BeThatHealingGirl Podcast
Listen up Girlies!! Healing isn’t just a (hot girl) walk in the park, it’s a damn journey. The BeThatHealingGirl Podcast is all about busting old school dating myths, breaking down our childhood traumas, unlearning our bad habits and healing your way to your DREAM LIFE! Let’s keep it real and begin to heal because honestly… eff that guy not texting you back, stop worrying about being liked, it’s time to let go of anxious attachment behaviors, start getting comfortable with being vulnerable and know your damn worth! So stop wishing you were her, join the journey and BE that healing girl.
Episodes
How You Are Ruining a Good Relationship with Self Sabotage
Hey Girlies! It's your girl Clare back at it with another episode of the BeThatHealingGirl Podcast where we're diving into the real and sometimes messy parts of our love lives. 🌟
This week is all about self-sabotage. Yep, been there, sabotaged that... especially with those sweet, secure types who just wanted to love us, right? Wondering why things seem to implode just when they're getting good?
Gi
Anxious attachment making up fake scenarios? (My brain made up an affair!)
Have you ever been convinced something was wrong in your relationship... only to realize later your brain completely made it up?
Maybe they took longer to text back.
Maybe they seemed quieter than usual.
Maybe one tiny moment turned into a full-blown story that had you convinced they were losing interest, pulling away... or worse.
If you've ever felt trapped in those spirals, this episode is for y
What To Do When Your Anxious Attachment is Pushing a Good Person Away
Hey Girlies! It's your girl Clare back at it with another episode of the BeThatHEalingGirl Podcast where we're diving into the real and sometimes messy parts of our love lives.
🌟 This week is all about self-sabotage. Yep, been there, sabotaged that especially with those sweet, secure types who just wanted to love us, right? Wondering why things seem to implode just when they're getting good? Girl,
The Real Reason Why You Think You Need Constant Reassurance
In this week's episode, I'm unpacking why reassurance never seems to stick and why asking for more isn't actually the thing that's going to make you feel safe.
One of the biggest mindset shifts I ever had was realizing I wasn't really asking:
"Do you love me?"
I was asking:
"Am I safe?"
And those are two completely different questions.
We get into:
✨ Why reassurance feels good... for about five mi
What To Do When Your Anxious Attachment is Pushing a Good Person Away
If you've ever felt like you're pushing a good person away because of your anxiety, or if you're caught in the same argument cycle every few weeks, this episode is a must-listen for you. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or even married and finding those anxious triggers popping up, I'm here to guide you through it. 💖
In today's episode, I get real about my own journey with anxious attachm
The Hard Truth: Why You Still Overthink (Even After All The Work)
You know you're overthinking... so why can't you stop? 🤯
You've read the books. Listened to the podcasts. You know your attachment style, your triggers, and exactly why you're spiraling...
...so why are you still spiraling?
In this episode, we'll unpack the hard truth that most self-aware women never hear: understanding your anxious attachment isn't the same as rewiring it. If you're stuck in the
Why The Good Times Still Trigger Your Anxiety
You had an amazing weekend together...
So why are you MORE anxious now? 😅
If you've ever caught yourself overthinking after things went well ("Why am I spiraling? Nothing even happened..."), this episode is for you.
In this episode, I'm breaking down why anxious attachment often gets triggered after closeness, why your brain starts scanning for problems the moment you finally feel safe, and how to
How To Survive The Overthinking Spiral (Even though you know better!)
You know they're a good partner. So why does your brain still act like you're about to get abandoned? 😵💫
You know your attachment style.
You've read the books.
You can literally watch yourself spiraling...
...and somehow you still can't stop.
In this week's episode I'm breaking down why knowing better isn't the same as feeling safe... and what to do when your nervous system goes into full-on surv
How To stop OVERTHINKING Relationships
Hey Girlies! It's Clare, your go-to gal for navigating the rollercoaster of emotions that is modern dating and relationships. This week we're diving into a topic that I know way too well, and I bet you do too: overthinking in relationships. You know the drill - analyzing texts, second-guessing feelings, and playing out scenarios in your head that haven't (and probably won't) happen.
