All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind
This podcast, hosted by relationship coach Katie Ziskind, guides listeners on improving emotional intimacy, vulnerability, and communication in relationships. It provides sex-positive education, helping individuals and couples discuss sexual needs and desires openly. The goal is to foster a vibrant, passionate, and erotic sex life by breaking down taboos and increasing emotional bonding skills.
Episodes
148: Part 2: When Your Husband Says, "You’re Too Sensitive" - Identifying Emotional Invalidation, Narcissistic Traits & Finding Safety in Love
Have you ever told your husband that something hurt your feelings, only to hear, “You're too sensitive,” “You're overreacting,” “You're too emotional,” or “It wasn't that big of a deal”? Maybe you tried to explain why you were hurt, but somehow the conversation became an argument about everything you supposedly do wrong. Maybe you eventually apologized just to make the conflict stop. You walk on e
147: Part 1: When Your Husband Explodes: De-Escalating Conflict, Narcissistic Traits, Emotional Abuse & Protecting Your Peace
What do you do when a conversation with your spouse suddenly turns into yelling, rage, defensiveness, insults, or an explosive argument? What if you find yourself constantly walking on eggshells, carefully choosing your words, monitoring your partner's mood, and trying to prevent the next conflict? In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind, LMFT, explores the complicated reali
146: From Shame to Sparkle: Exploring Cross Dressing, Transgender Females, Bi-Gender Identity, Sexuality, and Self-Acceptance with Katie Ziskind
Have you ever wondered if your interest in femininity means you're a crossdresser, transgender woman, genderfluid, or simply someone exploring your authentic self? Have you spent years hiding your feminine side, questioning your gender identity, or feeling ashamed of your sexuality because of your family, culture, or religious upbringing? In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Licens
145: LGBTQ+ Pride Month History, Good News, and Glossary Terms
In this Pride Month episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, host Katie Ziskind, LMFT, Certified Sex Therapy Informed Professional, and trauma-informed couples therapist, explores the history of the Stonewall Riot, hate crimes against the LGBTQIA+ population, good news in the LGBTQIA+ community, as well as a glossary of LGBT terms regarding accepting, and expressing your authentic sexual orientati
144: Coming Out Later in Life: Pride Month, Gender Identity, Sexual Orientation, Authenticity, Religious Trauma, Shame, and Finding the Courage to Be Yourself
🌈 Welcome to episode, "144: Coming Out Later in Life: Pride Month, Gender Identity, Sexual Orientation, Authenticity, Religious Trauma, Shame, and Finding the Courage to Be Yourself," with Katie Ziskind.What happens when you've spent years—or even decades—trying to be the "good wife," the "good husband," the perfect parent, the devoted church member, or the succes
143: Cross Dressing and Trauma Counseling (Healing the Parts You Hide): Gain Self-Acceptance, Heal Shame, Embrace Your Authentic Self, Talk About Masculinity and Femininity, Sexual Abuse, PTSD
In episode, "143: Cross Dressing and Trauma Counseling (Healing the Parts You Hide): Gain Self-Acceptance, Heal Shame, Embrace Your Authentic Self, Talk About Masculinity and Femininity, Sexual Abuse, PTSD," of the All Things Love and Intimacy, trauma therapist and Certified Sex Therapy Informed Professional Katie Ziskind explores the relationship between cross dressing, shame, self-reje
142: When One Partner Wants More Sex and the Other Has Low Libido: Healing Sexual Disconnection Through Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS Therapy)
In episode 142 of the, All Things Love and Intimacy podcast, Katie Ziskind's speaks to the various aspects regarding libido, desire discrepancies, and rebuilding sexual libido and desire. Many couples have a strong friendship and identify as enjoying the companionship, but struggle with physical intimacy, eroticism, passion, orgasming, sexual playfulness, and sexual connection. Katie Ziskind e
141: Part 3: Eroticism and Kink in History and Skills For Deeper Sexual Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships
Welcome back to the All Things Love and Intimacy Podcast with Katie Ziskind, certified sex therapy informed professional, licensed marriage and family therapist, yoga teacher, and holistic couples counselor. In this empowering and educational episode, Katie Ziskind explores the history of eroticism, female pleasure, emotional intimacy, kink positivity, and how couples can reconnect with passion, p
140: Part 2: Let’s Talk Cross-Dressing- Feminine Energy & Sexuality: Breaking Shame Around Cross-Dressing with Katie Ziskind
In episode, "140: Part 2: Let’s Talk Cross-Dressing- Feminine Energy & Sexuality: Breaking Shame Around Cross-Dressing with Katie Ziskind," on the All Things Love and Intimacy Podcast, we’re diving into a compassionate, affirming, and sex-positive conversation about cross-dressing, feminine energy, and breaking shame around gender expression. If you’ve ever wondered “Is cross-dressin
