Polycurious
Non-monogamy is not for everyone, but you might be curious about it. Could it be right for you? How do non-monogamous couples deal with jealousy? I was curious myself, and the more I asked, the more I became surprised by this unexplored topic. In Polycurious I have casual and intimate conversations with non-monogamous couples, sex and relationship experts, friends, and even people who tried polyamory and realized it wasn’t for them. This podcast is for the polycurious, whether you have explored non-monogamy or not.
Episodes
85. The Invite: Does The Movie Get Non-Monogamy Right?
Today I share my thoughts about The Invite, a movie about a married couple who invite their neighbors over for dinner. Things are awkward from the start, but they get even more awkward, funny, and real when an unexpected invitation to explore non-monogamy comes up.The Invite is directed by Olivia Wilde, who also stars in it with Seth Rogen, Penélope Cruz, and Edward Norton. It's a surprisingly rea
84. Could I Live Without Non-Monogamy?
Sarah Stroh talks about her book, Monogamaybe, her process coming to terms with her non-monogamous identity and finding a partner who supported her in that journey. We discuss how to manage and process jealousy and what agreements look like in non-monogamy when you want to be your best poly self but the reality is you’re struggling. Resourced mentioned:Sarah's bonus episode on Spotify:https://open
83. Opening Up After Infidelity, Breakups and Living with Your Metamours with Natalie Davis (author of Saying Yes)
Natalie Davis, author of the memoir Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory, shares her journey into polyamory, from opening up her marriage in her 40s after her husband’s infidelity to navigating living with her metamours.Natalie also opens up about the end of a decade long relationship after her partner began dating someone new and could no longer offer her the kind of relationship she wanted. Sh
82. Lessons From Building a Triad with The Kink Collective
Cat, Natalie, and Joshua from The Kink Collective talk about their experience building a triad.We talk about honesty and transparency in non monogamy, especially when telling the full truth feels scary because you’re worried about your partner’s reaction, and what happens when you struggle to trust a partner who isn’t fully transparent.Natalie also shares her experience entering an established rel
81. When Your Partner Doesn't Want Non-monogamy with Courtney and Nate (the Mono-Poly couple)
When Courtney proposed opening their marriage on their 17th anniversary, their relationship was struggling. Nate was a devoted father and provider, but he had become emotionally distant. Courtney’s proposal was initially met with anger, judgment, and fears that she was trying to replace him.Through therapy, difficult conversations, and learning to sit with jealousy instead of trying to fix it, Nat
Open to Open Panel Recording
In this special episode, I'm sharing a live recording from Open to Open, a panel discussion I joined in Denver hosted by coaches Bella Schauer and Booster Blake. We share our personal experiences and answer questions about New Relationship Energy, honesty, repair after conflict, and boundaries, Resources mentioned:Couple's Fall Retreat info:https://www.bella-paints.com/retreatsBella's
80. How To Process Jealousy and Difficult Emotions
In this solo episode, I'm sharing the emotional processing tool that's completely changed the way I handle difficult emotions. It's called RAIN, and while I didn't create it (it was popularized by meditation teacher Tara Brach), I've adapted it over the years for myself and my coaching clients. It's become one of the most effective ways I know to work through jealousy, calm my nervous system, and
Opening Up Without The Mess (Meet-up)
What We CoverHow to know if your relationship is readyWhat to expect: jealousy, guilt & imbalanceCommon mistakes to avoidWhy you should move at the pace of the slowest partnerHow to handle jealousy Jealousy is normal and workableCommunication is everything: don't bring up issues in the moment unless absolutely neccesaryGo slow, but keep movingQuestions To Discuss When Opening Up Your Relations
Bonus ep.79 Exploring Bisexuality as a Man
In this episode, Sam opens up about discovering his attraction to men later in life, what it was like having his first boyfriend, exploring sexual compatibility for the first time, and working through internalized shame around bisexuality.Listen to Sam's episode:https://open.spotify.com/episode/2hy7CGmqLikpnSJNfQPOPO?si=AMPvFjE1RAeuSYiI0Z9S_QSam's website: https://www.samcharlescoaching.com/Sam's
79. The Problem with NRE (New Relationship Energy) with Sam Charles
