Men Get Cheated On Too!
Men Get Cheated On Too is a podcast for men who have experienced betrayal and infidelity in their relationships. Hosted by Adam B. Nisenson, a licensed marriage and family therapist, the show offers real talk, expert guidance, and raw truth from someone who has personally lived through the pain of betrayal. It aims to break the silence and help men face the truth, heal, and reclaim their strength.
Episodes
Ep. 53: When Your Partner Was Living a Double Life
Some betrayals don’t just break trust. They break your sense of reality. You’re not only dealing with cheating. You’re dealing with the realization that the relationship you thought you were in wasn’t fully real. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, breaks down what it does to a man when he discovers his partner was living a double life.“This isn’t only heartbreak. It’s disorientat
Ep. 52: The Myth of Just Getting Over It
At some point after betrayal, you hear it. Maybe from others. Maybe from yourself. “Just get over it.” It sounds simple. It sounds like the answer. But it creates more pressure than progress and leaves a lot of men feeling like they’re failing at something they don’t even understand.“You don’t get over betrayal. You work through it.”In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, breaks down
Ep. 51: What If You Still Love Them?
After betrayal, there’s something a lot of men don’t expect to still be there. The love. And that creates a kind of confusion that can feel impossible to sort out. You’re dealing with anger, hurt, and broken trust, but at the same time, you still feel connected. You still care. And now you’re left asking what that means about you and what you’re supposed to do with it.“You can love someone and sti
Ep. 50: This Isn’t Where It Ends
After betrayal, it can feel like everything is over. Not just the relationship, but the life you thought you were building. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, speaks directly to that moment where it feels like your story has been rewritten without your permission.“This is not the end of your story. It’s a chapter you didn’t choose.”Adam breaks down why betrayal feels final and ho
Ep. 49: The Cost of Betrayal to Your Self-Esteem
Betrayal does not just damage trust. It changes how you see yourself. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, breaks down how infidelity cuts into your sense of worth and why so many men quietly start questioning if they were ever enough.“You didn’t become less. You started believing a lie about yourself.”Adam explains how the mind turns someone else’s decision into a personal identit
Ep. 48: When You’re Trying to Protect Your Kids From the Fallout
When kids are involved, betrayal becomes more than your own pain. Now you are trying to hold everything together while also protecting them. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, speaks to the pressure men feel to stay strong, stay steady, and somehow keep their kids unaffected while they are still hurting themselves.“Your kids don’t need you to be perfect. They need you to be prese
Ep. 47: When You’re Angry at Yourself for Missing the Signs
One of the hardest parts of betrayal is not just what they did. It’s what you start saying to yourself after. You replay everything, looking for missed signs, and the question keeps coming back, how did I not see this? In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, addresses the self-directed anger that many men carry after betrayal.“You’re judging your past self with information you didn’t
Ep. 46: How to Stop Living in the Past
After betrayal, your mind keeps pulling you back. The conversations, the signs, the moments that now feel different. It plays on repeat, and no matter how much you think it through, it doesn’t stop. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, breaks down why your mind keeps looping the past and why this does not mean you are stuck or broken.“Reliving the past doesn’t rewrite it. It reinfo
Ep. 45: The Impact of Betrayal on Your Career
Most men don’t realize how deeply betrayal can affect their professional lives. You try to stay focused, show up, and keep producing, but the emotional chaos doesn’t clock out just because you’ve walked into the office. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, speaks to the hidden impact betrayal has on your career, identity, and ability to function in high-pressure environments.Adam b
Ep. 44: When You Can’t Stop Playing Detective
After betrayal, your brain goes into overdrive trying to solve the puzzle. You dig through texts, check emails, replay timelines, and feel like if you can just find one more clue, it’ll all finally make sense. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, speaks directly to the betrayed men who can’t stop searching for the truth and feel trapped by their own need to know more.This isn’t abo
Ep. 43: Formal Disclosure vs. Rolling Disclosure
After partner betrayal, you want the truth, but how that truth is delivered can make or break your healing. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, explains the critical difference between a formal disclosure and a rolling disclosure. He breaks down why the way your partner shares the truth matters as much as the truth itself, and how ongoing trickle truth can retraumatize you over an
