Talk About Gay Sex TAGSPODCAST

EP 800: 800 Episodes of Gay Sex! How We've Changed, Grown & Evolved Oct 13, 2026 00:57:36 How PrEP has transformed gay sex, sexual freedom, and our attitudes toward HIV prevention. How our own sexual identities, desires, and confidence have evolved. Changing perspectives on monogamy, open relationships, jealousy, and communication. What we've learned about love, intimacy, and what we really want from a partner. Body image, aging, sexual roles, and the freedom to reinvent our

EP 799: Living Out Loud with RAYSHARD + Kodi's Wild & Sexy RU5H Cruise Confessions Oct 8, 2026 01:00:14 In this episode: Meet RAYSHARD and discover his remarkable journey of radical reinvention. Walking away from stability to pursue a creative dream and live authentically. Being a Black gay independent artist and finding your voice in today's world. Queer love, marriage, and living unapologetically with husband Jay. The inspiration behind My Way, Vol. 1 and his Happy Pride… Stay Gay Tour.

Where Gay Men Find Home + Your Messiest Sex & Relationship Questions EP 798 Oct 6, 2026 00:46:35 In this episode: Where Steve and Lincoln first felt at home after coming out Why gay spaces can become much more than places to drink or hook up Finding community, belonging and chosen family Sex and relationship dilemmas Communicating what you actually want Navigating expectations in dating, hookups and relationships Steve and Lincoln dispense some very unofficial gay advice And

We’re Open… But What Does That Actually Mean? EP 797 Oct 1, 2026 01:01:41 Why open doesn’t mean “anything goes” The difference between rules, agreements and boundaries Asking permission vs. simply giving your partner a heads-up Whether jealousy automatically means something is wrong Sexual intimacy vs. emotional intimacy When a repeat hookup starts becoming something more Whether “don’t catch feelings” is even a realistic rule What responsibility open c

Are We De-Gaying Ourselves? From Naked Men on the Wall to Folsom EP 796 Sep 30, 2026 00:57:09 What does it actually mean to “de-gay” your home? Would you remove homoerotic artwork when family comes over? Is nude male art treated differently than female nudity? Where is the line between art, erotica and porn? Being considerate of guests vs. censoring yourself Kodi’s first impressions of Folsom Street Fair What surprised him most about leather and BDSM culture Kink as sexual

Season’s Breedings: Brad Ouellette Turns Queer Desire Into Pop Art EP 795 Sep 24, 2026 01:00:42 We get into: How Brad’s background and personal journey shaped him as an artist The origins of Season’s Breedings and that unforgettable name Turning homoerotic imagery into playful queer pop art Where sexuality, humor and fantasy intersect in his work Celebrating the male body without apologizing for desire Creating art specifically through a queer gaze How Brad develops his charac

Leather, Rain and the Statue of Liberty: Why Showing Up Matters EP 794 Sep 22, 2026 00:58:52 In this episode: Why imperfect plans can sometimes create the most memorable experiences The fellow partygoer who declared, “We’re the real New Yorkers—we showed up” Leather, exposed ass cheeks and dancing through uncertain weather The surprisingly meaningful conversations Steve had with gay men throughout the boat Why even the busiest among us still need time for pleasure, release and

Hank Social: Kink, Community and Connection Beyond the Hookup EP 793 Sep 17, 2026 00:58:52 Also discussed: Why Hank Social was created and what was missing from existing gay apps The difference between a social community and a traditional hookup platform Creating spaces for leather, pups, rubber, gear and other fetish communities Balancing sexual expression with friendship, education and genuine connection Privacy and discretion for men who may not be publicly open about thei

Too Old for the Sauna? Gay Ageism, Sexual Energy & the 55+ Insult EP 792 Sep 15, 2026 00:52:11 In this episode: The controversial “no men over 55” entrance policy Why describing older gay men as “more relaxed” feels so condescending Ageism and the obsession with youth in gay male spaces Why energy, confidence and sexual vitality do not have an expiration date The difference between creating a specific atmosphere and outright discrimination The sauna’s avatar game and its attemp

Drunk, Glamorous and Full of Stories with Maria Van Cartier EP 791 Sep 10, 2026 00:58:56 In this episode: Maria Van Cartier brings the glamour, humor, and unforgettable stories. The importance of documenting and preserving queer history. How New York City nightlife creates community and chosen family. Making space for the stories of Black and Brown queer people. What it means to live—and age—openly and unapologetically. Maria shares the inspiration behind her podcast, Rem

