Tapping Q & A - Getting the most out of tapping and EFT
EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Tapping is a powerful tool for reducing pain, physical trauma, and eliminating limiting beliefs. Each week tapping expert, Gene Monterastelli, and his amazing guests answer the most common (and uncommon) questions on how to get the most out of EFT. If you want to maximize your success with tapping, this is an indispensable resource. The host works one-on-one with small business owners and entrepreneurs to help them eliminate self-sabotage.
Episodes
Why I tap in is such an "odd" way (Pod #729)
One of my favorite parts about tapping is how flexible it is. It is flexible in terms of the issues you tap on, how long you tap, how deep you go, and what you say. What most people don't realize is that it is also flexible when it comes to how you tap on the points, which points you tap on, and in what order you tap on them. This week on the podcast, I share lots of different ways you can tap and
The 4-steps to find hidden resistance and limiting beliefs (Pod #728)
Tapping for limiting beliefs and resistance is a very straightforward process. All you need to do is name the limiting belief, why the limiting belief thinks it is being helpful, and then share the truth about what is really happening. When you combine this with tapping it rewrites your subconscious. The problem is not clearing the limiting belief. Instead the problem is knowing what the limiting
3 words that make clearing limiting beliefs easier (Pod #727)
One of the most frustrating moments in tapping is when you know a belief is holding you back, you tap on it again and again, and it simply won't budge. That's because your subconscious mind doesn't see a limiting belief as limiting. It sees it as the truth about the world and the very thing that keeps you safe. Some of those beliefs are genuinely useful. My belief that tigers are not kind and cudd
Tap for any issue with these 4 steps (Pod #726)
Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube Just because we know the power of tapping doesn't mean we know exactly the best way to tap. Today I'm going to share the simple four-part formula I use for almost every single tapping script I write for my clients, for the videos I make, and w
Tapping for anxiety without having to get into the details (Pod #725)
Over the last week I have heard from a number of clients who have reported feeling a general sense of anxiety and grief around the 25th anniversary of the terrorist attacks of September 11th in New York City and Washington, DC. Feeling bad about painful anniversaries and global events is not unusual. A common concern when tapping for this sort of anxiety is that working with the details will only
A new way to tap with affirmations (Pod #724)
One of the most frequent questions that I receive in the Tapping Q&A inbox is about whether we should be tapping on positive or negative phrases. People are often concerned that if you tap on a negative phrase, you will tap a negative belief into your subconscious mind. The good news is that you can't tap negative thoughts in. Even so, it can feel heavy and even discouraging to be tapping constant
A new level of self-forgiveness with tapping (pod #723)
When we are tapping to clear limiting beliefs, we often encounter the moment in time we picked up a particular belief. As a practitioner, I especially love this type of work because it means we get the chance to heal the inner child. For my money, this is some of the most profound and meaningful work we can do when tapping. I am currently in the midst of doing the interviews for the 2026 version o
Tapping for Limiting Beliefs – A 5-Step Process That Works in Under 3 Minutes (Pod #722)
Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube Limiting beliefs are one of the most common obstacles I hear about from people in the tapping community, and they are also one of the things tapping is best equipped to address. In nearly two decades of working with clients and students, tappi
My complicated relationship with the EFT Set-Up Phrase has been resolved (Pod #721)
I have been tapping for close to 20 years. From the very beginning I have struggled with the set-up phrase from Gary Craig's EFT basic recipe. Gary engorged us to start every round of tapping my tapping on the side of our hands, saying "Even though I have this issue I deeply and completely accept myself". As EFT spread the phrase evolved into "Even though I have this issue I deeply and completely
Tapping for better sleep (Pod #720)
One of the most common questions I get is whether you can use tapping for sleep. The short answer is yes. But there is an important caveat that changes everything about how you approach it. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube TL;DR / Key Takeaways Poor sleep is a symptom, not a
Tapping for focus – How I tap all day long (Pod #719)
Tapping is a powerful tool for grounding ourselves and to help us to refocus. The problem is, that grounding and focus only lasts so long. Before I start on something challenging, a few minutes of wordless tapping ensures I bring my best to the task. But if the task is difficult or it isn't going as planned, frustration makes itself known. Usually it starts as a slow simmer in the background that
