Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast
Everything you need to know to have a thriving, nourishing sex life as you age—whatever that means for you. Suzanne Noble is over sixty, sexually experienced and honest. She discusses her own experience and—as a woman in her sixties—brings years of sex and intimacy to reflect on in a witty, open and enthusiastic way. The series is dedicated to helping older people find their way to a healthy and enjoyable sex life. Whether you are just starting out with a new partner or continuing with an old one, there's sure to be something new here for you.
Episodes
Why Are Women Over 50 Ashamed of Sex Toys? | FT. Dr. Shamyra Howard
What I Discussed With Dr Shamyra Howard...- What a man actually hears when his partner tells him she needs a toy to finish- The three words she gives every couple before they open the box- What happens to the clitoris once the estrogen goes, and why nobody warned us- The one question to answer before you look at a single product- What a manufacturer found when it stopped testing on twenty-five-yea
He Helped Invent Viagra What’s Next for Men’s Sexual Health? | FT. Dr. Arthur Burnett
What I Discussed With Dr Arthur Burnett...- Why the pill has never once started an erection, and what that means for the nights it did nothing- The name he would give erectile dysfunction if he could rename it tomorrow- What his lab found when they went looking for the same response in women- Why the men who most want the pill to work are the ones it helps least- What he thinks of a prescription t
Why Women Lose Their Libido (And How to Get It Back) | ft. Pauline Ryeland
What I Discussed With Pauline Ryeland...- Why the brain turns your libido down on purpose, and what it thinks it's protecting you from- The one thing men do on the sofa every night that women were taught never to do- What Pauline said to a man in his early thirties who was booked in for his third Peyronie's operation- The trauma technique that cleared decades of her own dental trauma after EMDR di
Why Couples Lose Desire (And How to Get It Back) | Dr. Anna Elton
What I Discussed With Dr Anna Elton...- Why the word desire gets confused with arousal, and how mixing them up keeps couples stuck for years.- The uncomfortable truth about the "spontaneous" desire I felt at 25, and why Anna says I actually worked for it.- What 700+ couples taught Anna about why some marriages stay passionate for decades while others go quiet.- Where my erotic energy goes when it
Sex, Chocolate & Midlife Desire: How to Reclaim Your Pleasure in Menopause with Dr. Kelly Barron
What I Discussed With Dr. Kelly Barron...- How chocolate and sex have always been linked, and the herbs Kelly uses to make that connection real.- Why menopause changes my sex life without ending it, and what "designing a new sexual life" actually means.- The physical and emotional signs that show up when I feel disconnected from my own body at this stage of life.- Why so many women assume there mu
Why Sex Changes After 50 and What Nobody Tells You | ft. Dr. Jenn Kennedy
What I Discussed With Dr. Jenn Kennedy...- The two problems that bring most couples over 50 into sex therapy, and why embarrassment keeps them away for so long.- Why an unreliable erection doesn't mean the end of pleasure, and what "pivoting" actually looks like in bed.- The surprising sensitivity of a soft penis, and why porn has left us all badly under-educated.- Why sex that "feels like sandpap
What If You're Not Unhappy... Just Unfulfilled?
