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The Self-Hype Podcast

The Self-Hype Podcast

Self-Hype 100 Episodes Oct 9, 2026

The Self-Hype Podcast, hosted by Eli Vazquez, offers unfiltered discussions on dating, love, personal development, and relationships. Eli provides no-BS advice and raw talk on love, featuring expert guests from the dating and personal development sphere. The podcast aims to help listeners navigate modern love and self-improvement with practical tips, relatable stories, and transformative wisdom.

Episodes

Even Beyoncé Got Cheated On: Spilling Celebrity Tea with Divorce Attorney Michele Locke
Even Beyoncé Got Cheated On: Spilling Celebrity Tea with Divorce Attorney Michele Locke Oct 9, 2026 2653 If Shakira and Beyoncé can get cheated on, absolutely nobody is safe. In this highly requested return episode, Eli sits down with badass divorce attorney Michele Locke to rip the glamorous filter off of celebrity marriages. They go totally unfiltered on the delusions of the Hollywood elite—from J.Lo’s endless lack of accountability to Tom Brady treating his supermodel wife like an off-season hobby
The Anxious Attachment Intervention: Why the "Spark" is BS and Other Listener Questions
The Anxious Attachment Intervention: Why the "Spark" is BS and Other Listener Questions Oct 3, 2026 1783 Grab your notebook ya’ll. In this highly requested community Q&A episode, Eli battles through a nasty sinus infection to deliver the ultimate intervention for your anxious attachment. He holds nothing back as he roasts the delusion of waiting for a guy who literally told you he belongs to the streets, breaks down why you need to stop mistaking a panic attack for "the spark," and explains why h
How To Get Fit And Lose Weight When You’re Busy AF w/ Fitness Coach Ambrose Amin
How To Get Fit And Lose Weight When You’re Busy AF w/ Fitness Coach Ambrose Amin Sep 26, 2026 3485 Are you exhausted by Instagram trainers promising you'll drop 30 pounds in 30 days if you just "grind harder"? In this unfiltered guest episode, Eli sits down with his own personal trainer, Ambrose, to expose the absolute BS of the modern fitness industry. Ambrose breaks down why he walked away from a six-figure tech job at Meta to become a trainer who actually gives a damn about your mental healt
The Rom-Com Trap: How Rom Coms Ruined Modern Dating
The Rom-Com Trap: How Rom Coms Ruined Modern Dating Sep 18, 2026 1681 In this highly requested solo episode, Eli takes a hilarious, unfiltered deep dive into why romantic comedies are secretly ruining our dating lives. Calling out everything from Notting Hill to cheesy Hallmark Christmas movies, Eli breaks down why we are all addicted to the "spark" and delusional fairy tales. He roasts your favorite cinematic heroines for emotionally cheating on their perfectly fin
How To Use Vulnerability As A Superpower w/ Author & Poet Cailin Hargreaves
How To Use Vulnerability As A Superpower w/ Author & Poet Cailin Hargreaves Sep 11, 2026 3691 If you’re currently sobbing over someone who abruptly decided to walk away, this episode is a massive, warm hug for your nervous system. Eli sits down with poet and bestselling author Cailin Hargreaves (whose viral words probably saved you at 3 AM) to talk about the brutal, unfiltered reality of sudden heartbreak. Cailin gets incredibly vulnerable about her own current separation, breaking down th
Diary Of A Former F*Boy: Why I Rebounded
Diary Of A Former F*Boy: Why I Rebounded Sep 5, 2026 2324 Why does someone seem to move on so quickly after a breakup, especially when you’re still trying to pick up the pieces? In this deeply personal episode of The Self Hype Podcast, Eli Vazquez shares his own experience as a former avoidant who entered a rebound relationship while still emotionally raw from heartbreak. He opens up about the fear, loneliness, need for validation, childhood wounds, and
Why Men Won't Settle Down In Modern Dating & What To Do About It
Why Men Won't Settle Down In Modern Dating & What To Do About It Aug 28, 2026 1153 In this spicy, highly requested solo episode, Eli dives deep into the controversial truth about why modern men are so terrified of settling down. He spills the tea on the male psychology behind dating, breaking down how the endless dopamine loop of hookup culture has completely warped men's sense of self-worth. Eli gets real about the massive difference in social pressure between men and women, us
Unlearning Toxic Masculinity: Body Counts, Brotherhood, & Real Allyship w/ Sander Jennings
Unlearning Toxic Masculinity: Body Counts, Brotherhood, & Real Allyship w/ Sander Jennings Aug 21, 2026 3079 In this powerhouse guest episode, Eli sits down with digital creator and advocate Sander Jennings to completely dismantle the toxic man playbook. Sander gets totally unfiltered about his journey from a college guy to politically active advocate who knows true strength means crying with your friends. They roast the red pill manosphere’s obsession with "getting rich, ripped, and laid," and break dow
Why Red Pill Is Bull Sh*T: A Breakdown Of How Manosphere is Just Weaponized Insecurity
Why Red Pill Is Bull Sh*T: A Breakdown Of How Manosphere is Just Weaponized Insecurity Aug 14, 2026 2452 In this highly requested episode, Eli steps slightly outside of his usual relationship advice to go completely unfiltered on the manosphere. As a reformed "dusty man" turned dating coach, he debunks the most toxic Red Pill myths currently poisoning modern romance. From tearing apart the "80/20 rule" to calling out why the obsession with being a stoic, dominant "Alpha Male" is actually just a massi
Stop Being A Dick To Yourself: Grieving Your Timelines & Finding Real Joy
Stop Being A Dick To Yourself: Grieving Your Timelines & Finding Real Joy Aug 7, 2026 1534 In this raw and unfiltered solo episode, Eli hits pause on the usual relationship psychology to get real about aging, anxiety, and why getting everything you ever wanted can actually feel like a massive letdown. Celebrating his 36th birthday from his new Chicago apartment, Eli takes us through the terrifying "exposure therapy" of slowing down after years of digital nomading and chasing dopamine. H
Can He Process the Breakup While Rebounding And More! Your Community Questions Answered
Can He Process the Breakup While Rebounding And More! Your Community Questions Answered Jul 3, 2026 1649 In this AMA episode, Eli dives into the Instagram mailbag to answer your most burning questions about avoidant exes, messy breakups, and the reality of the healing era. He tackles the ultimate question: can an avoidant ex actually process your breakup while monkey-branching into a new relationship? (Spoiler: Hell no.) Eli breaks down the neuroscience of heartbreak, explaining why your brain goes t
How To Get Over The Fear Of Rejection To Find Healthy Love
How To Get Over The Fear Of Rejection To Find Healthy Love Jun 26, 2026 1449 Welcome back to the Selfhype Podcast! This week, Eli is diving into the sweet, beautiful, and absolutely terrifying world of rejection. If you’re letting the fear of a "no" hold you back from your dream career, your personal growth, or filtering out that dusty-ass ex, it's time to wake up. We’re talking all about rejection therapy, having the audacity to take up space, and training your nervous sy

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