Regulate & Rewire: An Anxiety & Depression Podcast
Regulate & Rewire is a podcast that helps listeners manage anxiety and depression through nervous system regulation and mindset rewiring. Host Amanda Armstrong, a trauma-informed practitioner, shares research-based tools and personal healing insights. Each episode offers practical takeaways for applying these techniques to daily life.
Episodes
My Family Song: The Nervous System Lessons I'm Teaching My Kids (and Still Learning Myself)
In today's episode, Amanda shares something she's never shared publicly before — a little bedtime song she wrote for her kids that's become a nightly staple. What started as a spontaneous attempt to teach her children the things she wished she'd known earlier has turned into a fun family song teaching the fundamentals of mental and physical health. Amanda share the song with yo
Morning Sunlight & Your Mental Health
Morning sunlight might be the most underutilized free regulation tool available to us — and in this episode, Amanda breaks down exactly why getting outside within the first hour of waking is one of the highest-return things you can do for your nervous system. From circadian rhythm and cortisol to serotonin, sleep quality, and mood regulation, the science is clear — and the practice is simpler than
When Life Gets in the Way of Healing
In this episode, Amanda gets candid about what regulated living actually looks like when life gets hard — including the sleep deprivation, the skipped workouts, and the very human experience of teaching what you're currently struggling to practice. She walks through the two things that keep her grounded in chaotic seasons: flexibility and context. She also shares her five domains of healing a
A Guided Wind-Down Practice for Sleep
Today’s episode is a guided practice designed to help your nervous system settle and prepare for quality sleep. We’ll start by moving through a short discharging sequence to process any lingering stress from the day, then move into some gentle breathwork.This first part of the practice can be done standing beside your bed, sitting on the edge of it, or already lying down — whatever feels right for
Sleep Anxiety: What To Actually Do About It (Part 2)
In Part 2 of this sleep anxiety series, Amanda gets practical. She breaks down exactly what to do when you can't fall asleep, what to do when you wake up in the middle of the night, and offers a full toolkit of cognitive, environmental, and somatic practices that shift the conditions for sleep over time. If Part 1 was the understanding, this is the application.Click here to preorder at $50 of
Sleep Anxiety: Why Your Nervous System Won't Let You Sleep (Part 1)
Sleep anxiety is one of the most common experiences for people living with chronic stress, anxiety, and dysregulation. In Part 1 of this three-part series, Amanda breaks down why the nervous system is at the center of sleep disruption, the difference between not being able to fall asleep and middle-of-the-night wake-ups, and the primary drivers behind nighttime anxiety. This is the understanding e
Understanding Self-Harm from a Nervous System Perspective
Understanding self-harm through a nervous system lens changes everything — and in this episode, Amanda breaks down what's actually happening in the brain and body when this behavior shows up, why it works as a short-term regulation strategy even when it comes at a high cost, and what genuinely helps address the root of the pattern rather than just the behavior itself.3 Takeaways:Self-harm is
Why Walking Is Actually a Nervous System Practice
Walking for mental health goes deeper than most people realize — and in this episode, Amanda breaks down exactly why increasing your daily step count is one of the highest-return nervous system practices you're probably underutilizing. From bilateral movement and cortisol metabolism to blood sugar stability and sleep, the science behind a simple daily walk is more connected to your emotional
Listener Q&A — Your Questions from the Stress Management Series
In this listener response episode, Amanda answers three thoughtful follow-up questions from the five-part stress management series. She digs deepest into a question about reorienting to a baseline mindset stressor — using the trigger vs overwhelm distinction to help listeners diagnose what's actually happening before deciding what to do about it. She also honors a listener's real-life ed
From Knowing Different to Living Different (Part 5)
In the final episode of this stress management series, Amanda steps back from frameworks and talks about the gap between understanding what needs to change and actually changing it. She revisits the nervous system ladder as a way to help listeners locate themselves after five episodes of honest reflection, reads from her book Healing Through the Vagus Nerve on the four-phase healing process and he
Editing Your Stress Bucket (Part 4)
In part four of this stress series, Amanda moves from filtering into action — introducing the 3 D's framework for actually editing your stress bucket. She opens by distinguishing between poking holes (reactive regulation) and real editing, then walks through Delete, Delegate, and Do Differently with honest personal examples from her own life. She also introduces Add as the fourth move on the
Filter Your Stress Bucket: How to Know What Actually Belongs (Part 3)
In part three of this stress series, Amanda introduces the important step that comes before editing your stress bucket — filtering it. She shares two practical filters to help you get clear on what actually belongs in your life: the rubber vs glass ball distinction and your personal core values. This episode is honest about the fact that this process is often countercultural and sometimes relation
Assess Your Stressors & Supporters (Part 2)
In part two of this stress series, Amanda walks you through a practical, honest assessment of your stress by examining both sides of the see-saw—your stressors and your supporters. She breaks stressors into baseline (chronic) and daily (variable) inputs, helping you identify where your load is actually coming from. This episode emphasizes that real change starts with awareness, and gives you a fra
Understanding Stress (Part 1)
In this episode, Amanda introduces a new four-part series on stress by reframing what stress actually is, and why stress itself isn't really the problem. She explains how stress is a natural, necessary nervous system response, but becomes harmful when it remains unresolved and accumulates over time. Using the stress bucket and see-saw metaphors, she offers a more honest and actionable way to
Does This Give More Than It Takes?
