A Love Language Minute
A Love Language Minute draws from Dr. Gary Chapman's years of counseling experience, excerpts from his live events, and his answers to listeners' questions to give encouragement and practical help and hope for the relationships in your life.
Episodes
Single Parenting
Many single parents are working a full-time job. If you only have limited time with your child, it's crucial that you learn their primary love language. This will make you much more effective in communicating your love to them. This will fill up their love tank.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Anger After Marriage
It's a given that you'll become angry with your spouse at some point in your marriage. Why, because they might not have lived up to your expectations. The first step in processing anger is to admit that you are angry.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Constant Fighting With Your Fiancé
All couples have conflicts, but shouting and arguing is not the way to solve those conflicts. Read Dr. Gary Chapman's book, Things I Wish I Had Known Before We Got Married for some wise advice.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Singles Interacting With Married People
If you're a single and feel like you're excluded from functions at your church, take the initiative to develop friendships with married church members. Attend as many functions as you can that don't exclude singles.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Spouse Confesses Their Failure
When your spouse confesses their failure to you, forgiveness is always the Christian response to confession and repentance.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The 5 Love Languages in Education
Teachers know that if children feel loved by their teacher, they're far more likely to learn from that teacher. This will have a tremendous impact in the educational system.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
You Don't Have to be Perfect to Have a Good Marriage
Do you have to be perfect to have a good marriage? No, but you do have to learn to deal effectively with your failures.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Marriage Discipleship Ministry
If your desire is to start a marriage discipleship ministry in your church, where should you start? With your Pastor's direction, find several couples with strong marriages to serve as facilitators for the group - sharing their years of wisdom with the young couples.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Preparing for Deployment
As your spouse is preparing for deployment, ask them if there are some specific things you can do to make them feel loved.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
We're Not Perfect
Most of us are willing to admit that we aren't perfect. Make the effort to identify ways in which you have hurt your spouse, then confess them and change your behavior.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
A Child's Love Language
If your child's love language is Gift Giving, that doesn't mean you have to give them everything they ask for. When you give them gifts, make sure they are gifts that you think will be helpful for them. That's what love is all about.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Starting Over
Is it possible to put the past behind you and start over? Time will not solve the hurts of your past failures. Healing comes when you're willing to confess your failures and change your behavior.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Different Love Languages
It's possible for us to speak someone else's love language but want to receive our own love language. It's common for most of us to speak the love language that best connects with us, but not always.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Incompatible
Your girlfriend thinks you're the one to marry, but you're not so sure. If you've been dating for an extended period of time and still are unable to work through your issues and resolve them, maybe it's time to gently back away.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
You Are Not Perfect
Most of us are willing to admit that we're not perfect. If you won't admit your faults to your spouse, it will build walls of separation in your marriage.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Confessing Your Faults
When dealing with conflict in your marriage, it's important to take a close look at what you contributed to the conflict. Even if your spouse is mostly at fault, be sure that you confess YOUR part of the problem.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Focus on the Past, Present and Future
It's important to focus on the present and future state of your marriage, but it's just as important to look back to the past. You must deal with past failures before you can put them behind you.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Combining Checking Accounts
It's normal for couples to have issues that come up when they get married. Finances is often one of them. Talk about it! Consider holding a weekly conference together in which each of you brings up one item for discussion. That will present the opportunity to bring up issues that concern you the most.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listene
No More Tingles
Has your relationship moved past the tingly love stage? Does it make you wonder if you're still in love? When you come off of the emotional high, you'll see each other in a more realistic light. Learning to speak each other's love language keeps emotional warmth in your relationship.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy info
Our Most Important Relationship
The most important relationship is your relationship with God. If you feel like your relationship with God is growing stale, try expressing yourself to Him in all 5 love languages. You'll be amazed at how that revitalizes your relationship with Him.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Speaking Your Spouse's Love Language
The best way to express your love to your spouse is to speak their love language. An example - if her love language is Acts of Service, cheerfully perform tasks around the house that are helpful to her, even if you don't feel like doing them.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Christianity is a Love Relationship With God
Christianity is a love relationship With God; but what does that look like in daily life? In Dr. Gary Chapman's book, God Speaks Your Love Language, you'll learn how He draws you to Himself when He speaks your love language.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Fiancé Is Always Checking Out Other Girls
If you're engaged to a man who constantly checks out other women, run! If he does this before you get married, you can be sure he'll continue to do that after marriage.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Does He Really Mean He Wants a Divorce?
