The Anxiety Recovery Podcast
Love doesn’t have to feel like walking on eggshells. If you’re caught overthinking texts, fearing abandonment, or shrinking yourself just to feel chosen—you’re not alone. Hosted by trauma-informed somatic coach and anxious attachment expert Valerie Rubin, this podcast guides you to uncover and heal the subconscious patterns that keep you stuck in anxiety, people-pleasing, and unfulfilling relationships. Learn how to heal your anxious attachment, regulate your nervous system, speak your needs, and attract love that truly feels like home.
Episodes
Human Design, Sales & Anxious Attachment: Are You Selling as Yourself or From Fear of Rejection? With Jackie Smythe
Have you ever held back what you REALLY wanted to say because you were afraid someone wouldn’t like you anymore?Or had someone say no to your offer and immediately thought, “What am I doing wrong? Am I charging too much? Maybe I’m just not good at this.”Oof. That fear of not being chosen can show up in your business just as much as it does in your relationships. 😅In this episode, I’m talking with
Binge Eating, Emotional Eating & Body Image: How Your Nervous System Shapes Your Relationship With Food with Stephanie Mara
Why do you sometimes keep eating when you’re already physically full? And how can you feel okay about your body one day, then hate what you see in the mirror the next, even though nothing has changed?This week, I’m joined by Stephanie Mara, MA, Somatic Nutritional Counselor, creator of Somatic Eating®, and host of the Satiated Podcast, to explore the connections between binge eating, emotional eat
How to Actually Flirt: Attraction, Chemistry & Dating Anxiety with The Flirt Coach Benjamin Camras
Why is it SO easy to flirt with someone you don’t really care about, but the second you actually like someone, suddenly you forget how to be a human? 😂In this episode, I’m joined by Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, to break down how to ACTUALLY flirt without performing, overthinking every interaction, or making your entire dating experience about one question: “Do they like me?”Because when y
Meeting Your Soul in Another Body: The Connection That Changed Everything with Ashley McCabe
What happens when you meet a friend and your body recognizes them before your mind can understand why?In this episode, Reiki practitioner and art teacher Ashley McCabe takes us into the exact moment she met the person she describes as “the other half of her soul.” She shares the psychic sensations, immediate knowing, and synchronicities that made this friendship feel like she was meeting her soul
The hidden signs of ADHD in Women: Anxiety, Overwhelm & Emotional Dysregulation
What if the anxiety, overwhelm, emotional intensity, and difficulty dealing with uncertainty you’ve been struggling with are actually connected to ADHD?In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I’m joined by Theresa Lear Levine to unpack what ADHD can really look like in adult women, especially the symptoms that often get overlooked, misunderstood, or mistaken for anxiety.We talk about why
Why you’re terrified they’ll leave: How to heal your fear of abandonment & anxious attachment with Sarah Shiffman
Why does the thought of someone leaving feel so unbearable, even when you KNOW you’ll be okay?In this episode, Sarah Shiffman interviews me about what’s actually happening underneath the fear of abandonment and anxious attachment, and why understanding your patterns intellectually often isn’t enough to change them.We dive into how fear of abandonment gets stored in the nervous system, why your bod
How to Silence Your Inner Critic & Stop Feeling Like You’re Never Good Enough with Marianna Durante
What if the voice in your head telling you that you need to do more, be better, or try harder isn’t actually helping you grow?In this episode, I’m joined by Mariana Durante for a vulnerable conversation about the inner critic, self-criticism, shame, and learning how to build a more compassionate relationship with yourself.We unpack what the inner critic actually sounds like in everyday life — and
The Psychology of Self-Sabotage in Relationships (And How to Heal It) with Livia Rismondo and Nathan Francis
Why do so many people say they want healthy love… yet keep ending up in the same painful relationship patterns?In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I'm joined by Livia Rismondo and Nathan Francis for an honest conversation about the psychology of self-sabotage in relationships. We explore why so many people unconsciously push away healthy love, chase emotionally unavailable partner
How to Heal Anxious Attachment Through Family Constellation Therapy & Generational Trauma Healing with Haile Tanner
Have you ever felt like you've always been anxious?Not because of one breakup or one traumatic event, but as long as you can remember, almost like you've "always been this way"?In this episode, I sit down with Haile Tanner, Family Constellation Facilitator, nervous system coach & emotional processing practitioner, to explore how anxious attachment, chronic anxiety, and repeat