Tapping When You Feel Off But Don't Know Why: A 4 Step Process (Pod #718)
Some days you just feel off. Not sad about anything specific, not anxious about anything specific, just heavy, distracted, or grumpy for no reason you can name. If you have ever wondered whether tapping when you feel off actually works when you cannot pinpoint a cause, the answer is yes, and there is a specific order that makes it work well. TL;DR / Key Takeaways Tapping when you feel off does not
How to tap when you are too exhausted to focus on tapping (Pod #717)
When I sit down to tap, the first question I ask myself is "What is the goal of this round of tapping?" This serves as a powerful framing device by bringing focus to the tapping session and how to approach our issue. The essentials of tapping remain the same, but there is a big difference between tapping for a limiting belief, physical pain, or feeling overwhelmed in the moment. This is a great ap
How to tap when you don't know where to start (Pod #716)
One of the great things about tapping is that it can be used for a wide range of physical, emotional, and even spiritual issues. But that breadth brings with it the struggle of knowing where to start when there are so many things that you could tap on. Recently, I received this email from one of my readers: I've been tapping on and off for years. Recently, when tapping, I am quickly lost in a qua
I know tapping works..so why don't I do it?! (Pod #715)
There is nothing more frustrating than knowing exactly what to do and still not doing it. When this happens, your critical voice kicks in, shaming you for being lazy and undeserving of transformation because of your lack of action. The hardest part of this type of failure is knowing what is possible but failing to take action. And it isn't down to external forces preventing you…it is all happening
Tapping to release the identities other people gave you (Pod #714)
Our subconscious mind confuses the difference between how we were treated and who we are. When someone left us off an invitation, we did not just file away the fact that we were not invited. We wrote a story about what it meant. They don't like me. I'm not interesting enough. I'm stupid. Over time the circumstance fades, but the story stays. It stops being a conclusion and starts feeling like a pl
When Your Problem Feels Too Big to Tap On: A 5-Step Approach (Pod #713)
A client came to me recently and said something I hear more often than you might expect: "Gene, I've been trying to tap on my own, but this problem just feels too big. I don't know where to start." My answer surprised her. I told her she was right. The problem actually was too big to tap on. But that wasn't a verdict on whether tapping could help. It was a diagnosis of the approach she was using.
Should I be working with a tapping practitioner? (Pod #712)
I love that tapping can be done independently of other people. You can use self-guided tapping, a tapping resource, like tap-along videos, or tapping scripts. Since tapping is something you can do on your own, it is logical to ask "If I can tap on my own, why would I work with a practitioner?" This is a more complicated question that it might seem at first glance. This is a question about skill,
How to Use Tapping for Fear and Anxiety – The 4-Question Process (Pod #711)
Tapping for fear and anxiety was my own entry point into EFT almost 20 years ago, when I was struggling with social anxiety. In this post I want to walk you through exactly how I use tapping to right-size fear and anxiety so they stop running the show. The method is simple, it works in the moment, and you can use it the next time worry shows up. TL;DR / Key Takeaways Tapping for fear and anxiety
Tapping for emotional backsliding (Pod #710)
One of the most difficult times to tap is when you have had a major emotional backslide. You are tapping daily and feeling the breakthroughs during your sessions. You can see positive change happening in your daily life. AND then, out of nowhere, you have a crappy day. The progress you have made seems to evaporate overnight and even the smallest things are driving you crazy. Part of you wants to t
How Long Does Tapping Take to Work? An Honest Answer (Pod #709)
How long does tapping take to work? It's one of the most common questions I get, and the answer is the most unsatisfying one in coaching: it depends. In this post I'll show you why that's actually the most useful answer I can give you, and how to use it. TL;DR: How Long Tapping Takes to Work How long tapping takes to work depends on the issue you're tapping on and how you define success. A 90-sec
Looking for "The lesson the university is trying to teach me" is keeping you stuck (Pod #708)
Recently, I was working with a client who said, "I just wish I understood what the university is trying to teach me." This is a sentiment I often hear from my clients. Learning from our past mistakes is good and valuable. When we are able to see what went wrong and why it went wrong, we can act in new ways in the future. Sometimes it feels even bigger than that. It isn't just learning from a past
Why Do I Yawn After Tapping? The Nervous System Science Behind It (Pod #707)
Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube If you have ever finished a round of EFT tapping and found yourself yawning uncontrollably, you are not imagining things. In 18 years of working with clients, this question lands in my inbox almost every single month. It is actually one of the top search terms that brings new readers to TappingQ
Three ways to tap for stubborn issues (Pod #706)
It is hard to sit down to tap when you have been battling a stubborn issue for a long time. Without seeing progress, maintaining momentum and motivation is challenging. You may struggle to know what to tap on because it seems as if you are working on the same aspects over and over again. At a certain point, it feels like you are tapping on autopilot and your motivation flags. In my experience, the
What to Do When You Don't Think Tapping Will Work for You (Pod #705)
If you have ever sat down to tap and thought, "this isn't going to work for me," you are not alone. That single thought stops more people from healing than any technique ever could. Knowing what to do when you don't think tapping will work is the first step toward getting unstuck. TL;DR: Key Takeaways The thought "tapping won't work for me" is almost never about tapping. It is a protective story
The one step tapping process (Pod #704)
One of the topics that I have been coming back to again again this year is trying to find ways to make it easier for you to start a round of tapping because once you start it is much easier to stick with it. This week in the podcast I share with you one of my favorite and simplest tapping techniques which is a "one step tapping process". When I am teaching people how to tap this is what I teach th
Why do I feel worse after a round of tapping (Pod #703)
If you have ever finished a round of tapping and felt more upset than when you started, you are not doing it wrong. In fact, when you feel worse after tapping, it usually means something productive is happening underneath the surface. This is one of the most common questions I get from listeners, and the answer changes how you interpret every round of tapping you will ever do. Key Takeaways Feeli
How you talk about emotions is getting in the way of healing (Pod #702)
We emotionally respond to the world based on the way we describe it. What this means is that your subconscious mind is taking cues about what is going on, not based on what you are thinking, but based on what you are saying. The most common version of this is a generalization. You might say something like "Everyone at work hates me." This probably isn't true, but you are going to walk into your wo
Why I Don't Use The EFT Tapping Set-Up Phrase (Pod #701)
Why I Don't Use the EFT Setup Phrase (And What I Do Instead) If you've watched any of my tap-along videos, you've probably noticed something: I never start with the classic EFT setup phrase. That's a deliberate choice, and I get asked about it all the time. In this post, I want to explain exactly why I skip it and what I use instead. TL;DR / Key Takeaways The traditional EFT setup phrase ("Even t
Tapping for regretting not tapping enough (Pod #700)
It can feel so discouraging when you have great tools at your disposal, like tapping, that you know will have a positive impact on your life…but you are not using them. This leads to self-recrimination AND hesitancy to use the tools in future for fear of failure, which means double the regret. Every six or eight weeks, I set time aside to tap on all the emotions I feel for not tapping as much as I
How Long Should You Tap on an Issue? When to Stop Tapping and Move On (Pod #699)
If you have been tapping for any length of time, you have probably asked yourself: when am I actually done? You get some relief, the intensity drops, but the issue is not completely gone. Knowing when to stop tapping on an issue is one of the most common questions I hear, and the answer is simpler than most people think. TL;DR: Key Takeaways Knowing when to stop tapping is not about reaching a SU
The way you are thinking about fear is all wrong (Pod #698)
Fear is our most basic emotion. Simply put, fear is our internal guidance pointing out what might harm us so that we can stay safe. We commonly think of it in terms of fight, flight, or freeze. All three of these responses are designed to shield us from danger. We fight to defend ourselves, we run away (flight) to avoid it, and we freeze so that the threat can't see us. When tapping for fear, we u
What to Do When Tapping Is Not Working: A 6-Step Process to Get Unstuck (Pod #697)
Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube You sat down to tap and nothing changed. If tapping is not working for you right now, I want you to know two things: this is normal, and there is a specific process you can follow to break through. In my 18+ years as an tapping practitioner, I have walked hundreds of clients through exactly thi
What to do when both choices are bad (Pod #696)
One of the reasons we resist taking action is that some actions simply can't be taken back. Our subconscious mind keeps us stuck because it's trying to figure out the perfect thing to do, but because the future is unknown, it's impossible to be certain. This leads us from thinking about the best choice, to stalling on making a choice, to things getting worse because we aren't doing anything at all
