Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self Love Podcast for Women
This podcast is about self-love, covering topics like body-image, confidence, self-worth, body positivity, mindset, mental health, feminism, and relationships. Host Mary Jelkovsky shares personal stories and engages in raw, real conversations. The show aims to help women embrace self-love and improve their overall well-being.
Episodes
Why Looking “Better” Doesn't Lead to Self-Love with Dr. Lindsay Kite
Have you ever thought you'd be happier if you were thinner, prettier, younger, or looked “better” in some way?
In a culture obsessed with appearance, it's easy to believe that confidence, self worth, and self love are waiting on the other side of changing your body. But what if the real struggle has nothing to do with how you look?
Dr. Lindsay Kite joins us to unpack the hidden force behind so man
How to Care for Your Health Without Falling Back Into Diet Culture (Repost)
There comes a point in your self-love journey where the question shifts from How do I stop obsessing over food and my body-image? to How do I take care of my health in a way that doesn't promote diet culture?
If you've spent years untangling yourself from diet culture, caring for your health can feel surprisingly complicated. You might want to eat more nourishing foods, move your body consistently
The Art of Wedding Planning for Women Who Want Something Meaningful with Priya Parker (Repost)
Wedding culture can make so many women feel like they’re producing a performance instead of preparing for a marriage. Between family expectations, social media pressure, people-pleasing, decision fatigue, and endless opinions, it’s easy for women to lose confidence in themselves during a season that’s supposed to feel meaningful.
This conversation with Priya Parker completely reframed the way I th
How To Find Motivation and Build Confidence When You Feel Lost
If you’ve been feeling stuck, unmotivated, disconnected from yourself, unsure of your direction, or like your confidence has slowly been slipping away, this episode is for you.
In this personal solo episode of Mary’s Cup of Tea, Mary opens up about her own struggles with motivation, burnout, comparison, confidence, and feeling lost in life. From questioning her career path to wrestling with self-c
How She Built a Meaningful Mental Health Brand with Sasha from Self-Care Is For Everyone
Building something meaningful is rarely a linear process. In this episode, Mary sits down with Sasha, co-founder of Self-Care Is For Everyone, to talk about mental health, entrepreneurship, and the unexpected journey from posting illustrations online to building a multi-million dollar brand and business.
Along the way, Sasha opens up about ADHD, grief, burnout, confidence, and what it really takes
Dear Mary, how do I know if I’m ready to have kids?
This is for the women who know they want kids eventually, but don't know if or when they'll be ready.
Some questions don’t have a clear answer… they just keep you up at night.
“How do I know if I’m ready to have kids?” is one of them. Especially for women.
This isn’t a how-to guide. Nor is it a checklist. I’m definitely not someone to tell you what to do with your life. I'm just here for women emp
What Optimism Looks Like When Your Mental Health Isn’t Great with Dr. Deepika Chopra
What if being a more optimistic person has nothing to do with “staying positive”? In this conversation, we unpack the real psychology of optimism — and why it’s less about feeling good, and more about building resilience, curiosity, and emotional flexibility. If you’ve ever struggled with negative thoughts, anxiety, or your mental health, this episode will bring encouragement, hope, and helpful to
The Reality of Hosting This Self-Love Podcast (Celebrating Our 300th Episode!!)
Wow!!! I can’t believe this is our 300th episode!!
Thank you so so much for listening to Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women.
This episode is a bit more personal and vulnerable. It’s me reflecting on why I started Mary’s Cup of Tea, what I’m struggling with, and if/ how I hope to move forward. I pull back the curtain to share what it’s actually taken to produce this show, use my voi
Why Your Self-Worth Feels Low (Even When Life Looks Good)
There’s a version of life many women are taught to chase: the one that looks put together, successful, desirable, and “right.” But behind the aesthetic routines, curated homes, and picture-perfect moments, so many of us feel disconnected, drained, or dissatisfied.
This is the self-worth trap.