What I Discussed With Aine Rock…- Why having the "perfect" life on paper doesn't always mean you're living the life you truly want.- The surprising difference between being happy, being comfortable and feeling genuinely alive.- Why losing intimacy often starts long before couples stop having sex.- How reconnecting with pleasure can become the first step towards rebuilding your entire life.- Why wo
The Surprising 69% of Women Unhappy in Sex... and How to Fix It
What I Discussed With Malia Lazu…- Why so many women spend years putting everyone else's needs before their own—including in the bedroom.- What the "pleasure gap" reveals about women's sexual satisfaction and why the issue goes far beyond orgasm.- How shame, social conditioning and unrealistic expectations stop women from asking for what they truly want.- Why learning what gives you pleasure is th
The Dating Mistakes That Keep You Single After 40 | ft. Sandy Weiner
I keep hearing the same story from people who are looking for love later in life: they want a relationship that feels good, but they’re not always sure how to tell the difference between real compatibility and a temporary rush of attraction.In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I speak with dating and relationship coach Sandy Weiner, chief love officer at Last First Date, TEDx speaker, author
Why Women Really Hire Male Escorts | ft. George Goulburn
What if intimacy in later life isn’t really about sex at all?In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I speak with George Goulburn, a straight male escort in his 50s, who works with women in their 50s, 60s, 70s, and even 80s.What he shares challenges almost every assumption about escorting, desire, and connection in later life.Far from quick, transactional encounters, George’s clients are seekin
Why Long-Term Couples Drift Apart—and the Simple Habit That Brings Them Back
Most couples say their relationship is their top priority—but their time, energy, and attention often tell a different story.In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I’m joined by relationship coach and Relational Life Therapy practitioner Monica Tanner to explore what really keeps long-term couples connected, emotionally and sexually, well into their 60s, 70s, and beyond.We dive into Monica’s s
The Hidden Habits Destroying Men's Erections | ft. Tom Jenkins
Erectile dysfunction is often treated as a physical issue, but this conversation explores the emotional, psychological, and lifestyle factors that can sit underneath it. Suzanne Noble opens with a personal reflection on how ED can be an early warning sign of more serious health problems, before introducing guest Tom Jenkins, author of The Drunk Gambler with Erectile Dysfunction.Tom speaks candidly
Live with Suzanne Noble and Ken Schafer - Uncovering the Root Cause of Erectile Dysfunction
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The Truth About Modern Love Nobody Talks About | ft. Scot McKay
What I Discussed with Scot McKay…- Why many people over 50 are abandoning dating apps and what they are doing instead to find meaningful relationships. - How online dating evolved from a genuine way to meet people into a swipe-based system that often prioritises engagement over connection. - Why dating after 60 may actually be easier than dating in your 30s and 40s for people seeking authentic rel
Why Gay Men Struggle to Find True Love (And Nobody Talks About Why)
What I Discussed With Anthony Canapi…- Why many gay men over 50 are turning away from dating apps and looking for more personal ways to find meaningful relationships.- The unique dating challenges faced by older gay men, including grief, ageism, relationship loss and the legacy of the HIV/AIDS crisis.- Why some older gay men are drawn to younger partners and what may be driving that attraction.- H
Why Women Feel Completely Different After Menopause | Tanya Leake
What I Discussed with Tanya Leake…- What clitoral atrophy is and why many women have never heard of it.- How menopause can affect sensation, arousal and orgasm.- The connection between clitoral health, blood flow and hormonal changes.- What clitoral adhesions are and how they can develop over time.- Whether regular sexual activity can help maintain sexual function during menopause.- The role of va
The Truth about Sex we were Rarely Taught
What I Discussed With Joe Bains…- How growing up in a traditional Indian family with an arranged marriage shaped Joe’s views on relationships, sex and personal freedom.- Why Joe deliberately pushed himself from being an extreme introvert into a highly social and adventurous life.- What biohacking actually means and how optimising your health can improve vitality, energy and sexual wellbeing as you
How to Turn around your Sex Life in 6 Weeks
What I Discussed With Amy Color… - Why many couples mistakenly believe that better sex starts with talking more rather than connecting differently.- What Amy learned from her own sexless marriage and why traditional therapy didn't provide the answers she was looking for.- Why erectile dysfunction often creates shame, pressure and disconnection for both partners.- How couples can build intimacy wit
The Side Effect of Prostate Surgery Nobody Prepares Men For
What I Discussed With Jon Plate…- Why erectile dysfunction is one of the most common but least discussed side effects of prostate cancer surgery.- The shocking number of men who experience erectile dysfunction after a radical prostatectomy—and why many aren't warned beforehand.- Why surviving cancer and maintaining quality of life should be part of the same conversation.- How shame, stigma and poo
Desire Doesn't Retire: The Secret Sex Lives of People Over 60
What I Discussed With Kathy Kay…- Why many women discover greater sexual confidence and freedom later in life.- The surprising reason some people become more adventurous in their 50s, 60s and beyond.- How communication—not necessarily better sex—is often the key to happier long-term relationships.- Why fantasies, fetishes and kinks are far more common than most people realise.- What Kathy has lear
He Does Five Girth Fills a Day. Here's What Older Men Actually Want.
