The Loving Truth
Sharon Pope, a relationship expert and certified master life coach, hosts this weekly podcast aimed at women facing deep marriage hardships. She addresses issues like infidelity, fear of hurting children, and the dilemma of whether to stay or leave. The show challenges common beliefs about love and relationships, offering realistic steps toward peace and happiness. Listeners seeking clarity on fixing a struggling marriage or moving forward without regret will find practical advice.
Episodes
Episode 222: You Waited Until the Kids Were Grown. Now What?
You've been telling yourself you'll deal with your marriage later.
After the kids graduate.
After they turn 18.
After they're grown and out of the house.
Because surely, if you can just hold on until then, divorce will be easier on them.
But is that really true?
In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast, we're exploring one of the hardest questions parents face when considering divorce: Is t
Episode 221: Three Ways to Fail at Healing Your Marriage. And What to Do Instead.
You’ve been trying so hard.
Reading the books.
Listening to the podcasts.
Thinking about what needs to change.
But somehow, nothing is actually changing.
You tell yourself you’re doing everything you can to fix your marriage.
But are you?
Because there’s a big difference between thinking about fixing your marriage and actually doing the uncomfortable things required to change it.
In this episode o
Episode 220: Knowing When To Quit
There’s a time to keep fighting for something.
And there’s a time to let it go.
The hard part is knowing which is which.
We’ve been taught that winners never quit. That giving up means we failed. That if we just try harder, hang in there longer or find one more thing to try, eventually things will get better.
But that isn’t always true.
Sometimes continuing to fight is exactly what’s required.
And
Episode 219: Have You Heard of Quiet Quitting?
You’ve heard the term quiet quitting when it comes to work.
But what happens when you quietly quit your marriage?
You stop trying to fix what isn’t working.
You stop asking for what you need.
You stop expecting anything to change.
You’re still married. You’re still living under the same roof. You’re still doing all the things.
But emotionally, you’ve already left.
And in some ways, that can fe
Episode 218: Your Marriage Is Telling You What Kind of Leader You Are
You show up at work.
You communicate clearly. You follow through. You have the difficult conversations. You understand that trust matters.
But then you come home...
And somehow, the person who matters most gets whatever is left.
We avoid the conversation. We stop being curious. We make assumptions. We get a little lazy about connection. And then we wonder why the marriage isn’t thriving.
In t
Episode 17: Rebuilding Trust…with Yourself
You’ve been watching his behavior.
Waiting for proof that this time really is different.
Waiting until you feel safe enough to let your guard down and trust him again.
But what if trusting him isn’t actually the only issue?
What if part of the reason you still can’t trust him is because you don’t fully trust yourself?
In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast, we’re talking about the part o
Episode 216: Stories of Divorce
Divorce can feel impossible.
Until the day staying feels worse.
If you’re struggling in your marriage to the point where you’re considering divorce, sometimes what you need isn’t more advice.
You need to hear from women who are actually doing it.
Not perfectly.
Not without fear.
But courageously.
In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast, I’m sharing stories of women who stayed for years ho
Episode 215: Every Betrayal Begins Long Before the Affair
Most people think cheating is black and white.
You either cheated or you didn’t.
But an affair rarely begins with the affair.
It begins with the text you wouldn’t want your spouse to see.
The flirtation you didn’t shut down.
The connection you’re keeping secret.
The attention you’re seeking outside your marriage.
One seemingly harmless choice becomes another. And another.
In this episode of T
Episode 214: When Your Faith and Your Marriage Pull You in Opposite Directions
Your faith tells you marriage is forever.
But your marriage is hurting you.
So…now what?
In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast, we’re stepping into some tricky territory: faith, marriage, abuse and divorce.
One of my members recently told her husband that she intends to separate and move toward divorce after 12 years of verbal, mental and emotional abuse.
Then she went to church and hea
Episode 213: Why More People are Staying in Unhappy Marriages
The world feels uncertain right now.
And when the world feels uncertain, we tend to hold tighter to what feels familiar.
Even when what’s familiar doesn’t feel particularly good.
Sharon is seeing more women choosing to stay in unhappy, disconnected marriages right now. Not because their marriages have gotten better, but because everything outside the marriage feels less certain.
The marriage y
Episode 212: The Hard Truth About Why He Hasn’t Changed
You've been trying to get him to see it.
