Black Girls Heal
Black Girls Heal helps women break out of cycles of unhealthy relationships with unavailable partners and feeling not enough by combining coaching, therapeutic support, and practical tools. Every episode discusses intimacy, attachment, healing unresolved trauma, and growing in self-worth.
Episodes
#337: Summer Sabbatical Relationships for Self Love
What would change if you truly believed you were worthy of love, peace, and care?In this episode of the Black Girls Heal Podcast, I am inviting you into a deeper conversation about self-love, emotional healing, and reconnecting with the relationship you have with yourself.Through guided reflection, journaling prompts, and future-self visualization, you'll explore the beliefs, experiences, and
#336: Summer Sabbatical Homework for Relationships
In this episode, Shena shares a practical and compassionate roadmap for healing relationship patterns, reconnecting with yourself, and creating healthier experiences in love. Through reflective journaling prompts, grounding exercises, and emotional inventory work, she invites you to use the next 90 days as an opportunity to break unhealthy cycles, strengthen self-trust, and create space for the ki
#335: 3 Ways to Find Positivity in Times of Stress
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#334: Future Fakers, Secret Emotional Abusers, & Cheaters Do Not Deserve You
In this episode, Shena uses Megan Thee Stallion’s recent breakup to unpack critical relationship red flags, including cheating, emotional instability, and “future faking.” She reinforces that a partner’s betrayal is never your fault, and that patterns like mood swings, lack of accountability, and a history of dishonesty are warning signs that shouldn’t be overlooked. This episode serves as a power
#333: When You're Healing Alone
In this episode, Shena explores what it looks like to navigate your healing journey without the support system you wish you had. If you’re in a season where you’ve outgrown certain relationships but haven’t yet found your tribe, this conversation will meet you right where you are.This episode is a reminder that even if you’re healing alone, you’re not stuck but you’re creating space for the relati
#332: Why Your Feelings Need Structure
Your feelings are powerful but they aren’t always telling you the truth. In this episode, I explore why intense emotions can keep you stuck in unhealthy patterns and how giving your feelings structure can help you reclaim your power.Drawing from my work on the No Contact process, I broke down how emotional overwhelm, trauma bonds, and familiar patterns can make it difficult to walk away from relat
#331: 3 Strengths Gained by Taking Your Power Back in No Contact
In this episode, Shena discussed 3 powerful strengths you gain by taking your power back in no contact.Free No Contact Cheat Sheets: Click here to downloadResources mentioned in the episode:BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/methodThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapConnect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @bla
#330: Writing the No Contact Book (Behind the Scenes & More)
In this episode, Shena takes you behind the scenes on writing her latest book on her signature 90 Day No Contact healing process.Pre-Order the No Contact BookAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
#329: When You’re Too Busy to Find Love
In this episode, Shena shares a powerful live discussion on what it really means to pursue love when life feels overwhelmingly busy, especially if your schedule, past heartbreak, or emotional patterns are holding you back from meaningful connection. She breaks down the deeper reasons behind “being too busy” for love and offers three transformative mindset shifts - helping you prioritize your emoti
#328: Why your breakups hit differently (why they hurt so much more)
In this episode, I go over why your breakup pain hits differently than others, describe the process named "withdrawal," and what you can do about it.Join me in the BGH MethodGet our free 5 step roadmap to heal from love addictionAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
#327: 3 Tips to Cope With a Breakup
Breakups are painful.But when you struggle with love addiction, trauma bonding, or unresolved childhood wounds, breakups can feel devastating, consuming, and nearly impossible to move through.In this episode, I break down how to navigate heartbreak when your nervous system is deeply activated and your attachment patterns are involved.This conversation is about compassion and not criticism. Awarene
#326: Where am I in my love addiction journey? (5 stages of healing)
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#325: Can I be both a love addict and love avoidant?
Let's talk about how you can be both a love addict and love avoidant at the same time.Join me in the BGH Method to break the cycle of love addiction: Click here to joinAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
#324: how do I get my time back from this relationship
Listen to this if you feel you lost time in your previous relationshipJoin me in the BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/methodAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
#323: You're too pretty for him
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#322: How To Put Yourself First Pt 4
In this episode, Shena concludes her examination of how to put yourself first using the Loved Woman Checklist.Click here to download the checklistResources Mentioned:How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts by Shena LasheyThe BGH MethodPrivate Coaching OptionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
#321: How to Put Yourself First Pt 3
In this episode, Shena continues the How To Put Yourself First Series with the Loved Woman Checklist review, Part 3.Click here to download the checklistResources Mentioned:How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts by Shena LasheyThe BGH MethodPrivate Coaching OptionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
#320: How to Put Yourself First Pt. 2 - Building Roots
In this episode, I continue into the next set of the foundational steps of learning how to truly put yourself first without guilt, fear, or feeling like you’re letting others down.Resources mentioned:The Loved Woman Checklist: https://blackgirlsheal.org/checklistThe BGH Method: https://blackgirlsheal.org/methodConnect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirls
#319: How to Put Yourself First Pt. 1
In this episode, I dive into the foundational steps of learning how to truly put yourself first without guilt, fear, or feeling like you’re letting others down.Resources mentioned:The Loved Woman Checklist: https://blackgirlsheal.org/checklistThe BGH Method: https://blackgirlsheal.org/methodConnect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black
#318: Merry Christmas! Merry Chrysler!