What I Discussed With Chris Bustamante…- Why more men over 50 are seeking treatments to improve erectile function, confidence and sexual wellbeing.- The difference between improving penile function and enhancing penile appearance—and why many men choose both.- What the P-Shot (PRP therapy) is and how it may help improve blood flow, sensation and erection quality.- How shockwave therapy works along
Getting Naked Is the Fastest Way to Stop Hating Your Body
What I Discussed With Junie Moon…- Why so many women struggle with body confidence long after menopause—and how healing is possible.- What inspired Junie Moon to strip naked for her documentary Shed the Shame and what she learned from the experience.- Why nudity isn't necessarily about sex—and how it can become a powerful act of self-acceptance.- How negative body image affects intimacy, dating an
The Uncomfortable Truth About Senior Dating Nobody in the Industry Will Say Out Loud
Walk into an AARP event expecting walkers and wheelchairs. Leave rethinking everything you thought you knew about senior dating. That was Dr. Gilda Carle’s experience, and she has never looked at this age group the same way since.Gilda spent eight years as a columnist and spokesperson for Match.com, writing the widely read Ask Dr. Gilda column. When the company sent her to a Washington DC event fo
Stop Blaming. Start Feeling. Why One Small Language Shift Changes Everything.
Most couples have their story memorised. When they met, what went wrong, why things aren’t what they used to be. They’ve told it so many times it feels like a fact.And that’s the problem.Dr. Dan Sneider is a couples therapist and the founder of IntimacyShift.com. He works with two distinct groups of older people: couples who’ve been together for decades, and people starting over in their 50s and 6
The Hormone Your Body Has But Can't Use (And What Changes When You Fix That)
There’s a version of male ageing that’s become so familiar we’ve stopped questioning it. Energy drops. Interest fades. The man who used to be the life of the party just… stops showing up. His partner wonders where he went. He probably wonders too.Dan Leach hears this story constantly.Dan runs Valens Health, a UK-based hormone optimisation clinic focused on men’s health, though as our conversation
Permission at 70: Sex, Silence, and Starting Again
You’re not past it. You may even be approaching your peak.A psychiatrist just told me that women tend to reach their highest sexual satisfaction at 64. I’m 64. And I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard the opposite message, that desire fades, that this is the time to wind down, that the body just stops cooperating.Dr. Shila Patel has been listening to patients talk about sex, relationships,
Extended Massive Orgasms with Steve Bodansky
In this episode, I unpack my long-held scepticism about so‑called “orgasm techniques” and the pressure on women to climax in multiple ways. Then I speak to Steve Bodansky, co‑creator of Extended Massive Orgasm (EMO), a practice focused on clitoral stimulation, deep relaxation, and “peaking” (edging) to prolong pleasure.We explore how extended orgasm works, why relaxation matters more than effort,
Recovering from Infidelity after 50: What nobody tells you about Betrayal
Can a marriage survive infidelity?This week I spoke with Renelle Nelson, a licensed marriage and family therapist who’s spent 11 years specialising in affair recovery. She helps couples rebuild after betrayal, when everything’s shattered and nobody knows where to start.Turns out infidelity isn’t just sex outside the marriage. It’s anytime you go outside your relationship to get pleasure that shoul
Why Dating Apps Fail Older LGBTQ Singles—and What a Matchmaker Does Instead
Ever wondered what it’s like to hire a matchmaker?This week I spoke with Tammy Shaklee, a heterosexual woman who specialises in matching LGBTQ+ clients over 50. She’s spent 14 years helping gay and lesbian singles find serious relationships.It goes without saying, I was curious to hear how she got her start. Turns out, after her divorce, Tammy hired a matchmaker and met her husband. Years later, a