How to Heal Avoidant Attachment (From Someone Who Actually Did It) with Alex Long
In this episode, I sit down with registered dietitian Alex Long to have an honest conversation about what it's really like to live with avoidant attachment & what it took for her to become more securely attached.Alex shares what relationships felt like in her body before healing, the fears that kept her emotionally distant, and why avoidantly attached people often care deeply but don't
Growing Up in a Dysfunctional Family: Why You People Please, Fear Abandonment & Struggle in Relationships with Andrea Ashley
What if your fear of abandonment, people pleasing, difficulty setting boundaries, or attraction to emotionally unavailable partners didn't start in your adult relationships... but in the family you grew up in?In this episode, I'm joined by Andrea Ashley, host of The Adult Child Podcast, for a raw and honest conversation about growing up in a dysfunctional family, healing from childhood emo
How Childhood Attachment Shapes ADHD, Anxiety & Adult Relationships with Erica Komisar
Why do some people constantly fear abandonment, need reassurance, or struggle to regulate their emotions? Why are anxiety and ADHD becoming more common? And how much of it can be traced back to our earliest relationships?In this episode, I sit down with child psychoanalyst Erica Komisar to explore how our earliest attachment experiences shape the way we relate to ourselves and others for the rest
Fear of Running Out of Money, Fear of Conflict, and Why Anxiety Needs Certainty with Kirstin Mitchell
In this episode, I sat down with artist and Shadow Mapping creator Kirstin Mitchell for a conversation about anxiety, uncertainty, and the parts of ourselves we spend so much energy trying to avoid.We talked about the fear of running out of money, why conflict can feel so threatening to the nervous system, and why anxious minds become so attached to certainty and control. We explored how our relat
Healing Burnout: Why You’re Emotionally Exhausted & Constantly Overwhelmed with Chelsea Horton
So many people think burnout is just “working too much.”But burnout goes SO much deeper than being busy or needing more sleep.In this episode, I sit down with burnout coach Chelsea Horton for a powerful conversation about the nervous system, chronic stress, emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, perfectionism, hyper-independence, and the deeper emotional roots underneath burnout.We talk about why
Why You Still Don’t Feel Good Enough (And How To Heal It) with Monika Aimie Greenfield
Why do so many people still feel “not enough” in relationships, even when they logically KNOW they’re worthy?In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I’m joined by women’s empowerment coach and somatic therapist Monika Aimie Greenfield to dive deep into the roots of low self-worth, the fear of not being enough, and why so many people exhaust themselves trying to be chosen, loved, validated
How to Stop Dating From Survival Mode, Heal Your Anxious Attachment, Embrace Your Single Era & Embody Your Feminine Energy with Jessica Charuk
There’s a conversation happening online about feminine energy… but I think so much of it skips over the nervous system entirely.Because the truth is:you cannot fully relax into your feminine energy when your body still feels unsafe in love.In this episode with Jessica Charuk, we’re talking all about feminine energy, dating, somatic healing, heartbreak, nervous system healing, anxious attachment, a
Why You Can’t Heal Anxious Attachment Alone (Rupture, Repair & Secure Relationships)
I was a guest on Lindsey Lockett’s podcast called Holistic Trauma Healing with Lindsey Lockett and this podcast was just too juicy to not also publish it on my podcast, the anxiety recovery podcast! What if anxious attachment isn’t something you heal by becoming hyper-independent, perfectly regulated, or never needing anyone again?In this episode, I joined Lindsay Lockett on the Holistic Trauma He
If You Can’t Decide to Stay or Leave, This Is Why (How to Trust Your Body & Intuition) with Becky Aste
If you’ve been stuck in the spiral of “do I stay or do I leave?”…overthinking every interaction, questioning your intuition, and trying to make the “right” decision from your mind…this episode is for you.Because the truth is — you’re not actually confused.You’re disconnected from your body.In this episode, I sat down with Becky Aste to talk about why decision-making in relationships can feel so ha
You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Anxious Attachment (How to Stop Overthinking & Fear of Abandonment in Relationships) with Mitch Webb
There are certain relationship patterns that just feel impossible to break…The overthinking.Waiting for a text back.That feeling in your body that they’re going to leave… even when nothing is technically wrong.And a lot of the time, people don’t realize this is anxious attachment — and that it’s not just in your thoughts, it’s actually living in your body.In this episode, I sat down with Mitch Web
