Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau (formerly the Self Love Fix Podcast) explores discernment, the power of the voice, and how they impact you and the world. In a world of constant reacting and overexplaining, it teaches you to pause, notice what's happening, and respond with clarity. Each episode examines subtle dynamics in relationships, decisions, and inner life, helping you develop clarity without force or volume. The goal is to be clearer, not louder.
Episodes
Ep.27 Being Clear Doesn't Mean Telling People What to do
In this episode we explore how to remain your warm, kind, and whimsical self while being clear and direct (you can be both!). We also discuss why being clear doesn't mean telling people what they can and cannot do and how to be clear and direct sans the fear of being rude, blunt, or "mean." What you'll learn in this episode: The difference between being clear and being controlling—and why they tw
Ep 26. Can You Tell Yourself No?
***PSST, NO EPISODE NEXT WEEK SEPTEMBER 10, WE WILL BE BACK SEPTEMBER 17 IN LIGHT OF LABOR DAY*** In this episode, we chat: Why being comfortable and confident setting boundaries with other people might start with getting better at telling yourself no—and what your day-to-day choices can teach you about saying no when letting things slide, minimizing the severity of an issue, or simply going alo
Ep 25. What If You're More Interesting Than You Think?
In this episode, we chat: Why you should consider yourself—and the things you're drawn to—interesting and worth paying attention to, not just other people, and how uncovering the unique perspectives God has placed within you connects to the purpose over your life. What you'll learn in this episode: What the people you consider "interesting," "unique," and "cool" are doing differently that causes
Ep 24 Do They See You for Who You Are or Are They Just in Proximity to You?
In this episode, we chat: The FINE line between what it's like to have a connection-- a friendship, a relationship etc-- with someone who is delighted to learn the ins and outs of you and someone who... wants to relate to you on their terms What you'll learn in this episode: What it looks like when you make a decision to no longer FIGHT and adjust yourself in order to be seen. The difference betw
Ep 23. Can You Stay Clear When People Challenge Your Thinking?
In this episode, we chat: How to stay CLEAR AND FIRM on what you know, want, and believe when someone else's pressure or reactions challenge your boundaries, values and opinions. What you'll learn in this episode: Why a friendly "come onnn" after you've already said no is worth paying attention to—and how easily a decision can become a negotiation you never agreed to have. Why someone telling you
Ep 22. Do They Love You or... Do They Love What Happens to Them Because of You?
In this episode, we chat: The fine line between someone loving you and someone loving who they ARE and who they BECOME around you. What you'll learn in this episode: Why someone can genuinely enjoy being around you—and still be more attached to how they feel with you than to who you actually are. How to recognize the difference between someone who values you for your utility and someone who remai
Ep 21 On Giving Everyone the Benefit of the Doubt but... You
In this episode, we chat: Why it's high time you stop giving everyone but *yourself* the benefit of the doubt when something is off with that friendship, that job, that relationship etc. What you'll learn in this episode: • Why the benefit of the doubt becomes expensive when you're the only one paying for it. • Why grace needs... discernment and why you don't have to overextend yourself under the
Ep 20. You Don't Have to Become Unrecognizable Before You Leave
In this episode, we chat: Why you don't have to wait until you are a shell of yourself, hanging on a thread, practically on life support to leave or change your boundaries in that friendship, relationship, job, or business partnership. What you'll learn in this episode: • The difference between sacrificing yourself and making a willful sacrifice that doesn't steal from you • Recognizing when to sa
Ep 19 "I've Already Invested Too Much" (Says Who?)
In this episode, we chat: Staying in a relationship, job, career, or friendship longer than you planned because of the investment of....time even when you're stressed, unhappy, and dissatisfied and... how to gain the courage to choose different. What you'll learn in this episode: • The sunk-cost fallacy and what you might be doing early on that causes you to stay even when you're questioning the r
Ep 18 Am I Overthinking it or is Something Off?
