The Best of You
Join therapist and author Dr. Alison Cook as she guides you through tough challenges with wisdom, kindness, and grace. Together with friends and experts, the podcast unpacks the best of psychology from a faith-based perspective. You'll discover how to break free from painful patterns, mend your past, and find what brings out the best in you.
Episodes
When You’re Exhausted From Proving You’re Good Enough
Today's Scripture: Titus 3:3–7What happens when even your faith begins to feel like another place where you have to prove yourself?
Today’s Scripture reminds us that God saves and renews us not because of how well we perform, but because of His kindness, love, and mercy. This episode will help you recognize when good qualities such as responsibility, faithfulness, and helpfulness are being drive
218. From Panic Attack to Survivor Season 50 Winner: How Aubry Bracco Learned to Trust Herself Again
What if the greatest risk isn't failing?
What if it's losing yourself while trying to succeed?
In this episode, Dr. Alison sits down with Survivor 50 winner Aubry Bracco for a conversation about resilience, identity, and what it means to stay grounded in yourself through both success and disappointment.
Aubry shares the deeply personal journey behind her years on Survivor—from experiencing a pa
When Your Pain Is Misunderstood
Today's Scripture: 1 Samuel 1:10–18
What do you do when someone misreads your pain and assumes the worst about you?
Today’s Scripture introduces us to Hannah, whose anguish is mistaken for wrongdoing even as she is pouring out her soul to God. Her story reminds us that other people may misunderstand your tears, your reactions, or the years behind your pain—but God does not. This episode will he
How Jesus Meets You in Grief
Today's Scripture: John 11:17–27, 32–36
What do you do when grief leaves you wondering where God was—and why He didn’t intervene?
Today’s Scripture shows us a Jesus who does not rush past sorrow, shame us for our questions, or demand that hope replace our tears. He enters the place of pain and weeps with us. This episode will help you honor your grief without mistaking it for a failure of faith
When You Feel Alone—and Wonder Where God Is
Today's Scripture: Psalm 145:8–18What do you do when loneliness starts to make you question God’s nearness?
Today’s Scripture reminds us that God does not ask us to come with polished words, tidy emotions, or perfect faith. God draws near when we call on him in truth. This episode will help you bring your actual self into God’s presence, including the parts of you that feel angry, unseen, disapp
How to Know If It’s Your Inner Critic or Conviction
Today's Scripture: 1 John 3:18–20
What do you do when the harshest voice in your life is the one inside you? Today’s Scripture helps us distinguish between true conviction, which leads to repair and life, and self-condemnation, which crushes us with shame. This episode helps you recognize the inner critic, notice when self-criticism starts to sound spiritual, and rest your heart in the presence o
217. What to Do When You’re the Only One Trying: Leslie Vernick on Emotionally Destructive Relationships
Every marriage goes through difficult seasons.
But what happens when you're the only one willing to do the work?
When every conversation ends in blame, defensiveness, or silence? When you're trying to repair the relationship, but your partner refuses to take responsibility?
In this week's episode, Dr. Alison sits down with licensed clinical social worker and relationship expert Leslie Vernick t
How to Believe What God Says About You
Today's Scripture: Judges 6:11–16What do you do when God calls you beloved, strong, courageous, or capable — but a part of you does not believe it applies to you? Today’s Scripture shows God meeting Gideon while he is afraid and hiding, then calling him a “mighty warrior.” This episode helps you notice the old stories you’ve been living under and begin trusting God’s presence more than your fear,
How to Stop Silencing What You Need
Today's Scripture: Luke 18:35–43
What do you do when you’ve learned to swallow your needs, lower your voice, or stop asking for help? Today’s Scripture shows a blind man crying out to Jesus while the crowd tells him to be quiet — and Jesus stops to listen. This episode helps you notice where you’ve been trained into silence, reclaim the dignity of your longing, and answer Jesus’ question: “What d
What to Do When You Can’t Feel God Anymore
Today's Scripture: Psalm 77:1–12
What do you do when you believe in God, keep showing up, and still feel nothing? Today’s Scripture gives language for spiritual desolation — the ache of crying out to God and not feeling comforted. This episode helps you bring honest questions to God, understand why distress can make it hard to feel what you know, and practice remembering when God feels far away.
