Master Your Relationship Mind Drama
Feeling anxious and insecure in your relationships? Showing up in ways you don't love and struggling to manage your mind and emotions? Relationship coach, Rebecca Ore is here to help.
Episodes
205. The comparison trap: When everyone's life seems better than yours
Do you see other people posting their engagement photos, or baby shower pictures and feeling envious?Or maybe you see people posting their travelling pictures - and start to feel dissatisfied with the lack of travelling you’ve done lately?Or maybe you see your best friend’s boyfriend spoiling her with expensive gifts, and you start to compare that to your own relationship - where your partner&apos
204. Dealing with shame & anxiety when someone is mad at you
Ever felt an intense feeling of shame when someone is upset with you?Well... I've had a couple of situations happen recently.One with my wife and one with a close friend of mine - where I experienced feelings of both shame & anxiety, after making a mistake.My brain jumped to thoughts like:'I'm not good enough''I'm a bad friend'I even started catastrophising t
203. Real-life coaching: My partner wanted an open relationship but I didn't
Today I'm answering a question from a listener."My boyfriend of 1.5 years and I started out having an open relationship. Turned out that this wasn't a good fit for me due to my insecurities and brought on anxiety that was unmanageable."Now my boyfriend has agreed to be in a monogamous relationship with me. I find my self feeling "guilty" that he is now in a different
202. 5 ways you push people away when you're afraid to lose them
Is your fear of losing them pushing them away?Are you feeling so anxious that it’s getting in between you and your partner - or maybe you and your friends - when all you want is to feel closer to them?In today’s episode, I’m talking about 5 ways a fear of losing someone actually pushes the people we love away.And I’m offering you practical ways to start to challenge these subconscious patterns, an
201. Your relationship rules: Control attempt or reasonable boundary?
Don’t like thirst trap pictures on Instagram.Don’t reply if your ex messages you.Don’t go for drinks with your female co-worker, unless other people are going.Sometimes we set rules for our partners as a way to avoid or manage our own fears and anxieties. Other times, we really don’t want to be okay with a certain kind of behaviour.In this episode, I help you get better at making that judgement ca
200. Real-life coaching: Partner getting frustrated when you're upset & boundaries over following women on Instagram
Today I’m answering real-life questions from listeners on their real-life relationship problems.Including:A person whose partner has expressed frustration when she’s upsetAnd boundaries around following people of the opposite sex on Instagram.Unless you’re the person that wrote it - you likely aren’t in either of those exact situations. That’s okay!Don’t skip the episode - because the way I coach
199. Why you get so attached in early-dating (and how to stop)
Do you find yourself getting a little too attached too quickly in dating?Maybe you’ve met the person twice, but find your mood is completely dependant on whether they’ve replied to your message yet.Or maybe you feel like dating is a rollercoaster, and even when you didn’t really know the person - the rejection feels unbearable.If so, this episode is for you!I’m talking about why people get so atta
198. The fear of being unlovable
Do you ever worry that you’re just not lovable?When someone rejects you, or if someone has cheated, left, or rejected you in the past - does your brain jump to: I’m not good enough. There’s something wrong with me?If so - this episode is for you.We’re talking about what it really means to be lovable, and why how much someone loves you actually has nothing to do with you as a person.Mentioned in th
197. Unhelpful relationship advice that might be fuelling your anxiety
Protect your peace, it’s their job to meet your needs, heal before you get into a relationship…The online space is LOUD and full of well-intended relationship advice.But of course - the most common advice can sometimes be a little black-or-white - when in reality, relationships are filled with shades of grey.So we’re going to discuss more nuanced approaches to common relationship advice in today’s
196. When your partner is tired of reassuring you (How to reassure yourself)
Do you ask your partner for reassurance multiple times a week?Or find yourself asking for reassurance on the same topic over and over and the anxiety still popping back up, despite what they say?Has your partner said they’re tired of reassuring you, and do you wonder how much reassurance is okay to ask for?If so, this episode is for you! I’m to talk about reassurance seeking, what it looks like in
195. Why other attractive people feel like a threat to your relationship
Does the thought of your partner around other attractive women (or men) make you panic?Do you feel jealous when they talk about their co-workers, worried that they find them hot?Or do you feel on edge when they’re out in bars, afraid they’ll find other people attractive?If so - this episode is for YOU. I’m talking about why your brain likely sees attractive people as threats, and more importantly
194. 5 childhood beliefs fuelling your relationship anxiety
Ever wonder: Why am I the way that I am? Why does an unanswered text ruin my day?Why does criticism seem so big and scary?Why can’t I ever stop worrying about what might go wrong?Well in today’s episode - I’m talking about some of the most common beliefs we learn in childhood that could be at the root of your relationship anxiety.Ready? LISTEN NOW!Mentioned in the episode:1:1 coaching with Rebecca