Amanda shares the nervous system framework behind a real family decision — getting a puppy with three kids under five — and why saying yes to something stressful can still be the regulated choice.Using the seesaw model (stress bucket on one side, supporter blocks on the other), she introduces a simple filter for everyday decisions:"Does this give more than it takes?"She walks through two
"You'd Never Know": A Song About What Depression Actually Looks Like
In this episode, I'm breaking down the song "You'd Never Know" by Blu Eyes—a devastatingly honest look at what depression actually feels like from the inside, and why it so often goes unseen from the outside.We talk about what dorsal vagal shutdown really looks like, why the gap between "you look fine" and "I'm screaming inside" is so dangerous, what ha
"Dear Anxiety": What This Song Gets Right About Healing
In this episode, I'm breaking down the song "Dear Anxiety" by Blu Eyes—and why it might be the most accurate description of anxiety and nervous system regulation I've ever heard set to music.We explore why anxiety isn't a disorder or a malfunction but a protective response, what it actually looks like to be in relationship with your anxiety instead of at war with it, and h
Why You Keep Over-Explaining Yourself (And How to Stop)
Do you ever finish a conversation and realize you’ve just given a twenty-minute dissertation to justify a simple "no" or a basic need? In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers on chronic over-explaining. It turns out, this isn't just a quirky personality trait—it’s a sophisticated nervous system response. Whether you’re trying to preemptively defend yourself against being &quo
Look for the Helpers
When you witness suffering at scale, your capacity to care can feel like it’s running on empty. In this episode, we’re diving into the biological reality of compassion fatigue and the potent "antidote" found in moral elevation. We discuss why "looking for the helpers" isn’t just a sweet sentiment—it’s a vital nervous system intervention that activates the vagus nerve and restor
Regulated Activism
When the world feels like it's falling apart, how do we stay connected to ourselves while still showing up for what matters? In this episode, we're talking about collective trauma, what it actually means to be "regulated" (hint: it doesn't mean calm), and the tangible nervous system tools that can help you stay resourced during ongoing crisis. This isn't about fixing
Regulating In A World On Fire (Repost)
New intro, repeat episode of one I published almost exactly a year ago. While the examples I offer are a year old, the suggestions offered apply just as much to some of the chaos we're all experiencing this week as well. Hit play on this episode again, see what resonates, and I'll be back next week with some new thoughts.-In this episode of Regulate & Rewire, we explore how to naviga
Why 'New Year, New You' Backfires (Nervous System Edition)
Why does “New Year, New You” feel so motivating… and then fall apart just weeks later? In this episode, we explore why New Year’s resolutions often backfire—not because you lack discipline or willpower, but because they ask your nervous system to do something it’s biologically wired to resist. Through a nervous-system and mental-health lens, we unpack why massive change feels threatening, how wint
What I'm NOT Taking Into the New Year
In Part 2 of our New Year mini-series, we’re moving beyond the "New Year, New You" hype to have a more honest conversation about what it actually looks like to let go. Following Amanda's annual NYE Circle event, she's sharing the raw, real list of patterns and beliefs that she is choosing to leave behind.From the "addiction to urgency" to the "shoulds" we pl
Completing the Year (A Somatic Closure Practice)
The calendar says the year is over, but has your nervous system caught up? In Part 1 of our New Year’s Mini Series, we’re moving away from high-pressure goal setting and "new year, new you" rhetoric. Instead, we are creating a "pocket of space" to let the previous year actually complete.Our bodies don’t experience time through dates; they experience it through processed or unpr
My Dumpster Fire Day & An Invite to My NYE Circle
Sign up for the NYE Circle – Sunday, December 28th at 8 PM ET - CLICK HEREIn this episode I yap about my dumpster fire day. Thought I had childcare, I didn't. My 2 year old had 47 meltdowns. My 4mo old joined me for the membership Q&A— cute but not ideal. I found out a full bag of Christmas gifts got accidentally taken out with the trash last night. My son pulled our fish tank down off th
How to Manage Seasonal Depression
In this episode (a repeat conversation from 2023), Amanda dives into a common struggle during the winter months: Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), or seasonal depression. She shares listener struggles, the science behind how light impacts our mood, and actionable, research-backed tools to help you navigate the winter blues.In this episode you'll learn: The definition of Seasonal Affective Di
