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Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40

Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40

Shana James 61 Episodes Aug 20, 2026

Love between humans is not easy, and most of us never had great examples or education about emotions, communication, sex, or what keeps love alive. When you add the challenges of aging to the mix, love becomes even more complicated. Many people end up settling, or giving up on what they want most. But you don't have to! Dating and relationships become easier when you hear people share vulnerably about their struggles, and how they've created more connection and excitement. The host brings 20 years of experience coaching thousands of people to help you see what's possible, and how the practice of love makes it possible to have the best love and sex of your life.

Episodes

#65: What Men and Women Don't Know About Each Other — And What it Means for Love
#65: What Men and Women Don't Know About Each Other — And What it Means for Love Aug 20, 2026 37:22 How would your relationships be different if you could experience the world from the other side of the gender divide, and understand how a man or woman (whichever you are not) feels and experiences life? Would it bring more compassion for the things that irritate you? Today's guest has something very few people can offer: a real life perspective on living as both a woman and a man. Since Jason Hil
#38: AI Matchmaking: AI Reshapes Dating for Lasting Love
#38: AI Matchmaking: AI Reshapes Dating for Lasting Love Aug 19, 2026 43:03 Dating feels brutal for so many relationship-ready singles, especially over 40. In this episode, Shana James talks with Adam Cohen Aslatei, CEO of Three Day Rule, about how AI is reshaping modern matchmaking and how AI makes it easier for people to date and find real, emotionally available love. They explore dating burnout, why the apps are failing people, the power of intentional dating, and how
Why Passion Fades in Relationships: How to Ignite and Reignite the Spark
Why Passion Fades in Relationships: How to Ignite and Reignite the Spark Aug 19, 2026 Passion doesn't fade because "that's just what happens." Passion fades because couples are missing a few essential skills. When you learn them, you can create spark and reignite it in long term relationships. In today's video, I break down some deeper reasons passion fades in long-term relationships and marriages, based on 20 years as a dating and relationship coach and the teachings from my book
#36: You Don't Have to Be the Hero: The Shift from Overgiving to Real Love
#36: You Don't Have to Be the Hero: The Shift from Overgiving to Real Love Aug 19, 2026 32:53 We explore what happens when being "the one who saves" starts costing you connection with yourself and others. Brent Perkins joins me to unpack how overgiving and self-abandonment can masquerade as love, and what it really takes to move from trying to be the hero to letting yourself be human. You'll learn to give without depletion, create agreements instead of expectations, and practice the art of
#64: When Her Sex Drive Fades: What Most Men Don't Realize
#64: When Her Sex Drive Fades: What Most Men Don't Realize Aug 13, 2026 24:05 What happens when the woman you love stops wanting sex? For many men, a fading sex drive feels like rejection, loneliness, or even a sign that the relationship is dying. You may wonder:  Am I still attractive? Does she still want me? Did I do something wrong? After more than 20 years of coaching men and couples, I've found the answer is usually more nuanced. Women often don't stop wanting sex. The
#63: What 20 Years of Coaching Men Taught Us About Love, Loneliness, and Lasting Relationships
#63: What 20 Years of Coaching Men Taught Us About Love, Loneliness, and Lasting Relationships Jul 30, 2026 42:29
#62: The Hidden Reason Even Good Relationships Drift Apart
#62: The Hidden Reason Even Good Relationships Drift Apart Jul 23, 2026 37:23 Have you ever looked at someone you love and wondered, What happened to us? Most people assume relationships drift apart because the spark fades, communication breaks down, or life simply gets in the way. But what if the real reason is much simpler and more hopeful? In this conversation, bestselling author and executive coach Jamie Smart shares a perspective that has transformed the lives of thous
#61: How to Navigate Baggage While Dating, Without Letting It Ruin Love
#61: How to Navigate Baggage While Dating, Without Letting It Ruin Love Jul 16, 2026 30:50 Everyone talks about "baggage" in dating. But what does that actually mean? If you're dating in midlife, chances are you—and everyone you meet—have lived through heartbreak, divorce, health challenges, parenting, financial ups and downs, grief, or complicated family dynamics. The goal isn't to find someone without baggage. It's to discover whether your lives, values, and emotional realities are co
#60: Why High Achieving Couples Lose Connection and How to Get it Back
#60: Why High Achieving Couples Lose Connection and How to Get it Back Jul 9, 2026 33:47 Why do so many ambitious, successful couples end up feeling more like roommates than romantic partners? It's rarely because they stopped loving each other. Most people assume intimacy begins in the bedroom. Andrew and Kiana Joyner believe it begins at the kitchen table... in the everyday moments where partners feel heard, understood, appreciated, and emotionally safe. When those moments disappear,
#59: The Dating Move That Tells You Everything (Before You're in Too Deep)
#59: The Dating Move That Tells You Everything (Before You're in Too Deep) Jul 2, 2026 15:27 Many people enter dating determined to avoid conflict. They smile through uncomfortable conversations, overlook comments that don't sit right, or convince themselves they're being "easygoing." Especially for those dating after 40 or dating after divorce, staying agreeable can feel like the safest way to protect themselves from rejection or disappointment. But according to relationship and dating c
#58: The Dead Bedroom Fix: Why Intimacy Dies and How to Bring It Back
#58: The Dead Bedroom Fix: Why Intimacy Dies and How to Bring It Back Jun 25, 2026 42:22 What happens when the person you love feels more like a roommate than a romantic partner? A dead bedroom isn't just about sex. For many people, it feels like rejection, loneliness, and the slow loss of emotional connection. It can leave partners wondering: "What's wrong with me?" "Why doesn't my partner want me?" "Can we ever get back what we had?" In this episode of Practicing Love, I sit down w
#57: Stop wondering if they like you: The dating question that changes everything
#57: Stop wondering if they like you: The dating question that changes everything Jun 21, 2026 20:17 If you've ever left a date replaying every moment in your head, analyzing every text message, or wondering whether you said the wrong thing, you're not alone. For many people, especially those dating after 40 or dating after divorce, first dates aren't actually about getting to know someone. They're about trying to figure out whether you're being liked. In this solo episode of Practicing Love, dat

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