When You’re Tired of Being the Strong One
Today's Scripture: Colossians 1:15–20
What do you do when your nervous system believes everything depends on you? Today’s Scripture reminds us that it is in Christ (not in our own control)that all things hold together.
This episode helps you recognize over-responsibility, release what was never yours to carry, and learn how to participate in love without becoming the hidden center of everyone e
216. Forgiveness Without Self-Abandonment: How to Forgive Without Ignoring the Harm with Amy Orr-Ewing
"Can I forgive someone and still keep healthy boundaries?"
"Why does forgiveness still feel impossible?"
Forgiveness is one of the most beautiful teachings of the Christian faith—and one of the most misunderstood.
Many of us learned that forgiveness meant moving on quickly, letting go of our anger, or restoring a relationship before trust had been rebuilt. But what if forgiveness isn't about mi
Stop Letting Fear Make You Feel Smaller Than You Are
Today's Scripture: Numbers 13:25–33
What do you do when fear makes a hard conversation, new opportunity, or uncertain future feel bigger than your capacity to face it? Today’s Scripture shows how fear can distort self-perception, magnify obstacles, and make us feel like “grasshoppers in our own eyes.”
This episode helps you notice fear without letting it shrink your sense of God, yourself, or w
How to Love Someone Without Trying to Control Them
Today's Scripture: Luke 13:34–35
**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**What do you do when someone you love will not come close, receive help, or change the pattern that is hurting them? Today’s Scripture gives us a tender and honest picture of Jesus longing to gather Jerusalem like a hen gathers her chicks —and grieving that they were not willing.
This episode helps you lo
How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone Who Hurt You and Seems to Be Winning
Today's Scripture: Psalm 37:1–8
What do you do when someone who hurt you seems to be winning? Today’s Scripture speaks into the anger, grief, resentment, and fixation that can rise up when people do harm and appear to get away with it.
This episode helps you care about justice without letting someone else’s wrongdoing take over your inner life. You’ll learn:
*Why “do not fret” means more than
When God Doesn’t Remove the Thing You Begged Him to Change
Today's Scripture: 2 Corinthians 12:7–10 **Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**What do you do when you’ve prayed for something to change—and it still hasn’t? In today’s episode, Dr. Alison reflects on one of the most uncomfortable passages in the New Testament: Paul’s thorn in the flesh. Paul pleads with God three times for it to be removed, and God does not remove it. Instead
215. 5 Toxic Patterns + The Family Role You Didn’t Choose But Still Carry
Have you ever noticed how quickly old patterns resurface when you're around family?
Maybe you find yourself walking on eggshells. Struggling to voice your preferences. Feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions. Or slipping back into roles you thought you'd left behind years ago.
In this episode, Dr. Alison revisits one of the most requested conversations from the podcast, exploring how th
Help May Be Closer Than You Think
Today's Scripture: Genesis 21:14–19
What if the help you need is closer than you can see right now? In today’s episode, Dr. Alison reflects on the story of Hagar in the wilderness—a woman who had been used, cast out, and left to survive what she did not choose. When the water runs out, Hagar reaches the end of herself. But God hears, draws near, and opens her eyes to a well that was already there
What To Do When You Step Out in Faith and Start to Panic
Today's Scripture: Matthew 14:22–33**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**Have you ever taken a risk, stepped out in faith, and then wondered if you made a mistake? In today’s episode, Dr. Alison reflects on the story of Peter walking on water toward Jesus. Peter begins with courage, but when the wind picks up, fear takes over and he starts to sink. This passage reminds us that
When Your Spirit Feels Drained and You’re Barely Holding On
In today’s episode, Dr. Alison reflects on David’s honest prayer: “My spirit fails.” This is not a polished prayer or a failure of faith. It is a truthful prayer from a depleted soul. If you’re still functioning on the outside but feel dry, drained, or quietly unraveling on the inside, this passage gives you language for coming to God exactly as you are.
