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The Self-Hype Podcast

The Self-Hype Podcast

Self-Hype 100 Episodes Jul 3, 2026

The Self-Hype Podcast, hosted by Eli Vazquez, offers unfiltered discussions on dating, love, personal development, and relationships. Eli provides no-BS advice and raw talk on love, featuring expert guests from the dating and personal development sphere. The podcast aims to help listeners navigate modern love and self-improvement with practical tips, relatable stories, and transformative wisdom.

Episodes

Can He Process the Breakup While Rebounding And More! Your Community Questions Answered Jul 3, 2026 1649 In this AMA episode, Eli dives into the Instagram mailbag to answer your most burning questions about avoidant exes, messy breakups, and the reality of the healing era. He tackles the ultimate question: can an avoidant ex actually process your breakup while monkey-branching into a new relationship? (Spoiler: Hell no.) Eli breaks down the neuroscience of heartbreak, explaining why your brain goes t
How To Get Over The Fear Of Rejection To Find Healthy Love Jun 26, 2026 1449 Welcome back to the Selfhype Podcast! This week, Eli is diving into the sweet, beautiful, and absolutely terrifying world of rejection. If you’re letting the fear of a "no" hold you back from your dream career, your personal growth, or filtering out that dusty-ass ex, it's time to wake up. We’re talking all about rejection therapy, having the audacity to take up space, and training your nervous sy
Rewiring Your Mind To Create The Life You Deserve w/ NASA Mental Coach Dani B. Jun 20, 2026 2932 If your knee-jerk reaction to conflict is to shut down or freak out, your subconscious might be stuck in the third grade. In this incredibly nerdy and insightful episode, Eli geeks out with Danny B, a certified aerospace mental fitness coach who works directly with the teams at NASA. Dani breaks down the literal neuroscience of how our brains get programmed, and hands you the exact blueprint to re
The No BS Truth On Healing: How to Bounce Back When You Break No Contact Jun 5, 2026 1349 If you just caved and texted your toxic ex, hooked up with him, or stalked his new girlfriend’s Instagram story—take a deep breath. In this solo episode, Eli is letting you off the hook. He breaks down why failure in your healing era is not actually failure; it's a completely normal biological response to losing your "tribe." Eli explains why beating yourself up is a waste of energy and challenges
The Independence Blueprint: How to Love Without Losing Yourself May 29, 2026 1149 If you have a history of making a man the absolute center of your universe and abandoning your own life, this episode is your intervention. Eli is breaking down exactly how to protect your independence without sacrificing a secure partnership. He unpacks the harsh truth that your partner is supposed to be your support system, not your cure—and if you expect him to fix your anxiety or loneliness, y
How To Use Joy To Rebuild Your Life After Heartbreak w/ SC Perot May 22, 2026 3645 What happens when your "perfect on paper" life suddenly falls apart? In this episode, Eli sits down with author and former corporate lawyer SC Perot to talk about surviving the ultimate life plot twist. SC opens up about the acute grief of navigating divorce during the pandemic—losing not just a partner, but her community, her house, and her dog. She explains how she traded her corporate blazers f
How To Do "The Inner Work" While Single (So You Don't Repeat Toxic Cycles) May 15, 2026 1096 If you are terrified of losing yourself in another relationship or repeating the same toxic patterns, this episode is your official game plan. Eli answers one of the most common questions he gets: How do I actually "do the work" when I don't currently have a partner triggering me? He breaks down why you can't truly simulate a romantic relationship while single, but how you can still prep your nerv
Disney Movies Ruined Dating And How Not To Be A Toxic Disney Princess May 8, 2026 1306 In this highly requested solo episode, Eli takes a hilarious, unfiltered look at the classic Disney princess movies that secretly ruined our dating expectations. He breaks down why we’re all addicted to a delusional, “fairytale” view of love—and how media propaganda has conditioned us to chase a non-existent spark. From dragging Snow White for moving in with seven roommates, to questioning how Ari
Stop Drinking Through Your Breakup: Unhealthy Coping vs. Actual Healing with Colleen Freeland May 1, 2026 2814 We all know the post-breakup urge to grab mimosas, turn up, and numb the pain. But in this episode, Eli and guest Colleen Freeland break down exactly why drinking through your heartbreak practically guarantees you’ll repeat the exact same toxic patterns in your next relationship. Using her own story of navigating divorce and high-functioning alcohol dependency, Colleen explains how outsourcing you
Can You Change A Man? (Why Dating for Potential is Actually Delusion) Apr 24, 2026 1062 Eli is dropping the ultimate truth bomb for anyone stuck in a frustrating relationship trying to "fix" their partner: you cannot change a man. In this quick, hard-hitting solo episode, Eli breaks down why dating for potential—when it's entirely one-sided—is just delusion in disguise. He shares his own journey of doing the inner work, revealing that he didn't heal his avoidant tendencies to save a
Proven Sign You’re Ready To Date Again And How Not Fall In The Same Relationship Apr 17, 2026 1345 In this solo episode, Eli is hitting you with the ultimate post-breakup reality check: when are you actually ready to start dating again? He breaks down the crucial difference between just "healing while single" and giving your nervous system the required time to fall in love with your own life. If you are downloading dating apps out of FOMO, anxiety, or the fear of being left behind, this episode
The Q&A Episode: Situationships, Rebounds, & Why He Blocked You Mar 21, 2026 2918 It’s time for the quarterly Q&A! In this episode, Eli opens the mailbag to answer the wild, messy, and deeply relatable questions submitted by the Selfhype community. He breaks down exactly why men use "gray language" to keep you in a situationship, the real reason an avoidant jumps right into a new relationship (and why it’s not a reflection of your worth), and why your ex blocking you everyw

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