In this episod
He Hasn't Texted You... Now What?!
Hey Girlies! Buckle up for a wild ride where I’ll be spilling the piping hot tea on all things love, anxiety, and healing. This episode is all about the down and dirty truth about anxious attachment (and how to start healing now!)
Ever find yourself obsessing over a text (or lack thereof) from Mr. Maybe-Right? Tired of playing the waiting game with your phone? I’ve got you covered! For 20ish minu
What Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle Actually Takes
You keep chasing. They keep pulling away. And somehow you're both exhausted. 😵💫
If you've ever felt like you're carrying the relationship, making all the plans, initiating all the conversations, and doing all the emotional heavy lifting... this episode is for you.
Because here's the hard truth:
The more you push for connection, the harder it can become for someone else to show up.
In this episode
What To Do With Yourself When They Feel Distant
They're busy, stressed, traveling, focused on work... and logically you know nothing is wrong.
But your nervous system? Your nervous system is acting like the relationship is on fire.
In this episode, we're talking about what to do with yourself when your partner feels distant and why the answer has nothing to do with getting them to text faster, reassure you more, or prove they still care.
Becau
The Reason You SPIRAL (Even After The BEST Weekend Together)
If you’ve ever had the BEST weekend together… only to spiral the second Monday hits?
This episode is for you.
We’re diving into:
✨ why the “post-weekend crash” happens
✨ why anxiety gets louder after connection - not quieter
✨ the hidden loop behind overthinking, decoding texts, and picking fights you don’t even want to have
✨ why reassurance never fully fixes it
✨ the difference between a relatio
Why you Feel Confident in Life But Anxious in Your Relationship
This episode is for the girlies who have the degrees, the promotions, the emotional intelligence, the podcasts, the therapy vocabulary… and still feel like they’re one weird text away from a spiral.
And if you’re tired of “understanding your patterns” but still feeling stuck inside them… I'm also sharing more about my newest drop... The Secure Love Lab! My new space for anxious overthinkers who ar
How to Stop Feeling Like You're Too Much in Your Relationship
If you constantly feel like you’re “too much” in relationships… this episode is for you. 🫶
Not because your needs are too big.
Not because you’re “crazy.”
Not because you care too much.
But because somewhere along the way, you learned that being lovable meant being easy.
Easy to date.
Easy to communicate with.
Easy to not disappoint.
Easy to never need anything.
So now you:
💭 overthink every conve
What "If He Wanted To He Would" Is Actually Doing To Your Relationship
“If he wanted to he would” doesn’t create clarity it creates pressure, testing, and a constant feeling of “am I being chosen enough?”
And that’s where the spiral starts.
In this episode, we break down:
💭 Why “if he wanted to he would” fuels overthinking and relationship anxiety
🧠 How this mindset turns you into a silent tester instead of a communicator
🔥 The subtle ways it makes you pull back, ove
Are You Testing Your Partner Without Realizing It?
Have you ever pulled back just to see if they notice? Waited to text… to see if they text first? Stayed quiet about what you wanted… just to see if they remembered?
Yeah. That counts as testing.
And if you’re doing this (even subtly) it might be the exact reason your relationship feels exhausting, unstable, or emotionally unsafe… even when your partner is actually showing up for you.
In this episo
What I Changed To Stop Chasing Constant Reassurance
We're talking about the loop today. The one where you keep checking: "Are we good?" "Do you still like me?" "Is everything okay?" And even when they reassure you… it doesn’t stick.
In this episode, we talk about:
💭 Why reassurance feels good… but never lasts
🧠 The sneaky way reassurance becomes emotionally addictive
🔥 How constantly checking breaks trust with yourself
🪞 Why asking “Are we okay?” a
How to stop getting anxiously triggered in your safe relationship
You know they’re a good partner.
They text back.
They show up.
They follow through.
And yet…
you’re still spiraling. 😅
You’re analyzing tone.
Second-guessing everything.
White-knuckling your way through a relationship that is actually safe.
And if you’ve ever thought:
“Why can’t I just relax when nothing is technically wrong?”
This episode is for you!