Why do I feel sad after tapping (Pod #695)
Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio If you have ever finished a round of EFT tapping and felt a wave of sadness wash over you, you are not alone. Feeling sad after tapping is one of the most common experiences people report, and it is also one of the most misunderstood. That sadness is not a sign that tapping failed or that something went w
Remembering to tap when you need it the most (Pod #694)
The perfect time to tap is in the moment, when you are overwhelmed with emotions…and it is also the hardest time to remember to tap. That's mainly because remembering to tap in the midst of strong emotions is difficult, but it is not the only reason. The second, powerful reason why you don't tap in the moment has everything to do with how you were taught to tap. When most of us learned to tap, we
How to tap when you feel like crap (Pod #693)
One of the conundrums of tapping is the fact that you tap because you want to feel better, but you aren't as good at tapping when you feel bad because you are in a lower resource state. To put it another way, when you need tapping the most, you are the least effective version of yourself as a tapper. But just because you aren't at the peak of your tapping abilities does not mean you are destined t
Why I tap to encourage unhealthy behaviors (Pod #692)
It is all too common for tappers to look back at their path to healing and think, "What on earth was I doing? I know better than that! Why do I keep making bad choices when I know exactly what to do?" This comes up most often in my individual coaching sessions when my clients talk about reaching for distracting behaviors instead of tapping. They know at the moment that the best choice would be to
Why you should celebrate with tapping (Pod #691)
If you are tapping, it almost always means you are focusing on something negative, like challenging emotions, physical pain, difficult times from your past, or limiting beliefs. This makes a lot of sense because tapping is a powerful tool for bringing about change and transformation. But just because tapping is great at responding to life's difficulties does not mean it's the only way to tap. Tapp
The key to tapping success is more than the right words (Pod #690)
When most of us first learned tapping we were taught to be "as specific as possible" when coming up with tapping phrases. This is sound advice, which is backed up by scientific research. But your success with tapping relies on more than just the words you say and what you focus on when you are tapping. How you feel in the moment has just as much impact on your tapping success. And when I say "how
When your expectations sabotage your tapping progress (Pod #689)
One of the most powerful tools in the healing and transformational tool box is having clear goals. This is true in big picture ways, such as what I would like to achieve this year, and small picture ways, such as what I would like to get out of this next round of tapping. I believe in this idea so deeply that in my Tapping Mastery Blueprint I teach the first thing you should do before starting to
Tapping to not feel your emotions – and why that can be a good thing (Pod #688)
One of the concepts I talk about daily with my clients and students is that the goal of tapping is a proportionate well informed emotional response. In most cases this is a process of giving the emotions space to be heard and understood. Once we know where the emotional response is coming from it creates the space for use to heal, transform, and create a proportionate well informed emotional respo
Why you resist taking healthy action AND how to tap to clear your resistance (Pod #687)
One of the most frustrating experiences around personal healing and transformation is when we know what we need to do, how to do it, have everything we need to take action (including time and energy), really want to take the action...and then we don't. When this happens, we feel we have failed and let ourselves down, and might even decide we are unworthy of healing and transformation because we ha
When other people's tapping success hurts your healing (Pod #686)
Seeing others succeed can be a powerful source of inspiration. Once we know something is possible for others, then it also becomes possible for us. Take the sub-four-minute mile for example. At one point, it was thought impossible for a human to run a mile in less than four minutes and that pushing so hard would cause the runner's heart to explode. On May 6th, 1954 Roger Bannister was the first pe
Why your subconscious mind fights gratitude tapping (Pod #685)
One of the most common teachings in healing and personal transformation is the value and importance of gratitude. So much so that the idea of establishing a "gratitude practice" for yourself feels commonplace. The power of experiencing thankfulness and gratitude is unquestionably powerful. It can impact the way we feel in the moment and it can transform the way we act. The problem is that most peo
The one question you MUST ask before you start a round of tapping (Pod #684)
