LOVERS by Shan
LOVERS by Shan is an education-first podcast where listeners learn about intimacy and relationships through the expertise of guests. Host Shan Boodram aims to empower everyone to become their own intimacy expert, with past guests including Kelly Rowland, Becky G, and Kerry Washington. The podcast paused in 2023 with 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views, and returns in 2025 with a fresh approach. Sales and distribution by Lemonada Media.
Episodes
Listen Again: Singer Mario Opens Up About Emotional Healing After Maternal Trauma
In this deeply personal episode presented by Bumble, singer Mario opens up about the profound impact of unresolved trauma stemming from his relationship with his mother. He shares how this pain shaped his early behavior towards women, leading to manipulation and broken connections. Mario takes us on his journey of self-reflection, healing, and ultimately embracing his inner feminine energy, a proc
Listen Again: Don’t Have Sex With Someone If You Both Can’t Do THIS ft. Lena Waithe
We've been on a short break the past two weeks, so we're revisiting one of our favorites: Lena Waithe on why she won't have sex with someone unless she can already picture what happens after, and why some of her deepest connections have never been physical at all. New episodes of LOVERS are back August 19.
In this episode of LOVERS, I sit down with Emmy-winning writer, producer, and actress Lena
Listen Again: I Lost My Sex Drive Because He Never Did THIS ft. Cree Summer
We're on a short break the next two weeks, so we're revisiting one of our favorites: Cree Summer on losing (and finding again) her sex drive after 50, and why emotional safety made all the difference. New episodes of LOVERS are back August 19.
In this episode, I sit down with the legendary Cree Summer to talk about her journey through love, loss, and rediscovery in her 50s. Cree opens up about lo
If There Was a Female Version of “Viagra”, Would You Take It?
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Shan sits down with four women to talk about the low libido nobody prepares you for: the 26-year-ol
Naomi Sharon: Learning About OCD Taught Me Why I Can't Let Go
Naomi Sharon is an R&B singer-songwriter, the first woman signed to Drake's OVO Sound label, and the voice behind Obsidian — an album she wrote, she says, while stuck in a loop she didn't yet have a name for. Her new single is "No Sleep in Paradise," and it turns out to be a more accurate self-portrait than she realized when she wrote it.
This conversation starts with that song title and follows
Does Unrequited Love Mean the Love Wasn't Real? ft. Tanerélle
Tanerélle is a singer-songwriter whose voice sits somewhere between neo-soul and quiet revelation, with singles like feels like love and Nothing Without You building a devoted audience around the specific ache of loving someone more than they love you back. In this episode, she and Shan trace the song feels like love from its origin — a late-night phone call with an ex that felt like home until Ta
I Embarrassed Him and We Had to Talk About It
There are three forms of intimacy every relationship runs on — and most couples only know two of them. Emotional intimacy, physical intimacy, and the one nobody has named yet: social intimacy, which is the degree to which your partner actively represents, claims, and advocates for you in the rooms and relationships that matter. Not just privately, when it's easy, but publicly, when it costs someth
Stop Turning Me Into Inspiration Porn — Ericka Hart on Nasty Work
Ericka Hart (she/they) is a sex educator, author, and breast cancer survivor who has spent their career arguing that pleasure isn't a luxury — it's a right that's been systematically withheld from Black, brown, queer, and disabled bodies.
In this conversation, Erica and Shan trace the throughline from childhood activism that was never a choice, to being expelled from Peace Corps for loving who th
Loving Someone Based on How They Present Is the Whole Problem
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The Most Intimate Thing a Man Can Do for His Family ft. Jared Brady & Jonathan Singletary
Jared Brady and Jonathan Singletary sit down to talk about fatherhood, inheritance, and the difference between intention and what's already in the body.
Jonathan Singletary is a Los Angeles-based musician, songwriter, and founder of Piano & Prayer, a musical meditation and community gathering practice featured in the LA Times that has grown into a meaningful spiritual presence for thousands of pe
How to Be in a Relationship Without One Foot Out the Door - Inayah on Going from Leaver to Lover
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Inayah on what it actually takes to stop being someone who's always ready to leave.