Drawn to Desire: Inside the Erotic Art of Miguel Angel Reyes EP 790 Sep 3, 2026 01:00:09 In this episode: • When Miguel first discovered his artistic voice • Celebrating the sensuality and diversity of men’s bodies • The line between erotic art, pornography, and fine art • Creating intimacy and trust between an artist and his subject • Body confidence, aging, vulnerability, and being truly seen • The importance of preserving queer sexuality through art • What Miguel saw—and captured—w

Where Have All the Tops Gone? The Truth About Gay Sex’s Biggest “Shortage EP 789 Sep 1, 2026 00:56:59 In this episode: • Is the “top shortage” supported by real data? • Why are younger gay men more likely to identify as bottoms? • Do some men grow into topping as they gain confidence and experience? • Are there no tops—or simply no tops who meet every requirement? • The erection and performance pressure placed on tops • Why topping a partner can feel easier than topping a stranger • Porn, hookup a

Sorry, Just Seeing This: Why Gay Men Ghost on Grindr EP 788 Aug 27, 2026 01:00:17 In this episode: More hilariously vague Grindr phrases translated Why “not on here much” rarely means what it says The difference between losing interest and genuinely ghosting someone Why men initiate conversations they have no intention of continuing Whether apps provide validation even when no hookup happens The endless cycle of taps, photos, attention and disappearing Why possib

What Grindr Bios Really Mean: Sex, Vibes and the Search for Connection EP 787 Aug 25, 2026 00:56:50 In this episode: What common Grindr bios are really trying to say “Just vibes” and the language of emotional ambiguity Why sincerity on dating apps can feel suspicious The appeal—and limitations—of a Gay No Sex Weekend - actual group in the UK.... Whether sex and emotional connection actually conflict The difference between removing sex and removing pressure How gay men have histori

Why Are We Still So Horny for Heated Rivalry? EP 786 Aug 20, 2026 01:00:23 Why Heated Rivalry delivers more than just steamy sex The irresistible fantasy of being sexually and emotionally obsessed with someone Why yearning may be hotter than hooking up Whether dating apps have made intense romance feel even more desirable Women enjoying gay male romance versus men consuming lesbian fantasy The difference between admiration, voyeurism and fetishization Fan

Have We All Benched Someone? Dating, Backup Boys and the Grass-Is-Greener Trap EP 785 Aug 18, 2026 00:56:09 When does being genuinely unsure about someone become stringing him along? Are we avoiding rejection—or simply avoiding an uncomfortable conversation? Why do we sometimes want someone more the minute they start pulling away? Can you have a roster of casual guys without actually benching anybody? Have dating apps conditioned us to constantly look for the next best thing? Is being slowl

Gay Trauma, Gay Healing: Dan Werner on Breaking the Patterns We Carry EP 784 Aug 13, 2026 01:00:20 In this episode: What do we actually mean when we talk about gay trauma? The lasting effects of growing up feeling different or unsafe Shame, rejection, bullying, and the closet How trauma can influence sex, dating, intimacy, and attachment Seeking validation through sex, attention, and relationships Recognizing survival behaviors we've carried into adulthood Why healing doesn't mea

The Last Days of Hot Gay Summer EP 783 Aug 11, 2026 01:09:41 In this episode: • Leo energy, Lincoln and loving the spotlight • Why summer feels so damn sexual • Sex vs. validation: do we just want to be wanted? • Thirst traps, flirting and the erotic power of attention • Hot Gay Summer expectations—and sexual FOMO • Feeling sexy as we get older • Hookups, connection and end-of-summer reflection • The ultimate question: when nobody is looking, do you still f

Native, Gay and Unfiltered: Jon Reclaims His Story EP 782 Aug 6, 2026 01:01:21 In this episode: • Jon’s life since his first appearance on TAGS • Why he created the new podcast Why Not?! • His Native American background and family history • The intersection of Native and gay identity • Cultural community, chosen family and belonging • Living openly as a gay man in Oklahoma • Navigating HIV, misdiagnosis and healthcare • Finding queer-affirming medical and emotional support •

We Need Our Sexual Mistakes: Gregg Araki, Gen Z and; America’s Fear of Sex EP 781 Aug 4, 2026 01:03:31 Why bad sex and bad relationships can still teach us something The difference between a regrettable experience and a harmful one Whether Gen Z is sexually repressed or simply more cautious How fear of judgment is changing flirting, dating and intimacy The mistakes gay men commonly make during breakups Why heartbreak can be valuable information What today’s queer cinema may have lost