Why they feel impossible to let go of (Anxious Attachment, Trauma Bonds, & Soul Ties) with Katie Blumenfeld
If you’ve ever known someone wasn’t right for you…but you still couldn’t let them go…this episode is for you.Because there are certain connections that don’t just live in your mind, they live in your body.The ones you replay.The ones that changed you.The ones that feel almost impossible to release… even when you’ve done the work, you understand your patterns, and you know better.And at some point,
Self Abandonment in Relationships: Why you ignore your needs (even when you're self aware) with Lorina Manzanita
You can literally feel when something’s off…and still not say anything.You know what you need.You’ve done the therapy.You can name the pattern as it’s happening…and you still go quiet.You still over-explain.You still choose them over yourself.If that’s you — this episode is going to hit.I’m sitting down with Lorina Manzanita (somatic intimacy coach) and we go into the kind of self-abandonment that
Why waiting for your partner to change keeps you stuck (& how to break this blame cycle in relationships) with Peter McLaughlin
Most people believe the reason they’re unhappy in their relationship is simple: their partner needs to change.If they communicated better… showed up differently… stopped certain behaviors… then everything would finally feel safe, calm, and fulfilling.But what if that belief is actually part of the cycle that keeps couples stuck?In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, Valerie Rubin sits do
The Hidden Link Between Anxious Attachment and Pregnancy Loss (That No One Talks About) with Sharna Southan
I recently had the honor of joining Sharna, the global pregnancy loss expert behind The Pregnancy Loss Recovery Method™, the only proven framework that addresses pregnancy loss as reproductive trauma, not just grief — for a deeply powerful conversation on her podcast What I Wish I Knew About Pregnancy Loss.In this episode, we explore something that so many women experience but rarely have language
From hustle to secure: rewiring your attachment to your work with Anna Holtzman
From Hustle to Secure: Rewiring Your Attachment to WorkSo many people think anxious attachment only shows up in dating.But what if the relationship that’s actually dysregulating you… is your business?In this episode, I share my personal journey from six years of chronic pain into becoming an anxious attachment specialist — and how I realized I wasn’t just anxiously attached in relationships… I was
Attachment Styles Explained: The Brain and Nervous System Behind Anxious & Avoidant Love with Dr. Stan Tatkin
So many people understand attachment styles intellectually… yet still find themselves repeating the same painful relationship patterns.Why do you still panic when someone pulls away?Why does your avoidant partner shut down under pressure?Why does the honeymoon phase fade even when nothing “bad” happened?Because attachment isn’t just psychological.It’s biological.In this episode of The Anxiety Reco
From People-Pleasing to Self-Trust: How to Heal Codependency and Finally Put Yourself First with Libby Sibert
If you constantly find yourself overgiving, people-pleasing, or feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions, this episode is for you. Many people don’t realize they’re operating from codependent patterns because it often looks like being loving, loyal, or supportive on the surface. But underneath, it can feel exhausting, anxiety-provoking, and deeply disconnecting from your own needs.In this
How to Heal Your Fear of Uncertainty (When Not Knowing Feels Unsafe) with Dr. Ray Doktor
If not knowing what’s coming next makes your chest tighten, your mind race, or your body brace for impact, this episode is for you. For many people, uncertainty isn’t just uncomfortable. It feels dangerous. The moment something is unresolved, open-ended, or unclear, the nervous system goes into survival mode: overthinking, reassurance-seeking, scanning for signs, needing answers now just to feel o
When Your Body Reacts Before You Can Think: How to heal Triggers Through the Nervous System with Courtney Osselaer
Have you ever wondered why your body reacts before you can think — even when you know you’re safe, loved, or “shouldn’t be this triggered”?In this episode, we explore triggers through a nervous-system lens and gently dismantle the belief that being triggered means you’re broken, failing, or doing healing “wrong.”I’m joined by Courtney, an Emotional Mastery and Self-Trust Coach, board-certified nur
Why You Overthink, People-Please, and Fear Abandonment: Understanding C-PTSD with Dr. Arielle Schwartz
Why You Overthink, People-Please, and Fear Abandonment Understanding C-PTSD with Dr. Arielle SchwartzIf you have ever replayed conversations in your head, worried you said the wrong thing, people pleased even when it cost you, or felt a deep fear of being abandoned, this episode is for you 🤍In this conversation, we explore why these patterns do not mean you are broken and how they are often rooted
