All of You
Dave and Shiv Martinell share their personal journey toward self-awareness, healing, and personal growth, exploring how their relationship improved as they healed individually. They discuss how this transformation positively impacted their workplace, friendships, parenting, and overall well-being. The podcast aims to inspire listeners to pursue their own growth and healing, believing that collective healing makes the world more beautiful.
Episodes
Ep.128 The hidden cost of not being present
We live in a world that rewards doing, and it can be hard to slow down long enough to simply be. Between the to-do lists, responsibilities, and constant distractions, being fully present can feel harder than ever. But what are we missing when we're always focused on what's next instead of what's right in front of us?
In this episode, we explore the hidden cost of living in a constant state of doin
Ep.127 Becoming self aware is hard
We all have subconscious patterns that shape the way we think, feel, and show up in our relationships. The tricky part is that you can’t change what you’re not conscious of, and staying conscious of ourselves in every moment is nearly impossible.
In this episode, we talk about the messy, ongoing work of self-awareness and why becoming more conscious isn’t about getting it right all the time. It’s
Ep.126 Why we get harsh with the ones we love
Inspired by Terry Real’s quote, “there is nothing that harshness does that loving firmness doesn’t do better,” in this episode we’re taking a closer look at why we can get so harsh with the people we love. Where does it come from, and why does it seem to come out most when we really want to be heard?
We talk about the difference between being direct, being firm, and being harsh, and how our old pa
Ep.125 Is the work actually working?
How do you know if the work you’ve been doing is actually working? Healing isn’t always about feeling better or never getting triggered again. Sometimes the real results show up in how you respond, how you move through discomfort, and how you relate to yourself and others.
In this episode, we talk about what it really means to measure your healing, how you know you’re growing, and why integration
Ep.124 How Important Is Spiritual Alignment?
What does it really mean to be spiritually aligned? And how important is it to share that alignment with your partner? Spirituality can shape the way we see ourselves, our relationships, and the decisions we make, but being aligned doesn’t necessarily mean believing or doing everything the same way.
In this episode, we explore what spiritual alignment can look and feel like, how it shows up in rel
Ep.123 When doubt creeps into the relationship
Doubt is bound to creep into every relationship at some point. Sometimes it’s an important signal that something needs our attention, and other times it’s our fear, uncertainty, or old wounds taking the wheel. The challenge is learning the difference.
In this episode, we’re talking about what happens when doubt starts to take over. When we constantly question the relationship, look to our partner
Ep.122 What social media is doing to your relationship
Social media has become such a normal part of our lives that it’s easy to forget how much it can shape the way we see ourselves, our partners, and our relationships. From comparison and jealousy, to how much we scroll, to the stories we create based on what we see online, it can have a bigger impact on our connection than we realize.
In this episode, we’re talking about the ways social media can q
Ep.121 Dealing with uncertainty
Uncertainty is a part of life, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to sit with. In this episode, we’re talking about the uncertainty that shows up in relationships, career, and life and what happens when our nervous system doesn’t know how to handle the unknown.
We explore how uncertainty can live in the body, impact the way we connect with the people we love, and lead us to seek control or certainty
Ep.120 How to know when to commit
How do you know when it’s time to truly commit? In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to trust yourself enough to know that no matter what happens, you’ll be okay and how that changes the way you choose a partner and a relationship.
We talk about being aligned in your values and what you want, choosing someone you’d be willing to go to war with, and what it really means to have an equa
Ep.119 When connection feels hard
Sometimes in relationships, we’re simply not connected. And while disconnection is inevitable, what matters most is what we do with it. In this episode, we talk about why learning to be okay with moments of disconnection and resisting the urge to make them worse can actually be the key to finding our way back to each other.
We explore what it looks like to give each other space without creating mo
Ep.118 Human doing or human being?