Level Up Your Love Life: Are Your Dating Skills Ready for a Relationship? Featuring Amari Ice EP 780 Jul 30, 2026 00:56:29 In this Episode: Why wanting a relationship does not necessarily mean you are ready for one The dating skills gay men are rarely taught Chemistry versus genuine romantic compatibility How anxiety, self-sabotage, and old relationship patterns affect dating Whether attraction can develop over time Becoming your own matchmaker Recognizing when someone is truly a good match Dating wit

Feral Summer: Naked Beaches, Cruising & Gay Men Gone Wild EP 779 Jul 28, 2026 00:50:27 In this episode: Why summer makes gay men feel more sexual and adventurous Naked beaches and the freedom of being seen Cruising in Central Park’s Ramble Curiosity about sex parties and group experiences Shirtless confidence versus body anxiety Working out for yourself versus working out for validation Queer spaces, community, and spontaneous connection Knowing your boundaries whil

Are You Ready for Love—or Just Repeating the Pattern? feat. Relationship Coach Lonay EP 778 Jul 23, 2026 01:02:01 In this episode: • Why emotionally unavailable men can feel so irresistible • The difference between compassion and making excuses • Dating while you are still healing • When someone’s trauma becomes harmful to the relationship • Why recognizing a red flag does not always stop us from pursuing it • The subconscious beliefs that influence attraction • How RTT and hypnotherapy may help interrupt rec

Can a Sex Club Heal You? Gay Men, Shame & Sexual Freedom EP 777 Jul 21, 2026 00:51:45 • Feeling completely unedited in queer sexual spaces • Whether sex clubs are less judgmental than apps and gay bars • Body confidence, aging and the desire to feel seen • Tenderness and connection during anonymous encounters • The difference between sexual nourishment and emotional escape • Consent, boundaries and creating safer sexual experiences • Why watching, socializing or doing nothing can s

Is Monogamy Over? Polyamory, Gay Content and; Dating App Burnout with Oleg Kudymov EP 776 Jul 16, 2026 01:01:49 • Polyamory and the changing definition of commitment • Managing jealousy, boundaries, and communication • Whether monogamy still works for modern gay relationships • Gay content as entertainment, visibility, and activism • Authenticity versus performance on social media • Dating app fatigue and the illusion of endless options • Why meeting people in real life still matters • Oleg’s perspective as

Sex, Reinvention & Starting Over at 50: Remembering Dale Savage EP 775 Jul 14, 2026 00:59:38 • Remembering Dale Savage and his late-in-life adult career • Why sexuality doesn’t disappear as we age • Starting over without apologizing for being “late” • The pressure gay men feel to remain young and desirable • Turning experience into confidence rather than regret • Dreams, fantasies and identities we may still be afraid to explore • Why the next chapter could be the sexiest one yet Because

Who Taught Us Not to Be Ashamed? EP 774 Jul 9, 2026 00:59:51 • Robin Byrd as a sex-positive pioneer and ally • Late-night cable as a form of queer visibility • Safe sex conversations during the AIDS crisis • Madonna, Confessions II, and gay liberation through music • The dance floor as a place of healing, sexuality, and freedom • How TAGSPODCAST has evolved over 8+ years • What gay men are still afraid to confess • Sex, shame, aging, kink, intimacy, and hon

Another Gay App Promising Connection? Honk If You’re Suspicious. EP 773 Jul 7, 2026 00:50:09 GOOSE and the promise of a “better” gay app Allegations around AI-generated or inauthentic promotional accounts Why fake intimacy feels especially insulting in queer spaces The difference between marketing, fantasy, and manipulation Dating app fatigue and the hunger for real-life gay community Invite-only culture, social status, and who gets to belong Why hookup culture is not the e

The Roles We Play: Public Persona, Private Truth & Gay Sexual Honesty EP 772 Jul 2, 2026 00:59:38 Topics include: Public persona vs. private truth When outrage becomes a brand Why “nice in person” does not erase public harm The roles gay men learn to play for safety and acceptance Performing masculinity, confidence, and sexual experience Bedroom roles, fantasy, and authenticity When sexual labels feel freeing — and when they become limiting Why honesty is essential to queer st

Sexual Confidence After Shame EP 771 Jun 25, 2026 01:00:23 Steve V. and Kodi are back in studio for a fun, sexy Pride Week follow-up conversation. Steve and Kodi continue the Pride Week conversation by asking: What happens when sex stops feeling shameful and starts feeling like yours? The hosts talk about entering their shameless era — becoming more confident, more direct, and more honest about what turns them on. The hosts talk about the founder