How to Support a Partner With Anxiety Without Losing Yourself or Fixing Them with Cheri Timko
Loving someone with anxiety can feel confusing, exhausting, and lonely, especially when you’re trying so hard to be supportive… but nothing seems to help.In this episode, we talk about what actually helps when anxiety shows up in a relationship — and why support so often turns into fixing, walking on eggshells, or quietly abandoning your own needs.I’m joined by couples therapist and relationship c
Why You Attach So Quickly & How to Slow Down Without Self-Abandoning with Emily Dini
In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I’m joined by dating and relationship coach Emily Dini for a deeply honest conversation about why anxious attachment bonds so quickly and how to slow down without shutting your heart or abandoning yourself.If you’ve ever thought“I barely know them, but I already feel attached,”this episode is for you.We explore what’s actually happening beneath the
How to heal the fear of visibility with Anna Holtzman
In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I’m joined by Anna Holtzman, a visibility coach who works with sensitive creatives and entrepreneurs navigating the fear of being seen.Together, we explore what fear of visibility actually is — and why it’s not just a mindset issue, confidence problem, or resistance to self-expression, but a nervous system response rooted in safety, belonging, and p
How to break your attraction to emotionally unavailable partners with Chris Rackliffe
In this episode, I sit down with anxious attachment coach Chris Rackliffe for an illuminating conversation about why so many of us with anxious attachment feel drawn to emotionally unavailable partners. We dig into the early wounds and nervous system imprints that shape our adult attraction patterns, how self-abandonment becomes a survival strategy, and what it really takes to break the cycle of c
Why You Feel ‘Here but Not Here’: Healing Dissociation Through the Nervous System with Dr. Jamie Marich
If you’ve ever felt “here but not here,” numb, foggy, disconnected, or like your body quietly checks out the moment life gets overwhelming… this episode is going to land deeply.Today on The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I’m joined by Dr. Jaimie Marich — one of the leading experts in expressive and somatic trauma healing — to explore a survival response almost no one talks about, yet so many people liv
When Receiving Feels Unsafe: Healing the Overgiver’s Nervous System with Marina Triner
When Receiving Feels Unsafe: Healing the Overgiver’s Nervous SystemIn this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, Valerie dives into one of the most misunderstood trauma-responses she sees in anxious attachment:why receiving — support, love, money, care, ease — can feel unsafe, even when you deeply want it.Valerie is joined by Marina Triner, The Compassionate Somatic Coach, for a raw, nervous-sy
The Caretaker Wound: Why You Attract Men Who Don’t Lead (and Why Chasing Feels Safer Than Receiving)
In this solo episode, I’m diving deep into the caretaker wound — the pattern that keeps so many anxiously attached women stuck in relationships where they’re over-giving, over-functioning, and slipping into their masculine without even realizing it.If you’re tired of attracting men who don’t take initiative…If you’re exhausted from always being the one who holds the emotional weight…If you catch y
Navigating Anxiety, Depression, & Grief during the holidays with Danielle Zilg
The holidays are marketed as “the happiest time of the year”… but for so many people, they’re the most emotionally overwhelming.In this episode, I’m joined by Danielle Zilg, MFT-in-training and host of The Feeling & Healing Podcast, for a deep, compassionate conversation about navigating anxiety, depression, grief, and family triggers during the holiday season.Together, we explore:✨ Why the ho
The Hidden Roots of Anxious Attachment: Adoption, Preverbal Wounds & Somatic Healing
In this deeply grounding episode, I sit down with marriage and family therapist-in-training Danielle Zilg to explore the hidden somatic roots of anxious attachment — the ones that begin long before your first relationship, and in Danielle’s case, long before she ever had words.We dive into the preverbal and adoption wounds that shaped her earliest sense of safety, belonging, and self, and how thos
How to Heal Your Anxious Brain 10x faster Through the Body with Dr. David Grand
In this week's episode, Valerie sits down with the incredible Dr. David Grand — the creator of Brainspotting — to talk about something that’s changed both my life and my clients’ lives: healing anxiety and attachment patterns through the body using brainspotting.If you’ve ever felt like, “I understand my trauma, but nothing changes,” this conversation will show you why your brain and body migh
Why You Can’t Just ‘Stop Being Jealous’ and What to Do Instead with Becky Aste