In this episode, we chat: That moment when you're getting to know a friend, someone you're dating, a new workplace, someone you are considering collaborating with and you feel something is... off. You can't put your finger on it, but something isn't... right. But are you overthinking it? Are you being judgemental? Should you just... wait and see? What you'll learn in this episode: • Why whimsical
Ep 17. How Allowing Embarrassment builds Agency and Confidence
In this episode, we chat: Embarrassment-- it has a bad reputation. Let's fix that. This week, we introduce a fresh perspective on confidence, embarrassment, and why your willingness to look a little foolish may be one of your greatest assets. What you'll learn in this episode: • The relationship women with a strong sense of agency and confidence have with embarrassment compared to those with lower
Ep 16 Routines and Consistency for the Spontaneous, Whimsical Girl
In this episode, we chat: Why you're not "bad" at sticking to routines, inconsistent, or undisciplined... you just might need to tweak how you approach routines especially if you're a spontaneous, fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants type of gal. What you'll learn in this episode: How to actually STICK to your routines even when they feel and seem, well, borringg. How routines actually bring out MORE
Ep 15. Protect Your Whimsy: Friendship Edition
In this episode, we chat: How they say... you're the "sum of the 5 closest people around you." And while I personally find that particular phrase to be a bit corny, I've come to realize... there's wisdom in that phrase, especially, for the whimsy girl. What you'll learn in this episode: What friendship characteristics negatively impact whimsy, vibrant, playful, and emotionally alive women and w
Ep 14 The Return and Reclamation of Whimsy
In this episode, we chat: Whimsy as aliveness, joy, optimism, delight, and vibrancy--- NOT childishness-- and why all things whimsical deserve a front seat in your life. What you'll learn in this episode: Why whimsy AND sophistication can exist together at once-- a conversation on how paradox can and should work together really beautifully Whimsy as a reclamation of yourself, your agency, an
Ep 13 Betrayal, Grief, & Why No One Is Above the Program
In this episode, we chat: The grief and utter SHOCK that comes when relationships and friendships you thought would last... forever end. In this episode, we chat how remembering that no one is above the program might actually take you from difficulty accepting what happened to a calm peace and ability to finally move on with strength and dignity. What you'll learn in this episode: What "no one
Ep 12. Arriving in Singlehood (and Letting Go of Idolatry of Marriage & Relationships)
In this episode, we chat: What it's like when being single no longer feels like a problem to solve, a challenge to overcome, or something to trevail. In this episode, we discover the confidence, security, contentment, and PEACE that comes from arriving in singlehood and we confront the idolatry of marriage and relationships that... may be preventing you from getting there. What you'll learn in thi
Ep 11 Love is Not Enough Part 5-- Dating Lessons from My 30's.
Why love... is not enough. Part 5. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Navigating dating men who are insecure and the difference b
Ep. 10 Love is Not Enough-- Part 4 Dating Lessons From my 30's
Why love... is not enough. Part 4. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in
Ep 9 Love is Not Enough Part 3-- Dating Lessons from my 30's
In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. Part 3. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned
Ep 8 Love is Not Enough Part 2-- Dating Lessons From my 30's
In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. Part 2. What I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's th
Ep 7 Love is Not Enough Part 1-- Lessons from my 20's.
In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. The mistakes I made in my previous relationships. And what I got RIGHT in my 20's when it came to dating and what I undermined and didn't realize was important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone. You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: What I was evaluating and looki
Ep 6. What Are You Willing to Endure?
