Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast
Do You Feel That? is a weekly podcast hosted by married couple Scott and Brittney that explores intimacy, sex, and connection in long-term relationships. Each episode combines honest personal stories with practical tools for improving communication, understanding desire differences, and building emotional safety. Topics include marriage, sexual communication, erotic exploration, reigniting passion after kids, confidence in the bedroom, and sex toys. The show aims to help couples feel closer, improve their sex lives, and grow together through intentional intimacy.
Episodes
What He Actually Wants in Bed
Last week Brittney told Scott and every man listening what women actually want in bed. This week the tables turn.In Episode 51, Scott tells Brittney and every woman listening what men actually want in bed. Not the cultural mythology. Not the locker room script. What the research consistently identifies across thousands of men and what Scott personally confirms.The findings will surprise m
What She Actually Wants in Bed
In this episode, Brittney tells Scott and by extension every man listening — what women actually want in bed. Not what culture says. Not what porn shows. What the research consistently identifies across tens of thousands of women, delivered in Brittney's honest voice and confirmed by her personal experience.Seven things. Each one specific, practical, and backed by research. From feeling g
How to Have Sex for Hours
Scott has completed Ironman triathlons. He has a Master's degree in Performance Psychology. He's spent years coaching hockey players to stop focusing on outcomes and stay locked into process and plan.And he thinks most couples approach sex exactly the way a beginner approaches their first race: get to the finish line as efficiently as possible.In Episode 49, Scott and Brittney take on the
7 Things Worth Trying In Your Bedroom Tonight
No frameworks. No deep emotional excavation. Just seven things genuinely worth adding to your intimate life — and one shameless plug at the end.In Episode 48, Scott and Brittney each own specific items on a curated list of physical, sensory, and psychological additions to the bedroom that most couples have never tried and at least one that's going to make you wonder why nobody told you ab
The Fantasy You've Never Told Your Partner — And What It's Actually Trying to Say
Your fantasies are not random. They are not guilty secrets. They are not confessions.They are coded language — your mind's most creative attempt to give you access to the emotional experiences you've been reaching for your whole life.In Episode 47, Scott and Brittney draw on the work of Esther Perel — psychotherapist, bestselling author, and one of the most original voices on desire alive
Watch Me — The Most Intimate Thing Most Couples Have Never Tried
Scott wants to try mutual masturbation. Brittney is hesitant. Neither of them has done it yet and rather than pretend otherwise, they decided to make that honesty the episode.In Episode 46, Scott and Brittney tackle one of the most commonly cited intimate experiences couples are curious about and one of the least acted upon. Scott represents the eager partner — genuinely excited by what t
What Turns You On — And Why Your Partner Has No Idea
Most couples have been together for years and their partner still doesn't know exactly what turns them on. Not because they don't care. Because nobody ever gave either of them the language for it.In Episode 45, Scott and Brittney introduce the Sexual Self-Portrait — a User Manual for how you're actually wired. They each walk through their own completed portrait live, across nine essential
The Intimacy Playlist — Music, Mood, and What's Actually Playing in Our Bedroom
What's actually playing in the bedroom? Today Scott and Brittney answer that completely.In Episode 44, they share the full evolution of their intimacy music journey: from the early classics like Norah Jones, John Legend, Lana Del Rey, and 90s R&B, all the way to the four highly specific playlists they use today — each one designed for a different mood, a different kind of encounter, a
Dirty Talk 101 — Why It Works, What to Say, and How to Start Without Feeling Ridiculous
Most couples want to try dirty talk. Most couples never do because they don't know where to start and they're terrified of feeling ridiculous.In Episode 43, Scott and Brittney fix that. This is Dirty Talk 101: the psychology of why it works, the four styles and what each one sounds like, a practical step-by-step progression from complete beginner to genuinely confident, and the honest con
The Intimacy Reset — A 7-Day Plan for Couples Who Feel Stuck
Scott and Brittney are in a rut. Work, kids, life — all of it has been filling the space where intimacy used to live. And they're naming it publicly because they know they're not alone.In Episode 42, they share a 7-Day Intimacy Reset — a gentle, progressive plan for couples who feel stuck. Not a dare game. Not a challenge. A reset that starts exactly where you are and builds from there, o
The Couples Dare Game — 10 Dares to Do This Week
This week we're giving you homework. The good kind.In Episode 41, Scott and Brittney introduce the Couples Dare Game — ten dares designed to be completed over the course of one week, escalating from easy and playful all the way to genuinely bold. One dare per day. Both partners playing. No skipping.From an unprompted appreciation ambush and a no-phone evening, to a question you've never a
8 Things That Accidentally Kill the Mood And How to Recover Like a Pro
Real life doesn't pause for intimacy. The phone goes off. The wrong song comes on. Someone says something accidentally hilarious. The body decides right now is the moment. The kid knocks.In Episode 40, Scott and Brittney get real and genuinely funny about the moments that accidentally kill the mood, share their own most memorable experiences, and turn all of it into a practical recovery g
Our 12 Favorite Things — The Products We Actually Use and Why We Love Them