Regulation or Avoidance? How to Tell the Difference
We all bump into the blurry line between regulating and avoiding. In this episode, Amanda unpacks the difference between soothing your nervous system and emotionally bypassing—using a real client story to show how even “healthy” tools can become numbing when the intention and impact are off. Learn how to choose between regulation and resourcing, and try a simple check-in to turn coping back into c
Your Invitation to Regulated Living
This week, I’m pulling back the curtain on the Regulated Living Membership—because doors are officially open.If you've been stuck in survival mode, if therapy and mindset work helped you understand the why but didn’t give you a way forward—this is for you.In today’s episode, I walk you through the what, why, and who of the membership. You’ll hear real member stories, learn what makes this spa
When Self-Discipline Is Self-Care
Sometimes, the kindest thing you can do for your nervous system isn’t to rest—it’s to move. This episode is for the ones who don’t relate to overachieving or overfunctioning because they’re on the other end of the spectrum: the stuck, the shut down, the ones who can’t seem to get going no matter how much they want to.If motivation feels impossible and even small tasks feel like climbing a mountain
Why You Drop Self-Care When Life Gets Good
Today's conversation is for the Type A, high achieving, often overwhelmed and anxious nervous system folk. Amanda talk about the pattern we often see where we stop our self-care habits when we feel good, but stopping them often puts us back into a spiral of anxiety and the story of, "why do I do this? I'm just not disciplined or motivated enough, etc..." But what if that’s not
Guided Regulation Practice for Anxiety
Today’s going to be a little bit different, instead of our normal educational chat this is going to be a guided experiential episode that you can come to when you’re feeling activated to find some support in getting more regulated through various somatic exercises. If you’re listening in the car or while doing something else, come back to this episode then you can be more fully present with the gu
dYsReGuLaTiOn & Activation Are Not The Same Thing
I (Amanda) signed up to chaperone my kindergartener's field trip. Then childcare fell through. Suddenly I'm responsible for my feral 2-year-old AND five other 5-year-olds. My nervous system panicked—heart racing, adrenaline spiking, pure chaos mode. But here's the thing: I wasn't dysregulated. In this episode, I'm using my chaotic morning to show you what nervous system re
My Postpartum Crashout (and the Robot That Talked Me Off the Ledge)
Ever feel like you're failing, no matter how hard you try to organize, optimize, or just push through? In this deeply personal and vulnerable episode, Amanda pulls back the curtain on her own postpartum season—navigating life as a new mom of three while running a business. She shares the story of a recent "crash out" spiral and the unlikely tool that gave her the reality check she d
Eldest Daughter Syndrome
A deeply personal exploration of eldest daughter syndrome—the invisible load that comes with being the responsible one, the second mom, the example. If you're an eldest daughter who learned that being helpful mattered more than being carefree, this episode is for you. We explore how love and responsibility got tangled up early on, the connection to anxiety and depression, and the path toward
Why We Underestimate Our Ability (Part 3 - Anxiety Equation Series)
In the final episode, Amanda tackles the most empowering part of the equation: the “Underestimation of Ability.” Discover the science behind why we forget our own capacity and resources in the exact moments we need it most and learn how to actively reconnect with your deep well of resilience.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why anxiety makes you shrink and feel like a younger, less powerful vers
Why We Overestimate Threats (Part 2 - Anxiety Equation Series)
Welcome to part two of our series! Today, Amanda’s diving into the first half of the anxiety equation: the “Overestimation of Threat.” Learn why your brain is wired to assume the worst-case scenario and discover three practical tools to help your nervous system calibrate to the actual level of danger, not just the perceived one.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why your brain’s “negativity bias”
The Anxiety Equation (Part 1)
Ever wonder why anxiety shows up and feels so overwhelming? In this episode, Amanda kicks off a mini-series by re-introducing a game-changing formula that makes sense of it all, what she calls, “The Anxiety Equation”. Once you see anxiety as a math problem, you realize you have the power to change the variables.In This Episode, You'll Learn:The simple but powerful Anxiety Equation: Anxiety =
