Dr. Patricia Bay - Therapy in a Nutshell
Dr. Patricia Bay, a marriage and family therapist with over 35 years of experience, hosts a radio show based on her book 'Therapy in a Nutshell.' She addresses common life challenges, personal growth, relationships, and family dynamics. The podcast aims to help listeners navigate everyday struggles and promote healing one hour at a time.
Episodes
BILATERAL STIMULATION
Bilateral and biolateral stimulation has been utilized for psychological healing with therapies such as EMDR, an awesome trauma therapy. This episode discusses the use of bilateral stimulation on your own to reduce anxiety, calm your brain to help you fall asleep, enhance memory, effective studying and much more. Tamara Baker, LMFT joins Dr. Patty to discuss this unique technique. Dr. Patty welcom
HOLIDAY FAMILY DRAMA
Almost every family experiences drama, especially around the holidays. Tamara Baker, LMFT joins Dr. Patty to discuss this issue and offer coping ideas. Family is important and not always easy. Upgrading your coping skills might bring a better you to the table this year. Who knows who you might model this for in your family.
SOBER CURIOUS
Have you wondered what letting go of your addiction would look like? Drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex, food, shopping, gambling…what is your poison and what would work for you to possibly quit? This episode helps you explore being SOBER CURIOUS.
ONE YEAR OF SOBRIETY
Barbara, who spoke in my podcast “NEED TO STOP DRINKING?” and told of her journey into sobriety, is back in this podcast discussing ONE YEAR OF SOBRIETY. Her vulnerable, honest and heartfelt sharing is beautiful and inspiring.
Need to stop drinking?
Dr. Patty and Barbara talk candidly about Barbara’s journey into sobriety. She discusses Dr Patty challenging her, and Barbara diving into the challenge, of a 90-in-90… learn what that is and if you are brave enough to step into it.
HOLDING THE DOG POOP
Life is full of adversity. Sometimes a hot, steamy mess gets plopped into our hands. How do YOU deal with the stresses? Do you feel victimized, blame or act out with frustration and anger? This episode will help you learn how to recognize it and further your emotional development.
TARGETED BULLYING
Bullying is not just a problem in our schools, there are adults that purposely target others with attempts to ruin them. Trying to emotionally devastate, diminish a reputation, or financially harm a person or business can be TARGETED BULLYING. Dr. Patty joins Linda Bott, owner of KCNR Radio, on her show to discuss this difficult issue.
SENIOR PLACEMENT ISSUES
Caregiving a loved one can been extremely difficult and exhausting. Thinking of needing to “place” them or get help can be complicated and frustrating. Marianne Siefert of Marianne’s Senior Placement Services joins me and gives a wealth of information on this issue.
GETTING “CURRENT” in your relationship.
Hanging onto old issues, hurts and problems can ruin the intimacy and safety of your relationship. Learn how to work them out to get “current” and then how to guard that precious space.
NICKNAMES- Trauma or Endearing?
Nicknames can have an endearing impact or a traumatic effect on a person. Many people have childhood trauma surrounding nicknames they were given. It is also a way we let people know that we feel close to them. How have nicknames affected you?
ARFID - Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder
More than just picky eating, Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder, is a serious and challenging eating disorder. Learn the symptoms and dangers of ARFID. Special guest, Allison, age 15, takes us through her struggles with this extremely difficult disorder.
PROCRASTINATION
Learn why you put things off and how to overcome this difficult… and annoying… behavior.
LEAD WITH YOUR SOFT SIDE
Many people are too efficient with their words. They bark out orders or assume the person they are speaking to knows that “please or thank you” is implied. When you learn to lead with your soft side, you can connect much better with the people you care about. You do not become some kind of door mat. People just like you… not just love you, but like you.