Jealousy is one of the most triggering emotions in relationships — and one of the most misunderstood.In this episode, trauma-informed somatic marriage coach Becky Aste joins Valerie to unpack what’s really happening beneath jealousy — and why it’s not something to get rid of, but something to listen to.Together, they explore:✨ What happens to trust and connection when jealousy goes unaddressed✨ Wh
The Psychology of Self-Doubt (and Why You Still Feel Like You’re Not Enough) with Raquel DaRowe
Welcome back to The Anxiety Recovery Podcast 💫This week, we’re diving into a topic that even the most “healed” and high-achieving among us still struggle with — self-doubt.That quiet but powerful voice that whispers, “Who am I to do this?”That moment before you take a leap where your chest tightens, your heart races, and your mind floods with every reason you might fail.And even after all the ther
Are You Accidentally Pushing Your Partner Away? The Hidden Patterns That Kill Connection with 𝐒𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐩𝐚 Cacho
What happens when the same control and independence that make you powerful in the world start to quietly sabotage your relationships?In this week’s episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, Valerie Rubin sits down with Shilpa Cacho — a love coach and mentor who helps women shift out of control and back into connection, so they can inspire their partners to rise instead of shut down.Together, they u
The Science of Heartbreak: Why It Hurts Like Physical Pain (and How to Heal) with Deron Singh
The Science of Heartbreak: Why It Hurts Like Physical Pain (and How to Heal)Why does heartbreak feel like physical pain—almost like withdrawal? In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I sit down with hypnotherapist Deron Singh to break down what’s happening in your brain, body, and subconscious when love ends—and how to find your way back to safety.In this conversation, we answer:Why hear
The Truth About Complex Trauma: How It Shapes Love, Identity & the Brain (and How to Heal)
What if the very things you call “too much” or “broken” are actually your nervous system’s way of keeping you safe?In this powerful conversation with trauma expert Tim Fletcher, we dive deep into the truth about complex trauma (CPTSD) — how it physically reshapes the brain, impacts identity, and wires us to chase love that feels unsafe. Together we unpack:✨ Why a delayed text or a change in tone c
Emotional Safety Over Reassurance: The Secret to Healing Anxious Attachment with Chris Rackliffe
If you’ve ever found yourself anxiously waiting for a text back, replaying conversations in your head, or needing constant reassurance from your partner just to feel okay, you’re not alone. This is the reality of anxious attachment — but here’s the truth: reassurance alone will never heal it.What actually heals anxious attachment is emotional safety.In this powerful episode of The Anxiety Recovery
How to Heal the Fear of Being Alone (So You Can Finally Stop Settling for Less) with Stephen Terrell
Why does being alone feel so unbearable, even when you know you’ll be okay? Why do breakups or abandonment trigger such intense spirals that it feels impossible to calm down?In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, we dive into the hidden roots of anxious attachment: preverbal trauma — those earliest wounds formed before we even had language. These deep imprints can wire your nervous syste
Trust Over Fear: Overcoming the Spiral of ‘What If I Get This Wrong? With Danielle Bongiorno
Welcome back to The Anxiety Recovery Podcast! I’m your host, Valerie Rubin, and today we’re diving into a fear that keeps so many of us stuck: “What if I get this wrong?”You know the spiral — your chest tightens, your brain won’t shut off, and you second-guess every move because one wrong choice feels like it could ruin everything. Whether it’s love, career, or everyday decisions, self-doubt can f
Love Under Pressure: Dating While Building an Empire with Alexander Johnson
Love Under Pressure: Dating While Building an Empire with Alexander JohnsonWhat happens when the pursuit of building an empire collides with the desire for love? Can entrepreneurs truly have both — without sacrificing one for the other?In this episode, I’m joined by Alexander Johnson, founder of Mixt Solutions, host of the Entrepreneur, Among Other Things podcast, and a man who’s generated over $2
From Always On Guard to Finally Feeling Safe: Healing Hypervigilance in Love with Kieran Pollitt
Have you ever felt like you’re always on guard in relationships — scanning every tone shift, bracing for abandonment, or waiting for the other shoe to drop? That’s hypervigilance: the body’s survival response that makes love feel unsafe, even when nothing is wrong.In this episode, I’m joined by Kieran Pollitt, Transformational Alchemist, for a deep conversation on what hypervigilance really feels
“Can You Just Tell Me We’re Okay?” How to Heal the Need for Constant Reassurance with Thais Sky
Do you ever catch yourself asking, “Are we okay?”—not once, but over and over—even when nothing is actually wrong? Maybe you’ve gotten reassurance, only to feel that anxious knot creep back hours later. If so, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken.In this episode, I sit down with Thais Sky to unpack the cycle of reassurance-seeking in anxious attachment and the worthiness wound that hides underne