Sex and relationship coach Sam Charles joins me to explore the shadow side of New Relationship Energy: the nervous system rollercoaster. We also talk about the reasons he is no longer over-compromising in romantic relationships, and he shares great tips for navigating the challenges that can emerge in non-monogamy when people are unclear about their agreements, intentions, or capacity.Resources me
78. Domming at a Sober Kink Party & My Daddy Issues
Today I share my experience unexpectedly domming someone for the very first time at a sober kink party, and how stepping into my dominant side helped me rethink my relationship with non-monogamy, begin to untangle some of my daddy issues and feel incredibly empowered. Resources mentionedCarnival Dungeon Party:https://www.instagram.com/carnivaldngn.co/Polycurious Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/c/P
77. Kink, Power Dynamics & Knowing When to Walk Away with Vee from Girls Gone Deep
Today, Vee from Girls Gone Deep shares her journey into kink, what makes a great dom, and what people can actually gain from exploring BDSM dynamics. We also dive into what it feels like to want a level of commitment your partner can’t offer, and how to know when it’s time to walk awayResources mentioned:Girls Gone Deep Podcast:https://www.girlsgonedeep.com/episodesBonus ep.77 Can You Deescalate
76. I Said Yes to ENM But My Body Panics with Bella & Patrick
What if your head is on board with non-monogamy, but your body freaks out when your partner dates someone else?Today, Bella and Patrick, who started their relationship long-distance and non-monogamous, share how they learned to navigate multiple partners, set clear agreements, and regulate their emotions. Resources mentioned:Bella’s Websitehttps://www.bella-paints.com/coachingBella’s Instagramhtt
75. Can You Learn Compersion? ft. Evolving Love Project
Abbey and Liam from the Evolving Love Project return to share more about their journey opening up their relationship. They unpack why fairness doesn’t always mean doing the same things, reflecting on Abbey dating solo for two years before Liam did. They also explore whether compersion—the feeling of joy or happiness for your partner’s experiences with others—is something you can learn, and how it
74. Do This Before Opening Up with Nancy & Jonny
Nancy and Jonny spent months focusing on education, workshops, community, and strengthening their communication before taking their first steps into non-monogamy.In this episode, they share what that intentional process looked like, the challenges they encountered, and how moving slowly helped them build a deeper sense of safety and trust in their relationship.They also share practical communicati
73. I Wanted Sex with One Partner But Not The Other with Libby Sinback
What happens when you stop wanting sex with your long-term partner(s)… but not with someone new?In this episode, I’m joined by relationship coach and host of Making Polyamory Work, Libby Sinback. Libby shares openly about a four-year period in her marriage when she and her husband didn’t have sex and what it took to find their way back to intimacy.Resources mentioned:Learn more about Libby here: h
72. I Questioned Monogamy and Heteronormativity and Couldn’t Go Back
In this episode, JJ shares how he went from being in a monogamous relationship to fully embracing his queer and non-monogamous identity. He opens up about working through shame and what it’s been like navigating queerness and non-monogamy as a man in a heteronormative culture.Resources mentioned:JJ's Bonus Patreon Content: https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-ep-72-nre-150958971?utm_medium=clipboar
71. Can BDSM Be Therapeutic? with Nicolle Hodges
In this episode, Nicolle Hodges shares how she discovered the world of kink, became a lifestyle dominatrix, and realized BDSM can be profoundly therapeutic (the subject of her upcoming book!). She also reflects on her experience in a polyamorous relationship, including navigating a throuple, and explains why she ultimately decided to step away from non-monogamy.Follow Nicolle on Instagram: https:/
70. Jealousy is Information with Kayla + Carl (Part 2)
In part two of my conversation with Kayla and Carl, we explore how jealousy can be a powerful source of information, helping us understand what we want more of and how we can grow. We also talk about a major milestone in their non monogamy journey: Carl’s first experience stepping outside his marriage, which was also his first sexual connection with someone other than Kayla.Resources Mentioned:Ka
69. Non-monogamy Saved Our Marriage with Kayla + Carl (Part 1)
Kayla and Carl, a married couple with young kids, share how non monogamy helped them move out of a decline in sexual connection and communication. While Carl was initially not interested in exploring outside the relationship himself, his support of Kayla’s exploration became a major turning point. Kayla, who is seven years older and had often felt more in charge in the relationship, began to see C
