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The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations

The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations

DeborahKat 99 Episodes Sep 17, 2026

Hosted by Tantra teacher and professional Dominatrix Deborah Kat, this podcast features interviews with experts on sex, intimacy, and relationships. Each conversation shares guests' insights, cautions, and encouragement. The show aims to help listeners build the better sex life they want.

Episodes

How to Date Without Abandoning Yourself with Shana James
How to Date Without Abandoning Yourself with Shana James Sep 17, 2026 01:14:14 In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with relationship coach and author Shana James, creator of Honest Dating and author of Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deeper Connection and Keeping Relationships Alive. Together we explore how honesty can change the way we date, create chemistry, and build relationships where we can be fully ourselves.   Throughout the conversation, Shana s
Reclaiming Pleasure After Sexual Trauma with Annette Benedetti
Reclaiming Pleasure After Sexual Trauma with Annette Benedetti Aug 15, 2026 01:05:46 In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sex educator, intimacy coach, podcaster, and sexual assault survivor Annette Benedetti about something we don't talk about nearly enough: what pleasure and sexuality can look like after sexual trauma. Together, we explore the stories we're told about how survivors are "supposed" to feel about sex, and what becomes possible when we stop putti
Ask for What You Want: Assertiveness and Better Sex with Dr. Michael Pariser
Ask for What You Want: Assertiveness and Better Sex with Dr. Michael Pariser Jul 31, 2026 01:06:56   In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with mental health coach, psychologist, and psychoanalyst Dr. Michael Pariser about assertiveness, intimacy, and why asking for what you want can feel so vulnerable. During our conversation, Michael shares how his own experience with "nice guy syndrome" led him into the work of helping people get more honest about what they feel, what they lik
From Good Girl to Pleasure-Lit Woman with PleasureLit Patricia
From Good Girl to Pleasure-Lit Woman with PleasureLit Patricia Jul 16, 2026 55:02 In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with PleasureLit founder, bestselling author of The PleasureLit Way, host of PleasureLit with Patricia, and award-winning pleasure educator PleasureLit Patricia. Together we explore what happens when women stop performing, people-pleasing, and managing everyone else's needs and begin reconnecting with the pleasure that lives in their body. P
New Episode: What Men Should Know About Women: Insights From A Male Escort with George Goulburn
New Episode: What Men Should Know About Women: Insights From A Male Escort with George Goulburn Jul 3, 2026 57:05 In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with George Goulburn, a professional companion for women, about what he has learned from moving out of the boardroom and into the bedroom. George brings a thoughtful and grounded perspective on intimacy, attention, consent, safety, and what many women are longing for, so that you can better understand how slowing down, listening, and receiving a n
How to Stop Losing Yourself in Love and Sex with Lorina Manzanita
How to Stop Losing Yourself in Love and Sex with Lorina Manzanita Jun 12, 2026 33:14 In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with somatic intimacy coach and trauma resolution practitioner Lorina Manzanita. We talk about the hidden cost of always attuning to someone else, and how learning to receive nourishment can open the door to more pleasurable, connected sex and relationships. Lorina shares how her work grew out of her own experience of growing up highly attuned
Beyond Technique: The Art of Loving Dominance with Master Hines
Beyond Technique: The Art of Loving Dominance with Master Hines May 29, 2026 50:51 In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with longtime BDSM educator, mentor, and professional dominant Master Hines. We explore what power exchange can teach us about desire, trust, presence, and the kind of connection that makes sex and relationships feel more alive.   Master Hines shares how he first found his way into BDSM through a desire to become a better lover, and how mentor
Where Your Desire Went and How to Get It Back with Julie Merriman
Where Your Desire Went and How to Get It Back with Julie Merriman May 14, 2026 45:40 In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sex counselor, educator, and author Julie Merriman. We explore what happens to desire when you have spent years taking care of everyone else while your own body, pleasure, and sense of aliveness slowly fade into the background. Julie shares how her work grew out of decades of supporting women through burnout, along with her own experience
What It Means To Be A Man Right Now with Geoff Laughton
What It Means To Be A Man Right Now with Geoff Laughton Apr 17, 2026 01:03:56   In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Men's Coach and Co-Founder of The Undaunted Man, Geoff Laughton. We explore what's really happening for men right now when it comes to desire, identity, and connection, and why so many relationships can look fine on the outside while feeling disconnected underneath. Along the way, we spoke about how Geoff's own journey through burnout, lo
Marriage, Motherhood, and the Myths We Inherit
Marriage, Motherhood, and the Myths We Inherit Apr 10, 2026 01:00:01 In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with intimacy and relationship coach Marga Bardinski. Together, we explore how relationships evolve over time, how identity shifts through major life transitions like marriage and parenthood, and what it really means to create intimacy on your own terms. Throughout the conversation, Marga shares her journey into motherhood and how it challenge
Why Receiving Pleasure Feels So Hard (And How to Change It) with Darshana Avila
Why Receiving Pleasure Feels So Hard (And How to Change It) with Darshana Avila Mar 18, 2026 47:43 In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with trauma-informed somatic educator, practitioner, and speaker Darshana Avila. We explore why receiving pleasure can feel so hard—and what begins to shift when you learn how to come back into your body and your truth. Along the way, we spoke about how her early experiences in marriage, spirituality, and sexuality led her to question the disco
Sex After Menopause: Why Midlife Couples Struggle with Mark Platten
Sex After Menopause: Why Midlife Couples Struggle with Mark Platten Mar 10, 2026 50:45 In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with men's work leader and founder of the Integral Man Institute Mark Platten. Mark shares how his decades of work guiding men through rites of passage—and his lived experience walking alongside his wife through menopause—led him to focus on the often-overlooked transition midlife couples face when bodies, identities, and sexual dynamics begin to

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