Looking for the best sex toys for couples? Wondering what intimacy products are actually worth buying and which ones collect dust in a drawer? In this episode, Scott and Brittney share their 12 favorite couples intimacy products: the sex toys, personal lubricants, and bedroom accessories they personally use and genuinely recommend.No sponsors. No affiliate deals. No gifted products. Just
Lube: The Beginner's Guide to the Most Underrated Tool in Your Intimacy Toolkit
It's in a lot of couples' nightstands. Almost nobody talks about it honestly. Today we fix that.In Episode 38, Scott and Brittney break down everything couples need to know about personal lubricant — the most underrated, under-discussed tool in intimacy. Not as a solution to a problem, but as an enhancement to an already good thing.They cover all four main types: water-based, silicone-bas
Why Most People Are Bad in Bed And Don't Know It
Most people rate themselves as above average in bed. Statistically, that's impossible. And the gap between how people assess their own performance and what their partner is actually experiencing is where most sexual dissatisfaction quietly lives.In Episode 37, Scott and Brittney go somewhere most podcasts won't: the specific, research-backed patterns that make people consistently disappoi
The 90-Day Relationship State of the Union — A Check-In Every Couple Should Be Doing
Most couples have annual physicals, quarterly financial reviews, and performance check-ins at work. Their relationship — the most important thing in their lives — gets evaluated only when something breaks.In Episode 36, Scott and Brittney introduce the Relationship State of the Union: a structured 90-day check-in that gives couples a dedicated, intentional space to assess where they are b
Hot Takes — Our Most Unpopular Opinions About Sex and Relationships
No frameworks. No research drops. No homework. Just opinions — and our most unpopular ones.In Episode 35, Scott and Brittney bring five genuine hot takes about sex and relationships that go against conventional wisdom, popular advice, and what most people want to hear. Then they defend every single one.Scheduled sex is better than spontaneous sex. Most couples don't need more communicatio
The Three Dimensions of Sex — Which One Are You Actually Craving?
When couples say they want better sex, they're usually wanting three completely different things — and most of the time they don't realize they're in different conversations.In Episode 34, Scott and Brittney introduce one of the most practically useful frameworks in intimacy: the Three Dimensions of Sex. Partner sex — the intimacy dimension, craving genuine connection with a specific know
Attachment Styles — And What They're Doing to Your Sex Life
Why do you feel anxious after really good sex? Why does your partner pull away right when things get close? Why does a dry spell feel like evidence that the relationship is falling apart — even when you know logically that it isn't?The answer is almost always attachment.In Episode 33, Scott and Brittney complete their personality framework trilogy — Love Languages, Enneagram, and now atta
Your Enneagram Type in Bed — What Each Number Actually Needs
You know your Enneagram number. But do you know what it's been quietly telling you about what you need in bed?Following the success of last week's Love Languages episode, Scott and Brittney go deeper with the framework that actually explains why you want what you want — not just what you want. The Enneagram goes beyond behavior into motivation, which makes it uniquely revealing when appli
The 5 Love Languages — But Make It Spicy
You know your love language. But do you know what it looks like in bed?In Episode 31, Scott and Brittney take Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages — one of the most widely recognized relationship frameworks in the world — and translate each one specifically into what it looks like during intimacy. Not in general. In the bedroom.Because there's a massive gap between knowing your love languag
Would You Rather — The Couples Intimacy Edition
No research drops. No homework. Just a game — and a surprisingly revealing one.In Episode 30, Scott and Brittney play Would You Rather: Couples Intimacy Edition. Fifteen questions, real-time answers, zero prep — and more than a few moments where one of them surprises the other.Would you rather have amazing sex once a month or good sex three times a week? Would you rather know every fantas
The Female Orgasm — What Most Men Still Don't Understand
The orgasm gap is one of the most documented — and least honestly discussed — realities in sexual research. In heterosexual sex, men orgasm 95% of the time. Women? 65%. And that gap isn't a body problem. It's an information and attention problem.In Episode 29, Scott and Brittney tackle the female orgasm head-on — covering the anatomy most couples were never taught, the research on what ac
The Intimacy Bucket List — 10 Sexual Experiences Every Couple Should Try
We made our actual Intimacy Bucket List. Then we told you which ones we've done.In Episode 28, Scott and Brittney get personal with 10 sexual experiences every couple should try at least once — and instead of keeping it theoretical, they share exactly where each item lands for them personally. Done it? Haven't gotten there yet? One of them more into it than the other? You're getting the r
10 Intimacy Myths We Believed (And Had to Unlearn)
Where did you learn about sex and intimacy? Movies? Church? A locker room? A well-meaning friend who was just as clueless as you?Most of us absorbed our earliest beliefs about intimacy from sources that were wrong, incomplete, or actively harmful — and we've been quietly running on those beliefs ever since.In Episode 27, Scott and Brittney get personal and a little vulnerable as they walk
Anal Sex for Beginners — What Nobody Tells You But Everyone Wants to Know
One of the most searched, least honestly discussed topics in couples' intimacy — and we're going there.In this episode, Scott and Brittney tackle anal sex for beginners: the real statistics, the anatomy you actually need to understand, a practical step-by-step guide for couples who want to explore it safely, and the emotional conversation that most how-to guides skip entirely.Whether you'
The Intimacy Audit — How Connected Are You Really?