The Simple Practice That Brought Intimacy Back After 20 Years
If you’ve been in a long-term relationship for years (or decades), there’s a good chance this sentence will feel uncomfortably familiar: “We haven’t had sex in years, and I don’t know how to fix it.”That’s exactly why this week’s episode of Sex Advice for Seniors hits such a very familiar nerve for me, because it speaks to my own experience.My guest, Elana Auerbach, didn’t come on the podcast with
The Lie Women Were Taught About Sex and Marriage
What do we learn about sex when no one talks about pleasure?In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, clinical psychologist Dr. La Keita Carter (Dr. L) joined me for a powerful, honest conversation about sex, silence, and the myths surrounding women of colour and intimacy. We explore how cultural messages, shame, and generational “don’t bring a baby into this house” rules shape sexual desire, rel
Magnificent Sex in Later Life: Why Aging Can Be Your Erotic Awakening
I’m a big believer that we can receive good advice from anyone, regardless of their age. Emma Shandy Anway is a West Coast-based Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specialises in relational and sex therapy. Although in her mid thirties, she has extensive experience working with couples aged 50+ and, during this episode, we discussed her work specifically with those aged 70+. Having chatted
Promote your Substack like a Publicist with Substack Bestseller and ex Publicist, Suzanne Noble
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Desire Never Retires: Vulnerability, Sex, and the Best Love of a Lifetime
As soon as I saw Dr. Nikki Monti’s photo, an older woman with her streak of blue in her dark hair, I thought, we’re going to get along. A psychotherapist, who also calls herself a ‘thought healer,’ Nikki has appeared on a variety of high profile TV shows such as Keeping up with the Kardashians and recently published a memoir, ‘The Divine Traumedy of Nicki Joy: A True Grime Tale.’ This is a woman w
Can Depression Affect Your Sex Life?
How retirement, changing identity and life transitions can contribute to depression later in life.Why depression and antidepressants can both have a major impact on sexual desire and erectile function.How couples can talk about changes in intimacy without blame or shame.Why erectile dysfunction isn't always about attraction—and what partners often misunderstand.How menopause, changing hormones and
Why is Women's Pleasure still Ignored?
Why women's pain is often taken more seriously than their pleasure—and how that affects healthcare throughout life.How outdated beliefs about older women's sexuality can prevent them from receiving the treatment they need.Why menopause can be the beginning of a richer, more confident sex life rather than the end of one.What Suzannah learned while researching women's sexual health, objectification
Navigating Relationship Dynamics in Modern Love
Can Monogamy Evolve Into Open Relationships?What I Discussed With Dr. Tammy Nelson…Why monogamy isn't simply "open" or "closed"—and how every couple creates their own relationship agreement.How relationships naturally evolve over time, and why regular conversations can prevent resentment from building.Why talking about fantasies doesn't necessarily mean you want to act on them.How changing life st
Still Getting Real: Dr. Susan Campbell on Love and Sex in Your 80s
Does Intimacy and Sex Evolve in Your 80s?What I Discussed With Dr. Susan Campbell…Why dating after 70 isn't about following old relationship rules—and how creating your own relationship can be incredibly liberating.How one couple found lasting love in their seventies and discovered that intimacy continued to evolve well into their eighties.Why great sex later in life often has less to do with pene
Is It Possible to Reclaim Pleasure Despite the Beliefs You’ve Been Taught?
