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The Way You Show Up

The Way You Show Up

Kimberly Beam Holmes, PhD 274 Episodes Aug 20, 2026

The Way You Show Up is a podcast hosted by Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, a relationship expert with a decade of experience at Marriage Helper. The show targets high-achievers who feel stuck in autopilot and want to move beyond a merely 'fine' existence. It uses the PIES framework—Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health—to help listeners dismantle an average life and build an exceptional one. New episodes are released every Tuesday.

Episodes

Why You're Not Healing EMOTIONALLY
Why You're Not Healing EMOTIONALLY Aug 20, 2026 2460 Referenced in this episode:Episode on Feedback: https://youtu.be/NnAZXA32dqcClick Here to Submit Your Questions: https://bit.ly/3Tv4287You have emotional wounds you can't trace.You don't know where they came from. You just know something hurts every time life bends the wrong way.I scraped my knee in a hotel gym in Taiwan and had no idea how I did it. But for days after, every squat, ever
I Asked My Husband What Most Men Get Wrong In Marriage
I Asked My Husband What Most Men Get Wrong In Marriage Aug 13, 2026 1951 Submit Your Questions for the Q&A Segment: https://bit.ly/3Tv4287Most husbands have no idea what they're doing wrong.Not because they don't care. Because they're convinced emotions are supposed to follow logic.She shouldn't feel disrespected when I correct her grammar. She should thank me for telling her the idea was bad. That's not cruelty. That's a man trying to
When Someone You Love Goes Distant
When Someone You Love Goes Distant Aug 6, 2026 1762 Referenced in this Episode 👀Marriage Helper Couples Workshop: https://bit.ly/3PPVE1CStop Trying To Fix Your Marriage Fast: https://youtu.be/GxRUPCSELq8Submit Your Questions for the Q&A Segment: https://bit.ly/3Tv4287Save My Marriage Course Waitlist: https://bit.ly/3RBHr9nMost people try to reconnect by talking about the relationship.That's exactly why it doesn't work.You sit them dow
This Mental State Hurts You AND Your Marriage
This Mental State Hurts You AND Your Marriage Jul 30, 2026 2526 Learn more about the Marriage Helper Couples Workshop: https://marriagehelper.com/couples-workshop/You are such an idiot.That is what I said to myself. Out loud. For days.Over a pair of AirPods.I left the case on my bumper, drove off, and lost them. Second time I've lost a case. The first time I mailed it away in an Amazon return box.And I spent the next week beating myself up about it.Here&a
What To Do When You Feel Like A Failure
What To Do When You Feel Like A Failure Jul 23, 2026 2203 I failed my driver's test before I ever pulled out of the parking lot.Sixteen years old. Red Miata convertible. The one thing I wanted more than anything.Gone in under a minute.I sat through the rest of that test convinced I could win her over. I couldn't. And all I could think about was that everyone at school was going to know. All my friends were going to know. I was the girl who fail
Stop Trying To Fix Your Marriage Fast
Stop Trying To Fix Your Marriage Fast Jul 16, 2026 2311 Everyone wants to sprint through the hard part of marriage.I understand why. When there's been infidelity. When trust has been broken. When you feel more like roommates than husband and wife. You want it over as fast as you possibly can.But I'll tell you something that surprises a lot of people. The faster a reconciliation happens, the bigger the red flag it is to me.Marriage was never m
3 Hidden Triggers Behind Every Argument You Have
3 Hidden Triggers Behind Every Argument You Have Jul 9, 2026 3366 You think the fight was about the medicine.It wasn't.It was never about the medicine, the dishes, the text you forgot to send, or who said what first.Every argument you've ever had walked in carrying three invisible passengers. Your past. Your personality. Your point of view.And your spouse brought their own three into the room, too.In this video, I break down what's actually happen
The One Thing I Did That Saved My Marriage (It Wasn’t Couples Therapy)
The One Thing I Did That Saved My Marriage (It Wasn’t Couples Therapy) Jul 2, 2026 3025 DM me the word PIES for a chance to have your question read! https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmesYou can't change your spouse.You can't change your circumstances.But you can change you. And it turns out that's the only thing that ever actually works.A few years ago, I was working 100-hour weeks. My marriage was falling apart. And one morning I ended up on my bathroom floor a
When Everything Is NOT Fine
When Everything Is NOT Fine Jun 23, 2026 1382 You know that meme. The dog sitting in a room that's completely on fire, saying "this is fine."What do you do when that's actually your life?In this video, I want to talk about the thing most of us do when something hard is sitting right in the middle of our path. We avoid it. We walk around it. We wait for it to move on its own.But here's what I've learned. The obsta
The One Thing All Successful People Know
The One Thing All Successful People Know Jun 16, 2026 844 Everybody wants the hack.The pill. The shortcut. The version of success that happens while you sleep.I get it. I've wanted it too.But after years of researching motivation, self-esteem, and what it actually takes to reach a goal, here's the truth most people don't want to hear.There is no hack.The one thing every successful person has in common isn't talent or luck or some secr
I Feel Like The Sacrifice God Hasn't Used Yet
I Feel Like The Sacrifice God Hasn't Used Yet Jun 9, 2026 1505 I felt cut open and exposed.Not metaphorically. Like I had poured out every single thing I had and was just lying there, waiting on God to move.The last two years have been some of the hardest of my life. My dad's cancer. Financial stress. A lot of change all at once. I got to the end of my rope and thought, God, I've given everything I know how to give. Now what?Then I opened up Genesis
How To Be The Bigger Person When Someone Lies About You
How To Be The Bigger Person When Someone Lies About You Jun 2, 2026 1003 Someone lied about me.Not a small lie. The kind that twists your words, takes them out of context, and drags your name through the mud in front of an audience.And I'll be honest with you. It made me angry.I wanted to write the email. I wanted the last word. I wanted everyone to hear my side of the story.If you've ever been gossiped about, lied about, or watched someone tell a version of

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