The High Cost of Pretending You’re Fine (and How to Live Authentically Without Fear) with Shannon Wooten
The High Cost of Pretending You’re Fine (and How to Live Authentically Without Fear)We’ve all done it—looked someone straight in the eye and said, “I’m fine” when we’re anything but. For many of us, especially if we’re anxiously attached, that mask becomes a survival strategy. We learn to perform, to be agreeable, to read the room before we speak—because deep down, we’re terrified that if people s
Why You Stay in Almost Relationships That Leave You Starving; Addressing situationships, breadcrumbs, and why ‘almost’ love feels safer than the real thing with Kendall Brown
Why You Stay in Almost Relationships That Leave You Starving (with Kendall Brown)Why does it feel safer to chase someone who won’t fully choose you… than to receive the real thing?In this powerful episode, I sit down with Women’s Trauma & Relationship Coach Kendall Brown to explore the painful cycle of situationships, breadcrumbs, and “almost” love—and why so many women with anxious attachment
How to let go when you're scared to lose control
Why is letting go so hard—especially for people like us? In this episode, we dive deep into why we cling, control, and grip so tightly in relationships, work, and even our sense of self-worth. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same patterns, even in totally different seasons of life, there’s a reason—and it’s not because you’re broken.Your nervous system craves familiarity like
Money Trauma: How to Heal the Hidden Wounds Sabotaging Your Financial Peace with Mark Harrison
Money isn’t just numbers in your bank account—it’s a mirror reflecting your deepest beliefs, fears, and unresolved wounds. In this powerful episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I sit down with finance coach Mark Harrison to uncover why money creates so much stress and shame—even for people who seem “okay” on paper.We explore how childhood experiences and family dynamics silently shape your rel
The Missing Piece to Overcoming Anxiety: Somatic Healing, Plant Medicine, & Finally Feeling Safe in Love + Life with Stevie Wright
Have you ever wondered why, no matter how many hours you spend in therapy or how much you understand your anxiety, your body still feels like it’s stuck in survival mode?You’re not alone.For so many of us, anxiety isn’t just a mindset issue—it’s a nervous system issue. It lives in your chest, in your stomach, in that constant sense of dread you can’t shake. And no amount of talking about it seems
When you love too hard and they pull away: Understanding Anxious-Avoidant Love with Lindsey Lockett
Why does it feel like love is always just out of reach? In this episode, I’m joined by somatic relationship coach Lindsey Lockett to dive deep into one of the most magnetic—and most painful—relationship dynamics: the anxious-avoidant loop. Together, we explore the real emotions behind “loving too hard” and the heartbreaking moments when the person you love starts to pull away.We unpack powerful qu
Relationship Conflict, Grief & the Ache of Missing What’s Gone But Not Dead with Chris Mamone
Today’s episode is one of the most tender, honest, and emotionally raw conversations I’ve ever shared on the podcast.I sat down with Acceptance coach & grief guide Chris Mamone to explore the kind of grief that doesn’t always have a funeral. The kind that creeps into your everyday life — when someone you loved deeply is no longer there, when you don’t get closure, when you find yourself in the
If You’ve Ever Been Called ‘Too Much’ — Listen to This with Amy Young
Have you ever been told you're too sensitive, too emotional, or just too much? Or maybe you’ve silenced your needs in love, hoping to be more palatable, more agreeable—more "enough."In this empowering episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I’m joined by Amy Young, a mentor and guide for women in the midst of awakening and initiation, for a deep dive into the fear of being “too much” in relations
The Hidden Shame of Identity: Healing Generational Trauma Around Being Jewish
What happens when your identity feels like something to hide instead of something to honor?In this raw and healing conversation, I sit down with Ari Kantor to unpack the quiet, often unspoken fear many Jews carry — the fear of being Jewish. The fear of being stereotyped, misunderstood, dismissed, or not belonging at all. Together, we explore the internalized shame passed down through generations,
What Your Body’s Tension Is Trying to Tell You (That You Keep Ignoring) with Dr. Mike Izquierdo
Muscles Don't Lie: What Chronic Tension Is Really Telling You — with Dr. Mike IzquierdoIs your body trying to tell you something your mind has been avoiding?In this powerful episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I’m joined by Dr. Mike Izquierdo — chiropractor, author, and nervous system expert — to explore the hidden language of chronic tension and what it reveals about unresolved emotional wou