Is It Possible to Reclaim Pleasure Despite the Beliefs You’ve Been Taught?What I Discussed With Lauren Elise Rogers…How the beliefs we absorbed about sex in childhood can quietly shape our relationships for decades without us even realising it.Why "weeding your sexual garden" can help you identify outdated ideas about intimacy, pleasure and relationships that no longer serve you.How moving through
From Silence to Satisfaction: Talking Sex and Midlife Empowerment
What I Discussed With Angela Burk…- Why so many women spend decades putting everyone else's needs before their own—and what happens when they finally stop.- How divorce became the unexpected catalyst for Angela's journey of sexual self-discovery and self-pleasure.- Why understanding your own body is the first step towards having better sex with a partner.- How shame, silence and lack of sex educat
Reclaiming Pleasure: Aging, Advocacy, and Intersectional Sexual Justice
In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I sat down with Marie Morice, whom I have met in real life! She’s a clinical sexologist and advocate for sexual health, and we spoke about the importance of sexual justice and its intersection with ageing, pleasure, and health. With World Sexual Health Day as a backdrop, we explore the theme of sexual justice—ensuring everyone, regardless of age, gender,
How to Ask for What You Want in Bed Without Feeling Awkward
Why asking for what you want in bed feels so difficult—and why it's a skill anyone can learn.How shame, conditioning and purity culture continue to shape our sex lives well into adulthood.Why a lack of desire in long-term relationships is often about much more than hormones.How simple tools like a "Yes, No, Maybe" list can help couples have honest conversations about intimacy.Why rejection doesn't
Does Great Sex Have an Age Limit?
Why growing older doesn't mean giving up on intimacy—and what actually changes as our bodies age.How common medications, including statins, antidepressants and blood pressure tablets, can quietly affect libido and sexual function.Why emotional intimacy and communication become even more important when physical changes affect sex.How simple adaptations, from lubricants to positioning aids, can help
Reclaiming Women’s Pleasure: Tackling Low Libido and Sexual Health with Michelle Jermy
What I Discussed With Michelle Jermy…- Why low libido is rarely "just hormones" and why relationships, stress and emotional wellbeing matter just as much.- How healthcare professionals can ask better questions about women's sexual health instead of focusing only on symptoms.- Why so many women continue having unwanted or uncomfortable sex to avoid conflict or disappointing their partner.- How pain
The Intersection of ADHD and Intimacy: Insights from Sabrina Baldini
What I Discussed With Sabrina Baldini…- Why ADHD can influence desire, attention and intimacy in ways that many people—and even healthcare professionals—rarely discuss.- How the ADHD brain's need for novelty can shape long-term relationships without necessarily requiring new partners.- Why role play, power dynamics and creativity can help some neurodivergent people stay sexually engaged.- How hype
Breaking Taboos: Exploring Pegging and Pleasure with Luna Matatas
What I Discussed With Luna Matatas…- What pegging actually is—and why more couples are becoming curious about exploring it together.- Why communication and trust matter far more than confidence or experience when trying anal play for the first time.- How to prepare safely for pegging, including training, lubrication and avoiding common beginner mistakes.- Why many heterosexual men are discovering
Menopause, Misdiagnosis, and Modern Solutions: A Conversation with Dr. Shirin Lakhani
What I Discussed With Dr Shirin Lakhani…- Why millions of women are still being told that painful sex is simply part of ageing—and why that's simply not true.- How a lack of menopause and sexual health training leaves many healthcare professionals unable to recognise or treat common intimate health conditions.- Why understanding your own vulva and knowing what's normal for your body could lead to
Love Me: How Exploring Intimacy Transformed Marianne's Life
What I Discussed With Marianne Power…- What actually happens at a tantra retreat—and why it's probably very different from what most people imagine.- Why fear, embarrassment and curiosity often go hand in hand when stepping into workshops about intimacy and sexuality.- How growing up with shame around sex can quietly shape relationships well into adulthood.- Why learning to say both "yes" and "no"