When conflict with your spouse ends in fights and arguments, entertaining thoughts of divorce is real. The answer is learning how to resolve conflict. Dr. Gary Chapman recommends that you read his book, Happily Ever After.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How God Draws Us to Himself
God's method of drawing us to Himself is love. God individualizes His expressions of love. He knows and speaks YOUR love language!Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Loving the Unlovely
There's a lot of unlovely people in this world. One of them might be your spouse. As difficult as it is, the most powerful thing you can do is to love your unlovely spouse.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
We love God by Loving Others
Jesus said, "As often as you do it, you do it unto me". How you express your love to others will depend on your own love language.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Not Allowed to See Your Grandchildren
If depriving your parents from seeing their grandchild is because you're unwilling to forgive, you need help! Life is too short to live with broken relationships. Consider reading Dr. Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages of Apology.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Love Languages While Deployed
The good new is, all 5 love languages can be spoken long distance. Expressing them verbally or in written form can communicate your love while separated.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The Greatest Commandment
What is the greatest commandment of all? - to love God with all our heart, soul and mind. We love God because He first loved us. And God has expressed His love to each of us in our own primary love language.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Loving the Unlovely
It's easy to love someone who's lovely, but not so easy when they are unlovely. Jesus said we are to love and bless our enemies.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Criticizing Each Other
Why do Christians some times criticize each other? The way we express our love for God is usually different from the way someone else does. It's an indicator of what our love language is. Neither is right or wrong - just different.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Children from a Different Marriage
Second marriages are difficult, especially when your new spouse has children from a previous marriage. Until that child becomes an adult, your spouse will always have some contact with the mother of that child.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Same Love Language?
Wouldn't it be easier if couples shared the same love language? Yes, but there are often dialects within the same language. So although you share the same love language, you still need to learn the nuances of each other's love language.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
God uses People to Reach People
God uses people to reach people. He has demonstrated His love through Christ's sacrifice for us. But He has also chosen you to express His love to others in their own love language.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Active Listening
Listening to each other is critical to a healthy marriage. A spouse might often say something but mean something else. Ask questions. Their response to your questions might clarify what they really meant.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How do you Know God Loves You?
How do you know God loves you? In human relationships, we feel loved when the other person speaks to us in our love language. The same is true with God. Learn more by reading Dr. Gary Chapman's book, God Speaks Your Love Language.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dating Couples Fighting
All couples will have conflicts. Learning how to solve conflicts without arguing is key. It's essential for a healthy marriage. Learn how to listen to each other with empathy and respect.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Hidden Vices
You've discovered that your husband has been using drugs and gambling. Now what? Confront your husband with tough love. Let him know that you love him too much to allow this to go on. Seek counseling for him if he's willing.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Love flows from God
It's amazing that God would want to have a relationship with us! God expresses His love for us in our own love language so that we'll know in our hearts that He loves us.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Prayer as a Communication Tool
Prayer is an effective communication tool in a marriage. When married couples pray together, they're drawn more closely to each other and to God.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Stop Preaching and Start Teaching
When your child becomes a teenager, it's time to stop preaching and start teaching. Teach your teen in a conversational style because it's much more effective than preaching at them. Preaching at your teen will drive them to go elsewhere for advice.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Why Some Long-term Dating Relationships Fail
A long-term dating relationship may fail. Why?, because the "in love" feelings wear off. Dating couples should learn to speak each other's love language in order to keep their love alive.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Abuser Blames the Abused
Domestic abusers often blame their spouse. Scripture teaches us to love our enemies. However, love can be expressed by saying "I love you too much to allow you to continue this abuse". Move out if necessary until the abuser gets their anger under control.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Learn Your Child's Love Language
Listen to your child's requests, and you'll discover their love language.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Overcoming Barriers in Communication
If you're frustrated about the lack of good communication with your spouse, ask them if they would be willing to read a book with you about how you can improve communication between the two of you.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Long-distance Relationship Challenges
What do you do when your husband's love language is physical touch but he's currently deployed? Look for creative ways to give an emotional touch while apart.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Learning Your Child's Love Language
How do you learn your child's love language? - observe how they express love to others. Children love others in the language they wish to receive.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Barriers to Good Communication
When one spouse talks all the time and the other spouse rarely talks, good communication won't happen. Listening to each other is just as important as talking.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Goals in Parenting
One of the most important goals in parenting is to make sure your children grow up feeling loved. If your children are secure in your love, they'll be far more responsive to your teaching and training.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
When Your Child Drives You Crazy
Your child drives you crazy. What can you do? The very first thing you can do is make sure they feel loved. The only way they'll feel loved is if you show them love in their own love language.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
When Your Spouse Makes Comments About Other Good-looking Women
It's not appropriate for a husband to make comments about other beautiful women in front of you. Remind him that he's married to you and his attention should be focused on you.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
