You Love & You Learn Podcast
You Love & You Learn Podcast helps listeners thrive physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, with the aim of learning to love themselves and others more fully. Host Sarah Yudkin is a trauma-informed Breathwork Facilitator and Relationship Coach. Drawing on over a decade of study in health, wellbeing, and relationships, she shares insights from her own journey. Episodes feature solo reflections and guest conversations, offering practical takeaways for healing, growth, and relationships.
Episodes
#137 - There’s More to Life Than Striving and Achievement w/ Meghan Gifford
This week, I'm joined by Meghan Gifford - a private guide to founders, visionaries, and leaders who spent a decade in boardrooms working on billion-dollar deals before walking away at the peak of her career.Meghan opens up about her "gold star girl" (the achievement-driven identity she built from childhood) and the moment she realized that all the striving, perfectionism, and control wasn't actual
#136 - Expanding Your Capacity for Joy with Taylor Welch
This week, I'm joined by Taylor Welch: a yoga teacher, breathwork facilitator, and coach who blends sacred wisdom with modern science to guide women back to their wholeness.Taylor opens up about the 30-day joy experiment she gave herself after realizing that joy felt genuinely unsafe in her body, and what happened when she decided to let joy lead her decisions instead. We talk about why so man
#135 - How to Shift Out of an Emotional Funk
In this week’s episode, I'm getting real about the emotional funk I've been in lately and the framework that helped me start to shift out of it.I'm walking you through the Emotional Triad, a tool that looks at three things that impact our emotional state: our physiology, what we're focused on, and what we're making things mean. I share what this has looked like in my own life r
#134 - Getting What You Want Requires Audacity w/ Kira Mathews
This week, I'm joined by Kira Matthews - coach, speaker, and the creator of Pitch School. She helps people unlock their most confident selves so they can go after the dreams they once thought were impossible.We dig into the inner critic and how it shows up to keep us small, why asking for what we want is so often harder than it should be, and how reframing rejection can completely shift the wa
#133 - Healing Anxiety Beyond Talk Therapy with Tori Lutz
This week, I'm joined by Tori Lutz, a spinal energetics practitioner and a transformational mindset & somatic coach who spent two decades in talk therapy before discovering that healing her anxiety required getting out of her head and into her body.We talk about why so many of us get stuck intellectualizing our experiences, what it actually means to "feel it to heal it," and the
#132 - Do I Still Have Relationship Anxiety? (My Honest Answer)
Welcome back!!! 💓 It feels really meaningful to be here again after taking some time away.In this episode, I’m sharing a bit of a life and identity update: what’s been shifting for me over the past year, why I stepped away from the podcast for a period of time, and the honest answer to a question I’ve been getting a lot lately:Do I still experience relationship anxiety?The answer surprised me… and
#131 - Building Real Wealth Through Our Relationships w/ Sahil Bloom
This week, I’m joined by New York Times bestselling author, entrepreneur, and investor, Sahil Bloom, as he shares the life-changing insights behind his book Five Types of Wealth.We talk about what it really means to design a life that feels rich (far beyond money). Sahil opens up about the wake-up call that shifted his own priorities and the simple daily practices that helped him rebuild around wh
#130 - I didn't realize how often I stuffed down my real feelings until now...