How I Turned a Potentially Really Bad Day Around With Regulation
I woke up anxious today and this conversation is about what I did to not let it ruin my day. 4am kid wake up, a bad dream, excitement, crappy sleep, all had my system wired from the minute I opened my eyes. I'd love to tell you I used this magic tool to regulate my nervous system and get on with my day, but instead what I want to share is the roller coaster of regulated, and re-regulated, and
Traumatizing or Resilience Building? Supporting Children Through Hard Things
When hard things happen to our children (our ourselves), our instinct is often to protect them from discomfort at all costs. But what if the goal isn't to shield them from difficult experiences, but to support them through those experiences in ways that build resilience? In this episode, I share a recent scary experience with my 5-year-old son getting industrial paint in his eye, and how unde
The Link Between Anxiety, Depression & Chronic Illness
Have you ever felt like you're chasing symptoms across your body—from anxiety and depression to gut issues, chronic fatigue, or autoimmune flares? In this episode, we discuss the direct biological link between your mental and physical health. We explore how a dysregulated nervous system can be a root cause of both chronic anxiety and chronic illness, and why healing requires a whole-person ap
Bringing It All Together - Nervous System Understanding in Real Life
To wrap up our series on nervous system states, we move from theory to real life. This special episode features a powerful voice message from a listener named Brit, who shares a personal story of navigating a stressful travel day with her family. Her experience perfectly illustrates what it looks like when nervous system concepts become a lived reality. If you've ever wondered how this work a
Understanding Regulation – Why We Need This As Our Default State (Part 5)
In this episode of our series on nervous system states, we explore the ultimate goal: more regulation. Amanda breaks down the physiology and psychology of this "green zone" state and provides a rich toolkit for moving to make it your new normal as she compassionately discusses understanding what regulation truly is, why your system might resist it, and how to proactively create more mome
Understanding Shut Down— Depression and Your Body’s Protective Disconnection (Part 4)
Shut down is your nervous system's most protective response. If you've ever felt heavy, numb, and completely disconnected from life—like you're moving through a thick fog with no energy or motivation—you've likely experienced a nervous system state called "shutdown." This episode offers a deeply compassionate guide to understanding this protective state and provides a
Understanding Freeze— The “Wired-But-Tired” State (Part 3)
"Freeze" is arguably the most confusing, nuanced, and self-blame-inducing state for people to understand. We often mistake it for laziness, depression, or some character flaw — it’s not. It's a protective state that your nervous system creates when it's had too much for too long and doesn't know what to do next. This episode takes a compassionate deep dive into this commo
Understanding Activation– Anxiety & Your Fight/Flight Response (Part 2)
In this episode we explore the activated nervous system state—better known as fight-or-flight. If you’ve ever felt anxious, tightly wound, or like your body just can’t stop, this one’s for you. We explore why your system gets stuck in this high-alert state and, most importantly, provide a practical toolkit to help you work with your nervous system, not against it. Learn why "just calm down&qu
Why Different Tools Work for Different Nervous System States (Part 1)
Ever wonder why a breathing exercise that works for your friend makes your own anxiety worse? The problem isn't you - it's that we've been treating nervous system regulation like it's one-size-fits-all. Your nervous system has different states (activation, freeze, shutdown, and regulation), and each one needs different kinds of support. In this episode, we explore why tailored
Uphill Healing: Why Everything Feels Harder (and How to Make It Easier)
Using a personal story about a difficult uphill walk versus an easy downhill one, this episode offers a powerful and validating analogy for the healing journey. Amanda explores why life and healing can feel so hard when you're dealing with anxiety or depression, diving into the real physiological and biological reasons your body is working overtime. This episode is a compassionate reminder th
Your Nervous System and the News: Staying Informed Without Staying Dysregulated