PTSD and MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS
Doctors, nurses, medics, EMT’s, techs of all types and ER personnel constantly handle life and death situations. These heroes often struggle with PTSD and stuff it under in order to keep on keeping on. This episode will address these issues and not only encourage them to get help, but let everyone know some of the emotional hazards they face. Dennis Blocker II, author of CLEAR, joins Dr. Patty to
EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS
Everyone has their emotional weak spots that can be triggered. If you have trauma in your history or currently struggle with PTSD or you are just trying to live a peaceful life, understanding your triggers is empowering. Learning how to regulate your response is even more advanced. Let’s do this.
PLASTIC SURGERY - Motivations & Expectations
If you have considered plastic surgery, for reconstruction, cosmetic or medical reasons, this episode will give you a lot of great information. Board Certified Plastic Surgeon, Maximilian “Max” Malotky, MD, joins Dr. Patty to discuss why people have such surgeries, what to expect and keeping reasonable expectations.
Does your BEHAVIOR MATCH your WORDS?
When your behavior or someone else's behavior does not match their words, it creates problems. Intention does not equal action and that equals trouble. Learn how to talk about this issue AND more importantly, fix YOUR OWN behavior to match your words.
Meaningful APOLOGIES
A well done, sincere apology is incredibly valuable. It furthers trust and intimacy in relationships as well as making you feel better about yourself. Leave how to make this a sincere part of your life.
LIFESTYLE CHANGES - Stop Something & Start Something
Making changes in your life to improve your physical and mental health starts with small changes. Learn how to STOP something and START something to get your changes going.
CYBERBULLYING
CYBERBULLYING is a bigger problem than most people realize. It is an appalling, horrific issue for many, especially for teens. Understanding what to look for can help save your loved ones sanity and sometimes their life.
ANGER
How do you do anger? Learning to look below your anger can help you become a more emotionally developed, communicative person. All of your relationships will benefit from this personal growth.
TERMINAL ILLNESS
If you, or someone you care about, is facing a terminal illness, this episode will openly address issues many are afraid to talk about. Richard Malotky, MD joins Dr. Patty to discuss this sensitive topic.
SARCASM
Do you, or someone you know, often use sarcasm? Many use sarcasm to keep others and themselves in check. To deepen your relationships and grow emotionally, learn how and why you do sarcasm.
ESCAPE ADDICTIONS
Do you ever wonder if you are addicted to gourmet coffee or social media? Does that nightly drink make you wonder if you are pushing any limits? Addictions where we regularly try to run from our feelings or "treat ourselves" or try to shut out the world for a bit, might be a "call to consciousness" about what is going on inside. This is not about alcoholics or drug addiction, it is about the every
SEXUAL DISSATISFACTION
Good sex... Bad sex... No Sex... Whatever you struggle with in your sexual relationship, it is probably fixable. You have to be able to talk about it and get working on solutions.
SUICIDAL CHILDREN
There are signs and symptoms that suicidal children often show. It is not unheard of in children as young as 5-years-old, and possibly younger. Listening to this episode could help save a life.
BURNOUT
BURNOUT can happen with your job, a relationship, caregiving or just about anything you must do on a regular basis. It is important to recognize the signs and symptoms and begin to create change before you sink too low.
AFib
Special guest, Richard Malotky, MD, talks about AFib (atrial fibrillation). Learn the most common symptoms and the importance of treating AFib. So many people avoid acknowledging that they are experiencing something because the signs can be vague. This show could save the life of you or someone you love.
ACID REFLUX
If you or a loved one suffers with acid reflux, also known as heartburn, or stomach ulcers, this episode will teach you how to deal with it. Richard Malotky, MD gives expert medical advice along with Dr. Patty, to help you deal with these physical and emotional issues surrounding this very common stress reaction.
AGING GRACEFULLY
Many are fearful of growing old. How do we let go of fear and age gracefully so we do not ruin out current peace of mind? Explore what is happening for you and the possibility of moving into a healthier state of mind.
SOCIAL ANXIETY
Do you often say, "I do not want to go to that party," or "I'll go but I'm leaving early," or " I'm dreading my family gathering because I worry they will judge me?" When social settings make you nervous or uncomfortable, you may struggle with SOCIAL ANXIETY. This podcast will help you understand what it is and give you coping skills and options for treatment.
