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The Way You Show Up

The Way You Show Up

Kimberly Beam Holmes, PhD 274 Episodes Oct 1, 2026

The Way You Show Up is a podcast hosted by Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, a relationship expert with a decade of experience at Marriage Helper. The show targets high-achievers who feel stuck in autopilot and want to move beyond a merely 'fine' existence. It uses the PIES framework—Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health—to help listeners dismantle an average life and build an exceptional one. New episodes are released every Tuesday.

Episodes

How Do I Prove To My Spouse That I've Changed?
How Do I Prove To My Spouse That I've Changed? Oct 1, 2026 1794 Take the Free LovePath™ Roadmap Assessment: https://bit.ly/4ylcru9How do you prove to your spouse that you’ve really changed?It’s one thing to say you’re different. It’s another thing for your spouse to actually believe that the change is real, especially when there have been years of hurt, broken trust, or patterns that keep resurfacing.In this episode, I’m taking live calls from people facing di
His Wife Left Him For A Family Member... Now What?
His Wife Left Him For A Family Member... Now What? Sep 24, 2026 2314 FREE MINI-COURSE: The First 72 Hours After a Marriage Crisishttps://bit.ly/4AzMPvmWhen your marriage is falling apart, you want answers.Why is this happening?What did I do?Can this still be saved?In this episode, I take live calls from people asking exactly those questions.Michael's wife filed for divorce and moved another man into their house. He's praying every day and doesn't kno
Follow This If Your Spouse Is In An Affair
Follow This If Your Spouse Is In An Affair Sep 17, 2026 2029 For the first time on the show, I took your calls live. No scripts. No prep. Just real people in real crises telling me what's happening in their marriage and asking me what to do next.Bhavesh in London caught his wife with a coworker, and now she's filed for divorce and put a restraining order on him. He's done everything she ever asked him to do, and she treats him like he's
How To Stop Fighting With Your Spouse So Much
How To Stop Fighting With Your Spouse So Much Sep 10, 2026 1598 Click here to submit your questions to be on the show! https://bit.ly/3Tv4287Eight towels. Two blankets. Zero Amazon gift cards.That's what my husband came home with after I asked him to do one thing.So here's my question for you: how would you have responded in that moment?Most people go one of three ways. Laugh it off. Snap and say "I asked you to do ONE thing." Or start diag
I Knew I Should've Kept My Mouth Shut...
I Knew I Should've Kept My Mouth Shut... Sep 3, 2026 2131 Resources Mentioned 👀The 24 Hour Repair Clock: https://bit.ly/4iaXPIFClick here to submit questions: https://bit.ly/3Tv4287I knew I shouldn't have done it.I did it anyway. Twice in one day.First I blew out my knee doing double unders I had no business doing. Then I blew up a conversation with my husband over something I should have let go.Fourteen years of teaching this stuff. And I still sai
I don't even know who I am anymore...
I don't even know who I am anymore... Aug 27, 2026 2712 Resources Mentioned In This Episode:Follow Lucas LeFevre on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucasplefevre/Sign up for the Solo Spouse Masterclass: https://bit.ly/3SD36ynSubmit your questions here! https://bit.ly/3Tv4287"I don't even know who I am anymore."I heard it over and over in a coaching lab a few weeks ago, and it broke my heart. Different people. Different stories. Same
Why You're Not Healing EMOTIONALLY
Why You're Not Healing EMOTIONALLY Aug 20, 2026 2460 Referenced in this episode:Episode on Feedback: https://youtu.be/NnAZXA32dqcClick Here to Submit Your Questions: https://bit.ly/3Tv4287You have emotional wounds you can't trace.You don't know where they came from. You just know something hurts every time life bends the wrong way.I scraped my knee in a hotel gym in Taiwan and had no idea how I did it. But for days after, every squat, ever
I Asked My Husband What Most Men Get Wrong In Marriage
I Asked My Husband What Most Men Get Wrong In Marriage Aug 13, 2026 1951 Submit Your Questions for the Q&A Segment: https://bit.ly/3Tv4287Most husbands have no idea what they're doing wrong.Not because they don't care. Because they're convinced emotions are supposed to follow logic.She shouldn't feel disrespected when I correct her grammar. She should thank me for telling her the idea was bad. That's not cruelty. That's a man trying to
When Someone You Love Goes Distant
When Someone You Love Goes Distant Aug 6, 2026 1762 Referenced in this Episode 👀Marriage Helper Couples Workshop: https://bit.ly/3PPVE1CStop Trying To Fix Your Marriage Fast: https://youtu.be/GxRUPCSELq8Submit Your Questions for the Q&A Segment: https://bit.ly/3Tv4287Save My Marriage Course Waitlist: https://bit.ly/3RBHr9nMost people try to reconnect by talking about the relationship.That's exactly why it doesn't work.You sit them dow
This Mental State Hurts You AND Your Marriage
This Mental State Hurts You AND Your Marriage Jul 30, 2026 2526 Learn more about the Marriage Helper Couples Workshop: https://marriagehelper.com/couples-workshop/You are such an idiot.That is what I said to myself. Out loud. For days.Over a pair of AirPods.I left the case on my bumper, drove off, and lost them. Second time I've lost a case. The first time I mailed it away in an Amazon return box.And I spent the next week beating myself up about it.Here&a
What To Do When You Feel Like A Failure
What To Do When You Feel Like A Failure Jul 23, 2026 2203 I failed my driver's test before I ever pulled out of the parking lot.Sixteen years old. Red Miata convertible. The one thing I wanted more than anything.Gone in under a minute.I sat through the rest of that test convinced I could win her over. I couldn't. And all I could think about was that everyone at school was going to know. All my friends were going to know. I was the girl who fail
Stop Trying To Fix Your Marriage Fast
Stop Trying To Fix Your Marriage Fast Jul 16, 2026 2311 Everyone wants to sprint through the hard part of marriage.I understand why. When there's been infidelity. When trust has been broken. When you feel more like roommates than husband and wife. You want it over as fast as you possibly can.But I'll tell you something that surprises a lot of people. The faster a reconciliation happens, the bigger the red flag it is to me.Marriage was never m

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