Dates, Mates and Babies with the Vallottons
Jason and Lauren Vallotton host this podcast focused on relationships and family life. They explore topics like dating, marriage, and parenting, drawing from their own experiences and years of helping people. The show aims to offer encouragement, entertainment, and practical guidance for building healthier connections. Listeners can support the podcast through their Patreon page.
Episodes
147. Preparing for Marriage, Not Just a Wedding
Getting engaged is exciting, but a healthy marriage starts long before the wedding day.In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton unpack the conversations, decisions, and preparations that can help couples build a strong foundation before saying “I do.” From navigating family dynamics and wedding planning stress to discussing sex, finances, faith, and expectations, they share practical wisdom for
146. Building a Life You Love Before Marriage with McKenzie Gibson
Jason and Lauren Vallotton sit down with their friend McKenzie Gibson, a labor and delivery nurse, to talk about something that doesn’t get discussed nearly enough: how to prepare not just for marriage, but for a full and meaningful life. In a culture that often treats singleness like a waiting room, McKenzie shares how she’s built a life marked by deep friendship, intentionality, hospitality, and
145. Confrontation That Builds Trust: How to Handle Conflict Without Creating Fear
Episode Summary: In this episode, hosts Jason and Lauren Vallotton tackle one of the most misunderstood (and avoided) dynamics in relationships: confrontation. They challenge the idea that healthy relationships are conflict-free and instead cast a compelling vision for becoming people who confront quickly and lovingly. Because avoiding conflict doesn’t create peace—it creates fear and chaos.Throug
144. The Messy Middle (Part 4): Letting Go — The Practice of Surrender
In this episode, Jason and Lauren explore how real maturity isn’t about getting more of what you want, but learning to loosen your grip. From parenting and marriage to grief and becoming grandparents, they unpack how surrender shapes relational health, heals fear, and builds a legacy that lasts.Because at some point, growth looks less like striving… and more like letting go.In this episode, the Va
143. The Messy Middle (Part 3): Becoming — Growing the Capacity Your Dream Requires
In the last episode of Dates, Mates & Babies, Jason and Lauren talked about honoring the one who dared to dream. But dreaming is only the beginning. In this episode, they explore the next phase of the journey: becoming.The dream isn’t usually the problem—and the delay isn’t punishment. Often, the space between dreaming and fulfillment is where the real work happens. As Lauren says, “God cares
142. The Messy Middle (Part 2): Dreaming — When Expectations Shape You
Last week, Jason and Lauren named the disorientation so many women feel in their 30s — when life doesn’t look the way they imagined. This week, they gently trace the story back to where it began.Before there was disappointment… there was dreaming.Lauren reminds listeners that those early dreams weren’t foolish — they were sincere. They mattered. Instead of shaming the younger version of ourselves,
141. The Messy Middle (Part 1): When Life Doesn’t Go As Planned
In this deeply honest episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton talk about the quiet disorientation that can surface in your 30s — especially when life doesn’t look the way you thought it would.They open with a vulnerable admission: you can have the life you once prayed for… and still feel unsettled inside it.Lauren shares how her 30s revealed something unexpected — it wasn’t that she needed a better pl
140. God's Plan for Forming Men
This episode is a live recording of Jason Vallotton’s message at Bethel Church on November 30, 2025—a raw, clarifying teaching on God’s Plan for Forming Men, shared in the context of the upcoming BraveCo Rite of Passage Event in Jacksonville February 28, 2026.God has a blueprint for forming men who carry strength, humility, and responsibility into their homes, marriages, and work. That blueprint i
139. How to Set Yourselves Up for 2026: Positioning Yourself to Win
In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton invite listeners into a practical and intentional conversation about preparing for the year ahead. As 2026 approaches, they challenge couples and families to move beyond vague hopes and instead position themselves to win through clarity, reflection, and aligned action. This episode is about slowing down long enough to ask the right questions—and taking o
138. 2025 Year End Podcast Update: Holiday Break, Big Dreams, New Year Plans