A short Merry Christmas message of gratitude to all members of the BGH listening family!Join me at in the BGH Members Club: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/clubLearn the BGH Method in the New Year: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/methodAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
#317: Youngest Daughters & Childhood Emotional Neglect
In this episode, I review how childhood emotional neglect may show up for youngest daughters in childhood and how it manifests in adulthood.Resources mentioned:Heal the Ache of Childhood Emotional Neglect: https://blackgirlsheal.org/neglectEnter code HEAL20 for 20% offThe BGH Method: https://blackgirlsheal.org/methodAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redc
#316: Middle Daughters and Childhood Emotional Neglect
In this episode, I review how childhood emotional neglect may show up for middle daughters in childhood and how it manifests in adulthood.Resources mentioned:Heal the Ache of Childhood Emotional Neglect:http://blackgirlsheal.org/neglectEnter code HEAL20 for 20% offThe BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/methodAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redci
#315: Oldest Daughters and Childhood Emotional Neglect
In this episode, I review how childhood emotional neglect may show up for oldest daughters in childhood and how it manifests in adulthood.Resources mentioned:Heal the Ache of Childhood Emotional Neglect:http://blackgirlsheal.org/neglect Enter code HEAL20 for 20% offThe BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/methodAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://red
#314: You Don't Have to Be the Family Savior
For those who have felt they have given up much to take care of those in their family and it has become increasingingly overwhelming, this is for you.Click here to enroll in the BGH Method, our 90 day recovery accelator for love addicts and love avoidants to heal their relationships, unresolved trauma and improve their relationship with themselvesJoin the BGH Members Club to get access to workshee
#313: The 3 Best Partners for Love Avoidant Archetypes
In this episode, Shena explores the three archetypes of love avoidants. She unpacks their unique strengths, their fatal flaws, and what healthy love looks like for each type.If you’ve ever felt trapped in the same relationship patterns or struggled to understand why love feels so intense yet painful, this episode will help you see yourself with compassion — and give you language to begin your heal
#312: How Love Addicts Can Find Love (4 Ways for Each Archetype)
In this episode, Shena explores the four archetypes of love addicts. She unpacks their unique strengths, their fatal flaws, and what healthy love looks like for each type.If you’ve ever felt trapped in the same relationship patterns or struggled to understand why love feels so intense yet painful, this episode will help you see yourself with compassion — and give you language to begin your healing
#311: Finding Hope When Everything is Not Okay
In this episode, Shena talks about using hope as an act of resistance when everything is not okay around you.Click here to enroll in the BGH Method, our 90 day recovery accelator for love addicts and love avoidants to heal their relationships, unresolved trauma and improve their relationship with themselvesJoin the BGH Members Club to get access to worksheets, bonus lessons and more:Advertising In
310: 3 Ways to Keep Fostering Deep Love With Your Person
In this episode, Shena reviews 3 tips to help recovered love addicts and love avoidants foster deep love when you are with your person. The goal is to combat unhealthy patterns you may have brought into your loving relationship to keep the love and connection easy.Click here to enroll in the BGH Method, our 90 day recovery accelator for love addicts and love avoidants to heal their relationships,
#309: Why Stressed Women Stay and How to Make Them Leave
In this episode, I review what are the things that will make a woman who is in a relationship that is draining her finally leave and what are the things that may make her stay.Get this week's podcast episode worksheet in our BGH Members Club at http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/clubBreak this cycle and step out of this issue with the BGH Method, our 90 recovery program coming soon.CONNECT WITH US
#308: How to Know They Like You (And Why That's Important)
In this episode, Shena returns refreshed and ready to dive deep into an important and affirming topic: how to recognize when someone actually likes you—and why that clarity matters. She explains that while we often focus on red flags, it’s just as vital to know the green flags of emotional safety, care, and genuine interest. This episode is all about normalizing ease in love and helping women reco
#307: Consequences of Being With the Wrong Person (Thoughts from Love Island)
In this episode, Shena reflects on the consequences and how one's life can be affected if we are connected to those who give red flag behaviors and indicators that they may not be a good match for us emotionally, mentally, or physically (in regards ot safety).Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
#306: 7 Tips to Recover after a Friendship Breakup
This episode for anyone who is experiencing or has experienced a friendship breakup that has been hard to recover from. I hope these 7 tips help you move forward and find friendships that help you feel fulfilled and whole.Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapRea
#305: 4 Ways to Tell the Friendship May Be Temporary
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a topic that often brings up complex emotions - recognizing when friendships might be temporary. You know those relationships that feel so intense and meaningful in the moment, but somehow don't stand the test of time? Let's talk about why that happens and why it might actually be perfectly okay.Through sharing personal
#304: Starting A Healing Circle
