Go Have Good Sex featuring The Christian Sexpert
Go Have Good Sex featuring The Christian Sexpert is a podcast that offers honest conversations about sex and intimacy within Christian marriage, grounded in a Biblical worldview. Hosted by Angela Griffith, the show blends faith, passion, and humor to help couples improve their sexual relationships. Episodes cover topics like overcoming shame, communication, and practical tips for a fulfilling sex life, all delivered with a sassy and relatable tone.
Episodes
Beyond the Sex Talk: Relationship Skills You Forgot to Teach Your Kids ft. Ruby Falk, MA, LPC
We spend a lot of time teaching kids about sex, boundaries, and dating. But how often do we intentionally teach them how to build a healthy relationship?In this episode, Angela sits down with licensed therapist and relationship coach Ruby Falk to discuss the relationship skills every child should learn long before they enter a romantic relationship.Together they explore what it means to maintain y
Maybe It's Not Low Libido: ADHD, Executive Function, & Sex ft. Dr. Leann Borneman, PhD, LCSW, CST
If you've ever wanted sex in theory but couldn't seem to get yourself interested in the moment, this episode may explain why.For years, conversations about desire have focused on libido, hormones, and responsive desire. But what if the problem isn't a lack of desire at all? What if the real issue is executive functioning?In this episode, I sit down with clinical sexologist, AASECT-cert
When Anxiety Goes to Bed with You: Why You Can't Relax Enough for Sex ft. Dr. Karianne Bilsky
Anxiety doesn't stay in your head—it follows you into your relationships, your marriage, and yes, your bedroom.In this episode, I sit down with licensed psychologist Dr. Karianne Bilsky to talk about the often-overlooked connection between anxiety and intimacy.Together, we unpack how anxiety affects desire, arousal, connection, and your ability to be present during sex. We discuss why "ju
Why Depression Changes Your Sex Life ft. Dr. Karianne Bilsky, PhD
Disclaimer: Nothing in this episode is intended to be medical advice. Please take any information your learn in this episode to a discussion with your own personal doctor.Trigger warnings for discussion of depression and suicide. Depression doesn’t just impact your mood.It impacts your body, your nervous system, your relationships, your energy, your intimacy, and sometimes even your ability to rec
The Stories Women Learn to Outgrow ft. Dr. Ashley Odom-Rodrigues
What happens to women’s sexuality as they age?Because contrary to what culture — and honestly, a lot of the church — would have us believe, women do not magically stop being sexual beings after 60.In this episode, I’m joined again by Ashley Odom Rodrigues to talk about her dissertation research interviewing women over the age of 60 about their sex lives, relationships, bodies, identity, and aging.
Postpartum Changes Everything ft. Danielle Bruner
What happens to intimacy after birth when everyone is exhausted, touched out, overwhelmed, and trying to survive on broken sleep and cold coffee?In this episode, I’m joined by postpartum doula and educator Danielle Bruner for a conversation that every married couple needs to hear before the baby arrives — not after the damage is already done.We talk about why so many couples feel disconnected duri
Why You Feel Like a Different Woman Every Week (And What to Do About It) ft. Lauren Hall
Most women were never actually taught how their bodies work—we were just told to deal with them.Push through the exhaustion. Ignore the mood swings. Feel confused when your desire changes. And maybe blame yourself when your body doesn’t respond the same way every day.But what if nothing is wrong with you?In this episode, I’m joined by traditional midwife Lauren Hall to break down the four phases o
Jesus Was Never in Purity Culture ft Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers
If purity culture was supposed to lead to healthy, fulfilling sex in marriage… why are so many couples still struggling?In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers to unpack the real impact of purity culture—where it came from, how it spread far beyond the Church, and why so many of us are still carrying its messages into our marriages today.We talk about:• How purity culture moved fr
Are Sex Toys Sin? Or Are You Just Uncomfortable?