As 2025 comes to a close, Jay and Lauren sit down to reflect on a full and meaningful year—both personally and professionally. From holiday time with family, to celebrating their daughter’s engagement, to the launch of Lauren’s book, and the powerful impact of the BraveCo Rite of Passage event in Florida, this episode is an honest year-end update.They also share what listeners can expect from the
137. Raising Sons into Men: The “Cop” Phase & Parenting Little Kids with Boundaries and Protrction
This week’s episode is taken from the BraveCo podcast as the Vallotton’s believe the message is SO important for the Dates, Mates, & Babies audience too!From Jason on the BraveCo Podcast:THE BRAVECO RITE OF PASSAGE: https://www.braveco.org/riteofpassageAs a pastor, counselor, and dad, I have watched so many young men stumble their way into manhood without a clear pathway. In this episode of t
136. Q&A (Long-Distance Dating, Sexual Disconnection, Co-Parenting)
In this Q&A episode, Lauren and Jason tackle four raw and relatable listener questions that hit at the heart of modern relationships — from rebuilding trust to navigating intimacy, distance, and co-parenting.In this episode, they discuss:💔 When words cut deep:A wife is struggling to heal after learning her husband once fantasized about other women. Though he’s showing empathy and doing the wor
135. The Three C’s of Leading Your Family Well
In this episode, Lauren and Jason sit down to talk about what it really looks like to lead your family well while carrying leadership responsibilities in ministry, business, and life. Whether you’re parenting toddlers or launching teens, this conversation will help you build a home that’s healthy, connected, and grounded in vision.They share what they learned from blending their family and why the
134. Blending Families: Grieving What You Thought It Would Be
Blending a family isn’t just about making schedules work or learning each other’s habits. It’s about entering into an already-formed culture — one that existed before you. For the stepparent, that often means grieving what you imagined family life would look like, while choosing to restrain yourself from immediately reshaping the environment into “yours.”In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton
133. Welcoming Our First Grandbaby!
Jason and Lauren have big news to share—their first grandbaby has arrived! 🎉 In this special family update episode, they reflect on the joy of this new season, the surprises of grandparenting while still raising their own 5- and 3-year-old, and what it means to live out relational health across generations.Together, they unpack:🌿 The uniqueness of navigating multiple family “layers” at once—parent
132. What We Think About Separation in Marriage
What do you do when staying in your marriage feels unsafe, but separation feels like it might be the end of everything you hoped for? Separation is one of the most raw and tender topics couples face—and for many, it carries fear, shame, and deep confusion.In this episode, pastors and coaches Jason and Lauren Vallotton respond to two courageous listener questions about separation in marriage. With
131. When His Battle Becomes Your Self-Hatred
What do you do when your husband’s porn struggle becomes a story you tell about yourself—about not being pretty enough, skinny enough, or desirable enough? For so many women, his brokenness becomes her self-hatred. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.In this powerful episode, pastors and coaches Jason and Lauren Vallotton share hope and healing for women who are carrying shame that was never thei
130. How to Handle the Disorientation of a New Season
Every new season brings change—and with it, a sense of disorientation. As human beings, we’re wired for stability and rhythm, so even good change can feel uncomfortable at first. The question isn’t whether change will shake us, but how we walk through it without losing our footing.In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton share practical wisdom for navigating transitions with grace, humor, and h
129. When Marriage Counseling Doesn't Work
Counseling is incredibly valuable. Jason and Lauren are huge proponents of marriage counseling, coaching and investing in marriage in a way that invites outside input from experts who can give great feedback to help couples grow in their connection. But it’s so common for couples to spend years in sessions and workshops and retreats without ever experiencing lasting breakthrough. Why? Because no m
128. The Long Game: Raising Children with Vision for Adulthood
In this episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies with the Vallottons, Jason and Lauren share wisdom from their unique experience raising both adult children and toddlers. Drawing from years of hands-on parenting, they dive into the intentional strategies that shape children into healthy, resilient adults—especially in a world that's vastly different from the one they grew up in.Topics covered incl