Ep. 42: When You Feel Betrayed by More Than Just Your Partner
Partner betrayal can shatter you, but what breaks you even more is when the people you expected to show up, don't. Friends, family, your work. When they minimize what happened, dismiss your pain, or quietly pull away, it adds a second layer of betrayal that hits differently. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, walks you through what happens when betrayal isn't limited to
Ep. 41: When You’re Not Ready to Tell Anyone Yet
There’s a moment after betrayal when the pain is real, but the words won’t come. You’re still trying to process what just happened, and the idea of saying it out loud feels like too much. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, speaks to the man who hasn’t told a soul. Not a friend. Not family. Not even his therapist. The silence is loud, but it feels safer than the avalanche that mig
Ep. 40: You’re Not Alone
Betrayal doesn’t just break your heart, it isolates you. In this powerful episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, speaks directly to the man sitting in silence, pretending everything’s fine, while his world has quietly fallen apart. If you’ve ever felt like no one gets it, like you’re the only man going through this, this episode is for you.Adam breaks the lie that men should suffer quietly o
Ep. 39: What to Do When They Blame You
Nothing cuts deeper than being betrayed and then blamed for it. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, speaks directly to the man who’s being told that the betrayal was somehow his fault. You were distant. You worked too much. You weren’t emotionally available. Now you're not only holding the pain of infidelity, but you’re also carrying guilt that was never yours to begin with.“
Ep. 38: The Lie of Closure
Most men who’ve been betrayed find themselves chasing closure, thinking one last conversation or final answer will help them move on. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, breaks down why closure is one of the most seductive and damaging myths in betrayal recovery, and how it keeps men emotionally tethered to someone who may never give them what they truly need.“Closure is not somet
Ep. 37: Jealousy, Comparison, and the Other Person
When your partner cheats, it’s not just the betrayal that wrecks you. It’s the obsessive spiral about the other guy... who he is, what he had, and why she chose him. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, breaks down one of the most painful and under-discussed parts of partner betrayal: the sickening loop of comparison and jealousy that hijacks your mind and bruises your masculinity.
Ep. 36: The Emotional Rollercoaster: Rage, Numbness, and Back Again
When your partner cheats, it doesn’t show up as one emotion. It’s all of them, rage, grief, confusion, numbness, hitting you in waves, over and over again. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, speaks directly to the emotional chaos betrayed men experience and why this back-and-forth between explosive anger and total shutdown is a normal trauma response, not a character flaw.He brea
Ep. 35: Why Some Men Leave After Betrayal, And Why That’s Okay Too
Leaving after partner betrayal is one of the hardest decisions a man can make, and most people don’t understand the weight of it. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink speaks directly to the men who walked away or are considering it. He breaks down why leaving is not failure, why it isn’t quitting, and why sometimes the strongest choice you can make is the one that protects your peac
Ep. 34: Why Some Men Stay After Betrayal, And Why That’s Okay
A lot of men stay with their partner after partner betrayal, but nobody talks about it without judgment. In this episode, Adam breaks down the truth behind staying, the shame men carry when they do, and why choosing to stay does not make you weak, blind, or without self-respect. Adam explains the difference between staying with intention and tolerating in silence, and helps you understand what a h
Ep. 33: The Role of Counseling in Masculine Betrayal Trauma Recovery
Most men avoid therapy or betrayal coaching after partner betrayal because everything already feels exposed. You are trying to hold it together at work, with friends, with family, and the idea of sitting in a room talking about the pain feels impossible. In this episode, Adam breaks down why support is not weakness for betrayed men. It is how you stop the bleeding.He explains what real therapy and
Ep. 32: How to Talk to Friends and Family About the Betrayal
When a man gets cheated on, people don’t know what to say, and sometimes their reactions do more harm than good. In this episode, Adam help’s you unpack how to handle the awkward, painful, and often isolating experience of telling others about your partner’s betrayal. You’ll hear real-world insights on why it feels so hard to talk about, how to avoid shame-based silence or oversharing, and what to
Ep. 31: When You Can’t Eat, Sleep, or Think Straight