To hear you.
To understand you.
To finally change.
You've explained it.
You've cried.
You've been patient.
You've gotten angry.
And yet...here you are.
Still waiting.
Because somewhere inside, you're holding onto the belief that if you could just say it the right way, something would finally click.
But what if he already understands?
What if he's sim
Episode 211: Why You’re Doing Everything in Your Marriage (And Secretly Resenting It)
You’re exhausted.
You carry the mental load.
You solve the problems.
You keep everything moving.
And you're wondering why your partner doesn't seem to step up.
But what if, without realizing it, you've helped create that dynamic?
In this episode, Sharon explores one of the most common patterns she sees in struggling marriages: overfunctioning. It's the habit of doing too much, taking on too mu
Episode 210: Menopause Isn’t Ruining Your Marriage. It’s Revealing It.
Menopause isn't ruining your marriage.
It's revealing what stopped working a long time ago.
If you've been blaming your hormones for the distance in your relationship, or your husband has been blaming your hormones for why things feel different, this episode will challenge that story.
Because menopause didn't create the cracks.
It simply made them impossible to ignore.
For years, life was ful
Episode 209: The In-Between: Why So Many Women Feel Stuck in Their Marriage
The most dangerous place in a struggling marriage isn't constant conflict.
It's the place where nothing changes.
You stop arguing because you've stopped expecting anything different. You go through the motions. You raise the kids. You pay the bills. From the outside, everything looks fine.
But inside, you keep asking yourself:
Is this all there is?
In this episode, Sharon explores what she ca
Episode 208: Avoidance is Killing More Marriages Than Conflict
Every time you try to have an honest conversation about your marriage, something happens.
He gets defensive.
He changes the subject.
He tells you you're overreacting.
He starts arguing about something else.
Or he shuts down altogether.
After a while, you stop bringing things up because it feels easier than hitting the same brick wall over and over again.
But here's the problem.
What goes unspo
Episode 207: When She Finally Left… Everything Fell Apart
Audrey was married for 23 years.
For most of those years, there was always another woman.
Sometimes it was someone from high school. Sometimes it was a coworker. Sometimes it was inappropriate messages, emotional affairs, or naked photos exchanged online. Every time Audrey discovered something, the same cycle played out. She confronted him. He apologized. She hoped. And then it happened again.
She
Episode 206: Desire is Built, Not Found
Most people believe desire is something you either have or you don't.
You meet the right person and it's there. Or life gets busy, years pass, and it fades away.
But what if that's not true?
In this episode, Sharon covers one of the biggest myths about long-term relationships: desire doesn't disappear on its own. It dies from neglect.
And if you're not paying attention to it, it may be the ver
Episode 205: Why Desire Fades In A Long-Term Marriage (And What Most Couples Get Wrong)
In this episode, Sharon explores one of the most misunderstood aspects of a long-term relationship: desire.
Most of us were never taught how desire actually works. We weren't taught where it comes from, what impacts it, or how to nurture it over the years. So when desire fades, we often assume something is wrong with us, our partner, or the relationship itself.
But desire isn't something you fix
Episode 204: Men Are Struggling in Marriage (And Most People Aren’t Talking About It)
In today's episode, we're talking about something that doesn't get nearly enough attention: the growing number of men who feel blindsided when their marriages end.
At a recent mastermind event, I heard story after story from successful husbands and fathers whose wives decided to leave, often after years of silently struggling. It sparked a deeper conversation about what's really happening in mode
Episode 203: How AI Is Secretly Making Your Relationship Conflicts Worse (And What to Do Instead)
Is AI helping your marriage or making your conflicts worse? In this episode, we unpack the growing trend of using ChatGPT and AI tools for relationship advice and the hidden dangers that come with it.
From emotional validation loops to confirmation bias and overanalyzing your partner, we explore how AI can intensify marriage problems, increase resentment, and create even more disconnection betwe
Episode 202: Why You Keep Trying to Change Him (Even Though It’s Hurting You)
In this episode, we explore this question: Why do so many people stay stuck in relationships that are clearly hurting them? In this deeply honest and emotionally charged episode, we unpack one of the most painful dynamics in marriage: the exhausting cycle of trying to change a partner who has no intention of changing.
