HER Dating & Relationship Secrets
A podcast offering daily advice for women on dating and relationships. It focuses on helping successful women attract and maintain healthy partnerships. Each episode provides actionable tips to improve romantic connections. The host encourages listeners to subscribe and engage with the show.
Episodes
Where To Meet Quality Men
Barry shares the secret spot all the good men have been hiding in, with a twist!
3 Beliefs You Must Have For A Healthy Relationship!
3 Beliefs You Must Have For A Healthy Relationship!
Your Family Story and Your Relationships
Your Family Story and Your Relationships
Dance Your Way To A Healthy Happy Relationship!
Barry explains why dancing is very helpful in creating a healthy, empowered relationship! He shares the psychological benefits and exactly how to do a little dancing to improve your mood, your dating appeal, and your relationship! Enjoy!
What To Do If You Want Him Back
What To Do If You Want Him Back
I Want You To Want Me
I Want You To Want Me
“He’s actually TOO nice!”
When my client said “He’s actually TOO nice!” we went deep on why she felt that way. In this episode I share the reasons this feeling can come up, some of which are healthy and some of which are unhealthy — and what to do about it.
Can You “Have It All” In A Partner & Relationship?
Can You “Have It All” In A Partner & Relationship?
What Is Love?
What Is Love?
Is It Me or Him? (Telling Old Issues From Real Problems)
How To Tell If Its Your ‘Issues’ or His ‘Issues’ Causing Problems
Is Your Self-Worth Performative? (Are You Always the Do-er)
Is Your Self-Worth Performative? (Are You Always the Do-er)
“Why Am I Always With Emotionally-Unavailable Partners?”
“Why Am I Always With Emotionally-Unavailable Partners?”
Breakups (“Why”)
Breakups (Understanding The Importance of “Why”)
A Quick Way To Boost Your Dating & Relationships
Barry shares a quick, easy, but overlooked way to improve your dating and relationships!
Patience!
Barry describes the essential nature of patience to create a healthy relationship. He touches on how to be patient, how to not bo too passive, and how to tell the difference between fear-based restlessness and certainty-based action. He shares the missing piece that really makes empowered patience possible, and how you can use it today!
Exercise To Find Out Your Relationship Beliefs
Exercise To Find Out Your Relationship Beliefs
The Biggest Turn-Off For Men
The Biggest Turn-Off For Men
Signs A Relationship Will Last
In “Signs A Relationship Will Last” Barry shares 3 clues a relationship has a good chance of lasting!
Together
Barry explores what it means to ‘Be Together’. This has different connotations based on many factors like relationship status (single, in a long term relationship), family background (only child, how present parents were, siblings, experiences), and so on. Barry explains how the way we feel about togetherness defines how we approach dating and relationships! Get ready to look at yourself, dating a
How To Be True To Yourself Around Men
Barry describes how and when a person stops being true to themself. He shares exactly how to stay true to who you are while dating or in a relationship.
How Weekends Affect Your Relationships, Dating and You!
How Weekends Affect Your Relationships, Dating and You
If We Live Closer and More Connected Than Ever, Why Do We Feel More Isolated And Alone?
Barry describes how living in close proximity in cities, being in cars and work cubicles, and using high volume technologicalS social interactions has left us feeling more isolated despite the closeness and connectivity. He explains how we experience junk food emotional connection, and how Abstract Loss and lack of face to face experiences feed loneliness. Then he presents a compelling case for wh
The Physical and Emotional Energy To Find & Have A Healthy Relationship
Barry explains how physical and emotional energy affect your dating and relationships. He offers examples and some simple suggestions to get into a positive energy surplus! Get this episode! Get energized!
Maintaining Intimacy Through Life’s Ups & Downs
Barry describes how single people and those in relationships can maintain emotional and sexual intimacy and connection when life hands them a bad day or challenging situation. He offers a method of identifying the one thing that needs to be cleared in order to have closeness and intimacy despite life’s problems!
Understanding Male Ego
Barry explains the positive and negative forms of ego as a man’s sense of self. He describes how these affect you if you meet, date or are in a relationship with him. Barry suggests ways to look at male ego so it helps you have a healthy man for a healthy, empowered relationship.