Have you ever felt like you've become one with your to-do list? In this episode, Shiv shares her own experience of realizing she'd slipped into constant "doing" mode, living in a state of stress instead of being present. We explore why this happens, how it impacts our ability to connect with the people we love, and what it looks like to slow down enough to actually experience the moments we're liv
Ep.117 The pressure we put on our partners
We all have needs in our relationships, but what happens when we start expecting our partner to meet all of them? In this episode, we unpack the pressure we can unknowingly place on the person we love, why it happens, and how it can create resentment, disconnection, and impossible expectations. We also talk about the importance of learning to meet more of your own emotional needs, recognizing when
Ep.116 The importance of how you view yourself
How you see yourself shapes every part of your life and relationships, but what if that view isn't actually accurate? In this episode, we explore where self-perception comes from, why so many of us struggle to see ourselves clearly, and how our past experiences can distort the way we view who we are. We also talk about how to build a more honest, compassionate view of yourself so you can show up w
Ep.115 We're not okay and that's okay - living in a season of grief
In this deeply personal episode, we share about the recent loss of our brother-in-law after his battle with cancer and reflect on what grief has taught us—not just through this loss, but through many others we've experienced. We talk about what it means to live in a season of grief, how to support people who are hurting, and why healing often looks different than we expect.
If you're carrying loss
Ep.114 What is right and wrong in relationships
In relationships, we often spend so much energy trying to prove who's right and who's wrong. But what if that's the wrong question altogether?
In this episode, we explore why healthy relationships aren't built by convincing your partner to see things your way. They're built by two people working together to create a relationship that works for both of them. We talk about letting go of rigid expect
Ep.113 Why growth is more about letting go than leveling up
We live in a world obsessed with self-improvement and optimization, but growth isn't always about adding more. Sometimes the most meaningful transformation comes from letting go of the beliefs, patterns, and survival strategies that no longer serve us. In this episode, we explore why healing is often less about leveling up and more about releasing what's been holding us back.
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Ep.112 Why understanding emotional bandwidth matters
In this episode, we explore the role emotional bandwidth plays in healthy relationships and why timing can matter just as much as communication. We talk about the importance of checking in with your partner before diving into difficult conversations and recognizing that everyone's emotional, mental, and physical capacity shifts throughout different seasons of life.
We also discuss what it looks li
Ep.111 When to walk away
Relationships aren’t meant to stay the same forever and sometimes that leaves us wondering whether we’re being called to lean in, set stronger boundaries, or walk away. In this episode, we explore the difficult questions that arise when relationships change, needs evolve, and growth takes people in different directions.
We talk about how to recognize when a relationship is no longer serving you, w
Ep.110 Doing the work, but still struggling in relationship
Healing isn't a straight line. Sometimes growth looks like moving forward, and sometimes it looks like finding yourself back in an old pattern you thought you'd already worked through.
In this episode, we're talking about what happens when healing feels messy, why regression is a normal part of growth, and how these moments can impact our relationships. We explore how to navigate setbacks with com
Ep.109 The art of hard conversations
Communication is one of the biggest things that can either build connection or slowly break it down in relationships. In this episode, Shiv and Dave have an honest conversation about what actually makes communication healthy, why so many of us struggle to express what we feel, and how understanding yourself is a huge part of being able to communicate well with someone else.
They dive into emotiona
Ep.108 What good communication actually looks like
Hard conversations can either create deeper connection or deeper distance and most of us were never actually taught how to have them well. In this episode, we talk about the patterns that quietly sabotage connection during conflict and share practical tools we personally use to navigate difficult conversations with more honesty, accountability, and compassion.
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Ep.107 What makes a good man and are there any out there?
When Shiv’s hot take from a previous episode sparked a bigger conversation, we knew we had to go there. In this honest and unfiltered episode, Shiv and Dave dive into the question so many women quietly (or loudly) ask… are there actually good men out there?