Inayah is a Houston-born R&B singer and songwriter who first broke through with her viral cover of Ella Mai's "Boo'd Up" in 2018 (a moment that grew her following by over a million people overnight) and has since bui
He Cheated. Then He Had a Son. Here's What He Did Differently
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I'm Sorry.
A few weeks ago I put out the Melissa Ford episode, and the comments told me something I already knew before I hit publish: I crossed a line I claim to stand against. This is me sitting with that.
Chaos is a ladder. I've climbed it for twenty years. The only other ladder I know is love, and it's so much harder, because you have to actually feel your way up it.
I also owe a more honest version of
Part II: Finding Happily Ever After Without a Romantic Partner ft. Melyssa Ford
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Melyssa Ford has heard every version of the argument. She's
Everyone Wants This Kind of Love… Until It Costs Them Something
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Is It Wrong to Still Want Attention if You’re in a Relationship ft. Lauren Morrison
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In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with my sister Lauren Morrison to say something ick: we both still enjoy attention from men.
While we prepare for Mash Majesty, our section for Toronto Caribbean Carnival, we’ve been having i
This Changes How You See Avoidantly Attached People ft. Dr. Amir Levine
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How much of your attachment style is actually fo
This Kama Sutra Secret About Hands Changes Everything
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The Year I Decided I’d Never Divorce My Husband
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In this episode of Lovers, Jared and I sit down on vacation for a conversation we’ve never had this honestly before.
This is our seventh year of marriage, the year people warn you about. The year of the “seven-year itch.” And
I Spent Years Forcing Relationships… Here’s What I Learned ft. Affion Crockett
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In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with
The Secret to Attracting a Husband, Not Just a Boyfriend ft. Kamie Crawford
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I Thought I Wanted to Be a Trad Wife… I Was Wrong ft. Lisa Bilyeu
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In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with Lisa Bilyeu to talk about a decision a lot of women think about… but don’t always say out loud: w
Why “Normal” Sex Doesn’t Work for Many Black and Brown Women Ft. Aida Mariam Davis
Get $200 off your Tonal purchase! Get a complete gym + a trainer in your home by going to http://tonal.com, then use promo code LOVERS for that big discount.—In this episode of Lovers, I’m joined by Aida Mariam Davis, author of Kindred Creation: Parables and Paradigms for Freedom, to explore one question: Is your sex life by design?We unpack the idea that so much of our sexual identity isn’t accid
What Men Actually Think About Before They Propose ft. Mark Manson
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Are You Nicer to Strangers Than Your Partner ft. DeWanda Wise
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In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with actor DeWanda Wise to talk about what makes her marriage to actor Alano Miller genuinely healthy, not perfect, not performative, but well-matched.
DeWanda and Alano have
What If You Never Meet the One ft. Melyssa Ford
Get $200 off your Tonal purchase! Get a complete gym + a trainer in your home by going to http://tonal.com then use promo code LOVERS for that big discount.—In this episode of Lovers, Melyssa Ford joins me for a conversation about desirability, partnership, and what it means to build a full life without centering it around finding “the one.”
Melyssa has been publicly desired for decades. She’s da
Can Intimacy Survive Porn, Drinks and Phone Addictions? ft. Dr Anna Lembke
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In this episode of Lovers, I share something personal: the ways my own social media habit began affecting my presence, my focus, and ultimately my intimacy. Jared joins the conversation to reflect on the intervention he had with me when he realized my relationship with my phone w
Spinning the Block Doesn’t Work Without This ft. Jerrie Johnson and Dria Brown
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Do We Believe Her Now? | Abby De La Rosa Returns to Discuss Her Alternative Relationship
In this episode of Lovers, Abby De La Rosa returns three years after our first conversation to reflect on what time, motherhood, and public scrutiny have actually taught her.