From Shame to Shameless EP 770 Jun 23, 2026 01:04:03 It’s Pride Week, and we’re talking about belonging — not just to a community, but to ourselves as gay men. We ask: When did sex stop feeling shameful and start feeling freeing? Steve, Kodi, and Sebastian explore how gay bars, Pride, hookups, leather spaces, chosen family, and queer community helped shape their confidence. The hosts get honest about sexual shame, body image, desire, kink,

Milo Miles: Banned at the Border EP 769 Jun 18, 2026 00:59:16 Milo’s experience being detained and banned from entering the U.S. The stigma surrounding adult performers and sex work How queer sexuality is still policed, judged, and misunderstood What privacy means in an age of phones, travel screenings, and public personas The difference between shame and accountability How adult entertainers build careers, relationships, and community The emo

Top, Bottom, Goblin: The New Rules of Dating EP 678 Jun 16, 2026 01:00:18 Hot Topic: Andy Cohen and Keke Palmer met their new beaus by putting themselves out there... Hot Topic: Adult Performer Drake Von is accused of strangling his girlfriend after saying it was a publicity stunt Hot Topic: Gay men sharing horror stories with their doctors and the hosts talk about their doctor stories... Hot Topic: Laverne Cox on losing work with this administration Advice:

Thee Rose talks about his short film "Artifice" about labels and identity EP 767 Jun 11, 2026 01:00:28 Poet, Director and Artist Thee Rose talk about his short film "Artifice" about where the inspiration came from post pandemic and how he uses his poetry to narrate the film. "Artifice" is based on identity and labels that the artist has dealt with... Attending Newfest helped Thee realize he had a voice and a story to tell How poetry and spoken word are the forefront for them Discussion o

Why We Still Celebrate Pride Part 2 Plus LGBTQ Film List EP 766 Jun 9, 2026 00:51:37 Why Pride is so complicated for some with big business showing their support one day a year... Pride is more than just one day and Host Steve V shares what it means to him and how he'll be celebrating... Gov. from Tennessee denounces Pride plus names it Nuclear Family Month... We share our list of Top 10 films to watch this Pride season Hot Topic: Adult Star Drake Von is arrested for as

Pride... What does it really mean Jun 4, 2026 01:00:03 Kodi and Teddy break down what Pride means to them Teddy recounts the history of Pride and how it is reflected in today's society The hosts discuss how they feel the community interacts in Pride celebrations Allies and how they fit into the Pride equation Hot Topic: A History of Dykes on Bikes Hot Topic: California moves to reinstate a lifeline for LGBTQ+ youth removed by Trump Hot

Between Love and Lust... The Ups and Downs of Casual Sex. EP 764 May 28, 2026 00:58:49 The Hosts recall their experiences with Casual Sex and "Friends With Benefits" What does the "Casual" in Casual Sex Really Mean? Shame around wanting more from the Casual? Are you Actually "Catching Feelings"? The difference between connection and Casual Hot Topic: Taylor Brown, Trans Director of NYC LGBTQ+ Office, Responds to Killing of Eryka Caldwell Hot Topic: Wilson Cruz & Johnn

1000 Partners: Myth, Fantasy or Gay Reality? EP 763 May 21, 2026 00:57:57 Viral studies/statistics about gay men having hundreds or thousands of partners have circulated for years Many are based on older convenience samples, bathhouse culture eras, or niche populations—not necessarily representative of all gay men Yet the stereotype persists because it taps into cultural fascination and fear around gay sexuality Why are people SO fascinated by gay male sexualit

Chosen Family, Ex-Lovers and Party Friends: Who Actually Stays? EP 762 May 19, 2026 00:55:21 When did you realize your friends became your REAL family? Did nightlife help create your chosen family? The hosts share how hookups became friends and discuss if this is a 'gay thing'... The hosts share if that have slept together before.... Friendships that have ended over the years Have we aged differently than our friends have - what's important to us could be different than our F

The Sex and Relationships that Changed Us EP 761 May 14, 2026 01:00:09 What experience changed the way you approached sex? The hosts discuss What made you realize chemistry and compatibility aren’t always the same? The hosts discuss Host Steve V shares how the BDSM culture influenced him and how it shape him sexually... Rupaul and Pedro Amoldovar have very opposing views. Rupaul philosophy is survive, protect your peace, avoid getting consumed by outrage, fo