COMMITMENT
How do you know if the commitment in your relationship is real? Are you hoping to create a lifetime commitment? Learn how to evaluate this important dynamic and how to improve commitment in your life.
DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES
From mildly messed up to severely unhealthy, families fall into a spectrum of dysfunction. Is there truly a completely healthy family? Let's talk about family dysfunction and then healthy family traits. Learn some coping mechanisms to deal with your family.
Surviving a mentally ill parent
Special guest, Megan, joins Dr. Patty to discuss the ups and downs of being raised by a severely, mentality ill parent. Vulnerable and brave, Megan tells her story and offers insight and coping skills for others currently, or even in the past, going through the difficulties of dealing with a mentally ill parent.
COVID PREPARATION to survive at home
COVID is here. Many physicians will tell you it is not "if" but "when" you will get it. Being prepared to care for yourself, and possibly your loved ones, is of paramount importance. You cannot wait until symptoms arise. You must be ready BEFORE you, or someone you love, gets sick. Listen to this episode ready to take notes to set yourself up in a positive manner. Hopeful you will never need it, b
LISTENING
Learn how to be a good listener and how this can deepen the safety and intimacy of your relationships. There are specific skills involved in not only listening well, but actually hearing and understanding others. Listening is the foundation of deep understanding.
SEPARATION ANXIETY
Separation anxiety can be experienced by adults as well as children. The uneasy, or fearful feeling of being away from your loved ones can be painful. Learn what separation anxiety is, how to deal with it and how not to unknowingly create it in your children.
SHY PEOPLE
Sometimes being an introvert, as opposed to an outgoing extrovert, can be a challenge. Curtis Moore, a very brave introvert, talks with Dr. Patty about navigating this world as a shy person. Together they offer some coping skills that might help you if you are a shy person, or to understand shy people in your life.
GETTING INTO THERAPY
Choosing a therapist can be a challenging issue. Navigating the choices, financial issues, concerns and what to expect are very "doable." Dr. Patty helps break it down and make the process easier to manage.
COVID SHAME and FEAR
Many people try to use shame and fear to motivate others into doing what they believe is right for the CoVid pandemic. Some people who come down with CoVid feel horrible shame and guilt as if they have done something wrong and it's their fault. Media people are using guilt, shame and blame in an attempt to get others to do what they think is right. None of this is working to help our country deal
VACCINES - Making an informed decision.
There is so much fear and anxiety surrounding CoVid and the vaccines. Special guest, Richard Malotky, MD, gives a lot of great information to help you understand the risks so you can either make an informed decision or write down questions for your doctor.
The Things People Fear
Anxiety, phobias, rejection, abandonment, death and dying, etc.... The fears that many people have often ruin their lives. Work on understanding your fears to begin to get control of them. Peace is possible!!
PAIN YOU CANNOT SEE
The struggle of invisible illness and of pain others cannot see, can be excruciating. Whether it is physical or emotional pain, the frustration of life changes and challenges can be exhausting. Olympian, Simone Biles, withdrew from the 2021 Tokyo Olympics because of something others could not see. We dedicate this episode of THERAPY IN A NUTSHELL to this brave athlete and to all who struggle with
VICTIMS in relationships
Do you feel like a victim somewhere in your life? Your relationship? Your job? Does someone in your life "play the victim" and it drives you nuts? Understand the nuances of this seemingly difficult dynamic.
MEN AND DEPRESSION
It is often difficult for men to admit they might be depressed and need help. Denial, avoidance, minimizing and fear of looking weak and vulnerable can play a role in not getting help. Richard Malotky, M.D. joins me in this important episode.
RETIREMENT - The Emotional Transition
Whether you are 30+, or nearing retirement age, or are already retired and not thrilled with your life, this episode will get you reorganizing. Preparing well for retirement is important, but it is also possible to reorganize if you are struggling emotionally with this challenging transition in life.