193. Is your brain sabotaging your relationships? (What are my thoughts creating?)
They’re distracted on their phone - so you go in a mood and make a passive aggressive comment.They didn’t ask about an important meeting you had - so you assume they don’t care and don’t bring it up.You haven’t heard from a friend for a while - so you imagine she’s having fun with people she likes more - and don’t bother reaching out to see when she’s next free.What do all of these examples have i
192. My wife told me she doesn’t want children - How I’m dealing with uncertainty
I’m sharing something vulnerable in today’s episode.My wife recently told me she didn’t want children - when we’d always agreed and said that we would.This has of course thrown a huge spanner in the works of our relationship and our marriage - and it’s bringing up a lot of uncertainty. And so I wanted to talk you through how I’m handling that uncertainty - in the hopes that whatever uncertainty yo
191. Empathy vs taking responsibility for other people’s emotions
When someone is upset with you or you suspect they might be annoyed about something you’ve done - do you instantly feel guilty?When you see someone experiencing negative emotion - do you feel like it’s your job to try and fix it? And feel super uncomfortable until you know they’re okay again?If so - this episode is for YOU.I’m talking all about the difference between empathy and taking responsibil
190. Internal vs External safety in relationships - which do you depend on?
When I was at my most anxious in my relationships - I realised I had been depending on things outside of me being a certain way for me to feel safe, secure or calm. Can you relate?If so - I’m going to be talking today about the difference between internal and external safety.And I’m going to offer you concrete exercises to do to start building your internal safety muscle.So you can feel emotionall
189. The one question to ask yourself when things feel hard
Are you facing rejection?A setback at work?A difficult friendship dynamic?An uncertain outcome?Someone who keeps crossing your boundaries?Whatever feels tough right now - I want to offer you a question that is going to transform the way you approach it. Mentioned in the episode:1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
188. Real-life coaching: Taking back a cheating partner & dealing with boyfriend's jealousy
This week, I’m answering two questions from listeners.The first is all about taking back a cheating, avoidant partner.The second is dealing with a jealous partner who has very different thoughts around a friendship with an ex.Mentioned in the episode:Join my email listWork with me 1:1 - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
187. They didn’t ‘make’ you feel bad - How to take radical responsibility for your feelings
People that work with me learn to STOP using the phrase ‘They made me feel…’Because they’re finally able to take back responsibility for how they feel and respond to any situation in their life…And I call this taking radical responsibility for your own feelings.It’s something I did years ago - and it changed my life and relationships forever.And in today’s episode I’m going to help you understand
186. Dealing with resentment in relationships
Are you struggling with resentment in your relationships right now?Maybe it’s a friend that’s always late.A partner that doesn’t pull their weight around the house.A mother in law that keeps asking for too much of your partner’s time.Whatever it is - this episode is going to help you step out of resentment, and back into self-responsibility and self-empowerment.Mentioned in the episode:Relationshi
185. Real-life coaching: Red flag vs anxiety issue & friendship trio jealousy
Today I’m answering real life questions from listeners covering two topics.1) How do I know the difference between a real red flag vs my anxious attachment?2) How do I navigate jealousy in a friendship trio?Ready? Let’s dive in!Mentioned in the episode:Get 10% off 1:1 coaching in May- email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
184. Settling vs embracing an imperfect partner
The fear of settling, of choosing wrong, or of missing out on a ‘better’ partner is one that plagues so many anxious brains in relationships.So I’m spending today’s episode talking about it.I’m going to help you define settling vs embracing an imperfect partner...AND help you call out your anxious brain’s perhaps unhelpful expectations when it comes to romantic relationships - so you can make a de