How connected are you — really?Not how connected you used to be. Not how connected you intend to be. Right now, today — how well do you actually know what your partner is carrying, what they need, and how satisfied they are?In Episode 25, Scott and Brittney do something a little different: they walk through a 7-question Intimacy Audit live — answering each question honestly, reacting to e
The 10-Minute Intimacy Reset — Small Rituals That Keep Couples Close
You don't need a weekend retreat to feel close again. You need six seconds.In Episode 24, Scott and Brittney break down the research-backed micro-rituals that keep connected couples close — and that disconnected couples have quietly stopped doing. These aren't elaborate date nights or weekend getaways. They're small, repeatable practices that take ten minutes or less, and the science behi
What Do You Actually Want to Feel? The Power of Core Desires
What if the reason your sex life feels stuck has nothing to do with what you're doing — and everything to do with what you're feeling?In Episode 23, Scott and Brittney introduce one of the most powerful frameworks in intimacy: Core Desires. These are the emotional experiences you're actually craving during sex and closeness — and most people have never once named them out loud.They walk t
Does Size Really Matter? Facts, Feelings & the Real Conversation Couples Aren't Having
It's one of the most Googled questions in the history of relationships — and one of the least talked about honestly. In this episode, Scott and Brittney tackle the penis size conversation head-on, cutting through cultural myths, porn-fueled distortions, and the silent insecurities that quietly affect men and their partners every day.They break down what peer-reviewed research actually say
Top 10 Intimacy Mistakes Couples Make in Marriage (And How to Fix Them)
Most couples don’t struggle with intimacy because they don’t love each other — they struggle because they’re making common mistakes without realizing it.In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we break down the top 10 intimacy mistakes couples make in long-term relationships and marriage — and what to do instead.We talk about:Why waiting for spontaneous desire doesn’t workHow resentment qui
Our Top 3 Tips for Better Sex
If we had to narrow everything we’ve learned about intimacy down to just three things, this would be it.In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we share our top three foundations for better sex:Communication — understanding each other’s erotic style and emotional needsCuriosity — staying open, evolving, and willing to try new experiencesConfidence — the energy and presence that create true
What’s Coming Next in Coelle (New Categories + Sneak Peeks)
We’ve been building something new inside Coelle — and this week, we’re giving you a preview.In our next app update, we’re launching two brand-new categories: Warm-Ups and How-To (Instructional) Sessions— eight new guided audio experiences designed to make intimacy more accessible, flexible, and confidence-building.In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we share:Why we created these new cat
Scott’s Favorite Guided Audio Intimacy Experiences
In this episode of Do You Feel That?, Scott shares three of his favorite guided audio experiences from Coelle — the ones he personally returns to and why they work so well for him.We talk about:What each session creates emotionally and physicallyWhy certain styles of guidance support confidence and presenceHow guided audio removes pressure and decision-makingWhy different partners natural
Brittney’s Favorite Guided Audio Intimacy Experiences
Last week, we introduced guided audio intimacy — what it is and why it works so well for couples.This week, we’re taking it one step further.In this episode of Do You Feel That?, Brittney shares three of her favorite guided audio experiences from Coelle — the ones she returns to most and why they resonate so deeply with her.We talk about:What each experience creates emotionally and physic
What Is Guided Audio Intimacy? (And Why It Works So Well for Couples)
What if intimacy didn’t require figuring out what to do, what to say, or who should lead?In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we introduce guided audio intimacy — what it is, how it works, and why it’s been such a powerful tool for couples who want deeper connection without pressure or overthinking.We talk about:Why so many couples struggle to stay present during intimacyHow guidance red
Toggling: How to Move Between Safety and Desire Without Shutting Down
Have you ever wanted closeness… but the moment things turned sexual, your body pulled back?Or wanted desire… but suddenly felt overwhelmed, disconnected, or numb?In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we introduce the concept of toggling — the ability to move back and forth between safety and stimulation, comfort and edge, without shutting down or pushing through discomfort.Because great i
What Happens After Sex Matters More Than You Think
Most couples think intimacy is shaped by what happens before sex or during it.But research and experience tell a different story.In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we explore why what happens after sex plays a powerful role in emotional safety, bonding, and whether you’ll actually want intimacy again in the future.We talk about:Why the moments after sex are emotionally vulnerable (even
The Initiation Gap: Why One Person Always Initiates (And How to Fix It)