In this episode, we chat: A fresh perspective on the the ever-recylced conversastions around "Know[ing] Your Standards" and "Know[ing] Your Worth" through discussion of how to begin putting it into practice by examining and holding a magnifying glass to what you are willing to endure What you'll learn in this episode: Determining what you'are willing to endure in relationships and what its c
Ep 5 On Boundaries and Having a Strong "Internal No"
In this episode, we chat: What it really looks like to have a strong internal "no"—the kind that doesn't wobble when it comes to your standards and principles—and why some of our no's feel clear while others feel… negotiable. What you'll learn in this episode: What it looks like when your "no" isn't fully decided—and why you find yourself going back and forth on things you already said were sta
Ep 4 "When 'Let's See How It Goes' Costs You: A Red Flag You're Probably Overlooking in Work, Business, and Relationships"
In this episode we chat: Why we keep saying "let's see how it goes", what it costs is to ignore the GLARING red flag when something feels.... off, and how to start thinking and moving differently. You'll hear how to spot where you're taking on unnecessary misery and CONFUSION and how to make decisions that actually serve you—without going back and forth, without the noise, and with a whole lot of
Ep. 3 How You Deliver Honesty Matters
In this episode we chat: An HONEST conversation about how delivery MATTERS when it comes to honesty inasmuchas the message itself and how it can either strengthen or erode trust when it comes to relationships both romantic and platonic What You'll Learn in This Episode: Navigating "I was just being honest" conversations Honesty that controls and manages vs. the honesty that edifies Stewardi
Ep 2. Restraint as a Form of Power
In this episode we chat: Stewarding your voice when it comes to handling conflict, frustration, and points of contention with people without stepping out of YOUR character and simultaneously, without being a doormat. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How to handle situations where you're frustrated with someone and even tempted to lash out at them without giving into your ego/into your flesh
Ep 1. Presence over performance
Welcome to the FIRST epsiode of Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau (formerly known as the Self Love Fix Podcast)! In this episode we chat: The difference between presence and performance—and why leaning into presence can cause effortlessly shift your ability to connect to others in everyday conversation and in relationship EASILY and in a RELAXED manner. Think dropping the act of APPEARING a
A NEW podcast name is coming: What's happening to the Self Love Fix Podcast
Hi friend! It's been... a while. I know. Forgive me, girl. We're back but get this... we're coming back with a NEW name, NEW vision, same voice, same vibes 3.12.26. Tune in to this trailor to find out the new podcast name and find out: The new vision for the podcast, where we're headed What we've learned from the Self Love Fix Podcast and what we're taking as we're moving forwards A mini riff giv
266. An Announcement that Unexpectedly Turned into an Episode.
In this episode we chat: Leaning on God's wisdom and not your own understanding What's going to be happening hear on the pod for the next 2 months! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join the FREE Valued Woman challenge 10 day challenge below to enjoy 10 EASY to apply tips to start VALUING yourself STRAIGHT to your inbox! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE VALUED WOMAN CHALLENGE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure
265. Do you REALLY Value Yourself like You Say You Do?
In this episode we chat: The Proverbs 31 woman and how she demonstrated how she VALUES herself FINDING time to maintain and care for yourself even with a busy schedule-- it's there I promise!! How the way you carry yourself INFLUENCES how people treat you WORK WITH BEATRICE: I'm running a free 10 day email challenge called The Valued Woman challenge eek!! Over a 10 day period I will be
264. 30 things I learned in the last 30 years-- It's my birthday!.
In this episode we chat: The 30 things I've learned since turning 30! I promise these are non-generic and totally worth the listen! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to catch the valued masterclass at $19.95 ONLY through midnight 1/23/25 in honor of my 30th birthday! Valued is:a powerful, 52 minute masterclass that takes you from EFFORTING your way into SCRAPS of attention from INCONSISTENT MEN
263. Setting (And Executing!) Yearly Goals, Motivation, and Getting it Together for 2025!.
In this episode we chat: What I'm doing different in 2025 vs 2024 when it comes to goal setting and why 2024 was quite... directionless. My yearly goal setting + executing process (and why vision is KING when it comes to goal setting) Actionable tips all along the way on how to set, execute, AND ACHIEVE ALL your 2025 goals WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass a
"Your Truth, My Truth, Spirituality, Personal Development, and... Christianity, a much needed conversation"
In this episode we chat: The Personal Development to Spirituality to "My Truth" Pipeline Manifestation and what they DON'T tell you about the spiritual world God, the Truth, + the Spiritual Realm WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass at $77 where I teach you how to go from being a SLAVE TO ATTENTION from a man (aka feeling CONFUSED ABOUT HOW HE FEELS because he does
256. Is dating becoming an idol for you?.
In this episode we chat.... Why it's VERY HARMFUL to "see" how things are going and "wait it out" when you KNOW he is a walking dealbreaker How to STOP undermining your dealbreakers when you come across the "nice guy" the guy that seems like "the one" What it looks like to have dating/the marriage thing/the man thing be an IDOL in your life The dangers of IDOLIZING a man and therefore putting hi