183. Building self-esteem: What if I become delusional?
Have you ever wanted to build your self-esteem and think more positively about yourself, but then a little voice in your head says… But what if I become delusional?What if I start believing I’m attractive, when the truth is I’m not?What if I start believing I’m good enough - and it turns out not to be true?If so, this episode is for you! I'm going to teach you:Why you're already delusion
182. 7 lessons that transformed my relationship with anxiety
I have struggled with anxiety for over a decade - since I was a teenager.And finding ways of understanding & managing my own fearful brain, and the fearful minds of my clients, continues to be a fascination of mine. So in today’s episode - I’m sharing 7 of the biggest lessons I’ve learned about anxiety over the last few years.And offering you some perspective shifts to help you change the way
181. ‘If I was with the ‘right’ person, I wouldn’t feel this anxious’
How often have you found yourself thinking: Maybe if I feel this anxious, I’m with the wrong person? If I was with right person, I wouldn’t get triggered… right?Well in today’s episode - I’m talking about how that isn’t always the case.And helping you to reframe this thought into something a little more empowering and productive.Mentioned in the episode:The Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp - £99 (
180. Real-life coaching: Old friendships, saying 'I love you', & texting etiquette
In today's episode, I'm answering real-life questions from listeners and coaching them on their mind-drama from afar!We cover topics including:Navigating old friendships when your interests have changedWhen the person you're dating won't say 'I love you'How to handle insecurity around a drop in sweet text messagesAnd feeling unsettled when someone is emotionally dista
179. Am I ‘too much’? - When to share your emotions vs when not to
How often have you asked yourself: Am I too much? Is texting twice too much? Is initiating seeing them again too much? Do you often worry that being open and honest about your feelings means you’re ‘too much’? If so - this episode is for YOU!Mentioned in the episode:Find out about coaching with Rebecca - email: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.comDownload the your free Self Esteem Building Kit - HERE
178. Your brain is lying to you: How your mind determines your reality
We’ve all been told a thousand times that our thoughts create our realities...But when life feels hard, our partners seem uncaring, or the world feels like a hopeless place… it can be an easy thing to forget.So in today’s episode - I want to help you understand exactly how your brain shapes and distorts your experience of reality...So that you can start to notice the impact of it in your own life,
177. 5 uncomfortable truths about “one-sided” relationships
Maybe it’s a friend you've known for years - and you feel like you’re the one always reaching out to check in or arrange plans. Or maybe it’s someone you’ve been on a few dates with and you feel like it’s always you confirming the next date night. Or perhaps it’s a family member who always calls you to vent about their problems, but the minute you need support and want to talk - they’re sudde
176. How to move forward after betrayal
If you’ve ever experienced betrayal in a relationship - you’ll know first hand how painful it can be.And I’m dedicating today’s episode to talk about it. Covering things like:Handling the shock of betrayalWhy the brain obsesses over needing to know every detailThe meaning we make about ourselves and the futureShould you stay or leave?How trust is rebuilt (and why self-trust matters most)Mentioned
175. Becoming the director of your mind: How to handle negative thoughts
Think more positively. Your thoughts create your reality. Just don’t sweat the small stuff.All great advice - but hard to implement when you’re in the habit of feeling like a victim to your brain and the stories it tells you.So in today’s episode I’m going to help you shift from being in the passenger seat, to being back in the driver’s seat of your brain...So that you can create the kind of exper
174. Are we incompatible? Or is this just my anxious thoughts?
Do you ever wonder if you and the person you’re dating are actually just incompatible? Maybe you know you have some mind drama and insecurities to clear up - but also question if… maybe I’m just with the wrong person?If so - this episode is for you!March 1:1 coaching spotsEmail me directly at rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com to get all the details and book a free 30 min consult!
