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Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Headgum & Nicole Byer 451 Episodes Jul 24, 2026

Comedian Nicole Byer hosts this multi-award-winning podcast about love and dating. She explores romantic highs, lows, and everything in between with comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex. New episodes drop every Friday.

Episodes

The Truth About Drag Race Showmances (w/ Lydia B Kollins)
The Truth About Drag Race Showmances (w/ Lydia B Kollins) Jul 24, 2026 00:45:27 Drag queen Lydia B Kollins (Drag Race S17, All Stars S10) joins Nicole to spill the behind-the-scenes tea on her iconic Drag Race showmance with Kori King. Find out just how strict production really is when it comes to off-screen flirting, what it was like having their first kiss during a lip sync for your life, plus the reason why she fully ghosted Kori after filming wrapped.Plus, Lydia
Sharing Trade (w/ Willam Belli)
Sharing Trade (w/ Willam Belli) Jul 17, 2026 00:59:10 Drag queen icon Willam (Drag Race S4, host of Race Chasers) returns! She joins Nicole to break down the mathematical formula for the optimal orgy, the proper etiquette for passing good trade around to your drag sisters, and what really goes down inside LA's underground sex dungeons. Willam also reveals her pro tips for scheduling multiple hookups in one night and confesses the absolute ki
My Career Ruined my Relationships (w/ June Jambalaya)
My Career Ruined my Relationships (w/ June Jambalaya) Jul 10, 2026 00:47:02 Drag queen June Jambalaya (Drag Race S14) joins Nicole to discuss hiding her drag career from her dates, being engaged twice, and leaving her fiancé to compete on Drag Race. Plus, Nicole and June discuss the best city to be depressed in, reveal the wildest things they've done to impress a man, and June shares her amazing date after being set up by Kerri Colby.Watch this episode on our You
Hiring a Zoom Stripper (w/ Liza Treyger)
Hiring a Zoom Stripper (w/ Liza Treyger) Jul 3, 2026 01:01:51 Comedian and friend Liza Treyger (Night Owl, host of That's Messed Up) returns to the podcast! She shares her sobering experience hiring a Zoom stripper for a bachelorette party, how Heated Rivalry changed her life, and the struggle of making friends easily while her dating life remains in the dumps. Liza tells the story about how she got scammed by a stylist while making her Netflix spec
Tossing Shade (w/ Bosco)
Tossing Shade (w/ Bosco) Jun 26, 2026 00:49:30 Drag queen icon Bosco (Drag Race S14, All Stars S10) makes her return to toss even more shade. She shares why the secret to polished drag is having mean friends, how to filter out dumb men in your dating life, and trades stories with Nicole about their most questionable fashion eras. They also discuss facial feminization surgery (and the boy queens getting it) and why we all need some mor
Creatively Building a Family (w/ Sabrina Jalees)
Creatively Building a Family (w/ Sabrina Jalees) Jun 19, 2026 00:58:31 Comedian Sabrina Jalees (Mating Season) returns to the podcast! Sabrina talks about how she and her wife made a family, including picking out a sperm donor and performing a home insemination using a dog catheter. They break down the recent news about websites hosting non-consensual "sleep content" and the terrible networks of men coaching each other on how to assault their partners. Sabr
Having A Self-Love Affair (w/ Jujubee)
Having A Self-Love Affair (w/ Jujubee) Jun 12, 2026 00:48:22 You ready for some good juju? This week, iconic drag queen Jujubee (Drag Race, Stop! That! Train!) joins Nicole to talk about the power of self-love and why she’s officially stopped looking for a relationship. Nicole pays tribute to her first dog, Charlie, and the two discuss why the true soulmates are actually the animals in our life. Jujubee shares her philosophy on why love never
Setting Relationship Boundaries (w/ Trixie Mattel)
Setting Relationship Boundaries (w/ Trixie Mattel) Jun 5, 2026 01:15:24 Drag queen Trixie Mattel (Drag Race S7, All Stars 3) returns to the podcast! After experiencing how exhausting it is to navigate a private breakup while smiling through a press tour, Trixie opens up about why she is now fiercely protective of her new relationship. Nicole explains why Drag Race S7 is her all-time favorite season, and the girls discuss wild dating reality TV shows like 90 D
Measuring Love & Male Delusion (w/ Tracie Thoms)
Measuring Love & Male Delusion (w/ Tracie Thoms) May 29, 2026 00:52:23 Tracie Thoms (RENT, The Devil Wears Prada 2) joins Nicole to discuss her 8-year journey to join the iconic cast of RENT, the wild logic men use to avoid commitment, and why some of them want all the benefits of a girlfriend with zero of the responsibility. Tracie also breaks down the nightmare of having dated someone who tried dictate her career, and reveals why living apart from her
Would You Date YOU? (w/ Relationship Therapist Esther Perel)
Would You Date YOU? (w/ Relationship Therapist Esther Perel) May 22, 2026 01:06:50 World famous relationship therapist Esther Perel has been studying relationships for over 40 years. She joins Nicole to share the most common problems couples seek therapy for, the 3 types of conflicts we fight over, and how to productively resolve them. Esther discusses how to get over "icks" while dating, and challenges us to ask ourselves: what "icks" would people find in you? They als
Writing Heated Rivalry (w/ Rachel Reid)
Writing Heated Rivalry (w/ Rachel Reid) May 15, 2026 00:47:00 Author Rachel Reid (Heated Rivalry) joins Nicole to chat about the wild, viral success of her steamy queer romance novels and the hit TV adaptation. She shares how she met her husband while performing a smelly, hockey-themed burlesque act, and the dynamic that keeps their 20-year one sided open marriage working for them. She discusses the creative process behind writing explicit romance b
Farting All Night on a First Date (w/ Beck Bennett)
Farting All Night on a First Date (w/ Beck Bennett) May 8, 2026 00:51:07 Comedian and actor Beck Bennett (SNL, What's Our Podcast?) joins Nicole to talk about meeting his wife on a sketch shoot and how his wallet-less first date turned into a romantic, fart-filled sleepover. Beck opens up about surviving long-distance dating while shooting SNL, why he believes "love is trust," and the Joshua Tree engagement trip that ended with them sleeping in separate twin b

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