When Abby first joined the show, she was pregnant and navigating intense speculation about her relationship with Nick Cannon, who now has 12 children with multiple partners. That episode sparked massive conversation and deba
What Men Risk When They Stay Quiet ft. Kier Gaines
In this episode of Lovers, therapist Kier Gaines shares a personal and professional reflection on how resentment builds when men are taught to silence their emotional truth.
Kier opens up about a pivotal moment in his own relationship, when he realized that his partner’s tone was hurting his feelings, and that his fear of naming it, out of concern that he would sound “effeminate” or not man enoug
Rachel Lindsay’s Shocking Discovery About Intimacy After Divorce
In this episode of Lovers, Higher Learning host and former Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay shares the deeply personal story of what it was like to experience intimacy both sexually and emotionally for the first time after divorce.
After nearly a decade of being with only one partner, that she met while being the Bachelorette, Rachel walks us through the fears, emotions, and expectations she carried i
The Real Reason We Started an Open Relationship
In this episode of Lovers, I’m joined by my husband Jared Brady to tell the story of the exact day we decided to call our relationship an open relationship.
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When Conflict Turns Lovers Into Exes ft. Touré
Conflict is inevitable in long-term relationships. Damage doesn’t have to be.In this episode, we explore what actually separates fights that bring couples closer from fights that quietly turn lovers into enemies. We talk about the moment arguments go sideways, why so many conflicts feel bigger than the issue at hand, and how couples can stay on the same team even when they fundamentally disagree.O
Intimacy Started When This Secret Came to Light ft. Jonathan Van Ness
Did you know, in 2023, more than 39,000 people were diagnosed with HIV in the United States and six territories, with Hispanic and Black individuals each accounting for more than a third (Source. CDC)In this episode of LOVERS, Shan sits down with Jonathan Van Ness for a conversation about receiving an HIV diagnosis, the years he kept it private, and the moment he decided he wanted the story to com
Navigating Parenting Differences as Lovers
HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY RYU, our little munchkin just turned FIVE!And while Thanksgiving week is here, Jared and I felt like it was the perfect moment to sit together and talk about being parents. Somewhere between the sleepless nights, tiny victories, meltdown moments, and unexpected laughter, Ryu taught us something surprising: sometimes, love is giving someone your dirty socks.(It’s her quote, a
Love Has Destroyed Me So Why Do I Keep Trying? ft Sabrina Claudio
In this episode of LOVERS, Shan sits down with singer and songwriter Sabrina Claudio for a conversation about heartbreak, loneliness, friendship, and the lessons that shaped her new album.Sabrina talks openly about how loneliness can quietly influence decisions, including staying in relationships that feel draining. She shares what it was like to feel isolated even while partnered, why she struggl
Seema Anand on Overcoming Shame with the Kama Sutra’s Secrets
In this intimate London-based episode of LOVERS, Shan sits down with the legendary storyteller and pleasure educator Seema Anand, the woman who transformed shame into sacred power.From being judged and silenced for her fascination with the Kama Sutra to becoming its most celebrated modern interpreter, Seema shares how self-love became her act of rebellion. Together, we talk about:✨ Growing up rebe
Sacred Sex For People Who Don't Believe ft. Tanerélle
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What My Autism Diagnosis Taught Me About Love and Feeling Safe ft. Chrisette Michele
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Is It Too Late to Become Who I Thought I’d Be? ft Chy Fontenette
Thank you to Function Health for sponsoring this video! Visit https://functionhealth.yt.link/Eug9eKx or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their membership.————————In her mid-30s, Chy Fontenette from Behind the Likes podcast finds herself facing what feels like a full-life reset: a breakup she didn’t choose, friendships shifting as she starts
Should Relationships be THIS Hard? ft. Beleaf & Yvette Henry
Are relationships supposed to be THIS Hard?This week on LOVERS, Shan sits down with Glen and Yvette Henry, the couple behind the viral family brand Beleaf in Fatherhood.Glen, known as Beleaf, has a new book coming out titled Father Yourself First, which challenges men to approach fatherhood as a path of healing, self-awareness, and personal accountability.In this conversation, Glen and Yvette open
Could a Single Moment Be Controlling Your Love Story? Ft Andre Holland
Trigger Warning: This conversation includes a deeply personal story shared by André Holland, including a moment when someone he had affections for used a racial slur toward him. Listener discretion is advised.What happens when a core memory rewrites the story of how we see ourselves in love? In this week’s LOVERS episode, Shan sits down with actor André Holland to explore the pivotal memory that s
How Inner Child Work Can Save Your (love) Life featuring Lilly Singh