173. The fear of being cheated on
Are you terrified of being cheated on? If so - today’s episode is for you. I’m talking all about the deeper beliefs fuelling the fear of being cheated on.Some will resonate with you, others won’t. But if the fear of being cheated on is something that keeps you up at night - this episode is going to help you truly understand why that is. And what needs to change to overcome it.Mentioned in this epi
172. How to actually feel more secure
Most of us are familiar with what it’s like to feel insecure. And you may find yourself wishing or saying out loud that you want to work on feeling more secure.Most of us go about creating feelings of security all wrong - which is why it doesn't work.So in today's episode I'm talking about:Where people go wrong when they try to feel more secureWhat being more secure actually meansAn
171. "Triggered by my partner watching porn" (Real-life coaching)
I want to give you a little insight as to what coaching can look like for real life people - with real life relationship struggles. And so I’m using the example of a past client of mine who felt triggered when she found out her partner watches porn.Even if you can’t relate to that specific anxiety - I encourage you to listen anyway...Because you're going to learn how to:Separate facts from st
170. Are you stuck in the Validation Cycle?
Do you find yourself becoming obsessed with people that are hot and cold towards you - while ignoring the people that are consistently available and there for you?Do you feel like your romantic relationship or even friendships are the focus of your entire world - and if there could be a problem in one of them - it’s like your entire world is crumbling and you can’t focus on anything else?Do you of
169. How to actually change your patterns in 2026
When you feel anxious or insecure, do you jump straight to action?Perhaps re-reading your messages? Checking when they were last online? Or messaging your group chat?Do you keep repeating the same anxious patterns over and over - and do you keep vowing to yourself you’re going to stop but - never the less, the patterns keep repeating? If so - you’re likely missing a vital skill. I’m going to teach
168. Signs of self abandonment in relationships
Do other people’s happiness tend to get put before your own?Does the thought of being alone terrify you? And do you feel like you cling to relationships with others in an attempt to feel safe?If so - you might be stuck in the habit of self abandonment. Let’s talk about it!Email directly about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
167. You don't need a new you in 2026 (What you need instead)
Have you set some goals or resolutions for 2026? And are you filled with hope for the year ahead?Or do you kind of think resolutions are pointless.. Because you never succeed at them anyway?Whichever camp you land in - in this episode I’m talking all about why you don’t need a new YOU in 2026...And why what you actually need is a new relationship with the you you already have.I’m talking all about
166. How to actually care less about what other people think
Are you constantly worrying about what other people think?Are they mad at you?Do they like you?Did they think what you said at dinner was stupid? Or insensitive?In today’s episode - I’m talking about the simple, yet powerful skill we need to master to FINALLY stop worrying so much about what other people think.Download my 'Self Esteem Building Kit'.Email about 1:1 coaching in January 202
165. Embracing uncertainty - How to feel okay knowing your relationship might not last forever
Does the idea that your relationship could one day end send you into a spiral of anxiety? Do you tend to ruminate over worst case scenarios - panicking, then feeling momentary relief, only to find a new thing to worry about a few days later?Do you fear being left or cheated on, and can’t stop that fear from getting in the way of the happy relationship you could be experiencing right now?If so - th
164. "Why can’t they just change!” - Resisting the reality of other people
‘Why can’t they be more sensitive?!’‘Why can’t they be more affectionate’‘Why can’t they just do what they said they’d do!’‘They shouldn’t be so opinionated’ Ever find yourself ruminating about how all the other people in your life should change their behaviours to make your life easier? If so - this episode is for YOU.I’m going to help you understand why your brain does this, why it isn’t useful
163. ‘If they wanted to they would’ / When you’re obsessing over them
How often have you heard the phrase ‘If they wanted to they would’? Well in today’s episode, I’m talking about that well used advice and how it isn’t always useful. AND offering you a new perspective to try on in its place.AND I’m also going to be talking about why we OBSESS over certain people or situations - and what to do when you notice your brain is in fixation mode.Mentioned in the episode:R
162. Anxiety in long distance relationships (BLAST FROM THE PAST)