Using the powerful story of “Annie,” we explore how addiction in marriage doesn
Episode 201: Why Women Have Affairs (And What No One Wants to Admit About It)
In this episode, we explore the uncomfortable truth about why women have affairs — and why the answer is far more complicated than most people want to admit. Rather than reducing infidelity to selfishness or immorality, this conversation looks at the emotional disconnection, longing, desire, and internal conflict that often exist underneath it.
We discuss how modern relationships have changed, wh
Episode 200: Do Your Thoughts Really Create Your Reality? What Most People Get Wrong
Do your thoughts really create your reality? Or is that idea oversimplified and sometimes even harmful?
In this episode, we unpack one of the most debated teachings in the personal growth world: the idea that our thoughts shape the results we experience in life. From Tony Robbins to Dr. Joe Dispenza, countless mindset teachers have taught versions of this principle. But what happens when life bri
Episode 199: Why More Relationship Advice Isn’t Helping Your Marriage (and What Actually Will)
If you’ve ever found yourself lying awake at 2 a.m. wondering, “Should I stay or should I go?”—this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, we unpack the quiet crisis happening in modern marriages, especially for women in midlife who feel stuck between staying and leaving. Despite endless relationship advice, books, and podcasts, many are still feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, and unsure o
Episode 198: I Was the Villain: What Divorce Taught Me About Judgment and Self-Worth
What happens when your life choices make other people uncomfortable?
In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we explore the emotional weight of judgment, especially in the context of divorce and choosing a path that others don’t understand.
When you step outside expectations, people often rush to assign roles, form opinions, and decide who’s right and wrong.
But the real
Episode 197: The Founder Couple Crisis: Saving Your Marriage Without Losing Your Business
What happens when you and your partner are in business together and your relationship starts to break down?
For founder couples, the stakes are far greater than most people realize. It’s not just about saving a marriage. It’s about protecting a business, a livelihood, a team, and the life you’ve built together.
In this week’s episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we unpack the hi
Episode 196: The 3 Biggest Threats to Modern Marriage (And What No One Is Talking About)
Modern marriage isn’t just struggling—it’s being reshaped in real time.
In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we unpack the “perfect storm” of three powerful cultural forces that are quietly redefining our most intimate relationships:
The erosion of attention
The rise of artificial intimacy through AI
Rapidly changing expectations within marriage
The truth is,
Episode 195: Stay or Leave? The 2 Hidden Capacities That Make or Break Your Relationship
Are you doing all the right things in your relationship — but still nothing changes?
In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we explore two often-overlooked forces that determine whether a relationship grows or quietly falls apart: endurance and self-honesty.
Building on the foundational idea that strong relationships require emotional, relational, and growth capacity, we d
Why Love Isn’t Enough — 3 Capacities That Make or Break a Relationship
Most couples blame relationship struggles on communication issues. But what if that’s not the real problem?
In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we’re unpacking a powerful (and often overlooked) truth:
It’s not just about how you communicate. It’s about your capacity to stay open, connected, and willing to grow.
Because here’s the reality: You can love someone deeply, a
Two Daily Habits That Strengthen Your Marriage
When your relationship feels hard, staying grounded matters more than ever.
We’re not entitled to a good relationship. If it’s good, it’s because we created it.
In this episode, I share two simple habits that change how you show up.
First: protect the first hour of your day. Start with yourself, not your phone, email, or the news.
Build calm reserves through something that grounds you, like me
The Single Biggest Killer of Marriages
Wonder what really destroys marriages? It isn’t an affair or money… it’s disconnection.
It builds slowly through a million little hurts, like laying bricks until there’s a wall we can’t see over.
When things are good, you notice the rumble strip and course-correct with time together, honest talk, and touch.
If you missed the rumble strip and you’re in the ditch, expect it to take patience an
When Work Stress Hurts Your Marriage
Stress doesn’t stay at work. It follows you home and seeps into your marriage.
In this episode, I share a real example of a couple whose stressful roles were quietly creating impatience and distance between them.
We explore a powerful exercise: identify the three things you truly need to feel fulfilled — no more than three — and protect what makes you come alive.
When you recognize that you’re
Two Steps Forward, One Step Back
"Our triggers are our responsibility." Sharon Pope
In this episode, I talk about that feeling of taking two steps forward and one step back in your relationship.
I explain why triggers are personal, often rooted in childhood, and why we have to own them.