68. Having Three DADT Partners with Alex & Skyler
In this episode, we explore what it looks like to navigate three Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell relationships in which all partners want escalation, while Skyler is not ready to step onto the relationship escalator with any of them. This tension is especially present for Alex, who is in her mid-thirties and thinking seriously about partnership, stability, and having children. Skyler shares how he moved fro
67. What Two Terrible Breakups Taught Me with Jesse
Today, Jesse opens up about two challenging breakups that unfolded in the context of non-monogamy, how those endings impacted his reputation within his community, and how they shaped the way he saw himself. He also shares how later, healthier relationships helped him rewrite those old narratives. We talk about why we’re often drawn to people who aren’t actually a good fit for partnership, why even
66. All Roads Lead To Poly with Fer (Your Host)
In this episode, I finally sit on the other side of the mic. I’m interviewed by my friend A (who you might remember from the episode with her husband J).We talk about my upbringing, what I learned about my sexuality (including discovering masturbation much later in life), my journey with Seth as my primary partner and eventually finding a second partner, what it was like to navigate conflict with
65. Making Peace with Your Insecurities with A & J (Part 2)
In the second part of my conversation with A and J, we talk about how J learned to face and work through his insecurities instead of letting them dictate how A connects with others. We also explore how differently they’ve each approached non-monogamy, with A actively dating while J has taken things more slowly as he continues to unpack his religious upbringing and lifelong monogamous conditioning.
64. Should You Have Rules When Opening Up? with A & J (Part 1)
A and J opened up their relationship after nearly three decades together, when menopause sparked a surge in A’s libido.In this episode, we talk about their process of untangling enmeshment, how they moved from a rule-heavy dynamic — with J, who was initially hesitant about non-monogamy, setting most of the boundaries — to having no rules at all. We also explore how those early rules revealed insec
63. Handling Big Emotions in Polyamory, Triads and Breakups with Evita Sawyers
Today, Evita Sawyers ((@Lavitaloca34) shares how she went from letting jealousy and anger take over to becoming more grounded and less reactive. We talk about her experience being in a triad and how opening her marriage revealed gaps in her relationship with her husband, ultimately leading to their breakup.This episode explores how non-monogamy can uncover powerful truths about yourself, serve as
62. When Your Partner Chooses A Nesting Partner with Roshi & Frankie
Roshi and Frankie have been navigating a long-distance polyamorous relationship for over three years, where they both have other partners. Today, we talk about:How to balance multiple relationships without losing a shared visionTheir experience building a long distance partnershipFinding security even when your partner has a nesting partnerWhy non-monogamy is also an inner journey that can help yo
61. Meet My Secondary Partner Part 2 with John
In my conversation with John, my secondary partner, we get into how our relationship grew from friends-with-benefits into partnership. We revisit an early incident that brought up his fear of disappointing partners and my own struggles with trust and safety, and how that shaped our early days. I share what it’s been like to face my fears around partnership and learn to find safety within myself, w
60. Two Families, One Polycule with Catherine and Brian
Catherine and Brian went on Feeld looking for a threesome but things took a turn when Catherine fell for a woman who’s also married with a daughter. Now the two couples (and their kids) have formed a loving polycule built on honesty and care.In today’s episode, we talk about how Brian stays sensually connected to the dynamic by being submissive, even though he’s not sexually involved with Catherin
59. Masculinity & Non-Monogamy: A Man’s Memoir with Adam of Seek the Risk
Adam is the author of Seek the Risk, the only memoir I know of by a man about non-monogamy. In this episode, he shares how being with a female partner who was more sexually active than he was challenged his sense of masculinity. He talks about how he overcame those feelings using techniques from his extreme sports background, including recognizing harmful inner narratives and reframing fear. Patre
58. All About MFM Threesomes with Didi & Alex