Whether you're in a long distance relationship or not - there will be something in this episode for you!We're going to cover:Emotional permanence, and how some of us struggle to believe our partners still care about us when they’re not physically with usCompromise and deciding how a long distance relationship will lookManaging your anxious brain and processing your emotionsThe fears that
161. Creating self confidence (BLAST FROM THE PAST)
Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt?Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with?And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think?In today's episode, I'm talking about:Where confidence comes from (and where it
160. Real life coaching: Inappropriate friendships, dating rejections, and unruly mother-in-laws
In today’s episode I’m answering questions from listeners on their real life relationship struggles. Covering topics including:What to do when your husband has female friends you’re uncomfortable withFear of being rejected because of what you post onlineDealing with potential rejection after asking for more commitmentAND dealing with a mother-in-law that does not respect your boundaries.Ready? Let
159. Dealing with dismissive, defensive or emotionally immature partners
You’re all listening to this podcast because you’re perhaps aware your anxious mind is causing a lot, or some, problems and you want to take back control of your side of the equation.But what happens if you’re doing all of that work - and your partner is continuously responding in ways that seem unsupportive, unkind, or pretty mean?Maybe being dismissive of your feelings, getting defensive - even
158. How to handle triggers in the moment
Do you ‘get’ this work - but still find yourself reacting badly when you’re triggeredDo you know your thoughts aren’t likely true, but can’t help but panic and react when they appear?If so - you’re likely missing a key piece of the puzzle, which is self-regulation. And in this episode, I’m going to give you concrete tools and techniques for regulating in the moment of a trigger.Mentioned in the ep
157. Are we having enough sex? (And other fears)
Do you ever get anxious about how often you and your partner are having sex? Do you question whether you’re having ‘enough’ sex? Keeping score of who initiates the most? Or focusing on their experience of sex, rather than your own?Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary disconnection and resentment around sex - so that’s what we’re talking about in today’s episode.Mentioned in the episo
156. Am I gaslighting myself?
Ever worry that if you start to do this work to clean up your own thinking you might end up accidentally gaslighting yourself or becoming okay with everything - even bad behaviour?If so - you’re not alone in that fear.In today’s episode I’m talking about:Why questioning our thoughts isn’t the same as gaslighting ourselvesAND how to tell when you WOULD be using this work against yourselfMentioned i
155. Needs vs wants: And communicating for connection
Is this a want or a need?Why does my partner get so defensive when I tell them what I need in the relationship? And is this relationship just not right for me?In today’s episode - I’m talking all about wants, needs, and how taking responsibility for your emotions first can make communicating your preferences 10x more likely to end in connection.I’m also going to be talking about my brand new group
154. 5 questions for when you're feeling rejected (BLAST FROM THE PAST)
Today, I’m sharing a blast from the past in the form of a previous episode I released in 2024 - offering you 5 questions to ask yourself when you feel rejected. If you’ve already heard this one - the recap will be just what you need. And if not, you’re going to learn 5 questions to help you meet your mind with compassion and curiosity when you feel rejected, AND challenge some of the unhelpful ass
153. Stop projecting your insecurities (Cleaning up your side of the street)
Are you blaming your partner, friends or family members for how you feel?Saying they ‘make’ you feel bad, insecure, anxious or rejected?'Shoulding' them - believing they should behave differently. And tending to assume the worst?If so - it sounds like you need to start cleaning up your own side of the relationship equation and getting more intentional about how you choose to to think, fe
152. Dating & building rejection resilience
Are you dating but finding the experience pretty miserable?Are you constantly afraid of rejection and does the idea of getting ghosted again make you want to delete all the apps and stop bothering altogether? If so - this episode is for you! I’m talking all about dating, rejection, and how to build rejection resilience...So that you can keep moving forward and create the kind of relationships you
151. Is this my anxiety or a real issue?
Do you ever find yourself wondering: is this just my anxiety or is this actually a real issue in my relationship?In today’s episode - I’m talking about why that might be the wrong question to ask AND how to start managing your own mind better so you can intentionally decide how you want to think, feel and show up to any situation you’re facing. Ready? Let’s dive in!