Which Relationship Status Meets Your Needs? (The 3 Relationship Types)
Barry describes the three main types of relationship - no relationship, short-term and long-term, plus a fourth bonus type, the on-again-off-again relationship. He explains the needs each one meets and which needs are not met by that type of relationship. Listen and decide which is right for you, and why!
Self-Knowledge & Self-Understanding (‘I am a woman who...’)
Knowing yourself is the basis upon which you relate to yourself, your partner, and your entire life. In this episode, learn how we develop a sense of self, and how to cultivate healthy self knowledge so you can consciously choose the woman you want to be, at your best. We cover the influence of parents, the two main ways to gain self-knowledge, the benefits and drawbacks, and we end with a few que
The Power of Choice & Meaning in Dating and Relationships
Barry explains “The Power of Choice & Meaning in Dating and Relationships”. He gives two examples of how choosing a different meaning can change your dating and relationships.
Showing Yourself
Barry shares a the ways to show yourself so you can connect fully — single women have to show themselves fully for their soulmate to notice who they uniquely are, those in relationships can stop showing themselves fully and then lose intmacy with their partner. Barry gives you ways to fully show yourself, from personal fashion style, to sharing parts of yourself openly, to just getting out of the
Loss of Control
Barry describes the types of “Loss of Control”. He covers how we can seek control over situations and partners to feel more comfortable, safe and secure, how that creates blind spots and problems, and our loss of self-control through emotions we cannot control. He gives examples like not being able to stop thinking about an ex, or intense reactions in escalating arguments where self control is los
Being Very Successful
Barry describes the dating and relationship challenges of being a very successful woman, plus his conversation with Maria Shriver about this. He also shares about a study on this, plus what to do about it to have a healthy relationship that celebrated your FULL success and power.
Choose Love
Barry explains how to choose love. There’s a reason we can tolerate dating people who aren’t as loving as we deserve, stay with those people, or go back to those people — there is a reason we often do not choose love, and we end up feeling unloved. Barry explains the core reason, how to choose love, and how to start with an action today.
Believing In Love!
Without “Believing In Love” there is no way to find love, fall in love, or stay in love! But WHAT you believe love IS can be healthy or unhealthy. Barry delineates the development of our definition of love, and explains how our belief in love changes over time. He shares a simple exercise to give you conscious awareness if your love beliefs.
A Simple Change For Much Better Dating & Relationships (And vs Or)
Barry describes a simple change that immediately improves how we approach dating and relationships! It’s quick and it works — IF you do it!
Friends With Benefits (Does It Work?)
In “Friends With Benefits (Does It Work?)” Barry describes the emotional mechanics of why we sometimes choose this arrangement, how is can work in certain circumstances, when it doesn’t work, and how to tell the difference.
How Men See You
Barry goes deep into “How Men See You”. He covers how our past wounds can form beliefs that alter how much of our true selves we show others, as well as how identifying a man’s top needs will tell you how he sees you. He gives actions to take today to be seen, and feel safe and loved for who you authentically are.
How Singles & Couples Can Hang Out Together
Friends who are single and in a couple often stop seeing each other as much — why? Barry reviews the feelings of discomfort, not fitting in, social pressure and other challenges that separate friends along the single-coupled divide. He then gives solutions for singles and couples to hang out together so both benefit from one another. Diverse friendships are important for having healthy, empowered
Don’t Put Your Life On Hold (No More Waiting!)
Don’t Put Your Life On Hold (No More Waiting!)
Abstract Loss
Barry describes the increasing phenomenon of abstract loss: the feeling of losing connection despite logically knowing the person is there. This happens when a date or partner are physically present but emotionally elsewhere (like paying attention to their phone or thinking of something else). Barry gives examples and, of course, immediate actions and solutions.
The Rollercoaster Of Emotion
Barry explains why dating and relationships are a rollercoaster of emotion. What fuels these extreme highs and lows? How do we get off the rollercoaster? Barry answers both questions.
Age
Is Age important in dating and relationships? Barry pulls back the curtain on how it is not the age but the stage that matters. He gives three examples of how different stages can mean different priorities and values. He shows how your age and a partner’s age do and don’t matter. Listen up!
Communicating Your Needs
Barry describes the three steps to communicating your needs: Identify, Give Yourself Permission, then Use the ‘I-We-You’ template to communicate them. You deserve to have your needs met and to express them with ease!
Do I Block My Ex On Social Media?