255. Part 2 Confidence vs. Pseudo-confidence.
In this episode we chat.... Letting go of OVER-EXPLAINING or JUSTIFYING yourself + your decisions How talking TOO MUCH can actually be a sign of a LACK of confidence Why confident people say LESS WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era CLICK HERE TO ENROLL IN THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a f
254. Confidence vs. Pseudo-confidence (Part 1???)
In this episode we chat.... Confidence vs. FAKE confidence and how to tell the difference Ways insecurity masks itself through FAKE confidence How walking in FAKE confidence is actually incredibly manipulative WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to eff
254. Confidence vs. Pseudo-confidence (Part 1???)
In this episode we chat.... Confidence vs. FAKE confidence and how to tell the difference Ways insecurity masks itself through FAKE confidence How walking in FAKE confidence is actually incredibly manipulative WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to eff
253. Can't get over him? Listen to this.
In this episode we chat.... That feeling of OBSESSION with him wanting you back and what to do about it The surprising reason behind the OBSESSION that I guarantee you are not aware of Leaning on God during this time for strength and the ability to LET GO WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, on
252. Are You Dating a Man or a Project?
In this episode we chat.... The ONE wounded feminine trait you have that keeps causing you to get FRUSTRATED and EXHAUSTED by dating The dangers of being unequally yoked mentally and emotionally with a man Why dating a man who is operating on a mental and emotional level that is underdeveloped is a destiny KILLER for YOU.... AND HIM. WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAX
250. If You're Doubting the Connection or Relationship, Listen to This
In this episode we chat.... How to navigate doubting the romantic connection you're in whether you're single or in a relationship The two types of doubt that exist in dating and relationships Walking in God's best for you WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text back or you don't expe
249. Why being single is a position of PRIVILEGE
In this episode we chat.... How the patriarchy has distorted your view on your relationship status + what it means about you The privilege in being single that most do not SEE How to THRIVE in your singleness WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text back or you don't experience the PRO
248. If You've Went Through a Break Up or Feel Jaded in dating + love, listen to this!
In this episode we chat.... How I was able to bounce back after my break up SO QUICKLY How to RESTORE your belief in love and ability to love after a break up or after someone betrayed your trust Forgiveness after a relationship or betrayal WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text ba
247. The Wrong Men will Waste Your Time and... They Don't Care
In this episode we chat.... Why it is that the wrong men will waste your time for months, years even and think nothing of it. How boys-- NOT masculine men!-- will waste your time if you're not careful and how masculine men will approach you much MUCH differently. The case for celibacy, why I'm such an advocate for it-- and why I VERY MUCH BELIEVE masculine men will gladly WAIT! WORK WITH BEAT
246 Don't let ANYONE mess with your PEACE
In this episode we chat.... Why your STATE of peace + rest should be HIGHLY REGARDED and why the RIGHT MAN would do anything in his power to MAINTAIN your state of rest/peace The consequences of being around people who CONTINUALLY disturb your state of rest How to become someone that LISTENS TO ACTIONS more than words WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Y
245. Vision, Your Assignment, Identity, + Your Destiny
In this episode we chat.... Why every single person on this planet has VISION + an ASSIGNMENT from God The importance of keeping the RIGHT COMPANY and knowing when to zip it when it comes to the vision you have for yourself for MORE out of life How God has a plan + a vision for you and why you should know it! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminin
244. Are you Dating a Boy or a Man?
In this episode we chat.... Why MEN are providers and BOYS are not The difference between BOYS and MEN and spotting it in dating How the RIGHT man actually will invite EASE + make you 100x the woman you already ARE WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me m
243. The Case for Spirituality... An Unexpected Conversation
In this episode we chat.... The influence of spirituality in the online and personal development space Naiveté around spirituality and my relationship to it The spirituality that WORKS WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflove
242 Your Purpose, Being on Assignment, and... Dating?!
In this episode we chat.... A life update! What does it mean to be ON ASSIGNMENT/in your purpose and the impact of it on your dating life What happens to your assignment/purpose when you deal with WOUNDED masculine energy WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect wi
241 My Top 4 Controversial Beliefs About Dating
In this episode we chat.... The 4 controversial dating beliefs I have including ONE I used to be FULLY AGAINST-- Tune in to find out what it is! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of