In this episode, we break down how to start creating your own healing circles. Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced,
#303: How to Make Adult Female Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson
Why is it so difficult for some women to find and maintain healthy female friendships? Joining me today is Danielle Bayard Jackson, The Friendship Expert, to share more about this topic and to help provide actionable advice to get your friendships back on track, even if they’ve fallen off due to the pandemic. Danielle is a publicist by day and a certified friendship coach by night. She started her
#302: Dealing with Disappointment from Your Mom as an Adult
In this episode, I talk about managing disappointment from your relationship with your mother as an adult if you have experienced false starts towards intimacy or seen self sabotage on your mother's part.Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal you
#301: When Your Mom is Competitive With You
In this episode, Shena discusses how to cope when you have a mother who is competitive with you, the signs of the jealousy and competition, and potential sources of where it may come from.Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction &am
#300: How to Heal From Your Mother Wound?
Our mother relationship is our first relationship as we come into this world. As a result, if we have unresolved trauma, it will manifest in how we see ourselves, how we see others, and what we pass down to future generations.Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadma
#299: How to Stop Financial Codependency
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even to your own detriment. We explore its roots, how it manifests in various relationships, and the emotional toll it takes. You'll learn about practical steps to break free from this cycle, including a 90-day no-contact financial challenge to help re
#298: How to Feel Deserving
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how internalizing negative beliefs and trauma can lead to feeling undeserving, even when we outwardly affirm our worth. You'll learn practical steps to identify the emotional 'weeds' that choke your growth, including energy-drai
#297: Codependency & Boundaries
In this episode, Shena discusses healing from codependency to improve your self love and the questions you need to ask yourself to adjust your boundaries.Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recove
#296: Is it Compatibility or Codependency?
In this episode, Shena discusses how to tell if the connection that you're feeling in a relationship is codependency or compatibility.Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my si
#295: 3 Mistakes I made Dating as a Love Avoidant
When I was dating, I made a lot of mistakes related to how I presented in my intimacy disorders. This week, I'm talking about how my love avoidance showed up for me in my relationships. For me, my personal experience and how that connected to my religious education really amplified a lot of my avoidance which is also discussed. This episode will not span all of the ways love avoidance can show
#294: 3 Hidden Ways We Ignore (and Encourage) Red Flags in Others
In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet.Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program
#293: When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant
What does it look like to be available to others after you've been working on your love avoidance symptoms.In this episode, I share 3 tips for those who are starting this journey building relationships in a different way.Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
#292: Going from Being Love Avoidant to Love Available
In today's episode, we review going from Love Avoidant to Love Available using the Healed and Loved Woman framework model.Resources mentioned in the episode:Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/membersThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coac
#291: Don't Text Them (Sit on Your Hands)
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships. We discuss topics like recognizing toxic relationships, the importance of breaking the cycle for self-h
#290: Setting Unrealistic Fantasies as a Love Addict (Love Addiction Series)
Watch our free How to Stop Dating the Wrong People & Fix Your Internal Magnet masterclass: Click here registerReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackg
#289: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Leads to Love Addiction (Love Addiction Series)
In today's episode I talk about the impact of childhood emotional neglect and how it leads to the behaviours of love addictionWhether you are connected to love addition, love avoidance or low self esteem, if you are wondering why you continue in the same type of self doubts or keep being attracted to certain types of people, my hope is that this episode gives you the validation that you didn&#
#288: The 4 Archetypes of Love Addiction
Which love addict archetype do you identify with and how do you begin to heal from it?In this week’s episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m breaking down the four main archetypes of love addiction and why each of these patterns comes with its own unique set of challenges AND beautiful qualities. Whether you're constantly chasing “the one,” afraid to be alone, losing yourself in relationships, or liv
#287: How to Deal with Grief and Unexpectedly Losing a Loved One
How do you hold yourself through grief when it feels too heavy to carry?In this heartfelt episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m sharing my personal reflections and tools for navigating the emotional waves of grief, especially aftera sudden or unexpected loss. Whether it's the loss of a family member, a friend, a beloved pet, or a mentor, grief can shake us to our core. And yet, in the midst of all
#285: 3 Mistakes Love Avoidants Make in Dating
Is your fear of intimacy keeping you from the love you want?In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we’re diving deep into love avoidance—what it is, how it shows up, and the mistakes that keep us from building healthy, connected relationships. If you find yourself pulling away when things get too good, struggling to be vulnerable, or avoiding dating altogether, you’re not alone. These patterns often