We explore:
*Why depletion is not lazine
What If I Believe I Don’t Deserve Anything?
Today's Scripture: Ephesians 1:3–12
**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**
Why is it so hard to receive a love that's freely given—especially if you’ve learned that love has to be earned, approval is conditional, or goodness is for other people? In today’s episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on Paul’s astonishing words about blessing, belovedness, adoption, redemption, forgiv
214. The Difference Between God's Voice and Spiritual Manipulation with Theologian Steven Tracy
Scripture is powerful.
It has the power to comfort, guide, convict, and restore. But when it's taken out of context or used to control, it can also leave deep wounds.
In this conversation, Dr. Alison sits down with theologian and Mending the Soul co-founder Dr. Steven Tracy to explore how Scripture can be used as medicine—or as poison—for those who have experienced abuse.
Together, they unpack
The Day Children Play Again: God’s Vision for a Restored World
Today's Scripture: Zechariah 8:4–5
What if one of the clearest signs of healing isn’t just that danger ends—but that joy returns? In today’s episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on Zechariah’s beautiful vision of restoration: elderly men and women sitting safely in the streets, and children playing again. It’s a picture of hope after devastation, safety after fear, and joy returning to the most vuln
When Your Pain Becomes Your Identity: How Jesus Gives You a New Name
Today's Scripture: Mark 5:1–20
Have you ever started answering to a name your pain gave you? In today’s episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on the story of the man living among the tombs in Mark 5—a man whose torment had become his name. When Jesus asks, “What is your name?” he does not ask in order to shame him, but to surface what has claimed him and begin the work of setting him free. We explore
A Prayer for the Tired, Needy, and Overwhelmed
Today's Scripture: Psalm 86:1–7
What do you do when you feel so tired, stretched thin, or aware of your need that even prayer feels vulnerable? In today’s episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on the tender image of a God who bends low to hear us. This passage gives us permission to bring our need honestly into God’s presence—not as a shame statement, but as a truth statement. We explore:
*Why need
How to Sit With Grief When You Don’t Know What to Say—Even to Yourself
Today's Scripture: Romans 12:15**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on the holy work of mourning with those who mourn. She explores why grief often needs presence more than advice, and how attunement, co-regulation, and the way of Jesus help us sit with sorrow without rushing to fix it. We explore:*Why grief can feel so isolating*What
213. Inner Work and Outer Boundaries: Why Healing Requires Both
What if healing isn’t just about changing your circumstances—but also tending what’s been growing inside of you?
Last week, we explored the metaphor of seed and soil: the way your nature and your nurture shape who you become. This week, we’re going deeper. Because your inner world isn’t just one plant—it’s more like a whole garden.
In this episode, we’ll explore the difference between tending yo
When Family Loyalty Gets Complicated
Today's Scripture: 1 Samuel 20:12–17In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on the complicated loyalty Jonathan faces as Saul’s son and David’s friend. Through the lens of family systems, she explores what happens when love, truth, guilt, and unhealthy family roles collide. We explore:*Why family loyalty does not mean covering for harm or pretending everything is okay*How family systems often wo
Overstimulated, Touched-Out, and Trying Not to Lose It
Today's Scripture: Mark 6:31-32**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on Jesus’ tender invitation to come away to a quiet place and rest. She explores overstimulation, constant availability, and why honoring your limits is not a failure of love—it may be what helps you return to love. We explore:*Why overstimulation is often a capacity
When Fear Has Been Running the Show
Today's Scripture: Psalm 34: 4-8In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on what it means to bring fear into the presence of God. Instead of shaming fear or trying to force it away, she offers a compassionate way to recognize the fearful places within us and return to love. We explore:*Why fear can become a quiet but powerful inner leader*How fear and shame work together to keep us hiding*What it
When Submission Has Been Used to Silence You
Today's Scripture: Ephesians 5:21–33**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on the often misunderstood language of submission. She explores the heart of Paul’s teaching through the lens of Jesus: mutual reverence, self-giving love, and power expressed through care—not control. We explore:*What submission is not *Why Ephesians 5 begins wi
212. Why You Feel Everything So Deeply (and Other People Don’t): Childhood, Sensitivity & the Nervous System
Why do certain situations overwhelm you while someone you love seems completely unaffected?