127. A Day in the Life, #2 (A peek into a big disconnection in the Vallottons' marriage!)
This episode is a vulnerable look into a recent real-life disconnection in the Vallotton's marriage! Every relationship experiences disconnection, but what matters is how we navigate back to each other. Hosts Jason and Lauren Vallotton share a recent experience where two weeks of limited quality time left them functioning as roommates rather than romantic partners.• Jason feeling a lack of nu
126. Dating Someone with a Past Marriage and Kids
Can love still feel new when someone has already been married and had children with someone else?In this vulnerable episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton respond to a heartfelt question from a listener navigating the early stages of dating a divorced man with kids. Together, they unpack the very real fears, griefs, and hopes that can rise up in blended beginnings.Whether you're walking this jou
125. From Chaos to Clarity: How Couples Get Their Marriage Back on Track
If your marriage feels chaotic, disconnected, or directionless… you’re not alone. In this episode, Jason and Lauren tackle what it looks like when couples are stuck in survival mode—no calendar, no plan, and no unity—and how to get back on the same team.Jay’s been walking with several couples who feel overwhelmed and out of sync, and in this candid conversation, the Vallottons offer a lifeline of
124. Leading with Love: Dr. Henry Cloud on What It Really Means to Be a Godly Husband
What does it actually mean to lead your home like a man of God—and why does emotional connection matter just as much as spiritual authority?In this episode of Dates, Mates & Babies, Jason Vallotton sits down with the legendary Dr. Henry Cloud, bestselling author of Boundaries, to unpack the kind of leadership that builds trust, safety, and lasting love. From marriage and fatherhood to communic
123. Beyond Statistics: A Story of Choosing Life in the Face of Crisis & Diagnosis
In this powerful episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies, Jason and Lauren Vallotton welcome two courageous women: Kirsten Lapp, Executive Director of Northstate Care Clinic, and Lauren Hodgson, a mother of four who walked through an unexpected pregnancy and found hope in the face of overwhelming pressure. This is the second part to a conversation that began in episode 122.When Lauren discovered she w
122. A Conversation on Crisis Pregnancy with Kirsten Lapp of Northstate Care Clinic
In this powerful episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton sit down with Kirsten Lapp, Executive Director of Northstate Care Clinic, to unpack the emotional, spiritual, and practical realities surrounding crisis pregnancy. With empathy and clarity, Kirsten shares what women are really facing in these moments—and how we can all play a part in offering hope.In this episode, they discuss:What defines a cri
121. When Yes Means No: The High Cost of Self-Betrayal
In this powerful episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton explore the quiet, often unnoticed habit of self-betrayal—the moments when we say “yes” to others while saying “no” to ourselves. Whether it's to avoid conflict, gain approval, or protect a fragile connection, self-abandonment can masquerade as kindness while silently eroding trust, peace, and authenticity.Jason and Lauren unpack the minds
120. Q&A (Breakups, Second Marriages & the Biblical Role of a Man)
In this honest and heartfelt Q&A episode, Jason and Lauren answer your real relationship questions—from navigating breakups to leading well in marriage. Whether you're dating, newly married, or wrestling with relational roles, this episode will give you insight, encouragement, and a few powerful reframes.🔹 What does it mean for a man to promote his wife? Jason expands on his view that a m
119. The Soul of the Home: A Conversation on Motherhood
“Most of the world is built on the invisible labor of mothers.” In this heartfelt episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton turn their attention to the sacred, unseen work of motherhood. Picking up where their recent Fatherhood episode left off, they dive into the beauty, burden, and spiritual authority of moms—the ones who so often hold the soul of the home together.This isn’t a conversation about Pint
118. The Role of a Man & the Rite of Passage Our Sons Are Missing
In this powerful conversation, Jason and Lauren Vallotton unpack one of the deepest needs of our time: the restoration of godly masculinity. Drawing from personal stories, biblical wisdom, and their experience walking with men and families, they explore why a man’s role in the home matters more than ever—and how the next generation is suffering without clear markers of maturity and initiation.Whet
117. Emotionally Healthy Church Leadership
"Your gifts might open doors in ministry, but your emotional health and family life will determine how long you can stay in the room."In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton dive into the crucial (and often overlooked) connection between emotional health, family life, and sustainable ministry. Ministry isn’t just about being gifted—it’s about being grounded. Whether you're a pas
116. How to Connect When it Hurts
"Most people want to reconnect with their spouse—but they don’t know how to hit the mark when emotions are high. They either get defensive, spiral into shame, or shut down. Today, I want to help you learn how to truly connect when it matters most—especially when there’s pain involved."In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton break down what happens when emotional disconnection builds