240. Talk is Cheap, Attention is a Dime a Dozen, and Value is QUEEN!
In this episode we chat.... Wounded feminine vs. Balanced feminine when it comes to what she's LOOKING FOR in dating Why his ATTENTION shouldn't be impressive The difference between ATTENTION and being VALUED WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to purchase dating apps 101 If you're ready to go from SITUATIONSHIP to RELATIONSHIP, snag the FREE 5-day email bootcamp by clicking here CONNECT WITH BEAT
239. RELAXED dating (in your feminine) 101
In this episode we chat.... The difference between the WOUNDED feminine and BALANCED feminine and how BOTH impact your dating life How to shift from SCARCITY to ABUNDANCE in dating What IS relaxed dating and why dating was NEVER meant to be frantic or have you anxious and on TEN checking your phone every couple of minutes WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to purchase dating apps 101 If you're re
238 If You Feel Like He Doesn't VALUE You, Listen to This
Listen to this to.... REMEMBER who God designed you to be and to understand the VALUE of a woman To STOP holding on for dear life for someone who doesn't put in any EFFORT TO EARN YOU To understand WHY the feminine is meant to be in a position of CHOOSING who is worthy of her heart not for her to be GIVING it to any old anybody WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to get access to Dating Apps 101 th
236 Value vs. Worthiness (I'm Back!)
It's... been a while hasn't it bestie?! Well I have an AMAZING episode for you ALL about why it's been so hard for you to "know your worth" and why you should focus on knowing your VALUE instead. Your VALUE in general AND your VALUE in dating, relationships, marriage, work, your business etc, Tell a friend to tell a friend that i'm back!! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to apply for 1:1 coaching on
235 Expectations vs. Standards and the impact of BOTH on your love life
There's a THIN LINE between EXPECTATIONS and STANDARDS and knowing which is which is the difference between experiencing DISAPPOINTMENT in dating and actually experiencing what you WANT in dating. Listen in to this week's episode to find out more! CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR FREE FOR THE 4 DAY LIVE ONLINE EVENT ELEVATED IN LOVE where you learn how to go from confused about your love life to navigat
234 if things never go PAST a situationship but you want an actual relationship, listen to this
If you've found yourself landing in situationship after situationship... Or if you've felt the need to SPEED the dating process up or have felt anxious about "where things are going" this episode is FOR YOU! CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR FREE FOR THE 4 DAY LIVE ONLINE EVENT ELEVATED IN LOVE where you learn how to go from confused about your love life to navigating love and dating with maturity and c
233 5 Things I Would Do if I were Single + Dating in 2024
Dating is NOT supposed to be hard. It gets to be EASY. Tune in to find out what 5 things I would be doing if I were single in 2024 and looking for a SERIOUS, committed relationship. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR FREE FOR THE 4 DAY LIVE ONLINE EVENT ELEVATED IN LOVE where you learn how to go from confused about your love life to navigating love and dating with maturity and confidence WORK WITH BEATRI
232 Why You Don't Need to Be "Fully Healed" to be in a Relationship
CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE CHRISTMAS BLOWOUT SALE AND GET 10 MASTERCLASSES FOR $99- ENDS 12/22/23 WORK WITH BEATRICE: Head over to my website to apply for 1:1 personal or business coaching CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Want to get to know the woman behind the
231 An Unexpected Chat on Dating and Unworthiness
What if feelings of unworthiness aren't really your problem when it comes to actually experiencing the kind of relationship you desire? What if there's something TOTALLY different to consider instead? Tune into this week's episode to find out what exactly that is... CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE WAITLIST AND GET ACCESS TO THE BIGGEST SALE OF THE YEAR: BEATRICE'S CHRISTMAS BLOWOUT SALE WORK WITH BEATRICE
229. You're dating life isn't changing because of THIS
If you've ever felt like something is wrong with YOU because you keep attracting the SAME types of men over and over again... Men who are emotionally unavailable... Men who are not interested in commitment... Men who are unfaithful... etc. There's actually something DEEPER to the story. It's not that you're doomed. Or that something is wrong with you. It's that you may have an UNCONSCIOUS da
226. "Red flags" + Infusing Maturity in Dating + Relationships
There is... a lot of immaturity in dating that shows up in the form of thinking EVERYTHING is a red flag. Not everything is a red flag. MATURITY in dating is understanding 1. That not everything is a red flag and 2. HOW to discern what IS from what ISN'T a red flag. 3. You'll have to listen to the rest of the episode to find out! ;) WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the Woman of Desire waitli
225. A Conversation About When You're "Confused" About How "He Feels"
If you're hunched over your phone with your magnifying glass out, organizing a conference call with ten of your girlfriends at once, and desperately trying to untangle whether the person you're "talking to" wants to be in a relationship with you… He doesn't. I say this with so much love: if you have to do this, you aren't actually confused at all about how he feels. You know he isn't interested in