We can't control everyone around us, but we can change the meaning we give to their behavior.
Real listening and presence are rare right no
Why We Wait for the Crisis
Change is something we all resist.
It's uncomfortable, unknown, and goes against our basic human nature.
In this episode, I explore why we tend to wait until our relationships are in total crisis before we’re willing to do the hard work of being vulnerable.
Drawing on back-of-the-mind wisdom from Esther Perel, I explain why we have less incentive to change when things are good, but far less cr
The Two Relationship Tools You Need
I’m sharing the two best, and least used, relationship tools I know.
We didn’t get a class on this, so most of us are winging it. And no, I’m not teaching voodoo Jedi mind tricks to change your partner.
This is about making it easier to be in relationship with you.
The first tool is validating your partner’s experience, even when it’s different from yours. That builds trust and safety. Valid
When Relationships End: Boundaries and Skills
I’m talking about when relationships end, not just marriages, but family ties and friendships.
More people are going no contact as we learn what’s healthy and set boundaries, but I remind you that “health resides in the middle.”
Sometimes we need distance. Sometimes our seasons of life just don’t match.
I share the three core skills that keep long-term relationships alive and how communication
I Knew Divorce Would Be Hard
In this episode, I get honest about knowing divorce would be hard and then discovering what’s actually hard once you’re in it.
I talk about co‑parenting as the biggest pain point. Why you can’t control an ex but you can influence, and how two different parenting styles can actually help your kids.
I share a simple mindset shift and a practical fix for communication: add structure, like a monthly
Ask Yourself the Right Questions in Marriage
A morning meditation with Wayne Dyer stopped me in my tracks: "...Freedom does not come from avoiding the pain. It comes from walking through it with your heart wide open."
In this episode, I share a simple three-part path for moving through marriage challenges with courage.
First, I separate facts from my thoughts and choose the story that serves me.
Then I ask better, braver questions that re
Why We Monkey Bar Before Leaving
In this episode, I unpack “monkey barring,” which is reaching for the next relationship before you’ve let go of the last.
It often looks like cheating, but it’s really about fear, codependency, and avoiding hard conversations.
We use an affair like an emotional safety net because being alone feels scary.
I name how affairs distract us from the real problems at home and how easy it is to get hoo
Warning Signs Your Marriage Is in Trouble
I’m breaking down how to know when your marriage is in real trouble, using a TV moment that felt all too real: a late‑night “We need to talk,” an “I’m not happy,” and a packed bag by the door.
By the time someone says I’m not happy, things are already serious. That phrase is vague, blaming, and usually too late.
Many partners brush it off, not because they don’t care, but because they don’t know
Emotional Adulthood In Marriage
I’m unpacking emotional adulthood through a client’s story.
I challenge the idea of “make it work.” We can aim higher than a marriage that doesn’t suck.
I walk you through naming your unspoken rules, keeping only the few that matter, and actually saying them out loud.
Your thoughts create your feelings, not your partner.
The thing that once made you laugh only became annoying when your though
A Different Kind of Love: Coaching
Your coach isn’t your bestie. And that’s a good thing.
When you admit your marriage is in trouble, you need love that sees your blind spots, challenges your excuses, and won’t let you settle.
I share a Q&A moment where a woman wanted a pep talk about reconciling while still in an affair.
I paused and chose the truth: “I could make you feel better, but I kind of don’t want to.”
I called her hig
Doing What Works in Marriage
In this episode, I share a client story where her husband secretly put a tracker on her car, and how tempting it was to tell him off or file a restraining order.
We walked through what those reactions would actually accomplish. Not much.
They don’t change the past and they can harm co-parenting and her peace.
She chose a different path. She chose to protect her peace and stay steady toward a pe
Us, Unfiltered part 5: The Real Meaning of ‘Having It All’
In this final episode of the Us Unfiltered: Behind the Beautiful Life series, I explore what “having it all” really means — and why a beautiful life on the outside can still feel empty when your marriage isn’t getting the care it deserves.
We talk about the difference between success, happiness, and true fulfillment, and how easy it is to give our best to work and our kids while offering only cru
Us, Unfiltered part 4: Desire in the Distance
In this episode, I talk about why desire fades — and why it’s not gone, just buried.
Buried under busyness, emotional distance, resentment, and the weight of responsibilities. A lack of sex isn’t the problem; it’s the symptom.