Together, they unpack the beliefs, wounds, experiences, and expectations that shape how we see men, relationships, and what it really means to
Ep.106 Why we broke up and why we tried again
In this episode, we’re sharing the story of our breakup, what led to the relationship ending, what we didn’t fully understand at the time, and some of the hard truths we both had to face after walking away. We talk about the heartbreak, the confusion, the season of no contact, what made Shiv decide to reach back out, and what gave us the confidence to believe trying again could actually be differe
Ep.105 Taking accountability without getting defensive
Taking accountability without getting defensive is one of the hardest and most important skills in relationships. In this episode, we talk about what it really looks like in real life, especially in those moments where your instinct is to shut down or push back. We break down how defensiveness is often just self-protection rooted in shame, and how it can quietly get in the way of feeling close and
Ep.104 The power of nervous system awareness
Nervous system awareness might be one of the most underrated relationship skills and one of the most powerful. When you start to recognize what’s happening in your body in real time, everything shifts. You move from reacting on autopilot to responding with intention, creating more safety, clarity, and connection in your relationships.
In this episode, we zoom out on why understanding your internal
Ep.103 The skill that will change your relationship: not taking things so personally
Not taking things personally is one of the most foundational (and most challenging) relationship skills. In this episode, we explore what it really looks like to give your partner the benefit of the doubt and hold a steady, loving view of them even when you feel triggered. Because the truth is, when something feels personal, it’s often less about what’s happening in the present and more about what
Ep.102 The ways we control our partner
In this episode, we explore the many ways control quietly shows up in our relationships and why it’s usually not about power, but protection. Beneath the surface, control is often rooted in fear, past wounds, and a deep desire to feel safe. We unpack how these patterns can look both obvious and incredibly subtle, and how they can slowly chip away at connection, trust, and intimacy.
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Ep.101 Good partners are never even
In this episode, we explore the quiet ways scorekeeping can creep into relationships and why the healthiest partnerships are rarely ever “even.” What starts as tracking chores or effort is often something deeper: the desire to feel seen, valued, and supported. We talk about how resentment builds when needs go unspoken, how overfunctioning can create imbalance, and why love feels lighter when it’s
Ep.100 Conversations with God
We’ve officially hit 100 episodes! To celebrate, in this episode we pull back the curtain on the journey that started it all. We share how we felt called to begin this podcast, the ways we experienced God guiding us along the way, and what it looked like to trust something bigger than ourselves.
We open up about the fear, the uncertainty, and the moments that stretched us while also reflecting on
Ep.99 Navigating hard seasons in a relationship
In this episode, we talk about the reality that every relationship goes through different seasons. Some feel light and easy, while others are stretching and difficult. Learning to recognize and name the season you’re in can shift the way you experience it and help you remember that hard moments don’t mean something is wrong with the relationship.
We also share how we’ve learned to navigate the tou
Ep.98 If you never argue in your relationship, that’s a problem!
Everyone says they want a conflict-free relationship, but the truth is that if two people are truly being themselves, conflict is inevitable. You would have to be the exact same person to never disagree. In this episode, we talk about why conflict isn’t the problem in relationships and what actually is.
For both people to feel authentic and autonomous, there has to be space for differences and hon
Ep.97 Holding your view of your partner
In this episode, we explore why maintaining a positive view of your partner is one of the most protective forces in a relationship and how easy it is to lose.
We talk about the subtle ways resentment, unspoken expectations, triggers, and everyday stress can slowly shift the lens you see your partner through, and what it actually takes to find your way back to seeing each other with softness, curi
Ep.96 As you heal what you attract changes
Why do the relationships that once felt electric start to feel exhausting as you grow? This conversation was sparked by watching Wuthering Heights and realizing just how differently we define love, chemistry, and passion now compared to earlier versions of ourselves.
In this episode, we talk about why intensity can stop feeling like chemistry, how peace starts to feel way more appealing, and what
Ep.95 What vulnerability requires
Vulnerability sounds simple, but in real life it’s layered, tender, and requires more than just one person being willing to open up. In this episode, we explore what actually creates the conditions for people to feel safe enough to be seen and why trust is something that’s built in small, quiet moments, not forced breakthroughs.
We talk about the ways defensiveness, ego, and lack of presence can g
Ep.94 Q&A
This episode is a rapid-fire Q&A sharing an honest snapshot of where we’re at right now, both individually and in our relationship. We talk about what’s been activating us, patterns we’re noticing, beliefs we’re outgrowing, and what feels tender, easier, or still requires intention in this season.