Betrayal trauma doesn’t just mess with your heart, it hits your body like a freight train. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, breaks down what happens when you can’t eat, can’t sleep, and your mind won’t stop spinning. If you've been walking around in a fog, dropping weight, or obsessively replaying what happened, you’re not crazy, you’re dysregulated. This episode explains
Ep. 30: What to Do with All the Rage
After partner betrayal, rage isn’t just anger, it’s grief in disguise. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, talks directly to men about the intensity of post-betrayal rage and what it’s really trying to tell you. You’ll learn why stuffing it down backfires, how shame and pain often sit underneath it, and what to do when the anger feels like it’s controlling you. This episode offers
Ep. 29: The Pressure to Forgive Too Soon
There’s a lot of pressure out there for men to be the “bigger person,” to let it go, to forgive fast, even when the pain is fresh and the betrayal still bleeds. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, speaks directly to men who are being pushed to forgive before they’re ready. This conversation dismantles the myth that forgiveness is a requirement for healing and exposes how premature
Ep. 28: When You Feel Like They Got Away with It
When your partner cheats and walks away with no remorse, no consequences, and no real accountability, it can feel like they got away with a major crime. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, speaks directly to the men stuck in that cycle of anger, injustice, and powerlessness. This isn’t about revenge, it’s about what to do with the weight of feeling discarded, silenced, and unseen.
Ep. 27: Why Betrayal Feels Like Emotional Theft
This episode goes straight to the gut. Adam names what so many betrayed men feel but struggle to say out loud: betrayal doesn’t just break your heart, it robs you. It steals your safety, your trust, your memories, your peace, and your sense of who you are. If you’ve felt like someone kicked in the emotional door of your life and walked away with everything you were building, you’re not crazy. That
Ep. 26: Reclaiming Your Daily Routine After Betrayal
After partner betrayal, everything that once felt normal can fall apart, your sleep, your eating habits, your energy, your sense of time. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, talks directly to men about what it means to reclaim your daily routine after your world has been flipped upside down. This isn’t about productivity or performance, it’s about survival, presence, and rebuildin
Ep. 25: When the Kids Are Caught in the Middle
Betrayal doesn’t just hit you, it hits your kids too. In this powerful episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, speaks directly to fathers trying to protect their children while navigating the chaos of partner betrayal. When you're still trying to survive emotionally, how do you show up as a steady, safe parent?Adam walks you through the emotional toll of co-parenting with someone you don
Ep. 24: Sleeping with the Enemy – When the Betrayer Still Lives With You
What do you do when the person who shattered your trust still shares your space, your kitchen, maybe even your bed? In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, takes you inside the emotional chaos of living with your partner after betrayal.This is not just about awkward conversations or avoiding eye contact, it’s about trying to heal inside the same four walls where your pain was born. Ad
Ep. 23: The Masculine Shame Spiral
After partner betrayal, most men don’t explode, they implode. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, takes you inside the quiet, corrosive cycle of masculine shame that creeps in after infidelity. This is the voice in your head that tells you real men shouldn’t feel this hurt… that you should be past it… that maybe it was your fault.Adam breaks down how shame spirals form, turning pain into self-blame, p
Ep. 22B: Thanksgiving: When Gratitude Feels Out of Reach After Betrayal
Thanksgiving. A time when everyone around you seems to be posting about gratitude, family, and full hearts. But if you've been cheated on, betrayed, or blindsided by the person you trusted most, all this talk about thankfulness can feel like a cruel joke. In this special holiday episode, we speak directly to the man who’s sitting with heartbreak instead of celebration.We unpack why gratitude
Ep. 22: The Trauma of Sexual Betrayal
When your partner has sex with someone else, it’s not just cheating, it’s a full-body trauma. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, dives deep into the devastation of sexual betrayal and why it hits men at the core of their identity, masculinity, and sense of safety.This isn’t just about trust being broken, it’s about your body feeling violated, your sexuality becoming a source of s
Ep. 21: Triggers – When the Smallest Things Wreck You