In this video, I share the 3 patterns I realized were holding me back, and how I’ve been working to reset them during Week 4 of The Artist’s Way (which, let’s be honest, took me way more than a week to get through… 😅).If you’ve been feeling stuck, disconnected from yourself, or just in need of a reset, I hope these reflections give you ideas for ways to reconnect and move forward (even when you do
#129 - Navigating shame and criticism in healthier ways
I’m back for a (slightly delayed) recap of the Artist’s Way Chapter 3 - Recovering a Sense of Power. And to get your power back, Julia Cameron talks about bouncing back from feeling shame (unworthy, I am doing something bad or wrong, I am embarrassed of myself) and bouncing back from criticism (especially when the criticism is not helpful and leads to feeling more shame or ickiness!)—both topics I
#128 - To Feel More Fulfilled, We Must Release Skepticism and Self-Doubt
Week two explores self-doubt and skepticism as big blocks to living a more creative + fulfilling life, the dangers of surrounding ourselves with people who don’t support our vision, the importance of paying attention to your life to make space for more delight, and gives advice for how to feel proud of ourselves as artists (or people who are healing + growing).I also share my serendipitous story f
#127 - Why We Stay Blocked (Even When We Say We Want Change)
I’m back with a recap of Week 1 of The Artist’s Way sharing my key takeaways that go far beyond creativity. This isn’t a book summary, it’s sharing what was most helpful for me because I imagine it will also be helpful for you, too!Week one dips into creating a sense of inner safety (for our inner artists, but also for general life), why we stay blocked even when we say we want to change), the imp
#126 - When It’s Time to Expand… Even If It’s Scary
After 5 years of building You Love and You Learn and focusing primarily on relationship anxiety... I’m feeling a pull I can’t ignore any longer! A pull to expand and share other parts of my life outside of feeling anxious in my relationship. More about joy, creativity, self-trust, and how to live a full life.This is the start of a new series where I'll take you behind the scenes as I explore what
#125 - Becoming the Most Honest Version of Yourself with Survivor 48’s Shauhin Davari
This episode is an honest look at what it means to find your voice and show up authentically in life, relationships, and even on national television. Shauhin Davari, public speaking coach and cast member of Survivor Season 48, joins me to talk about how journaling, breathwork, and mindset shifts can help you stop performing and start being the fullest version of yourself.
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#124 - The Love You Give Becomes the Love You Get
This episode is an open-hearted reflection on what the quote “The love I give becomes the love I get” brought up for me, and how it inspired the creation of a new July 7-Day Challenge inside the You Love and You Learn Patreon community. It’s a gentle reminder that even in overwhelming times, connection can be built through small acts of kindness and intention.
Whether you join the challenge or not
#123 - Letting Go of Who You Think You “Should” Be with Mollie Birney
In this episode, I’m joined by Clinical Life Coach & Consultant and former therapist Mollie Birney to discuss the role identity plays in all aspects of our lives. We talk about why letting go of the labels we put on ourselves is often the scariest (and most freeing) thing we can do. Molly shares her personal journey from licensed therapist to coach, the concept of “freedom work,” and how we ca
#122 - Navigating Motherhood with Anxious & OCD Tendencies with Kiyomi LaFleur
In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with returning guest Kiyomi, with Awaken Into Love, to talk about her journey into motherhood and the powerful inner transformations it brought with it. She opens up about the spiritual and emotional journey of becoming a mom, and how she navigated postpartum challenges while maintaining a sense of self. We explore the parallels between motherhood and relation
#121 - Throwback Episode: “Am I ‘In Love’, or Do I Just Love Them?”
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in May 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away.
In this episode, I address questions like:
“Did I fall out love with my partner?”
“What if I feel love toward my partner, but don’t feel IN LOVE with my partner?”
“What if w
#120 - It’s Wedding Week! My Reflections and Intentions Before the Big Day
It's officially wedding week! 🎉💍
In this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of my wedding season — from setting intentions before my bridal shower and bachelorette, to navigating unexpected bumps, practicing presence, and learning how to receive love and support from those closest to me.
I also share some honest reflections about the final month of wedding planning — the pressure that build
#119 - Throwback Episode: Relationships Force Us to Answer Life’s Big Questions
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in February 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away.
When you’re in a relationship, life’s big questions present themself: Who I am I? What do I believe? What do I value? How do I want life to look? What is normal?
#118 - Releasing Intensity in Relationships and Career
In this solo episode, I’m sharing what it’s looked like to reduce the pressure and urgency I used to bring into two major areas of my life: my relationship and my work. From letting go of perfectionism in partnership, to allowing myself to embrace a season of maintenance in business, this episode is a reflection on how releasing intensity can actually create more ease, connection, and clarity.