139: Part 1: Sexual Accelerators & Brakes: The Real Science of Female Desire & What Actually Turns Women On
In episode, "139: Part 1: Sexual Accelerators & Brakes: The Real Science of Female Desire," of All Things Love and Intimacy, we explore how to create deeper connection, pleasure, and emotional safety in your sex life by shifting away from performance-based intimacy and into play, curiosity, and nervous system regulation. Drawing on the groundbreaking work of Emily Nagoski, this episo
138: Couples Therapy Retreats and Intensives, Beyond Weekly Therapy: Marriage Retreats For Healing Anxiety, OCD, High Conflict Patterns, Trauma & Disconnection
In this episode, of the All Things Love and Intimacy podcast, Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage and family therapist, certified sex therapy informed professional, complex trauma specialist, takes you deep into the world of couples therapy retreats and how immersive, trauma-informed relationship work can help you and your partner reconnect, regulate, and truly understand each other again. If you’ve
137: Loving Someone Who Feels Afraid of Sex, Pleasure, or Their Body - How To Talk About Sex When Your Partner Feels Unsafe
In episode, "137: Loving Someone Who Feels Afraid of Sex, Pleasure, or Their Body - How To Talk About Sex When Your Partner Feels Unsafe" of the All things Love and Intimacy podcast, Katie Ziskind speaks to couples where one person is on their sexual empowerment journey and the other is struggling with sexual shame from a strict, conservative, and purity culture upbringing.If you or your
136: Infidelity Recovery Counseling and Coaching: Root Causes of Cheating, Why Affairs Happen, and Gottman Therapy Steps For Rebuilding Trust and Intimacy
In this powerful and deeply insightful episode, "136: Infidelity Recovery Counseling and Coaching: Root Causes of Cheating, Why Affairs Happen, and Gottman Therapy Steps For Rebuilding Trust and Intimacy," of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind explores the real reasons behind infidelity—going far beyond surface-level explanations to uncover the emotional, psychological, and rela
135: Part 3: Complex PTSD, Anxious Attachment Styles, and Avoidant Attachment Styles in Polyamory and Ethically Non-Monogamous Relationships
In episode, "135: Part 3: Complex PTSD, Anxious Attachment Styles, and Avoidant Attachment Styles in Polyamory and Ethically Non-Monogamous Relationships," of the All Things Love and Intimacy podcast, relationship coach Katie Ziskind explores how attachment styles, inner child wounds, emotionally neglectful parenting, and complex trauma shape our most intimate relationships—especially fo
134: Part 2: Polyamory and Open Relationships: How To Turn Hyper-Independence, Childhood Emotional Neglect, and Feeling Like A Burden Into Opportunities For Emotional Safety
In episode "134: Polyamory and Open Relationships: How To Turn Hyper-Independence, Childhood Emotional Neglect, and Feeling Like A Burden Into Opportunities For Emotional Safety," of the All Things Love and Intimacy Podcast, relationship therapist Katie Ziskind explores the powerful connection between inner child wounds, emotional vulnerability, and polyamory or open relationships. While many peop
133: Part 1: Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Ethical Non-Monogamy: Boundaries, Jealousy, Sex, and Trust
What does it really mean to be in a polyamorous or open relationship? How do couples decide rules around sex, boundaries, jealousy, and emotional connections? How do couples come out to family and friends? What if coming out is not the right choice, leaving partners hurt or sad? And what happens when betrayal, secrecy, or broken agreements occur in non-monogamous relationships? And how do couples
132: Neurodivergence and Porn Addiction: ADHD, Autism, Dopamine, and Healing Your Sex Life
In episode 132 of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind explores the complex connection between neurodivergence and porn addiction. If you or your partner struggles with compulsive pornography use and identify as ADHD, autism, or is neurodivergent, this episode offers clarity without shame. Instead of framing porn addiction as a moral failure, Katie unpacks how dopamine regulation, sensory p
131: Reclaiming Pleasure After Religious Trauma: Sex Specialized Therapy and Coaching for Women Curious to Orgasm and Heal Intimacy Blocks
In this powerful and compassionate episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind dives into a topic so many women struggle with silently: difficulty with orgasm, low libido, disconnection from their bodies, and anxiety around intimacy. If you’ve ever felt broken, ashamed, numb, or frustrated in your sex life, this episode is for you.Sex specialized therapy for women in Florida is about so
130: Religious Trauma and Purity Culture Did a Number on Your Sex Life: How Women Can Reclaim Sexual Desire, Pleasure, Sexual Embodiment, and Erotic Freedom