BE THE CHANGE
How well do you handle change? Look at the areas in your life you have tried to change but could not pull it off. What keeps you from succeeding? How well we handle change we cannot control and change we try to accomplish on purpose?
What is your PURPOSE in life?
Whether you are a young person starting out or revaluating your life, how do you know what your purpose is? Are you happy? Do you love what you "do?"
DEFENSE MECHANISMS
When an event or upset makes us feel badly, worried, concerned, angry or fearful (or many other possible emotions), our defense mechanisms can come into play. Learn what those might be and how to shift yourself into healthier, more developed behavior.
JEALOUSY
Jealously distorts our relationships by distorting who we are... or who we want to be. Does your jealousy harm your relationships... personal, professional, friends or family? Are you the recipient of a partner's jealous fears? JEALOUSY makes everyone feel horrible. This episode helps you recognize it and begin to fix it.
PATTERNS OF BEHAVIOR
What are your patterns of behavior and how do they affect the quality of your life? This episode will help you identify unhealthy patterns and learn how to change them into healthy patterns of behavior.
EARTH SCHOOL ©
We are born into Earth School © for one purpose. Learn what that purpose is and how to manifest it in your life. This comforting lesson can help you find the peace you have been searching for.
LYING - Why do most people lie?
Almost everyone lies sometimes. Why? This episode lets you see how the lies we tell are a window into our own emotional development and how we need to grow. Learn why people lie, how to tell if they are lying and how to become more direct and honest yourself.
MOTHER RELATIONSHIP - A window into who you are
Your relationship with your mother, good or bad, happy or challenged, is a window into who you are. What things have you adopted? How do you try not to be like her? Take a look at how your relationship with your mom colors your world today.
The ME FILTER
How aware are you of your own"ME FILTER?" Do you tend to take things very personally or feel obligated to always express your thoughts, opinions or experiences? Does someone you know often feel like a victim? Learn to get outside of yourself and become a calmer person.
CO-DEPENDENCY and ENABLING - A Fresh Look
Co-dependent behaviors can be viewed in a manner that allows you to change in a healthy way. Why do some people enable others? How do you stop doing those unhealthy things?
The F-BOMB - Hiding Behind It
Do you drop the F-bomb a lot? In your vocabulary is it a noun, verb, adjective and an adverb? Do you wish you, or someone you care about, would stop swearing so much? Learn how we hide behind the F-bomb.
SECONDARY TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER
Compassion Fatigue is another name for stress resulting from treating victims of trauma. First responders, military personnel, therapists, social workers, medical professionals and many others in helping/healing professions can develop different levels of this disorder.
VULNERABILITY
Do you worry that you will be hurt... AGAIN? Many view vulnerability as weakness and they work really hard to stay safe from emotional turmoil and possible pain. Embracing your vulnerability is the path to getting the love you want and releasing your self-doubt.
DYSTHYMIA - Pervasive Depressive Disorder (Mild, ongoing depression)
Do you feel like you are sludging through mud? Have you lost your spark for life? This low level, ongoing depression can zap your energy and suck the joy out of life. The good news is it is highly treatable.
BLADDER ISSUES
Many people, men and women, have bladder issues for which they never seek help. Bladder control issues and bladder pain issues are often suffered in silence. It can be embarrassing and many feel like they are weak or broken. Often people fear being shamed or ridiculed if they speak up. Many do not know that help is available and can change your life. It can help you get back the life that bladder
OCD - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
OCD mental health disorder that can range from extremely mild to severe and debilitating. It can affect anyone. This episode will help you understand what OCD is and the help that is available to treat it.
TUMULTUOUS TIMES FOR THE USA
Many people are extremely upset, nervous, disappointed and fearful for our country. Feelings of hopelessness, helplessness and feeling powerless are weighing heavily on many. Know that you are not alone. Hopefully this episode will offer a few coping skills.
PHOBIAS
What are the things that you are afraid of that keep you from moving forward in your life? Are your phobias harming your health, your relationships or just limiting who you are. This episode will help you learn to ride that dragon.