#284: 3 Dating Mistakes to Avoid as a Love Addict
Are you falling in love with potential instead of reality?In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m diving into three critical mistakes love addicts make when dating—mistakes that can keep you stuck in unhealthy cycles. Whether you're unknowingly romanticizing red flags, struggling to walk away from emotionally unavailable partners, or making dating your full-time job, this episode will help yo
#283: How to Host a Healing Circle With Friends
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into how healing circles can transform your journey through love addiction recovery. After years of coaching women through attachment struggles, I've seen firsthand how creating the right community can accelerate healing in ways individual work simply can't.We explore exactly how to build your own healing circle—from find
#282: How to Heal in Community (7 Tips to Make Sisterhood Work)
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into something that's essential for our healing journey but often overlooked—the power of sisterhood and community. As someone who's experienced both the isolation of healing alone and the transformative power of healing in community, I'm sharing seven practical tips to help you build and nurture meaningful friendship
#281: Why You Stay in Relationships When You're Tired
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're having an honest conversation about something that hits deep—why we stay in relationships even when we're completely exhausted. From social media discussions to real-life experiences, we're seeing how women often find themselves caught in cycles of emotional labor and self-improvement, all while trying to make a relationship work t
#280: How to Cope When Your Dating Partner Stops Responding (No Contact)
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving deep into something that can shake your whole world—when someone you're dating suddenly goes quiet or starts feeding you breadcrumbs of attention. Whether they're ghosting you completely or keeping you hanging with "I'm just busy" texts, we're getting real about what this behavior actually means.Through my ye
#279: 4 Steps to Help Yourself Heal & Relationships to Flourish
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm breaking down the complete framework I use with my coaching clients to transform their relationship patterns — the Bloom Method. After years of helping women heal from love addiction, love avoidance, and love deprivation, I've developed this powerful approach that guides you from identifying toxic roots to cultivating lasting change.Thro
#278: The First 3 Steps to Heal Love Addiction
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we dive deep into the topic of love addiction and explore the steps to break free from its cycles. Learn about the free downloadable resource “The Five Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction” and discover how to identify and detox from addictive relationships. We also discuss the importance of addressing unresolved childhood wounds and building a supp
#277: 3 Ways to Not Move Too Fast in a New Relationship
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into something that many of us struggle with—protecting our individuality when new love enters the picture. You know that excitement when someone new comes into your life and suddenly you want to share every moment with them? Today, we're talking about why that impulse, though natural, needs some healthy boundaries.Through my ye
#276: How I Use Astrology for Love and Healing
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into how I personally use astrology as a powerful tool for healing and understanding relationships. As someone who was once skeptical and came from a Christian ministry background, I share how astrology has evolved from being something I dismissed to becoming an invaluable resource in my personal growth and coaching practice.Thro
#275: The 7 Levels of Availability for ALL Relationships
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a game-changing tool that's about to transform how you evaluate potential relationships - the Availability Scale. Drawing from my new book 'How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts,' we're breaking down the seven levels of availability that determine whether someone is truly ready and able to show up in a relations
#274: 3 Ways to Have the Best Relationships in 2025
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're kicking off 2025 with a powerful conversation about building stronger, healthier relationships - and yes, we're having this talk even through a 103-degree fever because that's how important this message is!Whether you're dealing with love addiction, love avoidance, or just want to level up your relationships this year, we'r
#273: How Fear of Abandonment Affects Your Relationships
Fear of abandonment can create a lot of insecurity and conflict in a relationship. In this episode, we break down 3 signs to look out for to add to your recovery plan for healing.Get the New Book here on AmazonRegister for the How to Make it Work Between Love Avoidants and Love Addicts Workshop hereReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, m
#272: 3 Green Flags Someone is Available for Love (How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts)
In this episode, I will go over 3 green flags of availability for healthy partners for love addicts pulling from my new book, How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts.Get the New Book here on AmazonRegister for the How to Make it Work Between Love Avoidants and Love Addicts Workshop hereReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature co
#271: 3 Tips to Deal with Holiday Overwhelm, Stress & Mental Fatigue
