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Marriage Unmasked

Marriage Unmasked

Adam and Cara Nitz 80 Episodes Oct 13, 2026

Marriage can be really tough, especially when it feels like you are struggling alone. Welcome to the Marriage Unmasked Podcast where certified marriage and life coaches, Adam and Cara Nitz, share real, raw, honest conversation about topics you are dealing with in your marriage. They want to help you take your marriage from painful to peaceful, get deeply connected to your spouse and live fully loved by God and each other. Find your next step with their online marriage course, support groups, coaching and other resources.

Episodes

How Well Do We Know Each Other?
How Well Do We Know Each Other? Oct 13, 2026 1252 How well do we really know each other? In this episode we are switching things up and having a little fun with some questions about each other. No script, no pressure, just some off-the-cuff answers, a few surprises, and a chance for you to get to know us a little better beyond the marriage conversations you usually hear from us.And here’s the fun part: you can play along, too! Grab your spouse, m
Let's Clear Up the Confusion About Masculinity and Femininity
Let's Clear Up the Confusion About Masculinity and Femininity Oct 6, 2026 2190 What exactly does it mean to be "masculine" or "feminine" in your marriage?There are so many conflicting and confusing ideas, even in the church, about what it means to “be a man” or “be a woman.” Some of them create unhealthy competition and unhelpful expectations.  Often, they leave men and women striving, performing, trying to prove themselves, or fit into a particular mold.
Here’s Why He Doesn’t Do What He Says He’s Going To Do
Here’s Why He Doesn’t Do What He Says He’s Going To Do Sep 29, 2026 1647 Why does a husband say he’ll do something, but then not follow through? Over time, that pattern leaves a wife feeling like she has to carry everything, manage everything, and constantly remind her husband to step up. Eventually, disappointment can turn into frustration, criticism, and control.And on the other side, when a husband feels constantly criticized, corrected, or controlled, he may retrea
Are You Taking Care of Your Husband or Are You Raising Him?
Are You Taking Care of Your Husband or Are You Raising Him? Sep 22, 2026 1570 No wife wants to believe she's raising her husband. No man wants to be "raised" managed or controlled. Yet, sometimes a husband goes passive and checks out of responsibility at home, and a wife takes over. Maybe he's afraid to get it "wrong" or maybe, for her, control feels safer than trusting someone else to carry the load. In this unhealthy dynamic neither are exper
How to Become Allies Instead of Enemies
How to Become Allies Instead of Enemies Sep 15, 2026 1779 Is your spouse your enemy? When there’s been years of hurt, disappointment, rejection, criticism, or unmet needs, it’s easy to start seeing your spouse through the lens of your pain. Their words feel threatening. Their reactions confirm the story you’ve been carrying. Soon you’re not just responding to your spouse. You’re responding to everything you believe they’ve done to you.In this episode, we
He's Not the Spiritual Leader, but Should He Be?
He's Not the Spiritual Leader, but Should He Be? Sep 8, 2026 1531 What does it actually look like for a man to be the spiritual leader of his family? Is it about leading family devotions, making sure everyone is in church, praying out loud, or checking all the “right” boxes? And what happens when a wife feels like her husband isn’t leading spiritually or when a husband feels ashamed because he doesn’t measure up to expectations of what spiritual leadership shoul
Is Your Spouse Manipulating You?
Is Your Spouse Manipulating You? Sep 1, 2026 1558 Manipulation in marriage isn’t always obvious. Sometimes it looks like guilt, pressure, withdrawal, emotional intensity, playing the victim, or making your spouse feel responsible for your emotions. So often underneath manipulative behavior, there is fear, insecurity, unmet needs, a desire for control, or simply unhealthy patterns learned long before the relationship began.In this episode, we expl
Is Your Husband the Problem? 4 Questions to Ask to Know for Sure
Is Your Husband the Problem? 4 Questions to Ask to Know for Sure Aug 25, 2026 1620 Ever thought, “My husband is really the problem in this relationship”? Maybe he’s passive, distant, defensive, controlling, or just not showing up the way you need him to. What if the problem on the surface is actually pointing to something deeper? And what if the opposite question is asked,“Is my wife the problem?”  In this episode, we talk through four questions that can help you look beneath th
4 Things Your Wife Is Probably Afraid to Say to You
4 Things Your Wife Is Probably Afraid to Say to You Aug 18, 2026 1505 What if your wife's greatest need right now is just the freedom to finally tell you what’s been weighing on her heart? Could it be that your wife has wanted to say something for years but kept quiet, because she’s not sure how you’ll respond? In this episode, we’re uncovering four important things she may be afraid to say to you. Wives, this episode may help you put words to things you’ve str
How to Reignite the Spark in a Marriage That's Hurting
How to Reignite the Spark in a Marriage That's Hurting Aug 11, 2026 1810 What if you love each other, but you don’t feel it anymore? Does it seem like the attraction has faded, affection feels forced, or the spark that used to be there naturally now seems impossible to find? Yes, you’re still committed to your marriage, but over time, hurt, resentment, disconnection, disappointment, or simply years of life together have changed the way you see each other.In this episod
You Don't Need Another Date Night, You Need This First
You Don't Need Another Date Night, You Need This First Aug 4, 2026 1374 Date night, question cards, couple’s games…they can help your marriage, but they can’t bring true transformation. Deeper, lasting intimacy grows through honest conversations, emotional safety, and the courage to address what’s happening beneath the surface.What helps you get that kind of connection? How do you create space, margin, and safety to have the deeper healing and connection that your mar
Don't Change For Your Spouse
Don't Change For Your Spouse Jul 28, 2026 1272 So many spouses try to change out of fear. They fear conflict, rejection, disappointment, or losing the relationship. Fear might change your behavior for a little while, but it won't truly transform your heart or your marriage. In the end behavior modification will leave you resentful, frustrated and lost.There's a huge difference between changing for your spouse and growing naturally as

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