F*ck Buddies vs Friends With Benefits… and What Happens When It Evolves? EP 760 May 12, 2026 00:42:27 The hosts share how f*ck buddies are easy to cultivate... The conversation switches to FWB and what are the traits that can lead to cultivating a good one... Host Steve V shares how his husband started out as a FWB but turned into a boyfriend and now husband... Host Kodi shares why he's looking for a FWB... Host Steve V shares a recent threesome with his husband and his former f*ck budd

Gay Smut Club Photographer Micahel Furfari Ep 759 May 7, 2026 00:57:27 Michael Furfari of Gay Smut Club and Gay Smut Studio explains his love of 'smut' photography Michael shares why he loves polaroids What makes a good model Why the bartenders, go go boys, staff make some of the best models What was it like working with our very own Kodi A new project that involves MOMA... Michael weighs in on why so many gay guys are fed up with gay dating apps and s

Loneliness Is Killing Us: Porn, AI and The Fight for Real Connection EP 758 May 5, 2026 00:47:40 The hosts share how A.I. is useful and if they use chatbots or not... If you could would you want a 'perfect' partner that said everything you want and mirror you? The dangers of our A.I. future discussed... Are we numbing loneliness instead of solving it? Has sex become a distraction from deeper needs? Hot Topic: We review "Devil Wears Prada 2" Hot Topic: Archer, the gay app is shu

Sex Tourism, Desire and The Truth About Why We Travel EP 757 Apr 30, 2026 00:59:05 Part 2.5 of Gays and Travel whether we feel more adventurous sexually or not this time focusing in on Sex Tourism What is sex tourism and did an article get it wrong? Is sex tourism taking advantage of a less empowered culture? What about sliding into people's DM's when on vacation for a future hookup... Would you take a sex focused ship cruise? We talk about the launch of RU5H: https:/

Vacation Energy vs Real Life… and What We’re Not Saying EP 756 Apr 28, 2026 00:53:16 There’s the version of us we talk about… and then there’s the version of us that comes out at night, on vacation, or when we think no one’s watching. Confessions = a recurring space where we say the things we usually don’t say out loud. They hosts share whether they feel more social and confident when they're on vacation The hosts share a spicy hookup story each from a past vacation...

I Feel So Free: Reinvention, Desire & Vacation Energy EP 755 Apr 23, 2026 00:59:51 There’s a new study saying gay men feel hotter on vacation… and honestly… we didn’t need science to tell us that. But now we’ve got data—and it’s kind of fascinating why. And with Madonna’s ‘I Feel So Free’—this idea of shedding identity, becoming someone new—it kind of lines up perfectly with this idea of vacation energy… Being in a new place = you’re “new” on the grid You’re not trapped

We Thought It Was Safe… EP 754 Apr 21, 2026 00:46:39 The hosts breakdown a recent raid at a private sex space in Dallas that had the cops instilling fear tactics and making a few arrests...what really was behind this raid... What is a 'safe space' actually and how much trust do we as gay men put into these spaces? Do younger gays actually know what a raid actually looks like as opposed to our gay ancestors? The hosts share spaces they've be

Hot, Healing… and a Little Messy EP 753 Apr 16, 2026 01:00:02 Have you ever been emotionally off… but still physically on Do you lean into sex when you're off… or avoid it? The hosts discus types of sex we have: Validation Sex, Escape Sex, Connection Sex and Chaos Sex... Dating while healing... can you date while you're working on yourself or healing? Fun Lightening Rod the hosts play about sex while working on yourself Hot Topic: Boomer Banks s

Work in Progress: Love, Mental Health and Sex EP 752 Apr 14, 2026 00:55:39 We talk a lot about confidence, sex, connection… but what about the days we don’t feel okay? What if growth isn’t about arriving… but about showing up anyway? Can we be a little messy… and still be worthy of love, sex, and connection? When do you realize you're not okay mentally or emotionally? The hosts discuss... Gay culture tells us to show up perfect—hot, confident, ready for sex. B

Evolving Desire: The Sex We Actually Want Now EP 751 Apr 9, 2026 00:58:36 The hosts share how their sex lives have changed or evolved over time using a backdrop of actor Rupert Everett who started having sex in his teens in the 1970's The hosts share their early years of what sex looked like post AIDS epidemic The hosts share what positions they liked when they were younger vs what they enjoy today The hosts share what's important and to them in sex today and w