In this powerful and deeply validating episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, licensed marriage and family therapist Katie Ziskind explores the lasting impact of purity culture and religious trauma on women’s sexual desire, pleasure, and emotional intimacy. This conversation is especially for women who were taught to be “good girls,” remain virgins until marriage, suppress sexual curiosity, and
129: Strategies To Take You From Exhaustion to Connection, Emotionally and Sexually
In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind, certified sex therapy informed professional, Gottman Level Two trained marriage specialist, and somatic trauma specialist, explores what happens when love starts to feel heavy, distant, or depleted—even when two people deeply care about each other. Emotional burnout is one of the most overlooked challenges in long-term relationships,
128: Why Does Sex Feel Harder Than It Should? - Emotional Foreplay Supports Clitoral Engorgement, Arousal, and Pleasure — The Missing Link
Are you curious why sexual desire can feel elusive, even in a loving relationship? In episode 128 of All Things Love & Intimacy, therapist, sexuality coach, and sex educator Katie Ziskind dives into emotional foreplay—the often-overlooked foundation of female arousal, clitoral engorgement, orgasms, and lasting sexual satisfaction.Most women don’t just need physical touch—they need emotional sa
127: Part 2: Marriage Therapy Intensives for Neurodivergent Couples in Melbourne, Florida
In Part 2 of this conversation on All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind continues exploring how marriage therapy intensives for neurodivergent couples in Melbourne, Florida support deeper healing, repair, and reconnection—especially when trauma, ADHD, grief, or chronic stress have shaped relationship dynamics over time.This episode focuses on what happens beneath the conflict. Many neurodive
126: Part 1: When Love Speaks Different Languages: Marriage Therapy Intensives for Neurodivergent Couples in Melbourne, Florida
Relationships are challenging—even in the best of circumstances. When ADHD, neurodivergence, trauma, grief, PTSD, or C-PTSD are part of the relationship, conflict can escalate quickly and feel confusing, exhausting, and deeply painful. You may love your partner fiercely and still find yourselves stuck in the same arguments, wondering why it feels impossible to slow things down or feel understood.I
125: Slow Down, Connect Up: Marriage Counseling When One or Both Are Neurodivergent, Highly Sensitive People, and High Functioning on the Autism Spectrum
What happens to intimacy when one or both partners are neurodivergent, highly sensitive, or high functioning on the autism spectrum—and no one ever taught you how your nervous system actually works?In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, we explore why conflict, emotional disconnection, and sex can feel so intense for sensitive and neurodivergent nervous systems—and why slowing down is no
124: You Don’t Have Anxiety—You Have a Survival Response: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn Are Your Nervous System's Learned Protective Responses
Many people believe they struggle with chronic anxiety, digestive issues, panic attacks, or OCD—yet traditional coping skills don’t bring lasting relief. In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, trauma specialist and trauma therapist, Katie Ziskind, explores how fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses are often misunderstood survival strategies rooted in early emotional stress, relationa
123: High Conflict Fighting That Feels Endless? Private Marriage Therapy Retreat in Melbourne, Florida with Katie Ziskind, Trauma and High Conflict Couples Therapist
Retreats are designed for couples who feel stuck in painful cycles they cannot break on their own. You may love each other deeply, yet feel like enemies during conflict. Experience intense arguments, emotional shutdown, resentment, or a growing sense of loneliness in your marriage? Constantly walking on eggshells, or like nothing you do is ever enough? If your fights feel bigger than the present m
122: Part 2: Infidelity - When You're The One Who Cheats, What You Can Do To Repair Your Couple Bubble
In this powerful and compassionate episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind, LMFT, RYT500, infidelity and complex trauma specialist, guides you through what it actually takes to rebuild trust and repair the couple bubble when you’re the partner who cheated.Infidelity doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Infidelity often reactivates old wounds from childhood. There are attachment wounds, copin
121: Part 1: Infidelity, Porn, Pain, Betrayal & Affairs: Breaking Generational Cycles - Infidelity Specialist Helps You Heal the Deeper Wounds You Didn’t Know You Had
Welcome to All Things Love & Intimacy with Katie Ziskind, LMFT, RYT500, infidelity specialist, complex trauma therapist, and sex-positive educator. In this powerful episode (part 1), we dive deep into the hidden roots of affairs, porn addiction, and emotional disconnection—revealing how these patterns are often not random mistakes, but learned behaviors passed down through generations. We disc