Whe
#117 - Getting Your Spark Back with Anna Seirian
This week on the podcast I have on Anna Seirian, a writer and coach for ADHD women who want to trade exhaustion and survival for ease and pleasure. She’s the writer of the best-selling Substack Ambitious Softie and the cofounder of Internet People, a digital media company and community for creatives, artists, and entrepreneurs.
In this episode we dive into the heart of Anna’s Brilliance Exp
#116 - Letting Go of the Need for Certainty in Relationships w/ My Client
I am so grateful to bring on another former client of mine to discuss her transformative journey with relationship anxiety. In this episode we explore:
How the need for certainty in her decisions fueled her relationship anxiety
The struggle of knowing if it is anxiety or intuition and how to navigate
Moving from black and white thinking to accepting things can be “both, and”
Ways she works with h
#115 - Transform Your Relationship with Your Body, Not Your Mind with Becky Aste
Have you ever felt stuck in the same relationship patterns, no matter how hard you try to change? This week, I sat down with trauma-informed marriage coach, Becky Aste, to explore how healing yourself can transform your relationship. Becky shares the patterns that nearly led to divorce and how discovering somatic work (aka, soothing your body) changed everything. We discuss how regulating your ner
#114 - The Impact of Alcohol in Relationships
In this episode, I’m exploring a topic that can sometimes feel a little uncomfy—but is super important to talk about: the role alcohol plays in romantic relationships. This discussion was inspired by a question from a Patreon member, but I know many other people navigate similar dynamics in their relationships.
I share my personal experiences with this topic, including how alcohol has impacted my
#113 - The Messy Middle: Navigating Life’s Uncertain Seasons
The Messy Middle — a space we all find ourselves in at some point. It’s that uncomfortable, uncertain period where things feel unclear, and we’re searching for answers that don’t seem to come. In this solo episode, I open up about my own experience with navigating uncertainty, feeling stuck, and provide practical ways to support yourself when you don’t have a clear path forward.
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#112 - How to Stop Overthinking and Create Safety From Within With Samantha Chung
In this episode, I sit down with life and manifestation coach, Samantha Chung, to explore how to overcome anxiety, relinquish control, and create inner peace. Sam shares her personal story—from her early struggles with perfectionism and control as a professional ballerina to discovering the power of mindfulness, self-acceptance, and manifestation.
This episode is for anyone who struggles with over
#111 - The Journey to Better Sex with Sex Expert Susan Bratton
Ready for a real conversation about sex? This week, I'm joined by sex expert Susan Bratton to explore the path to a more fulfilling sex life. We unpack the importance of open communication and how to overcome the misconceptions that are holding you back from passionate and connected sex. Discover how to take ownership of your own pleasure and build a stronger bond with your partner to unlock the b
#110 - Why Your Brain Wants to Run in Relationships w/ Robert James
I know many listeners have felt the urge to escape a perfectly good relationship. This can show up as questioning if you're making a mistake, if you're truly in love, or if you're missing out on something better. I went through it too, so just know you are not alone. I am bringing back OCD and Anxiety coach Robert James to share his journey with Relationship OCD and to unpack why our brains can se
#109 - Throwback Episode: 5 Ways to Respond When Anxiety Shows Up
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in February 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away.
When anxiety shows up, it can feel tempting to want to make it go away as fast as possible. I’ve found this can actually make the anxiety stronger, and offer up 5 alternate ways to
#108 - Throwback Episode: “Am I in the ‘Right Relationship?”
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in January 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away.
Is there such thing as the “right relationship?”
Why is this such a common question we ask ourselves?
How do we expand into a new way of thinking?