Because here’s the hard truth: somet
3 Things I Did to Face My Biggest Relationship Trigger (That Most People Skip)
3 Things I Did to Face My Biggest Relationship Anxiety Triggers (That Most People Skip)
If you’ve ever felt terrified that they might leave…
If a delayed text ruins your whole day…
If you logically know it’s not that big of a deal, but emotionally you feel completely hijacked…
This episode is for you. 🫶
Because here’s the truth, being aware of your triggers doesn’t mean you know how to face them.
You’re Self Aware So Why Are You Still Triggered?
You’ve done the work. Read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Saved the reels. You know your triggers… and yet somehow, you’re still getting activated. 😅 So what gives?
In this episode, we’re talking about the frustrating gap between knowing better and feeling better... and why self-awareness alone doesn’t stop emotional triggers or anxious attachment patterns.
Because if you’re honest, sometime
What To Do When You Start Spiraling in Your Relationship
If you’ve ever caught yourself rereading texts, overanalyzing tone, imagining worst-case scenarios, or feeling your chest tighten because something feels off... this episode is for you.
In this episode we’re talking about what to actually do in the moment when you start spiraling in your relationship.
Because spiraling in relationships doesn’t mean you’re dramatic, needy, or broken. Most of the ti
Why Working Harder Isn’t Changing Your Anxious Attachment
Let’s talk about something that feels productive… but is actually keeping you stuck:
working harder in your relationship.
You know what I mean.
You’ve got the notes app open in bed.
You’re rewriting the text.
Replaying the conversation.
Journaling it out.
Trying to say it the right way so you don’t sound needy.
And it feels like you’re doing all the “right” things.
Like you’re being thoughtful, se
What Secure Love Actually Feels Like
Today’s episode is a really special one because I’m joined by my dear friend and former client, Alyssa, and we’re talking about something that so many women with anxious attachment quietly wonder:
What does secure love actually feel like?
Not the Instagram version.
Not the “perfect relationship” fantasy.
But what it feels like inside your body when the spiraling, the overthinking, and the constant
Are You Overthinking… Or Self-Sabotaging Your Relationship
Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl Podcast!
Today we’re talking about something I see constantly with my clients...and honestly something I know very well from my own life too: the overthinking spiral.
You know the one. You reread the texts. You rewrite the message three times before sending it. You rehearse the conversation in the shower, in the car, before bed… maybe 12 times.
You tell you
Why Being a High Achiever Makes Relationship Anxiety Worse
In this week’s episode of the Be That Healing Girl podcast, we’re getting real about one of the biggest patterns in anxious attachment: trying to “project manage” love instead of actually participating in partnership. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the emotional labor… overthinking every interaction… or secretly wishing your partner would just know what you need without you having to sa
Why Valentine's Day Didn't Feel As You Hoped
Why didn’t Valentine’s Day feel the way you hoped… even though your partner is actually a good person?
In this episode of the Be That Healing Girl Podcast, I’m breaking down the real reason you felt disappointed after Valentine’s Day, a weekend together, a date, or quality time — and why it triggered doubt, overthinking, and questioning the relationship.
This conversation is for high-achieving, se
When You’re Worried They Won’t Show Up For You on Valentines Day
Worried they won’t show up for you on Valentine’s Day? Spiraling about whether you’ll feel chosen, loved, or disappointed? This episode is for you. 💔
In this week’s podcast ep, we’re talking about relationship anxiety around Valentine’s Day... and why overthinking romance, surprises, and expectations can actually block the connection you want most.
If you’ve ever:
- Wondered if you should tell you
Why You Overthink When Nothing is Wrong in the Relationship
If things feel safe in person but the moment you’re apart your brain goes into panic mode… this is the episode to save, replay, and send to your bestie.
In this episode I share:
✨ Why your brain goes into “red alert” even when there’s no actual danger
✨ What overthinking is really trying to protect you from
✨ How anxious attachment can show up as avoidant behavior
✨ The sneaky ways your anxiety be
I Didn’t Look at the Facts, and My Relationship Paid the Price
In today’s episode, I’m getting real about the moment I didn’t look at the facts and how my relationship paid the price. If you’re an overthinker, a scenario-maker, a “what if” queen, or someone who keeps searching for problems when there are none… this episode is for you.
