Psychology of Dating Podcast
The Psychology of Dating Podcast is hosted by clinical psychologist and dating coach Nadine Neukirch. It explores why people feel stuck in dating and relationships, including thoughts like “there must be something wrong with me” or “a loving relationship will never happen for me.” The show teaches skills and knowledge to build agency and self-confidence in dating. Nadine shares her psychology and coaching experience to help listeners create the relationships they want.
Episodes
Are You Taking Responsibility for Someone Else’s Feelings When Dating?
What if you’re spending so much time worrying about how someone else might feel that you’re losing sight of what you actually want?In this episode, I share a question from a recent coaching session about dating multiple people, liking them all, and feeling unsure about who to commit to — alongside the worry, “I don’t want them to have any awkward feelings.”It’s a question that opens up a much bigg
Why You Should Date Like You’re Already Married (In the Best Way): Conversation With Monica Tanner
What if the skills that create strong, lasting marriages are the very ones you should be using while you’re still dating?In this episode, I’m joined by certified Relational Life Therapist and Sex Therapy practitioner Monica Tanner to explore how “marriage skills” can transform the early stages of dating.Too often, dating is driven by chemistry, anxiety, or unspoken expectations. Monica shares how
Breaking the Trauma Pattern: Healing “Not Good Enough” Beliefs & the Body’s Story with Anu Verma
In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Anu Verma, UK-based trauma therapist and coach, who shares her lived experience of childhood sexual abuse, abusive relationships, and her journey of healing that inspired her work in trauma-informed care.We explore how trauma shapes the nervous system, the “not good enough” belief, and why many people find themselves drawn to unhealthy relationship patt
Dating Smarter, Not Harder: Research, Strategy & Small Steps with Tim Molnar
In this episode, I’m joined by Tim Molnar, US-based dating strategy coach, author, and former university lecturer, for a grounded and practical conversation about what it actually takes to date smarter — not harder.Tim brings a unique blend of academic research and real-world coaching experience, helping people move beyond vague dating intentions and into clear, actionable steps that create lastin
When Emotions Feel Too Much: Self-Compassion, Fear, and Dating
Many people don’t struggle with dating because they don’t know what to do — they struggle because of the emotions that show up along the way.Fear, anxiety, rejection, uncertainty, longing, disappointment… For many, dating becomes an ongoing attempt to avoid uncomfortable feelings rather than move toward meaningful connection.In this episode, I explore:Why fear of emotions keeps you stuck in unhelp
What If There’s No Wrong Answer? A New Way to Navigate Dating Choices
What If There’s No Wrong Answer? A New Way to Navigate Dating ChoicesAs a Clinical Psychologist and dating coach, one of the most common things I see is clients wanting the “right” answer — who to date, what boundaries to set, what feelings are acceptable, and what steps to take next. But here’s the truth: giving prescriptive advice doesn’t build long-term confidence.In this episode, we explore a
Too Focused on Them? How to Tell When You’re Losing Yourself in Dating
Do you find yourself over-focusing on the other person—trying to keep them happy, overthinking decisions, or guessing what they want in the relationship? In this episode, we explore the signs that your attention may have shifted too far toward the other person, how this pattern can affect connection and communication, and why it often shows up in early dating and relationships.You’ll also hear pra
Stop Fighting, Start Connecting- Top Conflict Mistakes & What To Do Instead
Conflict is a normal part of any relationship — but when you’re trying to assert yourself and emotions rise, it’s easy to fall into patterns that make things harder instead of clearer. In this episode:- learn three common mistakes people make when trying to communicate their needs during conflict, and why these patterns can lead to misunderstandings, defensiveness, or disconnect.- You’ll also hear
The Neuroscience of Manifestation & Dating: With Isabella Rosenthal
In this episode of The Psychology of Dating Podcast, I’m joined by manifestation coach Isabella Rosenthal to explore the fascinating intersection between dating psychology and manifestation.Isabella breaks down the neuroscience behind manifestation, including how the Reticular Activating System (RAS) acts as the brain’s internal filter—highlighting the information we train it to notice. We discuss
Feeling Guilty for Self-Care? Why It Matters in Dating and Boundaries