In this episode, we explore a simple but powerful reframe: your self-worth isn’t built through appearances
If You Want More Confidence, You Need To Practice Slowing Down
Have you ever noticed how the more you rush, the more everything seems to fall apart? Let’s explore how constantly being “on the go” disconnects you from your confidence and inner peace. If you’re constantly rushing, then you’re stuck in your own anxious headspace, not actually connected to yourself and your surroundings.
In a world that rewards productivity and hustle, slowing down can feel uncom
Your Self Love Check-In: 3 Questions To Ask Yourself This Spring
Spring is a natural time for renewal, and this is your reminder to come back to self love in a grounded way. Not a full reset, not a glow up, just a check-in. A moment to notice what feels good, what feels off, and where you might need a little more care from yourself right now.
Here are 3 questions that are designed to make you feel more alive and aligned. I invite you to ponder these questions o
7 Moments That Shaped Our Marriage (feat. My Husband)
Seven years together, three years married, and somehow we’re still learning new things about each other!
In this episode, Husband joins Mary to reflect on moments that shaped their relationship.
This isn’t relationship advice or a step-by-step guide to a perfect marriage. It’s just us looking back at what we’ve been through and realizing how those experiences changed the way we communicate, suppor
5 Things I’d Change If I Could Rewrite My Self-Love Book
Five years ago, I published The Gift of Self-Love. Writing that book when I was just 20 years old was one of the most meaningful experiences of my life. And its message around confidence, healing, and self-love still feels deeply true to me today.
But five years of living, growing, and talking with thousands of women about their experiences has also expanded my understanding of self-love in ways I
Feeling Inadequate? How to Snap Out of It and Rebuild Confidence
Have you ever felt like no matter what you do, it’s never enough? Same. Let's talk about inadequacy– how to snap the F out of it and shift into confidence.
Mary introduces her powerful self-love formula, which intertwines self-esteem, self-compassion, and self-worth, as she challenges listeners to confront their feelings of inadequacy. We also unpack the heavy feelings of inadequacy and shame and
Why Self-Help is NOT Always Helpful for Self-Love
If you’ve ever felt like you have to constantly optimize your life to deserve self-love, this conversation will help you rethink how you approach personal development. A deep dive into the complicated relationship between self-help and self love, and why the self-help industry can sometimes leave women feeling more inadequate instead of more confident.
You will learn how to...
recognize when sel
How to Feel Confident When You Speak with My Voice Coach Ryan O’Shea
Your voice changes when you feel insecure. It gets tighter, faster, or smaller, and suddenly you don’t feel confident anymore. In this conversation, we explore how to build real confidence by regulating your nervous system and learning to speak from a grounded, embodied confident place.
Mary is joined by voice and communication coach Ryan O’Shea to explore how your voice can make or break your con
5 Sneaky Eating Disorder Habits You Might Still Be Doing (Encore)
Eating disorder recovery is a journey, and sometimes old patterns will show up even after you’re fully recovered. Let’s talk about 5 disordered habits you might still be doing (despite knowing better) and how to stop doing them.These subtle disordered eating are often framed as “normal” in our culture, but in reality, they’re leftover patterns from diet culture. Whether you’ve been in eating disor
28 Things I Wish I Knew at 18 (About Boys, Confidence, Dating, and Self Worth)
With special guest: my Sister!!! For my 28th birthday, I sat down with my 18-year-old sister to share 28 truths about confidence, dating, boys, people, and being a woman with self-worth.This conversation moves from chaotic sister humor to the deeper realities of building confidence as a woman. We talk about why most mistakes get made after midnight, how everything feels more dramatic in the dark,
Self-Care During Hard Times: How to Stay Emotionally Regulated
When the external world feels heavy, your internal world must stay regulated. Self-care is not about escaping reality. It’s about standing steadily inside it. This conversation is about how to stay emotionally regulated when the noise feels constant and the news cycle never ends.We’ll talk about protecting your energy, being intentional with your attention, and practicing self-care through boundar
What Women Misunderstand About Anxiety, Mental Health, and the Mind-Body Connection with Dr. Ellen Vora, MD