Touch Me There: Rediscovering Intimacy, Power, and Purpose in Midlife
What I Discussed With Juliette LaMontagne…- Why losing sexual intimacy in a long-term relationship doesn’t have to mean the relationship is over.- How the Wheel of Consent helped one couple reconnect after years of distance, resentment and recovery.- Why talking about sex isn’t always enough—and how touch can communicate what words cannot.- How learning to ask for what you truly want can transform
Bridging Desire Gaps: How to Reignite Intimacy After 50
On this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I had the pleasure of chatting with Susan Morgan Taylor, a somatic sex therapist from beautiful North Carolina. Susan works with couples to help them reconnect with their bodies and each other, using somatic methods to explore desire and intimacy. If you’ve ever wondered how to reignite the spark or expand your idea of pleasure, this episode will inspire
Taming Jealousy: How to Navigate Big Feelings and Build Better Relationships
On this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I had the pleasure of chatting with Dr. Joli Hamilton, a jealousy expert who’s spent twelve years unraveling the messy, powerful, and often uncomfortable emotion of jealousy, especially in relationships. If you want to know everything there is to know about jealousy, Joli is your woman!We dove into why jealousy can feel so unbearable, how it’s hardwired i
The RV Trip that Led to a Relationship Reboot
Have you ever thought about packing it all in - giving up your home and hitting the road with no long terms plans in sight? Recently I’ve met a few people, in their 40s and above, who have done this, adopting the nomad lifestyle. One is my friend, whom I met when he came to live with me for three months, which has become an annual occurrence, Kevin Sessums.A woman whom I met via a Lovehoney campai
Overcoming Religious Sexual Trauma
This week’s conversation is with Lucy Rowett, a sexologist who works with women who struggle with shame around their sexuality, especially those who come from a religious background that did not recognise a woman’s right to experience sexual pleasure.Together we unravel the intricate layers of shame surrounding sexuality, especially for women and vulva owners. Discover how faith backgrounds shape
The Intersection of Prostate Cancer and Sexual Function
Join me, Suzanne Noble, as I chat with the brilliant Dr. Pete Tsambarlis, an associate professor of urology at Northwestern University, who knows more about prostates than most of us know about our morning coffee! Dr. Tsambarlis was introduced to me by a patient of his, fellow Substacker Bob Mizek-Menopause for men, so I knew we were going to have a fascinating conversation around importance of un
Breaking Taboos: Sex and Dating in Midlife
It’s always fun to talk to a fellow podcaster, especially someone like Karen Bigman, the host of the podcast Taboo to Truth: Life and Sex After 50. Karen is a certified sexuality educator and menopause sex and relationship coach, and she’s on a mission to help women over 50 embrace their sexuality and pleasure without shame.Karen shared her incredible journey of self-discovery, which began after h
Rediscovering Pleasure: Sexual Authenticity and Kink in Later Life
Galen is one of the few guests I’ve met in real life when he came, briefly, to London and I caught up with him in at a pub in Islington for a drink and a chat. As one of my older guests, in his seventies, I enjoy hearing his unique perspective about sexuality, informed by his decades of experience working with clients especially around kink and sexual shame. As an aside, he cites himself on his we
Sexual Pleasure and Disability
In this episode of "Sex Advice for Seniors," I’m thrilled to welcome back a remarkable advocate for the sexual rights of disabled individuals. The last time we spoke, Maria Cyndi had recently launched an Instagram channel and a Substack. Unfortunately, she felt compelled to shut them down after facing harassment and unwanted attention from individuals fetishizing her disability. However, she has n
Use it or You'll Lose It
Around the same time my Advantages of Age colleague Rose Rouse and I were herding together amazing women for our Fabulous & Flamboyant Bus Tour, another trailblazer, Maryjane Fahey was kicking off her own movement called Glorious Broads. Armed with equal parts chutzpah and charm, she prowled the streets of New York, boldly and brazenly stopping any woman who looked remotely interesting. Her missio
Tantra, Unreliable Erections, and Rediscovering Yourself After 50