If you’ve ever noticed that one of you almost always initiates intimacy — while the other rarely does — you’re not alone.This dynamic is incredibly common in long-term relationships, and it’s far more about how desire works than how much someone wants their partner.In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we unpack the initiation gap — why it forms, why it hurts so deeply, and how couples ca
The Beginner’s Guide to Sex Toys for Couples
Curious about sex toys but not sure where to start — or how to bring it up without making things weird?You’re not alone. Most couples are interested in using toys together… they just don’t know how to talk about it.In this week’s episode of Do You Feel That?, we break down everything you need to know to explore toys in a way that feels fun, connected, and completely pressure-free.We cover
The Erotic Blueprints: Understanding Your Erotic Personality
Why do some things turn you on instantly… but do nothing for your partner?Why does one of you want slow, sensual connection while the other wants direct, intense, sexual energy?You’re not mismatched — you’re just speaking different erotic languages.In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we break down Jaiya’s 5 Erotic Blueprints — the Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter — an
How to Reignite Passion After Kids
Raising kids changes everything — your time, your energy, your body, your identity… and yes, your sex life.If passion feels harder, less frequent, or basically nonexistent after becoming parents, you’re not alone and nothing is wrong with you.In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we dive deep into why desire shifts so dramatically after kids and what you can actually do to rebuild intimac
Desire on Different Timelines: When You’re Not in the Mood at the Same Time
Mismatched desire is one of the most common (and misunderstood) challenges couples face.One partner is in the mood… the other isn’t.One wants connection… the other is overloaded.And suddenly intimacy feels complicated, emotional, or even tense.In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we explore what’s really happening when you and your partner want sex at different times and why it has nothi
The Energy Between Us: Understanding Masculine and Feminine Polarity
Every couple feels it — that magnetic spark that makes everything come alive. But what happens when the energy between you goes flat?In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we explore masculine and feminine polarity — the energetic dance that fuels attraction, connection, and chemistry. We break down what these energies really mean (beyond gender), why balance is essential, and how to reign
The Confidence Episode: Feeling Sexy in Your Own Skin
Feeling sexy has a lot less to do with how you look — and everything to do with how connected you feel to yourself.In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we dive into what real confidence looks like in the context of intimacy. From body image and aging to self-talk and the energy you bring into the bedroom, we explore how true sexiness starts from the inside out.We share personal stories a
Intimacy Beyond Sex: What It Means to Really Connect
Intimacy doesn’t begin and end in the bedroom — it’s built in the small moments of everyday life.In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we talk about what real intimacy looks like beyond sex: emotional, physical, intellectual, and spiritual connection. We share the ways we’ve learned to stay close even when we’re not being physical, and how those deeper layers of connection actually make t
The Foreplay Episode: It Starts Way Before the Bedroom
What if foreplay didn’t start five minutes before sex — but five hours before?In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we explore what foreplay really means and why it’s so much more than a quick warm-up. From small gestures and emotional connection to playful anticipation, we talk about how desire starts long before clothes come off.You’ll hear how we each experience foreplay differently, w
When You're Too Tired for Sex
You love your partner — but sometimes, you’re just tired.In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we talk about what really happens when life, work, and exhaustion get in the way of intimacy. From mental load and stress to the myth that desire should always come first, we unpack why being “too tired” isn’t a sign of disconnection — it’s an opportunity to redefine what intimacy looks like.We
How to Ask for What You Really Want (Without Killing the Mood)
We all want to be honest about what turns us on — but saying it out loud? That can feel tricky.In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we explore how to communicate your desires in ways that actually build connection instead of shutting it down. From side-by-side conversations (as Dr. Charlie Glickman recommends) to asking better questions inspired by the Libido Fairy, we share how small sh
Should Sex Be Scheduled or Spontaneous?
Is putting intimacy on the calendar the secret to keeping your connection alive — or the fastest way to kill the mood?In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we dive into one of the biggest debates in modern relationships: whether sex should be spontaneous or scheduled. We explore why spontaneity feels so exciting, why scheduling might actually increase satisfaction, and what the research r
Our First Time Trying Guided Intimacy
What happens when you invite a stranger’s voice into your bedroom? In our very first episode of Do You Feel That?, we share the story of pressing play on a guided intimacy session for the very first time.Was it sexy? Awkward? Surprisingly deep? Maybe all of the above. We talk about how it felt to set the scene, what surprised us during the experience, and the honest conversation that foll
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