120: A Couple Bubble Retreat: Deep Healing & Intimacy Restoration Through Somatic Therapy After Pornography Addiction and Betrayal Trauma
Welcome to episode 120, dedicated to couples who are navigating porn addiction, betrayal trauma, emotional disconnection, or intimacy challenges — and who are ready for a deeper, embodied path to healing. Hosted by Katie Ziskind, LMFT, a somatic, sex-positive, kink-aware couples therapist and founder of Wisdom Within Counseling & Coaching, this episode explores how somatic couples therapy retr
119: When the Holidays Feel Heavy: Coping With Pressure, Loneliness, and Emotional Overload Through Counseling and Coaching
The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joy, laughter, and connection—but for many, it can feel overwhelming, exhausting, or even painful. If you find yourself dreading the holidays, struggling with family dynamics, coping with grief, or feeling isolated in your marriage or relationships, you are not alone. On this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, we explore the emotional challe
118: From Fight to Connection: EFT for Couples with Childhood Trauma - Emotionally Focused Therapy and Inner Child Wounds
In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind dives deep into how Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can help couples heal from childhood trauma, C-PTSD, emotional neglect, infidelity, and deep attachment wounds. Feeling frustrated and exhausted, feeling stuck in repeating cycles of conflict, withdrawal, invalidation, and emotional disconnection? These patterns often have roots in
117: What Porn Addiction, High Conflict Fights, and Alcoholism Are Really Saying About Emotional Pain - Healing the Inner Child Who Learned to Numb: How Trauma Drives Porn and Alcohol Addiction
In this deeply healing episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage and family therapist, Gottman Level II specialist, and certified sex therapy-informed professional, explores the hidden emotional roots beneath porn addiction, alcoholism, infidelity, and betrayal trauma. This episode is for couples and individuals who are tired of surface-level advice like “just stop
116: 10 Gottman Method Skills to Rebuild Trust After Betrayal or Infidelity
The Gottman Method is based on over 40 years of relationship research. It helps couples build what Dr. Gottman calls the Sound Relationship House—a metaphor for emotional connection, conflict management, and shared meaning. Trust is the foundation of this house. Every betrayal is like a crack in that foundation—but the good news is that it can be repaired, brick by brick. Gottman’s approach offers
115: Healing the Heartbreak of Betrayal Trauma: A Step-by-Step Guide to Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity and Sex Addiction Via Inner Child Work
In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind, LMFT, RYT500, Certified Sex Therapy-Informed Professional, and Imago Relationship Therapist, explores the deep emotional symptoms of betrayal trauma after infidelity or sex addiction. When infidelity, lying, or sex addiction shatters trust and breaks down your couple bubble, it creates deep emotional pain known as betrayal trauma. In
114: Beyond Self-Pleasure: Overcoming Fear From From Solo to Shared Sexuality and Creating Passionate Partner Intimacy
In this episode, Katie Ziskind, shares how to shift from self-pleasure to real-life partner sexual connection. She shares her expertise in sex-positive, couples-focused counseling and marital coaching. For one, she normalizes self-pleasure as a natural, healthy part of sexuality but it can be self-isolating if there is shame, guilt, fear, or anxiety around it. If you are accustomed to self-pleasur
113: How Avoidant Attachment Style Fuels Pornography Addiction. Sex Addiction, Lying, and Disconnection in Marriage - Rebuild Emotional Intimacy and Rebuild Sexual Intimacy Through Marriage Therapy
Welcome to episode "113: How Avoidant Attachment Style Fuels Pornography Addiction. Sex Addiction, Lying, and Disconnection in Marriage - Rebuild Emotional Intimacy and Rebuild Sexual Intimacy Through Marriage Therapy," on the All Things Love and Intimacy Podcast with Katie Ziskind. Katie Ziskind is a certified sex therapy-informed professional, complex trauma and CPTSD specialist, and G
112: Therapy and Coaching Strategies for Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse and Emotional Trauma: Spot Gaslighting, Devaluation, Silent Treatment, and Emotional Manipulation
In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, with Katie ZIskind, we explore the complex, often confusing, and deeply painful world of narcissistic abuse. Narcissistic abuse can take many forms — from rage, aggression and explosive anger to manipulation like gaslighting, silent treatment, harsh criticism, and emotional invalidation. Many survivors of narcissistic abuse and emotional violence do
111: Tired of Begging for Bare Minimum Effort? Exhausted, Unseen, Misunderstood, and Unheard? Marriage Therapy for Exhausted Wives.