In this episode, Dr. Alison explores one of the most important questions we ask about ourselves: Why am I the way I am?
Using the image of a seed planted in soil, she explains how your God-given wiring, childhood environment, sensitivity, and nervous system all work together to shape the person you are t
Finding Secure Attachment in God When Productivity, Approval, or People Can’t Sustain You
Today's Scripture: Jeremiah 17:5–8
In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on the powerful image of a tree planted by water. She explores what happens when we ask approval, productivity, perfectionism, control, or another person’s response to carry the full weight of our security. We explore:
*Why needing people is not the problem—but making one person your source can drain your soul
*How app
How to Break a Bad Habit Without Hating Yourself
Today's Scripture: Mark 9:43–47**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**What do you do when you keep returning to the same behavior—the one that offers relief in the moment but leaves you feeling ashamed, disconnected, or farther from love? In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on Jesus’ intense words in Mark 9:43–47 and reframes them not as an invitation to self-hatred, but
When You Feel Stuck in a Pit & Help Seems Far Away
Today's Scripture: Psalm 40:1–3
What do you do when you’ve prayed, waited, done the work, and still feel stuck in the middle of a pit? In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on Psalm 40:1–3 and the kind of patience that isn’t passive, polished, or emotionally detached—but deeply honest before God.
This episode is for anyone who feels worn down by waiting and needs a reminder that God hears,
How to Be Honest When You’re Angry Without Being Harmful
Today's Scripture: Ephesians 4:26–27
**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**
Anger can be confusing—especially if you were taught it was bad, dangerous, or unspiritual. But Scripture gives us a more nuanced path: anger itself is not automatically sin, but it does need care.Today’s episode looks at Ephesians 4 and the difference between anger as a signal and anger as a force t
211. Is Productivity Ruining Our Mental Health? Why We Need More Play (Piera Gelardi)
When did being a responsible adult become synonymous with being serious all the time?
Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that curiosity, playfulness, imagination, and wonder were things we needed to leave behind in order to grow up. But what if those qualities aren't distractions from a meaningful life?
What if they're essential to it?
In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook sits down with en
When You’re Carrying Too Much Responsibility by Yourself
Today's Scripture: Numbers 11:10–17There is a kind of exhaustion that comes from feeling responsible for too many people, emotions, needs, and outcomes. Today’s episode looks at Moses’ honest breaking point in Numbers 11 and the mercy of God’s response. God does not shame Moses for being overwhelmed. He gives him support.
*The hidden exhaustion of over-responsibility*Why capable people often stru
Over-Functioning, the Pressure to Meet Every Need, and What We Can Learn from Jesus
Today's Scripture: Mark 1:35–39
When everyone needs something from you, it can feel loving—even responsible—to respond immediately. But there is a difference between compassion and being controlled by demand. Today’s episode looks at Mark 1 and the surprising way Jesus responds when everyone is looking for him. He withdraws to pray, stays rooted in God, and moves from clarity instead of urgency.