Do you feel guilty taking time for yourself? You're not alone—and this internal conflict can have a big impact on your dating life. In this episode, we explore why self-care isn’t selfish, but essential, especially when it comes to setting boundaries, maintaining emotional availability, and showing up with clarity in relationships.✨ Dating Coaching Program – Now EnrollingStarts July 9. Learn
Too Many Dates? When Your Love Life Becomes Overloaded
Can there be such a thing as too much dating? In this episode, we explore the often-overlooked impact of overloading your dating life—how seeing too many people too quickly can lead to emotional burnout, decision fatigue, and even prematurely ending connections that had potential.I’ll break down how a high volume of dates can actually disconnect you from the emotional experience of dating, stop yo
Dating Starts With You: What It Really Means to Build a Relationship With Yourself
Before we focus on finding the right partner, it’s essential to ask—how strong is your relationship with yourself? In this episode, we unpack what it truly means to build a relationship with yourself from a psychological perspective.In this episode:- Learn how self-awareness, self-respect, and internal safety lay the foundation for dating with confidence and clarity. - How your inner world can sha
Before You Fix It, Name It: Clarifying Your Dating Struggles
Are you stuck in the same dating pattern—but not sure what exactly needs to change? Before you jump into solutions, take a step back: have you clearly defined the problem?In this episode, we explore how identifying what’s truly within your control in dating can help you move forward with clarity and purpose.✨ Dating Coaching Program – Now Enrolling Starts July 9. Learn more → nadineneukirch.com🎁 F
Should I Keep Going or Let It Go? How to Follow Through in Dating
Should you keep seeing them—or call it quits? In this episode, we explore how to navigate early dating with clarity and confidence.You’ll learn:When to stay open and keep exploring a connectionHow to follow through with connections on dating apps and in personHow to make decisions that align with your values—not just your anxiety✨ Dating Coaching Program – Now Enrolling Starts July 9. Join here →
Understanding the Impact of Complex Trauma on Dating & Relationships
Why does dating feel so overwhelming when all you want is a healthy connection? In this episode, we explore how complex trauma can shape the way you approach dating and relationships—and what healing can look like.You’ll learn:Common ways complex trauma shows up in datingHow your nervous system may confuse safety with dangerWhy emotional avoidance, over-functioning, or shutdowns aren't “bad”
Help! I'm Overthinking This Text
Not sure what to text back? Feeling anxious while waiting for a reply or wondering if you're coming on too strong?In this episode:How to pace texting without overextendingManaging anxiety while waiting for repliesWhen overthinking = avoiding real communication✨ Dating Coaching Program – Now Open Starts July 9. Join here → nadineneukirch.com🎁 Free Guide: Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating Download
How To Be Present In Dating & Reduce Mind-Reading
Meeting new people in dating can be anxiety provoking, frustrating, boring, confusing, and many other emotions. It is normal for the human brain to try and make sense of new people and made judgments and assumptions about them. This however, takes us away from being in the moment and can increase suffering and misinterpretation. In this episode:- Learn about the mindfulness skill of 'Observe&
Dating In Your Midlife
Are you in your midlife and contemplating dating? People often have many fears and barriers about dating as they grow older, with thoughts such as; "All the good people are taken", "I'm not attractive anymore", "The apps are only for younger people". Most difficult thoughts however are not grounded in facts, but rather judgments and fears. In this episode you wil
Mindset Hacks to Help You Get Back On The Dating Apps
Do you find yourself hot and cold with use of the dating apps. You go on them for a few months and then feel disheartened and quit for another few months? Is you mindset one of defeat and hopelessness; "They don't work, they are too boring, it's impossible to get matches"In this episode:- Identify your mindset for use of dating apps and learn how to clarify what are facts vs ju
Emotion Regulation: How To Manage Difficult Emotions In Dating
Do you experience intense and overwhelming emotions where you become impulsive or feel out of control in dating? Or do you feel numb and disconnected from your emotions in dating? You may be experiencing emotion dysregulation. In DBT therapy there are skills to regulate emotions, feel more in control of your emotional experience and reduce unnecessary suffering. This episode explores the basics of
What To Do When You Have Conflicting 'Parts' Of You In Dating