Self-Sabotage in Relationships: Why You Keep Repeating the Same Pain with Nathan Francis
Why do we push away love even when we deeply crave it? In this powerful and eye-opening episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I’m joined by self sabotage coach Nathan Francis to unpack the hidden ways we sabotage healthy love—and why. We explore the subtle signs of self-sabotage, how childhood emotional wounds can make safety feel like a threat, and the internal beliefs that keep us stuck in pa
How to embody self trust using human design with Rosy Crescitelli
In this powerful and heart-opening episode, I’m joined by trauma-informed Human Design specialist and somatic coach Rosy Crescitelli (@wholeheartrosy) to explore what it really means to trust yourself—especially if you've been shaped by high-demand religions, rigid systems, or experiences that made you doubt your inner knowing.Rosy shares her personal journey and offers insights into how disco
Here's how to actually heal your anxious attachment style with Alex Long
In this episode, we discuss how relationships affect your health, how to find a secure man, pursuing a spectacular life, and more!Time Stamps:(0:17) First Episode After Moving Back to Colorado(3:28) Who Is Valerie Outside of Work?(9:14) How Relationships Affect Your Health(14:25) Realities of Our Nervous System and Relationships(16:50) What Makes Someone Attractive?(23:13) Finding A Secure Man(25:
Healing Doesn’t Have to Hurt: The Power of Play, Joy, and Pleasure After Trauma with Angie Berrett
What if healing didn’t always have to be heavy? In this heart-opening conversation with trauma-informed coach and play movement specialist Angie Berrett, we explore a radically different approach to healing—one rooted in play, joy, and pleasure.We dive into what happens when you've psychologically outgrown your family or friends, and why healing that only focuses on crying, journaling, or “doi
How to Rewire Your Brain for Secure Love (Instead of the Highs & Lows of Toxic Relationships) With Emily Colligan
How to Rewire Your Brain for Secure Love (Instead of the Highs & Lows of Toxic Relationships)Why does secure love feel boring after toxic relationships? How do you know if your gut feeling is real or just an old trauma response? In this episode, I sit down with somatic healing coach and toxic love recovery expert Emily Colligan to break down the nervous system shifts needed to stop chasing una
Healing Your Anxious Attachment to Your Body, Food & Health with Alex Long
In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I sit down with registered dietitian Alex Long to explore the deep connection between anxious attachment, body image, and our relationship with food. We unpack how anxious attachment shows up in the way women see their bodies, the patterns of emotional eating and restriction that stem from attachment wounds, and how to start listening to your body’s
From Frozen to Free: Healing the Freeze Response in your relationships with Becky Aste
Ever felt stuck, shut down, or unable to take action—even when you want to? That’s the freeze response, and in this episode, trauma-informed somatic marriage coach Becky Aste joins me to break it all down.We explore how freeze is different from fight, flight, or fawn, why some people default to it, and the surprising ways it can show up in your life and relationships. We also talk about the hidden
How to Stop Fearing Change, Feel Safe being Your Authentic Self, & Trust Yourself Through Life’s Transitions with Danielle Bongiorno
In this powerful episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, we explore the two major fears that can keep us feeling stuck and disconnected: the fear of being our authentic selves and the fear of change. If you’ve ever felt like you’re hiding parts of yourself to fit in or have found yourself paralyzed by major life transitions, this episode is for you.Join me as I dive deep into:The Fear of Authenti
The Hidden Cost of Growing Up Too Fast: How Autism Shapes the Sibling Experience & the Burden of Parentification
What’s it really like to grow up with a sibling on the autism spectrum? In this powerful and eye-opening episode, I sit down with Seana to unpack the hidden struggles, deep emotional impact, and long-term effects of being the sibling of a neurodivergent child. We both get raw and real about the often-overlooked reality of parentification—when a child takes on adult responsibilities too soon, sacri
Obsessing, overthinking, and anxious in your relationships? Take back control of how you think, feel and respond in your relationships with Rebecca Ore
If you’ve ever found yourself obsessing over texts, overanalyzing every interaction, or feeling like your emotions are at the mercy of your relationships, this episode is for you. I sat down with Rebecca Ore to unpack what it really means to lovingly take back control of your thoughts, emotions, and reactions in relationships—without gaslighting yourself or suppressing your feelings.We dive into:💭
Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal: How to Trust Yourself Again with Hali Roderick
In this episode, I’m joined by Hali Roderick as we dive into the emotional journey of rebuilding trust after betrayal. Betrayal can completely shatter your sense of reality, leaving you questioning everything you thought you knew about yourself and your relationships. We explore how validating the pain of betrayal is crucial to healing, and how rebuilding trust starts with reconnecting to yourself
How to Recover from Burnout Without Pushing Yourself Harder with Deanna Kessler
Do you feel guilty for resting, even when you're completely exhausted? In this episode, I sit down with somatic therapist Deanna Kessler to break down burnout—what it really is, why it happens, and how to recover without forcing yourself to “do more.” We dive into the three types of burnout—Overextension, Depletion, and Misalignment—and how each one impacts your body and mind. Plus, we explore
From Craving Validation to Deep Self-Worth: How Inner Bonding® Heals Emotional Wounds and Helps You Develop a Secure Attachment
In this transformative episode, Valerie sits down with Dr. Margaret Paul, bestselling author, relationship expert, and co-creator of the groundbreaking Inner Bonding® self-healing process. Together, they dive deep into the heart of emotional availability and self-love. Learn how to become emotionally present with yourself, master the six life-changing steps of Inner Bonding®, and develop practical
Breaking the Cycle: Why We’re Drawn to Emotionally Unavailable Partners with Tim Fletcher
Why do we find ourselves repeatedly attracted to emotionally unavailable partners? In this insightful episode, I sit down with Global Speaker, Counsellor and Researcher-- Tim Fletcher to unpack the roots of this pattern, exploring the connection between anxious attachment, complex trauma, and our subconscious relationship choices. Together, we dive deep into the psychological and emotional forces
The Truth About the Fear of Missing Out: Why You’re Not Actually Missing Out with Kristin Klipp
In this episode, I’m joined by Kristin Klipp—Empowerment Coach, Yoga Teacher, and Chakra Healer—to dive deep into the fear of missing out (FOMO). Together, we explore the roots of where FOMO comes from, how it’s tied to deeper emotional and energetic imbalances, and what it reveals about your inner world. Kristin shares her expertise on aligning with your chakras and how prioritizing your needs ca
Overcome Food Stress & End The Cycle of Binge Eating: Amanda Liptak's Proven Strategies
In this episode, we’re joined by Amanda Liptak, a weight loss and anti-inflammatory dietitian, to dive deep into how to break free from the cycle of binge eating and food stress. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by cravings or struggled with emotional eating, Amanda shares her proven strategies to help you heal your relationship with food. From understanding the root causes of binge eating to imple
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Struggling with addiction or loving someone who is? This episode is for you. I sit down with Dr. Ray Doktor to unpack the emotional and neurological roots of addiction, offering a compassionate lens on how trauma and unresolved pain can drive these behaviors. We dive into the complex role relationships play in both perpetuating and healing addiction, and how reconnecting with the body through soma
How to Heal Your Inner Child, Stop People-Pleasing, and Reclaim Your Sacred Anger with Kieran Pollitt
In this insightful episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, we welcome Kieran Pollitt, a trauma and emotional alchemist, to discuss powerful tools for healing and empowerment. Kieran shares his expertise on how to heal your inner child, stop the cycle of people-pleasing, and reconnect with your sacred anger as a force for transformation.
Through deep, compassionate conversation, Kieran explains ho
Restless Nights? How Anxiety and Anxious Attachment Disrupt Your Sleep (and How to Fix It) with Sleep Expert Dana Obleman
Do you find yourself tossing and turning at night, unable to quiet your anxious mind? Or maybe you’re stuck in a cycle of revenge bedtime procrastination, staying up late even when you’re exhausted? In this episode, I sit down with Sleep Expert Dana Obleman to explore the fascinating connection between anxiety, attachment styles, and sleep struggles.
We dive into:✨ Why anxious attachment can lead
Raising your standards in dating, navigating the anxious avoidant trap, and Should women hit on or initiate dates with men with Dating Coach Luka Reedy
In this powerful episode with dating coach Luka Reedy, we dive deep into some of the most pressing topics for anyone navigating the world of modern relationships. If you've ever felt stuck in the anxious-avoidant trap or wondered how to raise your standards in dating, this conversation is for you. Luka shares invaluable insights on how to break free from unhealthy patterns, build stronger relation
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