So… let’s talk about toys.For a lot of Christian couples, this conversation comes with immediate tension:Is this okay? Is this sinful? Are we crossing a line?In this episode, I break it all the way down—without shame, fear tactics, or vague “just pray about it” answers.We’re diving into:What the Bible actually says (and doesn’t say) about bringing outside tools into your intimate lifeWhy drawing a
She's Not Avoiding Sex (Her Body Is Trying To Tell You Something)
You think she doesn’t want sex.But what if that’s not actually the problem?In this episode, we’re unpacking what I really mean when I say, “Healthy women, in safe marriages, don’t turn down good sex.” Because “healthy” is doing a lot more work in that sentence than most people realize.We’re talking about the real, often ignored factors that impact desire—mental health, trauma (including purity cul
Being a "Good Guy" Isn't Enough for a Safe Marriage (And It's Affecting Your Marriage)
A lot of men think their marriage is safe because they’re a “good guy.”They don’t cheat. They don’t yell. They don’t hit her.So why doesn’t she want sex?In this episode, we’re breaking down what a safe marriage actually means—and why the absence of harm is not the same thing as the presence of safety.Because if a woman doesn’t feel emotionally, relationally, and sexually safe, her desire isn’t goi
Sex Education for Tweens & Teens ft Kristen Miele of Sex Ed Reclaimed
If you don’t talk to your kids about sex… someone else will.And chances are, they’re not going to do it with your values.In this episode, I’m joined by Kristen Miele, founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, to talk about how to raise sexually healthy kids without shame, fear, or awkward one-time “talks" - all from a Biblical world view, but without the shame and guilt of purity culture.We’re covering th
Christian Sex Myths Ruining Marriages Part 2
What if the things you were taught about sex in church… are the very things making it harder to enjoy it in your marriage?In Part 2 of this series, we’re tackling three more damaging myths that quietly shape expectations, fuel shame, and leave couples feeling disconnected:That sex is only for procreationThat having more sex will magically fix your marriageThat struggling with sex means something i
When Baby Making Sex Stops Feeling Good ft Kimberly Koll, LPC/LMHC
Trying for a baby can put a spotlight on every part of your marriage—especially your sex life.What once felt spontaneous, playful, and connecting can quickly become scheduled, stressful, and painfully outcome-focused. And when month after month doesn’t go the way you hoped, sex can start to feel more like pressure than pleasure.In this episode, Kimberly Koll, LPC/LMHC discusses the realities of in
Christian Sex Myths Ruining Marriages
What if some of your core beliefs about sex in Christian marriage simply aren't true?For YEARS evangelical culture has repeated the same messages about men, women, and desire: Men are the only visually stimulated creatures. Men "need" sex constantly. And women are supposed to just tolerate it.But when you look at scientific research, Scripture, and real life, those myths start to fall apart.In thi
Playing Pretend Might Save Your Marriage: Why You're Not Too Holy For Role Play
Role play isn’t about pretending you’re someone else—it’s about giving your marriage permission to explore, play, and reconnect.In this episode, I explore why role play can be a powerful tool for married couples. From flirty scenarios to power dynamics like doctor/patient, role play allows couples to safely explore curiosity, communication, and desire inside the safety of marriage.As adults, we we
Bedroom Games: Turning Your Bedroom Into Your Playground
When it comes to sex, there's a lot of talk about "spicing things up." But what if you don't need another date night, a weekend away, a new toy, or more lingerie?What if all you need is more play?In this episode we are diving deep into the sort of ideas that originally made me go viral: Simple, accessible ways to turn your bedroom into the playground of your marriage.These aren’t gimmicks.They’re
Ditch Date Night: Why Scheduled Romance Won't Build Intimacy
We’ve been told that date night is the cure for everything.Disconnected? Date night.Not having sex? Date night.Feeling like roommates? Definitely date night.But what if date night isn’t the problem - and was never the solution?In this episode we're going to talk about why a once a month night out isn't intimacy - it's performance, and performance doesn't build connection and never builds safety.I
Marriage without Play Feels Like Work: Why Creative Intimacy is Essential to Marriage ft. Nicola Hughes
When did your marriage start feeling like a to-do list?Laundry. Logistics. Parenting. Work. Bills. Repeat. (And WHY do these people need to eat every single day!?)Somewhere along the way, creativity quietly packed its bags — and without it, intimacy starts to feel like just another obligation.In this episode, we’re talking about why creativity isn’t childish… it’s foundational. We unpack how coupl
You're Here, But You're Not With Me ft Nicole Lee, LMFT