150. Generating real self-trust in your relationships
You might be spending a lot of time wondering if you can trust your partner, the person your dating, your co-workers, or any other human in your life.But how much do you actually trust yourself?In today’s episode, I’m talking all about:What self trust IS and what self trust ISN’TWays to start building a relationship with yourself rooted in self-trust & self-acceptanceAnd how to believe that yo
149. Creating meaningful friendships - Conversation with Jewel Hohman
In today's episode, I chat with the amazing Jewel Hohman - expert in all things friendship, connection and social anxiety - to talk about what it really takes to create meaningful friendships.AND what often gets in the way of them.This episode is for you if...You ever feel anxiety about your friendshipsYour friendships have changed and don't feel as fulfillingYou want more friends but do
148. Playing games, black cat energy, and authenticity
Do you often search for dating tips - wanting to find the right way to text, show up on dates, the right amount of time to wait before having sex with them - all to try and ensure a certain outcome?If someone isn’t texting as much as you’d like - do you decide to pull back and be aloof? Maybe not initiate plans until they’ve initiated some first?Today we’re talking all about:Playing games vs genui
147. Transparency vs privacy in relationships
How much information should you expect your partner to be sharing with you?Should you know each others phone passwords? Have your locations on?What if they don’t tell you about bumping into an ex? Or they delete some messages?In today’s episode - I’m talking all about transparency vs privacy - and how to manage your mind in different situations where you and your partner may not think the same abo
146. Coaching Queen B (How I would coach Blair Waldorf on perfectionism, fear of rejection and jealousy)
Do you have a friend that everyone just seems to LOVE - and so you end up feeling a little overshadowed?Do you have parents that are overly critical and not so great at showing you unconditional love - and so you often feel like you’re disappointing them and fighting for their approval?If so - you likely heavily relate to the character of Blair Waldorf from Gossip Girl. And in today’s episode - I’
145. Radical self acceptance (BLAST FROM THE PAST)
Today - I'm resharing one of my older, popular episodes - all about radical self acceptance.Do you find yourself being pretty hard on you?Do you have a negative voice in your head, that's constantly ready to criticize you and tell you you're doing it wrong?And that compares you to other people? Telling you you're always falling short?In today's episode, I'm talking ab
144. Signs you're fetishizing romantic love
Do you often obsess over your romantic relationship? OR are you currently single and find yourself obsessing over when you’re next going to BE in a romantic relationship? What if I told you this was no accident.And that you may have been brainwashed into fetishizing romantic love?In today’s episode, I’m talking all about the history of romantic relationships, the way society has shaped the way we
143. Love languages (What to do when they don't speak your language)
Do you and your partner or the person you’re dating have different ways of showing love and care?And is it something that can cause a problem in your relationship?If so - this episode is for YOU. I’m talking all about:What love languages areWhy we all differHow to manage our minds around those differencesHow to communicate more effectively what we’d like from our partnersAND how to decide if someo
142. Relieve anxiety with one simple thought
In today’s episode - I’m sharing a magic sentence that has helped me shift out of anxious spirals on so many occasions, and has been a huge help to many of my clients too.When we’re feeling anxious, we’re afraid of a certain outcome - we’re internally resisting it happening, we don’t believe we could handle it. But by using the sentence I’m going to share with you in this episode - I’m going to sh
141. Dealing with other people's negative emotions
Do you instantly feel anxious and on edge when your partner or friend is in a bad mood? Do you find yourself feeling so uncomfortable that you just want to fix it?And get them to cheer up or snap out of it, so that you can feel better?Do you sometimes feel frustrated by your partner’s bad moods - and blame them for ruining your experience because they can’t just be more cheerful or positive?If so
140. Your value as a partner (building your self worth)
How do you perceive your value as a partner? Or a friend? Or perhaps a member of your family?Do you often doubt your value? Or does your self worth tend to go up and down based on how other people are responding to you?If so - this episode is for YOU. I’m going to help you to reflect on how you’re currently thinking about your worth and value AND offer you concrete, cognitive steps for building yo
139. 4 reasons you struggle to feel emotionally safe
What does it take to feel emotionally safe in a relationship?Emotional safety is a word that is being used quite a lot these days...So in today’s episode, I’m breaking down:What emotional safety really isHow we experience itHow other people impact us feeling itAnd 4 reasons why you might be struggling to feel emotionally safe - even in the most loving relationshipsMentioned in the episode:Sign up