Many women talk about anxiety as if it’s a personality trait, but Dr. Ellen Vora offers a different lens: anxiety could be a mind-body signal that something in your mental health ecosystem needs support. In this conversation, we unpack what women misunderstand about anxiety, why mental health is deeply physical, and how to stop seeing anxiety as a personal flaw.You will learn…the difference betwee
The Best Mental Health Book That Changed How I See Myself
Sometimes the parts of us we’re trying hardest to fix are the ones working the hardest to protect us. Inspired by one of the best mental health books I’ve read recently, this episode offers a compassionate framework for understanding your inner world without pathologizing it.If you’ve ever felt conflicted, inconsistent, or torn in different directions, this conversation is for you. It explores why
Why Manifestation Doesn’t Work Without Self-Worth with Samantha Chung
WOW!!! This just might be the most enlightening, inspiring interview on Mary’s Cup of Tea, thanks to our guest, Samantha Chung. Rooted in self-love and self-worth, Sam’s approach to manifestation is deep yet simple, grounded yet expansive, firm yet deeply compassionate.Contrary to popular belief, isn’t about positive thinking, vision boards, or proving your worth — it’s about the relationship you
6 Self Love Lessons I’m Taking Into My Late 20s (Encore)
Self love isn’t just about accepting yourself as you are or chasing a better version of yourself. It’s about learning how to hold contradictory parts of yourself with self compassion and curiosity.This conversation explores self love, confidence, mental health, body image, and self-awareness through the lens of growth, rest, insecurity, joy, and becoming. If you’re in your late 20s, or going throu
How Astrology Can Support Your Mental Health with Daniela Karpenos
Astrology can be a grounding, practical tool for self-love and mental health, especially for women navigating change. Daniela from Cosmic Latte joins me to break down rising signs, moon energy, and Saturn returns—and how understanding your zodiac chart can help you meet yourself with more compassion, confidence, and care. Whether you’re looking to add a little whimsy to your life or fully devote y
How to Make a Vision Board: A Self-Love Practice for the New Year
A vision board can be a powerful tool for self love when created intentionally. In this episode, Mary shares how to approach vision boarding as a self-love practice rooted in intention, self worth, and presence rather than pressure, perfection, or productivity.If you want Mary’s vision board template, you can get instant access at maryscupoftea.com/vision and follow along.Instead of focusing on ho
Why Women Need To Stop Trying to Be “Good” with Joy Sullivan
As women, we’re often praised for being “good” — benevolent, proper, generous, and agreeable. But that version of goodness often comes at the expense of your mental health. And it requires a type of self-abandonment which leaves little room for complexity, creativity, or truth.Poet and writer Joy Sullivan joins Mary to explore why being “good” can be antithetical to being fully human. Together, th
The 7 Principles of Self-Love: What Loving Yourself Actually Means
In this episode, Mary explores seven principles of self love, using her Self-Love Tree framework as a calm and grounding guide for your year-end reflection and renewal.You will learn how to…Understand the roots of self-love: self-esteem, self-compassion, and self-worthApply the Self-Love Tree framework to your spiritual, emotional, mental, physical, social, romantic, and existential wellbeingCreat
How Toxic Positivity Harms Mental Health with Whitney Goodman, LMFT (Encore)
Mary talks with licensed psychotherapist Whitney Goodman about the harmful effects of toxic positivity on our mental health. We’ve all heard it, seen it, and experienced it — those moments when someone brushes off your pain and tells you to “just think positive!” It’s dismissive, overwhelming, and the opposite of self compassion.Whitney shares with us about... what toxic positivity is and the diff
7 Steps to Stop Overthinking and Make Decisions From a Place of Self-Love
If decision fatigue has you spiraling, this episode will help you reconnect with your needs, wants, desires, and values. Mary shares 7 steps for soothing anxiety, finding clarity, and making choices with confidence and from a place of self-love. You will learn how to... - Stop outsourcing your life to other people’s opinions - Regulate your nervous system so you can make decisions from a place of
How to Handle Relationship Conflicts with Confidence with Baya Voce