Barry discuss the decision of whether to block an ex on social media. We explore factors like length of relationship, social and professional context, whether it’s emotionally healthy to be connected, and how to assess what you really need here.
A New Start
Barry talks about making a new start: how this is possible for single people to break old dating patterns, and for people in relationships looking for their relationship to improve or possibly end — a new start can mean many things. Barry covers how to renew your dating and relationships bu making a new start and showing up differently today!
Creating Connection
Barry describes all the ways to create connection. He goes through the various types of connection with self, and others, sharing lots of ideas to use for feeling more connected and loved.
Conditional & Unconditional Love
In this powerful, deep episode Barry walks us through “Conditional & Unconditional Love”! He explains the difference, starting with our childhood and parents, then describes how this shows up in dating and relationships for us as adults. He shares a path for realistic love that is accepting and meets our needs!
Hidden Fear (That Must Be Identified & Released)
In “Hidden Fear (That Must Be Identified & Released)” Barry shows how our hidden fears disguise themselves and destroy dating and relationships — he teaches how to identify forms of hidden fear and gives multiple examples of how it shows up when meeting, dating amd in long term relationships with people.
Smart People Have More Challenges With Dating & Relationships
Barry explains why the smarter you are, the harder dating and relationships can be. He gives two examples and an approach to moving from our head to our heart.
Do You Change Yourself To Get Love?
Do You Change Yourself For Love?
Cuddling & Being Held
Barry describes the hormonal effect of cuddling and being held through oxytocin, it’s impact on creating a healthy relationship, and how single people and people in relationships can maximize cuddling and being held. He also mentions the main blocks and wounds that get in the way of having lots of cuddling and being held.
Parents (How They Affect Your Relationships Today)
In “Parents (How They Affect Your Relationships Today)”, Barry explains the power of the parent-child relationship on our dating and relationship pattern. He covers the origin and mechanisms if how we inherit those patterns and beliefs and gives several actionable exercises to become aware of your parents’ effect on you and how to handle it!
Feeling Free in Dating & Relationships
Barry details how to feel free while dating or in a relationship — how to untether yourself from worrying or being restricted by other people’s opinions, judgement or reactions. How to worry less, stress less, and be carefree and yourself!
Completing Conversations
Barry explains how most relationship and dating problems start as small, incomplete conversations and how to have a complete conversation!
Focus Determines The Quality Of Your Dating & Relationships
In “Focus Determines The Quality Of Your Dating & Relationships” Barry shares the three arenas of focus: self talk, meeting and dating, and partnership. He shares how to focus more on what is positive and right than what’s negative and wrong, while still staying in reality.
Forgiveness
Forgiveness
What Do You Need In A Relationship?
Barry explains how knowing what you need in a relationship drives your relationship pattern. It begins with your met and unmet needs as a child, in your parents’ template, and continues into adulthood. He shares how we often have one top need we are conscious of, but a different subconscious need — which leads to partners and relationships that aren’t what we want them to be. Barry explains how to
How A Man’s Relationship With His Mother Affects Your Relationship With Him
Barry describes “How A Man’s Relationship With His Mother Affects Your Relationship With Him”. He walks through Mother-Son relationship dynamics that can impact his relationship with you. Barry shares two valuable questions to consider about his Mom and the relationship blueprint he learned. Plus, a key thing to look at to decide if he is healthy or toxic.
Self-Worth and Healthy Relationships - I am Worthy of Love!
Self-Worth and Healthy Relationships - I am Worthy of Love!
The Power of Choice
Barry describes how empowered dating & relationships depend on the power of choice, backed by action. He gives examples in dating and relationships of how past choices and subconscious choices affect our relationships, and of how making a powerful choice looks: choosing to let go of what we had previously been choosing, and taking an action to implement that choice. This is a key episode and conce
Give Yourself A Break Today!
It’s SO important to have a break from our driven, busy lives! Barry describes how giving yourself a FULL day off of tasks and emotional responsibility and worrying is important and restorative! Single people beed this space to re-fill their own cup, and attract a healthy partner. Those in relationships need it to find space for re-connection with each other! It is so healing amd energizing — list
Lack of Love
We all need love. Barry Talks about the various forms of love we need early in life, and throughout our life. He gives examples of lack of love and it’s impact on us. He then shares a simple exercise to increase the love in your life. If you want and need more love, this episode is for you.