224. Don't Give Up On Dating! A Relationship IS Meant For You
If you've given up on dating…this episode is for you. I'm not talking about the people who truly do not desire a relationship. I'm talking to the people who have a soul-deep desire for a relationship, but have gotten so discouraged that they're ready to throw in the towel entirely. Listen to me–I don't care what your situation is. I don't care if you're in your late 20s, 30s, 40s, etc. I don't car
222. Why Finding a Partner that Leads, Plans, + is Ambitious Has Been Difficult for You
If you believe it's IMPOSSIBLE to attract the type of man that has ambition, makes plans, and takes charge in your relationship…I may have an idea why that is. And you're probably not going to like hearing it. Once upon a time, I was in the same shoes as you: fed up with attracting men who wouldn't so much as initiate a phone call, sick of having to do ALL the work in every relationship, and wonde
221. The DOUBTING Phase of Relationships No One Talks About
There's one stage of new relationships that no one talks about. We try to pretend it doesn't happen. In fact, we do one better (or worse): we usually dip out of the relationship the second we enter this phase. The first phase of any new relationship is the honeymoon phase…and it is POWERFUL. That cocktail of hormones hits HARD. We're floating on cloud nine. All we see in front of us is our perfect
220. Dating Requires Your Effort (Contrary to Popular Belief)
If you're walking around telling yourself "I DESERVE a relationship…" Sit down for a second. Let's talk. I say this because I love you: you do not "deserve" a relationship. You don't deserve anything from another individual just because you want it. Imagine if you walked into a job interview. You did no prep. You did no research. You wore your sweats. And when they start asking you questions, yo
219. Why You're Not "Doomed" to "Being Single Forever" + Why God is Not Out to Get You
"God must be out to get me." "This must be some kind of cosmic joke." "You know what? Fine. I don't want a relationship anyway." "I'm focusing on my career. I don't need a man." If any of these sound familiar, then this episode is for you. If you're the kind of person who truly enjoys being single…good for you! But if you're saying you're fine with being single, then absolutely SEETHING with anger
218. Transcending Comparison in Business, Relationships, + Dating
I love delving into the shadowy parts of ourselves that no one likes to talk about…comparison being one of them. We all compare ourselves to others. We all feel envious of someone else's successes, both in business and in relationships…especially when they're in the same industry as us. And I don't think these experiences are wrong…but when we lie about it to ourselves and refuse to OWN what we're
217. Business vs. Brand: Why You Need BOTH, Even on Day ONE of Business
Let me ask you a question… What is BRAND? If you answered, "Colors, fonts, and logos"...no judgment here. There was a hot minute when I believed the very same. In actuality, these things are brandING, not BRAND. But when so many people start out in entrepreneurship, they come in business-minded, not brand-minded…and when they look for steps to skip, brandING can take the place of actual brand. If
216. Strong Business Mindset, Foundations, + Legacy with Tayla Bubeck
Please join me in welcoming Tayla Bubeck, an INCREDIBLE business coach + mentor…in fact, she's so incredible that she's MY business coach + mentor! Tayla specializes in the human behind the business, the execution of strategy for a scalable business, and leveraging personal brands to maximize opportunities and evolution. She helps powerful players in the online world unleash their unique gifts and
215. Transcending Perfectionism, Imposter Syndrome, + the Confidence to put your POWERFUL work in the online space with STA Alum Taccarra Davenport
This week's episode we have an amazing guest and Self Trust Alchemy Alum, Taccarra Davenport. In this episode, we chat about how she transcended PERFECTIONISM, fear of using her voice, + imposter syndrome during Self Trust Alchemy and published her new book, A Letter To My Sister. This is an incredible and INSPIRING episode you DON'T want to miss! Follow Taccarra over on IG: https://www.instag
213. Building Solid Confidence in Business, Coaching, + Boundaries with Self Trust Alchemy Alum, Chelsi Reina
Today, I have a very special guest joining me on the podcast: Chelsi Reina, a former student in the Self Trust Alchemy program! Chelsi is a fellow podcaster and self-love coach who is all about helping women stop waiting for the perfect moment to create a life that they actually enjoy living. She has come so far since her time in Self Trust Alchemy and I'm so proud of the way she has let go of sh
212. Here's why you ALWAYS feel something "bad" is about to happen when things are going "TOO GOOD"
Tell me if this sounds familiar… You've hit a high in your life, whether that's a business high, a relationship high, a money high, or something else. It feels great… Except that it doesn't. You can't stop looking over your shoulder, checking both ways before you move, waiting for the other shoe to drop at any moment. Things have been going too good, so something bad has to be coming next, right?