Are you a wife, mom, or stepmom who feels like you’re constantly giving to everyone else—yet when it comes to your own needs, you’re left begging for the bare minimum effort in your marriage? Do you feel exhausted, tired, angry, frustrated, misunderstood, and unheard? In this powerful episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, I, Katie Ziskind—East Lyme marriage therapist, couples counselor, and sex
110: Why She’s Not in the Mood—And How to Change That - Why Women Lose Their Sex Drive - Skills For Reviving Female Sexual Desire, When He Wants More, You Want Less
In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind talks about one of the most common struggles in heterosexual relationships: when the man has a higher sex drive and the woman feels like her sexual desire has faded—or vanished completely. Are you a male partner wanting more frequent sex? Are you a husband who is wanting to support your female spouse in building a sexually embodied and
109: Meditation for Couples: Rebuilding Emotional Safety, Intimacy & Connection in High-Conflict Relationships
Welcome back to All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind, LMFT, certified sex therapy-informed couples specialist and relationship coach. In this deeply restorative episode, we’re exploring the transformational power of meditation for couples, especially when your relationship is caught in painful cycles of fighting, disconnection, or emotional shutdown.If you and your partner are strugglin
108: The Real Reason You Are Fighting, Yelling and Avoiding —Inner Child Wounds and Attachment Styles in Your Marriage
Why do you and your partner keep having the same fight—one yells, the other shuts down, and nothing gets resolved? In this episode, Katie Ziskind breaks down how anxious and avoidant attachment styles, shaped by your childhood, fuel painful marriage conflicts. Learn how inner child wounds show up in your arguments—and how to begin healing them together.Are you and your spouse getting stuck in frus
107: When One Wants Sex and the Other Doesn’t: Low Libido, Mismatched Desire, Healing the Sexual Desire Disconnection and Why You’re Not Broken
Feeling disconnected? Learn why mismatched sexual desire happens, how to reconnect emotionally, and reignite intimacy in marriage. Is your sex life starting to feel like another awkward item on the to-do list? Maybe one of you wants it more often, and the other feels pressured, touched out, or just... not interested. You’re not alone. In today’s episode, we’re diving into the quiet heartbreak and
106: People Pleasers, Fixers, Caretakers & High Anxiety: Rejection in the Bedroom and How Therapy Brings Back Emotional Connection, Trust, Security, and Sexual Joy After Trauma
If you’re someone who struggles with high anxiety, perfectionism, or people-pleasing… and you’ve ever felt like intimacy in your relationship is more terrifying than tender, you're in the right place. If you’re anxiously attached, you may cling, overthink, or fear being abandoned. If you’re avoidantly attached, you might shut down, retreat, or feel suffocated by closeness. Trauma-informed ther
105: No Touchy? No Problem. From Distant to Sexual Desire— Let’s Talk Sexless Marriages & Trauma Healing. Marriage Therapists Specialize In Sex and Intimacy
Are you feeling alone in a marriage where physical affection and sexual intimacy have disappeared? You’re not broken — and neither is your relationship. In this episode, our sexless marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut unpack how childhood trauma, sexual shame, emotional neglect, and nervous system shutdowns impact desire. If you’ve ever wondered why you feel numb, overwh
104: From Porn Myths to Real Intimacy: Create A Fulfilling, Frequent Sex Life By Focusing On Female Pleasure and Emotional Connection
Many men first learn about sex through porn, which gives an unrealistic picture. It skips over emotional connection and shows women instantly aroused and orgasmic. In real life, this just isn’t true. When men carry those ideas into marriage, it creates confusion, rejection, resentment, and emotional distance. Porn doesn’t show a woman melting into touch after her partner tells her, “I’m proud of w
103: For Females Who Want Sexual Empowerment And A Satisfying Connected, Pleasurable Sex Life After Religious Shame, Guilt, and Fear - Learn About Female Sexual Arousal and Speaking Up
Being a martyr might look like having sex out of obligation, even when your body is saying “no.” It might look like suppressing your needs for longer foreplay, slower touch, or emotional connection because you’re afraid of seeming “too needy” or “too complicated.” You might ignore your longing for tenderness, eroticism, or affirmation. And, you do so because you’ve been conditioned to believe that
102: Statements to Avoid If You Want To Stay Married - When Your Partner Says, "You've Hurt My Feelings" - Stay Present Without Getting Defensive
Emotional attunement is the heartbeat of a safe, secure romantic relationship. It’s the ability to sense, care about, and respond to your partner’s inner world—even when you’re the one who unintentionally hurt them. In this episode, "102: Statements to Avoid If You Want To Stay Married - When Your Partner Says, "You've Hurt My Feelings" - Stay Present Without Getting Defensive," of the All Things
101: Intimacy Focused and Sex Positive Marriage Counseling and Coaching For a Sexless Marriage, Low Libido, Sexual Performance Anxiety, Body Image Issues, Perfectionism, and Sexual Shame
Start in intimacy focused and sex positive marriage counseling and coaching to break the cycle of a sexless marriage, low libido, and rebuild sexual passion at www.WisdomWithinCt.comYou may try to talk about sex, only for it to erupt into defensiveness, hurt feelings, or silence. The one who avoids sex may feel like a failure, ashamed or anxious about not being "enough." The one who longs for it m
100: Porn vs. Reality: Why Foreplay Takes Longer Than You Think and How You Can Rebuild Intimacy After Compulsive Porn Use
Compulsive Porn Use and the Foreplay Myth: What’s Missing in Real Intimacy?Pornography is everywhere—it’s accessible, free, and easy to consume. Many people turn to porn for sexual exploration, stress relief, or even as a way to escape emotional struggles. However, compulsive porn use can have significant effects on real-life intimacy, especially when it comes to foreplay and the natural arousal p
99: 5 Gottman Skills For A Better Marriage After Hurt, Let Down, Betrayal, Abandonment, Feeling Rejected, and Unwanted Emotionally and Sexually.