This Is Me Now: Reinvention, Aging and Feeling Sexy Again EP 750 Apr 7, 2026 00:54:13 When your phone shows you old photos… what’s your first reaction? Do we romanticize our past selves more than they deserve? Youth obsession in gay culture (twinks → invisibility fear) Is sex tied too tightly to youth in our community? The hosts share what reinvention looks like to them... The hosts share what makes them feel sexy now... The hosts share a fun lightening rod of what w

Spring Cleaning Our Sex Lives & Relationships EP 748 Mar 31, 2026 00:53:01 The hosts discuss what they may be shedding this Spring...sexually, old habits and the things that don't suit us anymore. We Tried It… But Are We Still Into It? What parts of our sexuality and specific sex acts if any are we shedding and what are looking forward to trying... Sebastian shares how he's been living a celibate life for awhile but, does share a juicy 'rom-com' type of experience

The Daddy Divide: Power, Desire and Age Dynamics in Gay Dating EP 747 Mar 26, 2026 00:55:24 The hosts share how and when they embraced being a 'daddy' and what it means to them Fantasy vs. reality of what it means to be a 'daddy' Power dynamics that can exist from emotional maturity to financial security... Not all age gaps are unhealthy Are you rejecting older men… or rejecting your future self? When the dynamic of 'daddy' and 'son' doesn't work...we discuss Hot Topic: A

Age, Attraction & The Reality Check - Does Age Matter? EP 746 Mar 24, 2026 00:45:32 If you took age out of the equation… who would you choose? And when reality comes back in—age, distance, sex, expectations—what actually holds up? The hosts share their relationship age gaps Would you date differently if you didn’t know age? Do gay men actually embrace age gaps… or just sexualize them? The host discuss Would this series work for gay men? Do we have sex first and then

Open Relationship Expert and Host of 'Getting Close' Aidan Wharton EP 745 Mar 19, 2026 00:53:22 Follow Aidan Wharton on IG: @aidanwharton Aidan Wharton's Substack: https://gaybuffet.substack.com/ Aidan Wharton's Podcast: Getting Close We welcome Aidan Wharton to the show to discuss friendship, why it's harder to find true friendships that show up for us and find real connections The hosts and Aidan discuss nudes, 'close friends' on Instagram, managing them and how Aidan's nudes we

Gay Men, Aging & The Beauty Trap EP 744 Mar 17, 2026 01:00:02 What is looksmaxxing? Looksmaxxing is the process of maximizing one’s physical attractiveness through various methods, ranging from improved grooming and skincare to extreme, sometimes surgical, interventions. Originating in online "incel" forums, the term gained popularity on TikTok in the 2020s, with practitioners, often young men, focusing on optimizing facial structure and aesthetics. Do

From Hookups to Partnership: How Do Gay Men Build Lasting Love? EP 743 Mar 12, 2026 00:59:11 The more options people have, the harder it becomes to choose. The hosts share their personal stories... What makes someone stay emotionally? What actually creates lasting connection? We discuss how gay men are redefining what relationships look like often without children and with monogamy and open relationships... We talk alignment in a relationship and even when you find a partne

The Truth About Gay Dating in 2026 EP 742 Mar 10, 2026 00:45:37 The article suggests dating success today isn’t about perfect profiles or better apps — it’s about authenticity, values, emotional maturity, and consistency. But do those ideas actually match how gay men really date and have sex? Do gay men actually follow this advice… or do we just hook up and hope something happens? Have you ever performed a version of yourself while dating? We discusss

Mama Tits talks Prostate Cancer Journey plus the State of PV! EP 741 Mar 5, 2026 00:59:51 Mama Tits aka Brian returns to the podcast to discuss his stage 4 Prostate Cancer journey including being diagnosed just last year with no symptoms Meeting the love of his life last July and how they kept the relationship under the radar which was new for Brian... How Brian's man stuck with him even after the stage 4 diagnosis plus asked Brian to fight Getting back on stage as Mama Tits a

Too Much of a Good Thing? Sex, Scarcity, and Emotional Intimacy EP 740 Mar 3, 2026 00:52:26 Has app culture conditioned us to keep looking for “better”? Have you ever felt disposable after sex? Have you ever treated someone else as disposable? Does abundance make people easier to replace emotionally? If sex is easy for some gay men then why is it so hard to find and keep a lasting healthy relationship Has sex changed for us as we've grown older? The hosts discuss Is their