When You’re Trying to Control What You Can’t Control
Today's Scripture: Psalm 46:1–7
When life feels unsteady, our bodies often know before our minds do. We tighten, scan, spiral, and reach for control—trying to make uncertainty disappear before we let ourselves rest. Today’s episode walks through Psalm 46 and the promise that God is not our escape from trouble, but our ever-present help in trouble. In this episode, we explore:
*The difference be
How to Get Dressed on the Inside
Today's Scripture: Colossians 3:12–15
Every morning, we get dressed before stepping into the world—but what are we wearing on the inside? In today’s episode, we reflect on Colossians 3. This isn’t about performing spiritual maturity or pretending hard feelings aren’t there. It’s about receiving the qualities of Christ deep within your own soul, so they can begin to shape how you show up for yours
210: From Emotionally Immature Parents to Emotionally Mature Parenting with Dr. Lindsay Gibson
What does it actually mean to raise an emotionally mature child?
In this powerful conversation, Dr. Alison Cook sits down with renowned psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson, whose groundbreaking book "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" helped millions name what they didn’t receive growing up.
Now, Dr. Gibson turns toward a new question: How do we become the kind
Learning to Recognize the Voice of God
Today's Scripture: 1 Samuel 3:1–10
Have you ever wondered if God was speaking, but you weren’t sure? In today’s episode, we look at the story of Samuel learning to recognize God’s voice. His story reminds us that discernment is not always instant clarity. Sometimes it begins with practice, humility, repetition, and the help of wise guides. We explore:
*Why discernment often takes practice
*How
What to Do When You Have No More Capacity (But Life Asks You to Keep Showing Up Anyway)
Today's Scripture: John 2:1–11
What do you do when you’ve run out of energy, patience, joy, or capacity? In today’s episode, we look at Jesus’ first miracle at the wedding in Cana, where the wine runs out and Jesus quietly meets a hidden need. This passage offers a tender picture of a God who does not shame our lack, but meets us with dignity and generosity. We explore:
*Why running out does not
The Relief of Feeling Small Under a Big Sky
Today's Scripture: Psalm 8:1-9
Have you ever looked up at the sky and felt both small and strangely held? In this episode, Dr. Alison explores Psalm 8 and the healing power of wonder. We’ll look at how awe quiets the anxious ego, helps the nervous system soften, and reminds us that being small does not mean being insignificant. We explore:
*Why awe helps interrupt anxiety and overcontrol
*The d
What If Church Hurt Makes Gathering Feel Unsafe?
Today's Scripture: Hebrews 10:24–25
**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.** If you’ve ever heard “do not give up meeting together” and felt guilt rise in your body, this episode is for you. In today’s reflection on Hebrews 10:24–25, Dr. Alison offers a compassionate look at church hurt, spiritual community, and why this passage was never meant to be used as a weapon. We explo
209. Triggered in Marriage, Parenting, or Friendship? How to Respond Without Overreacting OR Shutting Down
What if getting “triggered” isn’t the problem… but a signal?
We all have moments where our body reacts fast—your heart races, your defenses go up, and suddenly you’re not responding from your wisest self.
In this episode, Dr. Alison sits down with Dr. Kelly Flanagan to explore what’s really happening in those moments—and how to respond with more clarity, connection, and intention.
Together, the
Attachment, Loyalty, and the Courage to Stay
Today's Scripture: Ruth 1:16–18
What’s the difference between love that strengthens your soul and loyalty that slowly erases you? In today’s reflection on Ruth 1, Dr. Alison Cook explores Ruth’s freely chosen commitment to Naomi—and why healthy love never uses guilt, pressure, or control to make someone stay. This episode offers a nuanced look at staying, leaving, agency, and the kind of attachme
When a Bible Verse Feels Unsafe
Today's Scripture: Matthew 5:29–30
**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.** Some Bible passages don’t just make us think—they make our bodies brace. In today’s reflection on Matthew 5:29–30, Dr. Alison Cook offers a compassionate way to read one of Jesus’ hardest teachings without fear, shame, or self-condemnation. This episode explores:
*How fear-based religion can shape the
When Your Nervous System Is Scanning for Safety
Today's Scripture: Psalm 121:1–8
When life feels uncertain, your nervous system may start scanning for safety—looking for reassurance, protection, or some solid place to land. In today’s reflection on Psalm 121, Dr. Alison Cook explores how God meets us in that vulnerable place as the One who watches over our coming and going. We explore:
*Why your nervous system scans for safety
*How hypervigi
How to Stop Needing Approval
Today's Scripture: Galatians 1:10
Have you ever said yes when something inside you wanted to say no?