In this episode I chat with Nicole Lee, LMFT to unpack what’s actually happening when social media, online gaming, or constant scrolling starts to feel like emotional distance inside a relationship.Drawing from Nicole’s doctoral research, this conversation explores how perceived partner escapism—not just screen time—can significantly impact relationship satisfaction. Her study found that when one
If You Can't Talk About Sex, Sex Will Always Feel Hard
Talking about sex shouldn't feel scarier than the act itself - but for many couples, it does.In this solo episode, I explore why sexual communication feels so difficult for so many married couples, especially those shaped by silence, shame, or “don’t ask, don’t tell” messages around intimacy. If you love your spouse but freeze, fight, or shut down when sex comes up, this episode is for you.You
Understanding Sex Avoidance in Marriage
When a woman consistently avoids sex in marriage, she is accused of rebellion, sin, manipulation, or blamed for all manner of things.In this episode, I unpack one of the foundations of my work: Healthy women, in safe marriages, don't turn down good sex for no reason. Rather than placing blame, or spiritualizing obligation, let's frame sex avoidance as what it really is: Information. Your b
When Faith Meets Physiology: Holistic Sexual Health for Midlife Women ft. Dr. Tanya Paynter
When your hormones shift, it’s easy to feel like your body is betraying you—but what if God designed midlife as an invitation, not a punishment?In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Tanya Paynter, a Naturopathic Doctor and founder of Psalm Medical, who blends faith and functional medicine to help women experience true whole-person healing. Together, we’re unpacking how menopause and perimenopause aff
The High of the Chase: Limerence, Nostalgia, & Emotional Escape ft Amanda McCracken
Have you ever felt emotionally attached to someone you weren’t actually in a relationship with? Or caught yourself romanticizing a past connection—while feeling dissatisfied in your current one?In this episode, Angela sits down with journalist and author Amanda McCracken to talk about limerence—an intense state of longing that can masquerade as love, but often thrives on fantasy, distance, and emo
Kingdom Marriage & Fair Play Ft Erin Pritchard, MA, LPCC-S
In this season finale of Go Have Good Sex, Angela sits down with Erin Pritchard for a powerful conversation on the Fair Play method, the mental load, and how emotional labor shapes the health—and heat—of a marriage.If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the invisible weight of planning, remembering, and managing everything, this episode will feel like someone finally turned the lights on. Erin b
Honor Your Parents, But Protect Your Peace: Boundaries, Holidays, & Parents, Oh My ft Ashley Odom-Rodrigues
Genesis 2:24 tells us, “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”But somewhere along the way, a lot of parents—and even some churches—forgot that verse applies after the wedding too.The holidays can magnify the tension between wanting to honor your family and needing to protect your peace. From unspoken expectations to guilt trips about w
He's Not Broken, You're Not Too Much: A Conversation About High Drive Wives, Chronic Pain, & Grace ft. Alanna Roberts
What happens when you’re the one who wants sex more—and your husband doesn’t?In this powerful, faith-filled conversation, Angela (The Christian Sexpert) sits down with Alanna Roberts, founder of Boudoir by Raw, a faith-based boudoir photography brand helping women reconnect with their God-given identity. Together, they unpack what it means to be a high-drive wife—and how to navigate desire differe
When Purity Culture Meets Postpartum: The Messy Truth About "Good Christian Women" ft Dr. Ashley Hudson, PhD, LCSW, CST
Purity culture doesn’t just shape how we see sex—it shapes how we see ourselves as women, wives, and mothers.In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Ashley Hudson, therapist, coach, and founder of Pearl in Process, to talk about how “good girl theology” follows women long after the wedding night. Together we unpack how purity culture influences pregnancy, birth, and postpartum—the moments when women
Obligation Isn't Sexy: Neuroscience, Intimacy, & Healing ft Dr. Karianne Bilsky
For too many Christian couples, “sex as a duty” has been taught as holy—but neuroscience tells a different story. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Karianne Bilsky, a licensed psychologist and trauma specialist, to unpack how obligation-based sex affects the brain, nervous system, and long-term intimacy.Together they explore how coercive teachings—like “you owe your spouse sex”—can trigger stre
Beyond the Movie Plot: What Trafficking Really Is - ft Kathy Bryan
When most people hear “human trafficking,” they picture kidnappings, foreign crime rings, and dramatic movie rescues. But the truth is often far more ordinary—and far more heartbreaking.In this episode, I sit down with Kathy Bryan, a passionate advocate and expert on anti-trafficking work and founder of The Genesis Project, to unpack what trafficking actually looks like in America today. Together,
Share the Crown: Rewriting Power in Marriage ft. Matthew Lowe, LCPC