Relationship conflict doesn’t have to feel like walking on eggshells. With the right tools and a sense of confidence and self trust, even the messiest moments can become turning points for deeper intimacy. This conversation with relationship expert Baya Voce is packed with research-backed relationship advice that helps you understand why you fight the way you do—and how to shift patterns that have
An Intuitive Eating Tip That Will Help At Holiday Parties
If intuitive eating feels harder during the holidays, you’re not alone. Between buffet tables, endless trigger foods, family comments, and social anxiety, it’s easy to slip into old, disordered eating habits. In this solo episode, Mary shares a simple but powerful intuitive eating tip that can help you feel less crazy around food. This mindset shift will help you approach holiday eating from a pla
Why Self Worth Starts in Your Body with Beatriz Victoria Albina
People mistakenly believe that self worth lives in the mind. Like if you just think confident thoughts or repeat affirmations like “I’m a worthy woman,” it’ll magically click. But if you’ve ever tried to think your way into feeling like you are enough, you’ve probably noticed… it doesn’t last. That’s because true self worth doesn’t start in your head — it starts in your body.In this episode, Mary
Self Love Reminders for Women Who Are Ready for Healing | Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea
Self love isn’t a one-time epiphany; it’s a lifelong practice of coming home to yourself. True self-love is rooted in deep self-awareness — because you can’t fully love yourself without first knowing yourself.This Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea episode brings together some of my favorite clips about healing through self-love. My hope is that these reminders meet you exactly where you are and offer a ge
Confidence Practices for Women Who Want to Trust Themselves Again | Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea
Confidence isn’t something you either have or you don’t — it’s something you practice, lose, question, rebuild, and redefine a hundred times over.This “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” episode brings together some of the most powerful confidence advice. Whether you’re rebuilding your self confidence after a setback, learning to trust yourself again, or simply trying to quiet that inner critic, this epis
Powerful Mental Health & Mindset Shifts for Women Who Feel Lost | Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea
Taking care of your mental health is never one-size-fits-all, especially for women who experience self-criticism, overwhelm, and constant comparison.This is part of our “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” series, where I gathered some of the most powerful conversations we’ve had across 250+ episodes. Today’s episode focuses on mental health and positive mindset shifts for women who are ready to get unstuc
Healthy Relationship Advice for Women Who Value Love That Lasts | Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea
Healthy relationships are such a big part of self-love.But love, dating, and long-term partnership can feel complicated — especially when it comes to intimacy, communication, and navigating conflict. In this self-love podcast episode, we’re diving into relationship advice for women who value love that lasts.This is part of our “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” series, where I pulled together some of the
Female Friendships Advice for Women Who Crave Deeper Connection | Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea
This self love podcast is ALL about women empowerment, and friendships are such a key part of that.But female friendships in particular can feel complicated, especially as women navigate a world that often undervalues their emotional needs and social bonds. In this self-love podcast episode, we’re diving into friendship, connection, and how women can cultivate meaningful relationships in adulthood
Body Love & Self Worth for Women Who Hate Beauty Standards | Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea
Body love can feel impossible in a world obsessed with beauty standards, especially for women. In this self love podcast episode, we’re diving into body love, self worth, and how women can navigate a world that often undervalues them.This is part of our “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” series where you’ll hear a compilation of clips from our self love podcast. Today’s topic addresses how to love yourse
Eating Disorder Recovery Tools for Women Who Are DONE with Diet Culture | Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea
Eating disorder recovery is possible, even if it feels difficult at times. So many women struggle in silence with disordered eating and the constant pressure of diet culture, even if they’re not formally diagnosed with an eating disorder.In this special “Best Of” episode, I’m sharing some of the most powerful moments from our self-love podcast. And today’s topic is eating disorder recovery, breaki