115. Q&A (Dating with Kids, Conflict in Marriage, Divorce, Newborn Season Tips, Emotional Needs in Marriage)
In this vulnerable and practical Q&A episode, Jason and Lauren tackle some of your most heartfelt questions—from dating dynamics and stepparenting to conflict in marriage and unmet emotional needs.With their trademark honesty and experience, they unpack the real stuff of relationships: fear, longing, love, and how to keep showing up even when it’s hard.In this episode, the Vallottons respond t
114. What Happens When a Woman is Forced into Fight or Flight Mode
“She never wanted to fight her husband. But somewhere along the way, she stopped feeling safe—and started showing up in survival mode.”In this episode, Jason and Lauren unpack the emotional toll disconnection takes on a woman, especially when she's forced to lead, manage, and defend in her relationship. They explore what masculine energy looks like in a woman, why it’s often a trauma response
113. Spring Cleaning for the Soul
Spring cleaning isn't just for your closet—what about the things we’ve been carrying in our hearts, homes, and relationships that need a reset?In this episode, Jason and Lauren take the idea of spring cleaning beyond junk drawers and cluttered cabinets and dive deep into the unseen spaces of our emotional, relational, and spiritual lives. From the bathroom cabinet that hasn’t been cleaned out
112. Rethinking Education with Dr. Tyler Thigpen
The public school system is broken. Too many kids feel left behind, uninspired, and stuck in a one-size-fits-all model that doesn’t prepare them for real life—or real relationships. As a dad and leader, Jason believes we need a radical shift. That’s why he sat down with Dr. Tyler Thigpen, an education innovator, to explore a new approach—one that fosters independence, critical thinking, and emotio
111. Preparing to Launch: Equipping Your High Schooler for Adulthood
Preparing teenagers for adulthood might be the most crucial—and challenging—phase of parenthood. In this candid conversation, The Vallottons explore the essential transition from raising dependent children to launching capable, confident adults.When parents focus solely on creating a fun and carefree childhood, they risk raising young adults unprepared for real responsibilities. Drawing from their
110. How Do I Know the Past in the Past?
Everyone has a past, but when it comes to relationships, how can someone be sure it no longer has a hold on their present? Whether in dating or marriage, navigating past mistakes, previous relationships, or personal struggles can be complex. How much should be shared, and when does transparency build trust versus causing unnecessary pain?In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton explore the bala
109. Q&A (Leaving and Cleaving, Communicating Intentions, Managing Emotions, Dating with Kids)
In this insightful Q&A session, the Vallottons tackle questions submitted by listeners pertaining to marriage and friendship.Questions include:1. When I really like someone I feel like I can't think straight anymore. When I’m around them and start to act differently, and I hate it. What's your advice on that?2. What to do with a man who is confusing with his intentions even after ask
108. A New Era of Breakthrough: Lauren's Message at the 2025 Bethel Church Prophetic Conference
Episode 108 is a special treat! In this episode, the Vallottons share a powerful message that Lauren preached on February 20, 2025, at the Bethel Church Prophetic Conference. Rooted in her personal journey of motherhood and the shifting landscape of 2025, Lauren believes this moment marks the dawn of a new era—one defined by breakthrough for followers of Christ.Drawing from the story of the Israel
107. The Power of Friendship: Strengthening Marriages and Families Through Intentional Connections
In this episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies with the Vallottons, Jason and Lauren Vallotton explore how friendships impact marriage, parenting, and relational health. While friendships often take a backseat to family life, they are crucial in shaping emotional well-being and offering support.As life gets busier with marriage and parenting, friendships are often neglected. However, research shows t
106. Blending Well: Stories and Strategies for Blended Family Success
Blending a family is both rewarding and challenging, requiring intentionality, patience, and a strong foundation. In this episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies with the Vallottons, Lauren and Jason dive into the key strategies for creating a thriving blended family.They discuss the importance of building trust with stepchildren, emphasizing that the biological parent should take the lead in discipli
105. The Questions We’re Too Scared to Ask, Part 2
Description:We’re back with Part 2 of one of our most vulnerable episodes yet—because some questions in marriage are too important to ignore. Last week, we unpacked some of the biggest fears that keep couples stuck, and today, we’re digging even deeper.We’re talking about:💬 Why does sex feel like an obligation instead of a connection?👩👧 Why do I feel like the default parent while my spouse gets t
104. The Questions We’re Too Scared to Ask, Part 1
Description:Some questions feel too big, too scary, or too painful to ask out loud—especially in marriage. But avoiding them doesn’t make them disappear. In this episode, the Vallotton's tackle the hardest, unspoken questions that can haunt relationships.Jason and Lauren dive into topics like:✅ Have we fallen out of love or are we just stuck in a rut?✅ What if I’m not attracted to my partner