I dive into my thoughts on this sub
#107 - Stop Outsourcing Your Happiness
We are heading into Valentine's Day month and there will be a ton of messages about having your romantic partner meeting your needs and showering you with love and gifts. While it’s lovely to celebrate our love for people in our life–it’s also important to celebrate the love we give ourselves.
Part of how we can give and receive love for ourselves and become our own best friend, our own inn
#106 - Comparison to Fictional Relationships and RomComs
Reading fiction can be relaxing–unless we’re stuck comparing our lives and relationship to the ones in the books! Then it can become stressful. Just know you are not alone if you feel this way–this episode topic was highly requested from other members of the You Love and You Learn community after I posted about fiction recently!
In today’s episode, I explore three reasons why comparison to fiction
#105 - Regulating Your Nervous System by Slowing and Softening w/ Alena Winter
In today’s episode, I sat down with Alena Winter, a clinical Naturopath and Nutritionist in New Zealand who is passionate about helping people understand true foundations of health and the things we need in place to be well. The good news? Many of these pillars of health are simple, accessible, and low cost–yet they can make a world of a difference in how we feel on a day to day basis.
We d
#104 - Taking the Pressure Off Gratitude w/ Karden Rabin
Have you ever felt pressure to “just be grateful”? Maybe you have sat down to write a gratitude list before, but it took you a while to think of things about your life, your relationship, your partner–and you felt guilty about it; “shouldn’t I be more grateful?!”
In this week’s episode, I sit down with Karden Rabin, nervous system expert to explore a new perspective on gratitude that will (
#103 - Strengthening Your Relationship Mindset in 2025
Having a strong mindset in relationships can be a big game-changer. Our mindset affects the way we think, feel, and behave–so it makes a big difference if we come from a mindset of “why bother?” (victim mindset) or “I can’t change anyway” (fixed mindset) as compared to a mindset of “I can influence my life and relationship (creator mindset) or “I am not there yet–but I am getting there” (growth mi
#102 - 8 Lessons From My 8-Year Relationship
Nate and I celebrated 8 years together yesterday, and I wanted to take some time to reflect on what I’ve learned in our time together. The 8 lessons I explore in more detail are:
The more we resist feeling “bad”—the more we suffer. The more we accept feeling “bad”—the sooner it will come and go
It’s much easier to look at the ways our partner is lacking than to turn inward and see our own s
#101 - Overcoming Relationship Anxiety w/ Courtney Paré
I am so excited to bring you this conversation with Dr. Courtney Paré, a licensed naturopathic doctor, holistic anxiety coach, speaker, and author. Courtney empowers those facing anxiety and OCD to experience greater peace and confidence in their lives and relationships, and just published her first book Overcoming Relationship Anxiety!
I had a chance to read the book and it’s fantastic. I k
#100 - The Love We’ve Learned from 100(!!) Episodes
I can’t believe we’re already at episode 100 of this podcast! After sitting down with 50 guests, there were many lessons learned about love that I wanted to recap and share–so I went back and listened to the final question I ask all guests; “what is one thing you have learned about love that you want to leave listeners with?”
I found that there were 7 key categories of these lessons, so I w
#99 - Lessons from Being in Limbo w/ Ela Topcuoglu
In this episode I am back with past guest, Ela Topcuoglu, who is a Life Transition Coach that helps us intentionally move through life’s big milestone moments (that can often be challenging for someone with anxiety). Things like moving in together, getting engaged, a breakup, changing jobs, or looking ahead to marriage.
One stage of transitions in particular, the limbo stage (in between the
#98 - Uncovering Inner Peace w/ Lily Sais of @peacefromwithin
In this episode, I sit down with Lily Sais, a former school psychologist turned registered Three Principles practitioner, whose journey has taken her from anxiety to a place of peace. Lily is passionate about helping others uncover the peace that already lies within them, beneath anxious thoughts (the peace that already lies within…LOVE!)