On top of the normal holiday overwhelm, it seems like many of us are dealing with fatigue that we just can't catch a break. In today's episode, I give 3 tips to help support where you are.Enroll in the 60 Day Love Avoidant Rehab Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced,
#270: 4 Ways to Tell the Friendship May Be Temporary
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a topic that often brings up complex emotions - recognizing when friendships might be temporary. You know those relationships that feel so intense and meaningful in the moment, but somehow don't stand the test of time? Let's talk about why that happens and why it might actually be perfectly okay.Through sharing personal
#269: Navigating Seasons of Relational Conflict (Throwback episode)
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into something all of us face but nobody really wants to talk about - those seasons when it feels like you're in conflict with EVERYONE. You know those times? When it seems like every conversation is tense, every interaction is challenging, and you're starting to wonder if maybe you're the problem?First, take a deep brea
#268: 4 Reasons to Be Proud of Yourself
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're taking a moment to celebrate YOU. Yes, you! We're shifting away from our usual conversations about red flags and relationship challenges to focus on something equally important - acknowledging just how far you've come in your healing journey.You know those moments when you catch a red flag early? When you trust your gut instead of
#267: 3 Ways to Cope When They Don't Care
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're getting real about something that hits deep - what do you do when someone just stops showing up for you emotionally? You know that feeling when their energy shifts, the care fades, and you're left wondering what happened?After seeing so many TikTok conversations about love avoidance and no contact, I knew it was time to dive into this
#266: 7 Benefits of Taking it Slow in a Relationship
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we dive into the seven benefits of taking it slow in a relationship — the power of a 'slow burn.' I discuss the reasons behind why rushing into relationships can be problematic, especially for love addicts, and share practical tips on how to pace relationships effectively. I also explore how going slow helps in truly understanding your partn
#265: 3 Hidden Ways We Ignore (and Encourage) Red Flags in Others
In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
#264: “Am I Quitting?” and the Future of Black Girls Heal
In this episode, I talk about why I'm quitting and what's coming next for Black Girls Heal!Resources mentioned in the episode:Register for the BGH Lover Girl's Weekend Workshop on Saturday,, February 8, 2025 at blackgirlsheal.org/eventsReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love a
#263: Checking the Facts When You're in Conflict
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we explore the importance of checking the facts when feeling threatened, especially for those healing from trauma. We discuss how trauma can heighten our threat response, making it difficult to discern real threats from perceived ones. The episode delves into the skill of 'checking the facts,' a concept derived from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), o
#262: What To Do When You Feel Rejected
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the poignant topic of rejection, inspired by heartfelt conversations from my recent cruise trip. Focusing on love addiction, I discuss the fear of abandonment and the insecurities it breeds. Together, we explore how to cope with rejection, understand its impact, and reclaim our power. You'll learn about the importance of not internalizing rejec
#261: The Importance of Pacing While Dating + Checking In
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into a major milestone — our very first video podcast episode! After years of audio-only recordings, I am showing up in video to connect with you more intimately. I start with a heartfelt check-in, sharing my personal experiences of transitions and the collective 'hell' many of us have gone through recently in various aspects of our lives. Today
#260: Doing No Contact with a Co-Parent
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I delve into the intricacies of implementing a no-contact process while co-parenting. This much-requested topic focuses on maintaining emotional neutrality and setting firm boundaries when you have to communicate with a co-parent for the sake of your children. I’ll share practical steps and tips designed to help you stay centered and avoid the emotional trigger
#259: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we're diving into the world of love avoidance and how to navigate new relationships when you're healing from it. We'll talk about understanding intimacy disorders, recovering from those avoidant patterns, and how to communicate your needs in a healthy way.Whether you're just starting in your recovery, you're in a new relationship, or even in
#258: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Addict
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the intricacies of managing romantic relationships for those in recovery from love addiction. We discuss the importance of staying in touch with your body, practicing self-affirmation, and maintaining your own life and identity. These actionable tips are geared to help you stay balanced while developing healthy, secure connections. Whether you'
#257: How Fantasy Fuels Unrealistic Expectations
You know that feeling when things don't go as planned and you're left feeling disappointed? Yeah, we've all been there. This week on the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving deep into how to manage unrealistic expectations and fantasies in your relationships so you can avoid those heartbreaks.We're going to break down how to set realistic standards, the difference between you
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15 minutes de grâce et de vérité