You Can't Treat All Your Children the Same
What makes one child feel loved doesn't necessarily make the other child feel loved. Each one has an emotional love tank. One has a larger or smaller tank one than the other. Spend the appropriate amount of time to fill each love tank to the brim.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Barriers to Communication
If communication between spouses is practically nonexistent, make an effort to talk to your spouse about things they're interested in. Often times, they'll begin to open up.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Teaching Children Obedience
How do you teach your child obedience? State the rules clearly, and explain the consequences clearly. Then, in kindness and firmness, administer the consequences.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
A Growing Marriage While Apart
Having a growing marriage is extremely difficult when their work requires being separated for long periods of time.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Premarital Sex
Will premarital sex help a couple in the dating phase of their relationship? NO. If either of them breaks off the relationship, they'll be left with extreme emotional pain and guilt.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Walking Out
When Christian couples walk out on each other, it stems from one of three problems: 1. Lack of an intimate relationship with God; 2. Lack of an intimate relationship with your spouse; or 3. Lack of an intimate understanding and acceptance of one's self.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Barriers to Communication
You waste your energy when you argue, trying to convince the other person that you're right and they're wrong. That will never work. Instead, try to find some middle ground where you both can agree.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Quality Time With Your Teen
In this busy world, many parent find it difficult to spend quality time with their teenagers. Without focused attention, a teenager experiences increased anxiety because they feel everything else is more important that they are. That leaves their love tank empty.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Apologizing
When your spouse refuses to apologize, it makes it difficult to deal with the hurt. The Bible teaches that when someone sins against you, confront them. If they repent, forgive them.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Living Together Before Getting Married
Couples that live together before getting married are no better prepared for marriage than those who did not. In fact, their divorce rate is even higher.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Separation and Divorce
Separation doesn't necessarily lead to divorce. Separation forces us to admit we have serious problems. When we examine divorce, we realize that divorce doesn't solve anything. In fact, it creates more problems. The best of our options is to seek reconciliation.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Barriers to Communication
Since every married couple has different thoughts and feelings, there will be barriers to good communication. The best way to break down those barriers is to Listen!Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Memories of Premarital Sex
What can you do if you're married but can't get rid of the memories of your premarital sex? Confess your past sin to God and your wife, then picture the blood of Christ flowing over your sin and hiding it from your sight.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Alcohol Addiction
It's not unusual for a spouse to be an alcoholic but doesn't think they have a problem. Are you in this situation? Choose to show them your tender love. At the same time, you can exercise tough love by insisting on seeking out good counseling.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Does Separation Equal Divorce?
Does Separation equal Divorce? Not necessarily. Separation can be a time of tremendous growth. Take this time to consider the choices and actions that caused your separation and choose to make the necessary changes. With God's help, this might lead to reconciliation instead of divorce.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy in
Communication in Marriage
Listening is the key to good communication. If you listen to your spouse and try to understand their thoughts and feelings, your marriage will thrive.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Silent Spouse
If you have a silent husband, have you ever wondered why? If you're quick to criticize his ideas, he might just shut down. Your criticism will strike at the heart of his self esteem.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Obstacles to Getting Married
You and your fiancé want to get married and are applying for grad school. This might pose some challenges to your marriage. Dr. Gary Chapman recommends postponing your marriage until you both accomplish your academic goals.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Products of Divorce
Are you and your spouse the products of divorce? Having experienced growing up in a home where your parents divorced, your goal should be to never put your own children in that same situation. The key is to get a clear picture of what a healthy family looks like.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Person of Value
Behind every verbally abusive tongue is a person of value. If you can focus on their worth rather than on their abuse, perhaps you can be God's instrument to bring healing.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Intimacy in Marriage
There's something about the way we're made that cries out for intimacy. God designed marriage to be the most intimate of all human relationships.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Verbal Abuse
Those who verbally abuse their spouse are saying more about their own needs rather than their spouse's character.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Fireworks in Your Marriage
Are there fireworks in your marriage - the fireworks of romantic love? When you speak your spouse's love language, you'll touch their heart.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The Way of Love
Our mission is to make disciples. The best method to use is to love them.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Communicating With a Past Girlfriend
If you're married, it's never wise to try to reconnect with your past girlfriends. You'll be jeopardizing the commitment you made to your spouse.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Music Takes Me Back
We often connect past relationships to the music of that era. If you're married now, it's probably wise not to listen to that music any more. Then you probably won't relive those memories and be drawn away from your spouse.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Confession Before Forgiveness
Confession should ideally precede forgiveness. But if someone has sinned against you and has never confessed, ask God to help you forgive them anyway. This will allow you to rid yourself of the sin of bitterness.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
He Says You're Not Attractive
It's deeply hurtful for a husband to tells his wife that she's not attractive. His unkind comments are more than physical - they're emotional. Ask him if he feels loved by you. Learn his love language to connect more deeply with him.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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