Have you ever found yourself doubting your decisions in dating? Making one choice and then feeling guilt afterwards or criticising yourself? One part of you wants to go on a date and the other part of you fears rejection and wants to avoid the apps?In this episode:- Explore the impact of conflicting 'parts' of yourself in dating- Strategies to befriend these parts, understand their fears
Tips For Managing Conflict
Conflict can be healthy and to be expected in a relationship. The important part of conflict is how we navigate it.In this episode:- Learn how can attachment fears can be triggered in a relationship - Tips to settle your nervous system when in conflict- Tips to clarify your goals when resolving conflictFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comREGISTRATION NOW OPEN
Q & A for Use Of Dating Apps
Part of my dating coaching program involves running weekly groups. Each week participants ask dating questions and receive personalised coaching on areas they are unsure or stuck in for dating. This episode answers 3 questions from the latest coaching group:- How long should you spend on the dating apps?- What is the best time to be messaging someone on the apps?- How many dates should you go on p
How To Increase Pleasant Emotions In Dating - ABC PLEASE Skill
When people are feeling stuck in dating they can experience an imbalance in their emotions, an increase in challenging emotions such as fear, sadness, anger, shame, and guilt. In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) there is a skill to help people accumulate pleasant emotions called 'ABC PLEASE'. This episode explores the use of this skill in the context of dating. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mi
Why I Loved Dating In COVID-19 Lockdown And What I Learnt About Authentic Dating
What does authentic dating actually mean? This episode looks at key aspects of authentic dating including aligning with your values and goals, honesty, embracing imperfections, and vulnerability. REGISTRATION NOW OPEN FOR *** ONLINE DATING COACHING PROGRAM Feb 2025***For more information or to register visit:https://www.nadineneukirch.comFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.na
How To Make Your New Years Resolutions Stick?
If you are feeling stuck in dating, altering habits can significantly increase satisfaction and confidence. However habits can be very hard to form. How can people change a behaviour or reframe their thinking in a way that lasts long term? This episode explores key tools to build new habits, including positive reinforcement, looking for skill deficits, expecting failures, and building from small
Changing Thoughts To Change Your Dating Experience
This episode looks at ways to reduce unnecessary suffering in dating caused by thinking. It explores the difference between a neutral dating circumstance and the automatic judgments and criticisms that can alter the way you view and feel about a situation. *** ONLINE DATING COACHING PROGRAM Feb 2025***For more information or to register visit:https://www.nadineneukirch.comFREE Guide on Top 3 Minds
Finding Love After A Breakup And Getting Back Together - Hazel's Story
In this Episode Nadine's cousin Hazel shares the challenges and highs in her long term relationship with her now fiancé. Topics include; dating a man who is shorter, from friends to romantic, breakdown of a relationship and cheating, dating someone narcissistic, self-love and personal growth, rebuilding trust, being 'all in' and tips to help a long term relationship thrive. FREE Gui
Conversation With Georgia Grace - Certified Sex And Relationship Practitioner And Somatic Therapist
This episode is an interview with Georgia Grace, who is a Certified Sex and Relationship Practitioner And Somatic Therapist. Georgia shares expertise from her area, including:- What is Somatic therapy and Sexology- What is covered in Georgia's new book- Tools to communicate during sex, saying no and making requests- Common barriers to communication- Consent, trauma, and sexInformation on Geor
Menstrual Cycle, Hormones, and Dating
What are the impacts of the hormones Oestrogen and Progesterone which occur in different phases of the menstrual cycle? How can these impact your dating experience?In this episode:- Consider impacts of different physiological states and hormones and how you can become aware of them to enhance your dating experiencesFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a
Fast Acting Skills To Tolerate Distress: DBT TIPP Skills Including Practice of Paced Breathing & Progressive Muscle Relaxation
In this episode learn about the DBT distress tolerance skills that are fast acting to help manage distress. TIPP is an acronym for the skills of (extreme) Temperature, Intense Exercise, Paced Breathing, & Progressive Muscle Relaxation. Learn about the science behind these skills and how to practise in this episode. If you would like to skip ahead to the practice of Paced Breathing, & Progr
Can I Change The Person I Am Dating?