103. What Story Do You Want Your Kids to Tell About Love?
In this episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies with the Vallottons, Lauren and Jason dive into one of the most profound questions parents face: What story do we want our kids to tell about love? Together, they unpack the meaning of true love, exploring how it can be demonstrated in everyday life and in relationships within the home.Topics CoveredWhat is love and what is it not?We have love because it
102. Motherhood in Crisis: Erica Komisar on Raising Mentally and Emotionally Healthy Kids
In today’s episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies with the Vallottons, hosts Jason and Lauren Vallotton sit down with renowned psychoanalyst and author Erica Komisar to explore the profound challenges and rewards of parenting. Erica, a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), brings years of expertise in child development and the psychological aspects of motherhood and fatherhood. She has authored two
101. From Hidden Battles to Breakthrough: Winning the Year in Love and Life
What if the greatest battle you’re fighting isn’t with your spouse, your kids, or the world—but with yourself? On this episode, the Vallottons dive into the messiest parts of who we are—the stuff we shove aside but desperately need to face if we want to grow in life, faith, and relationships.Jason and Lauren explore the significance of identifying your inner conflicts, the impact of your past expe
100. Kris and Kathy Vallotton: Embracing the Heart of the Christmas Story
In this milestone 100th episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton sit down with Jason's parents, Kris and Kathy Vallotton, for a heartfelt conversation about the enduring meaning of Christmas. Known for their leadership and faith, Kris and Kathy reflect on the miraculous story of Christ’s birth and its profound blend of humanity and divinity. Together, they share insights on how to hold onto the tr
99. Carl & Laura Lentz: The True Story About Carl's Scandal, His Restoration & Laura’s Strength Amid Betrayal
Imagine the weight of rebuilding a marriage amidst public scrutiny and personal failure. Laura and Carl Lentz know this journey all too well, and they graciously join the Vallottons to share their path of healing and redemption following Carl's affair in 2020. Through candid conversations, they explore the complexities of maintaining genuine relationships in the face of betrayal, and the powe
98. Q&A (Rebuilding Trust, Forgiveness, Newlywed Rhythms, Mens' Greatest Struggle, Advent and Traditions)
Episode Summary:In this special Q&A episode, the Vallottons tackle some of your most heartfelt and practical questions about trust, forgiveness, marriage, and family life. Whether you're looking for ways to rebuild trust, navigate the early months of marriage, or create meaningful family traditions, this episode has something for everyone.What’s Covered in Today’s Episode:How is trust pra
97. Insights After Completing The Last Marriage Intensive
Join the Vallottons as they share insights after leading their recent marriage intensive, where we spent six weeks with couples dedicated to enhancing their relational health. Through real-life counseling scenarios, and rounds of these marriage courses, the Vallottons have discovered what is common to many couples and identify keys to breakthrough in these different areas. Takeaways include:- it&a
96. Confronting Chaos: The Key to Emotional and Spiritual Well-Being
Life can feel overwhelming when chaos reigns in our hearts, homes, and minds. But did you know that your ability to face and navigate that chaos directly impacts your emotional, spiritual, and relational well-being? In this episode, the Vallotton's are diving into why confronting chaos matters and how it aligns with living a life of peace, purpose, and emotional health.What You’ll Learn in Th
95. Protecting Connection with Our Kids: Brain Science Insights with Robyn Gobbel
In this insightful episode, the Vallottons sit down with Robyn Gobbel, an expert in relational neuroscience and interpersonal neurobiology, to discuss a transformative approach to understanding and supporting children's challenging behaviors. Robyn shares her journey from being a psychotherapist to becoming a dedicated advocate for families, particularly those dealing with complex trauma or a
94. The 4th Quarter: Strengthening Relationships at Year's End
Episode Summary:As we wrap up the year, the last few months often bring holiday stress, busier schedules, and the opportunity for intentionality. This episode dives into why the fourth quarter of the year is a pivotal time for strengthening relationships and offers practical tips for deepening connections, navigating holiday tensions, wrapping up the year with relational intentionality.1. The Four
93. Surrender: The Way Forward
Description: Life is hard—and family and marriage, as part of God’s design, come with their own challenges. Just because something is hard doesn’t mean it’s wrong. In this episode, we unpack the tension between fulfilled dreams and unmet expectations. We explore the trap of believing, “I’ll be happy when…” and how comparison can steal our joy. What happens when reality doesn’t match the dreams we