This week, I had the absolute pleasure of speaking with Dakini Leah, founder of Living in Tantra and a true ray of sunshine from Grand Junction, Colorado (even if she admits she misses tea with clotted cream).We dove headfirst into the world of Tantra—what it is, what it isn’t, and why it’s definitely not just about long orgasms or bizarre religious rituals, thanks in no small part, to its associa
Exploring Late Love: Relationships After 50
On this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I had the absolute pleasure of chatting with the brilliant Avivah Wittenberg-Cox, author of Late Love: Mating in Maturity. We dove into everything from relationships after 50, to why women are leading the "gray divorce" trend, to the surprising ways men and women experience this stage of life differently. This stage of life—what Avivah calls Q3—isn’t abou
Revolutionising Men's Health: The Phoenix Device
When I first heard about The Phoenix, I wasn’t entirely sure what to expect. The name alone conjures images of grandeur—something mythical, rising from the ashes. Turns out, that’s pretty fitting. It’s a device designed to breathe new life into men’s sexual health, and Dustin Wolff, the co-founder of Launch Medical, joined me to explain how it all works.Dustin is one of those people you warm to im
Navigating Menopause: A Guide to Sexual Health
I’ve known Sam Evans, owner of sexual pleasure shop JoDivine.com for nearly 20 years, back to when she first launched her shop with her husband, and gifted me a toy to try out and review on my first blog, suzanneportnoy.com.Since then, Sam has become a popular spokesperson on social media, advocating for women’s sexual health, especially during one’s menopausal years. As a former nurse, she has mo
Why our Partner(s) may Resemble our Parents
Imago Relationship Theory claims we all have a mental "dating app" in our subconscious where the algorithm is secretly set to "parental lookalike mode."Essentially, we swipe right on people who remind us of our parents—because why not add a sprinkle of childhood trauma to the romance cocktail, right? Shan Marchant is a couples therapist and relationship expert, who you might recognise from the BBC
Non-Verbal and Creative Approaches to Intimacy
Austin Cresap is therapist specialising in sex therapy and sex education in Seattle, Washington, and Hawaii.In this conversation, she shared some fantastic ideas and practical tips for making intimacy easier, more playful and that takes the pressure out of who initiates sex. She talked about using a secret signal, like a coffee cup, to indicate interest in intimacy. Austin also introduced the "No,
Putting Sex Toys to the Test
One of the perks of my job is having the opportunity to try out a multitude of sex toys, many of which made it into my booklet and the people behind their creation. Suki Dunham is the co-founder of OhMiBod, one of my sponsors, and is a pioneer in a predominantly male industry. During our conversation, we talk about her early days as a sex tech entrepreneur, the challenges of marketing sexual healt
Intimacy Issues - Understanding and Overcoming Barriers
Indigo Stray Conger has been a therapist since 2008 and has completed over a decade of therapeutic training. She is one of less than ten AASECT certified sex therapists at a supervisory level in the state of Colorado.During our conversation, we delve into what somatic psychotherapy entails and also the role of EMDR in trauma healing, and the challenges of intimacy in relationships.As we discuss,
Open Dialogue: Sex Advice For Seniors
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The Taboo of No Sex: A New Perspective
What happens when you’re no longer having sex in a relationship and is there a space for a different type of intimacy when sexual intercourse is no longer present in it.This is the topic I discussed with Leora Lightwoman, whom I have met previously, both on the show and in real life! As a tantric practitioner, Leora is familiar with meeting couples whom struggle with sexual desire but want to rema
What's all the Fuss about Pubic Hair
If you’re not a frequent TikTok user, you may have missed the buzz around the hashtag #bushtok, a lively debate about whether to embrace a full lady garden, opt for a Hollywood (take it all off), or go Brazilian (leave a small landing strip).Most of the women weighing in on this debate are younger, many of whom likely grew up in the shadow of pornography. Let’s be honest, unless you’re into vintag
Pain Free Penetration