How to Love Yourself Through Bad Body Image Days
Many women phase bad body image days, especially in a world that equates beauty with self worth.If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and struggled to feel comfortable in your skin, then this episode is for you. The relationship between body image and self-love is complex, but I’m here to remind you that body love is possible.By shifting our focus from our body image to how our bodies feel, we can r
How Diet Culture Hijacks Women’s Wellness w/ Christy Harrison, MPH (Encore)
Diet culture has a sneaky way of showing up everywhere. From weightloss plans disguised as “lifestyle changes” to wellness trends promising to heal everything from your skin to your soul. In this encore episode, I’m joined by Christy Harrison, MPH, RD—author of The Wellness Trap and Anti-Diet—to unpack how diet culture infiltrates the wellness world and impacts women’s health in ways that are anyt
To Love Yourself, You Have to Tell the TRUTH
You can’t truly love yourself if you’re lying to yourself.And you certainly can’t find peace in a version of you that’s not real.Because when you try to love a version of yourself that isn’t true, it feels empty. It’s like people-pleasing: if you sacrifice authenticity for approval, then who are they really approving of? Not the real you. And the same goes for self-approval. If we dress up a lie a
5 Signs of Low Self Esteem & How To Build Confidence (Encore)
A lack of self-confidence doesn’t always scream at you—sometimes it whispers in the background of your day. Today, Mary shares 5 not-so-obvious signs that your self-confidence might be quietly taking a hit… signs she’s personally working through, too.These confidence red flags are common, especially amongst women. From seeking validation in the wrong places to constantly doubting your decisions,
Building Confidence Through Mindfulness with Harvard Psychologist Dr. Ellen Langer
Ever wonder how some people move through life with ease, even when everything feels uncertain? According to Harvard psychologist Dr. Ellen Langer, it’s not about control—it’s about mindfulness. Mindfulness can be a vehicle to confidence, happiness and inner peace.Dr. Ellen shares with us her refreshingly practical take on mindfulness—not as meditation, but as a way of engaging with the world that
The #1 Relationship Tip from Couples Therapy (That Transformed My Marriage, Family, and Friendships)
If you are someone who loves building healthy relationships, communication skills, and personal growth, then this episode is for you.A few years ago in couples therapy, I learned one simple relationship tip that completely changed the way I communicate, especially during conflict. It’s something I come back to again and again, whether I’m arguing with my husband or navigating tension with a family
Confidence Tips for Teen Girls with My 17-Year-Old Sister!
Are you ready for a confidence pep talk from my wise little sister?! Though she’s only 17, her perspective on mental health, body-image, and self-love is relatable to teens and adults alike. Whether you’re a big sister, auntie, parent, caretaker, or teen, you’ll walk away with a confidence boost and encouragement for self-love. We talk about what it’s like growing up today—from social media pressu
Our Sister Trip to France: Self Esteem, Perfectionism, Highs and Lows
In this special episode, I sit down with my little sister to reflect on our unforgettable trip to France. Though my self-esteem was tested, it was a journey that made me and my sister closer than ever. From the cobblestone streets of Paris to the Mediterranean breeze in Nice, we share how travel can shape your confidence, challenge your mindset, and create memories you’ll never forget. You will he
3 Ways Women Sabotage Their Self Love + How To Love Yourself
Let’s dive into some unconscious ways us women tend to sabotage our self-love—especially in times of collective stress, societal pressure, and emotional overwhelm. In a world that constantly demands more from women—more productivity, more perfection, more performance—it’s no wonder we struggle to stay connected to our own self-worth.If you’ve ever felt reactive, rushed, or stuck in regret, this co
How to Love Yourself Amidst Trauma, Grief, and Chronic Pain with Ruthie Lindsey (Encore)
Ruthie Lindsey joins us for a powerful and tender conversation about healing, self-compassion, and what it truly means to love yourself. As a speaker and author, Ruthie shares her journey of navigating chronic pain, deep grief, and religious trauma. Her story reminds us that even in the most painful chapters of life, there is beauty to be found—and that healing is possible when we learn to come ho