Have you ever felt the sting of betrayal, the ache of emotional rejection, or the deep loneliness of feeling unwanted in your marriage? Maybe you've experienced a painful fight, an affair, a loss of trust, or emotional neglect that makes it hard to open your heart again. The fear of being hurt again, the weight of intrusive thoughts replaying past wounds, and the anxiety of trying to rebuild intim
98: Sexual Performance Anxiety for Men: Mindset Shifts, Breathwork & Relaxation Techniques, Talking to Your Partner, and Reducing Porn Use
In "Understanding and Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety For Men" on the All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind, we discuss how sexual performance anxiety is something that many men struggle with, yet few openly talk about. The pressure to "perform," last longer, maintain an erection, or live up to unrealistic expectations creates overwhelming anxiety/self-doubt. If
97: Keeping the Spark Alive: How to Have Passionate Sex in Your Long-Term Relationship
Book a session at www.WisdomWithinCt.com to work with Katie Ziskind to improve your emotional bond, playfulness and sexual connection.In this episode ofAll Things Love and Intimacy, we’re diving deep into how couples can maintain passion, excitement, and deep connection in their long-term relationship. Many couples assume that a dwindling sex life is inevitable, but the truth is, with intention an
96: Infidelity Recovery, Understanding the 'Why' and Steps to Heal, Rebuild Trust, Apologize, and Reconnect After Emotional Cheating and Physical Cheating
When you are struggling to recover from infidelity, cheating, an affair, or unfaithfulness, you need specific steps and guidance to do so. Katie Ziskind in Melbourne, Florida is a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in infidelity, PTSD, and betrayal recovery. The affair and lying have caused deep emotional wounds and severe heartbreak. When you have been cheated on, it is diffic
95: Healing Your Marriage: Understand How Childhood Experiences and Self-Sabotaging Behaviors Like Infidelity, Gambling, Pornography Are Linked
In this deeply insightful episode, we explore how unresolved childhood experiences shape the negative behaviors we bring into our marriages—often leading to self-sabotaging actions like infidelity, gambling, prescription drug abuse, or pornography use. As we discuss the emotional wounds from childhood and their impact on your marriage bond, we delve into how these behaviors are often an "emotional
94: How To Talk About Eroticism and Sexual Needs Without Causing Insecurity or Inadequacy In Your Spouse
Welcome to another episode of All Things Love and Intimacy! In this episode, we’re diving into a sensitive yet transformative topic: how to talk about eroticism, sexuality, sexual expression, and needs with your partner in a way that fosters connection, intimacy, and understanding—without triggering feelings of insecurity, judgement, self-consciousness, or inadequacy. These conversations can feel
93: The Invisible Mental Load and Its Impact on Women's Libido: Why Women Feel Too Exhausted for Intimacy (And How to Reignite Desire)
In this episode, Katie Ziskind is diving into the mental and invisible load that many women carry and how it affects libido, sexual desire, and intimacy. Katie Ziskind speaks to the mental and invisible load for women and vulva owners and how it affects libido, sexual desire, and intimacy. If you’ve ever wondered why sex feels like the last thing on your mind after a long day of juggling work, par
92: Why Women Stop Wanting to Have Sex - Reasons Females Have A Lack of Sexual Desire or Low Interest In Sex
Katie Ziskind dives into the complex and often misunderstood reasons why women may lose desire for sex. Hormonal changes, life transitions, stress, emotional disconnection, past traumas, body image issues, self-esteem, caregiving roles, emotional disconnection impact sexual intimacy.
Hormonal Changes: Hormones play a major role in sexual desire, and fluctuations can cause libido to decrease. Hor
91: Why Is Sex Taboo and Dirty In Society's Eyes? Overcome Shame, Guilt, Fear, Obligation, and Shift Into Sexual Pleasure, Satisfaction, Enjoyment,
Sex has been historically considered taboo or dirty for a variety of cultural, religious, and societal reasons, many of which trace back to ancient beliefs, cultural norms, and religious doctrines. These views have created a framework that often associates sex, masturbation, and other sexual activities with shame, guilt, and moral impurity. Many cultures and religions, especially in the Western wo
90: Five Essential Skills for Bettering Your Marriage: Communication, Emotional Regulation, Empathy and Understanding, Problem-Solving and Compromise,
Improving a marriage often means cultivating specific skills that foster emotional intimacy, communication, and mutual respect. Here are five essential skills that can help strengthen your relationship and create a more fulfilling partnership:
Effective CommunicationGood communication involves not just talking but truly listening. This skill includes being able to express your needs clearly with
89: Anger Flares? From Conflict to Connection: Gain Skills In Relationship Coaching For Healing Childhood Wounds Through Vulnerable Conversations
In episode 89 of "The All Things Love and Intimacy," podcast with Katie Ziskind, we dive into the deep-rooted patterns that fuel conflicts in marriages and relationships, especially when one partner feels criticized and shuts down, while the other fears abandonment and pushes for connection. Often, our angry reactions in these moments are linked to unresolved childhood wounds, such as growing up w
88: Advice That Might Save Your Relationship: From Conflict, Rejection, Insecurity and Pain to Lasting Connection: Healing the Pursuer-Distancer Cycle
If you’re in a relationship stuck in conflict, this episode can save your marriage.