138. Is being unwilling to get hurt ruining your relationships?
I just don’t want to get hurt - have you ever said that before? It’s something I’ve heard a lot in client sessions - and it makes total sense. But how might your unwillingness to get hurt actually be holding you back in your relationships and creating more suffering than it’s preventing?Listen to find out:- Why we’re afraid of getting hurt- What we’re really afraid of- And to steal my willingness
137. The rejection & reassurance cycle
Do you often find yourself feeling disconnected in your relationships - having unnecessary arguments that seem repetitive?Or do you feel like you’re on a rollercoaster - feeling great one minute and anxious the next - like your brain is just always on the look out for what’s ‘wrong’? If so - you’re likely stuck in one of the two cycles I’m discussing today:The rejection cycle and the reassurance c
136. The MYRMD Society is OPEN! (And I'm talking to past clients about their coaching journeys)
Today The Master Your Relationship Mind Drama Society is officially OPEN!For just £99 a month - you can get weekly live coaching, monthly masterclasses, access to my digital course content, AND a community hub to get written support and cheer on other society members.And in today's episode, I'm chatting with two members of my previous rounds of group coaching.Listen to hear about their p
135. Healthy boundaries vs control attempts
Do you ever wonder what the difference is between a healthy boundary and a control attempt coming from a place of insecurity? If so - this episode is for you. We're going to cover:The difference between a healthy boundary and a power struggleThe key ingredients that go into setting a healthy boundarySome examples of real life situations showing the difference between a healthy boundary &
134. Creating secure responses to avoidant behaviour
Do you have a partner or friend that exhibits some of the signs of an avoidant attachment style?And do you find your own anxiety being triggered by their behaviour - resulting in a push-pull cycle - where both people feel frustrated and disconnected?You're certainly not alone with this.And in today's episode, I'm teaching you how to manage your OWN mind and create a secure response
133. The most important relationship you'll ever have is with YOU
We all talk a lot about self-love and being compassionate to ourselves.But what does that actually mean or look like?In hundreds of coaching sessions - I've seen the many ways we can reject and disconnect from ourselves. And the impact that has on our lives & relationships.And in today's episode, I'm going to share some questions to help you do an audit of your own relationship
132. How to turn any trigger into an opportunity for growth
So many of us spend our lives trying to avoid being triggered. We blame other people for triggering us.We try and convince people to change their behaviour so we can be less triggered.But what if instead you could change the way you respond to your triggers...And turn them into opportunities to understand your thought patterns on a deeper level.In today's episode - I'm going to teach you
131. Most common limiting beliefs in relationships (Part 2)
This week, I'm continuing on from last week's episode on the most common limiting beliefs I see coming up in my client sessions!I'll be discussing the following thought patterns, how they impact our relationships, and how to challenge them! Including:Believing your worth is dependent on the way you lookGauging how much someone cares about you by how they follow your manualNeeding to
130. Most common limiting beliefs in relationships (Part 1)
In today's episode, I'm discussing some of the most common beliefs I see coming up time and time again for my clients.And the impact they have on our relationships.Including:Believing you cause other people's emotionsMaking rejection mean something about YOUBelieving you have to be a certain way / have a certain quality to be lovableAND MORE!PS. There were be a part 2 next week! <
129. Perfectionism and black & white thinking in relationships
Does your brain have a very all-or-nothing way of looking at yourself and your relationships?You either did it perfectly or you're terrible.You're a good friend or a bad friend.Your partner either says the exact right thing or they must not care about you at all.If so - you're not alone!Our brains are actually predisposed to be very black & white in the way they think - preferri
128. Relationship doubts - Am I in the ‘right’ relationship & fear of choosing 'wrong'
In today's episode, I'm talking about relationships doubts and anxiety - something which is often referred to as ROCD (Relationship OCD).For many of my clients, they're in relationships with loving partners & they don't want to break up with them - BUT their brains will not let them relax.They find themselves constantly questioning 'Am I in the right relationship?&apos
127. Lying in relationships - Why do we lie? And is it ever okay?
When we're not honest with the people in our lives - we can create so much harm and disconnection.And yet... sometimes humans lie!In today's episode, I'm discussing:Why humans lieThe act of self-preservation Bringing curiosity to situations - instead of black & white thinkingHow to handle conversations around lyingAnd the fear of being lied toReady?Mentioned in the episode:Sprin
126. The reality of changing your brain
Do you often find yourself thinking:'Why am I still thinking this?!''What's wrong with me!''I shouldn't STILL feel this way...'Maybe you've done the work of challenging your unhelpful thoughts, but find them still popping up and ruining your day? If you're feeling disheartened and frustrated with your brain right now - this episode is for YOU.I&apo