In the second part of my conversation with Alex and Didi, we’re diving deep into MFM (male-female-male) threesomes, something they’ve explored together, and that Alex has a lot of experience with solo. He shares how he went from feeling uncomfortable with seeing his partner receive pleasure from another man to actually making it one of his biggest kinks.We talk about why this dynamic can be incred
57. Navigating Couple-to-Couple Play with Didi & Alex
Today, Didi and Alex talk about what it’s like to be in a relationship where one partner is just beginning to explore non-monogamy while the other has years of experience. We also get into the complexities of couple-to-couple play, including the communication challenges, mismatched expectations, and lessons learned from their early experiences.Patreon Bonus Content: Navigating Couple-to-Couple Pla
56. Can a Kinky Relationship Be Asexual? Annie Undone Says Yes
Today, Annie Undone opens up about her long-distance Dominant/submissive relationship (where she was the dom) with an asexual partner and what it taught her about intimacy. She also shares her journey from monogamy to polyamory and back again, her experience leaving an abusive marriage and dating someone 14 years younger, and why staying grounded in yourself outside of romantic relationships is so
55. Aryn & Josh From Couples Therapy
Today Aryn and Josh from Couples Therapy discuss their decade-long journey navigating polyamory, including their experience in a triad, Josh’s process of overcoming discomfort with Aryn dating other men, and how they use conflict as an opportunity to model how they want to be treated by each other.Watch Couples Therapy on Paramount: https://www.paramountplus.com/shows/couples-therapy/Listen to the
54. When Their Actions Don't Match Their Words with Daniella Guimaraes (Velvet Ties)
Daniella Guimaraes is a non-monogamous matchmaker and founder of Velvet Ties social club. Today she shares her CNM journey, why she prefers starting relationships fully open, and lessons from a past partner whose actions contradicted his words. She also tells us how Velvet Ties is bringing the community together and what you have to do to become a part of it.Learn more about the Croatia trip here
53. How to Fortify Your Relationship with Lamees and Nick
Lamees and Nick are a monogamous couple who previously tried non-monogamy and decided it wasn't right for them. Today, they discuss their journey and introduce their "relationship fortification" framework for having honest conversations about relationships.Visit the relationship fortification website here:https://www.relationshipfortification.com/Follow relationship fortification on
52. How to Find Safety with Luna & Leo
Today, I’m sitting down with my dear friends Luna and Leo for what might be the longest and most insightful conversation I’ve ever recorded.Luna shares her journey of leaving a toxic non-monogamous relationship and finding something healthier and more fulfilling with Leo. We dive into their personal triggers, how their past experiences shaped them, and the self-awareness they’ve gained through ope
51. Hotwife, Mono-Poly or Something Else?
Ellie and Cole went from both being non-monogamous to just Ellie playing with others. But that doesn’t mean Cole doesn’t benefit! Ellie shares videos and pictures of her encounters and brings the sexual energy into their relationship when she gets home. We dive into how this (some might say hotwifing) arrangement works, the conversations that made it possible, and their journey from playing togeth
50. Mono-Poly and Non-hierarchical
In this final episode of the Mono-poly mini-series, my assumptions about these relationships get seriously challenged! Shy is solo poly, non-hierarchical, and a relationship anarchist, while Gabrielle, who’s monogamous, has a surprisingly open (some might even say poly) mindset. We dive into what non-hierarchy actually looks like in practice and how even monogamous partners can benefit from polyam
49. When You're Non-Monogamous and Your Partner Isn't
In this episode, I sit down with Cassie and Schuyler, a couple navigating a mono-poly dynamic—Cassie is open to dating others, while Schuyler has remained monogamous (so far!). We dive into their journey of embracing this relationship style, from Cassie overcoming feelings of guilt to how their dynamic has deepened their connection.Resources mentioned in this episode:Patreon Bonus Content:https://
48. Don't Ask Don't Tell But Different with Fer & Seth
In this episode Seth and I talk about why he’s never lost his confidence as a monogamous man in a non-monogamous relationship. We unpack how we approach "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" (spoiler: it’s not what you think!) and share what we’ve learned about making a mono-open dynamic work. Resources mentioned in this episode:Ep.12 She's Open He's Not with Fer & SethBook a free