One of the most common reasons people do not tap more is because they don't know where to start. Feeling uncertain produces a subconscious hesitancy because our subconscious is worried that we will waste time and energy going in the wrong direction. This isn't a conscious thought, but a background resistance that creates two problems. First, we don't tap as often as we would like. Second, we then
Create a fresh start in the new year without toothless New Year's Resolutions (Pod #683)
The start of a new year feels like the perfect time to reset and refocus. This often takes the form of New Year's resolutions. There is a great power in making a clear statement about what you want and why you want it. The problem is (and I'm sure you have experienced this yourself), simply making a resolution does not guarantee success. That's why the first Friday of January is often referred to
Tapping to start a new year (Pod #682)
Join us for the 5 Day Limiting Belief Challenge: http://ClearLimitingBeliefsChallenge.com On January 1st, I went live on YouTube with some tapping to start the new year off on the best foot possible. We tapped for: releasing what no longer serves us being open to grace and opportunity in the new year staying grounded in the moment, without being in a rush opening ourselves up to inspiration and g
Cozy Tapping (Pod #681)
In what has become a holiday tradition at Tapping Q&A, each year during the holiday season I put together a cozy tapping video. There are no words and you don't need to focus on an issue. Instead, just sit back, watch the roaring fire, and tap along. We did this last year and I was surprised at how well it was received. I knew a few people would like it, but I had no clue how popular it would be.
Tapping for the fear of missing out (FOMO) (Pod #680)
The "fear of missing out" (FOMO) isn't just some clever internet meme. FOMO is a real issue and it impacts most of us. Because of the internet and social media, we are constantly aware of what is going on everywhere. This creates a number of problems. First, it creates a sense of compare-anoia where we are judging ourselves against everyone else. Then, after we feel bad for not having what others
Tapping for holiday stress (Pod #679)
Whenever I hear the Andy Williams song "It's the most wonderful time of the year," I am immediately transported to my childhood, driving around town at night in the snow looking at all of the holiday lights. But the reality is, even in the best of times, the holidays can be overly busy and demanding. For many, it is actually a time of stress, overwhelm, and grief. In the last week alone, I tapped
Seasons of transformation and healing (Pod #678)
I often joke with my clients and students that a part of all of us would like total, instant and eternal transformation every time we sit down to tap. It is good that we have high standards and want only the best. BUT, as we know, it doesn't always happen that way. A part of us also understands that healing is a process and sometimes it is healthiest and best for us when it unfolds slowly in order
How to tap when you aren't moving forward (Pod #677)
As humans, one of the things we are very good at is naming everything that is wrong with our lives. On one level, this is a useful tool because it allows us to identify what we would like to change. The problem is that just because we know what we don't want, does not give us clarity about what we do want. Or, if we have clarity, it doesn't mean we know how to create it. Whenever we experience a l
How to tap when you can't put your finger on the exact emotions you are feeling (Pod #676)
One of the biggest obstacles to tapping is knowing where to start. This is especially true when we know we are feeling something, but we can't quite put our finger on what that is. We might feel heavy or unsettled, or there is just something there at the edge of our consciousness. When this happens it can be hard to tap. We might start tapping and then peter out because it is hard to focus on some
The scariest round of tapping ever (Pod #675)
One of the hardest phrases to say outloud is "I love and accept myself". The reason this phrase is so hard to say outloud is because we know ourselves. We know our failings. We know our mistakes. We know where we have fallen short. To say "I love and accept myself" feels like I am also accepting all of those failing and imperfections. Recently I was talking to my friend Brad Yates and we were talk
The Myth of the One Big Tapping Breakthrough (Pod #674)
One of the healthiest changes that has happened in the tapping world over the last decade is that we spend less time talking about the one-minute or one-session miracles. This sort of instant transformation does happen and it happens regularly. It just doesn't happen all the time! The reason I am happy that we no longer talk in those terms is because it creates unrealistic expectations for tapping
Tapping for the Fear of Feeling Too Much (Pod #673)
As a tool, tapping is such a powerful way to tune in to our emotions. Feeling, processing, and moving through emotions is a key part of the healing and transformational experience. At the same time, there is a certain capacity to our emotional experience. Feeling deeply is a powerful part of transformation until it becomes too much. I have often heard my clients describing this experience like try
