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Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau

Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau

Beatrice Kamau 263 Episodes Aug 20, 2026

Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau (formerly the Self Love Fix Podcast) explores discernment, the power of the voice, and how they impact you and the world. In a world of constant reacting and overexplaining, it teaches you to pause, notice what's happening, and respond with clarity. Each episode examines subtle dynamics in relationships, decisions, and inner life, helping you develop clarity without force or volume. The goal is to be clearer, not louder.

Episodes

Ep 24 Do They See You for Who You Are or Are They Just in Proximity to You?
Ep 24 Do They See You for Who You Are or Are They Just in Proximity to You? Aug 20, 2026 28:35 In this episode, we chat: The FINE line between what it's like to have a connection-- a friendship, a relationship etc-- with someone who is delighted to learn the ins and outs of you and someone who... wants to relate to you on their terms What you'll learn in this episode: What it looks like when you make a decision to no longer FIGHT and adjust yourself in order to be seen. The difference betw
Ep 23. Can You Stay Clear When People Challenge Your Thinking?
Ep 23. Can You Stay Clear When People Challenge Your Thinking? Aug 13, 2026 28:43 In this episode, we chat: How to stay CLEAR AND FIRM on what you know, want, and believe when someone else's pressure or reactions challenge your boundaries, values and opinions. What you'll learn in this episode: Why a friendly "come onnn" after you've already said no is worth paying attention to—and how easily a decision can become a negotiation you never agreed to have. Why someone telling you
Ep 22. Do They Love You or... Do They Love What Happens to Them Because of You?
Ep 22. Do They Love You or... Do They Love What Happens to Them Because of You? Aug 6, 2026 23:58 In this episode, we chat: The fine line between someone loving you and someone loving who they ARE and who they BECOME around you. What you'll learn in this episode: Why someone can genuinely enjoy being around you—and still be more attached to how they feel with you than to who you actually are. How to recognize the difference between someone who values you for your utility and someone who remai
Ep 21 On Giving Everyone the Benefit of the Doubt but... You
Ep 21 On Giving Everyone the Benefit of the Doubt but... You Jul 30, 2026 17:31 In this episode, we chat: Why it's high time you stop giving everyone but *yourself* the benefit of the doubt when something is off with that friendship, that job, that relationship etc. What you'll learn in this episode: • Why the benefit of the doubt becomes expensive when you're the only one paying for it. •  Why grace needs... discernment and why you don't have to overextend yourself under the
Ep 20. You Don't Have to Become Unrecognizable Before You Leave
Ep 20. You Don't Have to Become Unrecognizable Before You Leave Jul 23, 2026 19:30 In this episode, we chat: Why you don't have to wait until you are a shell of yourself, hanging on a thread, practically on life support to leave or change your boundaries in that friendship, relationship, job, or business partnership. What you'll learn in this episode: • The difference between sacrificing yourself and making a willful sacrifice that doesn't steal from you • Recognizing when to sa
Ep 19 "I've Already Invested Too Much" (Says Who?)
Ep 19 "I've Already Invested Too Much" (Says Who?) Jul 16, 2026 27:05 In this episode, we chat: Staying in a relationship, job, career, or friendship longer than you planned because of the investment of....time even when you're stressed, unhappy, and dissatisfied and... how to gain the courage to choose different. What you'll learn in this episode: • The sunk-cost fallacy and what you might be doing early on that causes you to stay even when you're questioning the r
Ep 18 Am I Overthinking it or is Something Off?
Ep 18 Am I Overthinking it or is Something Off? Jul 9, 2026 18:44 In this episode, we chat: That moment when you're getting to know a friend, someone you're dating, a new workplace, someone you are considering collaborating with and you feel something is... off. You can't put your finger on it, but something isn't... right. But are you overthinking it? Are you being judgemental? Should you just... wait and see?  What you'll learn in this episode: • Why whimsical
Ep 17. How Allowing Embarrassment builds Agency and Confidence
Ep 17. How Allowing Embarrassment builds Agency and Confidence Jul 2, 2026 30:36 In this episode, we chat: Embarrassment-- it has a bad reputation. Let's fix that. This week, we introduce a fresh perspective on confidence, embarrassment, and why your willingness to look a little foolish may be one of your greatest assets. What you'll learn in this episode: • The relationship women with a strong sense of agency and confidence have with embarrassment compared to those with lower
Ep 16 Routines and Consistency for the Spontaneous, Whimsical Girl
Ep 16 Routines and Consistency for the Spontaneous, Whimsical Girl Jun 25, 2026 23:20 In this episode, we chat: Why you're not "bad" at sticking to routines, inconsistent, or undisciplined... you just might need to tweak how you approach routines especially if you're a spontaneous, fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants type of gal. What you'll learn in this episode: How to actually STICK to your routines even when they feel and seem, well, borringg. How routines actually bring out MORE
Ep 15. Protect Your Whimsy: Friendship Edition
Ep 15. Protect Your Whimsy: Friendship Edition Jun 18, 2026 27:18 In this episode, we chat: How they say... you're the "sum of the 5 closest people around you." And while I personally find that particular phrase to be a bit corny, I've come to realize... there's wisdom in that phrase, especially, for the whimsy girl. What you'll learn in this episode: What friendship characteristics negatively impact whimsy, vibrant, playful, and emotionally alive women and w
Ep 14 The Return and Reclamation of Whimsy
Ep 14 The Return and Reclamation of Whimsy Jun 11, 2026 28:27 In this episode, we chat: Whimsy as aliveness, joy, optimism, delight, and vibrancy--- NOT childishness-- and why all things whimsical deserve a front seat in your life. What you'll learn in this episode: Why whimsy AND sophistication can exist together at once-- a conversation on how paradox can and should work together really beautifully Whimsy as a reclamation of yourself, your agency, an
Ep 13 Betrayal, Grief, & Why No One Is Above the Program
Ep 13 Betrayal, Grief, & Why No One Is Above the Program Jun 4, 2026 20:50 In this episode, we chat: The grief and utter SHOCK that comes when relationships and friendships you thought would last... forever end. In this episode, we chat how remembering that no one is above the program might actually take you from difficulty accepting what happened to a calm peace and ability to finally move on with strength and dignity. What you'll learn in this episode: What "no one

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