47. How to Deal with NRE (New Relationship Energy)
Today I'm giving you a little sample of a Patreon episode.Feeling NRE (New Relationship Energy) in non-monogamy for the first time?If you're connecting with someone outside your primary relationship, you might freak out a bit (I sure did!). Here’s what I wish I knew:Thinking about your new lover more than your partner is normal and it will likely go away: Infatuation often comes with inten
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46. More Than A Mother with Molly Roden Winter
In the last episode of the Poly Parents mini-series I spoke to Molly Roden Winter, author of the New York Times Bestseller More: A Memoir of Open Marriage. We spoke about her experience overcoming shame as a non-monogamous mother and how opening up her marriage helped her grow and learn about herself.Get Molly's book here!Follow Polycurious onInstagramTik Tok
45. Poly and Pregnant with Sarah Stroh from Monogamish
Today, I talk to writer and coach Sarah Stroh (Monogamish_me on Instagram), a week before giving birth. We speak of how becoming pregnant changed the dating game for her and put her identity as a flirty and adventurous person into question. She also tells us about what led her to decide to co-parent with a friend and how that influenced her partner. Connect with Sarah:InstagramSubstackFollow Polyc
44. Opening Up After Two Decades Together
In the second part of my conversation with this couple, we discuss their transition from being open to polyamory, partially due to their three kids leaving for college. They each share their unique methods of dealing with jealousy and other challenging emotions, as well as how they've adapted to these feelings. Finally, they talk about their experience of revealing their non-monogamous relatio
43. Opening Up After Two Decades Together
This couple decided to open up their marriage after two decades together. Today, they share some of the challenges they faced during that transition, such as learning how much to share about their outside relationships with one another. They also tell us how they used Craiglist (believe it or not) to find a match for their first non-monogamous date. Lastly, they give great tips around finding comm
42. Can Non-Monogamy Make You a Better Parent? with Evolving Love Project
Abbey and Liam are the voices behind Evolving Love Project, a platform that explores non-monogamy and conscious relationships through Abbey’s writing, their podcast, and conversation evenings and retreats in Australia.In our conversation they tell us how being non-monogamous has helped them reconnect with their independence and return to their family life feeling refreshed. They also reveal how th
41. Getting Comfortable with MMF Threesomes with Chamberlin & Michael
Chamberlin and Michael struggled a lot in their relationship, having periods of opening and closing, cheating and hurting each other and ultimately breaking up. About a month after they broke up, Chamberlin found out that she was pregnant. And for reasons we discuss in the podcast, this pregnancy completely shifted their relationship, for the best. Today we also talk about Michael’s process gettin
40. Metamours Who Are Friends with Aviva, Lorena & JD
Today I chat with metamours JD and Lorena, as well as their common partner Aviva (a metamour is a partner’s partner.) Even though Aviva and Lorena were dating first, JD has become Aviva’s nesting partner. And today we chat about how even though that transition was a little difficult, Lorena was also very happy for Aviva and JD, someone she knew and really liked. I was left feeling warm from this c
39. Intimacy and Psychedelics with Sarah Tilley
Today I speak to Sarah Tilley, Founder and CEO of Beautiful Space. Sarah is a psychedelic guide, integration specialist and couple therapist. Today she tells us about her work leveraging the power of psychedelics in relationships. We also talk about what couples might do to increase intimacy even without the use of these substances. Book a free exploratory coaching session with me here
38. Twelve Lessons in my Polycurious Journey
In this episode I talk about the 12 lessons I have learned in my Polycurious journey.Be Patient. Go as fast as the slowest personFind the right time to talkCheck with your partner before making plans with other peopleFeeling guilt at first is normalDon’t sugarcoat. Be honest with your partnerDetermine how much you want to share with your partnerMeeting your partner’s partners (metamours) helps wit
37. How to Have a Good Threesome with All The Feels (Part 2)
