renowned sex educator and author Kenneth Play to talk all things oral sex on vulvas—techniques, mindset, communication, and pleasure-maximizing strategies. Known for his viral videos, global workshops, and author of Beyond Satisfied, Kenneth breaks down how anyone can become a more confident and skillful oral lover—no magic tongue require
Living Apart, Non-Monogamy & Ex’s Nudes (ft. Hayley Folk)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with writer and relationship expert Hayley Folk to talk about an unconventional but increasingly popular relationship setup: living separately from your partner. Why do some people thrive in separate spaces? What are the benefits and challenges? And is this a better setup for non-monogamous relationships?We also dive into one of Hayley’s most viral
How to Dominate Your Boyfriend and Why He Might Secretly Love It (ft. Miss Lauren)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Miss Lauren to talk about how to take charge in the bedroom, tap into your confidence, and explore power dynamics in a way that feels fun and natural. Whether you’re looking to spice things up or just want to feel more in control, this episode is packed with practical tips and expert advice on owning your desires.We cover:How she got started an
How to Keep Your Vulva Healthy & Prevent Infections (ft. Lindsay Wynn)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Lindsay Wynn, founder of Momotaro Apotheca, a brand dedicated to holistic vaginal health and wellness. After struggling with recurrent BV and yeast infections with no long-term solutions in sight, Lindsay set out to create products that actually support vaginal and vulva health—without harsh chemicals or unnecessary shame.In this episode, we ha
How to Keep Casual Sex, Casual (ft. Sonya Maya)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Dr. Sonya Maya, a pre-licensed psychologist, sex therapist and content creator. Dr. Sonya helps people navigate relationships, pleasure, and personal growth with confidence and clarity. In this episode, we explore how to have casual sex in a way that feels empowering, enjoyable, and drama-free—whether you're new to it or looking to refine y
How to Unlock Full Body Orgasms (ft. Sarah Tomchesson)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Sarah Tomchesson, Certified Sex Educator, Embodied Intimacy Coach, Marketing Director for Magic Wand and host of the Fuck Yeah podcast, to talk about one of the most sought-after yet misunderstood experiences: full body orgasms. Recorded in Costa Rica at the Shameless Sex Retreat, this episode dives deep into what full body orgasms really are,
Shameless Sex, Non-Monogamy & Oral Tips You Need (ft. Amy Baldwin)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Amy Baldwin—sex educator, co-host of the Shameless Sex Podcast, and author—to talk about everything from learning to enjoy receiving to becoming amazing at oral and navigating non-monogamy.Amy shares what it was like growing up with a sex-positive mom, opening a sex shop with her, and not having her first orgasm until 18—plus how she only
Shameless Sex, Infidelity & Sex Parties (ft. April Lampert)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sat down withApril Lampert in Costa Rica at theShameless Sex Retreat to talk about everything from sex shop secrets to navigating infidelity. April, co-host of theShameless Sex Podcast, has spent years helping people break free from shame and embrace pleasure—but her journey started in avery different place.In this episode, we cover:🔹 Growing up in aconservat
How to Be More In Tune With Your Body & Feel More Pleasure (ft. Jacqueline Soule)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Jacqueline Soule, a system disruptor who feels everything—literally. From experiencing orgasms on bumpy roads to planning her life around her menstrual cycle, Jacqueline shares how deep body awareness has shaped her life.
We discuss how to be more mindful and make everyday moments more pleasurable, how she taught her kids about cycles and sex e
How to Create Inclusive Sex-Positive Spaces (ft. Amber Mallery)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Amber Mallery, an award-winning sex educator and advocate for inclusivity in sexual health education, for an inspiring and candid conversation about sex, self-discovery, and prioritizing personal growth. (also see @bijoux_indiscrets)
Amber shares her journey into sex education, her passion for fostering inclusive spaces, and how she navigates c
Sex Cruises 101: What to Expect and How to Prepare (ft. Mario Cruz)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) kicks off Season 4 with an exciting conversation with Mario Cruz, Cruise Director for the famed Desire and Temptation Cruises. In this episode, we dive into the world of swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises and explore what makes these experiences so unique, from themed nights and play spaces to fostering a respectful, consensual environment for newcomers and e
Sex Work, Tickle Fetish, and OnlyFans (ft. Reed Amber)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) welcomes Reed Amber, a multifaceted sex educator, sex worker, and co-host of the popular podcast Come Curious. In this episode, Reed opens up about her experiences and insights into sex work, body confidence, and intimacy. She shares her journey toward embracing nipple confidence, the challenges of vulva and labia diversity, and how growing up in a “naked fam
The Rise of Skirt Club: A Bi Women's Haven (ft. Genevieve LeJeune)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Genevieve LeJeune, CEO and founder of Skirt Club, a revolutionary space for bisexual women and those curious about exploring their sexuality. Skirt Club has become a global phenomenon, hosting play parties in 36 cities worldwide, empowering women to embrace their desires in a safe and inclusive environment.
In this episode, we dive deep into th