Because here’s the hard truth:
👉 Overthinking in relationships isn’t emotional intelligence.
👉 It’s avoidance.
👉 And it quietl
How to Stop Trying So Hard Because You’re Scared They’ll Stop Loving You
Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! 🧠💘
Today’s episode is for the girlies who are exhausted from being the emotional project manager of their relationship. You know the one: the planner, the fixer, the emotional laborer, the one Googling “how to stop being anxious but still be lovable.”
If your brain tells you, “If I stop trying, nothing will happen,” and you're scared your relations
A Simple Way to Slow Down an Overthinking Spiral in the Moment
If your brain goes from 0 to 100 the second something feels “off” ... if you replay conversations, wait for texts, or feel that frantic “I have to fix this” energy... this episode is for you! In today's podcast I’m walking you through a simple, science‑backed breathing tool you can use right now to slow down an anxious spiral and bring your nervous system back online.
This is the tool I personally
Why You Get More Anxious the More You Focus on Your Relationship
If you’ve ever said *“I’m gonna be the BEST partner ever and do all the right things”… and then wondered why you still feel anxious, on edge, or like you're constantly spiraling... this episode is for you.
Today, I’m breaking down why over-focusing on your relationship is actually making you feel less secure, more anxious, and totally disconnected from yourself.
Inside this episode, we dive into:
3 Anxious Attachment Habits That Ruin Your Relationships Over Time
In this episode we’re breaking down the 3 most common (but sneaky) anxious attachment habits that slowly destroy connection over time... even in loving relationships!
If you:
- Feel like you’re too much or never enough
- Constantly overanalyze texts, tone, or timing
- Chase closeness, but end up feeling even more alone…
This episode is your wake-up call and your path to healing!
We’ll dive into:
The Fastest Way To Calm An Overthinking Spiral
If your thoughts are spiraling… If you’re checking your phone again… If your brain won’t slow down and it feels like your nervous system is in overdrive… This episode is your quick reset. 🤍
In today’s episode I’m walking you through the fastest and most effective tool I use to calm an anxious spiral (especially when I don’t have the luxury of sitting in it). This isn’t a long list of coping strate
How To Stay Grounded When Their Mood or Distance Triggers Your Anxiety
In today’s episode I’m breaking down why your nervous system reacts so intensely to your partner’s mood, distance, or emotional shifts... and more importantly, how to stay grounded instead of spiraling. This one is especially for my high‑achieving, high‑functioning girlies who are crushing it at work… but feel like they’re one unread message away from losing their peace in love.
We’re talking abou
Why Choosing Yourself Makes Your Relationship Feel More Safe
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What Happens When You Keep Saying "I'm Fine" When You're Really Not
You say “I’m fine”… But your stomach’s in knots. Your voice is quieter than usual. You’re spinning in your head while trying to act chill on the outside. Sound familiar?
In this episode, I’m breaking down what really happens in your body, your brain, and your relationships when you keep pretending everything’s okay… especially when it’s not! This is for the high-achieving girlies who can hold it a
How We Talked through Something Scary without Pushing Each Other Away
We’ve always agreed we didn’t want kids.
But suddenly, with a hysterectomy on the table…
I felt wobbly.
And there was this tiny part of me whispering, “If I bring up my 'unsureness'… is everything going to change?” In my past relationships, feeling unsure or changing my mind felt like a no-go zone.
I could be decisive and confident everywhere else… (hello career overachiever with receipts)
but i
Why Stillness Feels Unsafe When You Have Relationship Anxiety
This week, we’re diving deep into a topic I know hits home for so many high-achieving, anxious girlies: why stillness can feel so unsafe when you have relationship anxiety.
If you ever catch yourself spiraling because the vibe feels “off,” or if a little space in communication has you convinced the whole relationship is doomed…this episode is for you.
Inside this episode, I’m sharing:
✨ Why anxiou
How To Stop Over Giving And Still Feel Like A Priority
If you're constantly planning, smoothing things over, doing the most in your relationship while low-key wondering “Why can’t they just do more??” — this episode is for you.