92. Why Isn't This Working?
Episode 92: Why Isn’t This Working?What to Do When Your Attempts at Healthy Conflict Resolution Seem to FailIn this episode, Lauren and Jay dive into the frustrating moments when your best efforts at conflict resolution just aren’t cutting it. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why isn’t this working?”—this one’s for you! They walk through five key checkpoints to help you figure out where things might be g
91. A Day in the Life, #1
A note from Jason and Lauren: Ever feel emotionally disconnected, even in a healthy relationship? That was us this past month. Life got busy, stress built up, and before we knew it, we hit a wall—what we now call “disconnection week.”In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain to share how we navigated those difficult moments in real time. Whether you’ve been married 5 months or 50 years, conn
90. Q&A (Separation, Opposite Sex Friendships, Narcissism, Recharging & Manhood)
In this insightful Q&A session, the Vallottons tackle 5 questions submitted by listeners pertaining to marriage and friendship.Questions Answered in This Episode:1. When one spouse feels the need for separation to heal and rebuild, but the other is unwilling, what do you do?Make a real plan if you separate, and get help doing itBuild a NEW marriage, not fix the oldFocus present-future, and not
89. Faith & Resilience with Dru Hammer
Have you ever wondered how faith can transform your life and relationships? In this special episode, the Vallotton’s are honored to be joined by Dru Hammer, an extraordinary woman whose journey of faith and resilience shines through in every aspect of her life.Dru Hammer, originally from Tulsa, Oklahoma, shares the profound spiritual awakening of her father, which is captured in her book Hammered.
88. The Measure of Marriage: Meet the Stuarts
Lauren introduces the episode by announcing that applications for The Marriage Intensive are open!As the fourth and final episode in The Measure of Marriage series, the Vallottons introduce Riley and Candace Stuart to listeners as a young married couple who have been able to identify issues, work on them, and experience the beautiful fruit of working hard on their marriage connection. Get ready to
87. The Measure of Marriage: Dynamic Couples
Lauren opens the episode by setting the context for today’s discussion as part 3 in a 4-part mini series with today’s topic being “dynamic” couples. Listeners should visit jasonandlaurenvallotton.com to take the free marriage assessment to get a real-time look at the state of your relationship. Understanding the three possible categories is essential to chart a pathway forward for growth in your m
86. The Measure of Marriage: Developing Couples
Lauren opens the episode by setting the context for today’s discussion as part 2 in a 4-part mini series with today’s topic being “developing” couples. Listeners should visit jasonandlaurenvallotton.com to take the free marriage assessment to get a real-time look at the state of your relationship. Understanding the three possible categories is essential to chart a pathway forward for growth in you
85. The Measure of Marriage: Disconnected Couples
Lauren opens the episode by setting the context for today’s discussion as part 1 in a 4-part mini series with today’s topic being “disconnected” couples. She encourages listeners to visit jasonandlaurenvallotton.com to take the free marriage assessment, a tool designed to give a real-time look at the state of your relationship. She emphasizes that understanding the three possible categories is ess
84. Parenting the Hard Stuff: Sex
In this enlightening episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton sit down with Ken Williams, a father of four and co-founder of the Changed Movement, to discuss one of the most critical and often challenging topics for parents today: how to talk to your kids about sex and sexuality. Ken shares his transformative journey of overcoming same-sex attraction and dedicating his life to helping others.This episo
83. Parenting the Hard Stuff: Dating
This is the second part in a three part series on Parenting the Hard Stuff! In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton sit down with Ben and Brittney Serpell, parents of three and Senior Leaders at Loving on Purpose, to discuss the challenges of guiding children through the world of dating.Key Discussion Points:Imperfect Parenting: Brittney Serpell shares her thoughts on navigating the ups and do
82. Parenting the Hard Stuff: Technology
Biggest Challenges Parents Face:The primary challenges include managing the pervasive presence of technology and its impact on children. Parents must prioritize training their children in godly principles. The need for intentionality is crucial, as the internet is actively influencing and potentially addicting children to screens.45% of teens report being online almost constantly (Pew Research Cen
81. Life with Jesus: The Ultimate Foundation for Relational Health
Episode Overview:In this heartfelt episode, Jason and Lauren delve into the transformative power of life with Jesus and how it serves as the ultimate foundation for relational health. They share personal stories, reflect on their spiritual journeys, and discuss the profound impact of understanding Jesus as both a savior and a relational companion.Key Discussion Points:The Vallotton’s Foundations o
80. Together Apart: Ensuring Family Harmony When One Spouse is Away