I break down what desire really needs (safety and aliveness), how routine and predictability smother intimacy, and why familiarity dampens passion over time.
You’ll learn
Us, Unfiltered part 3: Power Dynamics & Partnership
In part three of Us Unfiltered, I explore how power dynamics quietly shape a marriage: who leads, who decides, who sets the tone.
These patterns usually come from what we saw growing up, and without realizing it, they create a one-up/one-down dynamic that erodes trust and connection.
Too much independence can turn partners into high-functioning roommates instead of a true team.
I talk about why
Us, Unfiltered part 2: The Cost of Avoidance
In part two of Us, Unfiltered, I talk about what silence really costs inside a marriage.
Avoiding hard conversations feels easier in the moment, but over time it erodes your voice, your connection, and the safety between you.
The space between you fills with assumptions, resentments, and quiet loneliness.
Avoidance hides in busyness, sarcasm, over-functioning, or shutting down—and underneath al
Us, Unfiltered part 1: When Success Isn’t Enough
In this first episode of Us, Unfiltered: Behind the Beautiful Life, I speak to high-achieving couples who appear successful on the outside yet feel disconnected at home.
Life is full, you’re doing everything “right,” but the closeness you want has faded behind the busyness.
Achievement builds strong skills, but connection requires different ones. And the habits that help you excel — control, eff
Am I a Terrible Person?
I’m challenging the question, Am I a terrible person?
I explain why that question keeps you stuck in shame and judgment.
I offer better questions: How is this serving me, and how is it not?
I walk through real examples, like not wanting to stop an affair and withholding love from a good man.
We look at the short-term hits and the real costs, including risk, stress, kids, family, and how avoid
She Waited 10 Years: Why We Stay
I share the story of a woman who followed my work for 10 years before she reached out, hoping the next blog or podcast might fix her 20-year marriage.Once we finally worked together, she and her husband became more connected than ever.I talk about why we wait: saying it out loud makes it real.The unknown feels scary. We hope things change on their own. We want a guarantee. We worry. We don’t know
The Truth About No-Fault Divorce
I’m breaking down what no-fault divorce is, why it’s more recent than most people realize, and why it isn’t the villain.Laws don’t destroy marriages. People do.What really ends marriages:NeglectShutting downAvoiding hard conversationsBlaming instead of owning our partGetting defensiveInvalidating each otherTurning love into a transactionNot listeningAnd finally, indifference.A no-fault divorce giv
Counseling or Coaching: Which gets you there faster?
In this episode, I break down the difference between therapy and coaching without making one better than the other.Therapy helps you understand how you got here.Coaching helps you decide where you want to go and how to get there.We talk about timing, momentum, and why most couples wait too long to ask for help.I share when to choose individual or couples work, and why one person showing up differe
What Your Priorities Say About Your Marriage
I know it’s easy to get caught up in life and forget to prioritize your marriage.But the truth is, nothing thrives when you turn your back on it.We’ll invest in Botox, hair appointments, and our businesses—but expect our marriages to somehow take care of themselves.A healthy, connected relationship takes time, attention, and consistent effort.It’s not about perfection; it’s about showing up and le
Why You Might Need to Lead the Way
Sometimes you have to be the one to step forward in your marriage—even if it doesn’t feel fair. Many women ask, “Why should I be the one to do the work when he’s the one with the problem?”But someone has to nudge the relationship into motion.If you’re the one uncomfortable or ready for change, it may have to be you.I also talk about the role of the victim and how staying passive keeps you stuck.Us
Transforming a Marriage, One Step at a Time
This week, I want to share an experience from a couples’ weekend immersion I led.Watching a marriage transform over just a few days reminded me why I do this work.One person can absolutely create change in a relationship.When you show up differently, your partner responds differently, and a new dynamic emerges. This couple came in scared, angry, and on the brink of divorce.By the end of day one, t
Moving Beyond Confusion
All progress begins from telling yourself the truth.It’s easy to fall into confusion when faced with tough decisions, especially in relationships.But sometimes, the confusion we feel isn’t real.We pretend not to know the answers because we fear the work it will take to face them.It’s much easier to stay in the comfortable discomfort of not knowing, even when deep down, we do.The truth is, our brai
Balancing Business, Relationships, and Self-Care