In today’s episode, we look at Galatians 1:10 and the hidden cost of living for approval. In this episode, you’ll learn:
*How approval-seeking disconnects you from your own voice
*How early family roles shape your need for approval
*Why the helper, peacekeeper, or responsible one within may s
208. Spiritual Dryness, Burnout, and the Desert Seasons of Faith with Tish Harrison Warren
What if the dry, weary place you’re in isn’t something to escape—but a place where God is working?
So many of us know that quiet middle space: you’re not in crisis, but you’re not exactly flourishing either. You’re tired, spiritually dry, disconnected, or simply going through the motions. It’s not dramatic enough to call a breakdown, but something in you knows you’re weary.
In this episode, Dr.
The Ache of Feeling Unseen or Overlooked
Today's Scripture: 1 Samuel 16:1–7
Have you ever felt overlooked— not chosen, not noticed, not even considered?
In today’s episode, we look at the story of Samuel anointing David and what it reveals about how easily we evaluate ourselves and others by what is visible. We explore:
*How the halo effect shapes who gets noticed, chosen, or valued
*Why external validation is a shaky foundation fo
When You Feel Judged
Today's Scripture: Luke 7:37–39
Have you ever wanted to bring something real into the light—but felt afraid of being judged?
In today’s episode, we look at the woman in Luke 7 who walks into a room full of people who already think they know her story and brings her whole self to the feet of Jesus. This passage shows us the difference between shame that keeps us hiding and the kind of love that
The Neuroscience of Guilt and Confession
Today's Scripture: Psalm 32:3–7
Have you ever carried something so long that it started to feel normal?
In today’s episode, we look at Psalm 32 and what happens when hidden guilt, shame, or regret stays buried inside the body and soul. I’ll walk you through the difference between true guilt and shame, why suppression can take such a physical toll, and how honest confession can become a doorway
Why You Feel Powerless (and How to Find Your Voice)
Today's Scripture: 2 Timothy 1:7There’s a kind of exhaustion that comes from feeling like nothing you do makes a difference. In today’s episode, Dr. Alison Cook explores 2 Timothy 1:7 and the psychology of feeling powerless. Drawing on the concept of learned helplessness and nervous system overwhelm, she unpacks why you may feel stuck, shut down, or unable to act—and how to begin reclaiming your v
207. Why You Can’t Stop Overthinking—and How to Break the Spiral
Have you ever replayed a conversation over and over in your mind?
Maybe it was something your partner said. A text that felt off. A moment at work. A look on someone’s face. Suddenly your mind is looping, analyzing, judging, and trying to solve something that never seems to resolve.
Today’s conversation with science writer Donna Jackson Nakazawa is about rumination—what many of us experience as
Why You Resist the Very Thing That Could Help You
Today's Scripture: 2 Kings 5:1–14Why do we resist the very things that could actually help us heal? In today’s episode, Dr. Alison Cook explores the story of Naaman in 2 Kings 5 and the deeply human tendency to reject simple, meaningful steps toward healing. With insight from psychology and identity formation, she unpacks why small, ordinary actions can feel threatening—especially when your sense
When Everything Feels Out of Control
Today's Scripture: Mark 4:35–41What happens when fear takes over your body—and you can’t think clearly? In today’s episode, Dr. Alison Cook explores the story of Jesus calming the storm in Mark 4, alongside the psychology of panic, fear, and the nervous system. She explains why your body goes into fight-or-flight mode, why you feel the urge to fix or control everything, and how to gently return to
Why You Feel Indecisive (and What to Do About It)
Today's Scripture: James 1:5–8Struggling to make a decision or stuck in overthinking? In this episode, Dr. Alison explores the real reason behind indecision and how learning to work with the different parts of you can help you find clarity and move forward.