In this episode, the Vallottons share some insights after their recent experience when Jason handled solo parenting for six days while Lauren was away. Families can set themselves up for success during these times by paying attention to the following categories and planning ahead!Prep for Leaving:Ask the Right Questions: Before you leave, ask your partner if there's anything specific they wou
79. Navigating Financial Pressure
Money can be a tough topic for marriages and relationships, especially in today's challenging financial climate. Finances can become a minefield for some couples, but achieving a life of peace and power in every area, including finances, is possible. Peace isn't about the absence of conflict or troubles; it's about having a plan.In this dynamic and empowering episode, Jason Vallotto
78. Q&A
In this insightful Q&A session, the Vallottons tackle some of the most pressing questions about relationships, marriage, and friendship.Questions Answered in This Episode:Sexual Attraction in Marriage After Weight GainDiscussion Points:Understanding how physical changes can impact attraction.Strategies to maintain intimacy and emotional connection.Fostering open and honest communication with y
77. Effective Strategies for Hard Conversations
In any deep relationship, having hard conversations is unavoidable. It's not the conflict itself that destroys connection, but rather the behavior within the conflict. Research shows that how you start a conversation determines how it ends with 80% accuracy. In this episode, we delve into the essential skill of engaging in difficult conversations in a way that builds connection rather than te
76. From Chaos to Divine Order: Understanding our Origin and Purpose
Episode 76 is a message that Jason Vallotton preached at Bethel Church on Father’s Day, 2024! Following the annual BraveCo men’s conference, Jason recalls testimonies and big wins from BraveCo’s largest men’s event of the year before diving into a profoundly impactful message.Drawing lessons from the creation story in Genesis, Jason explores how God's structured approach to creating the worl
75. What to do in Marriage Emergencies
After a two-week vacation, the Vallottons are back with an insightful episode on what to do in marriage emergencies. In this episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies, they dive deep into what truly constitutes an "emergency" in a marriage relationship. Whether it's the utterance of "I'm done" from one or both partners, the toxic presence of the Four Horsemen (criticism, co
74. Connection: The Foundation of Relational Health, Part 2
In May of 2024, Jason and Lauren spoke at an online event with the thriving singles ministry at Life Center Church in New York City about the foundations of relational health! This episode is part two of a two part message about connection as the bedrock of relational health.This portion is a recording of the Q&A time we shared with Life Center Church at their singles event.PatreonIf you'
73. Connection: The Foundation of Relational Health, Part 1
In May of 2024, Jason and Lauren spoke at an online event with the thriving singles ministry at Life Center Church in New York City about the foundations of relational health! This episode is part one of a two part message about connection as the bedrock of relational health.PatreonIf you've enjoyed this podcast, would you consider financially supporting the show? Every donation, big and smal
72. Q&A
In this weeks episode, hosts, Jason & Lauren Vallotton answer five questions sent in by listeners like you! Topics include the following:How do you have boundaries with all the different roles you carry in life?Where do I begin in rebuilding a dead marriage?What do you do with the tangible reminders of a relationship that has ended, like photos, dried flowers, gifts, etc?How can you create hea
71. Five Keys to Help Moms Win!
In this enlightening episode, the Vallottons peel back the layers on the complex art of motherhood, equipping you with five transformative strategies that promise to shift your perspective and nurture your soul. In short:Take care of yourself first! Build a support network! Prioritize your marriage over your children!Watch out for over-responsibility and shame!Plan for success!From the imperative
70. The Emotional Bank Account of Your Relationship
In the 70th episode of their podcast, celebrating a quarter-million downloads, The Vallottons delve into the concept of emotional bank accounts. They guide listeners through recognizing the subtle signs of emotional depletion and emphasize the importance of self-care to maintain inner resilience. From navigating the challenges of loss and parenthood, they advocate for replenishing one's spiri
69. Fostering Adult Friendships
This episode is a discussion between hosts Jason and Lauren Vallotton about the importance of deep and fulfilling adult friendships. Inspired by recent events and discussions with others in their community, Jason and Lauren wanted to talk specifically about their own personal journeys in adult friendships as well as the practical things that people can do in order to foster deep and meaningful fri
68. Q&A About the Recent Sex Series
This Q&A session is a follow-up on the recent Sex Series (episodes 62-67) and includes questions from listeners pertaining to individual, dating and marriage scenarios. The following topics are covered, and we've attached some links to other resources related:Healing from sexual past, including memories Restoration of virginity and the healing processDating people who have extreme sexual
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