Feeling Lost After Eating Disorder Recovery and Befriending Like-Minded Women
This is a “reverse interview” where Jessi Jean interviews Mary about the aftermath of ED recovery. Let’s unpack a feeling many of us know all too well—feeling lost, lonely, and realizing that making friends as an adult is HARD. We chat about how healing your relationship with food and body image can throw you into an existential crisis. You might have also asked yourself, "WTF just happened?" or "
Small Acts of Self-Care That Help My Mental Health
A personal solo episode where I (Mary) share my “small joys” i.e. little acts of self-care that have made a big difference. Each one has become a gentle anchor, a little nudge to remember who I am and what I need. And through them, I’m realizing how the act of keeping promises to myself—no matter how small—has become a declaration of self-worth.You will hear about... 6 teeny tiny self-care practic
How to Feel Sexy in a Long-Term Relationship with Sexologist Shan Boodram
Let’s talk about SEX, baby! Shan Boodram, a renowned sexologist and relationship educator, joins our self-love podcast to share powerful insights on how to feel sexy and confident in a long-term relationship. We explore the nuances of body-image insecurities and relationship dynamics, as Shan delivers her no-nonsense advice on how to feel sexy.You will learn how to...navigate body-image insecuriti
Boost Confidence with These Delulu Positive Mindset Shifts
What if a little bit of delusion might be exactly what you need to boost your confidence? As the kids these days say: “being delulu is the solulu!”Mary shares 4 mindset shifts– that some might consider “delusional”– but will do wonders for your confidence. You will learn how to... - lie to yourself in an empowering way lol - stop comparing yourself to others with one very simple mindset shift - br
Productivity Meets Self-Compassion: Overcome Overwhelm and Perfectionism with Oliver Burkeman
Have you ever felt overwhelmed by your to‑do list? This episode is truly the best productivity advice you'll ever receive because it's built on a foundation of self-compassion. It's Oliver Burkeman exposes why mainstream time management hacks fail and how accepting your human finitude liberates you to be meaningfully productive.You will learn how to...redefine productivity beyond endless to‑do li
5 Self Love Shifts to Get Your Spark Back If You’ve Lost It
Feeling stuck in a rut? Like you've lost your spark? You’re not alone. Many women experience moments where motivation seems to slip through their fingers, leaving them questioning their worth and purpose.Using a balance of mindset shifts and practical advice, Mary will guide you to reigniting your sense of self-worth. Tune in to hear small self-love shifts will help you get your spark back.You wil
Why Binge Eating Isn’t Really About Food with Nutritionist and Therapist Ryann Prentice
If you’ve ever felt “out of control” around food—whether it’s binge eating and/ or constantly feeling guilty when you eat—this episode will help you release any residual shame you might be carrying. Mary sits down with therapist + nutritionist Ryann Nicole to unpack why binge eating recovery is less about food and more about how we relate to it.You will learn... - a mantra for releasing food guilt
The Hidden Layers of Bulimia and Binge Eating with ED Psychologist Dr. Anita Johnston
If you want to stop binge eating or recover from bulimia, then we must address the deeper emotional roots of disordered eating. Mary sits down for a Part 2 with eating disorder psychologist, Dr. Anita Johnston, author of Eating in the Light of the Moon. In Part 1, we talked about the spiritual side of eating disorder recovery. Now in part 2, we zoom into the emotional layer beneath bulimia and bin
The Breakup That Paved My Self-Love Journey (From Heartbreak to Healing)
This episode is my honest reflection on a breakup that happened 7 years ago—long before I met my husband. It was a relationship that was equal parts toxic and transformative for my self-love journey. It ended up breaking my heart and somehow healing it, too. As women, it's hard to choose self-love in the midst romantic love.I’ve shared bits and pieces over the years, but today I’m telling you my f
Body Positivity for Kids: What to Say If a Kid Asks, “Am I Fat?” with Zoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW
Let’s talk about body positivity in children i.e. how to help kids build a healthy relationship with food and their bodies. Whether they’re your own kids or perhaps your siblings/ nieces/ nephews/ students, then I’m sure you want them to have healthy body-image. But raising body positive kids can be hard, especially when it means confronting your own fat phobia. Psychotherapist Zoë Bisbing, MSW, L