We cover:
Why it’s important to stop focusing on wh
#97 - My Recurring Relationship Anxiety ‘Theme’
Over the years, there is a recurring ‘theme’ that brings up discomfort for me within my relationship, and that is when things feel boring or mundane. It used to really freak me out, and I would jump to thinking I had to go find a more exciting partner or relationship.
I still have these moments of judging the boredom, but when I pause to reflect further, I see things a little differently no
#96 - Signs of an Abusive Relationship w/ Dr. Molly Burrets
This is a long overdue episode to explore signs of what an abusive relationship is and isn’t. I often give the disclaimer “my work does not apply to abusive relationships” and wanted to have a licensed therapist explain the types of abuse so people are aware.
And who better than Dr. Molly Burrets, a licensed clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles with 15 years of experience practicing p
#95 - "When You Know, You Know"
In this episode, I unpack the phrase “when you know you know” and how I used to take this phrase very literally, which caused a lot of anxiety and pressure on me. I deconstruct what it actually means to ‘know’ something or have ‘knowledge’, as well as the characteristics of someone who is more likely to ‘know’ something within their relationship or life.
If you’ve ever heard someone say they
#94 - Why You’re Unhappy, and What Can Make You Happier w/ Stephanie Harrison
Does it feel like you’re doing all the ‘right’ things but you’re still not happy? Does it feel like everyone around you seems to be happier than you, and you feel so guilty about it?
What if this wasn’t a flaw or something you’re doing wrong – and we have been getting happiness wrong all along? In this episode, I sat down with Stephanie Harrison of @newhappyco to explore what happiness is a
#93 - Why Lowering the Bar May Actually Be a (Really) Good Thing w/ MJ Mayes
In this episode, MJ and I discuss why lowering the bar in your life and relationship might actually be a good thing. No, this isn’t about settling or letting go of standards. It’s about moving forward without beating yourself up for every imperfection along the way, and taking small intentional actions instead of waiting for everything to perfectly line up before you can move forward.
#92 - A New Mindset Towards Anxiety
In this episode, I explore the common struggle of wanting anxiety to disappear and how this often makes the anxiety feel even stronger. Many people ask, “Why is my anxiety still here even after I’ve tried all the tools?” – let's discuss a helpful shift in mindset that can transform your relationship with it.
I cover:
The nature of anxiety and why resisting it can make it feel stronger
How to refr
#91 - When You Want to Stay in Your Relationship, But Wish Things Were Better
I’ve never done this before, but today I am bringing you a training from my Patreon membership to the podcast to show you a peek into the types of trainings we have every month!
This month’s topic: wanting to stay in your relationship, but knowing you want things to be better or different, too.
If you want to dive into a library of trainings like this, and connect with 30
#90 - Embracing a Partner Who’s Different From You w/ Chelsea Horton
In this episode, Chelsea and I dive into the idea that true relationship strength often comes from embracing differences rather than being exactly the same.
We cover:
Chelsea’s journey of overcoming internalized beliefs that partners must think alike
How she learned to appreciate her husband's contrasting qualities
How differences can nurture a deeper love, personal growth, and a more expa
#89 - 5 Tips When You Feel Disconnected From Your Partner
It can feel so painful to be disconnected from your partner. I get it, because I’ve had a few of these moments myself recently! Let’s talk about it.
In this episode, I share:
Recent examples when Nate and I felt disconnected
Why it feels so painful to be disconnected from your partner
5 ways to respond next time you’re disconnected
7 helpful mindsets around disconnection
#88 - Healing From the Inside Out w/ Alison Seponara
This episode focuses on healing anxiety from the inside out. And who better to speak to than Alison Seponara – therapist, anxiety educator, holistic healer, and author who specializes in helping others create their own holistic anxiety healing toolkit!
Anxiety can come from many different pillars of our life; our friendships, our physical health and wellbeing, our relational attachment dyna
#87 - Why You’re Triggered by Your Partner w/ Thais Gibson
You are in for a TREAT with this episode, which truly felt like a therapy session for me. I sat down with Thais Gibson who has over a decade working as a practitioner and specializes in blending attachment theory, psychology, and subconscious reprogramming.