What happens when we stop debating power in marriage and start sharing it? In this episode of Go Have Good Sex, I sit down with Matthew Lowe, LCPC, to unpack complementarian vs. egalitarian views of marriage—and why research (and lived experience) shows that egalitarian partnerships often lead to deeper intimacy, stronger communication, and more satisfying sex.We’ll explore why hierarchy rarely pr
Crisis Intimacy: Holding Each Other Through the Storm ft Dr. Audrey Davidheiser, PhD
Crisis has a way of shaking the foundation of even the strongest marriages. But did you know that intimacy during and after a crisis can actually draw you closer instead of pushing you apart? In this episode, Dr. Audrey Davidheiser, PhD helps us explore crisis intimacy through the lens of grief.Dr. Audrey Davidheiser is a licensed psychologist in California, certified Internal Family Systems (IFS)
When He Won't Change: Finding Peace Without Losing Yourself ft. Abby Eckel
Resentment can quietly build in marriages when the mental load and domestic labor fall unevenly on one partner. What starts as frustration over unwashed dishes or forgotten tasks often spirals into a cycle of expectation, disappointment, and resentment that erodes intimacy.In this episode, I sit down with educator and advocate Abby Eckel, a former Fair Play facilitator, who helps women dismantle t
When Faith Meets Trauma Science: EMDR, Nervous Systems, & Intimacy ft. Erin Pritchard, MA, LPCC-S, EMDR Therapist
Turns out, "You need to pray harder," doesn't fix trauma, purity culture guilt, or the effects of those things on a sex life.In this episode, I'm joined by Erin Pritchard, a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, Certified EMDR Therapist, and Certified Fair Play Facilitator. With over a decade of experience helping individuals and couples heal after trauma, Erin walks us through how EMDR therap
She Watches, Too: Porn, Shame, & Healing ft. Tabitha Westbrook, CSAT, LMFT-S, LCMHC-QS, LPC-S
When you think of porn addiction, chances are you think of men. The Church certainly does. But here’s the truth no one wants to say out loud: women struggle with porn too.In today's episode I sit down with therapist and author Tabitha Westbrook to rip the shame off a topic women have been forced to keep secret. Together, we unpack:✨Why porn addiction in women is rarely discussed (especially in the
Sanctified & Satisfied: A Listener Q&A
In this spicy AMA episode, I’m answering your unfiltered questions—nothing off limits. We’re talking:Toys for men (and why your nightstand should have more than just her vibrator)What I actually believe theologically (hint: it’s not what the church aunties think)What purity culture really is—and why it causes harmSelfishness with oral sex (yep, I said it)What to do when your joints pop out mid ✨ac
As Ashes Fall, When Safety Becomes Sacred Ground ft. Shelby Greene
Today’s episode is tender and powerful - and comes with massive trigger warnings. I’m joined by Shelby Greene—writer, mother of five, and survivor of domestic violence. Her debut book As Ashes Fall blends spoken word poetry with raw personal reflection, offering a gripping and honest look at the journey through abuse and toward healing.We talk candidly about:✨How abuse distorts your perception of
Rub Me The Right Way: Where the oil flows - without expectation
Does touch in your marriage feel like a landmine? You never know what is going to blow up in your face?In this episode, I sit down with massage therapist and Holy-Spirit-anointed healer Maude Carter to talk about the importance of non-sexual, expectation-free touch in marriage. We explore how our bodies carry trauma, how purity culture distorted even innocent forms of affection, and why “touched o
Steam, Sis! Vaginal Steaming, Feminine Healing, & What's Going On Down There? with Ashley Emery
Is vaginal steaming the latest woo woo social media trend, or is there evidence of its benefits? This week I talked to Ashley Emery, Certified Steam and Somatic Practitioner, to talk about this history of steaming, the science (and sacredness!), and why both men and women are turning to steam as part of their healing journeys.We dig into purity culture hang ups, feeling safe in your body and your
She Wants More: Dismantling Purity Culture in Marriage
In this powerful episode, I sit down with Dr. Andrea Eriks—licensed therapist and author of the new book She Wants: A Married Woman’s Guide to Reclaiming Her Sexual Intimacy. We talk about the deep emotional and relational impact of purity culture, the myth of “obligation sex,” and how women can begin to reconnect with their desire without shame or guilt.Dr. Eriks brings warmth, honesty, and clari
Talking to Your Kids About Sex with Ashley Hudson, LCSW
You all loved her so much last time, and you had so many questions, I brought Ashley Hudson, LCSW, back for Part 2: Talking to Your Kids About Sex!We talked about a lot of things in this episode, so here is the list, in no particular order:Parenting Intimacy with Kristi CrossonThe Talk Series by Gilkerson1: The Talk: 7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Biblical Sexuality2: Changes: 7 Biblical Les
The Magic of Lubricant and Other Sexy Topics with Goody Howard