💥 If you're a high-achieving, hyper-capable girly who’s exhausted from holding it all together in love, this is your sign to stop performing and start receiving. Period.
👀 In this episode, I break down:
• The sneaky ways anxiou
How to Feel Like a Priority Without Chasing or Being Needy
In this episoe we’re talking about how to feel like a priority in your relationship... without slipping into overthinking, over‑analyzing every text, or feeling like you’re “asking for too much.”
This episode is for you if:
• You know they care about you… but you can’t always feel it
• You find yourself checking for proof or reassurance
• You are tired of being the one initiating, planning, or emo
How I Accidentally Rewired My Anxious Attachment Into a Secure One
You're not needy. You're just healing! In this episode, I’m sharing how I accidentally rewired my anxious attachment into a secure one...without forcing it, faking it, or labeling myself as “crazy.”
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering:
“Why am I spiraling when everything is fine?” “Why do I panic when things finally feel safe?” …or “Why can’t I just stay calm in a good relationship?” This one’
How Being ‘Chill’ Can Push a Safe Partner Away (When You Have Relationship Anxiety)
Welcome back BBs! In this episode, we’re diving deep into a pattern I see all the time: acting “chill” when inside, you're spiraling. You know the drill...trying so hard to come off as the "cool-low-maintenance-unbothered-girlie" so you don’t scare a good partner away… but then end up feeling lonely, disconnected, or like they’re slipping further away anyway...
Yeah, we’re unpacking THAT.
We’re ta
3 Mistakes You're Making That Make You Second Guess a Secure Relationship
If you're in a healthy relationship but your brain won't stop spiraling... this episode is going to hit home. In this week’s episode I’m breaking down the 3 mistakes that keep high-achieving, anxious girlies stuck in the cycle of second-guessing even the most loyal and consistent partner. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking: “Why can’t I just enjoy this person?” “Why am I prepping for the break
What Happens When You Confuse Your Anxiety For Intuition
This week we’re unpacking the real reason your brain confuses anxiety for intuition (and how to stop self‑sabotaging a healthy relationship!)
If you’ve ever questioned your feelings, overanalyzed your partner’s every move, or convinced yourself your anxiety was a “gut feeling,” this episode is for you!
🧠 In this episode we'll be diving into:
✨ Why “the ick” is often a fear of intimacy, not intuiti
Why You Keep Mistaking Anxiety for Intuition in Your Relationship
In this episode we’re unpacking one of the most confusing (and exhausting) dynamics in anxious relationships ➡️ Anxiety vs. Intuition. And why your nervous system can't tell the difference.... yet.
We’ll dive into:
✨ The #1 way to know it’s anxiety (not intuition)
✨ How urgency, reactivity & spiraling feel like instinct - but aren’t
✨ Why you're addicted to checking the “emotional alarm syste
The Reason You Spiral Even When Nothing’s Wrong in Your Relationship
You’re Not Overreacting - You’re Dysregulated (Here’s Why It Feels Like Everything’s Falling Apart When It’s Actually Fine)
You’re not crazy.
You’re not being dramatic.
You’re just dysregulated AF and your body hasn’t caught up to how safe your life actually is.
This episode is for the high-functioning, hyper-self-aware girlies who are checking all the boxes on paper... but still secretly spiralin
You're self aware but still in the overthinking spiral?
You’ve read the books, saved the Instagram carousels, diagnosed your attachment style (hi anxious girlies 👋), and can spot a spiral from a mile away… but you’re still spiraling?! 🌀
In this episode, we break down:
💭 Why high self-awareness doesn't stop the overthinking
🧠 The "anxious observer" trap (aka when you know you’re spiraling and still can’t stop)
🪞 How spiraling damages self-trust and your
When Overthinking Is Your Relationship Coping Mechanism (and why it’s not a Solution)
Do you go to overthinking the second the vibes are off?
Scroll TikTok for answers before the text even delivers?
Google “anxious attachment + texting” like it’s your part-time job? Yeah. Me too.