Turn On the Faucet? Is Sex Really That Easy for Gay Men? EP 739 Feb 26, 2026 00:57:36 “Being gay is like turning on the sink and water just comes out.” According to a a popular influencer is that Sex is easily obtainable...is it? We discuss... Or is that something only some gay men experience? And if it is easy… why does love feel so much harder? The hosts discuss when they felt like sex was more accessible in gay spaces... Is sex built into our gay community for som

Puerto Vallarta, Paradise & Reality — Queer Travel, Community, and Resilience EP 738 Feb 24, 2026 00:43:14 Its vibrant LGBTQ+ culture, particularly in the Zona Romántica, has made Puerto Vallarta one of the most beloved queer travel destinations in the world. For many travelers, it’s not just vacation — it’s community, identity, chosen family, Pride celebrations, and belonging. Messages from friends and family about the fear that was instilled in PV and what's next... “What’s one moment where

Why Love Is Hard — And Why Dating Is Harder EP 737 Feb 19, 2026 00:57:45 Today marks one year of marriage for Host Steve V and Diego! Relationships are hard but what makes them last? We discuss... Relationships don’t stay still they evolve hopefully and they should evolve We pivot to dating and how hard it is to move past a first date, ghosting, compatibility and more... Hot Topic: America's Next Top Model the documentary - we break it down Hot Topic: Jeff

From Darkroom Lust to Dawn Romance: Gay Love After the Grind EP 736 Feb 17, 2026 00:49:18 What if falling in love didn’t start with dinner? What if it started in a club, in a blur of bodies — and still became something real? Many gay men’s relationships don’t start with courtship — they start with attraction and physical contact (e.g., hookups on Grindr, at bars, in clubs). The hosts share how they met their partners... In the movie 'Paris: 5:59' Théo and Hugo meet literally m

Cold Nights, Hot Bodies: Gay Love in February EP 735 Feb 12, 2026 00:59:59 Does winter make you crave intimacy more? Does cold weather make sex hotter… or loneliness louder? Do partnered guys feel pressure to perform romance? Do single guys feel invisible? Have you ever scheduled a hookup on Valentine’s Day on purpose? Valentine’s Day can amplify: Body image insecurity Couple envy “Why am I still single?” Fear of aging alone Hot Topic

Leather Daddies, Queer Kink Culture, and New Movie 'Pillion' EP 734 Feb 10, 2026 00:55:52 How Pillion has reignited curiosity about the leather daddy archetype — and what that reveals about visibility, stereotypes, and lived experience in the broader leather and kink communities. We're talking about the premise of the Dom/Sub storyline as well as talking about the history of the leather community The hosts share personal stories of their involvement in the BDSM community and wha

Redefining Sexy as We Age - Outgrowing Old Versions of Ourselves EP 733 Feb 5, 2026 00:58:59 What used to turn you on that now feels toxic? How do you define healthy desire now? Have your patterns in love changed? What does ‘hot’ feel like when you’re fully present? What does sex feel like when it’s no longer about validation? Hot Topic: $350 per month for the new Edge tier on Grindr??? Hot Topic: 16k Floridians expected to lose HIV meds? Hot Topic: New data shows g

When Your Sexual Identity Evolves EP 732 Feb 3, 2026 00:56:59 Outgrowing Your Sexual Persona Who were you when you first came out sexually? The hosts discuss... What labels did you grow into that no longer feel true? What parts of your sexuality have evolved with age? What messages did you internalize about aging as a gay man? What does sexy look like now vs 10 years ago? Sex Work, Power & Self-Expression Hot Topic: The Grammy's! We breakdow

Reformat and Reboot: Resetting Our Sex & Relationship Patterns as Gay and; Queer Men Jan 29, 2026 01:00:18 What are some default settings gay men are taught? Chase validation Separate sex from emotion Confuse chaos with chemistry Avoid vulnerability Use apps for distraction instead of connection Treat intimacy as weakness Perform confidence instead of build it When our internal system needs a reboot The hosts share how they are rebooting both sexually and in their relat

Bigorexia, GLP-1s and; The Gay Gaze: When Perfect Isn’t Enough EP 730 Jan 27, 2026 00:59:29 We breakdown how some gay men are obsessed with being bigger based on a recent mini-doc "Behind the Bulk: The Hidden World of Gay Men on Steroids" The hosts share their own stories on their bodies, working out and how that has affected dating and more... “If anorexia is the terror of not being thin enough, swolexia is the terror of not being big enough,” narratively describing how these mir