We also keep it light with some fun questions: the habits we’re low-key judging, things we defini
Ep.93 The beliefs that once kept you safe now keep you stuck
Our limiting beliefs and insecurities don’t come out of nowhere—they’re learned, often in moments where we were trying to protect ourselves.
In this episode, Dave and Shiv explore how these patterns form and why they can feel so hard to break. Dave shares how his beliefs around working out kept him from going to the gym for years, while Shiv opens up about how past trauma led her to suppress her f
Ep.92 Making peace with your past
In this episode, Dave and Shiv share why making peace with your past is foundational to healing, emotional safety, and healthy relationships. They explore how unresolved experiences quietly shape the way we show up, love, and protect ourselves. Shiv vulnerably shares some of the hardest parts of her own past to make peace with, and what that process has actually looked like in real life. This conv
Ep. 91 When things get toxic
This episode explores what people usually mean when they say a relationship feels toxic and how to tell when something is no longer just difficult, but unhealthy. The conversation looks at the difference between conflict that leads to repair and patterns that repeat without real change.
It also touches on what happens when emotional safety is missing, including walking on eggshells, editing yourse
Ep.90 The most underrated relationship skill: Holding space
Holding space is one of the most powerful and misunderstood relationship skills. In this episode, Shiv and Dave break down what emotional validation really is, why it’s what every partner wants when they are upset, and what makes it so hard to offer in the moment.
They explore the blocks to holding space, from personalizing and ego stories to emotional immaturity and share real examples from their
Ep.89 Family Estrangement: When distance becomes necessary
Family estrangement is one of the most painful and complex relationship experiences a person can walk through, and this episode approaches it with honesty, compassion, and deep care.
Dave shares his personal journey with family estrangement, what it has cost him, what it has taught him, and how he’s been able to create healthier relationships on the other side. Shiv and Dave explore estrangement f
Ep.88 Our Take on New Year’s Resolutions
The New Year tends to arrive with a lot of pressure — to change faster, do more, fix everything, and somehow become a brand-new version of yourself overnight. In this episode, we slow the whole thing down and offer a different perspective on what this season is actually for.
We talk about why this time of year is better suited for rest, reflection, and intention than rigid goal-setting, and how ma
Ep.87 Happiest or hardest time of the year?
The holidays are often framed as the happiest time of the year… but for many, they can also be the hardest. In this episode, Dave and Shiv talk honestly about why the holiday season can feel so heavy, from unmet expectations and family dynamics to grief, loneliness, and the invisible mental load—especially for women. Shiv shares why she used to dread the holidays, and together they explore what it
Ep.86 Blocks to gratitude
We talk a lot about the power of gratitude—but if it’s so good for us, why don’t we live there all the time? In this episode, we explore the blocks to gratitude and what actually gets in the way of feeling it, even when there’s so much to appreciate.
Using a real moment from the day after Disneyland, we unpack how easy it is to slip into shame and self-criticism—and how gratitude isn’t about bypas
Ep.85 Relationships: the playground for personal growth
In this conversation, we explore one of the most surprising truths about personal development: the work you do for your relationship is the same work that transforms every part of your life. Relationships act like a mirror—showing you the patterns, wounds, and habits that quietly shape how you communicate, lead, set boundaries, and move through the world.
When you choose to grow inside your partne
Ep.84 Does your trauma make you stronger?
In this episode, we unpack the complicated relationship between trauma and growth—and why going through something hard isn’t what makes you stronger. We talk about the difference between experiencing trauma and actually healing from it, and Shiv opens up about how the saying “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” she was told in the wake of extreme loss did more harm than good.
We also dig int
Ep.83 We weaponized the work
In this episode, we’re getting honest about a pattern we didn’t expect to find in our own relationship: using personal growth tools in ways they were never meant to be used. We talk about how easy it is, once you’ve done a lot of healing and communication work, to slip into correcting, analyzing, or psychoanalyzing your partner — all under the guise of “using the tools.”