To get 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp, visit http://betterhelp.com/loversbyshan. Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode!—This week, I interview Lilly Singh, actor and history-making content creator, with a new movie RIGHT up our alley: Doin’ It (yes it’s a movie about sex, specifically what happens when a South Asian virgin is assigned to teach sex ed). In this episo
How Jemele Hill is Fighting Back Against America’s #1 Sex Life Killers
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The Truth About Getting The Man I THOUGHT I Always Wanted ft. Rosa Acosta
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Am I Still Who You Want? Are You Becoming Who I Need? A Relationship Check-In + Free Guide ft Jared Brady
Watch what happens when you ask for a performance review in your relationship. Do the hard and awkward questions lead to more intimacy or new resentments? In this week’s episode of Lovers, Shan sits down with her husband, Jared Brady, for their quarterly relationship check-in — on camera. Together, they ask the tough but necessary questions: Am I still who you want? Are you becoming who I need?Thi
My Mom Talked to Me About Sex, And It Made Me Rebel ft. Blair Imani
What does it mean to be ready for motherhood? How do love, faith, and our relationship with our maternal figures shape our parenting?In this honest and grounded conversation, educator, author, and activist Blair Imani shares her perspective on family planning, pregnancy loss, and the role of sexual education in real life. She opens up about having conversations with her partner around abortion as
What holds a relationship together when life falls apart ft Dr. Laura Berman
What holds a relationship together when life falls apart? Most of us picture the happiest moments when we think about our partner, but what happens when tragedy hits? In this intimate conversation, Dr. Laura Berman shares how she and her husband weathered some of life’s hardest storms together. From dating him while she was caring for her young son with cancer, to the unimaginable loss of their so
Inside the Male Fantasy: The Surprising Request Men Keep Paying For ft. The Pink Parley
This week on Lovers, Shan sits down with The Pink Parley, a sex worker pulling back the curtain on what men secretly crave but rarely admit—even to their wives. With 98% of her clients being married men who have no desire to leave their marriages, Parley reveals the surprising request that keeps them coming back: ass worship.Yes, you read that right. These men don’t just want to “eat the groceries
He Had Multiple Lovers and I Was Good with Just Him. Alyson Stoner On Their Intro To Polyamory
What does it really mean to build a relationship outside the rules you were taught? Is it still polyamory if only one person has other lovers? And most importantly, what happens when that dynamic actually works for you?In this honest and eye-opening conversation, multi-disciplinary entertainer, author, and founder of Movement Genius, Alyson Stoner, shares their experience in their polyamorous jour
The Eartha Kitt Effect Why Women Are Happily Choosing the Single Life for Life
What if “happily ever after” starts and ends with just you?In this bold and expansive episode, Shan dives into The Eartha Kitt Effect—a cultural and emotional awakening inspired by the legendary performer Eartha Kitt, whose unapologetic views on love, compromise, and individuality continue to resonate decades later. This “effect” refers to the growing movement of people, especially women, who are
No One Talks About How Hard Making Friends As An Adult Is ft. Krista Williams
Does making friends get harder as you get older? How the hell do I make friends? This episode is a rerun, and it's STILL very accurate. According to the American Perspective Survey, May 2021, many people are not satisfied with the size of their friendship group. About half of Americans (51 percent) report they are very satisfied or completely satisfied with the number of friends they have. 30 per
Is a Good Man Good Enough? ft. Miranda Rae Mayo
What if the love story you were chasing… was never really yours?In this episode, actress Miranda Rae Mayo joins Shan to explore the journey of finding love by letting go of the fantasy. Known for her role on Chicago Fire, Miranda opens up about her current relationship and how she had to release the pressure to be “perfect” to experience a real connection.Together, they explore how love doesn’t al
Are They Your Type or Your Trauma Response ft. Anwar White
What does it mean to date and be in relationships in a trauma-informed way? Are you dating from a place of fear instead of self-worth? In this powerful episode, certified dating and relationship coach Anwar White opens up about his personal journey and why emotional safety is the foundation of any healthy relationship. We explore the crucial question: Can you really date men if you're scared of th
What’s the Emotional Tax on Casual Sex? ft. Decisions Decisions
In this episode, Weezy and Mandii B get real about shedding the pressure to “find the one” and embracing what feels good instead of what looks good on paper, how we need to reverse engineer the way we have casual sex, and how to set yourself up for success while dating and having casual sex. WeezyWTF expands on how sexual liberation goes hand in hand with how you approach and manifest casual sex.