You’re having a good day, until a song, a smell, a look, or a text sends you spiraling. That’s not weakness. That’s trauma. In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, takes you deep into the experience of betrayal triggers, those sudden, overwhelming reactions that hijack your body and mind.Adam explains why these triggers happen, how they bypass logic, and what’s actually going on in yo
Ep. 20: When the Betrayer Plays the Victim
What happens when the person who cheated on you starts acting like they’re the one who’s been hurt? Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, takes on one of the most infuriating dynamics betrayed men face, when the betrayer flips the script and makes themselves the victim.Adam unpacks how emotional role reversal works: how guilt gets weaponized, how shame becomes a distraction from true accountability,
Ep. 19: The Betrayal Wasn’t Your Fault, But Healing Is Your Job
In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, delivers one of the most vital messages for any man facing partner betrayal: you are not to blame for what happened, but your healing is your responsibility.Adam unpacks the lie many betrayed men carry, that if they had just been “more,” the betrayal wouldn’t have happened. He exposes that lie for what it is: trauma, not truth. With clarity and
Ep. 18: Boundaries Are Not Ultimatums
In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, tackles one of the most misunderstood topics in healing after betrayal, boundaries. If you’ve ever been accused of being controlling or harsh when trying to stand up for yourself, or if you’ve avoided setting limits out of fear of conflict, this episode is for you.Adam breaks down the critical difference between a boundary and an ultimatum, teac
Ep. 17: What If They Don’t Want to Work on It?
You’re ready to fight for the relationship… but what if your partner isn’t? This episode speaks directly to the gut-wrenching experience of being willing to rebuild while your partner stays cold, distant, or indifferent. Adam unpacks the second wave of betrayal that hits when they won’t do the work, and how that pain can feel worse than the affair itself. Learn how to stop chasing effort, release
Ep. 16: Why Gaslighting Hurts So Deeply
Gaslighting is more than lying, it’s emotional abuse that distorts your sense of reality. In this powerful episode, Adam breaks down what gaslighting looks like in betrayal situations and why it’s so damaging. If you’ve ever been made to feel like you’re the crazy one, or questioned your own instincts and memories, this episode will help you name what happened. You’ll learn how to rebuild your con
Ep. 15: When You’re Still Sleeping in the Same Bed
What happens when the person who betrayed you still shares your bed? In this raw and honest episode, Adam tackles the emotional toll of sleeping next to the partner who shattered your trust. From feeling unsafe in your own body to navigating the pressure of pretending everything’s fine, this episode gives language to one of the most disorienting experiences post-betrayal. You’ll learn why space is
Ep. 14: The Power of Brotherhood in Healing
Men heal better in the presence of other men. In this episode, Adam shares why brotherhood, true, vulnerable connection with other men, is one of the most powerful antidotes to betrayal trauma. This is not about locker-room talk or superficial friendships. It’s about being seen, understood, and supported in your pain. Adam breaks down how isolation delays healing, how being witnessed shifts your n
Ep. 13: How to Stop Obsessing Over the Other Person
What do you do when your mind won’t stop spinning about them, the person your partner cheated with? In this episode, Adam dives into the torment of obsessive thoughts about “the other person.” Whether you’re comparing yourself, fantasizing about revenge, or trying to understand why it happened, these mental loops only deepen the wound. This episode will help you take back control of your focus, sh
Ep. 12: You’re Not Weak for Wanting Your Partner Back
What if you still want your partner back after they betrayed you? Does that make you weak, or just human? In this episode, Adam takes on one of the hardest and most shame-filled truths men carry after infidelity: the desire to stay.He unpacks the emotional chaos that follows betrayal, the trauma bond, the fear of being alone, the ambivalence, the craving for what once was. With clarity and compass
Ep. 11: How Betrayal Impacts Your Self-Worth
When your partner cheats, it doesn’t just break your heart, it breaks the mirror you see yourself through. In this raw and powerful episode, Adam dives deep into the identity collapse and loss of self-worth that men experience after betrayal. You might find yourself asking, Was I not enough? or Was I just disposable?, but these questions are born from trauma, not truth.Adam walks you through how b
Ep. 10: What Betrayal Feels Like in a Man’s Body
This episode gets personal and physical, literally. Partner betrayal doesn’t just mess with your mind, it lodges in your nervous system. Adam breaks down how trauma shows up in your body: sleeplessness, chest tightness, gut issues, rage, numbness, and more. If you’ve felt like your body is in chaos or shutting down, this episode will help you understand why. Learn how to reconnect with your body,
Ep. 9: What is Masculine Betrayal Trauma?