More FUN, Less Anxiety In Dating & Relationships
Barry describes why it’s important to have “More FUN, Less Anxiety In Dating & Relationships”! He gives examples of how attachment and outcomes add stress, and how to create “mini-games” to make meeting, dating and being in a relationship with someone much more fun!
Avoiding Uncomfortable Conversations
Barry talks about how “Avoiding Uncomfortable Conversations” causes big problems, why you’ll do it anyway, and how to get start getting past this reluctance.
How Much Time & Space To Have In Dating & Relationships
In this quick episode, “The Right Amount Of Time & Space In Dating & Relationships”, Barry covers how we need a balance of individual time and enough space to have healthy dating & relationships. He describes the balance single people and couples must find to meet your needs and create a happy, healthy, empowered relationship!
Showing & Receiving Affection
In “Showing & Receiving Affection” Barry describes the ways we learn to show and receive affection, what affection is, and shares some questions to ask yourself to uncover how you cam get more flow of affection into your lofe and relationships!
Busy People
Barry talks about how being busy is less about time and more about deep emotional values and identity. He shares examples of how busy people can have healthy, empowered relationships. Also, he gives an action tip that helps whether you are single, in a relationship, busy with work, busy with children, or in a relationship with someone very busy.
Verbs and Actions Create Healthy Relationships
Verbs and Actions Create Healthy Relationships
Past, Present and Future Relationships
Barry discusses Past, Present and Future Relationships, and what to do about each in order to have a healthy, empowered relationship! Plus he gives you an action to do today!
When You Are Holding It Together, But Feel Like Falling Apart
Barry describes how strong women can hold it all together even while feeling like falling apart — plus why this happens, an example of how it looks, and what to do about it!
Conscious Beauty (What Your Style & Appearance Says About Who You Are On The Inside)
In “Conscious Beauty (What Your Style & Appearance Says About Who You Are On The Inside)” Barry explains the relationship between our self identity, self image and beliefs about ourself and out outer style & appearance. He gives an example of how conscious beauty starts inside then is reflected on the outside, and how that attracts and keeps the desire of our soulmate.
Listen To Your Intuition
Listen To And Trust Your Intuition
Transitions, Transformation and Change
Barry describes the three stages of major transitions in our lives and relationships. He walks us through making big changes in a conscious, healthy, empowered way! Which of these three stages are you at?
The 3 Reasons Men Don’t Commit & Connect
Barry shares the 3 Main Blocks To Male Commitment & Connection, and gives examples of them.
Relationship Scars
Barry explains how relationships can leave emotional scars and how these can follow you from relationship to relationship. He discusses how family of origin affects this, how the way you end a relationship determines success or failure of your next relationship, how relationship scars can keep you from meeting the right partner, how to tell if you relationship scars are healed or not, and more in
The 3 Keys To Empowered Relationships
Barry goes over the “The 3 Keys To Empowered Relationships” — he discusses the obstacles to each and gives examples. These three elements MUST be there to keep your power when dating and in relationships!
Knowing What To Say
Barry goes through the different situations where we can have challenges knowing what to say: from meeting a new guy, to conversation on dates, or with a long term partner. He reviews the reasons these challenges happen and describes the emotional mechanisms that prevent us from or allow us to easily express ourselves. He offers solutions and actions to more easily know what to say.
The Way Into A Man’s Heart (To Be The Only One In It)
In “The Way Into A Man’s Heart (To Be The Only One In It)” Barry shares the biggest mistakes people make when wanting a man to love them, how to avoid those mistakes and how to be the ONLY one in a man’s heart! You cannot miss this episode.
Good Friends & Family, Bad Advice
Good Friends & Family, Bad Advice
Who You Deserve As A Partner
Barry describes how to assess a partner who deserves you — he shares Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh’s 5 elements of a thriving relationship and how to change your focus from your partner or potential partners traits to whether you and this person have these 5 elements in your dynamic.
Self Awareness
Barry describes why Self Awareness determines your chances of a reality-based, healthy relationship. He describes how men are usually raised to have lower self awareness in certain areas, and how to spot it in a man. He then explains how to create your own self awareness, reduce your blindspots and strengthen your relationship with yourself, and others! Don’t miss this one. Without self awareness,
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