Today I bring to you the second part of my conversation with Natasha + Jeremy, sex coaches and educators behind All The Feels. They give amazing tips around communication in and outside of the bedroom. Jeremy talks about ways that are sexy and respectful to approach women and they both share how to have a threesome that is fun and sexy and where everyone feels safe. We also talk about what one can
36. Turning Jelousy into Kink with All The Feels (Part 1)
Today I had a wonderful discussion with Natasha and Jeremy, the couple behind All The Feels. They are certified sex coaches, working on empowering people to have better sex lives. Besides coaching, they also educate through their instagram and their porn videos.Today we chat about their journeys taking charge of their sexuality and navigating non-mongamy. Natasha also tells us how she went from fe
35. Opening to Polyamory with Jessica Esfandiary from Open Late
Today I speak to Jessica Esfandiary, the host of the Open Late podcast. She tells us how she opened up her now 9 year relationship only a few months in, after an ‘accidental’ threesome. We talk about how she went from hiding her open lifestyle even from her closest friends to having a podcast about non-monogamy. She also tells us the reasons why she likes being polyamorous, including seeing a side
34. Managing Two Partners and Building Community with Jenny & Kris (Part 2)
In the second part of our conversation with Jenny and Kris we chat about a time when Jenny fell in love with a secondary partner and had a hard time managing both relationships. Jenny also tells us about the parties she organizes and how it all began as a way to connect the non-monogamous community.Follow Space Invader Social Club on InstagramBook a free exploratory coaching session with me
33. Open From the Get Go with Jenny & Kris (Part 1)
In today’s episode Mariah and I chat with Jenny and Kris, who have been together for almost a decade and navigated non-monogamy from the beginning. They tell us everything about their introduction to the non-monogamous world and what they learned in this process. Follow Space Invader Social Club on InstagramGet tickets to their event Purple Haze on 420 Follow Polycurious on:Instagram
32. Letting Go of Shame with Philip from Dear Poly
Today I chat with Philip, the host of the podcast Dear Poly where I was a guest last year. We go deep into Philip’s coming out story and how he had to break so much stigma in his religious community to be his true self. If you have ever had a hard time letting go of shame, as a queer person, non-monogamous person or simply someone with a high sex drive, I think you will resonate with this episode.
31. Healing Sexual Trauma with Jess & Zach from Sacred Ships
Jess is a trauma centered relationship coach and plant medicine guide. Zach is a breath work facilitator and men’s intimacy coach. Together they have the Sacred Ships podcast, where I had the pleasure to be a guest last year.Today we talk about how they healed their sexual trauma, partly through their relationship. Zach opens up about using porn in a way affected his sexual performance, and reveal
30. Being Solo Poly in a Long Term Relationship with Taylor and Alan
In the first episode of our third season Mariah and I spoke to Taylor and Alan, who identify as solo poly and nonhierarchical. Both of them started their non-monogamous journey in high school and have since been immersed in the poly and sex-positive community. Today we talk about their experiences of seeing each other fall in love with other people and experiencing jealousy. They also share how po
Monocurious E3 - Tory & Jackson: The Power of Non-sexual Intimacy
In the last episode of Monocurious we interview Tory and Jackson, a couple living in at Lightning Society, a co-living residence and event space in Brooklyn.
Today Tory and Jackson give us a crash course on non-sexual intimacy. Tory tells us why she decided to remain single for most of her twenties, focusing on her independence and building intimate friendships. Jackson, on the other hand, f
Monocurious E2 - Tory & Ava: Looking for Partnership in the Dating App Era
In today's episode, we discuss dating culture, the various contrasts in experience men and women have, as well as some hot tips on communicating expectations after a first date. Tory recently moved to NYC from San Francisco, for work and to find partnership with a Jewish woman. Ava, our Monocurious co-host, has lived & dated in NYC for 8+ years. Tory and Ava share how their family, culture, an
Monocurious E1 - Sue & Jon "A Floating Island of Monogamy in a Sea of Fluidity"
Sue & Jon became exclusive not long after their first date and married exactly one year after they met. When we joined them late last year, they were just six weeks away from having a baby. Despite going down what might seem a very conventional path (getting married, buying a house, having a baby), they are welcoming and understanding of the alternative paths many of their friends have taken.