Imago therapy, founded by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, focuses on understanding the deeper, often unconscious roots of relationship patterns like the pursuer-distancer dynamic. According to Imago theory, many of the conflicts we face in adult relationships are driven by unresolved emotional wou
87: Reclaiming Your Life After Narcissistic Abuse: Healing from Betrayal, Infidelity, and Emotional Trauma
Welcome to episode, "87: Reclaiming Your Life After Narcissistic Abuse: Healing from Betrayal, Infidelity, and Emotional Trauma" with Katie Ziskind, LMFT, Certified Sex Therapy Informed Professional, Gottman Level Two Marriage Specialist. We discuss the aftermath of leaving a 25 or 30 year marriage to a spouse with narcissistic personality disorder. If you’ve recently emerged from a long-term marr
86: Spontaneous Sexual Desire Vs. Responsive Sexual Desire: Take The Time To Meet Each Other’s Needs Sexually and Emotionally.
Women and vulva owners typically need 45-90 minutes of emotional and sexual foreplay to reach full arousal and be ready for orgasm, and experience responsive sexual desire. Men often experience spontaneous sexual desire and may only need 4-8 minutes of foreplay. By focusing on her needs and spending more time on emotional and sexual foreplay, you’re not only helping her feel prioritized, but you’r
85: Stuck In Conflict? Get To The Root By Healing Childhood Wounds: 5 Imago Therapy Tools for Transforming Conflict into Connection
Imago Therapy, developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, is a form of relationship counseling that aims to help couples understand and transform their conflicts into opportunities for growth and connection.
Katie Ziskind helps you understand the deep emotional patterns that drive conflict. Your marriage and relationship offers an opportunity to heal unresolved childhood wounds
84: 5 Essential Gottman Skills for High Conflict Couples: Rebuilding Connection, Trust, and Emotional Intimacy with Gottman Marriage Specialist, Katie Ziskind
Do you get stuck in high conflict fights, where you can't find your way out? Wishing you could de-esclate fights and talk in calm, loving ways when experiencing big, intense emotions? Finding that inner child wounds and childhood trauma is coming up in current arguments? Are you and your partner wanting a long-lasting, meaningful connection that withstands the tests of time? Looking for skills to
83: Lisa and Greg: Healing A Marriage Worn by Porn Addiction, Alcoholism, and Infidelity In Couples Counseling with Katie Ziskind - An Understanding of How To Rebuild Emotional and Sexual Intimacy
In this episode, Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist with couples, dives into the raw, emotional journey of Lisa and Greg, a couple married for 30 years, as they navigate the devastating effects of pornography addiction, alcoholism, infidelity, and childhood trauma.
Greg's compulsive behaviors, fueled by deep-rooted feelings of inadequacy and emotional wounds from an abusive father, ha
82: Sarah and Bob's Story: Healing Childhood Attachment Trauma Through Couples Therapy with Katie Ziskind
In this episode, "82: Sarah and Bob's Story: Healing Childhood Attachment Trauma Through Couples Therapy" of the "All Things Love and Intimacy" podcast with Katie Ziskind, we dive deep into the impact of childhood attachment trauma and how early relationships with abusive, neglectful, or emotionally unavailable parents can shape the way we connect in adulthood. When your cu
81: Prioritizing Emotional Check-Ins: How Scheduling Intimacy Time Enhances Your Sex Life
In episode, "81: Prioritizing Emotional Check-Ins: How Scheduling Intimacy Time Enhances Your Sex Life," of "All Things Love and Intimacy" with Katie Ziskind, we explore the often-overlooked connection between emotional intimacy and sexual desire. If you are in a sexless marriage, there is a need to rend to your marriage's emotional garden.
For many couples, a healthy sex
80: Navigating Pornography Addiction and Rebuilding Trust in Relationships: Healing Together
In this episode of "All Things Love and Intimacy," we delve into the complex journey of overcoming pornography addiction within a relationship and the crucial process of rebuilding trust. First, we explore the emotional and relational impacts of porn addiction, offering insights into how it can create distance, erode trust, and lead to feelings of betrayal. We discuss practical trust-bui
79: Foreplay Needs in Female and Male Bodies
In episode "79: Foreplay Needs in Female and Male Bodies" of "All Things Love and Intimacy," host Katie Ziskind dives deep into the fascinating world of foreplay, exploring the distinct needs of female and male bodies. Discover why the female body typically requires 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay to reach peak arousal, while the male body often only needs about 4 to 8 minutes.
