Forget People Pleasing
Forget People Pleasing is a podcast for Christian women who struggle with overgiving, overfunctioning, and seeking love through people-pleasing. Hosted by therapist and emotional skills coach Rhonda Morales, it helps heal emotional wounds from dysfunctional or neglectful childhoods. The show offers biblical insights and practical strategies to stop people-pleasing and live authentically without guilt or fear.
Episodes
When Father's Day Hurts
16. When Life Gets Interrupted
Life gets interrupted sometimes, doesn't it?! It doesn't always go as planned! My life got derailed by several home expensive repairs and an unplanned need for a new car! God held me together and gave me wisdom, direction, discernment, and provision as I leaned on His word especially James 1:5. Listen in as I share how chaos turned into clarity and a fun road trip!https://www.rhondam
15. The Dark Side Of Mother's Day
Mother's Day isn't always joyful for lots of reasons. Today's epidsode talks about the mother you needed but didn't get. We cover some ways to process those hard feelings of disappointment, grief, abandonment, and anger. We resolve our hurts by leaning into God's word and His promises. With His help, we can forgive and find freedom and peace as replacements for those h
14. Our Need To Belong
It's human to want to belong. It's in our DNA as we are created in the image of our triune God, designed for communion with Him and with one another. People pleasing keeps us from being known not just to ourselves but unknown by others. Our performing may keep us included, but when we realize we aren't known for being authentically ourselves, then it can feel lonely. As follower
13. The Fear of Being Ruined
Fear says, "you will be ruined if you say no or set a boundary." But God tells us in Galatians 5:1, you have been set free to no longer be a slave. We think our consequence for not appeasing will be ruin, permanent, and pervasive. But, will it really??? We catastrophize the discomfort and transition from being a people pleaser to living in truth. You're not as fragile as the ene
12. I Married Him Because I Was A People Pleaser
Left to my own flawed human thinking and emotions plus the people pleasing tendency to not want to disappoint anyone ... well, I got married for the wrong reasons. Yes, I was "young and dumb" and "didn't know what I didn't know." Had God been part of my decision making, had I wanted my life to be in alignment with His plan for me, I wouldn't have walked
11. What Are You Going To Be When You Grow Up?
Isn't it crazy that at the young age of high school graduation you have a major question to answer, "what are you going to be when you grow up?" How well do we really know ourselves at that age. And without God navigating, we can make some unaligned choices ... like me becoming a CPA when I didn't like math 😳. People pleasing can guide us into making the wrong choice for th
10. Why You Feel Invisible In Your Relationships
We long to be seen, known, and loved which is met in God's unconditional love. We seek the same knowing and love from our inner circle. Yet, we sabotage that desire by keeping our true selves hidden which tends to create one-sided relationships. This episode reveals 5 habits that make us invisible in our relationships and 3 ways to start breaking the cycle. From a Biblical perspective, we
9. What's Your Body Trying To Tell You?
If willpower was what we needed to stop people pleasing, then we'd all be cured. However, our people pleasing problem is rooted in our biology, our nervous system, and our belief system about safety and approval. Learning to PAUSE and LISTEN to our bodies is a vital part to replacing the automatic habit of YES, or apologizing, or over explaining, or fixing it with an honest answer. Psalm 3
8. Are You Normalizing Dysfunction?
When we stay silent and tolerate negative behaviors we may be NORMALIZING DYSFUNCTION! This episode discusses 2 costs of staying silent for the sake of staying safe instead of facing our fears rooted likely from childhood. For more resources go to: https://www.rhondamorales.com
7. Nice Girl, Hidden Agenda
People Pleasing looks 👀 nice, but usually isn't.... it's usually strategic. There's typically a hidden agenda under that appeasing and over giving that makes us "feel" safe. Despite being created for connection and relationship, this episode points out the selfishness of being human and how people pleasing falls into the selfish category 😳. Selfishness is what disrupts
6. Why Your "NO" Feels Scary -- And What To Do Next
Big feelings like FEAR, GUILT, DOUBT, and ANXIETY come up when we disrupt the People Pleasing habit. Those feelings can have us back tracking into people pleasing if we aren't expecting them and we don't know what to do with them. This episode walks you through an "Emergency Kit" so you can keep moving forward into emotional freedom and your authentic self as you PRACTICE ne
5. The Fears That Keep People Pleasing Alive
What would your life look like if it stopped revolving around keeping everyone else happy?And here’s how I define the people pleasing habit:People pleasing is when you prioritize making others happy, satisfied, or pleased with you—at the expense of staying true to who you are, who God has called you to be, and what He’s called you to do.This episode talks about many fears that keep us leaning on t
4. Valentine Message
In case you don't think you have a Valentine this year, listen up ... because there's an invitation waiting with your name on it.For more resources: https://www.rhondamorales.com
3. Would you REMARRY your EX for $100 million dollars?
The response to my December 4th Instagram Reel, was a LOUD NO!!!!! This episode discusses why we wouldn't go back. It also includes looking into the mirror and seeing how we may have contributed to the failed relationship. If we don't reflect and own our role, we are apt to repeat the pattern. For additional resources: https://www.rhondamorales.comhttps://www.rhondamorales.com/worksh
2. Why People Pleasing Leads to Resentment
When we chronically abandon ourselves and needs to appease others, resentment is bound to grow. As Christians, our identity and value is given to us by God. We can reduce of our performing and appeasing habits in exchange for acceptance because God has accepted us through Christ. We've learned these coping mechanisms and have practiced them to make us feel safe and approved. But, it isn&a
1. People Pleasing Isn't Who You Are
People Pleasing is a coping strategy you learned likely in childhood, to help keep you emotionally or maybe physically safe. Maybe you saw this strategy modeled by a parent or care giver especially if you grew up in a dysfunctional family. As an adult, you don't develop and share the REAL you by hiding behind the protective shield of PLEASING. Replacing People Pleasing with your true self
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If you’ve spent your life overgiving, overfunctioning, or trying to earn love… if you feel unloved, unnoticed, or disconnected from the people you care about… if you’re longing for healthier relationships, authenticity, and a deeper connection with God… this podcast is for you. Forget People Pleasing is a podcast for women 40+ who love God but feel emotionally exhausted, spiritually stuck, resen