We discuss what Thais refers to as the “relationship shadow” and explore why our partners can be so dang triggering (it’s not wha
#86 - The Realities of Healing Relationship Anxiety
Have you ever felt like you were not going “fast enough” in your journey to heal relationship anxiety or ROCD? Maybe you’ve seen other people share their wins and felt like you’re just not getting it. It’s easy to beat ourselves up when we compare to other people’s highlight reels–but today I am peeling back the curtain of what healing relationship anxiety actually looks like.
Get the
#85 - How to Help Someone w/ Relationship Anxiety + ROCD
If you are the partner of someone with relationship anxiety, this episode is for you.
If you have relationship anxiety and want to be able to ask your partner for more intentional support, this episode is for you!
Thank you to the help of the You Love and You Learn community on Instagram for this episode. I received dozens of answers to the question “how does your partner help you na
#84 - Why We Sabotage Healthy Relationships w/ Dr. Morgan Anderson
If you have ever felt like your healthy relationship is boring and the “vibes are off” – this episode is for you! I sat down with Dr. Morgan Anderson, a clinical psychologist, relationship coach, and host of the “Let’s Get Vulnerable” podcast.
In this episode we discuss:
Why Morgan rejected, sabotaged, and avoided available love for so long
What emotional availability looks like 
#83 - Taking Our Partner Off The Pedestal w/ Charisse Cooke
I loved this conversation because time and time again this comes up in the work I do with clients (and it was a pattern in my own relationship). I sat down with Charisse Cooke, who is a London-based relationship psychotherapist with over 20 years experience. She helps individuals, couples and groups develop relationship skills and define love in a way that has meaning for them.
In thi
#82 - How to Make Room for More Joy
Do you ever notice yourself feeling good, then suddenly an anxious voice pops up saying “wait, shouldn’t I be worrying about something?” or “if I don’t worry about this–how will I figure it out?”
I’ve been here, and I used to sabotage most of my good feelings by jumping straight back into worry. In this episode, I explore:
Why fear can try to block us from experiencing joy
What patterns to
#81 - Staying Grounded During Wedding Planning
In this episode, I share my personal journey from getting engaged (June 2023) to planning my wedding (in May 2025). Thanks to great questions from the You Love and You Learn community…I discuss:
How to enjoy your engagement phase before and during wedding planning
What I’ve learned about my personality during this time
How to accept the moments when you felt stressed or overwhelmed b
#80 - Part 2: Setting Boundaries with In-Laws w/ Alexandra Schelling
You asked…we’re answering! Alexandra Schelling (of @toolboxforlove on Instagram) and I polled our communities for questions about navigating our significant other’s families, and we’re answering the questions in a two-part episode.
Today’s episode is all about navigating relational dynamics with our partner’s family. Should we set boundaries with our partner’s family? Should they? How to navigate
#79 - Part 1: Navigating Family Dynamics: Expectations vs. Reality w/ Alexandra Schelling
You asked…we’re answering! Alexandra Schelling (of @toolboxforlove on Instagram) and I polled our communities for questions about navigating our significant other’s families, and we’re answering the questions in a two-part episode.
Today’s episode is all about what’s happening in our OWN mind when it relates to our partner’s family. Expectation vs. reality (and the anxiety that causes), insecuriti
#78 - From Burnout to Balance: Cycle Syncing w/ Ash McDonald
his episode is a long-time coming, one I have been so excited to record and share with you because I wish more people knew this information! Menstrual cycles can have such a huge effect on how we’re showing up throughout the month, and if we don’t know what to expect…we can feel a lil’ crazy or guilty about the changes in energy, mindset, and emotions.
So I brought Ash McDonald, Thera
#77 - Helpful Advice From a Divorce Lawyer
I was pleasantly surprised when I listened to a podcast with James Sexton, a divorce lawyer who’s seen the ups and downs of couples for 25+ years in his career and has a lot of wisdom to share from it.