Too Many of Us Are Living with High-Functioning Depression ft. Dr. Judith Joseph
What if numbness is the hidden wound of high-functioning depression?In this episode, Shan sits down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a board-certified psychiatrist, clinical researcher, and internationally recognized mental health advocate.They dive deep into anhedonia, the loss of pleasure or interest in things that once brought you joy, and how it shows up, especially for those living with high-functioni
Kama Sutra Secrets Every Woman Deserves to Know ft. Seema Anand
What if the key to better sex isn’t new, but rooted in ancestral knowledge?In this episode, Shan sits down with storyteller, mythologist, and ancient erotica expert Seema Anand to explore the rich, and yes, deeply sexy, history of sexual liberation, and why it's never really been a modern idea.Together, they unpack what it means to reconnect with your desire through ancestry, ritual, and unapologe
He Was Never Going To Commit And Here's Why ft. Duckwrth
Why do fuckboys… fuckboy? In this episode, we dig into the root of it.Just ahead of the release of his new single Permanent Vacation (dropping June 18), genre-bending artist Duckwrth joins Shan for a raw and revealing conversation on why some men detach, ghost, and repeat the cycle. Together, they unpack how fear of commitment, cultural conditioning, and childhood wounds can all contribute to the
I Wanted My Man, Not the Sex: Tamsen Fadal on Losing Her Libido At the Worst Possible Time
Have you ever wondered where your libido went? In this episode we do a deep dive on sexual slumps, low libido and lack of sexual desire that is frustrating (lack of desire that is not frustrating is not a problem!). We get to have this conversation first from the lens of Emmy-winning journalist Tamsen Fadal whose journey with low libido started in perimenopause and peaked on her honeymoon! From ho
Go Where you are Celebrated, Not Just Tolerated ft. Kennedy Ryan
From fatphobia to racism to ageism and ableism, Kennedy challenges the norms around love, desirability, and who gets to be the “main character.” This one’s for anyone who's ever felt left out of the story — and is ready to take the pen back.Bestselling romance author Kennedy Ryan (Before I Let Go, Reel) sits down with Shan to talk about what happens when women stop shrinking themselves to be chose
Having the Sex I’d Want My Daughter to Expect with Xosha
What kind of stories do we pass down through the way we love?Actor and mom Xosha Roquemore sits down with Shan to talk about sex, self-worth, and how becoming a mother shifted everything. It starts with one question she asked that stopped us both: “Have the kind of sex you’d be proud to tell your daughter about.”We talk about the early messages she got about sex, how sexual coercion showed up in h
Jessie Woo Opens Up About Surviving Sexual Assault, Reclaiming Pleasure and Building Healthy Love After Trauma
Reclaiming Intimacy: Jessie Woo’s Journey Beyond Trauma. Comedian and media personality Jessie Woo joins Shan for a powerful conversation about healing, love, and rediscovering sexual joy after surviving sexual assault. Jessie shares her painful story of her assault and her joyful story of her relationship with Jay Allen aka Mr Easter.Now Jessie is on the path to reclaiming pleasure and building h
Alessia Cara Opens Up About How Death Anxiety Affects Her Relationships
Nothing good lasts. Right? In this deeply moving episode, Canadian singer-songwriter Alessia Cara joins Shan Boodram to explore the connection between intimacy, loss, and the fear of death (thanatophobia). Inspired by her song "Subside" from Love and Hyperbole, Alessia opens up about her personal journey with grief and how it shapes the way she loves and creates. Together, they dive into universal
Raven-Symoné and Miranda on How Sleep Divorce Strengthened Their Marriage