I was recently a guest on Suzi Dafnis’ HerBusiness podcast, and we had an amazing conversation about the challenges women entrepreneurs face.I share why it’s so important to prioritize yourself.As business owners, we’re often pouring from an empty cup.The solution? Start with a daily practice that tells yourself, “Me first, then everyone else.”I explain how doing so not only boosts your well-being
How to Get Your Soul Back After Divorce
Divorce isn’t just the end of a marriage, it’s the loss of a dream, a role, and often a piece of who we thought we were.Healing means allowing yourself to grieve fully without rushing, then noticing when grief has shifted from fuel to a crutch.It’s about asking yourself honest questions, moving your body, and resisting the urge to fill loneliness with another relationship too soon.Getting your sou
The Truth About Guilt
Guilt is something so many of us wrestle with, especially in our relationships.For a long time, I thought guilt was useless because it’s tied to the past.But now I see it differently.There’s healthy guilt—the kind that nudges us to make amends, apologize, or do better next time—and that can help us grow.Then there’s unhealthy guilt, the kind that has us taking responsibility for things we can’t co
Two Things Can Be True at Once
Relationships are rarely simple and binary thinking—believing things are either right or wrong—can harm your marriage.Human beings are complex, and so are our needs, desires, and perspectives.You can love your partner deeply and still recognize that the relationship isn’t meeting your needs.You can set boundaries and still be a kind, loving person.You can enjoy your sexuality, assert yourself, and
Ask Sharon: When Effort Isn’t Enough and Decisions Get Challenged
Deciding what to do in a marriage is never simple, especially when you’re questioning whether your partner’s “all in” effort is real or just words.I walk a member through how to recognize that personal growth starts inside, and real change isn’t just mental—it shows up in consistent action.We also tackle the challenge of delivering a separation or divorce decision when your partner reacts with tea
How to Navigate Heartbreak
Heartbreak is hard, even when the relationship you leave behind wasn’t healthy.We hold onto stories about the person and the relationship, but those stories keep us stuck.To heal, you have to see what is real.Look at the facts and be honest with yourself about why the relationship ended.Write it down, reflect, and ask yourself what worked, what didn’t, and what this is teaching you. Heartbreak is
Ask Sharon: Is Your Spouse Helping You Grow or Manipulating You?
When your partner gives you advice on how to love or live, it can sometimes feel like an invitation to grow.But it can also mask manipulation.One listener shares how her spiritually focused husband tells her she doesn’t know how to love and is not living in her true self.I explain how these comments often reflect his own projections, not her reality.I talk about how we can learn to trust our inner
Healing After an Affair: The Two-Step Process
“Healing after an affair is possible. It’s just really hard work. But so are most things that are really important to us.”I’m sharing my two-step process for healing after an affair.I want you to know that while healing can be incredibly difficult, it’s absolutely possible.The first step is what I call “stopping the bleeding.”This is when we focus on addressing the immediate trauma and the deep pa
Ask Sharon: Navigating Trust and Boundaries After Betrayal
In this episode, I share real coaching moments where we tackle some of the toughest relationship questions.One member is struggling with her husband's ongoing friendship with his ex, even after an affair. She questions whether this connection is manipulation or emotional abuse.Another member shares her frustration with her husband's porn use, and how it makes her feel inadequate.The trut
3 Myths About Desire That Keep Marriages Stuck
After more than a decade of coaching women through marriage struggles, I’ve learned that desire in long-term relationships is widely misunderstood.We think it’s a magical feeling that appears when we’re with the “right” person, that it should always be spontaneous, and that focusing on our own pleasure is selfish.The truth is, desire takes effort, intention, and a willingness to be an active parti
Ask Sharon: Communication Comfort Zone
Sometimes the ache in a marriage isn’t about the big betrayals or blowout fights. It’s about not feeling emotionally comforted by your partner.In this coaching conversation, I explore how our upbringing shapes what we expect from comfort and why our partner may not naturally offer it in the way we long for.I walk through how to express those needs clearly, without criticism, so they can be heard a
Why AI Can’t Fix What’s Broken in Your Marriage
“If I can’t communicate with my partner without asking a computer what I should say, I’m in trouble.” - Sharon PopeAI is changing every part of our lives, including our relationships.That might sound helpful, but I believe it comes with serious risks.Relationships aren’t about getting the right answer or saying the perfect thing.They’re about learning how to connect, how to repair after conflict,
Ask Sharon: When What You Wanted Still Isn’t Enough