This episode is for the girlies who know they’re spiraling and feel like they can’t stop—especially when they’re dating someone good. If overthinking has become your coping mechanism in relationships, this
Why You Keep Spiraling Even When You Know Better
✨ You’ve read the books. Listened to the podcasts. You could give a TED Talk on attachment styles. So why are you still spiraling?!
In this episode I'm talking to YOU, the high-achieving, emotionally intelligent girlie who knows her patterns but still finds herself overthinking texts, replaying convos, and getting caught in the same loop with the same person... again.
If you’ve ever thought:
🧠 “I
Is THIS The Most Toxic Habit of Anxious Attachment?
✨ Ever feel like your brain just won’t shut off... even when everything’s actually fine in your relationship? You’re spiraling, checking for signs, running worst-case scenarios, and overanalyzing their every move... but you know deep down, it’s you, not them. 🤯
On this week's episode we're diving into what might be the most toxic, but totally normalized, habit anxious attached girlies keep doing…
3 Things I Learned to Finally Stop Overthinking (after nearly 💩ing in a tent!)
After six weeks of serious inner work (including a spiritual cleanse and a solo wilderness retreat where I literally faced my fear of abandonment head-on), I’m sharing the three biggest things that helped me stop overthinking once and for all. If you’re the kind of girly who spirals over a short text... rereads convos wondering what you did wrong... or catastrophizes when nothing is actually wrong
How to Get Out of the Overthinking Loop for Good
If you spiral when your partner seems distant… If your brain won’t stop running “what did I do wrong?” loops… If you’re smart, successful, high-achieving, and still struggling with anxious thoughts in love… You are so not alone. And this episode is for you. 🧠💔
We’re unpacking 3 hard truths about overthinking that every anxious-attached woman needs to hear (especially if you’ve tried everything and
What I’m Still Healing (Even as a Relationship Coach)
Ever feel like you're doing all the inner work, listening to every podcast, journaling your heart out and still fall back into the same anxious spirals or overthinking loops? SAME.
In this raw and real episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing what I’m still healing… even as a relationship coach. This episode is for the high-achieving, high-performing girlies who feel confident in their ca
The Hidden Damage Overthinking Does to Your Relationship
If You Overthink Every Text Message… This Episode Is For You! You’re crushing it at work, you're a boss in life, but when it comes to your relationship? You're suddenly spiraling over why he took 6-hours to text you back or asking "are we okay" over and over again...
Then this episode is your soft place to land.
In this episode we’re unpacking the hidden damage overthinking does to your relationsh
From Anxious to Secure: Client Transformation with Karuna!
In this powerful episode, I sit down with my client Karuna - science writer, high achiever, and living proof that secure attachment is possible!
We’re talking full transformation: from spiraling over missed texts to feeling calm, confident, and deeply self-trusting in relationships (and beyond). Karuna shares the real, raw moments (crying in the shower, questioning everything, and wondering if the
The Truth About Feeling Like You’re “Too Much” in Your Relationship
Ever feel like you're just too much in your relationship? 😵💫 Like your emotions are too messy, too needy, or too intense so you try to keep them bottled up just to keep the peace?
Yeah… been there.
In this week’s episode we're getting into the real reason you feel like you're too much (and why it’s actually a sign you're ready to heal your anxious attachment for good!) This is for the high-achiev
3 Reasons Why Your Post-vacation Relationship Anxiety is Happening (again and again)
You had an amazing weekend... the vibes were vibing, the cuddles were elite, and the connection felt so good. Then you got home, sat on the couch, and suddenly you’re spiraling.
Sound familiar?
This episode is all about why post-vacation (or post-holiday) anxiety hits so hard (especially if you’re anxiously attached and dating someone amazing). I’m breaking down the threebig reasons why you keep f
What a Secure Relationship Actually Looks Like (even if it feels weird)
If slow feels boring, if calm feels confusing, and if your nervous system is low-key addicted to chaos.... this one’s for you.
This week, we’re diving into what a secure relationship actually looks and feels like (even if your anxious attachment says, “Wait, is this it?”). Whether you’re dating, in a long-term partnership, or healing from relationship patterns that feel more like rollercoasters th
Anxious attached with an Avoidant - Becoming Secure Together (Special Anniversary Episode!)