In this week’s episode, I sit down with Raven-Symoné and her wife Miranda Pearman-Maday for a refreshingly honest conversation about love and what it really takes to sustain a modern relationship. They share why they chose a sleep divorce, and how sleeping separately has deepened their emotional bond, sharpened their communication, and brought them even closer.This episode is a masterclass in emot
Cree Summer Opens Up About How Emotional Safety Reignited Her Sex Drive After 50
In this week’s episode, I sit down with the legendary Cree Summer to talk about her journey through love, loss, and rediscovery in her 50s. Cree opens up about losing her sex drive during her marriage due to a lack of emotional shelter and the importance of finding a partner who provides safety and calm during life’s storms. We also dive into how her sex drive has improved post-menopause and what
Don't Waste Your Time With People Like This!
This is a rare solo episode with just Shan behind the mic—no guests, no distractions. Just her, answering some of your most pressing, unfiltered questions. From personal reflections to deeper dives on topics you’ve been dying to hear her take on, this one’s intimate, insightful, and straight from the heartJoin My Mailing Listhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletterLovers CommunityIf you’re interest
B. Simone Opens Up About Putting God First, Chastity and Demisexuality
Are you ready to dive deep into the complexities of love, faith, and identity? In this thought-provoking episode, Shan Boodram sits down with B. Simone to discuss the transformative journey of embracing chastity, understanding soul ties, and exploring the nuances of identity and connection.While B. Simone does not identify as demisexual, Shan suggests the possibility during their candid conversati
Karamo Brown on Evolving Sexual and Emotional Needs Over Time
Does a change in your intimate needs have to mean a change of heart? In this episode of Lovers Shan Boodram sits down with Karamo Brown, TV personality (Karama and Queer Eye), author, and culture expert, for a raw and revealing conversation about intimacy and growth. Karamo opens up about how his intimate needs evolved through his 20s, 30s, and 40s—both emotionally and in the bedroom. He shares ho
Khadeen and Devale Ellis on Defying Gender Roles to Save Their Marriage
Are You Loyal to Your Gender or Your Relationship? Shan Boodram sits down with Khadeen and Devale Ellis, the dynamic married duo known for their raw honesty, humor, and insights on love and relationships. Together, they share how they saved their marriage by breaking free from traditional gender roles and prioritizing their partnership above all else.Khadeen and Devale Ellis are actors, content cr
Jessie Reyez on Why Boundaries Are a Form of Love
Jessie Reyez joins the podcast to celebrate her new album, Paid in Memories and to dive into the complexities of boundaries and self-respect. Together, we unpack what it means to be labeled a "villain" (by both yourself and others) for setting boundaries and standing firm in your self-worth. Jessie shares her personal journey of choosing to stay single rather than settling for less in love, reflec
Deepica Mutyala Breaks Down Dating as a Successful Woman and Manifesting a Relationship With Purpose
In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Shan Boodram sits down with Deepica Mutyala, founder of Live Tinted and a trailblazing entrepreneur, for an honest and empowering conversation about being single, thriving in your 30s, and preparing for the love and family you deserve. Deepica shares her journey of building a successful career while staying true to her dreams of finding the right partner and
Lena Waithe Reflects on Emotional Intimacy and Platonic Relationships
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