We explore:*Indecision and overthinking*Inner conflict and parts work*Decision fatigue and self-doubt*Finding clarity without forcing answer
206. Getting Unstuck: When Parts of You Are in Conflict (And How to Find Relief)
What if the reason you feel stuck… isn’t because something is wrong with you, but because different parts of you are pulling in different directions?
We all know that feeling: one part of you wants to follow through, while another part resists. And often, one side takes over… leaving you with regret or confusion afterward.
In this episode, Dr. Alison is joined by IFS therapist and best-selling a
When You Can’t Rush the Season You’re In
Today's Scripture: Ecclesiastes 3:1–11If you feel stuck in a season that won’t change, this episode offers a grounded, compassionate way to navigate uncertainty without forcing what isn’t ready.
We explore:*Emotional stuckness and waiting*Anxiety about the future*Control vs. surrender*Finding peace in the uncertaintyEmail us at info@dralisoncook.com with topics or passages you'd like us to cover
When Life Feels Unfair (and Why Comparison Keeps You Stuck)
Today's Scripture: Matthew 20:1–16Ever notice how quickly comparison can steal your peace—even when life is going well? In this episode, Dr. Alison explores the psychology of social comparison and how it shapes your sense of worth, helping you move from insecurity to grounded confidence .
We explore:*Social comparison and insecurity*Why comparison feels like a threat*Letting go of keeping score*F
The Truth About Overfunctioning and Burnout
Today's Scripture: Psalm 127:1–2If you feel constantly exhausted, it may not be about doing too much—but about carrying what was never yours to carry. In this episode, Dr. Alison explores Psalm 127 and the concept of “anxious toil,” integrating attachment theory and nervous system insight to help you release over-responsibility and rediscover rest.
We explore:*Overfunctioning and burnout*Hypervi
You Are Not Meant to Do This Alone
Today’s Scripture is: 1 Thessalonians 5:9–11
In a culture that prizes independence, this episode offers a countercultural truth: healing happens in connection. Drawing on both Scripture and research on community and mental health, Dr. Alison explores how small, consistent relationships can restore your sense of belonging.
In this episode:
*Why community is essential for emotional health
*Resea
205. It’s Not Just Physical: The Emotional Trauma of a Medical Diagnosis
When a diagnosis, chronic illness, or unexpected health challenge enters your life, it can divide your story into a before and after. And often, we don’t have language for what’s happening beneath the surface.
In this episode, Dr. Alison and Dr. James C. Jackson explore the concept of medical trauma—and how it impacts not just your body, but your identity, your relationships, and your sense of me
Not All Intensity Is Love—The Problem With Love Bombing
Today’s Scripture is: Proverbs 27:6
**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**
When a relationship feels powerful, fast, and deeply affirming, it can be hard to slow down and discern what’s real. This episode unpacks the difference between emotional intensity and genuine love—helping you recognize red flags, trust your intuition, and move toward steady, grounded connection.
In
Let Your No Be No (And Stop Overexplaining!)
Today’s Scripture is: Matthew 5:33-37
Why is it so hard to say what we really mean? This episode explores the emotional and psychological roots of people-pleasing, over-explaining, and softening our truth. With insight from Scripture and psychology, you’ll learn how to move toward clarity, integrity, and more honest connection.
In this episode:
*The hidden cost of people-pleasing and overfuncti
God Draws Near to the Lonely
Today’s Scripture is: Psalm 68:4-10
If you’ve felt the ache of loneliness, this episode offers a deeply grounding reminder: your longing for connection is not a weakness, it’s part of how you were created. Blending Scripture with attachment psychology, Dr. Alison explores how God meets us within loneliness, not just after it’s resolved.