Can people change? And if so which aspects of personality, characteristics, circumstances can change?This episode covers:- Stages of change based on Motivational Interviewing therapy- Questions to ask yourself about someone changing- How to shift the focus to what you can change to build greater agency in your circumstances FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.c
Processing Past Memories To Improve Your Current Dating Experiences: What Is EMDR Therapy?
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Therapy) is an established therapy with a strong evidence base. This therapy can help people to process past traumatic/distressing memories and move forwards with their lives. In this episode:- Learn about EMDR therapy and how this could help your dating experiencesFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topi
When To Stop Looking & 'Settle' With Someone
This episode explores two key concepts in dating: - The importance of mindset in dating, and the difference between scarcity and abundance mindset- Two key factors to help you identify when to stop looking and invest in the current relationship you have foundFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast?
Signs Someone You Are Dating Is Narcissistic
Do you experience chronic anxiety with the person you are dating? Feel like you are walking on eggshells or are 'not good enough'? These can be symptoms of dating someone with Narcissism. This episode outlines common signs the person you are dating has narcissism, what to look out for in their behaviour and how you feel.FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneuk
Healing Inner Child: A Guided Meditation For Triggered Emotions
This guided meditation uses a 'parts work' therapy approach. Explore triggered emotions and the child/young part these feelings may be related to. Steps to soothe these parts. This episode may be helpful in conjunction with episode 57, 'Am I Triggered Or Is This A 'Red Flag'.FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topi
I Have What I Want In Dating But I'm Anxious/Stressed/Low Mood, Why Is This?
Have you dreamed of obtaining a goal in dating/relationships, reached this goal, and then had unexpected difficult emotions like anxiety or stress? This episode explores common fears and challenges people experience when they obtain a dating goal and helpful reframes for the stress or anxiety. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you&
How Often Should I See Someone I'm Dating?
How often should you see someone you are dating? This is a common question asked by people who see Nadine for coaching or psychology sessions. Once a week? More or less? Will I scare them away?In this episode:- Discussion on what can happen if you see someone too much or too little in dating- Circumstances you may want to see someone more or less- Learn about 'A' and 'H' frame
Date Ideas: What Activity To Do On Your Next Date?
This podcast will go through an extensive list of date activity ideas, whether they are active, at home, entertainment, getaways and more. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Datin
When & How To Clarify Labels In Dating: e.g. become exclusive or keep it casual
How do you know when to ask someone to date you exclusively? When is the right timing? What do you say? What types of labels can you ask for? How do you know when to tell someone you want casual?This episode covers everything you need to know about labelling when dating.FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on t
How To Do A Video Date
Do you want to meet more people for dates and reduce dating burnout? Video dates are a quick and efficient way to initially connect with people from dating apps. In this episode you will learn step by step how to conduct a video date: rationale, how to ask someone on a video date, how to end a video date, common pitfalls.FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comH
When To Take A Break From Dating & What To Do In That Break
Dating can become ineffective if you are experiencing dating burnout, a major life stressor, or a major blocker such as heartache. In this episode:- Learn about signs and symptoms to take a break from dating- Tips what to do on your dating break- How to know when to start dating againFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd lik
Navigating 9 Years Of A Long Distance Relationship - Interview With Jasmine
How to make a long distance relationship work? In this episode Jasmine shares her experience of navigating a 9 year long relationship between Australia and the UK. She shares key challenges and tips to help a long distance relationship thrive. Topics include; how to build trust, how to stay connected, the importance of personal development, and forming goals with your partner. FREE Guide on Top 3
Am I Triggered Or Is This A 'Red Flag'?