Back in the Locker Room: Queer Sexual Culture, History, and Our Meetups EP 729 Jan 22, 2026 01:01:04 Queerty collected a range of reader replies about locker-room encounters among men — showing sexual play in communal spaces has been part of queer culture lore. These spaces historically served as both physical and emotional zones where queer desire could surface when other options were limited. Have any of you ever felt that gyms/saunas were more than just physical spaces — maybe sites of

Dating Isn’t the Problem — Your Nervous System Is EP 728 Jan 20, 2026 00:56:00 It’s not just bad apps or lack of flashy photos — the real challenge of gay dating is that many men carry early-life conditioning around intimacy, rejection, and safety, which makes closeness feel threatening. Have you ever felt simultaneously craving connection and bracing for rejection? Do you think apps reward detachment over vulnerability? Endless profiles = decision paralysis Swipe

Aging Gay: What Actually Matters Now (Health, Sex, Connection and Confidence EP 727 Jan 15, 2026 01:00:38 Aging as a privilege in the LGBTQ+ community The fact that many of us didn’t always imagine ourselves getting older Letting go of youth obsessed culture... Shifting from validation to self-assurance Does sex change as we age? Taking care of our gay health as we age...our sexuality makes our gay health unique Problems or issues that can arise as we age Aging as becoming more

Hot, Heavy and Heated: Why Rivalry Love Turns Us On (and When It Messes With Us EP 726 Jan 8, 2026 00:59:13 Tonight's Sex Talk is based on gay therapist, Brian Spitulnik's take on "Heated Rivalry" and how gays emulate these types of gay relationships which may not be healthy for us.... The hosts discuss past unhealthy relationships... Why we love watching 'Heated Rivalry' Intensity ≠ intimacy Obsession ≠ commitment Fantasy can be hot without becoming a blueprint “The love that changes you

Gay Sex and Love in 2026: Predictions, Desires and What We’re Leaving Behind EP 725 Jan 6, 2026 00:46:48 The hosts are back and share their holiday and New Year's recent plans The hosts share their sex and relationship goals for the new year... Predictions and forecasts for the new year in sex and relationships including: Deeper Connections in sex and love due to 'Heated Rivalry', App Fatigue, A.I., Meeting in Public, Sexual Health and more. Hot Topic: List of things stuck in rectums from t

Office Party Part 2! Year in Review of the Hottest Topics EP 724 Dec 23, 2025 00:59:41 The hosts share an office party they've been too.. We're reviewing the second half of Hot Topics in 2025 that made the headlines. Do they still hold up? Hot Topic: What's going on with Nicki Minaj? Hot Topic: Frankie Grande is confronted with a drunken man on stage... Hot Topic: Bob the Drag Queen is taking over! Get Steve V's new app Connect & Confidence Studio.com/stevev/connect

The Desire Audit: What Turned Us On in 2025… and What We’re Leaving Behind in 2026 EP 722 Dec 18, 2025 01:00:03 The hosts share a theme song that would describe their sex and relationships in 2025 Turn-ons that surprised us in 2025 Patterns we're retiring in the new year... Boundaries that we set in 2025 and that we will carry into 2026 The hosts share their sex and love lives in the past year... Rapid Fire of 'this' or 'that' in sex and relationships Hot Topic: PV is getting a makeover inclu

TAGS Office Party Part 1 - What Made Our Headlines in Sex and Hot Topics EP 721 Dec 16, 2025 00:49:48 The hosts start the office party by sharing their favorite personal moments of 2025 including some of their favorite sex moments... The hosts go down memory lane of the first part of 2025 sharing the top Hot Stories that made our headlines. There were many and we're reviewing some of the hottest. From the erasure of any mention of HIV on the White House website to the CDC erasing vital info

Connection After the Cum: Why Gay Men Stay, Ghost, or Pull Away After Sex EP 720 Dec 11, 2025 01:00:36 The Post-Sex Reality Check - what happens? Cuddling & pillow talk?? Immediate showering??? Ghosting???? Or Avoidance of intimacy????? We break down the new hot show "Heated Rivalry" and how the characters reflect a lot of our community when it comes to sex and intimacy... Can casual sex built real intimacy?? The hosts were talking about 2026 projections for sex and intimacy and now we're

Naughty But Needy: Gay Sex, Connection & Holiday Reflection EP 719 Dec 9, 2025 00:55:21 The hosts share their Best sexual moment this year Did more sex = more connection or less? Did we have more orgasms than meaningful eye contact? How holiday season amplifies loneliness and horniness The hosts talk about tantra as a doorway to presence Sex projections for 2026 are made! Hot Topic: Breast reductions are the number 1 plastic surgery for cis gender men but is there a do

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