Living in the world right now can feel overwhelming, especially when every news alert seems like another crisis demanding your attention– the news can feel like both a moral obligation and a fast track to burnout. If you find yourself caught between wanting to stay informed and feeling completely dysregulated by constant alarming updates, this episode is for you.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why t
Nervous System Prep for Summer as a Parent
When school ends and summer begins, many parents expect a break—but what often comes instead is a spike in stress. In this episode, we explore why summer can feel more dysregulating than restful and how to support your nervous system through the transition. Learn how small, intentional shifts can help you move through this season with more calm, connection, and compassion—for yourself and your kid
Why Safety Can Feel Scary After Trauma (Simplified)
This is a simplified version of the conversation we had last week about how it's common for trauma survivors to feel anxious or scared when they finally experience moments of calm or regulation. This episode explores why this paradoxical response happens and offers gentle ways to help your nervous system learn that regulation doesn't have to mean danger. We dive into the "safety-dan
When Safety Feels Scary: Why Regulation Can Be Terrifying After Trauma
Have you ever felt anxious about not feeling so anxious? Or had a moment of regulation trigger anxiety? In this follow-up we explore a counterintuitive but common phenomenon in trauma recovery: when finding safety and regulation actually triggers fear and anxiety. Drawing from research by Bessel van der Kolk, Stephen Porges, and Deb Dana, we examine why the regulated "green zone" can fee
Finding Safety in Unsafe Places: Supporting Nervous System Regulation
In this episode, we tackle the challenging but vital question: How can we support nervous system regulation when someone isn't in a safe environment? Drawing from Deb Dana's Polyvagal Theory expertise and current research, we explore practical strategies for both practitioners and individuals navigating unsafe circumstances.In this episode you'll learn:How to identify small touch po
Is Your Gut Triggering Your Anxiety? Understanding Bottom-Up Panic
Can anxiety start... in your gut? Triggered by a listener's experience linking a gut cleanse to panic attacks, this episode dives deep into the powerful gut-brain connection. Discover how physiological issues—from microbiome imbalances to inflammation—can ignite anxiety symptoms from the "bottom-up," often before any anxious thought occurs. Learn why this happens and gentle strategi
When Life Gets Heavy– Slow Down, Drop Weight, & Adapt
In this episode, Amanda shares a personal story about her shift from running to walking—and eventually walking with a weighted vest—and how this physical adaptation revealed powerful lessons about nervous system regulation, healing, and mental health. She explores what happens when the tools that once worked no longer serve us, why slowing down is often exactly what our bodies need, and how to ada
Derealization - What it is & Tools to Help
Ever felt like the world around you suddenly turned foggy, distant, or dreamlike? That’s derealization—and while it can feel disorienting, it’s actually a protective response from your nervous system. In this episode, we explore what derealization is, why it happens, how it relates to depersonalization and trauma, and what you can do to support yourself or a loved one when it shows up.In this epis
Bringing It All Together (Final Part: B2B Series)
In this final episode of our Back to the Basics series, we bring together all the key concepts we've explored over the past eight episodes. From understanding your nervous system to creating a personalized path to healing, this episode serves as both a review and a roadmap for moving forward with confidence and clarity.In this episode, you'll learn:How all the pieces of the nervous syste
Bloodwork & The Chemical Imbalance Theory (Part 8: B2B Series)
In this episode, we’re continuing with Part 8 of the Back to the Basics series by exploring the vital role that comprehensive lab work plays in healing anxiety and depression. I break down why we take a physiology-first—but not physiology-only—approach, the truth behind the outdated “chemical imbalance” theory, and how functional labs can uncover real root causes that are often missed in standard
Proactive Regulation: Long-Term Strategies for a Resilient Nervous System (Part 7: B2B Series)
In Part 7 of our Back to Basics series, we explore proactive regulation as the long-term approach to healing anxiety and depression through a nervous system lens. Building on our previous discussion of reactive tools, this episode examines how to address the root causes of your symptoms.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!—Looking for more personalized support?