Ka
78: Frustrated/Irritated w/Your Partner? Express Core Fears Such As Abandonment & Feeling Not Good Enough To Co-Create A Strong, Healthy Couple Bubble
In this episode of "All Things Love and Intimacy," we delve into the underlying fears that often fuel frustration and irritation in marriage. Join us as we explore how expressing core fears like abandonment and feelings of inadequacy can transform your relationship. Discover practical strategies for co-creating a strong, healthy couple bubble that fosters emotional safety, trust, and int
77: Building A Stronger Connection: Enhancing Emotional Intelligence in Relationships And As A Precursor For Sexual Intimacy
In episode, "77: Building A Stronger Connection: Enhancing Emotional Intelligence in Relationships And As A Precursor For Sexual Intimacy," of "All Things Love and Intimacy," Katie Ziskind dives deep into the essential components of emotional intelligence and how they can transform your relationship. Emotional intelligence is a foundational part to sexual intimacy and a healthy
76: The Power of Vulnerability: Crafting a Loving Couple Bubble, Intimate Connection, and Stronger Bond Through Inner Child Work
In episode, "76: The Power of Vulnerability: Crafting a Loving Couple Bubble, Intimate Connection, and Stronger Bond Through Inner Child Work," of "All Things Love and Intimacy," your host Katie Ziskind delves into the transformative power of emotional vulnerability in building a strong and loving couple bubble. As a sex-positive, LGBTQIA+, queer-affirming relationship coach an
75: The Role of 45 to 90 Minutes of Foreplay: Overcoming Sexual Anxiety, Communicating Needs, Talking Openly About Sexual Desires, and Female Orgasms
In episode 75, Katie Ziskind discusses the differences in sexual arousal between penis owners and males, and vulva owners and females. Females need 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay where as males needs four to eight minutes of foreplay to reach that same level of peak climax and max sexual arousal to be prepared for orgasming. Foreplay is often too short. We also grow up with negative, shame-based, fe
74: Breaking The Cycle of Sexual Avoidance with Karine Bedard
Do you want a connected love life, but feel unwanted, insecure, and alone because your spouse pushes your physical touch away?
In this episode, Katie Ziskind was a guest on the "Breaking Free Authentically" podcast with Karine Bedard.
Katie Ziskind specializes in coaching disconnected couples who want to stay together and want to work together after high conflict fights, anger issues,
73: Fears of Abandonment and Emotionally Vulnerability To Break Conflict Cycles
In episode, "73: Fears of Abandonment and Emotionally Vulnerability To Break Conflict Cycles" of the "All Things Love and Intimacy," podcast, Katie Ziskind shares ways and skills to support a strong, healthy, and thriving couple bubble and marriage.
When you are in conflict, it means you deeply love and care about each other.
Anger is a common emotion in cycles of conflict an
72: Navigating Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Childhood Trauma, and Healing As A Couple in Marriage Coaching
Imagine your spouse as a child experiencing physical and emotional abuse from a parent. A narcissistic parent may be physically or emotionally abusing their sibling. And, they feel helpless and powerless to intervene or protect them. Such experiences breed profound feelings of fear, anxiety, and a pervasive sense of unpredictability.
In childhood, love becomes associated with fear, uncertainty, c
71: High Conflict Cycles and Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Styles: Understanding Childhood Trauma in Relationship Coaching For High Conflict Couples
Do you and your partner get into high conflict fights? Does it feel like you are stuck in a vicious cycle of negative communication, hurtful conflict, and feeling on edge around each other all the time? Are you and your partner survivors of childhood abuse, emotional trauma, and narcissistic abuse? Did you grow up with an alcoholic mother, father, or caregiver who was hot and cold, up and down emo
70: Affair Recovery Skills and Infidelity Relationship Coaching: Why Do People Cheat and How To Rebuild Trust and Emotional Intimacy
Infidelity often stems from a complex interplay of personal, relational, and situational factors. Katie Ziskind’s holistic approach allows you to explore these various dimensions. Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling are negative forms of communication that lead to a weak couple bubble. Your couple bubble is often very weak and emotionally disconnected before infidelity takes place
69: Navigating Jealousy in Marriage: Building Trust and Connection
In this insightful episode of "All Things Love and Intimacy," we delve into one of the most challenging emotions that can arise in a marriage: jealousy. Jealousy is a powerful and often complex emotion that can have significant impacts on a marriage. While it is a natural feeling, if not managed properly, jealousy can erode trust, create conflict, and undermine the foundation of a relati
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