25. Best Friends Open to Play and An Update on Our Relationships with Mariah & Fer (Season 2 Finale)
In our season finale, I speak to Mariah (the occasional co-host of the podcast) about the story of how we grew to be best friends who occasionally play.We also give you an update on where we are in our relationships and exploration of non-monogamy. I talk about how a deeper level of engagement with someone I am dating is teaching me to prioritize my primary partner and making me reflect on the bou
24. Growing From Polyamory with Ari & Jeshua
In this episode, I speak to Ari and Jeshua, a polyamorous couple that has been together for 2.5 years. In our conversation, we talk about their experiences dating people together and separately, their growth from secondary relationships, and their polyamorous community. We also have an interesting conversation about expressing your feelings for other people to your primary partner. Lastly, Jeshua
23. Forming a Triad and Decoupling with Marcela the Hypnoqueen
In this episode, I chat with Marcela, also known as thehypnoqueen. Marcela tells us about her shared sexual and romantic experiences with her former partner Brad, including forming a beautiful triad with another woman. Marcela also tells us how Brad and she decided to separate after over 4 years of being together and how they are approaching this new phase of their relationship.Follow Marcela on I
22. Intimacy, Mental Health and Communicating Desires with Valentin (Awake and Sexy)
In this episode I chat with Valentin (Awake and Sexy on Instagram,) an Internal Family Systems-trained Intimacy Coach & Guide. In this conversation we talk about Valentin’s own struggles with anxiety and intimacy and how they led him to delve into several mindfulness techniques and to leave his corporate job to start Awake and Sexy. We talk about Neo-tantra, MDMA therapy, and briefly touch on
21. When your Type of Non-Monogamy is Different from your Partner's
A common challenge couples who start opening up face is realizing that they have different ideas of what that actually means. In this special episode we listen back to some guests from the first season who had different desires or faced an imbalance in the way they approached non-monogamy.Guests from Season 1 included in this episode:Book a free exploratory coaching session with me her
20. Unlearning Monogamy with Carol & David
Carol and David have been in a polyamorous relationship for about eight years. In this conversation, we chat about their boundaries evolving from a three page document to simply having to check in with one another. They share some of the difficulties that they experienced as they navigated having more than one serious romantic partner. We talk about an accidental breach of trust and about how that
19. Gaslighting & Manipulation in Non-Monogamy with Rachel Krantz
In this episode I speak with Rachel Krantz, former editor at Bustle and Author of the book Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation and Non-Monogamy. Her book is both a cautionary tale about gaslighting and manipulation and a story about the lessons and fun experiences that being open can bring.We talk about the red flags that might indicate you are being manipulated and discuss why often ti
18. Being Solo Poly and Dating a Couple with London
In this episode, London shares her reasons for being solo poly and not seeking a primary partner. She tells us ho she is working on getting validation from herself and letting go of expectations when it comes to relationships. We talk about the importance of communicating intentions and feelings, even with people one is casually dating. Last but not least, we go in-depth about London’s experience
17. Flirting as a Team with Jasmine & Felipe
In this episode I chat with my friends Jasmine and Felipe, who have been together for about a year and a half. With the exception of a short period at the beginning where they dated independently, they have only had experiences as a couple and mostly with women.They tell us why dating separately sounds both intriguing and threatening to them. We also talk about the complexity of making moves on fr
16. Dating as a Newly Queer Person and NRE with Queer Dating Coach Ariella Serur
Queer Dating Coach, Ariella Serur, works with queer people navigating the dating world, so it becomes an enjoyable process and part of their personal growth journey.In this conversation, Mariah and I chat about Ariella’s own queer and non-monogamous journey. We talk about how to date as a newly queer person and how to deal with feelings of infatuation and new relationship energy. We also discuss h
14. Broken Up But Still Together with Cookie & Jerry
On our season premiere Cookie and Jerry open up about their journey and their breakup. We talk about how their current separation has benefited their relationship. This conversation highlights how communication has to be a continuous effort. No matter how long you have been together, things change all the time. You have to do what is right for you even if it is different from what worked in the pa
Bonus Episode - Bushwick Daily Feature
This bonus episode is an edited version of our interview for a feature article in Bushwick Daily. Allie Ferrera interviewed both Mariah and I about the podcast. We talked about the inspiration behind Polycurious, the difference and similarities between monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, and what boundaries mean for us. We also have a special announcement: we will be releasing a second se
13. Falling in Love with Your Secondary with Mariah (Season Finale)
For our last episode of the season I chat with my co-host and best friend Mariah. If you haven’t listened to the first episode of the season where I interview her for the first time, go back and listen now. In our conversation, Mariah updates us about coming out to her family as polyamorous. We talk about her experience falling in love with her secondary partner and eventually breaking up with her
12. She is Open, He is Not with Fer & Seth
In this episode I interview Seth, my partner of almost 3 years. So far he hasn’t sought out to be non-monogamous, despite having a partner who is. In our conversation Seth tells us about his upbringing as a homeschooler and the son of a pastor in a small midwestern town. We talk about how we met and his reasons for not pursuing non-monogamy. We tell you what our boundaries are and how they have ev
11. Overcoming Insecurities with Ruth & Alejandro
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