Once whispered about in hushed tones, the topic of painful penetration is finally finding its voice. It’s surprising, as well as alarming, how many women endure this struggle in silence, putting up with traditional sexual intercourse through gritted teeth, simply because it hurts too much.For older women, pain during penetration is often blamed on hormonal change but it’s not just about biology. T
The Male Menopause - One Man's Journey post Prostate Cancer
Bob Mizek-Menopause for men and I connected through Substack, where he’s been sharing his journey following prostate cancer surgery. His writing tackles the highs and lows of that experience including dealing with medical professionals of varying skill levels and learning to advocate for his own sexual health.What I truly admire about Bob is his raw honesty. He’s candid about the challenges he’s f
Keeping up with Co-Host Zoe Kors
In this episode, I reconnected with my former co-host, the wonderful Zoe Kors. Though we’ve never met in person, she feels like a kindred spirit, and I absolutely love her to bits!.It had been months since our last chat, but like old friends, the conversation flowed effortlessly. I was eager to catch up and hear what she’s been up to since we last recorded together, back when another former co-hos
The Wheel of Consent: A New Approach to Intimacy
What actually goes on when you attend a session with a sex therapist and what are some of the tools they use to try and help singles and couples to overcome their challenges around sex. After a hundred or more episodes, in which I suspect I have overlooked many of the practical aspects of sex therapy, I decided to use my conversation with Dr. Denise Renye to get into the nitty gritty of her profes
Interview with Ally Iseman
In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors I had the pleasure of speaking with fellow Substacker Ally Iseman, a relationship coach and self-proclaimed non-monogamy nerd, about the nuances of ethical non-monogamy and its implications for older adults exploring new relationship dynamics. This is an area in which I’m too familiar, having been in several relationships, both serious and casual, in which
Interview with Anna Marti
I’m always intrigued by what inspires ‘sexperts’ to help others navigate the challenges within their sexual relationships. For many I’ve met, their journey into this field is often deeply personal, shaped by their own experiences and struggles.In this recent conversation, intimacy coach Anna Marti, whom I have met before, shared her path to becoming an intimacy coach. Her journey was profoundly in
What's your Genital Anatomy Type
It was great to welcome back Amara Charles to Sex Advice for Seniors, a relationship and sexual empowerment expert and best selling author of three books. I really love this woman - she has a wonderful calm energy about her and she positive lights up when she talks about her work.In this episode I was keen to delve into the practise of concept of Quodoushka, which represents the fusion of energies
Interview with The Gen X Sexologist
One of the recurring topics in my conversations with older people is how to navigate a sexless relationship, especially when one person in the partnership wants more sex than the other. Having spent the last four years of my own marriage celibate, I am familiar with this dynamic. In my case, my sexual dissatisfaction was not defined by my ability to orgasm (which I had always taken control of) but
Living Apart Together
Rose Rouse is the editor of the social enterprise Advantages of Age and Now magazine on Substack, which we founded together back in 2016 to challenge the media narrative around ageing. She also happens to be one of my good friends.We share many of the same views on ageing, believing that getting older doesn’t mean being "past it." We both enjoy wearing flowers in our hair from time to time, shoppi
Overcoming Sexual Trauma in Later Life
In this episode of 'Sex Advice for Seniors', me and somatic psychotherapist Erica Shershun, Author of Healing Sexual Trauma Workbook, discuss the pervasive issue of sexual trauma, particularly in light of recent high-profile cases such as Gisele Pelicot. We explore the impact of rape culture, the importance of recognising trauma symptoms, and effective healing techniques. Subscribe for honest, sti
Sex after Recovering from Breast Cancer
Darlaine and I have met before, and in this conversation we talk openly and honestly about the challenges of sexual health, especially for women after breast cancer. We shared some of our personal experiences and talked about how hormonal treatments can impact intimacy, as well as the importance of taking care of vaginal health. We also discussed how lifestyle choices can make a big difference, bu
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