How to Tap When You Don't Know What to Say (Pod #672)
You know you'd benefit from some tapping, so you sit down ready to get into it. You want it to work…but as soon as you start, your mind goes blank. You freeze because you can't think of the right words to use. After a few minutes, you give up, thinking you must be doing it wrong. This happens to everyone, even experienced tappers, and I want to reassure you that it does not mean you are bad at tap
The Shame of Starting Over (Again) (Pod #671)
brutal truth nobody talks about in the self-help world: The healing and transformational work never ends. Every breakthrough just reveals a fresh layer of issues to be worked through. It would be wonderful if one day I was done, but I am open to the fact that it's an ongoing process. For me, the single toughest place in the transformational and healing process is when I feel like I am starting ove
Healing Starts With Remembering Who You Are w/ Sarah Tobin (Pod #670)
When you have been through something hard, such as grief, trauma, or a season of disconnection in your life, it is easy to forget what wholeness feels like. You lose touch with the part of you that still knows peace, still feels love, and still remembers who you were before the story changed. In this episode, I talk with Sarah Tobin about what it means to remember yourself. Not in a vague or inspi
How to tap when you are too numb to feel anything (Pod #669)
When you were first taught how to tap, more than likely you were asked to tune in to your issue in some form or fashion. You might have been asked to describe where you feel it in your body, what it reminds you of, or to rate its intensity on a 0–10 scale. These are all great ways for us to focus our attention, which improves the value of each round of tapping. While these ways work well, they all
When You're Afraid Tapping Might Work (Pod #668)
I know this sounds strange, but you're not afraid tapping won't work. You're actually afraid it might. In this episode, I dig into a truth that has come up repeatedly in my conversations with clients and students. Even when we know how powerful tapping can be, something inside stops us from doing it as often as we could. That something, I've come to realize, is fear of change itself. It's not that
Tapping for Animals (Pod #667)
One of the most common questions I receive is "Can we use tapping to help the animals we love?" The answer is a resounding YES! But in order for tapping to work well, we first need to know the most useful approach. Tapping for our animals isn't just a matter of looking at our animals and tapping. While that can be useful, there are better ways to get results. This week in the podcast, I am going t
What I wish I had known sooner (Pod #666)
One of my favorite questions when interviewing someone about their tapping journey is, "If you could share one piece of advice with your younger self, what would that advice be?" For some reason I was reflecting on that question recently, not for someone I was interviewing, but for myself. The piece of advice that I would give to Gene-the-beginner-tapper would be to go more slowly. This week in th
Excuses v. Explanations (Pod #665)
Finding a balance between taking responsibility for our lives and taking too much responsibility for what is going on is a tricky matter. Taking too much responsibility may seem like a silly notion, but it can happen in many ways. One of these ways is when we refuse to allow ourselves grace or forgiveness. We recognize that we have made a mistake and then, whether consciously or unconsciously, we
Does staying stuck keep you safe? (Pod #664)
One of the ideas that really makes my clients bristle is the possibility that their self-sabotaging behaviors are guided by their system's well-meaning intention to keep them safe. They question, "How is it possible that my subconscious mind thinks it is trying to keep me safe when all it is doing is making my life harder?" That is a great question because it feels counterintuitive that our desire
The secret to tapping more and healing faster (Pod #663)
For some issues, tracking progress is simple. I can tell if my desk is less cluttered, if I can lift more weight while working out, or if I am making more sales in my business. That is because these examples are measured in hard metrics, or in other words, cold, hard numbers. Changes that are measured in soft metrics are more difficult to track. For example, it is much harder to quantify growth in
Tapping to clear your resistance to change (Pod #662)
One of our biggest struggles in creating transformation and change in our lives is those moments where we know WHAT to do, we know HOW to do it, and we know WHY it is valuable to take an action…and yet we just don't. It is obvious what the next step is and for some reason we don't take it. Then, as a bonus, we beat ourselves up for not taking action. So as well as not moving forward, we feel bad f
Tapping to safely acknowledge my gifts (Pod #661)
One of Marianne Williamson's most cited quotes starts "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." It is quoted so often because of how deeply it resonates, speaking directly to the contradiction that is part of our lived human experience. On one hand we want to live an authentic and rich life…on the other hand, our subconscious mind ju