It’s our 6-year wedding anniversary (!!) and today I brought my husband Craig on the podcast for the realest conversation about love, growth, and the journey from spiraling to secure.
We’re answering your juiciest Qs:
✨ What it’s really like when anxious meets avoidant
✨ Our proposal story (yes, there was a backup plan involving a dog)
✨ How we almost didn’t make it—and what shifted
✨ Craig’s hone
Why You Think Its Your Fault in the Relationship (even when its not)
Still Needing Constant Reassurance in Your Relationship? Here’s Why 👀 . This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all together … but on the inside, you’re checking the vibes like it’s your full-time job.
We’re talking:
✨ Why your brain craves constant reassurance—and how to stop needing it
✨ The connection between high achievement & emotional hypervigilance
✨ How to bu
How To Stop Needing Constant Reassurance
This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all together (you’ve got degrees, deadlines, and the job)… but on the inside, you’re checking the relationship vibes like it’s your full-time job.
We’re talking:
✨ Why your brain craves constant reassurance and how to stop needing it
✨ The connection between high achievement & emotional hyper-vigilance
✨ How to build real self-
3 Reasons Why Your Anxious Attachment Isn't Healing
We’re unpacking the 3 big reasons your anxious attachment isn’t healing, even if you’re doing everything “right.” Spoiler: it’s not about trying harder… it’s about trying differently.
If you’re a high-achieving, self-aware, anxious girlie who still feels like a walking red flag in relationships, this one’s for you.
We’re talking:
✨ Why performing yur healing is keeping you stuck
✨ The myth of line
How She Went From Overthinking Everything to Feeling Secure in Love
Ever wonder what it actually looks like to go from anxious, overthinking, “I’m probably the problem” energy… to grounded, confident, and finally feeling secure in your relationship?
In this raw and heart-hitting episode, I’m sitting down with one of my 1:1 coaching client, a high-achieving, military-working, nurse-extraordinaire, who decided to stop spiraling overseas (literally!) and finally heal
5-Minute Pep Talk: For When Your Relationship Overthinking Kicks In
Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! If your mind is spiraling, your stomach’s in knots, and you’ve refreshed your texts 18 times in the last 3 minutes… this episode is your emergency toolkit! In this quick but powerful 5-minute pep talk, I’m giving you grounding reminders to come back home to yourself when your anxious attachment gets triggered.
This is the episode to save, download,
Reminders For When You Have Your Anxious Attachment Triggered
Ever find yourself refreshing your texts like your life depends on it? Or spending 10 hours doing two hours of work because your brain won’t stop obsessing over that thing you said? Yep. This one’s for you, bb!
In this episode, I’m giving you powerful (and surprisingly calming) reminders for when your anxious attachment kicks in HARD. Whether you're deep in a spiral or just know one is brewing, th
How To Stop Self-Silencing and Express Your Feelings (without the spiral)
Ever held it in like a champ… until you exploded over something small (but actually not small at all)? 🙃
You didn’t want to ruin the vibe. It was the weekend. You were on vacation.
You told yourself “It’s fine” five times in your head and then snapped over the way they chewed.
Yup. This one’s for you, babe.
In this weeks episode , we’re talking:
How to stop self-silencing (aka white-knuckling yo
Why You Keep Overexplaining (and Still Feel Misunderstood)
Why do we keep explaining... and explaining... and explaining — and still walk away feeling misunderstood (and kind of embarrassed)? 😵💫
In this week's episode we’re diving into why overexplaining is so common for high-achieving, anxious-attached girlies — and why it actually makes you feel less secure (not more).
We’ll talk about:
- How overexplaining is really a nervous system response (not just
How to build self-trust (after a lifetime of self-abandonment)
You’re the go-to girl at work, the one who gets it DONE… but when it comes to your relationship? Cue the overthinking, second-guessing, and constant need for reassurance. 🫠 Sound familiar?
This week we’re talking about one of the BIGGEST blocks I see with my high-achieving, high-performing girlies: how to actually build self-trust (especially after a lifetime of self-abandonment).
If you’ve ever:
Am I Triggered or Am I Right? How to Tell the difference!