Reactive Regulation in Real Life (Part 6: B2B Series)
This morning I wanted to flush my kid down the toilet, it was just one of those mornings. It made me realize that while last week we had a great chat about reactive regulation, it was a bit heavy on the theory vs practical application. I'm extending that conversation today to share some real life examples of how I use these tools in my everyday life, how I used them this morning with my son.
Reactive Regulation: Your In-The-Moment Nervous System Toolkit (Part 5: B2B Series)
In part 5 of our Back to Basics series, we explore reactive regulation, a powerful approach to managing your nervous system in moments of anxiety, overwhelm, or shutdown. Learn how to use your body's natural stress responses to create a personalized toolkit for finding more calm and intentionality amidst life's challenges.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible take
Assessing Your Stress Bucket (Part 4: B2B Series)
In part 4 of our Back to Basics series, we explore the "stress bucket" analogy to help you understand why you might be feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or depressed. Learn how to assess your unique stress load and discover personalized pathways to healing.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!—Looking for more personalized support? 1:1 Coaching (RESTORE):
Why We Get Stuck (in Anxiety & Depression): Understanding Nervous System Dysregulation (Part 3: B2B Series)
In part 3 of our Back to Basics series, we explore why we get stuck in states of dysregulation and why anxiety and depression persist. Learn how modern living patterns and past experiences shape our nervous system responses, and discover a compassionate approach to understanding your symptoms.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!—Looking for more personalized sup
6 Nervous System States & Their Stories (Part 2: B2B Series)
In this second episode of the "Back to Basics" series, we explore the six nervous system states and how understanding them can transform your approach to anxiety and depression healing.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!—Looking for more personalized support? 1:1 Coaching (RESTORE): Learn more or book a free discovery call (HSA/FSA eligible & inc
Get To Know Your Nervous System (Part 1: Back to the Basics Series)
In this first episode of the “Back to Basics” series, where I dive into the core of what drives anxiety and depression: your nervous system. When you better understand how this mind-body system works you can work with it towards healing.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!—Looking for more personalized support? 1:1 Coaching (RESTORE): Learn more or book a free
Celebrating 100 Episodes & A Look Forward
Celebrating 100 Episodes of Regulate & RewireFriends, welcome to the 100th episode of Regulate & Rewire! Today’s episode is a heartfelt celebration of this milestone and a deep dive into gratitude, reflection, and exciting plans for the future. And to mark this milestone, I share a special offer towards the end of the episode.This podcast exists because of you—your downloads, shares, revie
Reactive Regulation: Lean In or Change Course?
