Understanding children and teens by Judy Bartkowiak
Understanding Children and Teens is a podcast for parents, educators, coaches and therapists who support the emotional wellbeing of children and teens. Hosted by Judy Bartkowiak—therapist, author and NLP & EFT trainer—each episode shares practical, gentle tools for helping children manage anxiety, anger, low self-esteem and big feelings. You’ll hear easy to apply tips for helping your child understand and regulate their emotions, explanations of NLP techniques, reflections based on therapy practice, chapters from parenting books, and creative ideas using art, metaphor, mindfulness and play.
Episodes
How can you change a limiting belief?
Are you holding onto old beliefs that aren’t serving you?Are you identifying yourself by your belief ‘I’m a worrier’ ‘He’s shy’ How can you help your child change their limiting belief?How can you create a resourceful belief in your chil or teen through your feedback? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.subs
How can we apply NLP in our sport
Learn how to control those unhelpful thoughts and change them to helpful onesSilence the annoying negative words in your head.Learn techniques to manage pre-match nerves, frustration and anger, low self-esteem and feelings that you don’t want. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe
Applying the NLP Beliefs of Excellence to Parenting
The NLP Beliefs of Excellence form the basis of Neuro Linguistic Programming and a guide for us as humans to help us live in a positive way. I find them essential as a parent and my first book ‘Be a happier parent with NLP’ goes into these beliefs in much detail along with all the other aspects of NLP that can help us communicate better with our children and teens, understand and support them thro
Free promo code for my first audiobook and shout out for reviewers of Early Years book.
I want to give you a free promotion code for the audiobook of ‘Understanding children and teens’ and I would be hugely grateful for any parents of early years children, especially any starting reception in September to read even one chapter of my next book - Engaging NLP & EFT for Early Years. News too that the next audiobook will be from my first book ‘Be a happier parent with NLP’ so I’m going t
Free Promo Code for Audiobook
Although I’m clearly holding a book, this is a shout out for my first audiobook - ‘Understanding children and teens’. So if you are someone who enjoys listening to books then this is for you.It’s basically the content of the training course I deliver to students and it is essentially the Judy Bartkowiak method of working with children and teens so it is perfect foe anyone working as a professional
Why does kids' football bring out the worst in parents?
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My writing journey.....so far!
Sharing my writing journey and decisions about publishing. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe
How to give feedback to your children
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Sports mindset for young athletes
No-one wins every game, every match, every point. Failure is part of the process of winning. It’s an important part because we learn from it. We learn what to do better next time. We learn about choosing other options, being flexible in our thinking, trying another approach. It makes us work harder, strive more.Through failing and working through it, we get stronger, more resilient, but it isn’t e
Announcing the birth of my latest book!
I’m reading the Introduction where I ask you to ‘Control your controllables’ because it can be stressful for young athletes to feel responsible for winning when there are so many things you can’t control. I’m also asking you to think about all the benefits you get from your sport - confidence, resilience and managing feedback and emotions. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this w
Improve communication with your child or teen
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Explaining NLP to your child or teen
This is how I explain to children how their mind works! I explain that something happens, which we call the activating event. We then send this through all our neuro - our mind thinks about when this last happened, what they believe about this thing and then what it means for them, their internal representation. Then this is expressed through words and body language - linguistic and this results i
Talking about 'back to school' .....again
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Art Therapy for kids and teens
I’ve been using creative approaches to understand children and teens and help them express how they feel for many many years. In this podcast I tell you how this started and how it has developed, what it is and what it isn’t. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe
How to respond to your child or teen's angry outburst
Probably the most useful lesson from my NLP training as a mum - how to better manage my teen's angry outbursts! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe
How can NLP help you with your sport?
This is the introduction to NLP for Sport, the 10th book in the Engaging NLP series of workbooks. This book focuses on the sports' mindset and is for children and teens and also for adults. I hope you'll find it helpful for any sport and also for fitness and gym work. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.subs
How does NLP compare with other therapies?
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An introduction to NLP for parents
How can NLP help us as parents, what are the concepts from Gestalt, TA, CBT and Jung? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe
How has your own upbringing affected your parenting?
An exercise to guide you through journaling on aspects of your own childhood experiences to better understand how that has affected you as a parent. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe
Coping with overwhelm
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Understanding how your child or teen processes
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Take a chance. Make a change.