211. THIS is how you become POWERFUL + CONFIDENT in using your VOICE to set boundaries
I believe that SHORT + SWEET messages still have the ability to be POWERFUL + TRANSFORMATIVE. So today, here's a bite-sized lesson in setting boundaries: It's time to get reconnected to your VOICE. When you use your voice to set boundaries with confidence, people FEEL that frequency. It inspires a response of respect. It calls people to listen. But if you're DISCONNECTED from your voice…if you don
210. Confidence, Self-love, Motherhood, + Boundaries with Self Trust Alchemy Alum Brittany Simmons
This week, I am thrilled to welcome Brittany Simmons, Self Trust Alchemy alumni and overall incredible woman, onto the podcast to chat about her experience in the program! Brittany is here to share about the BEFORE and AFTER of Self Trust Alchemy, how different her approach to motherhood has been, all the ways she's been able to break generational trauma, how she's begun setting boundaries, and so
209. An HONEST conversation about how my views around food, body image, + working out have changed
I have waited a long, long time to have this conversation. Not because it hasn't been requested—it has. Not because I didn't know how I felt about it—I do. I held off for two reasons. One, because I wanted to talk about it when I felt led to do so, and two… Honestly, I was nervous about how I would be received. But I'm not nervous anymore. So, let's talk about body positivity. My relationship with
208. Is your APPROACH to personal development ENHANCING or WORSENING your quality of life?
It's time to let go of the heavy energy surrounding personal development and embrace a new paradigm of growth. Discover how to infuse personal development with a sense of lightness, joy, and expansion. Join me today as we delve into practical strategies and insights that will empower you to shift your perspective and reclaim the true essence of personal development. If you've been feeling weighed
205. Why Having or Wanting More Money ISN'T Selfish or Greedy
Too many people associate MONEY with GREED. To be wealthy is to be selfish. To want more resources is to be greedy. You can't desire more than what you already have without it meaning something terrible about yourself… And I believe that's absolutely false. To be wealthy is to have INFLUENCE. To have more resources is to create IMPACT. And whether that's a positive or negative impact… That is comp
203. 3 Things People Normalize With Money That I Do NOT Normalize
When it comes to money, there are three things people normalize that I absolutely REFUSE to accept… Firstly, that money is a limited resource, and there isn't enough to go around… Secondly, feeling shame and regret every time they spend money, even if they have the money to spend—and even if it purchased something that they greatly desired… And thirdly, that we are limited from experiencing more b
202. The TRUTH About Having An ABUNDANCE Mindset
Here's the truth about abundance mindset: You can say all the right things as much as you want…but it's the action you take alongside your mindset that proves the truth of how you feel about money and abundance. Money is an unlimited resource. I deeply believe that. But if you act as though it's a limited resource…don't be surprised when it functions as one. If you're saying all the right things a
201. Manifesting a Life of MORE with Group Coaching Client Sheena Katz
I am so, soooo excited to introduce a longtime coaching client of mine to you all…please welcome fashion consultant and avid traveler, Sheena Katz! Sheena has been in my world for quite a long time–she's been listening to the podcast since right around when I started, and she's been in various programs of mine since 2020! Today, I asked Sheena come on to discuss the impact of group coaching on her