If you’ve ever caught your
Ep.82 Your permission to not be liked
This week we’re diving into the uncomfortable truth that not everyone is going to like you — and why that’s actually okay. We talk through our own experiences with rejection, wanting to be misunderstood, and the pressure to manage how people see you. It’s an honest, unstructured conversation about what it looks like to release that weight and stay grounded in who you are.
If you’ve ever felt the u
Ep.81 Outsourcing your self worth
Ever feel totally fine… until your partner seems a little off? And suddenly you’re questioning yourself, replaying conversations, or wondering if you did something wrong? That’s outsourcing your self-worth — and most people don’t even realize they’re doing it.
In this episode, we break down why your partner’s mood or behavior can feel like it determines your value, how this pattern quietly shows u
Ep.80 How health in one area is connected to all areas
Ever notice how when one part of your life feels off, everything else starts to feel a little off too? In this episode, we explore how all areas of your health: mental, physical, emotional, relational, spiritual, and even financial are deeply connected.
We talk about why you can’t truly feel well if you’re neglecting one area, how imbalance shows up in subtle ways, and what it actually looks like
Ep.79 What we really want in an apology
We think we want “I’m sorry,” but what we’re really craving is to be seen in our pain. In this episode, we share a story from one of our own past fights and talk about why apologies sometimes don’t land the way we hope they will. Because not all of the pain is from the moment—it’s often old, living in our bodies and showing up when we least expect it. We’ll unpack what it really means to feel seen
Ep.78 Projection: it’s easier to see this in you than to face it in me
Have you ever accused someone of something, only to realize later that it was actually about you? In this episode, we’re diving deep into projection, which is the unconscious defense mechanism that makes us see our own wounds, insecurities, and traits in others.
We talk about why projection is so sneaky, how it keeps both people stuck, and what to do when you’re either the one projecting or the on
Ep.77 Manipulation: the ways we do it without knowing it
We all like to believe we’re “not manipulative.” But the truth? Most of us do it, often without even knowing. In this episode, Shiv opens up about the sneaky, unintentional ways she's tried to control situations or people, and how manipulation can quietly show up in our relationships, families, and even faith.
We explore what manipulation actually is (and isn’t), why we do it, and how fear, contro
Ep.76 Signs of an absent partner
You can be sitting next to someone you love and still feel completely alone.
In this episode, we talk about what it really means to have an absent partner and how absence isn’t just physical. It can be emotional, mental, relational, or even spiritual.
We explore the subtle ways absence shows up in relationships: when your partner stops sharing what’s really going on inside, when conversations stay
Ep.75 Are we chasing or avoiding what we feel
In this episode, we explore how so much of what we do comes down to either chasing or avoiding our emotions. We chase because we believe others have something we’re missing. We avoid because we don’t want to feel what’s already here. And while both patterns can sometimes lead to “good” outcomes, neither one ultimately brings the fulfillment we’re longing for.
We’ll also dive into how this plays ou
Ep.74 Is it time to rest or work harder?
We’ve all hit that moment of wondering: do I need to slow down, or do I just need to push a little harder? In this episode, we unpack how to tell the difference. Self-compassion doesn’t mean complacency—it’s what fuels resilience and lasting growth. Research shows that when we meet ourselves with kindness, we actually achieve more, not less. But pushing when your body and nervous system are alread
Ep.73 The fine line between boundaries and control
Where’s the line between a healthy boundary and trying to control someone you love? In this episode, we dive into the difference. Boundaries create safety, clarity, and respect in a relationship — while control often comes from fear, insecurity, or a need to manage the other person. We’ll share real-life examples of what healthy boundaries sound like versus what control looks like in disguise, and
Ep.72 Building self confidence
What if the confidence you’ve been chasing isn’t about looking put together or pretending you’ve got it all figured out, but about healing the parts of you that were hurt in the first place?
In this episode, we’re breaking down what real self-confidence looks like and why it can’t come from surface-level fixes. We talk about the wounds that shape how we see ourselves and the subtle ways we avoid f
Ep.71 Navigating jealousy
Jealousy is one of those emotions everyone feels but no one really likes to talk about. Is it a natural part of love, or does it always point to deeper insecurity? In this episode, we dive into the complexities of jealousy — where it comes from, how it shows up in relationships, and what it might actually be trying to tell us.