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Back to school for your kinaesthetic child
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What if you are already good enough?
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Empower your kids this summer!
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Confidence for Kids
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Crystals and kids - podcast
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Learning styles and why they matter
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Reading a children's story about anger
Leo has just joined Dreamland International. He’s angry and feels alone because his family have moved and he has left all his friends. Zafar has been asked to be his buddy and help Leo settle in but he soon gives up because Leo is so angry. He asks his sister Azeezah and her friends Wuraola and Nneka to help. They remember the anchoring technique from a school visit by Judy Bartkowiak(!) (read abo
Helping children with their learning struggles
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More about friendship
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Talking about friends with your children
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What if happiness is inside us?
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You are enough
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What do therapists mean by 'trauma'?
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Embracing failure and vulnerability
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Change is a process
Continuing the Logical Levels of Change and how to work with your child to consider making changes in order to fully align themselves to whatever goal they have in mind. Do the exercise on perhaps a minor goal first so they get the idea and then apply it to one that might be more important. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episo
Identity - who am I?
Becoming a parent is a huge change in identity just as children experience changes in their identity as they move through the school years, noticing how their skills develop, how their values become more established and how they become their own person. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subsc
Helping children cope with change
Does your child or teen struggle with change? Do you wonder why one of your children can cope with change and another can’t?Would you like to know some good things to say in these circumstances? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe
Two great exercises to manage low self-esteem
What is low self-esteem, how do we know when we have it and how can we use simple morning affirmations to start our day in a positive mindset, then track and monitor changes through the day by recognising when we catastrophise, generalise or distort what happens. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack
NLP Modelling - you already have the skills....
Modelling in NLP is the process by which we can acquire new skills either by observing how someone else does them with excellence or how we do it, maybe in another area of our life. It is based on the premise that we already have the skills we need and this is fundamental to how we coach. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episode
Introduction to NLP
Applying NLP to parenting, why learning some NLP tools and techniques can enhance your existing parenting skills. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe
Using metaphor to get your children talking about their feelings
Children find it difficult to explain how they feel yet we want to help them. Learn how to use their imagination and creativity to describe how they feel so you can better help them. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe
How to question your thoughts for help with anxiety
Your thoughts are not facts yet we react to them as if they are. What if, you took control of them, rather than them taking control of you? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe
Exam Stress
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If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got
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How to use the Anger Onion exercise with children
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Do you have a child who struggles with sleep issues?
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Do you feel heard?
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How to have a positive mindset in parenting - applying the NLP beliefs of excellence
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NLP Metaprogrammes - more about how your children process and learn most effectively
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Understand your child's preferred way of communicating
This extract is taken from ‘Empower your kids! A coaching guide for parents’. You can get your signed copy from the bookshop on my website or from your own bookshop, Amazon or The Book Depository. Look out for the next part which is about the NLP Metaprogrammes which adds a further level of complexity which will be really helpful. Bookshop This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this wi
Listen to me talking about how I came to write and coach
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Can you say 'no'?
As women, we find it hard to say ‘no’, don’t we? We want to be helpful, oblige others, be friendly and likeable. We genuinely want to say ‘yes’ but we can end up saying yes yes yes yes until we get overtired, ill, have headaches and maybe end up having to say ‘no’ from a place of weakness simply because we really can’t do whatever it is. What if we developed our ‘inner knowing’ such that we could
How to really listen
This is me talking about how to use clean language and why we need to add this tool to our parenting bag of tricks. It comes to an abrupt end as I was on my ‘writing hour’ at the time! I’m not clever enough to do any editing or add to it and in any case I’d really made my main points. One of the things I feel about what I do is to be authentic so here it is warts and all! This is a public episode
Going into school thinking of everything that could go wrong
Another of the NLP metaprogrammes is ‘towards and away from thinking’. When we focus on what we want to happen, what we want more of, how we want to be, this is ‘towards’. If we focus on what we don’t want, what we want less of and how we don’t want to be, this is called ‘away from’. Our mind wants to know what we want and finds it hard when we tell it “I don’t want to be worrying about what other
Do we always need to give our child a choice?
You may be familiar with VAK - visual, auditory and kinaesthetic but do you know the NLP metaprogrammes? I’m going to do a series of mini podcasts on them and this is the first - choices and process. Which are you? Which is your child? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe
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