You Are Enough (A Free Chapter from My Self Love Book)
Four years ago, The Gift of Self-Love was officially published—a journey that started with a little ebook and the sweetest surprise from someone who believed in me. In this episode, I’m sharing the full-circle story of how this went from being a one-day dream to a best-selling self-love book. Plus life lessons on healthy relationships, mutual support, and long-term growth.If you are a woman who's
How to stay hopeful, soulful, and joyful with Victoria Hutchins
A special in-person conversation with Victoria Hutchins, a beloved poet, yoga teacher, and now author. CW: eating disorders and brief allusion to suicidal feelings. Victoria and Mary talk about… - A Little Life, a novel by Hanya Yanagihara - privilege, hustle culture, and mental health - mutual struggles with bulimia - thoughts on weight loss, Ozempic, and bariatric surgery - how nuance is disappe
10 Things Eating Disorder Recovery Taught Me (Encore)
This episode is for my eating disorder recovery warriors or any woman who has struggled with disordered eating, body image, undiagnosed bulimia, or diet culture in general. Mary shares her lessons learned in eating disorder recovery and how this journey is a gateway to deeper self awareness and of course, self love.You will learn... - Mary’s favorite mantras for getting through ED recovery and any
How To Stop Comparing Your Current Self To Your Past Self
Have you ever looked back at an old photo or memory and suddenly felt a pang of jealousy for your past self? Maybe you used to be more motivated, more social, more confident—or at least, that’s the story your brain is telling you. Comparing yourself will destroy your self esteem. Let's unpack why we romanticize the past and compare ourselves to who we used to be.You will learn... - the different w
The Spiritual Side of Eating Disorder Recovery with Dr. Anita Johnston (Encore)
WOW!!! This episode is a must-listen, especially for those in eating disorder recovery or dealing with any kind of disordered eating. In just one hour, Dr. Anita will enlighten you with her wisdom, humor, and helpful tools for healing your relationship with food. You will learn... - how disordered eating can be healed through spiritual stories and metaphors - why an eating disorder is a unique typ
My Unfiltered Opinions on Dating + Relationship Advice for Women
Mary shares her candid thoughts on modern dating, relationships, marriage and how to approach romantic love with self-love. From the age-old debate about who should pay for the first date to the importance of embodying the qualities you seek in a partner, this episode is filled with honest reflections and thought-provoking insights. Mary challenges traditional relationship narratives, encourages s
Self Worth & Breakup Advice with Kendra Allen
If you’ve gone through a break-up recently, this episode is for you. We're talking with breakup coach Kendra Allen to learn...how to cope with a situationship endingwhy going “no contact” is beneficial to a break-upways that break-ups are similar to addiction recoveryKendra Allen is a breakup coach, host of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast, author of The Breakup Workbook, and founder of Break Up
7 Self Love Lessons I’m Taking Into My 27th Birthday
For her 27th birthday episode, Mary shares 7 lessons she’s taking into her late-20s. Tune in for learnings on self-acceptance, self-awareness, confidence, joy and self-love as a whole. Hopefully these lessons will change your perspective on what it means to love yourself.You will learn about...the dual nature of self-lovethe surprising secret to discovering your strengthsa powerful mindset shift t
How To Make Adult Friendships Easier with Kat Vellos
If making friends feels hard, then this episode is for you.
You will learn...
why making friends as an adult feels hard
exactly WHERE you’ll find your people
how to make friends who live close to you
actionable tips to help you find, keep, and strengthen your friendships
Our guest, Kat Vellos, is a trusted expert on the power of cultivating meaningful friendships. She’s a speaker and author of t
How do I deal with a fatphobic friend?
(Trigger Warning: Talk of EDs & Fatphobia)
Dear Mary,
How do I navigate friendship with a very fatphobic and generally-judgmental friend?
She is someone I met when I had anorexia. A lot of what we bonded over was the understanding of restrictive eating, because she had struggled with that as well. She is former military and has a lot of military influences to the way she views health and fitness,
How Traveling to Cuba Changed My Life
I went to Cuba knowing it wouldn’t be a typical vacation, but I wasn’t prepared for just how profoundly it would move me.