In this session, I coached two women who were in very different places but wrestling with the same kind of emotional weight.One had left an abusive marriage and found herself in a new relationship with someone who shows up for her in all the ways she used to crave.And yet, the rage is still there. The grief is still there.The other is still in her marriage with a good man, but the spark is gone.Sh
Healing a Marriage After an Affair (When They Don’t Know)
Healing your marriage after an affair is possible, even when your partner doesn't know.But pretending nothing happened isn't the answer.The guilt you feel may push you to come clean, but sharing the truth can shatter your partner’s world, leaving you with even more guilt.Instead, start by getting honest with yourself.Why did you cheat? What were you running from or seeking?Once you under
Ask Sharon: I’ve changed, but something still isn’t working
Sometimes our partner can’t see that we’ve changed, and keeps bracing for the backlash that used to come.One woman shared how her husband still expects to be punished when he goes out with friends, even though she’s no longer upset about it.Another is doing all the work to reconnect, but still feels no desire for her partner.And she’s wondering if that’s a sign.But desire isn’t just emotional—it’s
The Impact of Financial Strain on Relationships
Financial stress can add a lot of tension in relationships.If you're already struggling with communication issues, resentment, or emotional distance, money problems can make everything feel worse.Whether you're staying for financial reasons or struggling to see a way forward, there are always options available to you.You don’t have to suffer.With the right tools and support, you can take
Ask Sharon: Planning your separation
In this episode, I walk through how to navigate a trial separation from the emotional prep to the practical logistics.Whether you’re considering physical separation or an in-house one, this is about more than just space, it’s about clarity.I talk about how to communicate the decision, how to set clear ground rules around kids, money, and how you’ll interact, and why this kind of shift—while hard—c
Am I Letting Him Off the Hook?
In this episode, I’m answering a big question I hear often: “If I change how I think about my partner’s hurtful behavior… am I just letting him off the hook?”We unpack that idea starting with how our thoughts create our feelings, and how learning to shift those thoughts is not about pretending things are okay.It’s about reclaiming your emotional power.Whether it’s something small, like not replaci
Ask Sharon: How Hormones Shape Our Relationships
"If you don’t know how to manage your mind, all you have is the ancient instinctual wiring from centuries ago. It’s playing out in your life in a modern world." - Sharon PopeOur hormones shape so much of how we react to each other.Women, driven by estrogen, are wired for connection and emotional harmony, while men, influenced by testosterone, tend to react to conflict with more aggressio
Why We Resist
In this episode, I unpack the subtle but powerful ways resistance shows up in our relationships, both in our partner and in ourselves.Whether it’s denial, blame, or even sarcasm, these are just avoidance tactics we’ve learned to protect ourselves from feeling hurt or rejected.But when every hard conversation is met with pushback, we stop having them. And when we stop having them, we stop repairing
When Change is Too Little, Too Late
You did the best you could to love one another, and you made some mistakes along the way, and that’s what brought us here. It doesn’t mean you’re bad people.What happens when one partner finally makes changes after years of disconnection and neglect, only for the other partner to feel too far gone to trust those changes?We often wait for our partner to change, but the reality is, change comes too
Ask Sharon: Choosing Yourself Through Financial Betrayal
In this conversation, I talk about navigating the emotional turmoil of financial betrayal in a marriage and how to maintain your integrity while making tough decisions.It’s important to choose how you feel in any situation, especially when faced with emotions like grief, anger, and betrayal.Setting boundaries, standing up for yourself, and letting go of the “shoulds” that don’t serve you are key t
Embracing Differences in Marriage
Your husband isn’t like you.I’m sharing insights on how differences in a marriage can actually enhance the relationship, rather than cause friction.I dive into the dynamics of one partner always reaching for more while the other stays steady and how these contrasting approaches can balance each other.We also explore how understanding and appreciating these differences can lead to greater connectio
Ask Sharon: The emotional rollercoaster of divorce
I want to share with you what I’ve learned about the emotional ups and downs of navigating divorce.It’s normal to think that once you’ve made the decision to leave, the journey will feel easier.In reality, it’s often filled with doubt, fear, and uncertainty.The journey can often mirror the stages of grief and you might bounce between these stages, even within the same day.As you process these emot
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