Are you overthinking every convo, second-guessing yourself constantly, and wondering... “Am I triggered or am I actually right?” 😅 Welcome to the most validating episode you didn’t know you needed.
In this week’s episode we’re diving deep into that hot mess moment we all know too well—when you can’t tell if your anxious attachment is flaring up or if your intuition is genuinely trying to protect y
The Real Reason You Don’t Feel Secure in a Good Relationship
This week, we're getting real about the messy middle — where you logically know you’re in a good relationship but emotionally still feel anxious AF. If you’re constantly asking:
“Why isn’t this enough?”
“Why do I still feel so unsure?”
“Why can’t I just be chill for once?!”
Then this episode is your exact starting point. 👏
Inside, we’re talking about:
✨ Why the key to feeling secure in your rela
The Instant Fix for Anxious Attachment Triggers
Welcome to the episode every anxious attachment girlie needs in her back pocket. If you spiral when they don’t text back, replay convos 14 times in your head, or wake up with an emotional hangover worse than a tequila bender… this one's for you. 💌
We’re talking about what actually works in the heat of the moment — when you’re triggered, panicked, and low-key ready to throw your phone out the windo
Spot Hyper-Independence Triggers in Your Relationship
Let’s be real: you’re the hyper-independent girlie who gets ish DONE. You’ve got the degree, the business, the receipts. But when it comes to relationships? Your anxious attachment is quietly (or not so quietly) throwing hands in the background. 😅
In this episode, I’m diving deep into what I call the "Don’t need anyone but kinda wish they’d text me first" energy — aka the sneaky link between anxio
Mistakes in Treating Anxious Attachment Triggers
In this episode, I’m breaking down the biggest mistakes I see when people try to “fix” their anxious attachment triggers—and why those habits might actually be keeping you stuck in the same cycle. 🚨
We’re diving into:
🔥 Why being hard on yourself is making it worse (and what to do instead)
🔥 The sneaky ways perfectionism is showing up in your healing process
🔥 How to stop intellectualizing and act
Anxiously Attached to ENGAGED?!
Imagine going from spiraling over “Do they really like me?” to casually ring shopping like it’s no big deal. 🤯 That’s exactly what’s happening for my clients—and in this episode, I’m giving you the real tea on how they went from anxious to ENGAGED. 💍✨
If you’re a high-achieving, overthinking, lowkey-perfectionist queen who’s crushing it in your career but secretly struggling with relationship
When You Want More Effort From Your Partner
Feel like you're the one keeping the relationship alive? 😩 You’re planning the dates, remembering the little things, prioritizing them… and they’re just kinda there. So what gives? Are you asking for too much? Are they low-effort or just wired differently? And most importantly—how do you actually get them to step up without nagging, over-functioning, or feeling like you have to prove your worth? I
When It Feels Like You're Doing All the Work in Your Relationship
STOP DOING ALL THE WORK IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP 😤 (Why You’re Exhausted & How to Fix It) Ever feel like you’re carrying the whole damn relationship on your back? Planning the dates, making space in your schedule, keeping the energy going—while he just... coasts? Yeah, I see you, and this episode is for you.
Today, we’re breaking down why high-achieving, type-A women (hi, that’s you👋) often fall i
Stopping the Systemic Self Sabotage & Relationship Anxiety
This week I’m joined by Dr. Jeanine Staples-Dixon, a literal genius, tenured professor at Penn State, and someone who knows why you keep self-sabotaging in love.
We’re breaking down:
🔥 Why your relationship anxiety isn’t just a “you” thing—it’s a SYSTEM thing
🔥 How patriarchy, white supremacy & capitalism keep you chasing love & approval
🔥 The sneaky ways you abandon yourself trying to “wi
How to Feel Secure in Your Anxious with an Avoidant Relationship
🚨 Reality check for my high-achieving, anxious girlies in relationships with an avoidant partner… 🚨
Valentine’s Day can be a lot—especially if you’re anxiously attached and caught in the push-pull dynamic. The overthinking. The “are we okay?” spiral. The low-key panic when they don’t text back right away. Sound familiar? You’re not alone, and this episode is for YOU. 💌💡
In today’s episode we’re di
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