To every question I asked my tour guide, the answer was almost always, “It’s complicated.” They say you will leave Cuba with less answers and more questions— here are some of mine:
How can something be equal parts heartbreaking and heartwarming? Where is the boundary between su
Motivating Yourself with Self Love vs Self Criticism (Encore)
Self-criticism is NOT a good long-term motivation strategy. Let’s talk about how to motivate yourself with self-compassion instead.
Tune in to learn...
Why you might be feeling de-motivated
A technique called “10 WHYs” to find intrinsic motivators
How to employ self-discipline (but not in the way that you think…)
Tools to find and create motivation through a lens of SELF-LOVE
Remember:
The Confident Energy We’re Bringing to 2025
“My new years resolution is to get louder, more annoying, bitchier, and overall a bigger problem that previously thought.” ~@julesandthevibe on TikTok
This is not a soft self-love episode. This is an audacious one.
Because 2025 is the year of audacity.
It’s time to stop apologizing for taking up space, to say the weird thing, and to bet on yourself—even when it feels clunky, messy, or downright sc
#231: Meet My Bestie! Neurodivergence, Retreat Reflections, and 2025 Goals
A special in-person recording where Mary has a heart-to-heart with her best friend Dahli! You can watch the video version on Spotify or YouTube.
Tune in to hear…
retreat reflections from Sedona to Portugal
Dahli’s mental health journey exploring ADHD and autism
our goals for 2025
Remember: live, laugh, love!!!
Connect with Dahli on IG: @imdahlidurley
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#230: Bestie Break-Ups and Why Female Friendships Feel So Fragile with Danielle Bayard Jackson
In some ways, women are known as being the connectors, the party hosts, the drivers of relationships. A byproduct of spending centuries constrained to child-rearing and home-making is that many of us have this bio-cultural skill of building community. Why is it then that many of us feel intimidated by other women, lacking in our female friendships, and worrying if our friends truly like us? And as
#229: Deepening Self-Trust
In this week’s episode, Mary discusses the importance of self-trust and how it plays a role in developing a deeper, more authentic relationship with yourself. She shares how trusting yourself means letting go of control over outcomes and embracing the process, especially when things don’t go as planned.
Remember: Trust the process, release the result.
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#228: Dear Mary, should I stay friends with my ex?
Dear Mary,
I would love some of your wisdom in relation to my ex.
Things fell apart for reasons that are complicated and awful. But we tried to remain friends. I feel I made an effort, I kept messaging, I asked him about his life, I organized a catch up. I still had lots of feelings to process but I put them aside because I wanted to maintain a friendship.
I backed off a bit while he was on holida
#227: The Messiness of Human-ness with Carissa Potter
This was supposed to be a well-thought-out, polished interview with artist and author Carissa Potter, better known as @peopleiveloved on Instagram. Instead, this turned out to be a vulnerable conversation about parents, religion, narcissism, and overall, our human-ness.
Our guest today, or perhaps more accurately our co-host Carissa has over 800,000 followers on social media but the first sentence
#226: 5 Mantras to Get You Through Tough Times
If you’re going through a difficult time, here are 5 reminders to ground you in self-love.
You will learn...
Where mantras originate from and why they’re helpful
How to work with your mindset to gain greater perspective
What to tell yourself when you’re going through a hard time
Which one of these affirmations resonated with you the most? Or do you have your own mantra that you love? Let me know
#225: Can Food Freedom Coexist with Chronic Conditions (PCOS, Celiacs, Crohns, IBS, etc)? with Abbie Attwood
If you have a chronic health condition, then you know how extra difficult it is to navigate food and body-image struggles. Between wellness culture telling you to cut out this or that food and lose weight for “health reasons,” it can be triggering to manage your symptoms without slipping back into a restrictive mindset. And the worst part is, even medical professionals prescribe dietary restrictio
#224: How To Process Feelings Effectively
The common misconception is that feeling your feelings means sitting, sulking, and staying where you are until you feel good enough to move forward.
But there’s a much more effective way to process your feelings. Tune in to learn how + hear how Mary is applying this technique to her own life.
Remember: emotions need motion!
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