Today’s episode focuses on a key thing he sees that leads to relationship breakdown: 1. Not knowing what you want or need, and 2. Not knowing how to express what you want or need. I exp
#76 - A Reframe to Help Relationship Anxiety: Zooming In and Out
This simple reframe has helped me (and dozens of my clients) in moments of relationship anxiety: zooming in when you’re thinking too big-picture, and zooming out when you’re hyper-fixated on something in the present moment. I explain why this matters in your relationship and specific examples of zooming in and out to help manage your anxiety.
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#75 - Healing Unworthiness: From Trauma to Self-Worth w/ Sarah Baldwin
This topic is LONG overdue, and that is feeling unworthy and how this affects our life and the ways we show up in our relationships. I’m thrilled to have had the chance to speak with Sarah Baldwin, who is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and expert in the field of trauma resolution.
We explore reasons we feel unworthy, how to become kinder to ourselves, how to reconnect with our bo
#74 - Speaking Up For Your Needs in a Relationship w/ Gayane Aramyan
Are you clear about what your needs are in a relationship? If so, do you communicate them openly with your partner? If you answered no to either question, you’ll enjoy this conversation. Our partners cannot read our minds, especially if we are not even sure what we’re expecting in the first place, so it’s important to take time to think about these things.
To explore this, I chatted w
#73 - What if I've Had Relationship Anxiety/ROCD from the Beginning
Common questions I am asked are “what if I never had a honeymoon phase?” and “is it bad if I’ve had relationship anxiety/ROCD from the beginning of my relationship?”
My two cents is how long we’ve had RA/ROCD is less relevant than what is contributing to the RA/ROCD…and that’s exactly what I explore in this episode! What factors may have contributed to RA/ROCD being there from the beg
#72 - Is it Normal For Healthy Love to Feel Boring?
Have you ever felt bored in your relationship and worried that something is wrong? Maybe you’ve wondered “is this normal, shouldn’t things feel more exciting than this?” I’ve been there, and this has been a trigger I have struggled with myself, so I wanted to explore it more.
In this episode, I explore:
3 reasons why healthy love can feel boring
What inner work you can do if you feel disapp
#71 - Trusting Your Intuition in Your First Serious Relationship w/ my client
It can be so hard to trust ourselves when there is so much relationship information and advice out there. Even well-meaning friends and family can add their two cents when sometimes, we really didn’t need it!
In this episode, I sat down with a client of mine who shares her journey of trusting her intuition in her first serious relationship. We also explore the fear of being attracted to oth
#70 - Healing Anxiety Through Nervous System Regulation w/ Amanda Armstrong
Today we’re diving into something that has a big impact on our overall mental health and wellbeing; our vagus nerve. Amanda Armstrong, neuroscience and trauma-informed anxiety & depression coach (and now AUTHOR!) is back on the podcast to help walk us through how to improve our mental health by working with our vagus nerve - the nerve that connects our brain and body, and regulates our nervous
#69 - If My Relationship Isn't Easy, Am I Forcing It?
In this episode, I address advice like “a relationship should feel mostly positive / easy / joyful in order to be worth it”, and “if the balance swings negative or if the association is that the relationship is difficult or complex then it’s a red flag.”
If you’ve ever wondered “shouldn’t this be easier?” – this episode is for you!
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#68 - Build Healthy Realtionship Habits w/ Gottman Method Therapist Anna Aslanian
There is so much to learn from the Gottman Method of therapy, which is based on 40+ years of relationship research thanks to the work of John and Julie Gottman. I wanted to discuss how we can apply some of these key lessons to build better relationship habits, and was grateful to have a conversation with Anna Aslanian, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who’s a certified Gottman Method thera
#67 - The Unintended Consequences of Healing
‘Healing’ and growth are usually looked at as good things. But what happens when it becomes something we’re doing to try and be perfect and fix all the ‘bad stuff’?