My friend, Sexologist Goody Howard, not only is an AMAZING Sexologist, but she is launching her own brand of LUBRICANT! After I had a video blow up on my socials, with people condemning the very idea of using lube, I KNEW I had to have her on to talk about lube, existing in a fat body, and our ADHD squirrels having their own raves! (I promise we'll let you in on the joke!)We talked about so mu
Sexuality & Single Christians with Sonata Allison, LMFT
One of the questions I am asked most often as a sex & intimacy coach is: "How far can I go with the person I'm dating before it becomes sin?"Baby, that is the WRONG question, and I brought in Sonata Allison, LMFT, to help explain why this week! We covered a lot of topics single Christians are dealing with - but even if you are married - there's still a few things to learn fro
Body Confidence with Janioris Diaz Rodriguez
I am often asked how women can enjoy sex with their husbands when they are so uncomfortable with their bodies. So I knew I had to bring in Janioris Diaz Rodriguez, boudoir photographer, body & bedroom confidence coach to talk about it!In this episode we mentioned:Blue Letter Bible AppThis is also an app you can download to your phone.The Bible Knowledge Commentary by John F. Walvoord(aff link)
Motherhood Burrnout & Libido with Cierra Tipton
Today we are talking about the connection between a mother's feelings of burnout and her seemingly lost libido!I am chatting with Cierra Tipton, a reformed angry mom and Motherhood Burnout Coach about what motherhood burnout is, how it impacts a marriage, and how we can recover!You can connect with Cierra here:TikTokInstagramReclaimed Mama MorningsCoachingBiblical Self Care for MomsIn this epi
Conflict Intimacy with Nicole Lee, MA, LMFT, LPC
Do you feel more intimate with your spouse after a conflict? If you are doing it right, you SHOULD! I'm chatting with Nicole Lee, license marriage and family therapist, licensed professional counselor, and certified sex therapy-informed professional today about Conflict Intimacy! But really, y'all know how we roll here. There was a lot of fun, and a lot of ADHD!You can find Nicole here:Hea
Flirting & Erotic Communication with Brittany Broaddus-Smith, The Christian Sexologist
Are you ready to become a better flirt (with your spouse, of course!)? Ready to up your sexting game!? Brittany Broaddus-Smith, international Sexologist, and founder of The Intimacy Firm, is ready to teach you in this week's episode!A few things we talked about in episode:Marriage PLAYdateYou can find Brittany's Erotic Communication Blueprint in the Help We Don't Have Enough Sex Worksh
Parenting Intimacy with Kristi Crosson
If you've followed my socials for any length of time, you know I talk about sex as the celebration of intimacy you've established before you ever reach the bedroom - and there are 13 types of intimacy you can experience in marriage.One of those intimacies is parenting intimacy, and today we are talking to Kristi Crosson, Jai Certified Parenting Coach about how our parenting impacts the intimacy in
Vaginismus: Causes & Treatment with Dr. Leslie Wakefield
Did you know that women raised in purity culture are TWICE AS LIKELY to experience female sexual dysfunction as their non-purity culture counterparts?One such issue is vaginmisnus - and in this episode we discuss what it is, what causes it, and how it can be treated!Dr. Leslie had me as a guest on her podcast, and you can find that episode here!You can reach out to Dr. Leslie through her website,
Raising Sexually Healthy Kids
"How do I talk to my kids about sex without the shame and trauma of purity culture?" is one of my most frequently asked questions. So I brought in Ashley Hudson, LCSW to help answer it!We cover everything from sex education beginning at birth, to talking to your kids about masturbation, so buckle in - today is a wild ride!A few notes on today's podcast:I recommended the book She Dese
Consent in Christian Marriage
Did you know that a wedding ring is not automatic consent for sex, or any specific sexual activity in a Christian marriage?We should be seeking to obtain consent for specific activities, as well as each sexual encounter. In this episode, we talk about ways to discuss consent, without "ruining the mood"!This episode originally appeared in my Patreon community - join today and help support
Martial Coercion with Nat LaJune
Massive content warning for today's episode. We are discussing #MaritalCoercion - also known as #SexualCoercion when it happens in marriage. Today, I am chatting with Nat LaJune, a former Christian housewife on a healing journey, learning about love & sharing what she learns through writing and speaking on social media. I found Nat at the very beginning of my content creation journey, and her
Introduction to The Christian Sexpert
Angela, The Christian Sexpert has been talking about healthy, Biblical sex & intimacy on social media for years, and it is finally time to launch the podcast!In today's episode you'll learn all about Angela, her journey to becoming a Christian sex & intimacy coach, and her work.Resources discussed in the podcast:WebsitePatreon Book Coaching with Angela31 Days of IntimacyMarriage PLAYdate