In this episode:
*The difference between loneliness and di
The Neuroscience of Resentment and Forgiveness
Today’s Scripture is: Romans 12:9–18
**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**
"Hate what is evil" and "bless those who persecute you" can feel like an impossible tension — until you understand what Paul is actually asking for. This episode unpacks one of scripture's most demanding passages and makes the case that clarity and love are not opposites. We explore:
We'll explore:
204. Procrastination Isn’t Laziness: What’s Really Holding You Back with Jon Acuff
What if procrastination isn’t about laziness… but a disconnect between who you want to be and what you actually do?
So many of us carry goals we care deeply about: habits we want to build, changes we long to make, ways we want to grow. And yet, we find ourselves stuck in the same patterns, circling the same resistance, wondering why it’s so hard to follow through.
In this episode, Dr. Alison Coo
You Can't Pour From an Empty Nervous System
Today’s Scripture is: Proverbs 4:20-23
Many of us have been taught that setting limits is selfish — that real love means giving without reserve. This episode makes the case, from both scripture and science, that boundaries are not walls against love but what protect love's integrity.
We'll explore:
-The research on compassion fatigue and what happens neurologically when we chronically override
Deny Yourself Does Not Mean Erase Yourself
Today’s Scripture is: Mark 8:34–36
**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**
This episode tackles one of the most misused phrases in all of scripture — and one that has caused real harm for a lot of people. We look at what Jesus was actually calling us toward, through the lens of psychology and the concept of the true and false self.
We explore:
-The difference between denyi
Attachment Wounds and Divine Holding
Today’s Scripture is: Psalm 27:10-14
This episode explores the psychology of attachment wounds through the lens of Psalm 27—one of scripture's most honest cries about being left behind.
We explore:
-what neuroscience tells us about how early attachment experiences literally shape brain architecture
-why our nervous systems stay on alert long after the original wound,
-how the psalmist's decl
Why You Go Back to Old Patterns
Even after moments of clarity or growth, many of us find ourselves returning to familiar patterns. Back to what we know. Back to what once felt safe.
In John 21, the disciples go back to fishing—returning to something familiar after everything they’ve just experienced. And it’s there, in the middle of that return, that Jesus meets them again.
In this episode, Dr. Alison reflects on why we go bac
203. Staying Close When Connection Feels Hard: The Relationship Skills No One Has Taught You (with Relationship Expert Dr. James Cordova)
What if the health of your relationship is shaping more of your life than you realize?
We spend so much time focusing on our individual growth—our healing, our self-awareness, our inner work. But at some point, that work has to find its way into our closest relationships.
And that’s where things often get complicated.
In this episode, Dr. Alison is joined by Dr. James Cordova to explore what it
Limiting Beliefs and Expectations
Sometimes the hardest limits we face are not external—they’re the expectations we’ve quietly learned to live within.
In Acts 3, we meet a man who has spent years sitting at the temple gate, asking for what he believes is possible. When Peter and John encounter him, they offer something entirely different—something he wasn’t even expecting to receive.
In this episode, Dr. Alison reflects on how l
When You’re Stuck in Your Head
There are moments when we find ourselves looping—replaying conversations, trying to make sense of what happened, analyzing every detail.
We stay in our heads, searching for clarity
This episode explores what it means to get stuck in our thoughts—and how, often, what we most need is not more analysis, but a return to presence, to relationship, and to the love already with us.
Today’s Scripture i
Relearning Joy After Survival
Today’s Scripture is: Psalm 118
There are seasons in life when we are simply trying to get through.
Holding it together.
Managing what’s hard.
Surviving.
And then there comes a moment when something begins to shift.
In this episode, Dr. Alison reflects on what it means to relearn joy after survival—and how joy can return, gently and gradually, as we begin to feel safe again.
Go Deeper:
Epi
EASTER: Love That Finds you Again
He is risen!
After walking through this Holy Week together—from safety, to betrayal, to suffering, to loss—we arrive at the moment that changes everything.
Resurrection.
New Life.
In this short Easter bonus episode, Dr. Alison reflects on John 20 and the deeply personal nature of resurrection—how Love meets us, finds us, and calls us by name.
This is the hope that allows us to face the hard p
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