If you feel like you ‘should’ be on a healing journey and growing, or else you’re doing something wrong and not going to live up to your ‘potential’ – this episode is for you. It’s a set of reminders that I come back to often, e
#66 - 5 Signs of Perfectionism in Relationships (and Life) w/ Kayla Licari
Perfectionism has been a big theme on the podcast, but it’s sooooo needed! I truly think perfectionism is one of the biggest impacts on how we show up in our life and relationship, so this episode is for all my high achievers who put the bar so high for themselves and others around them.
I sit down with Kayla Licari, a physician associate turned coach that helps perfectionists conquer overwhelm in
#65 - Mastering Your Mind Drama w/ Rebecca Ore
Does it ever feel like your mind just won’t stop throwing thoughts at you? In this episode, I sit down with relationship coach Rebecca Ore to talk about how to ‘master your mind drama’ and take your power back from anxious thoughts and feelings.
She shares her own journey of going from feeling insecure in relationships to valuing herself and feeling worthy through simple, tangible tools and
#64 - Relationships Are Big Opportunities to 'Look in the Mirror'
Our partners and relationships are constantly reflecting things back to us, and if we’re willing to ‘look in the mirror’ we can learn so much. One way we can learn from our relationship is to notice when we’re projecting; “when we see the self in the other.”
In this episode, I normalize projecting (you’re not doing something ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’), give examples of projections in my relationship so you
#63 - From Triggered to Trusting Yourself w/ McKell Kristen
Do you feel like you’re constantly comparing your relationship to others around you? Maybe you see a couple break up then worry you’re doomed to break up too. Or you see another couple doing something “better” than you and feel like your relationship isn’t good enough.
In this episode, I chat with relationship anxiety coach McKell Kristen about how to shift from being triggered about other people’
#62 - The "I'll Be Happy When..." Trap in Relationships
I’ll be happy when…
I find The One
my anxiety goes away
my partner acts this way
my partner looks just right
my feelings are what I expect them to be
these thoughts go away
We place so many rules on ourselves and our partners, and sometimes expect the perfect conditions to be in place in order for us to be happy or be content. In this episode, I break down why this “I’ll be happy when” trap isn’t
#61 - Cultivating Self-Compassion w/ Dr. Kristin Neff
In this episode I got to sit down with Kristin Neff, a pioneer in self-compassion research who has been recognized as one of the most influential researchers in psychology worldwide. We talked all about her findings about self-compassion and how creating a more compassionate relationship with ourselves influences how we show up for others.
This episode covers:
the 3 pillars of self-compassion
how
#60 - Taking Ownership for Relationship Anxiety w/ my client
A lot of times in our relationships, it’s easy to look at our partner and notice all the things they could be doing better. “It’s you, not me.”
What’s not-so-easy is taking the time to understand how our own beliefs, patterns, and past experiences contribute to the dynamic. “It’s not you, it’s me.”
In this episode, I sat down with a past private coaching client of mine who used to hyper-focus on a
#59 - Sex, Anxiety, and Sex Anxiety
If our sex life doesn’t match the steamy scenes from the movies, it can bring up a lot of anxiety: “am I with the right partner sexually?” “are we having enough sex?” “is our sex passionate enough?” etc.
And the ironic part is that all the pressure we place on ourselves and our sex life to be amazing can create the opposite outcome—feeling distracted and disconnected.
In this episode what I wish I
#58 - 5 Life-Changing Relationship Rules w/ Kimberley Quinlan
In this episode, I talk with Kimberley Quinlan, LMFT, about 5 relationship rules that changed her life. She’s been married for 20 years and has so much wisdom to share.
Here’s a sneak peek at the 5 life-changing relationship rules:
1. It is not your job or my job to manage our family’s emotions.
2. It is not your job to please the people you are in a relationship with.
3. They are allowed t
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