Most men don’t even know what they’re experiencing has a name. In this episode, Adam introduces the concept of Masculine Betrayal Trauma (MBT), a unique form of trauma that affects men deeply when they are betrayed by their partner. Learn how MBT differs from other forms of trauma, why it gets misdiagnosed, and how it can impact everything from your identity and emotions to your work performance a
Ep. 8: The First 90 Days After Partner Betrayal
The first three months after discovering infidelity can feel like hell. This episode is your survival guide for the chaos, confusion, and emotional freefall that follow betrayal. Adam outlines what to expect, panic, flashbacks, intrusive thoughts, and what not to do in those early days. From setting boundaries and finding real support to avoiding toxic forums and knee-jerk decisions, this episode
Ep. 7: Masculinity, Betrayal, and the Male Identity Crisis
When your partner cheats, it doesn’t just feel like rejection, it feels like a failure of manhood. This episode takes you deep into the identity collapse many men experience after partner betrayal. Adam unpacks how traditional definitions of masculinity, protector, provider, leader, get shaken to the core, leaving many men questioning who they are. But within that collapse is an opportunity: to re
Ep. 6: Why Men Don’t Talk About Being Cheated On
Men get cheated on too, but most don’t talk about it. In this episode, Adam explores the deep-rooted cultural silence around male emotional pain and how that silence leads to shame, isolation, and unresolved trauma. From childhood conditioning to societal expectations of masculinity, this episode examines the real reasons men stay quiet, and the real cost of that silence. Adam invites you to break
Ep. 5: Stop Pretending You're Fine
You say you’re fine. But you’re barely sleeping. Barely eating. Barely holding it together. This episode is for the man performing strength on the outside while falling apart inside. Adam Nisenson, LMFT and The Betrayal Shrink, calls out the silent suffering that so many betrayed men live with, and gives you full permission to drop the mask.“Pretending you’re fine might protect your ego, but it do
Ep.4: The Male Ego and Betrayal
When partner betrayal hits, it doesn’t just break your heart, it crushes your ego. This episode explores how infidelity shatters a man’s self-image, confidence, and sense of identity. Adam challenges outdated beliefs around strength, masculinity, and asking for help, and shows you how ego defenses like numbing, overcompensating, or trying to "win your partner back" can keep you stuck. Le
Ep.3: You’re Not Crazy, You’re Traumatized
Think you’re losing your mind after betrayal? You’re not. You’re dealing with trauma. In this episode, Adam breaks down how betrayal trauma hijacks your nervous system, distorts your thoughts, and overwhelms your emotions. From PTSD symptoms to racing thoughts, numbness, and hyper-vigilance, this episode gives you language for what you’re experiencing and reminds you that your pain is valid. You’r
Ep.2: The Moment You Found Out
You never forget the moment you discover your partner’s betrayal. It’s called D-Day for a reason, because it feels like everything explodes. In this powerful episode, Adam walks you through what happens in the first few hours and days after partner betrayal. From shock and trauma responses to the overwhelming urge to get answers, he provides guidance on how to survive the emotional earthquake with
Ep.1: Why We Need to Talk About Male Betrayal Trauma
Welcome to our first episode, where Adam Nisenson, LMFT, CSAT, The Betrayal Shrink, opens the door to an often-ignored conversation, what it’s like to be a man who’s been cheated on. With raw honesty and clinical insight, Adam shares his personal story of betrayal and explains why partner infidelity hits men differently. This episode dismantles the myth that men don’t feel deeply or don’t suffer f