We also share how our own views of jealousy have shifted over time and
Ep.70 Hot takes: our spicy opinions and random rants
This week's episode is a little different…Instead of diving deep into one theme, Shiv and Dave are serving up their hot takes—the rants, opinions, and random musings that don’t quite fit into a full topic but are too wild and funny to keep off the mic. From believing that social media isn’t bad to discussing why sometimes eating “unhealthy” is actually the healthier choice, we’re sharing the thing
Ep.69 Self sabotage: how we get in our own way
Why do we sometimes get in our own way, even when things are going really well? In this episode, we unpack the sneaky ways self-sabotage shows up in our lives—whether in relationships, career, or even moments of peace and happiness. We explore the beliefs that fuel it (“What if it all gets taken away?” “Do I really deserve this?”), and how old family patterns may have shaped what we think love, su
Ep.68 When you don’t feel that chemistry anymore
Attraction isn’t static — it ebbs and flows depending on our energy, our connection, and what’s happening inside of us. In this episode, we talk openly about what happens when “the spark” feels like it’s fading, and how to tell if it’s really gone or just asking for your attention.
We share how to discern whether a lack of attraction is about your own inner world or the dynamic between you and you
Ep.67 Fighting about money part 2
In this follow-up episode, Dave opens up more about the beliefs he formed around money growing up, and together we unpack how those early messages shape the way we approach money today.
We explore the role of safety, control, and values in how couples relate to money, what habits have actually brought us closer, and why there’s no one right way to manage money in a relationship.
Our hope is that
Ep.66 Fighting about money part 1
In this first episode of our two-part series on money, Shiv shares how her old money beliefs were shaped by fear, scarcity, and survival—and how shifting those beliefs changed everything. We unpack the idea that couples aren’t actually fighting about money, but about the deeper stories and wounds attached to it. We also explore how someone's money behaviors—like overspending, withholding, or contr
Ep.65 Defensiveness: staying curious and confident in conflict
In one of our most listened-to episodes, we tackled defensiveness—and you asked for more. In this deeper dive, we explore how to stay open and grounded when your guard wants to go up. We share real stories from our own relationship, unpack why defensiveness shows up most with the people we love, and offer practical tools for staying regulated, curious, and connected—even in the heat of conflict!
Ep.64 Our story: how it started and almost ended
In this episode, we’re sharing the real, raw story of how we met—and how it nearly all fell apart. From big reactions to small things, to feeling controlled and walking on eggshells, our relationship brought our triggers front and center. We’re talking about what made us give it another shot, how we slowly rebuilt trust, and what the work actually looked like (spoiler: it wasn’t cute or easy). If
Ep. 63 Why people pleasing is so effed up
Ever said yes when you wanted to scream no? Same. In this episode, we dive into the messy world of people pleasing — where it comes from, how it shows up in sneaky ways (even in marriages and friendships), and why trying to keep everyone happy might actually be robbing you of your real self.
We dig into things like:
👉 Why is it so hard to disappoint people?
👉 Can you be fully yourself and a people
Ep.62 How we stopped a fight by understanding our feelings
In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most underrated relationship skills: feeling your feelings before they explode into a fight.
Shiv shares a real-life moment where she caught herself feeling irritated and chose to pause and go to bed — instead of picking a fight with Dave. That one small choice shifted everything.
We talk about:
How to recognize when you’re emotionally charged
The
Ep.61 Single after 30: The good, bad and really ugly
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Why hasn’t love happened for me yet?”—this episode is for you.
Dave flips the script and interviews me about my experience being single until 32. I open up about the internal narratives I wrestled with, the societal pressure I felt, and the fears that made me question if real love was still possible for me.
We talk about:
• The sneaky ways our beliefs blo
Ep.60 Rebuilding after divorce
In this deeply personal episode, Dave opens up about something 50% of people face but rarely feel safe enough to unpack out loud: rebuilding your life after divorce. Dave gets raw and real as he shares what life looked like nearly six years ago, from the state of his mental health to what he wishes he could tell his past self during that painful season.