I’m dysregulated, now what? This episode dives into two powerful approaches you can use when you notice anxiety, depression, or other challenging emotions arising: leaning in, or changing course. We’ll explore what each of these options look like, as well as, how to best use them, by understanding your nervous system's various states and how they inform your approach to regulation.CLICK HERE
Regulating In A World On Fire
In this episode of Regulate & Rewire, we explore how to navigate collective trauma and maintain mental health in a world that feels increasingly chaotic. From California wildfires to global conflicts, we discuss why our ancient nervous systems struggle with modern information overload and offer practical strategies for staying regulated while staying informed. Learn about the concept of "
5 Habits for a More Regulated 2025
As we close out the year, this episode focuses on 5 foundational habits for a more regulated 2025: sleep, movement, nutrition, stress management, and community. These habits are simple yet powerful tools for creating a foundation of nervous system health and emotional well-being.Inside this episode, I share why these pillars matter, how to approach them, and why starting small is the key to lastin
Guided Practice for Regulated Reflection
In today’s episode is a guided practice for Regulated Reflection. I'm intentionally keeping episodes shorter this month as this time of year is busy and I want to offer you a resource that fits into those smaller pockets of time.Take a moment to pause and care for yourself in the midst of the holiday season. If you enjoy this practice, I’d love to have you join us for the full NYE Circle expe
Regulated Reflection: A Grounded Approach to Ending the Year
As the year comes to a close, this episode invites you to reflect on the past year with curiosity and compassion—not judgment. I’ll guide you through a simple process to look back on meaningful moments, notice patterns, and set intentions for the year ahead.You’ll also hear about my NYE Circle happening this Sunday, December 29th, at 8 PM ET—a free, 90-minute virtual event to help you regulate, re
Did I Give My Child Anxiety? Understanding Parent-Child Patterns
In this episode, we dive into the second part of a listener’s heartfelt question about parenting and anxiety. After a big emotional release, she found herself overwhelmed by guilt-ridden thoughts:"I’m a bad mom. Did I do this to him?”We explore the complex relationship between a parent’s healing journey and their child’s emotional well-being, examining how patterns like emotional availability
Is This a Setback or a Step Forward in Healing?
In this episode, we explore whether intense emotional moments—like panic attacks or big cries—are setbacks or signs of progress. Learn what happens in your nervous system during big emotional releases, why healing can feel harder before it gets better, and how to support yourself through these experiences.Click here to see the photo of story #3 moments before my friend helped get my shoulder back
Holiday Mental Health Support
The holiday season can be a mix of joy and stress—family dynamics, packed schedules, financial pressures, and unspoken expectations can take a toll on your mental health. In this episode, I share practical tips to help you stay regulated and set healthy boundaries.CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!—Looking for more personalized support? 1:1 Coaching (RESTORE):
What My Four-Year-Old Knows About Healing That Most Adults Don't
In this episode, I share a personal (and slightly unconventional) parenting story about letting my 4-year-old son practice walking on our roof. As risky as it might sound, the experience brought three profound lessons about healing: the importance of practice, the power of pacing, and the value of having support.Join me as we explore how these lessons apply to your journey of emotional regulation
Navigating Daily Nervous System Shifts
Today I explore the question "Is it possible to cycle through all nervous system states within the same day?" Spoiler alert—yes, *to an extent* — in this conversation we explore the considerations around this and I offer practical suggestions on how you can shift thorough these states with more ease. We'll talk about why these shifts happen, how to recognize them, and what it means
"Letting Go Good": Navigating Grief With Our Kids
In today’s episode, I invite you into a personal journey as I navigate the grief of losing my soul-dog, Cooper. This episode is both a tribute to him and a raw, heartfelt look at how I’m supporting myself and my young son through this painful experience.The first half of the episode is a snapshot of our story. In the second half, I discuss how I'm helping my 4-year-old son process his first s
Guided Practice for Resourcing, Titration, and Pendulation
In this episode, we’re shifting from learning to experiencing. Last week, we discussed the techniques of resourcing, titration, and pendulation and their importance in trauma healing. Today, I’ll guide you through a guided practice, allowing you to feel and embody these practices within your own systel..This gentle, 15-minute practice will help you connect to a sense of safety, ease into challengi
Healing Trauma Safely with Pendulation, Resourcing, and Titration
In this episode, we dive into the concept of pendulation, a foundational process in trauma healing, particularly within Somatic Experiencing. We explore how pendulation involves oscillating between states of distress (activation) and calm (regulation), allowing the nervous system to release stored tension without getting stuck.We also discuss two essential techniques that support pendulation:Resou
The Pyramid of Healing - Why Healing in Order Matters
Did you know that there a sequential order to healing? In this episode of Regulate & Rewire, we explore "The Pyramid of Healing," and it's 4-phases that support your healing journey. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or like your healing efforts aren’t working, it might be because things are happening out of order. Discover the four phases of healing—Education & Awaren
Why You Can’t Just “Release” Trauma
In this episode, we dive into the common phrase “releasing trauma” and what it really means. While many people think trauma can be pushed out of the body, healing is much more about creating safety within the body so it can transform naturally. We explore the layers of trauma healing—physical, emotional, psychological, and relational—and why true healing requires a holistic approach.CLICK HERE for