LONELINESS
LONELINESS often creates depression and hopelessness. This episode explores how loneliness can happen, the underlying feelings and how it can take on a life of its own. Learn how to begin to change things and diminish the loneliness in your life.
CoVid School Closures
Special guest, Amanda Nardo, discusses with Dr. Patty the impact of school closures on children and families. This episode will help parents know they are not alone and give you some coping skills.
COPING WITH THE UNCERTAINTY
These political times, as well as CoVid issues, have been stressing people to the max. If you are struggling, know that you are not alone. Listen to others calling in with their own advice as well as Dr. Patty giving you coping skills.
SILENT TREATMENT
Do you experience the "silent treatment" from someone you care about? Are you the one who does silent treatment on sometimes else? When is this "taking some space" and when is it emotional abuse?
BETRAYAL
BETRAYAL changes you and alters your life. It wounds your heart and feels like a knife in the gut. This episode helps you understand, and put into words, what betrayal might mean to you. More importantly, learn how to move through betrayal and trust again.
GASLIGHTING - Emotional Abuse
Are you, or someone you care about, the victim of sustained emotional abuse? The absence of bruises and broken bones does not necessarily mean that abuse is not there. This episode will help define this difficult relationship situation and give you some direction to get help.
HIGH MAINTENANCE PEOPLE
Do you deal with someone who exhausts you with excessive needs and constant boundary busting? It might be a partner, child, employee or family member. It might also be you that is the high maintenance individual. This show will address these challenging relationships and give you some tools to deal with them.
RE-CENTERING
Do you, or someone you love, struggle with getting super emotional -- anxious, angry, frustrated, etc-- and do not know how to RE-CENTER and calm down? This episode will help you learn how to RE-CENTER and calm down.
DEPRESSION IN CHILDREN during these challenging times
These are chaotic and difficult times. The pandemic, school closures and unusually structured school openings are taking an emotional toll on children of all ages. Wearing masks and dealing with social distancing is also unusual for kids. There has been a big uptake in depression in children.
POTTY MOUTH
Do you use a lot of profanity... Swearing... Cussing... Dropping the "F" BOMB? Do people you love and trust talk about your "potty mouth?" This episode explores why we use profanity and what to do if you would like to cut back or eliminate it all together from your communication behavior.
ADDICTIONS
Do you have an addiction to drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex, food, shopping, gambling, gossiping and/or political hatred? This episode explores those areas of addiction and offers ways to begin to change.
THE POWER OF BELIEVING
What do you believe? What do you doubt? Your relationships, career, financial stability, parenting, spiritual beliefs and much more, are a reflection of what you believe. If you want to make a change, you must first understand what it is you believe about that which you want to change. Learn how to harness the power of BELIEVING.
POLITICAL STRESS - The Other Pandemic
The chaos and conflict of our current political environment can be deeply troubling to many people. It can affect friendships, family relationships and professional connections. Sometimes irreversible changes occur. Are you feeling stressed and overwhelmed by everything that is currently happening?
SUICIDAL THOUGHTS - A Call to Consciousness
Sometimes the desire to die is a coping mechanism for controlling emotional pain. This is not about severe suicidal feelings but that slight "I just want things to stop hurting" feeling that some people channel into subtle suicidal thoughts. Learn how this can be am unhealthy coping mechanism and how to find healthier coping tools.
HABITS - Making Them and Breaking Them
Understanding how habits are formed will let you learn how to either make a new habit or break an old habit. It isn't difficult. There are some very specific steps that will help you accomplish your goals. (I apologize that I could not edit out the commercials in this episode. There has been a glitch in the app and I'm working on it. Just zoom through them.)
PERSONAL RULES
What are your personal rules that you have developed in an effort to keep yourself safe? These rules, formed over your lifetime from experiences, traumas, modeling from your upbringing, and more, can be a window into your soul. Learn how to take a look at yourself so you can grow and evolve.
(Note: I apologize that I was unable to edit out the commercials from my radio show. Just zoom through them
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