We explore:
What he regrets (and doesn’t) f
Ep.59 The art of repair
Relationships aren’t defined by how well we avoid conflict—but by how we come back together after it. In this episode, we dive into the art of repair—what it really means to repair after disconnection, conflict, or misunderstanding. We talk about why repair is so essential for trust and intimacy, why so many of us never learned how to do it, and the common mistakes people make when trying to make
Ep.58 How to express your needs without criticizing your partner
In this honest and vulnerable episode, we’re getting real about something that affects every relationship: expressing your needs without slipping into blame or criticism. We even rated each other (yep!)—Shiv gave Dave a score on how well he expresses his needs, and we unpack what makes this so challenging for both of us. Spoiler: the hardest part isn’t always the communication…it’s figuring out wh
Ep.57 Grieving what you never had
In this episode, we talk about a tender kind of grief that often goes unspoken — the grief of a life that didn’t happen. The future you imagined, the timeline you were hoping for, the version of your story that never came to be.
Whether it’s a relationship that ended, a vision for your future that will never come to be, or a season that didn’t unfold the way you thought it would, this kind of loss
Ep.56 Overcoming the pit of despair with author Tanner Orel
In this deeply honest and inspiring episode, we sit down with Tanner Orel—viral content creator and author of the thrilling dragon fantasy series Titan’s Nest.We dive into what it’s like to navigate the pit of despair, live with depression, and how anxiety can quietly become a safety blanket that holds us back. Tanner also opens up about the struggle to celebrate wins and find contentment when you
Ep.55 Is it love...or emotional abuse?
Love isn’t always what it seems. In this episode, we dive into the dark side of love — where emotional abuse, retaliation, and control can be mistaken for passion or commitment.
If you've ever found yourself in a relationship that felt like love on the surface but left you feeling anxious, unseen, or constantly on edge, you're not alone. We're unpacking how love can become distorted… and what real
Ep.54 Real love vs. romance
What’s the difference between real love and just being caught up in the romance? In this episode, we dive into the distinction between deep, lasting love and the sparkly thrill of infatuation or lust. We talk about the experience of falling in love, the challenges of modern relationships, and even touch on the “Peter Pan Syndrome” — when emotional immaturity gets in the way of connection. Tune in
Ep. 53 The blame game
In today’s episode, we’re diving into something that we all do at times — the blame game. We’re breaking down why we’re so quick to blame others, how it can sneakily keep us stuck, and why it's one of the biggest blocks to real growth and connection.
Shiv shares why blaming feels easier in the moment but ultimately holds us back from healing, how to spot when you’re stuck in a blame cycle, and wha
Ep.52 The most important conversation you will ever have
The way you speak to yourself shapes everything—your confidence, your relationships, your choices, your entire life. In this heartfelt episode, Shiv and Dave dive deep into the lifelong conversation we all have with ourselves. They open up about their own inner dialogues, how self-talk has impacted their journeys, and what they've done to shift from self-criticism to self-compassion. If you've eve
Ep.51 Emotional Intelligence
In this episode, Shiv and Dave get real about their journeys with emotional intelligence—aka tuning into the feelings in our bodies (not just thinking our way through life). They share how they've each learned to connect more deeply with their emotions, what it’s looked like in their relationship, and why it's been a total game-changer.
Dave even takes it a step further by nicknaming his tougher e
Ep.50 Our 50th Episode
It’s been a whole year of showing up, learning, growing, and hitting record. In this special anniversary episode, Shiv and Dave share a life update and reflect on everything that’s changed over the past year—personally, professionally, and in their relationship. They also open up about the biggest lessons podcasting has taught them and what they never saw coming. Whether you’ve been here from day
Ep.49 What is emotional connection?
Emotional connection is at the heart of every meaningful relationship. In this episode, Shiv and Dave explore what it truly means, when we feel most connected, and how it shapes their own relationship. Tune in for an honest, insightful, and heartfelt conversation!
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