When you experience extreme emotions in dating it can be hard to know if this is a trigger from your past experiences, or if this is a 'red flag' for the relationship you are in. In this episode:- Learn about differences between past triggers and 'red flags'- Skills to self-regulate and communicate your needsFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukir
Build Resilience In Dating: Savouring Pleasant Events
Resilience in dating helps you bounce back from difficult experiences, be able to access balanced thinking, and more easily regulate emotions. This episode looks at the strategy 'savouring pleasant events' to build up a bank of positive experiences in your life and increase resilience along your dating journey. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comH
Managing Jealousy - Insights From Ruby
Jealousy is a common emotion experienced in dating and relationships which many find challenging. In this episode my friend Ruby shares her experience with jealousy, including her journey with non-monogamous relationships. She shares key strategies to embrace jealousy as a useful tool. Topics include: effective communication, managing uncertainty and anxiety, self-soothing, role of hormones, and s
Balance Your Thinking: Take That Person Off The Pedestal
It can be common in dating for our brain's to have biased thinking; either putting someone on a pedestal and not seeing the early 'red flags', or discounting someone who could have great potential. In this episode:- Learn a quick and simple technique to balance your thinking in datingFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic
Create Your Dating Experience
It is common to find dating difficult, however it is less common for people to know exactly what they would like to be different in their dating experience (besides meeting their 'perfect' person!). In this episode learn strategies to create an enjoyable dating experience rather than passively waiting for things to change.FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadinene
Mind Reading & Dating
It is common for people to 'mind read' in dating. That is, assume what others are thinking and take this as fact. This unhelpful thinking pattern can hinder your dating experience, leading to increased judgements of others, misunderstandings, and missed opportunities. In this episode:- Learn about dating situations where 'mind reading' can occur- Learn 3 steps to reduce the imp
Pre-Date Meditation: Managing Fear Of Feelings
Do you experience difficult feelings before a date? Anxiety, Anger, Hopelessness, Confusion?In this episode:- Rationale for practising equanimity to emotions- Pre-date meditation to get used to feelings related to worst-case and best-case of going on your next dateFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this po
How To End A Date
A common challenge in dating is how to end a date. Maybe you're too worried about hurting the other person's feelings, or maybe you like the person so much you don't want it to end, but the date drags on and ultimately this can lead to dating burnout. In this episode:- Learn about common challenges in ending dates- Tips what to say to end a date- Tips on how to set up a shorter date
How To Solve Problems In Dating
Numerous issues and problems can arise in dating. For example; how to have a difficult conversation, where do I go for the next date, how do I manage my anxiety in dating, how do I get more dates?Problem solving is a skill which can be learnt and refined. In this episode:- Learn about the Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) skill called 'Problem Solving', to help you achieve your dating
Reduce Dating Burnout: Impacts of Masking
Dating burnout can include feeling fatigued, hopeless and anxious. In this episode the impact of masking behaviours is explored as a key contributor to burnout. Masking involves concealing true emotions, thoughts, behaviours to conform to social pressures or a perceived ideal. Learn steps to shift masking behaviours in order to attract people who do not judge your true self. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mi
3 Lessons For Dating From A Yoga Teacher Training
Nadine completed a one month intensive yoga teacher training in India 2015. This episode explored 3 key lessons from the experience and how this can relate to improving dating outcomes. Themes covered in this episode:- comparisons- expectations and mindset- impact of environmentFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dat
How To Stay Focused On Your Dating Goal: Goal Setting
Forming clear goals in dating helps you stay focused on what is important to you. Goal setting can increase the time and effort you spend in building skills and strategies to overcome dating hurdles. In this episode:- Learn about SMART goals and the benefitsHave a dating question or topic you'd like to hear about on this podcast? Send Nadine a message via the contacts page on her website:http
Managing Loneliness
Loneliness is a universal human emotion that can commonly occur in dating. In this episode:- Learn about the definition and function of loneliness- Strategies to help manage feelings of loneliness and increase feelings of connectionFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast.If you found this episode helpful,