Tapping for the fear of letting yourself down (Pod #660)
Letting ourselves down is one of the deepest betrayals that we humans can experience. It feels like such a harsh gut punch when it is something we know we should have been able to do. After we let ourselves down in such a powerful way, our subconscious will do everything in its power, through resistance to take action so as to keep us safe. It reasons that since it was so painful to let ourselves
Should you improve or change? Finding the right path (Pod #659)
The words change and improve are very close in meaning. While both are associated with transformation, they do not mean exactly the same thing. Improvement is about keeping something but doing it in a better way; change is about doing something in a new way. In the transformational arena we long for change, but in doing this we sometimes diminish the value of improvement. This week in the podcast,
Tapping for issues that never go away (Pod #658)
Not all stress is created equal. There are those hyper stressful times, like driving on icy roads in a snowstorm at rush hour. It is super intense in the moment and then when it ends, it is over! Then there is the low-grade stress of something that is taking a long time and is hanging over your head. The example I think of from my own life is doing my business taxes. I'm not especially good at doi
Turning intellectual pushback into tapping progress (Pod #657)
One of the most consistent struggles my clients have is coming up with the "right" words. The problem is there is no such thing as the right words when it comes to tapping. Instead there are useful words and unuseful words. I am consistently surprised at some of the types of words that end up being useful. One such type of surprising words is when we are tapping on phrases that we intellectually k
Transforming and healing grief with tapping (Pod #656)
Grief is unlike all other emotions when it comes to tapping. Every other negative emotion is something we can step out of. I can stop feeling angry, frustrated, or overwhelmed. Grief on the other hand is something that we are going to feel forever. Twenty years after a loved one has died we are still going to feel pangs of grief. Instead of leaving grief, we have an evolving relationship to it and
Respond, don't react! Tapping for recognizing and managing stress quickly (Pod #655)
We often refer to tapping for stress and feeling overwhelmed as emotional first aid. That is because we are applying a tool for quick relief in the moment in the same way we would use first aid for a physical injury. But there is one key difference between first aid and emotional first aid. When we are physically injured, our first thought is "I need to take care of this right now!" When we need e
Tapping for tasks you despise (Pod #654)
A number of years ago I was visiting my friend "Mike" and his family. Mike asked his youngest son, who was about five at the time, to tidy his room before dinner. His son replied, in the most overwrought and dramatic voice possible, "But whyyyyyyyyyyyy? I am just going to make it messy again!" I can relate! There are SO MANY tasks on my to-do list that I dislike doing and there are even some that
Tapping for exhaustion and feeling emotionally drained (Pod #653)
There is a huge difference between bouncing back from being tired and being exhausted. When we are tired, we simply need to refill our tank. When we are exhausted, we first have to recover from being exhausted before we can even consider refilling our tank. In this week's podcast, I share seven simple ways you can help yourself when you are feeling exhausted or emotionally drained. And the great t
Release feeling selfish for not picking up other people's emotional burdens (Pod #652)
One of the hardest parts of being a caring person is witnessing others in pain. When we see someone struggling, it feels natural to want to step in and help. With that being said, there is a fine line between being helpful and taking responsibility for someone else's suffering. This becomes doubly hard where emotional burdens are concerned. While we might be able to assist with practical struggles
Permission to feel: Embracing emotions without judgment (Pod #651)
There is this moment in every tapper's life when we move from "This tapping thing is amazing" to "Oh my goodness there are soooooo many issues for me to tap on. Every time I clear one issue I find four more!" It's easy to feel frustrated and demotivated when this happens. You might even stop tapping altogether because it feels like the tapping is creating more problems than it is solving (when we
Drowning in issues? Afraid of big emotions? Try this simple approach (Pod #650)
Over the years, so many of my clients and students have told me that two of the biggest obstacles preventing them from sitting down to tap are having too many issues so that they don't know where to start, and the fear that their emotions will be too big to handle when tapping. It makes total sense that these obstacles make it hard for us to tap because they are both rooted in our subconscious min
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