How To Heal From A Breakup
Feeling heartbroken? Lonely, sad, angry, numb. Breakups can bring up intense overwhelming emotions and rumination.In this episode:- Learn about actions that can exacerbate heartbreak- Learn about strategies to healthily process breakup emotions and thoughtsFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast.If you fou
What To Do If They Haven't Replied To Your Message
Have you suddenly been ghosted by someone, left waiting for a reply to a message, unsure if you should contact them or wait? Not knowing how to respond when someone pulls away can create intense anxiety, anger, or other uncomfortable emotions.In this episode:- Learn key tips to decide when and if you should contact someone if you're waiting on a message- Understand how to clarify your needs,
How To Enjoy Use Of The Dating Apps
Have you felt disheartened/overwhelmed with use of dating apps? It can be common for people to feel burnout with the apps and want to quit using them altogether. This however limits opportunities to meet people and reach your ultimate dating goal.In this episode:- Listen to common challenges with dating apps- Learn about factors within your control to shift your dating experience on the apps which
Confidence In Your Dating Decisions- Dan's Coaching Experience
This episode features special guest Dan, a former client who shares his key transformations and learnings from 9 months of coaching. In this episode Dan shares insights into:- Expectations and realities of coaching - Power of tuning into your emotions in dating- Benefits of slowing down dating decisions- Managing the fear of rejecting othersFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www
How To Take The Pressure Off Yourself In Dating- Factors Within & Outside Of Your Control
Do you feel a sense of pressure in dating? Feeling disheartened, worried you are 'failing' or 'not getting it right'? Building skills and focusing on what you are doing in dating is highly beneficial, however, it is also important to acknowledge factors outside of your control.In this episode:- Learn about benefits and downsides of perfectionism- Learn about factors within your
Top Dating Coaching Advice- Interview With Dating Coach Amber Grubenmann
This episode features special guest Amber Grubemann. Amber is a confidence and dating coach for women across the globe, helping people move from casual to exclusive relationships. In this episode:- Amber and Nadine share how they know each other, from personal coaching, to business coaching, to friends- Amber shares her top tools to help people in dating & Nadine shares hers. Including the &ap
How to Meet People in Person
Do you have a desire to meet someone in person? Feeling tired of the dating apps? Unsure where to start and how to approach someone?In this episode:- Learn about key places and events where you can meet people- Learn skills in starting conversation & reframing rejection when you ask someone outFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to T
Don't Dismiss the 'Nice but Boring' Person
Have you had a pattern of knowing someone who is nice, consistent, kind....yet you find the connection boring, no spark, just don't feel it? Yet the people you are highly attracted to end up being avoidant, hot/cold, love bomb, and don't work out.In this episode:- Consider how to best decide if it would be helpful to keep dating the 'nice' person, or end the connection- 4 tips
Self-Blame vs Blame of Others
Some people can have a default setting of going into self-blame when faced with a difficult dating situation, and others can have a reflex to automatically blaming others. These extreme ways of thinking and interpreting situations can increase difficult feelings and reduce ability for change.In this episode:- explore the impacts of self-blame- explore the impacts of blaming others- consider ways t
How to Validate Yourself & Others
Validation is a key skill to strengthen relationships, reduce conflict, and help build a sense of self.In this episode:- definition of validation and self-validation- links between validation and dating- steps to validate yourself and othersEist, H. I. (2015). DBT Skills Training Manual, Marsha M. Linehan (2015) New York: The Guilford Press. 504 pp.: DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets: Ma
Sense of Self & Dating
A limited sense of self can lead to increased relationship challenges and a feeling of being directionless. A limited sense of self can also lead to increased anxiety in dating, difficulties making decisions, and high reliance on external validation. In this episode:- learn key components of what makes up a sense of self- learn about impacts of a limited sense of self for dating- origins of limite
Gratitude: Benefits & Practice
It is common for the human brain to have a negativity bias, focusing on worries, worst case scenarios, and general negative thoughts. This negativity bias can also be experienced in dating. Gratitude is one practice which may increase appreciation for life and help the mind access alternate thoughts.In this episode:- Learn about studies on gratitude practice and the effects- Guided meditation on g
Embracing Differences
It is common for the people we date to have differences, in values, hobbies, routines, interests. How can you know whether this is a dealbreaker or if it can benefit the relationship?In this episode:- Learn about challenges with automatically ruling out a relationship if there are differences- Explore strategies to identify if the differences are workable or a dealbreaker- Learn strategies to get
6 Common Mistakes Using Dating Apps
Dating apps are a large part of the dating experience in the modern day. While the apps can be useful ways to connect and meet new people, there are common mistakes people make when using them which can lead to dating burnout.In this episode:- Learn about 6 common mistakes people make when using the apps- Learn about techniques to increase effectiveness of the apps to connect and go on datesFREE
5 Senses Grounding: A Strategy For Anxiety or Stress
Our minds can often be thinking about the past or future, looping in rumination or worry thoughts, which increases emotional distress. 5 Senses Grounding is a psychology strategy to help anchor the mind to the present moment, and can be used to manage anxiety or stress in dating. In this episode:- Listen to a guided mindfulness meditation on 5 senses grounding exerciseWrite to Nadine (Clinical Psy
Unhelpful Thinking Styles
There are 10 types of unhelpful thinking styles from Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), these can frequently come up in dating. This limits perspectives in situations, creates biased thinking, and can create increased emotional distress or unhelpful behaviours. In this episode:- Learn about the 10 unhelpful thinking styles from CBT- Hear examples from the thinking traps and how they relate to dati
'Good Enough' Partner- Understanding The Traps Of Perfectionism
In dating people can pursue perfectionism, for themselves and others, in the pursuit of their ideal relationship. Perfectionism however can have adverse consequences, including increased guilt, feeling inadequate, doubt, and stress. In this episode:- Learn about the costs of perfectionism and benefits of 'good enough partner'- Steps to cultivate being a 'good enough' partner an
How To Motivate Yourself In Dating
Dating and finding the relationship you desire is a journey, we don't how long it will take, and it is most helpful to be consistent and motivated. Motivation can help people overcome barriers and challenges in dating, and improve the dating experience. In this episode:- Learn about 3 motivation states-Learn how to use rewards and self-care to improve motivationFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shi
Polyvagal Theory
Polyvagal Theory is a way to help understand the states of your nervous system, and it's automatic survival functions and physiological responses. In dating you may experience moments of joy, fear, anger, or hopelessness and low mood. Polyvagal theory may help you understand how to identify and shift your nervous system states and emotions, to feel more calm and connected in your dating exper
Cope Ahead Planning
Dating situations can commonly bring up anxiety, stress, or apprehension. Worry about the situation can be a common automatic coping strategy, however not the most effective. In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) there is a skill called 'Cope Ahead Planning' which can help the mind switch from worry to problem solving. In this episode:- Learn about the impacts of worry and anxiety- Lear
Opposite Action To Emotions
Every emotion we experience has an action urge. For example, when feeling afraid the urge is the avoid or run away, when feeling excited the urge is to approach a situation. Sometimes these urges are not effective to act upon, when the emotion (or intensity of the emotion) does not match the situation, or acting on the urge does not help with your long term goals. In this episode:- Learn about em
Managing Rumination
Painful or uncomfortable dating situations can trigger rumination, repetitive negative thoughts. Rumination can increase anxiety, depression, and stress. In this episode:- Learn about the function of rumination- Learn skills to manage ruminationFor more information on coaching or psychology sessions:https://www.nadineneukirch.comGet your FREE guide: Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadin
'GIVE Skill' How To Keep & Maintain Healthy Relationships
How to show care, interest, and kindness to those you are dating? In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) the 'GIVE skill' helps people focus on keeping or maintaining healthy relationships. In this episode:- Learn about the DBT 'GIVE skill', be gentle, act interested, validate, and easy manner- Apply this GIVE skill to your dating situationsEist, H. I. (2015). DBT Skills Traini
Embrace Pain & Follow Your Dreams
In dating it is natural to encounter uncomfortable thoughts and feelings- anxiety, low mood, burnout, fear of rejection, fear of putting effort in and it not working out. In Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) there is a skill called the 'Choice Point', the choice to make decisions based on trying to avoid pain (which ultimately doesn't work), or make decisions based on your val
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